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Do you find it hard to say no? Hey, I get it - as a recovering people pleaser I had a hard time learning how to say no to people and things at the expense of myself. As part of this minimalism journey to simplify life, I found that the more I say "no" the more time, space, and energy I have to set priorities for the things that matter most to me. When you set boundaries, you are protecting yourself: physically, mentally, and emotionally. Find out when to say no and learn my favorite 10 things to say no to so that you can create more space for a happier life.
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@AtoZenLife 2 года назад

Please hit that LIKE button and check out all 100 ideas here: atozenlife.com/things-to-say-no-to-for-a-happier-life/ 😊

@tehilash7292 2 года назад

Thank you for your video. I love listening to your simple applicable strait forward wisdom👌🌺

@christinestewart5951 2 года назад

The best thing that I said no to was staying an alcoholic. Sober since 2009 🙏

@AtoZenLife 2 года назад

I’m so proud of you! ✨❤️✨

@mtracy244 Год назад

Christine, good on you.🙂 👍

@nanettelamb1519 Год назад

So proud of you!

@deannajohnson3933 Год назад

Praise the Lord!

@kattrinaj6575 Год назад

🕊♥🆒

@Genie519 2 года назад

We said NO to buying a bigger house. We are a family of 4 and we felt the pressure to buy a bigger house with lots of land. So many people around us were buying huge homes. This meant we would have to work more and have more house to care for. We said No! We bought a smaller much more affordable house that fits us and our lifestyle. My can work less and cleaning a small house is so much easier ☺️. Thanks for this video!

@elizabetharaujo1323 2 года назад

A big house always seems appealing until you have to clean it lol

@ba6734 2 года назад

Yes! We did the same. Best decision ever. 💕

@beyoutifullynatural9451 2 года назад

I’m happy I read this. I have a family of 4 as well and there is so much pressure!

@stephaniewoods9167 2 года назад

We’re a two parent one child family. We live in a two bedroom apartment and constantly have to explain to relatives and friends why we don’t have plans to move. We are in a great area, good schools, no crime, so much green/wild space and two parks, great local businesses. There is definitely something to be said for being happy with ‘enough’. X

@patti1044 Год назад

Best choice ever for us 35 years ago - live under our means in our comfortable home. I did not want to cool, heat or clean a larger home. Allowed us to choose to save as well as spend money on what was truly important to our family. And today it has allowed us to retire and enjoy this phase in life.

@julieb2102 2 года назад

I have been learning to say "no'' to "friends'' who were toxic and unhappy with their lives. It was hard at first as I felt guilty. But I feel so much happier and free now 😃

@beyoutifullynatural9451 2 года назад

Same!

@janetstonerook4552 2 года назад

Amen to that! Guilt in these situations is not necessary. Where is it written that kind people are supposed to take on every miserable, nonfunctioning person in their lives as a project !

@sylviacrowley2331 2 года назад

Edit everything! : )

@julieb2102 2 года назад

@@janetstonerook4552 100% - I needed that reminder today 😊

@Trivico 2 года назад

One thing I have learned to say no to is keeping up with people that are really just acquaintances and that is okay! For quite a long time I felt I had to maintain connections with people that I don’t necessarily have much in common with. Now I’m much more careful with whom I spend time and I cultivate few but more meaningful relationships.

@Hillside-Hive 2 года назад

Best thing? A marriage... actually 2 marriages. I've grown and learned and am now in a healthy marriage that we are equals and actually kind to one another. Saying no to someone who treats you horribly is OK. Whew!! That felt good to put down in words.

@AtoZenLife 2 года назад

💯 agree with this!

@histeriasdeestavida4181 2 года назад

I don't think you are boring as a family. To me you have an amazing optimistic and cozy energy 😍

@kamidsjournee 2 года назад

I’m on leave from work due to a work related injury. My boss wanted me to come in to talk with my replacement (I’m also retiring) and I said, “not until the doctor releases me.” Dang it, if they couldn’t keep me safe, I’m not risking my future. Thank you for celebrating the “No!”

