10 THINGS BOOKWORMS HATE HEARING 

"I don't have time to read." **spends hours consuming social media**

"Why are you crying? Its just a book." 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

“read a book” “i actually am reading one! it’s a fantasy abo-“ “no i mean a real book” ???

“I wish I had the time to read” always feels like a backhanded compliment to me

It drives me crazy when people tell me i m spending a lot of money for books that i ll read once while i know they spend 30$ to fix their nails or some shit .

Them: How do you find time to read? Me: How do you find time to watch 3 hours of tv a night?

When it comes to people asking what I am reading, I have 2 moods: Mood 1: Leave me alone, I want to read. Mood 2: Sit down boy/girl and make yourself comfortable, because you're about to listen to a couple of hours of the monologue about why this book is absolutely blowing my mind and why you should read it. And if you don't read it, then I'll be bothering you constantly until you do.

“You’re an adult. YA/middle grade isn’t for you.” Shhhh let people enjoy what they wanna enjoy

“You don’t look like someone who like to read”? It’s weird.

I hear that crap about not reading "real" and "practical" books all the time. I don't understand the hate for fantasy. I do read nonfiction on occasion, but fantasy is my relaxation. It's fun and escapism. The world is real enough. I don't need it in my books.

WHY DO PEOPLE TALK TO ME WHEN THEY SEE I'M READING

I’d like to see someone tell a visually impaired person that “audiobooks” don’t count. What a ridiculous state of mind.

Notice how many of those things are not comments from “non-readers” but rather are judgements from other readers. Kind of sad that we look for these divisions to feel superior to each other when we should be smiling at our common love of books!

Last week some people told me: "You have it easy staying inside with Corona cause you read. But I NEED to go shopping/nails/hair/vacation/etc" Like i don't miss going to bookshops or signings 😭. Being a bookworm doesn't mean were always inside 🤦‍♀️.

"I wish I had time to read" is such a passive aggressive move

"So what are your hobbies?" -I really like reading! "No you don't." -??? "Tell me the truth, no one ACTUALLY likes reading." * visible confusion/anger/annoyance *

The whole "Audiobooks" isn't reading thing is just a semantics issue. Are they READING?... no. Are they consuming the story?... yes. But why does it matter.... thats what I don't get. Do you want to talk about the story... or do you just want to shame someone for not reading with their eyeballs.

When I'm crying about a fictional character's death and someone's like "You know they're not real right?"

"If you a read a book, that means you agree with its content." Well, I remember reading Mein Kampf a few years ago. I didn't know what to expect - perhaps some sort of reasoned argument? In fact, it is essentially a rant written down, full of non sequiturs, unsupported assertions and repetitions. Shockingly, I was not converted to fascism.

The "you're just reading" as if my reading is equivalent to scrolling on my phone and just me trying to fill time until someone comes up with something better to do.

An assumption that you are lonely. When my children were small, I had a job outside my home. My only time to read was my lunch hour. On a number of occasions, people would say, “awwww, you look so lonely, may I join you?” I still remember wanting to cry when they sat down.

Whenever I tell someone I have dyslexia they hardly believe me because I read books..it’s so annoying because it took me years to get over my fear of reading

3 major things I relate to: 1. the "if you like books you must be studious and quiet and an introvert". I am none of those things. I've always been a very unmotivated student, I am very loud and very outgoing. I can be loud and also like sitting quietly for hours reading. I don't need people to remark on how funny it is that books make me shut up. 2. the "how do you find time to read?" this was especially prevalent when I was in law school and then later when I was studying for the bar. I like reading. I would find time for it in the morning, in the night time, as a reward for finishing a chapter of tax law. People got so judgey, thinking I was wasting my time and "shouldn't I be studying more and anyway, how could I afford to buy any books at all when I was unemployed and studying". It's priorities. literally just priorities. and understanding that for me reading wasn't a chore, it was a break from boring law reading and studying. it's two very different parts of the brain for me. I didn't get too tired to read just because I spent 10 hours reading bar prep material. And of course, most common of all, 3. the book snobbery. I've heard "why do you read so much fantasy?" from so many people in my family, and "aren't you too old for that?" about YA. or, "why don't you try reading real books" meaning classics or non-fiction. like, I'm perfectly capable of reading all those things. I read Victor Hugo and Cassandra Clare and Brandon Sanderson and Jodi Picoult and I like all of it. I don't read a lot of non-fiction, but when I do, I enjoy it. I hate it when people say "oh, but that isn't a challenging book. isn't it too easy?" i mean, yeah, it's easy. it's supposed to be fun. Reading is my biggest hobby. I want it to be enjoyable. It doesn't mean that I don't challenge myself and sometimes read books that aren't as "fun" but for the most part, i want to have a good time. I don't need to prove anything to anyone. And you'd think that the people in my life would be aware that I am more than capable of reading difficult things. I spend most of my days reading case law and writing legal briefs. I know how to read and write. I just like to read fun things for fun. Anyway, end of rant. As you can tell, I agree with a lot of what was said lol.

