Pregnancy scenes in films and tv feel like they're written and directed by the old men who used to stay in the waiting rooms smoking a cigar while their partners gave birth 😅
My third was born via the fetal ejection reflex, it was wild. Went from 6-10 cm in less than 10 minutes and then he came right out onto the hospital bed! I’m so thankful for the amazing nurses in the room because there was no doctor there yet! The most intense moment of my life for sure.
Thank you for mentioning the FER! It happened to me during my unmedicated water birth! I desired a physiological birth experience, which my midwife very much supported and encouraged, and together we made sure the environment around me was calm and peaceful and as relaxing as possible. My midwife was monitoring me and obviously making sure my baby and I were safe, but she trusted my body and took a relatively hands-off approach. When I asked how I would know when it was time to push (she only did 2 cervical checks in my 16 hr labor as she didn’t feel that frequent exams were necessary or particularly informative during my healthy, uncomplicated labor) she said “oh you’ll know! your body will tell you!” And sure enough my daughter was spontaneously born without a single voluntary push from me! And what’s even cooler was that once I felt the baby start coming I instinctively flipped over in the pool so I was leaning forward over the side, kind of in a hands & knees type position. Nobody told me to, I just did it. Without even consciously thinking about it. I expressed to my midwife afterwards how crazy I thought it was that my body just knew what to do, and she smiled and nodded and said “and so, along with your baby, a whole new level of trust and belief in your own self is born” 😊❤️ Such an amazingly empowering experience!! Aaaaaand then later when I mentioned that I experienced the FER to my husband’s cousin who is a l&d nurse, she cringed and said that the physicians at her hospital fear the fetal ejection reflex and don’t like it to happen 🤷🏼♀️ She then she said my midwife was being irresponsible and should have assumed more control of the situation because “when a woman is left to birth without assistance that’s when bad things happen” 🙄 I had a highly trained and skilled medical professional RIGHT beside me monitoring the whole thing! I was NOT birthing “unassisted”. No, she didn’t have her hands in my vagina the entire time, but everyone in the room simply trusted my body and allowed it to work the way it was meant to! I don’t have a single thing against doctors and nurses, and in fact have SO much love and respect for them. But this whole “a woman’s body is not to be trusted, birth is dangerous, medical interventions for all!” thing makes me so upset and discouraged 😞
Oh and my husband’s cousin was NOT supportive of the fact I gave birth in water, and was also appalled that my midwife “let me” deliver in a flipped over position like that. Her hospital policy is (or was, at least, 2.5 years ago) that women are “allowed” to push in different positions until crowning and then are made to lay on their backs to fully deliver.
I think your birth sounds beautiful and more importantly, profound and perfect for YOU! Doctors and midwives catch babies. Mothers give birth to them. I’m sorry she tried to make you feel bad about your birth. I love that your midwife educated, supported and empowered you. That’s what birth is all about. The birth of two new people. 💗
I totally experienced the fetal injection reflex (I didn't know it had a name, thought it was just a regular part of labor). My body just pushed the baby all the way to crowning without me doing ANYTHING! I was told by the nurses and doula not to push, cause we were waiting for the doctor to rush in, and so I mentally fought the urge and would hold my breath to keep things tense so as to not let the urge be fully effective, but now I wish I had just stayed relaxed and had my husband catch the baby. I had a grumpy doctor come in and she gloved-up, and told me to put my knees up to my chin and push the baby out with my first push! Against my better judgement, I listened to her, and got a 3rd degree tear😭 The recovery was really difficult 😢
Just had my 1st baby 6 weeks ago. Went into spontaneous labor at 37w2d. Progressed super quickly... my baby was almost born en caul!! Water didn’t break till she was crowning. My doc was amazing and let baby naturally come down once I hit 10cm. (I was complete for a couple hours before pushing). Super cool to let the fetal ejection reflex do its thing! So glad I had an amazing doctor who let my body do things naturally instead of heavy medical intervention 💗 I wish more doctors let women listen to their bodies!!
Yess!!! That is so interesting!!! I’d love to learn about that. When I’m at the doctors/hospital I’m basically scared to move without a doctor saying so 😂. But it would be so cool to know that you you have a right to control certain things!!