@christined2495 2 года назад

Going to a wedding out of state…. It was hard saying no, but we’re we happy when it came to that weekend and didn’t have to go to the airport and hotel and wedding only to come back home the day after

@AM-ln7op 2 года назад

I said no to Instagram when everyone else joined. I saw from a mile away it would just damage my mental health. Still don't have it, never miss it, and I feel like I dodged a bullet.

@magesalmanac6424 2 года назад

You were so right. I had to quit Instagram because the ad targeting is too accurate. It’s like the algorithm knows what you want to buy . Super weird and annoying, plus it’s a terrible company. Good on you! 😃

@MarielaMerino 2 года назад

I tried to be "everywhere" on social media and I ended up getting so overwhelmed by putting so much pressure on myself to do it all. I took a step back and said no, I don't have to do this. My mental health and sanity is way more important.

@AtoZenLife 2 года назад

I feel you on this, glad you are prioritizing your mental health ❤️ 🧠

@KnitsFromTheVoid 2 года назад

My most important "No" was deciding against making the "traditional family" just because everyone else expects it (you know, getting married, moving in together by default, have 2.5 kids, move to the suburbs etc.).

@Lizzy43645 2 года назад

Saying no to caring about social media has been great!

@adelesnow2871 2 года назад

Best thing I have said "no" to in my life was The Annual Christmas/Holiday Cards. It became too much work to get the "perfect" picture and too stressful overall. No joy and no fun. Stopped sending Christmas/Holiday Cards out a few years ago and I don't miss it! ❤

@AtoZenLife 2 года назад

Definitely, if the stress outweighs the fun, time to say goodbye 👋☺️

@juliesnell2570 2 года назад

Same. Best decision ever!

@katgallardo2797 2 года назад

And to be honest, when I receive the family Christmas cards from family or friends I throw them away. I rather receive a pic by phone that wasn’t posed for. I like more natural relaxed photos.

@jainabaromano9059 2 года назад

Saying a big NO to over booking your weekend, just because is the weekend doesn't mean I have to go to 100 lunches dinners ecc Or bringing my daughter around for endless playdates. The weekend is also to take a rest 😊

@kelss1 2 года назад

I agree!! I always say, I only get 52 Saturdays and Sundays a year, I want to use some of them to relax!

@Michelle-by9fp 2 года назад

I said no to being power of attorney of my incarcerated little brother after 2.5 long years. Now I have more time and mental energy to take care of my kids and put into my marriage. That 2.5 year event almost took me down but I thank God for the strength to get through it.

@CindDJo 2 года назад

The thing I like most about your channel is that you talk about more than just getting rid of your stuff. You go so much deeper and that is helpful to fill in all the minimalist gaps that others don't address. I appreciate you, Marissa and I look forward to seeing what's next on your channel. Thank you for helping me maximize my joy while minimizing the things (material and otherwise) that I have to manage. What a wonderful life!!

@wonderingsanna 2 года назад

Hi! I think the best things I have said NO to and that I no longer have in my life is toxic friendships where I used to let people take advantage of me being helpful and carring. I let them steal my time, my energy and used me without being one bit bothered about anything regarding me. Not anymore... I have learned to say No and to stand up for myself and don´t let other peoples believes, ideas and wants to be "unquestionable right" or "the only truth" , to take time, being in the center and overshadow me and my life. What is their "thig" might not apply at all to me or my live. I also try to say No to negative thought but that one is hard some days, easier others and a lifelong work in progress.

@mjadler2096 2 года назад

Mum guilt is real! My son just turned 3 and I outsourced the cake (which was awesome) to a local baker. I hate baking and it's totally ok to hate baking! It's taken me a while to accept that I won't be that mum who makes brownies for bake sale, or gets matching Christmas pyjamas but that's ok. My strengths lie elsewhere and I don't need to be an insta-perfect mum to be the perfect mum to my son

@janetstonerook4552 2 года назад

NO to all the mail and phone solicitations from charities/scams. I support three local charities so I know where my donations go. I don't pick up the phone if I don't recognize the caller I.D. and I toss all the mail solicitations into a rubbish bin on my back porch. No amount of "free" thank you gifts...totes, notepads, greeting cards, address labels and pens will change my mind!

