10 things asexual people want you to know 

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I'm a bi woman and didn't really know much about asexuality. I clicked on the video out of curiousity because it came on my suggested. After watching this video I realised I had so many FALSE pre conceived notions about what asexuality was. Thankyou for making this video and educating us who may not have the knowledge on what asexuality means! We are all part of the same community, I always knew that though!

It upsets me when people say that being Asexual is the same as celibacy. 😢 Great video Mark, Hi from a green eyed Aroace 💜💚🖤

thank you for making us visible!❤ Biro/ace, took me 33 years to figure that out, thanks for your help and education!!!!❤

i've just started exploring/re-exploring my sexuality and identity. i realised a few months ago that i'm bi. and after reflecting back on my past, i've just started to realise that i'm demi too (with a very low libido outside of really connected relationships). i've been really struggling with the demi side of things recently, but chatted with a friend today and EVERYTHING made sense! we've got a lot of similarities in our identities and it was SO validating to hear that i'm not the only one who's going/gone through all of this 🤗 thanks so much for sharing this Mark!

This is a very amazing video I've always find asexuality the most relatable orientation in my nearly 2 decades of being alive 🖤🤍💜

I am so happy I found your chanel. I am a bisexual and asexual woman. I'm just so happy to find someone who is just like me ❤❤🎉

Wish I was asexual, you guys are on a higher spiritual level, you have evolved more .

seeing videos about aces makes me so happy as a sex-repulsed aroace myself, I have a playlist on here just called "aro/ace representation omg!?!" cause it's just so uncommon to find JHGCGFVHGBH- I would very much love it if more people understood it and even knew about it.

Thank you for this and all that you’re doing to raise awareness!

People start rumors about me and say I'm gay and in the closet because I'm asexual. I don't talk about my sex life because I don't have one. So to dim-witted people the only other option is that I'm gay. It's messed up to be slandered for something you are not.

I feel calmer and happier after watching your videos. Great job 👏🏽

I'm asexual and this is a great blog Mark. Thx for the representation

7:34 Hey Mark, could you do a video about what it is like to be either: a heteroromantic homosexual or a homoromantic heterosexual, configurations in which your romantic orientation conflicts with your sexual orientation - and go deeper into this conflict and how it affects people? Thanks!

1) Love your nail varnish! (I've always wanted to say this but forgot🤭) 2) A year or so ago I was reading a gay romantic comedy (Upside Down by NR Walker) with two ace main characters. That's when I decided to go into the internet to explore this thing. Got to the AVEN forum and voilà, I realized I was on the ace spectrum at the age of 40 🤭. There were so many things that resonated with me! Like: - Not feeling attraction right away. Of course I know someone is handsome or not, but for me they're just a body, a piece of meat. Does not interest me at all. When I see a "gym" body it's the same, I feel nothing for that. I only feel attraction once I get to know someone. It's their personality that does it for me. - I prefer having sex with myself 🤭. I probably experience a low libido, I don't know. But at some moments of my hormonal cycle I do experience the physical need to have sex. When I do, I prefer my own hand 🤪. My husband is the opposite so of course at some point we need to reach a compromise. Usually I "help" him have the deal done and I tell him I'm fine and that's ok. But I understand this could be difficult to navigate, especially if sex is essential for someone but it's not for the other person involved in the relationship. 3) Totally agree about being great partners! Like, if you hardly ever experience sexual attraction, almost guaranteed you're not gonna be a cheater 🤭. I'm also caring and super reliable and trustworthy, so... But like I said before, I understand that sex for some people is fundamental and so they can't compromise on this. It's all about finding a person who loves you for who you are and is willing to accept you! 4) We're NOT broken! This is the most important thing to understand and believe I think... We live in a world that overvalues sex above all and so when you're different it's difficult to see yourself as a valid person. But we definitely are!❤

