7 Reasons Why We Hate Ourselves 

Who here hates themselves? Raise your hand T_T.

Summary: - you had a bad childhood - you had a hard time at school - you struggle with past trauma - you feel disconnected - you don’t have social support - you’re always comparing yourself to others - you have a negative self-concept

Number one reason: you told the waiter "you too" when she said enjoy your meal

I always lacked so much social support from friends and is been hitting me hard

Read the title and instantly knew this is gonna be me

Us: I hate myself. Psych2Go: *Understandable, here's why you think so. Have a great day.*

*7* reasons why we hate ourselves *there’s more*

i sabotage every good opportunity that comes my way because i always feel like i don’t deserve it and that im not good enough. really sad

I hate myself because: -I always give up -always do embarrassing things -annoying -has social anxieties -not good at anything -Im the worst -unlucky -crazy -weird Everyone around me is fine they’ve been good to me but myself nahh

Who needs enemies when you have yourself?

i just hate myself for all the things i’ve done in my past it really messes with me and i think it’s extremely hard to cope sometimes when you don’t have any social interaction

I’ve hated my self cause of my self-hatred, embarrassing myself, not doing anything right, feel like I’m just a mistake and I’m just down right mean to people for no reason I feel like I wasn’t meant to be born in this world I feel bad for my mom and for my family that do everything for me but I just re-pay them with nothing I am such a horrible person

Edit : Okay, I just edited the comment , because that was really getting uncomfortable and stressful after a while. But I did appreciate those who commented. It felt nice . Edit : tysm for 1k . I have never had so many likes before :D

1. You had a bad childhood - 0:44 2. You had a hard time at school - 1:23 3. You struggle with past trauma - 1:42 4. You feel disconnected - 2:15 5. You don't have social support - 2:56 6. You're always comparing yourself to others - 3:29 7. You have a negative self-concept - 4:03

I hate myself. I have no idea why. I just feel like I don't deserve anything in my life. The only thing I could obtain and accept was having value for living. Beyond that I'm in the dark.

I hate myself -My family's disappointed in me -No matter where I go I just make things worse -I have almost no one left in my life -I'm picky -I can't move past horrible things -And I've never really achieved anything really good in my whole life Sometimes, I feel like just taking myself outta this world would be for the greater good😓...

When you can relate to all the reasons- Me: *laughing and crying simultaneously*

I think another reason someone might hate themselves is feeling a lack of control. Where things get so overwhelming. So you just want to give up and hate yourself for not doing better or being able to handle whatever it is.

“7 reasons why we hate ourselves” Girl why you gotta rat me out like this-

I feel like the reason I hate myself is because I don't feel like I deserve to be happy or have anything good. I feel like I don't deserve to like myself.

Me: *gets bullied for no reason* Also me: I hate myself- ALSO me: *thinks about killing the bully*

psych2go: why do we hate ourselves? me: Thats a good question... I wasn't... expecting... that question😰

I do hate myself. Why, you ask? -I used to be a bully -I always feel awful because of my past mistakes -I always feel constant guilt to those I have hurt in the past -I do have some trauma. My BEST friend moved schools 3 years ago, and it's not the same without her. I used to bully because it made me feel good about myself but now I know it's something terrible to do. I've learned from it now. If you're a bully, please reconsider your actions and ask yourself if its even worth it. Remember that your mistakes exist for a reason. For you to learn and grow to become a better version of yourself

Why I hate myself: - No friends - Exceedingly unlucky - Bullied - Weird - Almost 0 things I'm good at - I give up - I'm lazy - I (almost) attempted suicide - Nobody understands my situation

Literally just googled “Why do I hate myself?”, opened youtube, and this was in my sub box.

