10 Signs You Lack Self Love 

me: [already knows that i lack self-love] also me: mhm interesting, let’s watch this and see if i REALLY lack self-love

When this is the only test you've ever scored 100% on...

Okay, I get it. “Be yourself”. But honestly, idk who the real me is. Without anyone else around to bias my actions, I wouldn’t know what I’d do.

“You feel inferior to others”... This hit me real hard. No matter how hard I try to stop comparing myself to others I still do it. It’s seems like it’s impossible for me to get rid of this horrible mindset of -“everybody’s better then you”, “your opinion worth nothing” and my favourite “no matter how hard you work it’s never enough”. I would never wish such a combination to anyone... it’s truly awful to live like that but I’m trying my best to fight it. If there’s anyone who went through this I would like to hear your suggestions on how to fight it more effectively. Best wishes to y’all Ps: it’s been two years since I wrote it and I never could have guessed that so many people would respond to it. At the time I was at my lowest and my future seemed uncertain and dark. I thought that I’ll always feel this way about myself. But everything changed. To all of you people going through this - I believe in you! I know that each and every one of you are more than capable to reach this beautiful state of mind. This absolute peace. When you don’t judge nor blame yourself for mistakes, when you don’t compare yourself, when you are happy to be you and love yourself so much you don’t want to ever hurt yourself again like this. This is more than possible, there is a way out of this. It might take time, like it was for me, but it worth all the waiting. Send you lots of love and warm hugs💕

I can’t even be my real self in my journal...

Summary: 1. You hide your true self from others. 2. You over-analyze your own behavior. 3. You have a strong fear of being judged by others. 4. You struggle with physical and mental self-care. 5. You feel inferior to others. 6. You're too hard on yourself. 7. You lack confidence. 8. You need excessive affirmation and attention. 9. You have difficult and unstable relationships. 10. You settle for less.

I don’t even know what my true self is anymore...

“You hide your true self from others “ Gurl I don’t even *know* my true self

When you realise you’ve been in a dark place since elementary school

“The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.” ― Ernest Hemingway

Self love feels like something only narcissists do. Every time I try it just feels so forced and fake...

Does anyone else watch these while crying because you relate to it but to scared to ask for help because your to scared to ask for help because you don't want people to change the way they look at you

I thought I loved myself, but I actually feel familiar with most of these signs😬

I told this to myself all the time, it's time for me to say it to you: "Don't be scared of losing people, be scared of losing yourself pleasing others."

This is a very serious problem that the entire world is suffering.

Soooo, apparently I hate myself, and I bottle up my emotions, I have social anxiety, think my friends would have a better time without me, and I mask my personality 😅 I thought that was just a part of being an introvert

me: knows i will relate to all 10 signs also me: watches the video anyway

0. You very often escape to the past. Oh, this is about me 😓

I always wondered why I couldn't love myself, and then I realized that my definition of love was given to me by my birth family. Their love was conditional. It was toxic love. The only me that could exist was what was allowed to exist. They didn't love me, they loved some version of me that isn't really there. I didn't love my family, i feared them. I feared defying their expectations of who I am because that's how they conditioned me. Fear was living in my heart masquerading as love and destroying anything and everything I could possibly care about for almost 2 decades into my adulthood. I didn't love myself, I feared myself. Because I feared myself, I hated myself. I was never going to feel good about myself because I was always going to have aspects of myself that I hated and / or feared. True love is unconditional. There is no bar you have to pass, or behaviors you need to achieve in order to gain true love. To love yourself unconditionally, is to accept everything about yourself without hesitation or reservation. If you can't do that, you will just keep focusing on that one thing you hate. You have to commit to fully respecting yourself as a person, and loving everything about yourself and everything you do no matter what you do. That doesn't mean anyone else has to love it, and it won't matter. It also doesn't mean you can't improve yourself. You can still have goals and work towards them. It's just if you are always waiting to cross some boundary or achievement to finally start liking yourself, that day will never come. You have to love and accept yourself fully as you are right now, including everything you hate and fear about yourself. You have to realize there is nothing wrong with you, even when you make mistakes. If you are like me, and your definition of love is toxic, then every nice thing anyone ever does will never come across as anything but antagonistic or threatening. You will never be able to accept or receive kindness as kindness from others. It will always feel hollow or manipulative. Every compliment will feel unearned. Every achievement will feel hollow. Pretty much everything in this video will be true for you. Anyway, as someone who has been on this journey, I hope this helps someone. It's nuts when I think about it. Why would I be born to hate myself? What the fuck is that? That doesn't make any sense. I didn't do that! I didn't decide that! I was pretty helpless about it too, until much therapy and work. We have to love ourselves. If there is just one person in your life that you can love, make sure it's you. If you can't love yourself, It's going to be hard to love others, and recieve their love as love.