Been struggling with accepting I am bi and ace. It's particularly complicated, because people either force me to be one or the other. Being bi and ace makes me feel like I am an imposter, a traitor, that I am not ace enough. And this really destroys me. Being ace is a big part of my identity. I grew up feeling broken because I couldn't love like the other people around me could. And now that I found out I am also bi... it makes me feel like there is no space for me in the queer community. That I am some sort of fraud. This is why it is so important to me to see visibility regarding these mixed identities, being ace and something else. I am primarly ace, this is how I feel the most. But I also cannot deny that I can, remotely, like people of any gender. And I truly want potential partners and the ones I am closest with to understand that. Thank you so much for all the visibility you give us, ace-bi people. I really need it.

I've been looking for AGES for a video just like this that clearly explains things and explains why we all need to be aware, and is short enough to send to people with minimal time and attention spans. Thank you!

When I used to fantasize about being extraordinary, this is not what I had in mind.

Love love love this! Especially the last part where you say how amazing ace people are!!!! They don’t know what they’re missing ✨🙂✨I’m realising more and more that I am also on the ace spectrum, I still don’t know exactly where and how but I relate to all this, but in a slightly different way. Maybe I need to explore more “sub-labels” of the ace spectrum 🤔

Thanks for this wonderful video! Always love some ace education and representation :) I love how you make it completely clear how much we have to offer. Sometimes I feel like this is overlooked with our society being so overly sexual. Like as if just because I dont want to have sex as much as others want I am worth less. That hurts. Because deep inside of me I know how much I have to give and how I have to offer for potential partners.

I explain my asexuality (grey ace) as a primary sexuality, while "under that" is my secondary sexuality (when I do feel sexual attraction) being bisexual. Romantic orientation is another added layer and man... it can get complicated.

As an alloaro thx a lot for pointing out that ace and aro are not the same ❤

Thank you for posting this! I'm ACE and I have green eyes, so I'm definitely in the minority. I completely agree that we suffer from things like depression not due to a mental illness, but because there are so many ignorant people who look at us like there is something wrong with us. Nearly every experience I've had in my life that makes me want to exit is related to my complete disinterest in having sex with other people. Even worse, I have romantic attraction to certain others, but since I don't experience sexual attraction, I'm screwed...well, not screwed, I guess you'd say. I'm a great person, too, but I have spent most of my life in extreme isolation. From where I sit, this world is hypersexualized, and I just want to get off this merry go round. It's a cruel world for ACEs in general, but particularly ACEs who want a romantic relationship without sex. Never found that needle in the haystack.

HAPPY NEW YEAR! I wish you a great 2024 with (mostly) happy memories and the sharing and acknowledgement of good vibes. ❤

Thanks for the video. It's so important to have well explained content like this on RU-vid ❤

Thank you. 🖤🤍🤍💜

This video is so affirming! Thank you for dedicating so much time and effort to creating these amazing videos and fostering a safe community on your channel. 🖤🤍💜

I am asexual aromantic very handsome man and this is brilliant video, really informative. Greetings from Poland.

Me: trans-feminine, sapphic, ace. My wife: cis, straight, allo, but she still loves me dearly, and is staying, saying: "I love a person, not a gender". Love is not sex, but she is still sexually attracted to men, and I now present too femininely to rouse her interest in that way. We need to find a man who understands this dynamic. Ahh . . oh well . . .

10:19 So just curious, what exactly do ace people experience - if there is no sexual attraction to a person? For example, if you just get off, but it isn't associated with any particular person, would that be any ace attraction? I just want to understand. Thanks!

Maybe it’s just me but learning about the Aroace spectrum is a great education honestly. Cake and garlic bread along with Denmark happen to be significant. #IYKYK

love more asexual videos that have been coming out recently ugh🥹🫶

I am also bi ace. I am also somewhere on the aromantic spectrum. I will have romantic attraction to people but I am also kind of repulsed by actually being in a romantic relationship. So when I do give it a try it’s few and far between and doesn’t last that long. I love to have a crush to though. But please don’t have a crush on me back that ruins everything. And when I say I have a crush I mean in a queer platonic kind of way. No one ever gets it if I try to explain. It sounds like you probably do though.

