People definitely treat you differently. Also, with “opinions” I’ve heard - “WLS? Oh that’s the easy way out “. It’s definitely not the easy way out especially after all most 22 years. I did it to save my life. I would do it again if I had too. Great job Sara. I love you. ❤️
I was most surprised that you said men treat you better and women treated worse. That’s not something I had ever heard of or considered before. It was also a very helpful example that people stop for you to cross the street. Thanks for sharing!
I hate that it is like that, but it's the truth. Or at least, the truth in my experience. I notice a lot of little things like random strangers (usually men) trying to go out of their way to help me with stuff. Just today I was in the grocery store and this dude ran over and offered to put my 50lb dog food bag in my cart. I didn't need his help though. LOL But that never used to happen, and back in the day I really struggled with lifting! Thank you for watching my video.
I’m 5 months post SADI. The first month I thought what in hell did I do. But once I started seeing the weight come off and I got used to eating, I was so glad I did.
Ohhh yes, the "what did I do to myself" moment is SO REAL. I remember it well. It definitely takes some getting used to but I can say for me, I realize that how I eat now is "normal" and how I used to eat was definitely not. Keep up the good work post-op, cheering for you 💖💖💖
So true for all you said. I’m 5 months post RNY. I’m down 70lbs. From 18w to 12 regular. You didn’t mention body dismorphia. It’s a crazy phenomenon. I thought a size 12 was a normal size person, but I see an obese woman in the mirror. I have a hard time imagining getting to a 10 or smaller. I’m worried everyday that it will be the last pound lost and that the scale will start going back up
First - congrats on your progress, you're doing amazing! Body dysmorphia is a WHOLE 'NOTHER TOPIC for sure!!!! Maybe I will do a video on that soon since I feel it too.
I am 2 months post VSG and I think your list is really good. The thing that has surprised me the most is getting my hunger back. I really didn’t miss being hungry and when it came back I was a little mad. I talked to my nutritionist and because I am working out 3x per week he increased my calorie and protein and it helped my hunger so much. So my post op advice is to reach out to the bariatric team and talk to them about issues. Your journey is inspiring. ❤
Thanks for sharing!! I had a similar emotional reaction when I started feeling hungry again. I realized it was mostly head hunger or habit hunger (for example, eating snacks while watching a movie - that's a habit I had developed!). Great add.
I had gastric sleeves in Oct 2020. Down 120lb, but still haven't met goal weight. As a 5 ft woman going through menopause, it sucks to be working so hard and no longer losing weight. You need to be realistic about your "ending weight ", where your body ends up settling. You may never make your "goal".
I think it's super healthy to have a realistic view of a goal weight, for sure! I never met my goal weight assigned by my surgeon either. But I am still happier and healthier than ever! 💖
Yes, I have had RNY in March 2023 and the first 6 months are so valuable! I've lost 102 during this time and now that on the 15th of September I will be 6 months and getting a little scared that I'll stop losing weight. I still have 60 pounds to lose. Hunger, for me is different, I feel empty and that I can eat, but not real hunger like before surgery, at least not yet. Right now I don't have FOMO, I am so happy to eat all I want (except sugar) and eat small amounts. Scars never bothered me, I still see them very well, but who cares. Vitamins are key! I do the bariatric vitamins with no problems as long as I take them with food. My vitamin numbers in blood work have been good. MY doctor actually told us about Flintstones; that if we couldn't afford others than we could take those. I heard all the same as you did for rumors, but I don't listen to all or nothing talk. My husband and I are great, I'm still losing, and I still don't drink alcohol. I'd like to know more about lose skin vs fat - I'm not too sure of the difference. I've heard all opinions, but honestly no one has said to me that weight loss surgery is bad or the easy way out; I've been blessed with this. HaHaHa, I had to laugh at number 2, so true! I'm not sure about being treated differently. Even at 349 pounds, I was treated well by those around me. Maybe I'll experience this when I get down to goal. Great video!