@scoutmockingbird3833 Год назад

Absolutely :)

@becci8099 2 года назад

I also said NO to “being exciting”. I’ve even started to embrace me being “boring”. Someone things knitting or cooking jam is not an interesting hobby? Well you don’t need to participate. On that note: I love crafts, but I’ve started to say NO to projects I won’t be able to incorporate in my life. I only knit pieces I will wear after. I don’t need the guilt after enjoying the crafting to hold onto an item I have no use for. I am over that! Also Marissa I would like to thank you very much! I discovered your channel a year ago and have been able to let go of so much clutter since then. It’s been liberating!

@AtoZenLife 2 года назад

Thanks so much, Becci and I love everything you are saying. 🤗 Useable or edible crafts are the best. ❤️

@lnwmelon 2 года назад

I’ve learned that when I’m out in public and a stranger tries to hand me something like a flyer or a coupon or an advertisement of some kind, to keep my hands down, smile, and say, “No, thank you.”

@francoiselafferty-hancock5112 5 месяцев назад

I love showing life with all the boring bits and no highlight reels. A couple of years ago I did a whole month of boring FB updates (eg 'hotdog legs' looking out over my messy backyard, an unboxing video of me opening my contact lens order, doing the laundry etc). It was fun and although nice to celebrate people's highlights it's also good to remember that lots of life is just everyday things, but there can also be joy in those things too.

@MissessAriane 2 года назад

One of the few creators I'm looking forward to every week ;)

@AtoZenLife 2 года назад

Thank you - and I love your profile picture here! ❤️

@26laf 2 года назад

I said no to a stressful career practicing law, after more than 20 years. I'm now working as a librarian. Also to watching a lot of news, I consume very little news.

@cindynorris5983 2 года назад

Awesome video! I am learning to say no to clutter also, namely clothes! Shopping my own closet and letting go of what doesn’t work. Also as a 52 year old diagnosis with type I diabetes recently, I say no to all restaurant invites (or dinner invites) when it doesn’t include healthy low carb options. I don’t want anyone to change their plans. I am just done with people pleasing.

@chris-ci7ch 2 года назад

type 2 diabetic and I dislike eating out because I am paying a lot of money to ruin my health

@heavingbehemoth789 2 года назад

I love saying “no” to events where I need to buy a whole new outfit. If I have to go, I borrow something from a friend!

@AtoZenLife 2 года назад

What a great idea 💡!

@becci8099 2 года назад

I also started saying NO to single use clothing. I also decide should I ever get married I will find a beautiful dress I can wear after for a nice summer outing.

@magesalmanac6424 2 года назад

100% ! Before Covid my husband had a work holiday every year and I felt pressured to buy a new dress for every event. Now I will either rent something or just rotate between 2 dresses

@quoththeraven13 2 года назад

I had to say no to people pleasing for sure.

@genealotech 2 года назад

I’m thankful to saying no to spending all day on social media. And saying yes to life.

@debrapufahl-hughes2656 Год назад

I will be withdrawing from the training position at my company when I return next week. This decision has been made with counseling and a lot of time.

@eileencarroll6418 2 года назад

Thank you. As a viewer, I get frustrated when a creator I like puts the same images and messages on multiple platforms. I usually unsubscribe to redundant posts. And now, I only check Facebook once every two weeks, and only to look for photos of family and international friends. I am almost done with Instagram where I am aware of my Fear Of Missing Out. I am limiting my subscriptions to recipes and inspiration not posting on other platforms. I have defaulted to RU-vid for News on demand, household inspiration, how-to art and music, , health information/food safety/food sourcing/healthy recipes, free movies and books on tape, music and comedy performance, limited live group lessons/discussions. I am also aware that during early covid isolation days I over-indulged in online connections and now I am going to the other extreme and I am intentionally minimizing all but the most valuable. So, YES, I find your content valuable. Well done! Please keep it coming. I love your quality over quantity. I love hearing your thought process as it helps me grow my own thinking.

