In my 60’s and have been both natural and relaxed for decades as I do whatever works best at that time in my life. Today I’m relaxed. Never worn wigs, weaves, braids etc in my life. I wear my wear out daily except for the occasional bun. It works for me! At this age I have to enjoy it now. I save nothing for later or a special occasion. Every day is a special occasion because I woke up. 👍🏾. Great tips!
Thanks so much for sharing with us Val, I have been relaxed for years. There are so many videos for natural hair but very few for relaxed hair that we can relate to. Please don't think I'm bashing natural ladies ya'll. I was natural for the first 13 years of my life, relaxers just work better for me.
Thank you Judy for sharing that. Of course, everyone is entitled to their preference. The relaxed community is growing but the videos need to grow as well💕
Hot oil treatments are awesome for my hair. I deep condition straight after washing. My hair does extremely well/thrives with heat only once a month. Thanks Val!
I've worked in an high end salon for 4 years, and we've always shampooed, deep condition, then run the conditioner through he hair briefly after the deep conditioner is rinsed out. so YES, go straight for the "Good Stuff"!
I long for the day I will find a professional stylist who really understand the science of black hair. The health hair journey is very challenging when u can't do most of the things by urself. Thanks for the tips Sunshine
Totally understand where you are coming from. You and your stylist have to be aligned especially if you still l rely on their services. Don’t give up, sis!💕
Thank you so much for sharing your advice and experiences! I just relaxed my hair after being natural for 8 years. I enjoyed my natural hair journey, but with everything going on in the world I found I just didn't have the mental or physical energy to keep up the lengthy routine I had in place. I'm super grateful that being natural taught me to care for my hair , so now I'm in a better position to learn how to care for relaxed hair- something I never learned before while growing up. Looking forward to this new journey & super grateful to have found your channel.♡
So I used a Lye relaxer for the first time today, I love it. I have fine hair but my middle gets real thick when my new growth comes in. When I was natural back in 2019 to 2020, my hair grew but not pass my shoulders. Once I started relaxing every 3 months or longer in 2020, my hair is now almost arm pit length. I deep condition like crazy and wash my hair weekly. I use a hair bond, not Olaplex, I can't think of the name right now, I went blank, lol, but Ulta sells it, that helped my hair with the growth as well. I drink plenty of Core water as well. I love your tips.
I take 1 tablespoon a day in my green tea every morning of blackstrap molasses it reverts gray hair I am 58 years old my hair is a rich black color now
I used to roller set my hair with the black rollers with the netting and those pink stick pins and let it dry naturally..my hair was at it's healthiest!!
Only works if your hair dries in 8 hours naturally. Some unfortunate souls have hair that us still wet after 48 hours and that is bad for the hair and the scalp. Bacteria and fungus love warm damp dark places. Hygral fatigue/mushy happens in strands that have been wet for too long.
Thank you for sharing and teaching us how to have healthy hair. I went back to relaxed hair after 11 years of being natural. You inspired me and I'm looking forward to my new healthy relaxed hair journey. My hair thrived natural and relaxed. I'm 50+ and you have taught me a lot. I never knew I could air dry my relaxed hair, it has been a game changer for me. Ladies, Natural hair and relaxed hair can both be healthy as long as we treat our Crowns good. We are all Queens. God Bless you!
Yeah … I feel you on the double heat. I have a blow dryer & a flat iron but usually when I do my weekly washing and conditioning.. I usually blow dry my hair then put my hair in a loose bun or ponytail… I have a $200 flat iron & I barely use it. I don’t see the need plus blow drying AND flat ironing that’s too much work… also I workout a lot so ain’t no point in doing all of that when I workout 5x per week 🤷🏽♀️
I wish I didn't need to do both but blow drying just doesn't cut it. Especially if I'm stretching. Buy using heat protectant (blow dry serum) has helped.