I regret mine too, I was just overweight & with pcos, if i knew what i knew now I would have never got this done, its very exhausting I dont know if this is changing for the worse or better. i am 2 months post op. how are you feeling? Oh and im severly depressed now & with anxity of the roof
@@allianceinsurancegroup7166 I hope in time you will feel better. In my experience, my Energy levels were very low the first 3-4 months. If you can get IV therapy it helps a lot! Have you talked to your bariatric team about how you feel? I would absolutely start there. Wish you the best.
@@LoseWeightSara my problem is regret, I didn’t do a full research on VSG I kinda just wanted this surgery & now I don’t want it & my mind is not having it, I was more on the lower BmI & to be honestly I really didn’t need this surgery & how can I fight with my mind. This is not what I expected everything is so overwhelming, I’m seeking therapy & phycological support now suffering major anxiety & depression after surgery never had this problem before so for me this was not worth it.
You look beautiful girlie...another thing people say is you took the easy way out....however they don't know a person's story or weight loss journey...I've been trying to lose weight and keep it off since the 1980's and have tried just about every weight loss diet in the world but surgery seem to be the thing that has helped me
I am currently in the process of getting gastric sleeve surgery (still have a couple of months to go) and i have been experiencing a bit of nerves, and anxiety about how my life will be different after the surgery, how i may miss out on some things but one thing that has helped me see these changes a bit more positively is to remind myself that this is for my own good. I won't be able to eat as much or the same as before? THATS GREAT, i will now be forced to be more conscious of what i put in my body, forced to change my mindset, to gain more discipline which are all great things. I won't be able to drink as much or often? Also, not a bad thing at all, we're all better off without alcohol or at least better off not consuming too much of it anyway. In the end i will be a healthier and stronger person. As far as how some people will see you differently or start treating you differently, The people that love you and are there to support you, are the friends you should keep around anyway. If a "friend" judges you or begins being hostile towards you because you've now lost a couple pounds, they were not a true friend to begin with.
You are way ahead of the ball by having such an amazing attitude! 💖 These things happen and I agree - overall we are much better for it. Best of luck on your surgery journey - be sure to keep me posted! If there's any topics you'd be interested in hearing about, let me know!
I was like you, it’s nice & all until you are forced to do it or you will have mal nutrición or will have vitamins deficiency or you’re dehydrated. There’s so much more complications in the long run, so more research. To me not worth it, I’m living it.
@@nippyqueen6425 I have the sleeve done, experience dehydration hooked up to IV to get vitamins & hydration, I have more issues now mentally than before. It’s crazy how I wanted this & now I’m regretting it. Do you know how much stuff can or may happen I’ll tell you since nobody told me. We are more prone to to vitamins deficiency, malnutrition, acid reflux, gerd, hernia, constipation, low blood sugar, dumping syndrome, barrett's esophagus, narrowing of the stomach, & can get worse. Know this is not the easy way out this is a hard way out. Please please think about it twice before getting into this hell I’m living. I wake up everyday wanting to go back & stopping this surgery 😭😭😭
I agree. I am 46 years old now, I never was fat until 8 years ago when I suddenly started gaining weiht and it never stopped. I always were treated nicely, with respect and my opinion counted. People would talk to me in line, help when needed. But ever since I am fat it's like people don't respect you that much, they treat you like you are stupid and now no one would talk to me anywhere. The way you look gives people different opinions about you. It's sad, but true.
YES something you said here really resonated - the "fat = stupid" treatment is appalling! It is very sad, I think it's called inherent bias, which is towards obese people is pretty bad.