I work in a library, so I’ve not only heard that audiobooks aren’t books, but that eBooks, graphic novels, or basically anything that isn’t a tome with paper pages and blocks of text isn’t “a real book” I feel saddest for the kids who aren’t allowed to read what they like because what they’ve chosen is “too hard” for them or “too easy” I was so lucky that I was able to explore my reading tastes and no one ever put limitations on me. Also, libraries are awesome! Most authors are thrilled to know you got their book from a library. Thanks for another great video, EB!

All of which can be summed as: let other people read whatever the heck they want.

Age range snobbery is so real - I hate seeing that on booktube. There are great books of *every* age range!

“You don’t need to eat today because mommy wants this book” 😂😂 I’m dead Also Elliot your bookish opinions are 👌🏼 I hate the pretentiousness of genre and age ranges sooo much too. especially coming from people who don’t really read lol

I hate when people think that I should like a book just because it's classic or because it's wellknown They look at me like if I wasn't normal but being a classic or wellknown doesn't always mean that it's a good story

The one where ppl talk to you while your reading bc they think your not busy doing anything really gets me lol

Thank you for talking about audiobooks!❤️ I can’t read books anymore due to a traumatic brain injury from a car accident so now every time I try to read I reread the first sentence a million times and I can’t comprehend it. I love reading and I can’t stand people saying audiobooks don’t count 😒

For anyone who still has issues with audiobook v physical book, I´ll say this. Psychologists who studied the subject found out that whichever form you consume, your brain engages the same centres to process the content. I rest my case :)

I think at the end of the day, with spending money, everyone has a different Thing. Some people love buying clothes, some love buying art, some love buying books, some love streaming services because they love movies/tv, etc. It's like, why judge how other people spend their money on hobbies? Everyone is going to value different things that they "don't need"

OMG “audiobooks don’t count” is so frustrating, I am dyslexic and reading is hard for me. Finding audiobooks was a blessing because I can finally enjoy books. Some have questioned me on why I listen instead of reading, have told me that is not the same, but I don't care, I get to enjoy stories and that is all that matters

Problematic Author: This doesn't stop me from reading a book I'm interested in and I don't let it affect my love of books that I've already read.

Commenting that you can't genuinely like The Witcher because you're a girl is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard 🤔

As a blind bookworm who completely relies on audiobooks, I can’t imagine someone telling me that I have never actually read anything. Thankfully I rarely hear that Also when I tell someone I’m reading, I usually mean can you please leave me alone. People usually think it’s a conversation starter

When people see me reading a big book like Stormlight archive and say, "just a bit of light reading, huh?" 🙄

I hate when I say didn’t like the first book of a series and someone goes “ you have to continue to understand just how amazing this series is.” No. I didn’t like the first book, why would I waste my time reading the next when I could be reading something I could potentially love instead?

how the hell is your hair always on point

I have so many people tell me “you’re spending so much money on books” and I’m always like I set a budget for my books, after I’ve paid all my bills I’m free to spend what I want on books. I figure it’s my money, why not?

Some books can be so gripping. Having someone trying to chat with you on the train when you want to read your book is a bit like your favourite show being cancelled and getting 2 hours of the weather channel instead.