I got a 10/10. Lots of work needs to be done and it WILL be done. Same goes for anyone reading this. You got this ❤️

"Confidence"? What's that? Some kind of food? What does it taste like? I've never had it before.

it just kept getting sadder as they kept describing me.

I remember years of hating myself *for* not loving myself because I saw self-love as the normal state of being and being unable to cultivate it as a failure. Then I realised the only true road from self-hate to self-love is the long one - through forcing yourself to merely tolerate yourself at first, then to accept, respect,like and finally love yourself. I'm somewhere near the self-acceptance stage now.

Checklist 01: ✅ 02: ✅ 03: ✅ 04: ✅ 05: ✅ 06: ✅ 07: ✅ 08: ✅ 09: ✅ 10: ✅ Self love is too difficult especially when you try to improve but life just slaps you with rejection, disappointment, stress, and depression all at the same time.

Me: **has all 10 signs** Also me: Thats- that's fine.

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection” ― Sharon Salzberg

Everybody: watches video for self love. Me: watches video to hear her soothing, calm voice.

I’ve been a chameleon all my life so I don’t even know if my actual personality is real or not. Or if I even have a personality to begin with. I don’t know who I really am sometimes.

Everyone : jUst Be yoUrsElf Me being myself Everyone: oMg u nEEd tO cHaNge Then people wonder why self hate and low self esteem at an all time high

It's not easy to accept love from someone else when you struggle with loving yourself....

I never knew what is self-love. I thought it was when someone is arrogant and full of themselves. I never knew what is parents “being proud of you” means, or being proud of my achievements means, similar to above, I thought being “proud” also equals being arrogant. Imagine my confusion when my first friend in college, who’s very humble and down-to-earth, mentioned about self-love. Soon after that, I fall into my first severe depression, slowly I came across the term “self-love”, only then what my friend said back then starting to make sense. But no, I’m far from practising it

"you have a strong fear of being judged by others" "you feel inferior to others" "you have difficult and unstable relationship" yea.. that me ;w;

I'm actually confused as to how I live through these constantly, but still genuinely believe I love myself...

“Nobody is ugly, we were just born in a judgmental society.” -Kim Namjoon (RM) of BTS)

I came across this video and it made me realize just how hard I am with myself. Would it be possible for you to make a “how to love yourself more or how to start loving yourself,” series? I think it’ll be really helpful not only for me but for other as well. Thank you so much!

The thing I appreciate about this video is that it took me a LOT to go through, especially now during this pandemic, that I went from being a total wreck of a human being (you don’t want to know) to actually trying to get to know myself better, and face myself watching this video coming to terms with my reality but also learning to evolve from it without cowering away.

"10 signs you lack self love" 1. You clicked on this video Mom im famous

The ten signs are: 1. You don't show anybody your true self 2. You overanalyze your own behaviour 3. You have a strong fear of being judged by others 4. You struggle with your physical and mental self care 5. You feel inferior to others 6. You are too hard on yourself 7. You lack confidence 8. You need excessive affirmation and attention 9. You have difficult and unstable relationships 10. You settle for less

My eyes were full of tears after watching this video. And then I realized that I don't love myself and even I started hating myself and people around me......

This is truly sad. I wish I could go back to when I was a child and tell myself that I was enough and fine the way I was ...

It's okay to shed a tear, but don't you tear yourself. -KimNamjoon, moonchild

Having self love is the biggest healer in the world. If people learn to self love majority of the world problems will solve themselves.

This video, have some very interesting high point(s), there are so many people in this world that fit the description of having no SELF LOVE finding themselves feeling depressed and lonely. I hope that people who watch You Tube ,will find out about this channel, you all are doing a great job in trying to help people with many different issue's. 🙏

Trying to improve self love be like: Everyone - "I see a mountain to climb" Me - "All I see is absolute void. No direction, no path to go forward"

summary: 1. You hide your true self from others 1:02 2. You over analyze your own behavior 1:27 3. You have a strong fear of being judged by others 1:52 4. You struggle with your physical and mental self care 2:18 5. You feel inferior to others 2:45 6. You’re too hard on yourself 3:05 7. You lack confidence 3:27 8. You need excessive affirmation and attention 3:48 9. You have difficult and unstable relationships 4:08 10. You settle for less 4:34 Recommend watching to learn more 🖤

I started crying 4 minutes into the video because I was hitting every point and realised that I really don't love myself. I always jokingly said I hated myself and I've never felt comfortable with myself, but this made it scarily clear to me Edit: Jesus christ 800+ likes? Thank you all for the replies, reading them has really made my day and I'm taking on all advice given. The internet is such a special place ❤️ x

This video made me appreciate the progress ive made playing guitar even more! Thank you!