I thought I was the only one that didn’t do hot oil treatments. I feel oils are more beneficial when I add them to my deep conditioner. Also once my hair got longer I could no longer use the sink either because it would go down the drain and it was a lot of work to wash in the sink
Not trolling but laughing at it going into the sink drain because it was so long. My hair never gets that long due to shrinkage and me always cutting it.
@@marleyhill34 😂😂! Girl I would have all my ends just going down the drain but I would use the kitchen sink so it wouldn’t break off. It was hard trying to hold the ends and shampoo at the same time
@@HairliciousInc thank you Val. I also appreciate you and your content. New subscriber and I relaxed my hair in August 2020. My Hair is thriving, and on a journey to near waist level. Currently, my hair is past shoulders. I need to have my hair trimmed by my stylist. Loyal subscriber
I wish I came across your channel when I relaxed my natural hair 2 yrs ago. I’m mourning over the amount of hair I’ve lost (from shoulder length to neck length). You’re videos are a guidance on how to get my length back with severely damaged hair. Please keep sharing you’re saving a lot of us ❤
It’s calming to watch and listen to you😌 I enjoyed your making of the “not for this sis” look at certain points of the video😄 I do: long term protective styles, wash my hair in the sink, no-lye relaxers, self trim
Thanks for this video, I no longer feel like the odd person out for not doing weaves and braids anymore. I learned the hard way that for me, it only brought breakage. Also another big lesson I learned thanks 🙏🏽 to you was I was using too much protein. From the shampoo to the leave in was loaded with it and it showed in my hair. I had overly dry hair with a irritated scalp. Before subscribing to your channel, I knew nothing about moisturizing and sealing and it has been a saving grace to my hair. Happy Sunday to you as well and thanks 🙏🏽 again for doing what you do.
This colour is gorgeous on you. I am pretty much the same as you, everything you mentionedI don't do. The only thing I don't do is self relax because I can't! I leave my hair alone, don't touch combs, only wash in the shower, only DC after shampoo, no hot oil...
One thing I notice that you do that I don’t is smoothing the relaxer through the new growth with a comb. Applicator brush only for my stylist and that keeps my strands thick and nice!
@@mrsx7944 I’m not talking about the ends, I’m talking about the new growth she’s relaxing. Using a comb to smooth takes out too much texture and makes it straight even when wet
Hi Val! My hair is not relaxed, yet I find your videos to be truly informative. There are things that I starting doing to my silk pressed hair about 3-4 years ago, before finding you on RU-vid. I do them to maintain the health of my hair, thickness and length and they are similar to what you do. They have been working wonderfully for my hair. Thank you so much for such useful information that is helpful to many of us. 😊
@@HairliciousIncThank you so much for sharing your knowledge. I texturized my 13 years hair for the first time a week ago leaving it in her hair for about 7mins total, it did losing the curl but it's not as straight as we would like, it puffy. I wanted to know if I could use a relaxer the next time and should I do the whole head again. She is 4 cdef...Its definitely more manageable.
💜💜💜Love your videos, super informative. You have helped me in my hair journey tremendously. I quit my stylist last year because he wasn’t giving my hair the love and care that it needs, after finding your channel I’m sooooo glad I did.
LOVE, LOVE, LOVE this content Val! Your delivery is so clear and concise. I typically do straight back cornrows or braids for vacations and it works great. And I agree, the less you have hands (or a comb) in your hair the more it will thrive. My "go to" protective style is two flat twist. It's best thing ever!!
Spot on about lye relaxers being better for hair, harsher on scalp. I've been on lye for 20 years. My hair is mid back, and that's because I cut it to keep it that length.
Pulled some great tips from you even though my hair is natural now. I think I need to stop detangling in the shower. Everyone said do it at first but I feel like I'm losing too much hair!
For a tip if you don’t want to use harsh dye on your hair then I would recommend using henna dye for your grays. It’s natural, safe for your scalp and it actually strengthens your hair. It will make your grays somewhat between a dark brown to a light auburn color depending on application, and will make your hair a deep reddish-brownish color but only really visible in the sunlight (bc of your dark strands).
