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I think people misunderstand the meaning behind these lessons. It's not about being cold and unfeeling, but about approaching the world coming from a place of steady calm that provides a sense of stability and strength for you and others. We do this through not getting wrapped up in drama and having clear boundaries in our relationships. Take care of yourself and naturally things around you will fall into place.
"Emotional insensitivity" is what I experience with covert narcissists lacking in empathy and compassion. I will not label the control of my thoughts and actions as "emotional insensitivity." I see the practice as self discipline motivated by love and understanding.
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In today's society, many people take advantage of our kindness to scam us, and I understand why many people become so insensitive, perhaps they have lost faith in life.
Most of my life, I’ve noticed that I tend to get treated differently by a lot of people, Not in a good way. This is self centered people who act this way. Quit them, refuse to show up where they will be. Remain disengaged, Don’t gossip, nothing… completely act like such people are not even on your radar… You will see them do small things to get your attention, ignore them even then. When they are truly sorry, they will change their tune. Use their own weapons against them. When people treat you different, it’s 100% intentional, they want an emotional response from you. Don’t fall for it.
Growing up in a abusive machiavellian like household, covert narcissistic, successful people who also blame, scapegoat etc; the recovery from such abusive systems, falls right in line with stoic thinking. Once we are "groomed" to attract certain personality styles (based on incorrect internal belief systems reinforced from birth!). Regardless of who is to blame, it is incredibly challenging/painful to go through enlightenment or a spiritual awakening. To accept that people are what they are, to learn to be mindful, and fully aware of our emotions. Feeling to fear and pressing forward, following our own instincts again. Meditation, mindfulness, gratitude, thought reframing, are all valuable tools to help us navigate a turbulent world! I do not miss the toxic people that consumed the first half of life! Setting personal boundaries is a way of life! Never worry in life how many friends you have, even if it's zero or barely having one, it's better than having a contact list of toxic foolishness. Wish you all true happiness! It all lies within our personal perspective, our thoughts, and how we choose to live each moment, as consciously, and gratefully as possible.
I agree with your critique on the Machiavellian-like household upbringing, and I appreciate your fresh perspective on recovery aligning with Stoic thinking. Your emphasis on mindfulness and setting boundaries is spot-on. It's great to see how you've found positivity in setting aside toxic relationships and focusing on genuine connections. Your insights are valuable. Thanks for sharing!
Your point is interesting. It suggests that being aware allows us to control our emotions, turning emotional insensitivity into a conscious choice. It's a different way to look at it, highlighting the power of mindfulness. Thanks for sharing!
Control over reactions make you superproof against being manipulated in these politically charged days. Keeping a cool head when everyone else is emotional, allows you to better take care of yourself in difficult and dangerous situations. You can have your emotional reaction in private.
Thankyou I love being independent and doing what I want when I want . Yes to spending less time with negative energy drainers I’m all for that . Lately I’m pretty greatful .
I know I trusted my mother and my family. The college professors had greatly influenced me . We are human we make errors but holding string boundaries help us lead a good well lived life . There is only so much abuse any of us should tolerate ....do good be good but don't be a sucker
Your reflection on trust and influence is insightful. Setting strong boundaries is crucial for maintaining a healthy and fulfilling life. Recognizing our human fallibility and knowing when to draw the line against abuse are essential aspects of self-care. Your reminder to do good but avoid being taken advantage of is a valuable lesson in navigating relationships. Thank you for sharing your wisdom!
I wish you would make a video about the subject of how mean and evil “some” kids are and how to deal with them in an acceptable manner. This is a huge problem in the world right now and parents are suffering.
I have a few degrees in psych, and I was bullied a lot as a young man, so Im happy to lend some advice, and it must be that much harder w/the digital age for kids. Work on your children's self esteem, self worth (they have to find balance within themselves, nobody can give it to them). They need room to breath, and have independence from parents, but they also need parents who are consistent, and there to teach them how the world works. Severe bullies are what is known as conduct disorders in children (they cannot be diagnosed with other issues until they are over 18 years of age). Most bullies were abused in childhood by a caretaker, so the saying the apple doesn't fall far from the tree, is kind of true in some respects, as abuse is often generational. I cannot emphasise personal boundaries enough, and that comes with self esteem, and learning to say NO, without escalating a situation. Bullies tend to want emotional gasoline, they are sadistic, violent, vindictive, often not afraid of punishments, and they are BORED by nature, and they by nature are weak (hence why they gang up, and look for bully support). So they look for emotional supply from their targets, in the form of torturing, to stimulate their own fragile sense of self-esteem/fragile egos (they may lack identity, or be living a stunted abused identity as the bully, either way, it's not the bullies authentic self in most cases. I would tell your kids, learn what a poker face is, learn a method known as grey rocking. It means being as boring as possible to the bully, in otherwords, don't feed the trolls the emotional attention they are craving. People like that go for people who are emotional vulnerable, like sensitive empathic people who are easy to get a reaction from. Adult children, are just the physically grown up versions of the bully (they are developmentally stunted!). Everything is about healthy human development, the stages are all correct. We self-realize, and individutate as toddlers, and again as teenagers, they are critical times in our development, that we must learn autonomy from our parents. I hope this helps :D
Show them you have control over yourself and maintain your boundaries, communicate them and then if all else fails threaten them and be convincing. It works.