@AtoZenLife 2 года назад

As someone who is a creator and a mom who doesn’t have a lot of extra time, I can understand why they share the same stuff to multiple platforms. It does save time and not everyone is following you EVERYWHERE (as I know because I have 125,000 followers on RU-vid and only 6000 on Instagram lol.) but the number one thing is for YOU to keep the social media that you enjoy, and forget the rest! ✨🙌✨

@corner23 2 года назад

Such a good list! Definitely agree with the over the top recipes. My favorite no is to being drawn into other people's drama that I don't need to take on.

@islafitch8729 2 года назад

Getting rid of the fantasy image of myself is something I'm working on. Your videos are wonderful. Thank you!

@Jessica_Jones Год назад

Life-changing "no" for me was shutting off the voice in my head that had me worrying what other people thought of my actions, or lack thereof (sometimes pressuring me into saying yes to actual commitments). In some cases I knew that I was the only person who thought less of me for not doing something; in others, there's a likelihood certain people do judge me for my choices but I decided they can get over it because I won't be controlled by their expectations! (I sincerely value acting out of love and compassion, but have come to find that others are ungrateful and still judge you even when you are kind!) This has been so freeing AND, hey, nothing bad has ever happened -- go figure!

@Iquey 2 года назад

"I tried to go in TikTok once and I felt like I was losing my mind" YUP. *Sounds about right.*

@jennypitt-clark1301 Год назад

High school reunions! Everyone goes to engage in one-uppersonship. I was not interested and resisted the pressure to conform. I have taken the magic of "No thank you" to other areas of my life. I just discovered your channel and I am so grateful for your focus and messages.

@lisabeaudet8589 Год назад

Best thing I've ever said "No!" to is to go live in my parents' house to care for them, or have them come live in my house with me. Though either seems on the surface like it MIGHT simplify my life and save a lot of gas money, I know I need my own space and time to recharge, and I never get good sleep unless I'm in my own bed, undisturbed. If I am stressed out all the time, I would be no good to my parents, anyone else in my life, or even myself, and being around my parents for extended periods of time without a significant break really pushes my buttons. I already know that I don't do well unless I have at least 2 days off between the ones I already spend with them. So, "NO!"

@dawnfrancis1987 2 года назад

My No is to most forms of media and News😊 Even watching RU-vid to much. Now I watch maybe 2 times a week. It steals time and energy from you. I love the color of your dress 💜 I'm interested in your Stress eating addiction. Looking to learn from it to help myself as well. Keep being the Inspiring person that you are!!!

@AtoZenLife 2 года назад

I have a video on that coming this week! Thanks for sharing all of your thoughts Dawn!

@LeMErin21 2 года назад

My favorite thing to say ‘no’ to (and there are a lot of them 😆) is aunt guilt. My sister likes to use my niece to pressure me into doing things that I don’t want to do. She doesn’t do it as much now that my niece is a teenager, but it still happens. I love my niece, and she is a high priority in my life, but I am still my highest priority. I don’t have children for a reason. And I have a closer relationship with my niece than probably a lot of aunts do because her father is not in her life. However, when I need to use my time and money on me, that is what I am going to do. The moments that I say ‘no’ to my sister are few, and I think that’s what is so frustrating. Instead of being appreciative of all the things I do, she will harp on the few times I’ve said no. I have to be careful not to build up resentment toward my sister for seeming ungrateful.

@LifeWithAllOfUs 2 года назад

No is my favorite word and I try to teach this to everyone I can

@anjakeller6612 2 года назад

My best no was feeling responsible for other people's emotions. That was very freeing! No I am just trying to be kind and loving and if someone wants to be mean or deliberately misinterprets my actions in the most ungenerous way, I let it go. I don't take on the blame anymore just because someone else isn't willing to do shadow work.