Texlax is for me. I wear wigs due to time. Take it off when home. 8 weeks between relaxers. No braids or twists no flat ironing just smoothing with a warm pressing comb. Placed in a back twist supported by a nonbrakage rubber band. No combing for three days. No breakage seen. Good hair growth. Trim as needed, but not cut just dusting. My hair grows slowly about less than half inch a month. But it is thick. Less see thru. Shoulder length. Use bjco. 3 time a week. Wash with conditioner. Silk scarf at night. Then be content with the process
Very useful tips! Especially number 10. I’m always combing my hair for no apparent reason, and because of that I’ve been experiencing a lot of breakage, of course plus all the other stuff I’ve been doing wrong
Wow, so I recently came to several realisations about my relaxed hair and you've mentioned about 90% of the things I have decided to start or stop doing based on what I have learned over time. Now if this video was out like 2 years ago, it would've saved me a lot of hair loss and heartbreak 😥. Thanks all the same, I'm grateful for you sharing your experiences, it's great to know that these steps have worked for someone else.
Happy to have found your channel. In a few days ,I will be getting my hair relaxed after 10 yrs.There is not alot of relaxed hair content on RU-vid so your videos have been appreciated!
Omg!!,so true,I wore weaves and it thinned my hair out,I could hear my hair popping as she braided it,she would say no my hair is not breaking ,but I could see it thinning out. Now my hair is so thick and growing like weeds.
I love ❤️ the fingers as a comb. I do use my fingers (not nails) to message daily. Plus, I rarely shampoo. I message and then use my own hair rinse or steeped rosemary and mint.
I have natural hair that needs daily moisturizing & Sealing or else severe dryness. So now i tried Shampoo, Condition then deep conditioner The dryness disappeared. I moisturize& Seal every 3 days now with less moisturizer and oil. I used to trim my own hair but on my last trim i asked my sister to trim my hair. Omg she was able to trim in no time like a professional. I think it's easier to have another person trim your hair.
@@HairliciousInc nope! Didn’t even wear a bonnet to sleep 🥲 just kept it moisturised. My hair stylist was shocked and said it’s the thickest and healthiest she’s ever seen it. Guess, for me, the less I manipulate it, the better.
@@HairliciousInc Haha yup. Moisturised and sealed. And when I washed my hair (every 2 weeks usually) I would use a biotin shampoo (blue bottle from amazon) and carol’s daughter conditioner. I only deep conditioned (using heat) about 3-4 times during the 6 month period. And used a protein mask 3x. Also, as you said, I would rarely comb my hair. Maybe once or twice a week. Rarely ever left it down too.
I just had to come back to this video to let you know that I wish you were my stylist!! I just got a relaxer the other day, and while she's good for the most part, she does some things that I just don't agree with, like aggressively combing through my WET and freshly relaxed hair with a fine tooth comb. I look over and see a lot of my hair in the comb! I asked if she had a wide tooth comb instead (which she goes to get an even thinner comb🤦🏾♀) and says that just gets all my shedded hair out and a wide tooth comb wouldn't have got it. I know my hair wasn't shedding THAT much! That had to have been more than just 'shedded hair.' Then, she end up clipping too much of my ends off...taking off the results I worked hard for, even though I told her I only wanted the very ends clipped off..no more than necessary. And she end up getting frustrated with me! Since I'm paying HER my money, I should have a right to bring up any concerns about my hair! She gets offended every time I ask a question or make a comment like it's a personal attack on her..🤦🏾♀. Sorry so long! I just wish I could find somebody else. 💯
Wow. You see this is what I truly cannot stand about some stylists!! How is it that she’s getting upset when you are a paying client simply expressing your preference on how you would like your hair to be handled for healthier longer hair?! It baffles me. I understand your position because I’ve been there before. If she’s not on board with your healthy hair goals, you should probably start looking for another stylist. Many of them are set in their ways and it makes zero sense arguing and going back and forth. If she’s open to your hair goals and healthy hair journey, I would suggest that you bring your own wide tooth comb for her to use and to gently comb from the ends up. As for trims, ask her to cut gradually. Stress that. Because when you cut off too much, there’s no going back from that. So ask her to cut off a small amount then check to see how your ends look, then proceed if more needs to be taken off. It’s a struggle but I hope things work out for you💕
@@HairliciousInc I knew you would understand!! Thank you so much ❤. I'm just not gonna have her clip my ends anymore, because I see we'll never be on the same page. I'm thinking of learning to trim my own ends correctly or find someone else to do it. A lot of these 'stylists' don't care about our hair. They just want our money with no questions asked..lol, smh.