Isaac Henderson, you’d really love Mark.

I am a little confused, Mark. I thought you were bisexual. So can you be both bisexual and asexual at the same time? Just curious. Thanks!

I have a question. For long time I have identify as demisexual and bisexual, but I am start thinking abourt identify myself as: asexual panromantic, what do you think abourt that. The reason I am asking is because I really havent felt sexual attraction for a really long time, and not really interested in having sex with others, since i really dont see the point in it, but I really enjoy kissing, huging, cuddling etc if it is with a person I love and I can be attracted in this way to all sex and genders, since i am attracted to personality. I have a hight libedo so I watch "adult" movies and masturbate on a regular basis. You think I can identify myself as asexual panromantic?

It is a bit tricky for myself as well (Aroace) i love affection hugs and kisses though ironically. I just am repulsed or weirded out of getting it on unless im doing it for procreation like god, darwin, science, and our species were intended to harness that part of brain and anatomy. Human private anatomy is disgising to me but i look for a morality. Heck even trying to date women of all orientation (hard to find other aces in my area) and they either expect me, question if i find them "attractive", or demand (rarley) to do it when i have my morals and biology limits and boundaries. Its ok though, i learn to wat until date 3 to reveal my orientation

I sometimes wonder if im an Ace Gay. I get incredibly randy and love watching men get it on, but when it comes to doing it myself..... meh. A lot of effort to take forever to get off and just be sweaty at rhe end of it.

just found out im prob asexual so im binging vids like this

Thanks!

Thanks for explaining it that way......

But i m happy ❤❤ ..that i m pure

So weird! I am a chaotic bisexual desaster of a 37 yo woman 💖💜💙AND I hve green-blue eyes and red hair! Additionally I might be on the asexual spectrum... But I'm not sure I should claim that lable, since I wasn't feeling ace before a traumatic break up over ten years ago. That left me with trust issues and recurrent depressions, so my very low libido could also be a side effect of my meds 🤨🤷‍♀ I know the difference between sexuallity and libido, but isn't sexuallity something that can also be fluid? Irdk.

I hate this. but I love it

I came here to learn and understand, but I feel more ignorant and confused about asexual people. At what point is a person excluded from the ace community? If I don't feel like having sex a few moments out of the day, but i love having sex everyday where do i lie on the ace spectrum and would i be fraudulent to claim that i am asexual? What issues or discrimination do asexual people face? I think its wrong for a heterosexual person to pressure or ask an asexual person for sex. I also think its wrong for an asexual person to seek a romantic relationship with a sexual person unless there are some unconventional compromises. Can an asexual person be territorial about their partners and if so, why?

you've got beautiful nails 💅👍

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What’s with the nails 😅

I have a very high libido and I dated a man who didn't like sex and said he just didn't care about sex. We did it very rarely and I think he just wasn't interested in my body, but he loved my personality. Anyway I think asexual people should not start relationships with people for whom sex is extremely important. It's torture and it's cruel.

I'm confused. I thought you were bisexual?

asexuals were never historically oppressed -- society didn't know about them until very recently -- there were no laws criminalizing them/lynchings/beatings etc. that's one thing that trans + gay people have experienced that brings them together under the LGBT banner just want to point out that distinction to me, since you can be a heteroromantic asexual, or a homoromantic asexual, it's a term that refers to the lack of sexuality, rather than a certain sexuality fully support you bringing attention to the cause and creating a supportive space for asexuals, power to you but I find it strange that a heteroromantic asexual could consider themselves lbgtq+ because they may not have gone through the struggles that we have

Let's be honest, being asexual is either the result of trauma or a hormonal imbalance. A sex-aversed person? It's not rocket science... You can cling onto your diagnosis as an identity or try to get some treatment! Either way it's fine. You do you, boo.