I've had a rough day and I just had a meltdown. My parents just kept on insulting me....oof

After a couple of childhood traumas i was bullied in both primary school and high school, then worked for a narcissist for 12yrs ... it has taken a long time to realise all these things concurrently and combined, reinforced my self hatred for years. It is only now, after many many years that I have started to question the origins of my self hatred... it's a struggle at times but have been trying to work through it... although it is NOT easy! All the best to others in the same head space. You are worth it! 🙂

im surprised by how accurate and relatable this, and actually started crying near the end. i relate to like, 95% of the reasons

How should we react when we find out that a person who showed themselves to be very confident and filled with self-love turns out to be very insecure and filled with self-hatred on the inside? Without making them feel worse

Bad childhood I think is the worst, because most likely the child who experienced it doesn't have a choice and after that bad experience they will question everything. They will blame their selves. And childhood trauma is hard to heal because it's already within you for so many years. If I have one wish, that is to heal the inner child of everyone who had bad experience. I pray everyone is starting their journey to healing. 🙂🙏💞

Yes the thought of healing myself and taking efforts disappears over night..... I keep helping ppl with their emotions and I'm now left out empty 🙂

This video is ALL me. Been through ALL of this & still struggling with PTSD & depression. Trying my hardest reading books, going to therapy but its hard. I am trying to love myself but it feels impossible. I don't even know what love even looks like because I've never received it.

I don't hate myself, I just like myself as a friend.

I’m always comparing myself to others :( I don’t know how to stop

"You might not have social support" Me: *pretends to be surprised* confused Pikachu face

Today I'm just a child but I feel like I have most of these problems and I went through a toxic relationship with me "friend" that set me to pieces and I'll never forget that

1:31 let's just all ignore that person with a friggin cactus on their head

Youguys have helped me so much love youuu even if i dont myself!

*I thought moving out from home heading to college would change my life, but the only thing that changed was moving away from my family, doing everything for myself and paying bills. It has been 5 years since i set foot in this foreign country for the first time, I learnt the local language, restarted high school, graduated, and now in college. Not what i expected my life would be. I have been feeling lonely ever since i got here, it got worse after moving out. I literally punch myself to sleep. Existing is so excruciating for me. I wish i had a switch to turn my conscience off. I think dead people are lucky, i look forward to death, and i hope there is no existence else where after death, i want nothing to do with existing, just like before i was conceived.*

Really says a lot when I can easily think of the negative things about me and struggle to find the positives.

👍The way society tells us to do some things in life, like go to college, get a job, get married and have a good family life. When really some of these things may not be compatible or agreeable with people, but there is a sense of pressure on them from others because of how society has built up certain perceptions. If you don't cave under the pressure, I commend you for you have chosen to follow your own will rather than what others say

I remember in my junior year of high school my art teacher had submitted one of my artworks from the previous year to a statewide art competition and I had gotten an award for it. She handed me a ribbon and the whole class congratulated me. I looked at the ribbon and I felt so... empty. After I left the class I threw the ribbon i'd gotten in a trashcan in one of the school bathrooms. I forgot about it but I felt so bad.

Why You Hate Yourself Me: Because I suck lol

I love loads of things about myself, the problem is that almost all of those points aren't valued by anyone else. It turns out that if I were the exact opposite I would have all the things I've ever wanted, only, I wouldn't want them anymore.

It feels better when there are no dislikes.

I cry when I feel so sad but while crying I think I don't deserve to cry cause I always think that's it's my fault

It’s not that my parents are toxic, it’s that i never had any exciting moments in my life.

- my parents were too strict and emotionally neglectedful and abusive - was bullied by my preschool teacher for being different and humiliated me infront of all classmates my age, later was bullied in elementary School to middle school -I couldn't feel normal because of how i get punished constantly when it cames out of nowhere - i couldn't connect with friends i wanted because of my mother sheltered me isolated me for the rest of my life - I was there for my friends but never there for me and even when i told them they tried to "fixed" me and think it's good to accept "abuse" -I compared myself because my mom letured me to say to care about what other people think and always be ashamed of yourself because it's righteous to and that's how i ended up comparing myself to others - I got a negative consept because I was told to my entire life and childhood. Self loathing because I was molded to hate myself by my so called family and it ended up ruined my life as an adult. And now I'm broken entirely and don't know how to get up again.

You had rough time at school Me whos been bullied since 3 years old and now: interesting.