I do believe it is fine to separate the art from the artist. We don't know the beliefs of every actor/ actress of movies we watch. We don't know the beliefs of the clerk at the checkout stand, and yet we still grocery shop at the store. I don't agree with the beliefs of the ceo of chick fil a or hobby lobby but I still purchase the goods from those places as do millions of others. I don't see why it should be different for books

I never try to shame people for what they are or aren't reading. It's their business. But if I decide that I do NOT want to continue supporting a certain author, the reverse should also apply. I shouldn't be shamed for that, either! I keep seeing that happening lately.

I know a lot of people who say audiobooks, graphic novel, manga, all that don't count as reading because it's "easier". I don't read because I think it's a hard thing to do 🤷🏼‍♀️😂

Good lord, when they say "Read a book that educates you." I go murderous!

I've got to admit, if I read an audiobook and someone later asks me if I've ever read this book or that book, I will say "yes", but I feel the need to caveat the yes by saying "well, it was an audiobook". I need to get over myself and just say yes and call it a day. Ugh!

On a different note, recently, my colleague asked me whether I had a certain book. I, wanting to strike a conversation, asked whether he liked the series. To which he replied (quite condescendingly): "I don´t read fiction." My only response to that was that that´s the saddest thing I´ve ever heard :D

I don’t count audiobooks om my Goodreads challenge, generally. People seem to take offence when I say that and I can see why - however, I do NOT say that others aren’t allowed to count their audiobooks listenings. I often do other things when I listen to audiobooks and my brain has a tendency to wander when I do that, so sometimes I miss chunks of the story. I also started using goodreads as a way of motivating myself to start reading books again instead of listening to them, because it simply makes me focus in a different way. It wouldn’t make sense for me to tell a more auditive person (or anyone that gets a lot out of audiobooks) that their audiobooks “don’t count”. We all work differently and there are no rules. Read what you want in whatever medium that you want - whatever works for you.

Honestly I can usually separate a story from the author. Although to be fair it would depend on what the creator of the novel had been caught up in. I think most of the time it should be down to the individual to decide. I don't think anyone should be told what they can or cannot enjoy, as long as people are respectful of others .

For the Romance books question/statement: Romance =/= Erotica You can totally have romance without any sex on the page or even the implication of sex on the page (ie "fade to black after entering the bedroom"). Erotica is just one sub-genre within the Romance umbrella and typically involves explicit sex scenes throughout the book.

I love audiobooks for when my eyes are spent after work, or I have a headache that makes it difficult to look at a page; it’s so relaxing to listen to and unwind with

Besmirching the library. Being approached when reading. And being judged for romance can relate so hard. Also your makeup is chef's kiss as is your hair girl you whole look is gorgeous!

I dislike the "I wish I had time to read" comment. It doesn't make me angry, but I have been known to respond that you always find the time for things you love. One can find time for hiking, traveling, watching tv, etc if they want to and the same goes for reading. Just tell me you don't like to read...

Omg!!! Yes!! Everytime I'm reading someone wants to talk to me! Then I'm unapproachable when I do not respond to the conversation!! Or I could be listening to a book in my car before work and they actually come up to my window and ask if I'm okay 🤦🏽‍♀️

"audiobooks don't count as reading" when literature started orally, because there was no writing?! I mean... The Odissey and The Iliad had to be composed orally and passed down orally from generation to generation until it was written down.

I don't have many readers between friends or family. So I have heard too many times the thing about me spending too much money that I earned working. Also, I have a cronic disease that produces muscular pain and I listen audiobooks because I sometimes can't even hold a book, well, most people that I know don't get it. And the last thing I can relate to is the genre. I am a therapist, I work all day long listening to other people problems ( and I love to be able to help them), but my weekends are mine so if I want to read fantasy or nonfiction that is not related with my profession what's the problem?? Loved the video!! Can't wait for part 2. Hugs from Argentina. 🤗🤗

Love this video! I have heard everything on this list at some point from someone. The thing I hear the most is the "I wish I had time to read" thing. It doesn't really bug me too much, but I do think to myself that they totally have the time lol. The thing that bothers me the most is when people say that audiobooks don't count as reading. I struggle a lot with focus and sometimes I need to listen to the audiobook while following along in the book. Also, sometimes it is just nice to listen to a book while getting things done or driving. Audiobooks totally count! Anyway, thanks for making this video! I look forward to part two. I hope you are having a wonderful day!

honestly i love audiobooks. I'm super dyslexic but love to read. It's so difficult for me to take in what I'm read if it's not being read to me. People can be so snobby when it come to audiobooks and saying it's it's not real reading or I'm not a real reader blah blah (hasn't happened in years though, so maybe people are over it?) Like bro, I don't read because I wanna collect books - I read because it takes me to new places.