@Zephyrdoll 2 года назад

Oh my goodness, this!!💯

@jennifercastillo4447 2 года назад

Okay so Im going way back, but about 10 years ago when I was around 28, some of my friends were still going out on the weekends to clubs or bars. I would always come up with some excuse why I couldn’t go when really I just didn’t want to go. Eventually I just started telling them the truth and I would just say “no I don’t want to go”. Some would understand and one girl got annoyed and didn’t understand but I didn’t care and from then on learning to say no to things I didn’t want to do came easier and easier.

@adalgisadasilva8930 2 года назад

I enjoyed your video as always. I struggle with buying plants. I have to start to say no to that.

@AtoZenLife 2 года назад

❤️ 🌱

@briannagarven5260 2 года назад

I agree with you about saying no to things, that way you don't overwhelm yourself! But I did find a couple pieces of furniture that were left out for the trash and they were exactly what I was looking for and probably saved me over $100

@AtoZenLife 2 года назад

If it’s exactly what you are looking for then that’s serendipity! ✨🙌✨

@natashatheresa 2 года назад

Said "NO" to living life based on everyone else's expectations

@AtoZenLife 2 года назад

Love this (and also HOW ARE YOU?) 😘

@natashatheresa 2 года назад

@@AtoZenLife I’m alive hAhahaha! I hope you are well!!

@marshadavis8670 Год назад

I love to look for the easiet cooking recipies I can find and then see if I can simplify them even more. One fav for me, and a total game changer, is a "pour in pan pizza crust".

@nancyc7629 2 года назад

I’ve said no to certain “friendships”. One sided and draining.

@MrsBullfinch 2 года назад

I am saying NO to clutter, Facebook I got rid off some time ago so No to that too, it was such a time waster, I am saying no to the latest fashion and to wear simple clothes that look good no matter what the fashion is. That way I can have less. I don'tike shopping for clothes so that's an easy one. I am a the start of my minimalist journey. I have decluttered a lot and find it has helped me mentally. Still a long way to go and have my husband and children to convince to do the same. They are hoarders. Keep up the good work. You are such an encouragement to us all.

@Ripplesinthewaters 2 года назад

I have said no to keeping a lot of kitchen tools that I never use “just because”. I got rid of so many coffee mugs, old plates, mixers and blenders that i didn’t need. I can see where I can declutter more items, but my husband wants to keep them, so they stay for a while longer.

@AtoZenLife 2 года назад

Is hubby willing to try time out/quarantine box? And set a “use by or discard date”? Cheers to the progress, regardless!

@lindaharrison3635 2 года назад

We are 2 people. We don't need more than one soup ladle. I gave one away. Hubby bought one, not knowing I had decluttered, "likes" having 2. 🤷‍♀️😅

@JamieM470 2 года назад

I have learned to say no to a lot of things, & I'm so proud of myself for it. "Can I borrow your money/your car/your time & energy/your lawnmower/your antibiotic meds/your garage/your spare bedroom/your lunch at work/your jewelry/your book? NO. Yay me! Took me many, many years to learn to say no to being constantly used by ungrateful people who feel entitled to my life. By the way, I think your squeaky 100-year-old floors are gorgeous!

@joyindrelie6715 2 года назад

Yikes, nobody should be asking to borrow most of these kinds of things! Good for you saying no to letting people borrow your meds, lunch, jewelry, etc!

@cobieandp5706 2 года назад

Know that one or those ones. Yep like you i too have started to say NO. Im not the bank and my spare room is not your friends free hotel room. No no no . Toxic people now blocked on my phone. Life feels like its..almost mine. ( like many..when i was in need..just for someone to talk too..no one was there) i realised ..im on my own with tones of ..other peoples baggage.

@lindamcdermott9980 Год назад

❤I have had a great deal of trouble saying NO….. but after health issues, etc. I realize how important it is. I chose which things were gratifying and would continue, and which things to stop. The top few are: being at the beck and call of a neighbor who always needs to be driven to wherever she wants to go, this would take full days, and sometimes several times a week. Another thing is sewing, I have sewed all my life, making charity quilts, masks, hygiene items to be sent to missions, I was sewing 15 hrs a day….STOP! I put the machine away, gave away ALL my fabric, have an enjoyably neat space. I also used to preform in a musical group but gave that up as well. For me life is so much calmer and enjoyable. I still have to be careful not to let myself get drawn into things “NO” is not always easy…..