If u are affected by everything = Depression

Now i know why i have this feeling... Happiness comes from the inner core not people they cant make us feel good

I used to be self hating It took becoming a Christian to help me heal and realize an envious relative who tried to harm me caused the helplessness I had felt when my family took their side.

“Does this sound familiar to you?” Well duh, why do you think I’m here?

2:52 Psych2Go was not An Imposter (2 Imposters left) Edit: WOAH, thanks for all the likes! Have a great day everyone, or you are sus.

Man, when they said comparing with others, school, past trauma and childhood,it hits hard for me

i love this channel so much... these guys helped me when i had severe depression and made such an impact on my life. Im crying with happiness while im saying this , thank you all guys i love yall

Well well well............ Welcome to Another Episode of "RU-vid Knows that your in Pain"

Sometimes I wish I had someone to tell me it’s going to be okay and hug me. But I don’t have that. I have people to hold my hand, but I feel like it never helps. Sometimes I don’t want advice and some telling me,”It happens,” Sometimes I want comfort. I’m a hard person to understand, and I have so many connections as to my I feel this way that it would take weeks to explain.

The main reason I hate myself is because every time I try to do something I like or choose to show a part of myself out . . . . It just ends up creating a trauma that I would have to live with for eternity I just have so many corrupted thoughts and so many things that are considered wrong that I want to do but . . . Sadly you can't just do them in this world

My mom doesn't allow me to get a therapist because she thinks its too expensive and they will manipulate me, and I'm here tearing apart by myself hearing my mom say "you should be grateful for having a loving family" like wow :")

I always compare myself with other, even if I've reach my parents goals and make them proud

Is it bad that if I hear an adult yelling at me, even if it's some sort of good warning, I cry?

ya know im happy i watched this. because i hated myself, i still do but not as much and im glad i understand why now. most of the points mentioned in the video are things that happened to me and im currently working on overcoming my depression and healing it. its a very hard process and a lot to deal with as a teenager that started highs chool in zoom meetings. but socializing in school and making new friends was a big stepping stone for me. so sometimes i really put myself down, but it doesnt happen a lot anymore, and sometimes i really praise myself. even for the littlest things bcs it really does help. to everyone struggling with self hatred, depression trauma and more, know you are not alone. there are a lot of people in your life that love you and will support you no matter what. and in the case there arent, know that you will find those people. and it might even be very soon. life is better than it seems even if more often than not its hard to remember. focus on the little things that make you happy, no matter how stupid others think they are. and have a wonderful day ❤❤❤

Thank you for this video! I have found this video relatable in many ways, I would say that it is really hard to stop hating oneself, but it is a long process. I don't really know when it will be, but I hope that too all of us who have experienced this, I hope and wish that you know that you are loved and cared for. Sure, it doesn't sound believable, but trust me, things will get better. Have a blessed day to all of you!

psych2go: you had a bad childhood. me who's still a child who thinks like this: 👁👄👁

Reasons why: -My parents compare me to other childrens -I don't have enough social support -I'm quiet -People insult me for being such a failure -Depression attacks -Social Anxiety Disorder attacks again

We were all loved as children, therefore however we learned to love is how we pass it forward or... we weren't loved.

Im so tired, i’m 22 and my self loathing killed any opportunity. I lived in an abusive environment and i can’t help but feel like everything was my fault.

Exactly! If you hate yourself,it’s not your fault. Just keep in mind that there are more supportive people than you think there are. I learned that when I went to college.

I had experienced a difficult time in my life and can be easily triggered by depressed/sad song/video/feeling/memories Your channel sometimes reminds me about what I had to go through at that time but you help me find answer for myself :)

People who call yourself useless like me always remember that...YOU WERE BORN FOR SOMETHING AND YOU ARE NOT USELESS...