I read fantasy and romance mostly. Sometimes together or separate. I think a lot of people treat romance readers as if their reading something worth no substance just because there’s sex in it, which is crazy to me. Nothing wrong with erotica, if that’s what you’re reading then you know what you’re getting. But a regular romance book? Sure there’s sex in it but there’s more to it than that. I know a lot of people in the romance book community are looked down upon. To add I agree with what you said about the Witcher. A girl can’t read the Witcher or fantasy? I don’t understand is there no winning?????

audiobooks count. cuz both reading or hearing, made you imagine the story.

Fell in love with your YT chanel... I've been looking for this type of content for ages

"Oh, what are you reading?" "Well, right now, nothing because I'm now forced into this conversation with you" My boyfriend's dad is a great guy, but he is SOOOO guilty of this

“I’m too busy to afford that luxury” Yeah I can see that by your thousands of Instagram posts

Thanks! Your videos have brought me joy during the awful monstrosity that was 2020. Keep up the amazing work ❤️

Just watched this and everything you said was so relatable. Subscribed!

Unfortunately, yes, I still see the “audiobooks don’t count” crap fairly often....

I don't think I've ever "needed" a book. My special edition of Dracula doesn't count. I had to have that because it looks really good on my shelf 😊

Amazing video, and I loooove your hairstyle! :)

I purchase books because I like being able to show my support of an author in a monetary way. I am glad the library exists because I haven't always been able to afford books and the library provides access to literature regardless of income levels. I also like to own a book or tv show that I love because it represents who I am and what I enjoy.

a conversation that occurs frequently between me and my friends is something along the lines of "so what have you been up to lately? - well mostly reading, as usual - cool! as for me i've been binging tv shows like a complete degenerate" - like??? what am i supposed to say to that? we're both consuming fiction in different forms in our free time and yet there's this weird division they've constructed to imply that what i'm doing is a more useful activity. it's like they think i'm judging them so they use this self-deprecating language to do it first. but ofc i do nothing of the sort and yet i don't want to reassure them that watching tv is fine cause the whole situation seems very dumb to me. this mindset is harmful both for people who like to watch stuff in their free time and those who like to read bc it casts them into this role of a /superior/ person with /superior/ tastes who cares very much about /intellectual/ things and isn't fun at all. which is ironic cause 90% of the time i'm reading literally the /intellectual/ equivalent of what they are watching ://

not counting listening to audiobooks as reading is so ableist

Happy reading to u!! 😊📖

YES! I hate hearing " I wish I had time to read like you" Uh I have 2 small kids a job and a part-time job lol I make time when I can! BAhaha I mean I could totally tell my kids they don't need to eat because I need more books, my kids eat so much they would probably start eating my books LOL

Love your shirt, Elle!!! COSMERE!!

I can’t stop looking at your hairr it’s gorgeous!

1) The sound of someone's voice while I'm reading 😂 that's what this bookworm hates to hear!!!

Omg! Im a booktuber from Poland and the thing about audiobooks not counting drives me mad! I don’t know where is it coming from, but unfortunately, I hear this a lot. Idk why, Maybe some people just want to put you down so badly, that they don’t care if what they say even makes sense 😅🤷🏼‍♀️Also, im a huge fan of you, you are truly amazing!

The audiobook one always annoys me because they're great. Especially when you have a good narrator, it reminds me of an old time radio performance where they have the story come to life through audio. I like to have them on in the car during long car rides, they really help to pass the time. For me it's like the book has come to life and your listening to the cast of characters. Plus another thing I love about audiobooks, so many books print in tiny print and have their lines close together and with my eyesight that can be a hindrance, probably why I use my kindle more than actual physicals print cause I can make everything bigger. But when you listen, you don't have to worry about print size. Something that bothers me when it comes to books, is big blockchains that go after the smaller independent companies and can make a monopoly over what books are put out and for what price. Because a lot of times they censor what kind of material that goes out and their prices are inflated.