The fact that every point was fullfilled with me just makes this video hit even harder.

*Next video:* 10 ways to improve self-love _... because seriously I do need it._

From someone who has struggled with self love and esteem for several years. Another sign you lack self love is you think all that negativity and bullying toward yourself is justified. And you don't see it as a big deal, like it's something obvious. So when someone genuinely claims you are too hard on yourself, you get a bit confused.

I’m just so scared of……everything. My parents, my friends, my teachers, and everyone in the world. I just want someone to tell me it’s gonna be okay. Someone I know I can trust that i can be sure I wont have to say goodbye too….

This is so well made, Thank you.

i’ve been masking my own personality for so long i dont even know what my actual personality even is,, i’ve become to overwhelmed by my anxiety that i let it control who I am. I often act like characters that I admire because I like them more than i like myself,, and that basically leaves me with,, i’m too lazy, I’m a massive procrastinator, i hate myself so much to the point i don’t even know my actual personality anymore, and I’m a wimp who lets my anxiety get the better of me all the time,,, to the point i mask my true personality for something else,,,,

When you knew you had self love issues but you didn't know it was that deep. That's how I feel right now. Thank you for this video.

Thank you for this This is something I needed to hear :)

I can't help but thinking that the illustrations are so sweet and they make my present moment better💙🌾⛅

Me, clicking on this video just for fun: Okay- Me, realizing I can relate to EVERY. SINGLE. THING. ON. THIS. LIST.: OH- OKAY I GUESS MHM OKAY-

Me: *being myself My mom: act your age Everyone: you’re so annoying Me: *being fake Everyone: why are you so quiet? You should talk more.

Yes, Its hard being yourself when others don't like the real you or certain things about you're personality yet hate it when you close off or sit in another room cause you don't want to embarrass the true you. Stay strong people don't let others get you down even if you have to be alone because no one like you for whatever reason than so be it. That's why we need to love ourself because at the end of the day the only opinion is the one about yourself love you guys and girls

your voice is so calming

when you realize you haven’t had any self love since 5th grade

me: has 8/10 signs also me: we're just gonna ignore that

this is on point I have been suffering for 15 years just started self love meditation and when doing place you both hands on you heart it's very powerful it's been 2 months I can see changes .

Thank u so much for this❤

*Ah, yes. I appreciate the reminder.*

Me who already suspected I did: Can't be that bad- *Has all ten signs* Me: *Oh that's not good-*

Crazy that a year ago i had all of the above. Now the only thing im working on is confidence and setting boundaries. Therapy has been immensely helpful. So glad i got help

This channel will be always my favourite

To everyone who had a bad day, month or year. This is for you: I know you are falling apart and now it is starting to terrify you .This might be the year that made you feel more human ,more flawed and more broken than ever. I hope the coming days fill all the cracks of your heart and you are reminded that you are not alone ,because you are loved ,all of us are. I hope this little gesture remind you that everything will be okay, not now but eventually💖

Me: okay let's write a comment Also me: what if people won't like it? does this sound too serious? should I change that part? maybe i shouldn't post one afterall

I’m in such a happier mindset. If you’re lacking self love, it will be over soon, stay strong and positive ❤️❤️❤️

These were on point.

sometimes I even think that my true self is the mask I wear in public, now I don't even know how is my true self anymore

no one: me: *feels personally attacked*

i really never knew there was anyone else like this. i’ve been crying in the bathroom at this video i can’t lie. i always listened to self love talks and never understood what they were on about. i’ve constantly been with these thoughts and learnt to live with. without me not feeling content with myself how can i ever be content with anyone?

EVERY single of these 10 points is speaking out for me...