Cusp_Of_Magic...And she's a PROFESSIONAL?? She can't be good for no parts raking through your hair like that..with a fine tooth comb no less!! You need to watch her..
@@Cusp_of_magic why I no longer go to black hair salon. I go to a white Aveda salon but my stylist is Maori with curly hair so he knows no fine toothed combs!
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I ONLY comb while wet. Literally not a strand in my brush. But I don't brush until the next wash. Just use my fingers the next few days to a week
It’s been twenty weeks since my last relaxer at the end of this month I’ll relax it.. i havent’t used any heat for seven years now I’ve learned the hard way. My hair is healthy because of it… I dry my hair thoroughly with a t-shirt and let it dry naturally…
Thank you so much for you hair tips, the way you put it together is truly classy, which encourage me to subscribe to you channel.. best wishes from the Bahamas❤
@@wandabailey2873 Ok. Thanks. With your personal experience since you have been drinking this for some time what the estimate time that you noticed the color of your hair changing?
Thank you so much for your hair regimen tips. Even though I am considered natural, I still find your do’s and don’ts helpful on my journey to healthier, thicker, and longer hair. I definitely am subscribing to your Chanel.
Thank for sharing with us, can't wait to see your relaxing video. I relax my hair for years can't count went natural 2 years ago and this year I'm going back to relaxing again.
Thanks for the info, we have a lot in common with the things I don't do, I try to comb my hair every 2 to 3 days and can't strech much either at 10 to 12 weeks, that is it!
I’ve always loved your videos! I’m Loc’d as of 6/30/16 however comma you definitely helped out in my relaxed hair journey! Keep up these beautiful information videos.😘 P.S. relaxers worked best for me in the past 😉 Thank you again 🥰
@@HairliciousInc yes sis low maintenance if you really don’t do much with your hair but I like to style them once a month! I also love to give queens their flowers while they’re still here and you definitely deserve yours! What I will say is that I still use jbco with my locs during the summer and winter because of you! So thank you sis!
I'm relaxed as well, long protective hair styles work for me, I don't do hot treatments, I'll use keratins and proteins as well, I also do lye relaxers too. I shampoo in the sink, but I think I'll try the shower again. I do relaxers from 10 - 20 weeks, depending on the season, I double heat because blow drying isn't it without a bristle brush, but air drying takes way to long for me. I don't comb in the shower either, but I only comb once per day or use my hand to detangle for the rest of that day. I also comb my hair the day of my relaxer because I am tender headed, so if my natural hair isn't detangled, I'm feeling that pain. I also don't dye my hair or self trim.
Have you ever tried knotless braids? I been doing for almost a year and it helped my hair grow so much. I oil it and spray leave in every couple of days.
Yessss, I do them myself and they do help with hair growth. I like when I do my own braids because they aren't as tight as when they get done at the salon.
Thanks Val, you've been an inspiration to my hair journey. I've learnt alot from you, and my hair is thriving and I share these ideas with friends and family. ❤
I’ve always done long-term protective styles and my hair has suffered as a result. After 20 years I’m realizing that fine thin hair and extensions don’t really work.