@TheMcChelle 2 года назад

"Everyone wants to turn their life into some kind of huge highlight reel." That cracked me up! And it's true. Also, that color (garnet?) looks great on you.

@AdrienneSantiago-xf9tw Год назад

My best "No" was the boundary I set between myself and my mother, and thus the rest of the family that she basically controls. I have been much healthier, if a bit lonelier. I have so much more mental energy and feel protected against most of the toxicity. (I say "most" because I still hear about her behaviour through my dad. I think me being on the outside of it all means I'm the only one he can talk to. Another boundary I need to set? Maybe.)

@jmsl_910 9 месяцев назад

i say no to being convinced to go out when i dont want to. i mostly am a homebody & really enjoy being home, reading, crafting etc--introverted alone time

@vivio2852 2 года назад

Saying no the volunteering activities that weren’t exactly what I want to do in the world. I was doing a whole bunch of things that were only partially what I wanted to do. Everything is for a good cause and everything is a benefit but that doesn’t mean I have to do it.

@fridasmit5124 2 года назад

I said no to a very unhealthy work places. Unhealthy in how you where treated. I got fired when i got pregnant from our oldest. I could come back when she was 3 month. But the talk we had before i got back turns oud they want me to put work before my child. Walk out and never looks back!

@mirygalas6508 2 года назад

I used to play with kitchen utensils when I was a kid, including a small kitchen saw. Each utensil was a distinct character, and I never hurt myself with the saw because it was one of the dangerous character, and in my mind, I knew I had to be careful around this character. It was very fun, and when I was done, I would go back to the kitchen, and return the utensils to my mum, who was intuitive enough to know I wasn't going to hurt myself (I'm sure she kept an eye on me while playing).

@MarleeMayI 2 года назад

I love so many things about you, but looking at your wardrobe really freed me from chasing an " aesthetically pleasing" wardrobe, and learn to appreciate items that weren't Pinterest-worthy in my clothes, but I love anyhow.

@AtoZenLife 2 года назад

Yay for that, Marlee!

@MarleeMayI 2 года назад

@@AtoZenLife I should note that I think you look amazing in all your clothes! Didn't mean to come off as knocking your clothes. You just have such a variety that isn't the normal minimalist aesthetic other minimalist seem to limit themselves to. ❤

@nelesonntagodo 2 года назад

I walked passed you today on the Bismarckstraße. 👋🏼✋🏼👋🏼✋🏼😊 Did not want to bother you though. Was lovely to see you with your family. I smiled at you though and you and your husband smiled back.

@AtoZenLife 2 года назад

Do you have darker brown hair than the one in your pic here? It’s nice to have some good weather, isn’t it? 😆 Take care!

@nelesonntagodo 2 года назад

@@AtoZenLife i had blond hair and was walking with my teenage son who likes to dress in a suit nowadays.

@nelesonntagodo 2 года назад

So my son was suited up.

@AtoZenLife 2 года назад

@@nelesonntagodo I missed you then, but next time feel free to say “hi”. 🤗

@nelesonntagodo 2 года назад

@@AtoZenLife will do!!! 🤩

@Es24688 Год назад

I’ve noticed that people seem more impressed by women who do things by hand or using old-fashioned ways and who keep pleasant, welcoming, cozy homes than they are with crazy workouts or constantly traveling or going out searching for “fun”

@user-ti8bw1ri5h 2 года назад

Dear Marissa, I am also a SLP, and I work mainly with autostic children. It is a very satisfying job, but it can be very guilt-inducing at times. And some patients do know how to guilt trip you.... This week I've set firm limits twice thanks to you, and I feel much better. Have a nice day :)

@lindascull6327 2 года назад

Love all your videos honey!! Tell Mr Zen that I loved his FIRST blog post!!MORE please!! The best thing I said NO to was to being scapegoated by myself and others!! Scapegoating happens very insidiously and is very very sneaky comes in many many disguises!!! To me, Scapegoating and Codependency are cousins... XXOO