1. You hide your true self from others 1:02 2. You overanalyze your own behavior 1:28 3. You have a strong fear of being judged by others 1:52 4. You struggle with your physical and mental self-care 2:18 5. You feel inferior to others 2:45 6. You're too hard on yourself 3:04 7. You lack confidence 3:27 8. You need excessive affirmation and attention 3:47 9. You have difficult and unstable relationships 4:08 10. You settle for less 4:34 I'll try to make timestamps for every psych2go video so expect to see me there If you lack self love like me, then feel free to talk to me in the comments

Me realising that I hate myself: I’ll just start hating myself for hating myself too✌️😗

Why are your videos so relatable

Thank you so much for this helpful and very insightful information, some of us could really utilize this!!!!! I love your channel and all that you do!!!!👍👍👍💯💯💯💗💜💚💙💛

The Voice makes me calm every time

I can't be myself in front of people everytime when someone comes to my house even if it was my uncle I just shut up and have nothing to say and stay so calm and quite

This was a gem... And so was my 10/10 performance. I just can't understand how this 'overanalyze' is defined. Isn't it the same psychologists/ sociologists who say that self-criticism is necessary? Then where do they put the upper boundary? And how???

i wish i had seen your videos in 2020. it's hard to recognise the signs when you've been in denial abt them for so long. i recently learnt to say my thoughts out loud and omg i realised that everything i've done was for other people and not myself (whether it was work, friends, school, etc.). i don't know who i really am or what i want anymore. i wish i had realised this earlier. pls say your thoughts out loud. it's easier to deal with them this way instead of keeping them locked up in your head. hugs

My depression just said ”do you even need to watch.”

Psycho2Go: 'you hide your true self from others. Me: Jokes on you, I don't even know who I truly am. Edit: OMG this is the most amount of likes and comments I've ever gotten, thank you so much!

I had bad friends back in public school who i trusted but they lied and stole from me because i trusted people too much, when i finally realised that my best friend was anything but that and covid put together it burned me out, now im in middle school with bad grades and worse mental health, but thank you for making these videos and helping me get through 2020-2021

I cried my heart out with this video. It’s hard to live almost your whole life knowing that you do not have self love.

It’s just so hard to love yourself.

*You.* Yes, you! You reading this comment! I am all of these signs and I'm currently working on ways to improve myself. Shutting out toxic thoughts helps. There's no guarantee that you won't feel scared or anxious but know that one day, you will get tired of being tired. If you want things to change *just do it instead. Stop thinking about it!* *Do* something nice for yourself! Join a class just to listen to a topic you're interested in! Look at positive videos to help your self esteem and educate you! Go get a spa treatment! Write in a journal the things you want to change and exhale them from your life! Go at your own pace! You're worth investing in and I'm here to tell you that *"YOU CAN DO IT!"* Yes, I'm telling you what to do! I believe in you! You are amazing and that is the truth that you need to learn to live with! Much love to you all!

This video made me cry. I can relate so much :(

i care way to much about others feelings and emotions. It gets so bad that i have totally lost myself. I feel like everyone matters more than me, which is why i have a hard time being myself and doing, and saying without evaluating what people might think. I tell myself it’s a lie but it’s like it never goes away

I feel called out

It's strange how I tell everyone to love themselves, be themselves And now I realized that what about me? 😪

This is the first self-love video that doesn’t describe a prideful or victim mentality. Excellent works guys!

Number 5 made me cry even more because that animation is exactly what happens to me at school. I relate to all these points. For some reason, this video makes me cry even more and more.

I was exactly like that and due to the absence of this wonderful emotion (self-love), I suffered terribly. Depression, anxiety and codependency were some gruesome outcomes of not being able to love myself. I would put myself so down for people that even a doormat would not be so hateful to itself. Throughout the day, I was making sure that everyone is happy with me and my own happiness didn't exist for me. I unapologetically fell into the trap of people-pleasing. Never said 'no' to anyone. My passive aggression was silently killing me because being assertive was like creating a loop of disappointments. It has been nearly 3 years, I am trying to improve myself. The first step I took was that I started gaining knowledge, starting reading helpful books. Step 2: I started accepting myself every single day. Every morning I would look into myself and compliment myself. Step 3: I became less judgemental towards myself. If I did something wrong, instead of beating myself up, I comfort myself like I would comfort a loved one. Step 4: I started doing the things that I feared the most for being judged. I started to talk to people whom I feared the most. It worked as a magic. Step 5: I started being in present more. Concentrating on my breath, listening to chirping of birds, rain and wind. Being more and more with nature helps you to stimulate your emotions. It did wonders Step 6: I didn't not shut my thoughts instead I confronted them bravely and automatically they disappeared. Hope this will prove helpful to those who are struggling with this bone-and-heart-breaking problem.

"Promise now to me, even if you feel like you're alone, several times of the day, don't throw yourself away." -Park Jimin, Promise

All these points match ,but it won't leave the ray of hope that one day I will overcome all of them .

Love your videos!