"With time, hardwork and dedication, it gets better." Don't mind me, just hanging onto these words

I have definitely felt this, but thankfully the feeling has receded a lot. It's still there, for sure, and it hits me from out of the blue at night sometimes, but it happens much less than it used to. I have to admit, it's nice to know that I'm not along on this. To anyone who's reading this, if you still struggle with self-hate, no matter the reason, I hope you know or someday will know that you are indeed valued, and that you do deserve love. I know it sounds unbelievable and may sound just like everyone else, but you really are and do, and I promise. If you are in a bad place, a toxic relationship, or anything that just makes you feel bad, it's okay to worry and stress. It's okay to cry. You have a right. Just know that you are not alone, and one day you will probably find someone who will truly understand and help you feel worth it (since you are!) Peace be upon you, good human! Edit: when did I get over 1 like? Thanks for (probably) reading the whole thing!

Me:*Sees in recomendations* Me again: Tf has youTube gone into my mind and read my thoughts...?!

I had a hard time at school. I went from a happy, bubbly extroverted kid, to a resentful, defensive and defeatist introvert.

The thank you at the beginning really had an beautiful impact on me ♥️♥️ I don't know I am confused 😓😓 I really hate myself , I hate my body , my feelings , my promises , my fake sense of humour 😓😓

I'm honestly surprised by how much this channel posts every day

You missed "Highly ineffective therapy techniques." I've had so many therapists do nothing more than defend everyone that I'm angry with to the point that they come off as being desperate to defend them (I mentioned being irratated by someone racistly assuming I spoke only spanish and she said, "It's not like English is the national language [of the United States].") The problem with this is that it gives a feeling that I don't have any right to be angry about anything and no matter what anyone does to me, they're in the right. I've had them get pationate about defending others to the point where they're yelling and screaming at me but never in my favor. Then there are those that are listening for victim mentality rather than what's actually being said. Testing this, I once told a therapist about wanting to fly like Superman (unaided by any machinery). She actually asked me, "What's preventing you from doing that?" I responded, "The laws of physics and nature." Her response, "How are the laws of physics and nature preventing you from doing that?" While I admit it wasn't nice to bring in an impossible dream, it also showed me that she wasn't actually listening to me, just blurting out a generic response. I could go on, but my point is, when the techniques prove to be ineffective, it leads to a feeling of self hatred in thinking that I'm my own worst enemy because I have feelings like everyone else does, but I'm not allowed to have them. And when I actually feel like I'm being real, I'm wrong because it's victim mentality. This only leads to a feeling of despair because it gives the thought, "There's no help nor hope for me."

I don't compare myself to others, it's my family who does, and I always feel inferior to everyone else.

I hate myself so much. The only one of these I really relate to is feeling disconnected, but there is so much that I overthink about. I’m a teenager with ADHD and my parents try so hard to get the right medications for me and I feel like I made their lives harder. I’ve never actually tried to kill myself, and I don’t plan on killing my self , but sometimes I do wish that I was dead.

They always one’s worst enemies is themselves.

Sometimes I'm proud of myself. Most of the times I hate myself, kept thinking on how I'm not good enough at anything.

today was a horrible day. im a person with many bad and toxic relationships in the past. i have friend and trust issues. it was actually very difficult for me to make friends when I had just moved to a new school. the first time someone tried to become friends with me, I told them I was toxic and I would only hurt her.. we became friends anyway.. slowly then, I had an amazing group of friends. they made me love myself and they supported me whenever I felt down or whenever someone was picking a fight with me.. however, I'm a very clingy person.. i lost too many people, and I guess I also developed anxiety over losing more people. i tend to think about how to please people, and how to make them "like" me.. little things get to me,, any small amount or act that I'm being ignored or neglected, I immediately dread the feeling.. recently- no, actually, most of the time no one would take notice of me while we all were conversing in our friend group. it was a horrible feeling, and I felt like I was losing their care and attention... so, I left the group, because I was too scared to argue with them with my issues and to end up losing them. i shut my phone down after that. another thing I was scared of was that Id be right.. often, they'd message me separately and ask why I left. only one of them did. after that one person added me back, they didn't ask much and were having a casual convo. actually, someone in our friend (b) group said something that got to me, so i left the group. she left too, but she was added back before me-- guess they forgot to add me too, but that one friend (a) added me back. suddenly things were normal and they were laughing. i felt discomfort.. so i left the group again and told friend (a) that i have to learn something on my own- and that i didn't want to be in the group in the meanwhile.. that thing i had to learn by myself was to stand up on my own. i always let my emotions get the best of me. maybe i was scared of losing them-- but now i decided to distance myself from all of them to sort my feelings and emotions out.. it was nostalgic. this feeling of loneliness i brought upon myself. i think it was also because i relied too much on them for my happiness. i was depending on them. whenever i had these friends with me, i felt like i had the confidence to do the things that i liked. that's why i wanted to learn to have confidence by myself, because I'll only end up getting hurt if i keep depending on them.. they said they'd wait for me to come back, its selfish. I'm selfish. since i was being ignored there, then i wasn't necessary to their existence right? they were okay before i came, and I'm sure they'll be fine if I'm gone.. i guess i wont be speaking to them until i sort myself out.. and it may take a long time. its actually pretty hard not to tell anyone the reason i left or the reason i acted cold towards them. i love them, but i hate myself right now. I've always hated myself.