@AtoZenLife 2 года назад

Thanks Linda, I will let him know. 😆👍 Good points on scapegoating as well! 🐐

@nancybennani2925 2 года назад

@shellygiles5 2 года назад

I said NO and left Facebook over 3 years ago....I did not realize how addicted I had become to it until 4 days after I left. I then discovered how much stress it had created within me. I have stayed connected via texting and good Ole fashioned phone calls with my true friends 🙂

@DavidDavisDH Год назад

Minimalism is never boring, the state of boring is really a mindset. Minimalism is freedom, having too much is boring because you get too distracted on everything. Like Netflix has so many options, sometimes I don't watch anything. I use to get free stuff next to the trash when I lived in a apartment complex, but after awhile I would put back outside.

@KarenRivkaKaufmannTzuriel 9 месяцев назад

You speek to me sooo much. I feel i have known you for ever😘... you give me so much insperation and i thank you so much!! You bring something very good and important to the world. May God bless you and the world by you! תודה

@elizabethdobos6259 11 месяцев назад

You do a great job with shooting and editing video! Beautiful work!

@bluebird4750 2 года назад

I think all these social media places create so much adult peer pressure. When I was raising my family 30 years ago, there was very little of this.

@helenamizera3807 2 года назад

i think that people forget the influence tv and magazines had on us before the internet and social media. i think that we might be more discerning now.

@gingerphillips1194 2 года назад

I said no to workplace for a while to take full-time care of my mom who has dementia. 3 years ago, I left my full-time job, adopted my grandson and started a new season. I still have a son at home also who is 15, so I made a great decision I'll never regret. We live very frugal & old fashioned......best life! Really enjoying your videos❤

@kathleensaenz4717 2 года назад

What a devoted daughter, grandmother, and mother you are...your priorities are with your family! I admire you. Be blessed!

@gingerphillips1194 2 года назад

@@kathleensaenz4717 thanks for the sweet words ❤

@lisabeaudet8589 Год назад

Glad you can do it, Ginger. My mom also has dementia, and my dad isn't far behind, has physical limitations. I love them, but they need more help than I can give them. I said "No!" to both living with them and to having them come live with me. Not sure where that is ultimately going to end up, but I know my limitations. I'm glad you are happy doing it, but don't forget to re-evaluate the situation from time to time if you find it no longer works for you. Great book: "Cruising Through Caregiving: Reducing the Stress of Caring For Your Loved One" by Jennifer L. FitzPatrick. Peace & Prayers, Lisa :)

@kellythomas7555 2 года назад

I always appreciate your videos. Since starting a more minimal journey it has become so much easier to say no or to just not schedule things. But no has become easier in general. And is brings me so much peace!

@dhmill761 2 года назад

As always, great video! Love how you keep it real.

@chloeruegg2352 2 года назад

Marissa, I’m new to your channel and I’ve been loving your videos. Motivational and smart. Thank you.

@KNRK379 2 года назад

So great! Thanks for the reminders as we're getting up for summer & being out of school.

@terrydavis5223 2 года назад

Great video! Thank you for saying it's OK to have a capsule wardrobe with different vibrant colors or patterns! So tired of capsule wardrobes comprised of only beige or greys. I like variety and express myself with color. Not everyone wants to look like they're wearing the same monochrome wardrobe every day. Love your chanel and thanks for sharing your insites!🌞

@kennethbailey9853 2 года назад

You get so many of us. Thankyou

@tessat3483 2 года назад

Loved all of these.❤️❤️❤️❤️

@lebendige_maerchen 2 года назад

We said No to buy a bigger car, even everybody means that our car is boring and too small. But its not. We love it. 🥰

@reneecailloux2573 2 года назад

I love your channel and your "no nonsense" approach :-) Always the battle between the one we are and the one we would want to appear to other!

@beyoutifullynatural9451 2 года назад

I’ve learned to say “no” to participating in gossip and negative conversation!