My heart hurts and I feel pain understanding someone else's horrendous life . It hurts my heart I weep and see something stinks and I can't help . I acknowledge my limitations I will not stop seeing My heart is opened to others undeserved struggle.
Internally dig DEEP. BREAK IT ALL DOWN. IF YOU ASK YOURSELF WHY AND CONTEMPLATE THE OCEAN OF ISSUES YOU HAVE YOU EVENTUALLY SET YOURSELF FREE. YOU WILL HAVE THE KEYS TO LIFE. IT IS ALL WITHIN EVERYTHING YOU NEED. NOT BEING EMOTIONAL ALLOWS FOR THE EXPANSION OF CONCIOUSNESS. YOU HAVE IT ALL WITHIN. ALL OF WHICH YOU SEEK. ITS NOT ON THE OUTSIDE, SEEK IT WITHIN.
Unfortunately, can't choose family, l take care of my very negative parents, and 1 of my clients is very negative as well! But, they have taught me valuable lessons in life. But yes, one MUST care for oneself first! Boundaries are so important with those who you can choose in life. ❤ And yes, can't save the world! But caring for yourself, WILL help the world!
Don’t do this to yourself. You diminish your humanity by becoming cold and insensitive to emotions. I understand the desire to avoid pain, but pain is a natural part of life, and your ability to learn from your pain helps you to grow and mature. Unless your goal is to become more distant from the world and yourself (nobody asked me but) I suggest that you learn emotional intelligence. Most people won’t do the work or the research. They don’t want to put in the effort. They just want the world to change, while they stay the way they are. Good luck with that. The more you do that, the more you’re going to feel the need to BECOME COLD, so that you can block out the pain and the emptiness that you feel deep down inside. #MyTakeOnIt. But who knows? I haven’t even listened to the video. I could be wrong. I just stopped by. I see this conversation with a lot of people, and I’ve seen the results for people who do this. Sad. Mad. Scared. No learning. No growth. Feeling victimized, and resentful. Stoicism isn’t about that. That’s not the goal of the philosophy, as I understand it.
I'm not a native English speaker. Still, I like to listen to this voice. As if the British monarch would show me the way forward. Respect and gratitude!
This channel helps me so much! I somewhat naturally live this way at times... but get caught up in the madness of this crazy life and some of the people in the past I have choose to be around. These thoughts in the content of these videos, are a really special thing! In my opinion, they are a very true way to live. I want to better understand my strengths to their full potential. With my full potential, then I can lift up the world around me! TY so much for this channel, it helps me and others!
Cultivate gratitude for the present moment and the lessons learned from challenges. Work towards self-sufficiency by relying less on external factors for happiness.
I retain about 6 recommendations fr this vidéo; love, true happiness comes fr within. Words can hurt.... Discovery of the art of speaking n the sublime art of living, compassion and cultivate gratitude. Thank you. 😊
Been aware of youre self and authentic to youre imotions ,been in control of youre self ,self acceptance. That's what helps .been cold you try to be something youre not I've unless you're a self sintered narcissist, i have been there and you just hide deeper youre negative imotions.negative imotions come from various reason and you can't block them its impossible.
Choosing friends wisely and setting personal boundaries can transform your life. Removing negative people isn't a weakness; it's a strength. Setting boundaries protects your time and energy, enhancing your life's quality and fostering more meaningful relationships.
I was directed to NEVER invest in those people who possess the inability to put their feet in another's shoes, so I don't. " Those who lead into Captivity, must go into Captivity ". It's so amazing when those who have manipulated their entire lives nothing but bondage, suddenly want freedom, especially when they have deliberately drained all your personal finances, and your family's finances also!!!! It is as though God is directly addressing Malichi ! It's as though, they are suddenly Reaping what they have Sown for so many years, failing to realize who actually EARNED the great value of the Pearl, instead in their huge, Gigantic EGOS, they are parading around butt naked , just like The Emperor Who Wore No Clothes!!!!
Imagine a world full of non emotion snd total stoic behavior 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔 God gifted the female the compassion and empathy she possesses for nurturing children and holding families together with love 🤔🥰🤔 Imagine making love without expression of feeling and emotion🤔🤯🤔 Love is vulnerability ❣️ I prefer a soldier that can shed tears and emotion to one that cannot 🤔🥰🤔 I I prefer clearly communicated verbal words I can hear with my ears or see with my eyes with body language of a held hand and a warm caress to silence any day🥰
I've always thrived relying on myself , figuring out what I stand for in all aspects of dealing with others is my weak point . When being stoic it is ok to say NO . KEEP A COOL HEAD UNDER PRESSURE , COMPLETE CHAOS STILL HAS OPPORTUNITY.
If you have to chose words too carefully, than you are choosing to share words with someone who drains your energy, does not accept you unconditionally, and other; It takes a lot of energy to choose words carefully. Wrong person.