Same. It was the trichologists that told me to only do twists, flat twists, finger coils and two or three French braids. Anything else was causing micro fractures on my strands. They showed me under the trichoscope.
Your contents are really great and clear🙏🏾. I tried your deep conditioning method and it's AMAZING!😃 I am experiencing more breakage since I am stretching my hair for 6months now😩. Will have my touch up soon and then I will stretch for 3-4months and see how that goes. Thanks for sharing!
Hi Val , My moms name is Valarie . Thanks ,for the tips definitely stopped using much heat. I don’t do protective styles either. I’m thinking switching relaxers I’ve been using affirm Avalon no lye for years . I wear buns and wigs on and off that’s about it .
Thanks for sharing Sunshine 🌞, I always look forward to your videos. I love love the way way you present them, they are fun to watch and at the same time very informative, so I find myself watching them over and over again. You always look awemazing.
Thank you so much for all the help, because of taking your advice I’ve been able to get my edges back and less shedding A lot of people have noticed a difference, I had to take an inch off only because it’s my old see through ends but my hair is thriving something crazy
I recently transitioned from having an afro to relaxed hair and after watching this video I realised that most of the principles that I had applied for my afro are also applied to relaxed hair . Basically hair just needs low manipulation , minimal heat and lots of moisture regardless of what texture it is 😅 .
I hate blow drying and flat ironing, but when I go to a ‘high end’ salon they do this. Not sure how to get around this with them, because they would look at me crazy if I tell them not use it.
I'm 71... really big chopped and went natural 2016.... my hair now is a bit pass waist length...hoping it'll grow longer with care! No braids, no protective styles, no hair weave,no wigs,no texturizer, no relaxers, no heat... not stuck buying too many products ....it's a no for me😂 I just couldn't stand the smell of relaxer and neutralizer anymore. I really started considering My Health i didn't want the relaxer going in the pores of my scalp 🤦🏾 Everyone has a choice relaxed or natural👍🏼 Different Strokes for different folks!😁 TAKE CARE EVERYONE! BLESSINGS, MY WISH FOR EVERYONE A PEACEFUL HEALTHY AND HAPPY DAY EVERY DAY!!!💐🎉🎊 Me Shorty!
Why come on a channel to say that? Good for you, but honestly that's not every one, and the bragging is unnecessary, unbecoming and quite frankly pointless.
Thanks for sharing! I don’t do some of these also. Like long term protective styles. I have done them, but they usually only last for about 4 weeks. Haven’t done it in years though. But some I do do! Lol. Like washing my hair in the sink. I can’t get jiggly with going in and out of the shower. It uses so much much water and I hate water in my ears. I’ve learned to wash and rinse sideways in the sink.
@@HairliciousInc No problem! I either use the sprayer or put my head far enough for the water to rinse it. I have a wash day video that kinda shows what I do. It may be the last or second to last video I posted.
I use a comb after i wash and condition. Then i use my Fingers and pulm of my hands. They are better than comb because they are warm which my hair loves. My hair loves my fingers.
I have to condition before deep conditioning since they don't tend to have enough slip to comb my hair out. I actually like to condition, detangle, and add my deep conditioner on top since I feel like deep conditioners can cause tangles even after combing it. To make sure the deep conditioner works as well as possible I keep like with like (aussie 3 min miracle on top of aussie moist, shea moisture over shea moisture or some other botanical silicone free conditioner, trader joes hair mask with the tea tree tingle, etc)
I love when you share and talk about your hair do and don't I recently started to use the lye relaxer because it's cheaper am from Jamaica I noticed that when I stretch my relaxer too long my scalp burns a lot the no lye relaxer does nothing for me anymore I used it while going to school years ago so I also started combing my hair less and notice that my hair growth improved a lot so I love your videos I will continue to watch them in my hair journey and most of all I don't use a lot of product in my hair. One love always