Lizz Doe joke if you take the birth preparation class from Evidence Based Birth it would help you a ton! Honestly just reading their information will help too 😊👍🏼
When my mum was pregnant with me, she went past 43 weeks!! Oddly enough, her entire labour process was less than 1hr long though 🤔 Apparently she was screaming at the nurse for pain relief, the nurse took one look at her pelvis and said that there was no time for that, she needed to push!! My dad went grey and almost passed out 😂
That’s so sweet you brought oxytocin increasing exercises into this video! In a RU-vid appropriate way. Birth and sex both make oxytocin, uncomfortable fact because nobody likes thinking about babies being there for sex. However they can’t be separated, the birth is kind of the end of the sex act you had 40 weeks before. I cried watching this. Covid is kind of getting in the way of my “oxytocin increasing exercises” and TTC
I liked this point too. I’ve never understood people not feeling that birth is sexual. It started with sex and it’s the logical end, using a lot of the same hormones.
I'm a 1 in 10 😲 I thought it was normal for the water to break first! Mine broke the day before I had my daughter and the hospital tests were faulty 4 times in a row so they told me I was peeing myself 🙃 i said "yeah okay I dont remember drinking a gallon of water today but whatever you say" 🤣
I’m going to need you to be my labor/delivery nurse come July/August! 😂😂 seriously though.. you have such a positive, peaceful, and kind spirit! I can only hope the nurses in my area watch and learn from you!
Thank you for mentioning the effect of vomiting. I hate vomiting, and it's one of my fears related to future labour. Your words made me look at this discomfortable situation at another angle.
For shivers you can also do a flat press with your thumb between the eyebrows. A couple of deep breaths by the mama, and the shivers are greatly reduced. I often teach this trick to support persons and mom will ask them to do it as they like for comfort. It's also great when I need to get an accurate blood pressure.
I love that you remind us that we will look a bit round after birth. This has been something I have been trying to wrap my mind around as I worked for years to have the body I now have. I try to remind myself that it is such a beautiful thing to have a baby bump after birth and it is a process but I love being reminded by great women. Thank you 💞
I’d love to see a video about the differences in first and second delivery! I knew I’m having more growing pains this time around but I didn’t think about that I would probably cramp more during breastfeeding! Super good to know before!!
Just gave birth last week and have experienced fetal ejections with all 3 of my pregnancies. This last one the nurse told me to stop pushing 😅 I apologized and told her it wasn't me. She then literally caught my baby. Dr never even made it to the room.
Just before I discovered your channel I decided I was going to go to college to get my RN ADN and BSN. Watching your videos makes me so excited. You inspire me so much
Thank you! I didn’t know there was a term “fetal ejection”. I always just called it a primal urge. My first was an emergency C-section and I never experienced labor but with my two VBACs when the urge to push hit it was totally primal. Both times I pushed twice and the baby was out. Both times the nurses didn’t believe I was in transition until they checked and the head was crowning and both time the doctor barley sat down before the baby was out. Thank you for teaching me several things in this video.I’ve been a Doula for about 18 years and still have so much to learn.
Nurse Zabe, it truly is an honor and privilege to be there when a miracle happens and a new live enters the world. Sometimes I can believe I’m being allowed to be there for such an intimate moment. I’m awed and humbled.
I'm due with my third baby in 4 days and your videos have helped me to be much more informed and less anxious! You can tell that you are passionate about what you do and you're fun to watch!
You remind me so much of my CNM! Open to listening to mamas and some of the more natural techniques. I love that you are open to so many different things as a nurse!
I almost threw up my 2nd baby out lol. The doctor wasn't in there and the nurse asked me to try not to push yet and I threw up and he started to come out lol.
I love your videos! Mine are 26 and 29 and my grandmother was an RN for...40? Years. EVERY bit of advice you give is almost exactly what she gave me years ago when I was expecting and it's perfect! Good, common sense and you're not scaring moms while doing it, which helps sometimes more than people realize. First was born in a military hospital and they had your attitude. Thank you for being there for moms and families!