The thing I wish I had known, but I found out anyway, was that for me at least, losing weight is the easiest part, but in year 3 things get hard again. I am struggling really hard right now. I maintained my weight between 130-135 for 18 months through all kinds of various things but suddenly I'm 144 today and the only thing that changed is I've been working a lot more hours (but I'm still weighing all my food, counting calories, exercising, etc.). I don't know where it's coming from but the fear of dramatic regain never goes away. I own my own business which means that 20 hour workdays do happen but luckily only in the summer. I'm hoping that once work quiets down I'll be able to lose 10 lbs again but it's really scary because I haven't actively lost any weight since early 2022. VSG works really well to get the weight off but I honestly can eat plenty now, and with maintenance calories probably around 1600, it's very easy to regain. The thing is, even if I had known this, I wouldn't have done anything differently because there isn't anything to do. It's just part of life I guess. But maybe I'd have been less cocky when I was 130 lbs.
I have been told by a nutritionist that getting enough sleep is essential for weight loss because sleep deprivation unbalances your hormones and metabolism. Hope this helps
I think perhaps you are too restrictive on your calories, & your body has probably gone into storage mode. If your body isn’t getting enough fuel, it will pack as much as it can into storage as fat, but your body won’t release it as long as it feels it’s in danger. Working too many hours is counterproductive for managing stress & healthy weigh & I know you probably can’t change that, but calorie restriction is the icing on the cake. I don’t know what your diet is like, but I believe that if we focus more on whole food items, that is, single ingredient items, like fruit, veg, unprocessed meat, & move away from processed foods, a lot of mind/body stress & inflammation can be avoided. I lived a life of lethargy, pain & a creeping weight gain for over 40 years, & when I began slowly eliminating these inflammatory “foods”, & stopped drinking canned/bottled drinks, my weight went down, & for the first time in my life I had energy... I don’t restrict calories, I don’t even count calories, I just eat whole food & drink water for my hydration. I still indulge on occasion, I like a little bit of chocolate here & there, among a small handful of other treats, but I don’t crave the junk anymore. As a matter of fact, I find pre made “food” very unappetising now, even when everyone around me is enjoying themselves while eating it… Try a whole food approach if you can, not all at once, but just switch out slowly,,, I think it took me about 2 years to clean up my diet, but the whole time I just felt better & better… good luck 🍀✨
I had my sleeve almost 2 weeks ago. So far no real complications aside from the normal things that my doc warned me about. Appreciate you sharing your journey.
Yes they do.All my friends started talking bad about me and isolating me out of our school groups.Before when i was big they were so supportive and nice ,now they are almost like enemies.It is funny because they all think that weightloss surgery is a simple fix.They dont know how hard it is still to eat right and loose weight.And how expensive it is,with having to buy new clothes and stay on vitamins and constanly eat high protein.They see someone using a tool that they paid for and theu get upset.Makes NO SENSE!
It's sad that they did that to you, but then maybe they weren't really your friends anyway. Hopefully you find a sense of community elsewhere of supportive people who encourage you. WLS is definitely NOT easy. Thank you for sharing your experience and watching my video 💖💖💖
I feel like these were the people who kept you around because you were not intimidating to them. Its such a weird thing.. i have friends who are much smaller than me, and i have never felt threatened or felt hate towards them. I may have my own insecurities but I dont believe in dumping that on other people so its so weird how some people treat you with hostility after weight loss. Those people were not real friends to begin with and im sorry they did that to you.
I’m scheduled for the RNY next Wednesday the 27th! Getting nervous, but I’m ready. I really appreciate your videos. I have learned so much from you. I haven’t told that many people. Some friends are very opinionated and would keep trying to get me to cancel. I figure they can learn about it after the fact. My younger brother says he’s worried about me, that everyone he knows who’ve had WLS has had major problems. Then he mentions 2 people! One still can’t tolerate red meat (she’s only a couple of months out). The other one didn’t qualify for surgery in the US, not that overweight. so she paid privately for the surgery in Mexico. Now she’s “too skinny.” The psychologist from the surgeon’s practice is the one who told me that 80% of their patients get divorced! I highly doubt her statistics. My husband and I are doing great. We’re not worried.
The divorce rates are actually pretty close, it's something like 1.4% vs 1.45%, just the slightest increase. Interestingly enough, marriage rates increase for unmarried bariatric patients!
