10 Tips on Being a Happy INFJ 

Good tips. I would add balance alone time with socializing, get enough rest, exercise, and eat healthy diet. It seems INFJs' bodies can get stressed easily and take extra care. Also don't be so hard on your perfectionistic self.

In the last year or so I have started to keep a diary. I don't write everyday; just when I have strong emotions or I have a lot on my mind. I think it's one of the best things for my emotional health that I have ever started doing. It's often hard for me to tell others about my problems so I tend to bottle up my emotions which makes me feel terrible. I think the diary allows me to use Fe a bit without having to actually talk to someone (even though that's obviously important to do as well).

I always undervalue myself, my skills and my things....

I have just had a realisation about your videos, which may be interesting to you and others. You base your material around the individual, but many INFJ challenges come when interacting with others. This makes sense because you come more from the theory/academic side of this subject. Even when you talk about interacting with others, the emphasis is always more about the individual. Of course we can only control ourselves, but it would be really useful to get inside the heads of others as well. I hope I’ve got this right, I just thought I’d mention it. I could cry at times when I think of the predicament of a typical INFJ in life. Our desires are often pure and we get so misunderstood and struggle to deal with the crap of others. It’s so sad.

I've been watching your videos and they are good. Being an INFJ getting to know more about us. Thank you Ren

I enjoyed this video. I've finally learned to stop people pleasing and am much happier for it.

Some of these tips are so useful but I need to practice it first like absorbing criticism. I always get pissed off when someone is criticising my work or what I said because everything I do and say is well thought but I struggle to connect and make people understand what Im trying to say. I always think about it first before making action. Other than that, the tip about setting boundaries, I learned that in a hard way because my family is abusing my "people pleasing" personality and when they abuse me, I heard a like a snap inside of my mind and then burst all of my thoughts and anger and pushed them away from me. Some of my siblings are not talking to me anymore and I dont really care because I dont trust them anymore. Im really happy now that I learned about my personality. Im 22 years old and being an INFJ is really hard for me. People think Im crazy because they cant understand me. They always getting the wrong idea about me and dont understand what im trying to say. My intuition is a burden to me since I dont trust myself because of bullying from my siblings and classmates in school and when I dont trust it, I often regret it. I feel like I dont have a place in this extrovert world we live in and I hope I will find a suitable work for my personality.

Thanks for you healthy, knowledgable and kind advice

Ah I want to make notes but am quickly realizing that I want all of the words, not just notes. If I end up making myself a poster, I'll share :) great advice!

Definitely agreed with all of the tips you provided. It’s funny how you mention about not letting yourself get trampled over by others because I had a conversation with a friend about that very topic and I had similarly points to what you were saying. The conversation was about forgiving people and I was telling them that they should have a limit to the amount of times they forgive someone because forgiving someone too many times can result in it losing its meaning and them getting taken advantage of. They then brought up how their religion requires them to always forgive people and I wasn’t really sure how to respond because I myself am not as religious as them. I understand the principles of religion, but I find it to repressing sometimes I just told them that I was looking out for them and if they did not want to take my advice then I was fine with that. As for their type I think they are ISFJ, based on their actions and ideals. Great video!

Thank you so much for the video, Renaud. It was very useful.

These tips are so important to me. I write and I have plans to publish novels that weave in some insights and intuitions, but I am such a people pleaser that I get too scared to put my work out there because I know it may be met with criticism. Not taking these things personally is something I will try work on. Thank you for sharing~

Very encouraging. Thanks for you, Ren.

Great tips, Ren. Thank you.

Great tips. Thanks!

You are so right Ren.

So useful !

Awesome tips especially about not taking things personally....it's SOOOOOO hard. I'd love to know your thoughts on Hitler being an INFJ. It's just that I've heard other INFJs address this very controversial and quite popular topic and I'd love to hear your philosophical take on it.

Ahahahaha the aesthetics thing! Took me forever to realise that. Great video Ren :)

Nice tips

Love your videos! You’re so insightful in your analysis and responses. Could you possibly do a video on how to read INTJs pertaining to attraction and what they would do/say if they view you as more than just a friend? They’re like a brick wall! Keep up the good work:)- a fellow INFJ

Hm this is making me question my INFJness, I find it hard not to share my dreams and goals with others because I care so much about them.

Any titles in particular to recommend for developing our Ti?

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I've got absolutely no clue on wtf I have to offer to this broken species full of ppl grape n kill each other over bs

Hey:) This my first time watching your video And i was just wondering Is there some sort of platform or website where Infjs chat or share their stories if you know what i mean great subject btw Well explained Anyways thx for reading my comment and Have a nice day sir:)

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