You’re the absolute cutest!! Thank you for doing these videos. I’m 25 weeks pregnant with my first and it’s so nice listening to your calming voice. I love your wisdom and kind heart. Anyone who gets to have you as their nurse is truly blessed. 💜
I am 28 weeks with my rainbow baby boy. My first! I am so grateful for you and this channel. Found it just a few days ago and love it. P.S you look absolutely lovely😊
I remember so vividly experiencing the fetal ejection reflex with my 3rd baby! I love that there is a name for it lol it literally felt like my body was ejecting the baby by itself, i had zero say in it. My Dr made it literal seconds before the baby exited my body. I screamed that baby out with 1 voluntary push, it was amazing❤ Now excitedly awaiting the arrival of my 4th baby in August.
Omg I just found out I was pregnant and I love all of your videos! I need u during my delivery 😭 I'm so scared of childbirth! Please make a video about post partum care!
Thank you for this!! Getting induced today at 41+2 due to mild symptoms of preeclampsia and I can't wait to dish all these cool facts out to my partner 😆😆😆
omg I love your vids... I'm 36 weeks pregnant and you're answering so many concerns I have.. which is funny because this is my second baby but my oldest is 9 and 9 years later it seems so much has changed.. from whats provided to what to bring and not to bring...I was Curious about the breast pump.. only because I plan to pump and bottle feed not breast feed but I get that skin to skin will stimulate the lactation process better .. and I love that you're a mom and you get it! and Holden is adorable
I shook so bad after having my son. It started directly after they took him out via c-section that my dr joked saying "its kind of like trying to put a puzzle together on a vibrating table". It was kind of embarrassing I tried so hard to stop.
So you just made my jaw hit the floor! I wish someone would have told me throwing up was productive prior to my first child. I was so nauseous but did not want the RNs to think I was weak so I kept it to myself... my son is happy and healthy but I had to have an emergency C-section in the end.
I loved this video and your hair looks amazing! Thanks for posting something sweet and funny today. The oxytocin part made me a little sad because my hospital in NYC announced today that starting now no partners will be allowed to be there with the laboring person :( my husband won’t be able to see our first child be born and I’ll be alone. Wearing a mask in labor. And if I test positive for Covid who knows when I will see my baby again. I really hope the policy changes by May 22 when I’m due, but it makes me cry every time I think about it. I know the policies are there for the health of the greater good though.
Oh, mama. I am so sorry. That just means that we are going to have to get creative. Labor at home if you are able. FaceTime your husband for words of love an affirmation. I hate that we have to make this work, but we will! 💗💗
How often is the due date wrong? My son was born 5 weeks early when I calculated my due date it put me at Nov 19th but when my doctor calculated it at my first ultrasound they gave me dec 19th and he was born nov 16th perfectly healthy and 6lbs 13 oz
I’m pregnant and love ur vid, but I have to confess that I click on this because I saw you when that sweeter all over your head and I thought I cannot believe she is simulating labor with the sweeter 😂 so cute! 😍🥰
I’m going from a csection with my first in 2018, and now I am trying to vaginal birth with my second (due in October 2020). I am terrified of vaginal tearing because I already tear easily, but honestly your videos are so calming and reminding me this process is SO normal. And we need to stop spearing fear to mothers who are expecting. Your videos are giving me hope I can do this!
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Fetal éjection reflex .. the most amazing thing on earth. Waiting for it makes pushing so much easier, quicker and helps a lot with recovery! I followed the instructions on pushing for my first, but "let myself" have the fetal ejection reflex on my last two ... and two different worlds! I am expecting twins in a few weeks and gosh, I wish ill be able to have it again!
I recently gave birth on March 7th. It was my fifth baby and the first time I was able to do it without pitocin. Instead my nurse had the Dr break my water at 6 cm. Right after I went to the toilet and peed and upon getting up I immediately started having contractions back to back. 30 mins after breaking my water I went from a 6 to a 9 and maybe 20 mins after that baby was born. The urge to push is a struggle. I was waiting on the Dr to get to my room and my body literally just started pushing the baby out and I couldn’t control it. My water broke with my first on its own. All my others I needed my water broken by the Dr.
Never looking at a turtleneck the same way again 😂🤣😂 Love your channel! I’m a total birth nerd and have just recently found your channel so nows a great time to binge!
Love you and your videos! Someone posted about you in one of my labor Facebook groups telling people to watch your videos. I was like, "Yes! I watch her too!"