@Glen.Danielsen Год назад

Marissa! Thanks so much for delightfully helpful thoughts! 💛🙏🏽

@MariamZawjatNomayri Год назад

Thanks for sharing

@yellowbirch2498 2 года назад

My children! I used to give in to my kids more and wasting money on stuff that would end up broken or disgarded and cluttering up the house. Now I put the item on a list on my phone and if, after a couple of weeks, they haven't mentioned it, I will delete it. If they still want it after that time, we look at whether they can afford it out of their own pocket money, whether it is something they can save up for, or whether it will be a birthday or Christmas present. We don't get it right 100% of the time - we still make the odd impulse purchase - but we do manage it a good 95% of the time! Hopefully it is teaching them some money management too ❤️

@AtoZenLife 2 года назад

💯 times this! Kids need to learn not every whim and impulse needs to be fulfilled. And make experiences #1.

@Hannahgrace901 Год назад

This is super helpful and inspiring. Thank you! 😊

@user-hu9sb7cv8y 2 года назад

Thank you very much Marisa! I like you videos very much. They bring calm and order, clarity energies! 🌏♥️🙏

@artfromalthea 2 года назад

I always look forward to your videos - it has been amazing watching your journey, and you provide so much inspiration for my life!

@AtoZenLife 2 года назад

So happy to have you here. 🙌

@lifemyway200 Год назад

Watched a few of your videos but hust subbed today. I love your content and your personality sealed it for me!

@AtoZenLife Год назад

Thanks so much and glad to have you here 🙏

@banasreeghosh4234 2 года назад

Loved the way you explained 🥰from India

@fluteDurga 2 года назад

thankyou soo soo much for inspiring 🙏🙏

@janetstonerook4552 2 года назад

I say NO to relationships that don't work for me. Not in a mean way....just quit trying too hard with those people. I'd imagine I've been so gentle about it that I bet some of those folk aren't even aware I've pulled away! 😋 Heck, I'd tell them if they'd ask!

@kaylkoni 2 года назад

work, 100% every time

@mrsdavidgomes 2 года назад

Great message!

@SuzyYen82 Год назад

I said NO to going out to eat or ordering takeout when I can cook a simple meal or eat leftovers at home when I was on a no spend month. And I really did it. New subbie here and I love your content. Thank you 😊

@fianorian 2 года назад

I have recently said 'No' to family photo albums. Honestly, I don't even know who half the people in my grandmother's albums are! I am now the senior generation in my family. If I don't know who those people are in the photo's, who will? I scanned ones I thought later generations would be interested in, and dropped them onto a memory card, which I gave as a Christmas present.

@lindsaykennedy9512 2 года назад

As you know I am still working on saying the word no. The one thing I have recently proud of myself for saying no to is saying no to travelling all the time for every holiday. It gets exhausting and trying to spend time splitting all the holidays with all sides of family with them all living 2hours away and having some in town. I say no...I will travel when I can and feel happy about traveling...it has made the holidays full of joy instead of stress.

@AtoZenLife 2 года назад

It’s important to have rest and time for relaxation and joy, too! Miss you. ❤️

@sonjafight5686 Год назад

Lol about the colour Spaghetti for toddlers 😂😂 I saw it on printerst this week and thank God you said your child played with it for 5 minutes!!!

@AtoZenLife Год назад

DON’T DO IT 🙃😫

@rh7968 2 года назад

Saying no to a home outside of my budget even tho my friends and bank said I could have that.

@AtoZenLife 2 года назад

Smart move 👍

@julieb2102 2 года назад

I had a similar experience!

@kutanra 9 месяцев назад

My hardest no has been receiving items from others. My mum doesn't have a hoarder house in the sense of walking through a jungle of stuff but every cupboard, drawer, shed etc is crammed with stuff and she has a large house and is also very good at finding things on fb marketplace. She equates giving items with showing love and it took a long time and a lot of talking things through to help her realising that me rejecting the chest of drawers that I didn't need was not me rejecting her shows of love. We're having a baby soon and I have said very gently but firmly to people "I do not want my house filled with plastic toys and knitted cardigans. If you see something you think we'll like that you want to get for us, check with me first, whether I want it or not I will appreciate you thinking of us"