I am 4 days pre surgery now, so thanks for talking about different things. And I know I have been treated different, cause I have always had to fight for be taken serious when it comes to the health care. Just to first get my first diagnos about my thyroid til lately getting my diagnos for sleep apnea. One doctor thought I should be satisfied, cause I "started being old", when I complained I had hard time loosing weight. Myself are not scared of scars. But I will ask if I can get stitches instead. Thanks for the video and wish you a great Sunday. 😊
You're so welcome, and thank YOU for watching! I hope you're doing well after surgery! I know exactly what you mean, when it comes to healthcare. Great point to mention!
Great review. Thank you. I have gained a lot of weight in the past few years and I'm definitely treated differently than I was while smaller. Much fewer general compliments in life, I receive disregard and disrespect from men in my profession, and far less attention from men which has been a bit of a relief. I'm on a mission to not be a fast senior so I can be an active wife for my gracefully aging husband.
I appreciate the video - currently considering the SADI-S procedure. The 6 month thing is helpful. The rest of it I either kinda knew or doesn't seem like a deterrent. I will say that the info I got from the nutritionist just pointed me towards Bariatric vitamins that are pretty cheap on Amazon, so I 'm glad I don't have to deal with anyone pushing a special brand on me. One thing I thought was slightly skeptical about during my initial consultation was that the Doc was he brought up hormone and thyroid tests he was going to take a look at after the surgery to kinda "kick start" my life. He was literally the first doctor in the USA to perform a SADI-S procedure though, so I don't question his ability overall. I just probably need to look into that stuff more before I make a decision.
Ah, SADI-S is like a combo of VSG and gastric bypass, right? Bariatric surgery is a hormonal surgery so it makes sense that your surgeon would want to test them. Your hormones can be really wacky for a while after surgery. I wish you all the best in your bariatric journey and thank you for watching! 💖💖💖
I am starting the process to see if I can qualify for a surgery. Its exciting and scary tbh. I meet with the surgeon in august for a consultation, and in this july to start the 6month long nutrition classes. I meet with a psych next week. They have me doing ekg, a breathing test, sleep study, lots of things. Its nice to be able to know if things are okay. I am quite large. I have pcos, hoshimotos, and metabolic syndrome. I am 23 and have 0 energy constantly. And I can not work full time due to the swelling in my legs that happens rapidly when im not laying down. Ive tried several diets and exercise plans but i think this tool will be the thing to help me. Ive spent age 18 til now struggling with housing because I cant work enough to afford a place, but my dr office has a social worker and is helping with that :) This dr office i see has been the best Ive ever been to. Im excited for the journey.
Aw, you are so young. You are smart to begin this journey now. I wish I would have pursued it sooner. I've never had insurance that covered it so I had to wait until I was in a place where it made sense financially. I hope that everything works out for you. The mental work is the hardest, trust me on that. I am really going to keep you in my thoughts. Please keep me posted on your journey. 💖 Wish you all the best and thank you for sharing the start of your story with me!
@@LoseWeightSara thank you so much! I thought about documenting it on youtube... im a bit scared to do that though since im insecure with my looks and stuff to be honest.... but i think itd be nice to share with others and to help keep myself accountable and just be able to look back on the memories..... the mental task is the one im dreading the most. I definitely have an addiction to food, using food as a crutch and coping mechanism. Its become such a problem though. Im nearly 370 pounds...as a 5'4 23yr old person....as embarrassing as it is to admit that..... im so ready for the journey though. I dont want to live the rest of my life struggling this way still. I really appreciate you sharing your story and all of the videos you make! Its easing my worries and helps me feel more prepared for possible symptoms, outcomes, and realities.💗😊 Sorry for long comment haha.