The existential part is a great point ! Thank you

I just got an ad saying that it would let me know how to live to 120 and only to skip if you didn't want to live to 120

It feels like I do hate myself. I never thought about it this way. From point 1 to 6 it is accurate to my discription.

I'm not getting bullied, I have a supportive family and friends, except i don't have anyone reliable who can support me at school and my dad died about 3 years ago. But my actual reason of self-hatred is that i'm insecure about my actions, thoughts and decisions because of how others made me feel. I'm still not really sure if that's the truth and what's the actual reason, but i think it has something to do with my class and teachers critisizing me for each mistake and every time i try to open up about something, i fail miserably and get embarrassed alot. Even in kindergarden i never really had any friends. The outcome now is that i basically have another half of myself judging me for every single thought. For example if i'm sad and i think about it, the other half of me tells how "dramatic" i am. Or when i'm proud of myself of something, for example how i love my appearance, my personality and all that and then my other half tells me that i'm a narcissist or whatever.

I always bring the worst of people or simply meet the worst kind of people out there. Even my sister at first couldnt believe what i went through and calling me dramatic liar until she meet people i met in her life. I still dont know how to fully love myself, thats why i dont know whether someone will be able to bear myself. Even i can’t stand myself sometime…

Reason 1: Because I am me, existing like how I’m existing.

Watching this for my partner cuz I wanna help them stop hating themselves😔

This has made me learn more about myself thank you

Thank you very much for making videos like this! : )

Here’s mine: I’m still kinda having a mental breakdown because of hating myself and probably emotionally abusing myself since I was bullied in TK. I am getting better at opening up but still struggling.

I just feel like I'm always being scrutinized, put down, ordered around, and insulted by my parents even though they don't physically abuse me at all :( i needed this even though it doesn't make me hate myself less it feels good to know why.

Man, I LOVE this channel! Its been very helpful!!

I remember when in elementary school, I was constantly playing a never ending game of tag where I am always it and everyone in the school was involved.

It feels as tho it's been forever. Dealing with these feelings of self loath, of uselessness. Feeling misplaced, like I belong nowhere, not even in the mud. Unworthy of attention, of affection, of love. Everyday wishing to disappear, to be swallowed by earth. The few ones who know me insist in that the fact I'm still here is proof of my strength. But that isn't true. I'm not here because of me, I didn't fight to be here, I'm here because others have struggled to carry me. And that makes me feel even more like a burden. I gave up on me long ago. I just wished others could do the same.

I am so happy you make these videos. I really learn so much about mental disorders and just overall psychology. I have been watching you for a while and I’m so glad I found you!! I want to study mental health phycologist(going in that field) and this helps me very much with learning and understanding. I even learned a little about myself(I have ADHD) keep going phyc2go lots of love a support ❤️

I am so sad that this is me. I used to have a really bad time at school with everyone using slurs about how I identify and even physical violence. This video makes me really glad that more people are finding this out about themselves and trying to help themselves and become healthier both mentally and physically. I appreciate you Psych2Go.

Thankyou for this video. May God bless you