HOW THE INFJ OVERCOMES ADDICTIVE & SELF-DESTRUCTIVE BEHAVIOR 

What is helping you overcome addictive unhealthy behavior as an INFJ?

I find that a sense of "peace" is exactly what I need and want and create and try to maintain in my life. It's not "boring", it's just the opposite. Having spent so many wasted years with drama queens and undisciplined jealous fools sabotaging all my efforts I find that all I want now is to be left alone so I can build my own Empire without any annoying set backs and interference from other people. Men in general desire PEACE in their lives, not constant engagement and excitement ~ that stuff is for those who haven't experienced life enough yet. I've seen just about every band I've ever wanted play live, I've been all over the US and a lot of Europe, I've helped win 2 Academy Awards, and divorced a Hollywood model. So I've been there done all that already. It's now MY turn to take things @ MY speed, develop my talents as I pursue my Empire building. Peace.

I am very self destructive. It is the reason why I shut myself off. I don't trust people generally and at 63 I have no idea how to turn things around.

Realizing and accepting boredom has been the greatest start to balance

I used to have big time problems with depression (not all INFJs do). However, in my pre Myers-Briggs days, I learned that teaching did wonders for my mood. And now, knowing about Myers Briggs in general and INFJ in particular, I definitely see the dynamics of extroverted feeling and extroverted sensing for focusing outward. My first experience of teaching on a professional level came with giving piano lessons and later in the classroom. Classroom teaching especially helps us practice Se because we're constantly having to make new plans, write them up, submit them and use them. I'm not saying that all INFJs should be teachers, but I do know that it helped me immensely.

My extroverted pleasures are dancing, singing, cooking, baking and of course, writing. I miss doing these ..

😜 10:20 😜 i'm ready for boredom 7+ months - no caffeine or alcohol or 'soft' drinks quietly door slammed the planet grey rocking before creating firewalling weird how solitude becomes healthier than connection

This one came right on time, thank you dear Wenzes ❤

I have been trying to create a peaceful environment for myself. I never knew about limerence until this year, in this particular situation; however, I have thought about 2 people who I thought were for me, because they have gaslighted me into thinking such, when it was the opposite. Now, I am all about ME and God; like I wanted years ago. It's all about balance for me. I will complete my schooling, continue to fix my finances, and stay consistent with my eating and exercising habits. I know myself: I am standoffish: keeps me outta negativity amd things that doesn't pertain to me, I ask 'why' questions and tell the truth. I will continuously choose me because I love and respect myself! Always have. I rebuke shame. People will not shame me because they choose to misunderstand me. Thank You, Wenzes! An INFJ southern woman.

Wenzes has us going deeper and deeper. I love it. ♥

This is quite good. Thank you for creating this video. Am learning a lot about myself by watching your videos and its making my life better. Thank you Wenzes ☺️

This is the best advice given on INFJ self development. Its about using those skills that we do not tap into as often. You can set an energy as well. There is a tone that you can set in the environment you go into. Also that boredom is actually like you mention the peace that is peak level. Overall you become a better person. Nice video as usual!

Big help, thanks

I can't understand :"What feels like bordem is actually inner peace" "Healthy infj default state is bordem" HOW!!? PLZ explain this point 😭

Thank you so much for your information and guidance

This came at the perfect moment, I just had another blowout with an abusive person who loves emotionally manipulating me and treating me like the emotional garbage can to self regulate and self soothe... I'm so tired of the limerence cycles and overlooking peoples' bad behavior 😔😔😤

Seeing utopia in my mind is actually a STRENGTH I have as an INFJ because even if it's something I can't fulfill in MY particular finite life time, I still use it as a beacon of hope when life gets tough which makes the possibility of the utopia coming to life as infinite. As soon as I LOOK for people to validate my utopia, that's when my emotional well-being is bad. I follow my dream of being a cartoon designer and world builder while being tapped into a mindset of infinite intelligence, not boredom. Everything is ON my way, not IN my way! Everything about the world is beautiful just as it is! The fact is, as an INTROVERT, right...as an INTROVERT I don't look for people to validate this perspective I have of reality. I know they will never understand it because most people think that pondering concepts and ideas philosophically is USELESS because it's assumed to have no practical benefits in the real world when actually it gives a big picture perspective of how nature works.

damn. this video hit more than any others lol

Very true, creating a new path starts off confusing and chaotic until it starts to turn into your new safe place cause even if u Arn’t where u want to be yet, you know you are moving away from illusions / your addictions and that’s all you need to know to know you are going the right way in balancing out your inner functions !

Yes! Isolation is my addiction, but reality is that when I extend myself to social interactions, I feel more emotionally balanced.

Always linked challenging people to growth. But I realized it is extremely selfish and painful, it is yeilding, but you never get to celebrate your successes.

This is *SO* rich! TYSVM!! INFJ mal-adaptive practices are much different than many others. I love this breakdown sosoSO much!

What was constantly going through my head was how grateful I am to find this channel as it motivatedme to get out there and take the action, get out of my fantasy world and start living it. Thank you for that Wenzes.

Wow, thank you so much for your insight and wisdom on being an INFJ. I'm 61 years old and I only found out a few years ago how important it is to understand our personality. I have a lot of unresolved trauma from my childhood, and I spent half of my life living in a fantasy world, pretending to be somebody else.

I am highly obsessed with this video! This is what I go through as an infj in yearss 😊. I started my personal growth journey since 2022, I've seen the incremental progress I made in the long-term 🖤

So true...I'm actually doing this advice now before I found this video. This is just confirming to me that I'm not changing who I was but evaluating what i need to heal insanity and the introverted addiction. Sample, I was ghosted but still fantasizing about the person. I decided to explore once more continuously while the boundaries are still there. Happiness is within but we have needs and we need to strategize to get what we really want.

Being addicted to Netflix, anime and chocolate probably 😅

Boredom is so hard think to do, my mind is scared of it.😅

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I’m in the middle of struggling with how to use the extrovert function.

this video is AMAZING . how can i learn about the eye of janus, sounds revelatory?

I'm a bit thrown by the terminology. Can someone tell me what is the overarching lesson in the video please?

Good advice.

I am scrolling way too much 😂

Jesus Christ of Nazareth.

My God how beautiful she is

Thank you

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Thanks! Jesus.

Please do some videos for intj women also..❤

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You're therapying me and my soul deeply appreciates it. ❤️‍🔥🪷

I really appreciate your efforts and love through this video ❤ your words explain a lot and help because you dive into the meaning of things 🤍