@@Veggiedumplingz just in my own experience, RU-vid can be a great accountability tool. You might be surprised at how supportive the community is here. In all the years I've been uploading videos, I think I have maybe had 10 or less truly mean comments. Maybe I'm lucky, IDK - but I think it's been worth it. Something to think about! I'm so glad my videos could be helpful. I hope you have a smooth journey and that it all works out for you. I'll be over here cheering for you 💖💖💖
You missed out stalls. Mine is currently 8 months and I still have 30lbs to lose after 18 months. This leads me to believe that the surgery may have failed. It’s soooo depressing and a major issue after WLS😬
Promise your surgery did not fail. I stopped losing consistently at my 1-year mark. But, as I made some changes to my exercise routine, it is verrrry slowly coming off. Hang in there!
The only thing I would add would be that everyone's story is different after surgery. I read so many people's stories of how it was after surgery and my experience was totally different. I wish I would have learned before having surgery that I should have planned and scheduled IV fluids. I didn't, and was extremely sick and bed ridden for half my journey because I couldn't get fluids in and keep them down. Then again it is like everything, everyone story and path is different
I'm so glad you liked the video! I'll probably do a short video on the difference, it's something you can see and I have good examples on my own body to show lol
@@TheCommentSpy769 that's fair and true. I care what people think of me, despite trying my best not to. I think that comes from being bullied a lot when I was younger.
I’m considering getting the sleeve. I have endometriosis and pcos. It’s hard to lose weight and painful too. Anyone here have endo or pcos? I’m concerned my endo will grow on scar tissue.
Hey, thanks for watching! I'm sorry to hear you have to deal with endometriosis and pcos. 😢 While I dont have those conditions, I do hope someone else can chime in with their experience. I wish you all the best!
Hey girl...... I like your list and I agree with all your choices... BTW your #1 I've experienced So Much.... Now that I'm small I Do get treated different and it's become obvious to me Sad but true... Just like when I went blonde from brunette I get hit on tons more.... Odd how the world works huh?....You're doing Great on your journey ♥
Yes, the world is a crazy place and sometimes I get wrapped up in worrying how others perceive me. The way I'm treated now confirms my past suspicions. I don't like it but it is what it is! Thank you for watching, I hope you're doing well!
@@LoseWeightSara Thx.... Yes I too have used my experiences to try to improve myself and my own reactions... I had gastric bypass 21 years ago.....and I'm blessed to have done very well and still maintain my desired weight that I did reach.... I wish online support had been there for me back then... You're doing a fab job posting your honest journey.... ♥
@@southerngirl7425 my mom, who often comments here as well, also had RNY about 21 years ago! Back then I feel like no one talked about it, it was almost taboo. I'm so glad to hear it worked out well for you!
Wooohooo! That's exciting - just a few more days! It's quite the journey, but well worth it. Best of luck with your upcoming procedure and please do keep me posted. Can't wait to see your list - hopefully I covered a lot of it 😉😂☺️
That's a good thing, shows you've done your homework. I always say research as much as possible, the good the bad and the ugly - you need to be informed! Keep it up and let me know if you have questions, always happy to help if I can. 💖
Yep, when I decided to get it done, the majority of people either knew someone that had a major complication and/or knew someone that gained all of their weight back. 🙄🙄
@@ViolinaRacheva awww I understand that completely. I'm wishing you a smooth procedure and speedy recovery. Before you know it you'll be like me 2 years post-op and life is just normal! 💖💖💖
@LoseWeightSara I am having a Duodenal Switch. I've been wanting this surgery for a long time and due to my schizophrenia, it was hard to find a surgon who would agree to do the surgery. But God is taking care of me. I have a surgeon and my date is July 15th.
Sara, you are beautiful and women feel jealous or threatened...mostly jealous. Men are attracted to you. Simple as that. By the way, fantastic job on your journey! I wish you well!
But people may be treating you differently because you now look different and are more attractive. I remember a university lecturer telling me how different people treated her once she had lost a whole lot of weight, and she didnt use surgery to do it.
That's exactly what I'm saying - and you'd think it wouldn't be that way, but it is. It *shouldn't* be, but it is. I wasn't prepared for it! 💖 Thank you for watching!