The Witcher is my wife's absolute favorite thing-the books, the games, and the Netflix series-so I resent anyone who says ladies can't enjoy it or are faking it.

Also my husband is the SAME WAY about not giving me quiet space when I'm reading lol especially if I'm reading on my Kindle or phone.

“We are sensitive Sally’s” 😂

Yes, the "audiobooks don't count" is still a thing!! My ex was a lit professor and he is still convinced that you cannot claim to have read a book when asked "have you read that one?" if you listened to it. 🙄

The "I wish I had time to read" feels like they are telling you that "I have a life where I do more interesting things, and you don't but it's nice you have found something to do in your solitude..."

Ok I just wanted to say that your makeup and hair is GORGEOUS 🤍🤍

I would love for you to make full videos on some of these topics

"I wish I had time to read" just makes me feel bad. Like reading is mot a valuable way to spend my time......most of those people don't miss their Netflix.....

The most annoying thing for me is when a family member sees me reading and they act all annoyed that I'm not paying enough attention to them so they say something like "Why don't you come visit the real world with the rest of us?" and all they want to do is watch tv. Basically the book equivalent of someone making you go out to eat with them because they 'don't see you enough' and they spend the entire time on their cell phone.

Wait I absolutely love your shirt!

Thank you so much for addressing book shaming... It gives me a smile just to see people reading... I have zero cares what they enjoy reading... how can people judge something you do because you enjoy it? When I see people book shame and judge others it screams "I have insecurities."

I just found your channel and I feel *seen* 😂😅 Also, I love those glasses and am super curious where they came from!

I love your lipstick shade 😍😍

From a purely grammatical perspective, it does bother me when people call listening to an audiobook "reading". That's just not what that word means. That's where my pet peeve is. As far as counting an audiobook as having completed a book, that's fine.

The video is great but i couldn't stop looking at your glasses. They're so pretty!

As someone with adhd, I've struggled with the expectations surrounding reading and studies all my life. The rest of it I can tune out most of the time, I read what I read I don't care about other people's opinion regarding that, but those expectations.. "If you read so much how are you not good at /these subjects/" "If you read textbooks this much you'd be the topper" "You're so good at these other subjects it must be because you read so much" just! Head, meet desk!

I definitely belong to the "separate the art from the artist" faction, certainly within the realm of 'fiction'. There are individual exceptions, of course. Such as Goodkind's famous/infamous series. Even those I enjoyed early on, for their nonsensical absurdity. But, after a point the books became too obviously sermons on a particular political philosophy I am at odds with. At that point I abandoned the series. But, I can and will still re-read those early entries from time to time. Now, non-fiction books on political / social / economic matters are another story. With those, I have no qualms about ignoring works by 'authors' whose views I disbelieve in.

For the longest time I had no idea how anyone could read more than a few books a month. Until it dawned on me that they were listening to audio books 🤦🏽‍♀️. Audiobooks have been amazing and have given me time to listen to books in a matter of days that would probably take me months to read because of little free time. I am a frugal person so I love using the libraries resources for books or buying second hand. I personally don’t like to buy brand new unless it’s a new release but I also don’t shame others who do. I have zero business telling someone how to spend their money 🤷🏽‍♀️

It dives me crazy when people are like "Oh broaden your reading interests read some non-fiction, fantasy isn't worth the read cause it doesn't help the world yada yada yada" or because I'm a teen and I'm still reading stuff like, Percy Jackson, Harry Potter, Scarlet and Ivy, School for good and evil and Wings of fire and people are like "Those are childrens' books, why don't you read something that's actually at your level?" ITS SO ANNOYING OMG

Yup! I do agree with almost all the points except I would like to talk about the book I am reading or any bookish interaction with strangers but I might be biased because that's how I found the love of my life 😀❤️

Thanks, You just said what I've been wondering for years!!! Oh, God!!! People can be really annoying. 🤦🏻‍♀️

I would be very interested to watch a video/discussion about problematic books/authors from you!