And for the women watching who are not yet married - observe how your boyfriend/fiancé interacts with his family. If his family dynamic is filled with drama and he acts helpless and doesn’t put up boundaries - RUN. These people will be in your life and it’s better to be honest about a situation BEFORE you say “I do”, rather than to hope he’ll love you enough to change the situation afterwards.
Wonderful encouragement in how to navigate in-law challenges. Sometimes there's dysfunction, sometimes it's simply very different styles of communication. Your suggestions are so helpful!
Our husbands must stand grounds to speak on our behalf, show that he loves us and respect us so therefore stand up to the mother that he loves her but also loves us, as the Bible says when you married you become one flesh so how come a Christian mother in law is so selfish lol, thank God I don't have in laws just a selfish mother in law 😅
Thanks Vivian for the advice. We must be mindful about some advice that might make one isolated to be honest and resentful . If one is toxic, l advice to deal with it but should continue to accommodate them because no matter what they're his family and advice that both should be more tolerant. I wish my son would marry an easy going lady who will be able to integrate within my family. I also teach my daughter the same. I really can't deal with too much drama. In my house visitors are welcome any time and l have no issues with food or visitors. I actually enjoy having unannounced visitors. Especially in UK it's not easy to get visitors. I have no issues with food after all it's all goes to the toilet. If the in laws are toxic, l believe deal with it but one should continue to love unconditionally. Too many rules makes any relationship hard to enjoy. There should be respect and love for all. ❤️
What if the mother-in-law calls you a monkey and has done everything to end the relationship? He doesn't care about my boundaries. She's not going to call my babies monkeys. She is a racist and he won't create boundaries. He's a mother boy.
I remember when I was pregnant my mother in law was making fun of me because my baby was going to come out with kinky hair! Thank god I moved 4,000 miles away from that toxic environment.
My mother in was gold, may she rest in peace. My sister in law is a ruthless evil woman! I moved away from my motherland African to UK with my children. Left the man behind with his rotten sister. For 28 years none of them have seen the children or me. Not even a phone call
I'm not black myself, my kids, husband, and myself are all half mexican but I cut off my inlaws because they would say these kinds of things about other races (MIL is full mexican and talked horrible about people crossing the boarder from mexico) plus my FIL cussed at my daughter when she was 2 and called her an "idiot", my MIL shows blatant favoritism towards my step son because she only likes boys, when I first told them I was pregnant she kept calling my daughter a "He" and when she was born she said they didn't want her to be too girly, as if femininity is bad. She has no pictures of her on her walls but has plenty of her grandson.
I hv no patience for that nonsense, some in law is the wrathful fire, i will never put up with that, if my husband csnt do what the Bible says to do, which is stick with me above all others, then we hv nothing else to talk about
Could you make one with a toxic bio mum . Been critique fro putting up bounderies by them saying im rude . Im only protecting myself from what theyve done to me thoughout the years😢
This video is fantastic and yes relevant to elegance. Elegance is a state if mind and generally goes hand in hand with kindness and understanding and respect. Thank you for including this tricky subject. Kudos to you.
😊🤗💖🙏🏋🦁🦬🌼🌴🌻 Thank you ,,Woman Of Elegance,, yes , if people do not know Narcissism ?! Being the Scapegoat , ,,Blessings to be in Gods Presence,, God is More powerfull always , 😊🤗💖🙏🏋🦁🦬🌼🌴🌻
Wow this video was need also I haven't ever noticed how BEAUTIFUL you are for some reason until now I hope you don't mind my stating this(fact) but keep up the great videos t.y. much
Many problems are caused by the husbands, who have no boundaries and won’t say sorry to their spouses. My husband likes to tell our problems to his sister, they are like soulmates. I told him thousand times that don’t discuss our marriage issues with your sister but he just won’t listen.
Unfortunately my in-law’s were mean to me. I was 18 when we married. Husband adored his vicious mother, never stood up for me. In-laws are dead, sorry to say I didn’t shed one tear. Funny thing though, we’re still married, he now recognizes what they were like. We have a good Christian marriage. Will be 60 years soon, but I still carry scars.
I tried this for 6 years but now im on a year no contact, theyre extremely racist, theyve insulted my nose many times telling me i need a nose job because i have a "witch nose", they called me fat, they dont like women ir girls and show it blatantly with favoritism towards my stepson and not my daughter, it was constant drama between all of them and i just couldnt do it anymore
@@Keep-on-ok Hopefully you're rid of him. Glad to be rid of ALL my ex-in-laws. All two-faced. Never been happier being away from that toxic mess. Now, I have a new brother-in-law that's jealous his brother married me because my husband can't cater to him full time, buy all his stuff, etc. Thank God he lives in Germany and only visits the US once a year but stays with other family. Why would I get married to sit alone while my husband caters to his brother ? The answer I didn't. LOL The wife comes first. I wouldn't leave my husband alone to cater to someone else all the time. How long would he stay ? People have to put their spouse first and other family members that don't accept that is their problem.
My mother in law was the most evil, vicious female ever. I and many others went to her funeral to ensure she was actually dead. Even the Minister had a few choice things to say about her. A lesson of how to embrace my own role as a loving and accepting mother in law.
A good man shows favour and lends He will guide his affairs with discretion. Taken from the book of proverbs Affairs Business Transaction Operation Proceeding Activity Responsibility Interest Discretion Tactful Carefully Diplomatic Courteously Delicately Prudent Sensible Wise. JESUS loves you. Well Done