Unfortunately, I agree. I turned a blind eye to it but seeing how much further I've gotten even in my career since I lost the weight, how I'm treated at work and out in public, there's no denying it. Thanks for watching
Hey there, I have an honest question. What I don’t understand is this: Would it not be the same to stop eating completely and get the same result? I’m not asking to be rude; I am actually considering doing the procedure, but I keep coming to the conclusion that the results are basically that you lose weight because you starve yourself, right? Or am I missing a bigger picture? 😬 I hope someone can answer. I am super confused by this.
I appreciate the way you phrased this. Reducing the size of your stomach is not the same as starving yourself. If you ate 600-800 calories with a regular sized stomach, you would feel miserable physically and mentally, but with a VSG/sleeve, you feel full on a small amount. Plus your body survives off the limited calorie intake AND your excess fat. In your first year post-op, you gradually can eat more and more food. It basically forces you to relearn how to eat properly aka not constantly over eat. The first year is absolutely critical to long-term success. It is not the same as starving yourself, which also would have a very negative mental impact.
I never used to believe it but now that I've experienced it... it does seem that way. If not jealous, then insecure (which I kinda understand). Thank you so much! 💜💜💜
13 days post op here. My co-worker and I have worked together 3 years- we have always been the "big girls" of the office. I told her I was considering surgery in October- she wasnt supportive but agreed it stinks being fat. Well, I went ahead with it and told her 2 weeks prior- since I'd be off for a week but to let her know I found coverage while I was gone. She's said about 5 words to me since this time. It hurts, but I'm sick of being the "other big one" and just sick of feeling exhausted. SW 282 CW 265 :)
12:07 the reason is because men now find you attractive and are therefore nicer to you, seeing you as a potential mate. Women on the other hand now see you as a threat aka further competition to them for the attention of men around them, whereas before they did not consider you competition because you were "fat and ugly" in their eyes.
Gosh, I would hope not - I am the lowest threat LOL I have never looked at other women that way, but maybe you're right. Who knows?! I just know it's a noticeable difference. Thanks for chiming in on this one and for watching!
@@LoseWeightSara ive seen it time and time again both in person and through stories from other people. im happy for your success and weightloss, im thinking of getting the proceedure myself and have been researching it. ive been fat since birth lol was 12lb at birth.
@@Stedman75 my only regret with surgery is that I didn't do it sooner. It has literally changed and saved my entire life, from my actual physical health to how I feel about myself to how I look at food (and stopping using food to cope). Please keep me posted if you decide to pursue it! Wishing you the absolute best 💖
Sara, Now that you have lost the weight you are a lovely attractive woman. Men treat you nicer because you are attractive and they would like to meet you. Women are not as nice to you because they are jealous of your good looks. I am sorry to say that is what people are like. My bariatric sleeve surgery is scheduled for July 11, 2024. I weigh 361 lbs. As a man, women are not interested in me. My goal is to lose 120 pounds and become an "attractive" man. Then I hope to meet a woman who will take the time to know the great person I am on the inside. Keep up the good work. (:-D
You are the second person to say this! Another gentleman mentioned the same thing. I guess I was a little naive and that I didn't think that was the case, because I've really only known being treated one way most of my life. Good luck with your upcoming procedure - you're so close! It is life changing, so I hope you reach all your dreams and meet someone special 💖
Hi! Great question! I did have increased hair loss for my first 6-7 months post-op, but I have a lot of fine hair so it wasn't really a "problem" for me so to speak. It's all grown back and nowadays my hair actually seems to grow faster - probably from all the protein I eat! I hope that helps!!
Thanks for all your great advise I had my surgery almost two years ago and did experience hair loss but like you it is doing much better Thank you for all your information
If it just happened one time I'd consider it a fluke. But I've been crossing that road for years and it's all the time now and only one thing has changed. It's crazy!
Why is the difficulty relevant? Is accepting a higher paying job with less physical labour the easy way out of getting out if debt? Irrelevant, last hoora fat shame