Hi friend! Nice to “see”you at such crazy times. Relaxes me to listen to you/learn. Baby 3 is 6 weeks old so we are staying home 24/7. Definitely feels good to laugh about the purple butt line aka PBL 😂 wish I knew!! I would have looked for it during my labor 😂 I had the shakes with baby 1&2 but not baby 3. You’re editing is getting fab and you look beautiful. ...(can you tell I’ve been home for days and days and days alone with 3 kids?)
@@CousinKaylee I had him April 5th! That last semester/ first trimester combo was rough. I was so sick every day until about 18 weeks. But my baby boy was worth it 🥰
@@catanddevitofan5500 I had bad morning sickness till 20 weeks too it was brutal. I have 4 weeks to go and I am just starting to get some morning sickness again lol weird hey
1: purple butt line 2: uncontrollable shaking (warm blanket can help, press on pressure point on both feet can help) 3: oxytoxin aka love hormone help with labor (laboring at home as long as possible or making out with your partner) 4: your water dont always break 5: your cervix doesnt cease to exist, it just exist in different place 6: your uterus expands 11 times it's normal size ( you still gonna have a baby pump after birth) 7: a lot of us may throw up in labor ( productive in labor) 8: only 5% baby come on due date ( give yourself a month) 9: fetal injection reflex 10: listen to your body
You're such an awesome nurse! I wish you could be my L&D nurse! Thank you so much for sharing all the info that you do. You're such a great teacher as well!
I was told that pregnancy normally lasts between 9-10months which makes sense because if your last period was the end of the month and you get pregnant around the end of the next month they count it from your last period so even though you might of not been pregnant during that month well just under a month it is still counted that's pretty crazy
I've seen so many. Of your videos in a short time... Been binge watching tbh. But I love your hair the way it is now!! You look amazing and your videos are so educational and informative
Hospitals make me so anxious as the only time I am in a hospital was visiting sick family or when I am sick so definitely going to plan on having a home birth if possible to release all the oxytocin, obviously with the guidance of a doula and midwife and talking to my OB.
I just gave birth to my first child on march 13th, I'm curious if you could touch on the topic of why some women don't dilate at all? After 26.5 hours of grueling labor i had to have a c-section because i never made it past 1cm.
@@Nurse_zabe Thank you! Your videos have helped me prepare for everything but that issue throughout my entire pregnancy lol, i felt more mentally ready going in because of these videos so thank you so very much!
Same happened to me with my first. Didn’t dilate passed 3cm in 24hrs. Had to have a c-section. I’m now scheduled for a c-section in September for my 2nd baby.
Thank you for making these videos, they're very informative and even though I'm not pregnant yet, it's nice to know this information for when the time comes
I tell my patients sometimes when the body is working really hard decides it can only do one process at a time, and the one it can end immediately is digestion. Don't consume anything you don't want to taste again, and if you throw up, throwing up is involuntary pushing. Pay attention to the way your muscles contract while you're throwing up and try to mimic that when it's time to push.
It's a whole different vibe watching this video 4 months postpartum! I understand what you're explaining much more. My baby is the 5% born on his due date! I threw up explosively the night before I was admitted to L&D. I think the babies born in their sac is cool too!
Love your videos. I’m on my fourth pregnancy, this time with twins, and can attest to the throwing up, seriously it helps so much. I know I throw up, it will be time to push within the next 5-10 minutes. Also with my third my water never did break so he was born in his water. It looked pretty cool. I just wish more nurses would listen to mom’s in labor because it is so aggravating when they tell you not to push when it feels like you have zero control over it and the person supposed to be delivering stepped out of the room for a minute.
So awesome to know fetal ejection reflex. That is what my body does! My second came 10 minutes after I actually felt my contractions and my third wasn’t much longer. By the time I told the nurses I felt the need to push, they looked and her head was right there.
😊👍 I have three girls and am 37 weeks pregnant with my first boy. Both of my youngest two girls came very quickly. I only pushed my second girl once and she came out "flying" and my youngest girl, I didn't have to push at all. She birthed herself on the bed and it made all of the nurses rush in. 👶
I had the fetal ejection reflex with my second and it was amazing. It was such a relief as I was having a difficult time. And then as soon as that unstoppable urge cane. I no longer felt the contractions. Baby just came.
