10 Years of Therapy in 10 Minutes 

Oops forgot to leave a top comment. Bit of a more vulnerable video, but I think talking about this topic can provide a lot of comfort for people. Thanks for watching - sending you all my love, and I'll see you soon! ❤❤❤

you calling yourself a 30 year old just made me shiver, when did we all just AGE??? you’re still 21 in my mind!

I have been in therapy for almost a year, and something that I learned so far is that the things that made you go to therapy are not going to dissappear, but you will be able to manage your emotions, your tougths and the way that you react to those things in a healthy way.

As a therapist, I thoroughly enjoyed this ☺️

"Other people don't know what you're thinking" is such an obvious phrase, and yet I've lived my whole life feeling like my whole existence has been recorded and perceived by all of the people around me, it's such a helpful reminder.

I've been in therapy on and off for about three years and one of the things I found most valuable was my therapist saying "there's a world outside of happiness", it's kinda stuck with me because I feel like I valued being happy so much that anything less than that was distressing, and I didn't really know how to be "just okay" because I was awful at validating my own feelings (still am, from time to time, but we'll get there eventually). It's something I still think about. One of my other favourite therapist interactions was when I told my therapist I found doing spreadsheets calming and she responded with "I love that for you but you're a crazy woman"

the amount of safety i feel when watching his videos is insane. when i sit down and watch connor i feel like my entire body and heart and soul and connection to the world just relaxes. i want to have chats with him all the time he's such a wholesome and genuine human being

*"don't catastrophize hypotheticals"* I think this summarizes everything so beautifully ! thank you for being like a friend or older brother, imparting such sage advice, even after all these years ! I appreciate you so so much 💖

“I am a person experiencing the world.” Somehow this was so powerful! Humanizing indeed :0,❤❤

I came from a religious background, and anything related to mental health meant you have to be purified or u r possessed. Hearing stories like helped me to seek help and get treatment. I never knew what therapy was. So, thank you

"be kind to yourself" seems so obvious but when you think of it as if you're talking to a friend or a stranger it completely changes how you think about yourself. i'd never tell my friend they look stupid, or that joke they made was really dumb and everyone probably thinks they're weird, or that they're not good at what they do... so why should i be telling myself that??? thanks for that one, really changed the way i look at things.

Being a client and now being a therapist myself, I always like to think of the art of therapy as a dance and like real magic happens once you find the right moves and become great partners in it and you learn to know when to push, when to pull, when to let go, and when to fall. Therapy is incredible 💜

How can I like a video twice? I’m in therapy and it’s so refreshing to hear you talking about this stuff and actually hear that yes, I’m not the only one going through these things!

This is such a comforting video, I've been going to therapy for two years now and I've uncovered more childhood trauma than I ever thought I had, therapy is great and I hope more ppl have a chance to try it! You're the best, connor 💞

All of this is life-changing GOLD. Perhaps the most important thing you discussed was how understanding and implementing these things takes time and practice. People can't just watch this once, think "that's what I should do!" and magically their life is changed. At a minimum you need post-its all over your bathroom mirror to constantly remind yourself about these ideas.

This video was actually genuinely very helpful!!! Especially the friend "chapter" thing, i'm personally going through some stuff with that and hearing you say that it's normal and okay meant a lot in a weird way i guess??? My experience with therapy has been not all too great? But im working on getting a new therapist luckily Its just exactly what i needed to hear, so uhhhh, thank you :) your video's are always a bright spot in my day!

It’s always a good day when Connor grants us his presence ❤️

I got therapy and I think it was a great decision. It helped me forgive, heal and grow. I suffered with depression and I believe that therapy helped me overcome it. I've recommended to a few people since then because I believe it really helps. Over 14 million people in the US suffered a depressive episode in 2020. If you're depressed and you're reading this I hope that fact helps you feel less alone and less weird. Take care!

Love everything about this. As a therapist, this is a lot of what I teach myself. Honestly, most of my personal growth in the last year is from being a therapist and teaching all of these ideas repeatedly, every day. I've been come a lot better at taking my own advice and its worked wonders. I've personally taken up the mantra that "practice makes progress" because "perfect" isn't real (just like thoughts). I love that you've been with the same therapist for so long. I have never had a therapist longer than 3 or 4 years, either because they moved or I moved, but I think I've only met one I didn't like. He was a nice older man, but like wouldn't let me talk. He overdid it on the reflection, validation, and advice-giving piece. I was proud to have picked that up on the first meeting so as not to waste a bunch of time.

this video feels like a big comforting hug thank you so so much!!

i haven't seen the video yet, but based on the title, i have an idea what it's about. all i wanted to say is that you've helped me so much with your videos, books, and just your presence in general. so thank u for that. i love u

Freaking love this, it's everything, the way he just expressed all the stuff we've experienced and normalises feeling vulnerable in a world in wich they teach us to be lions

Been in therapy for years, and just started medicine. Both are irreplaceable. Thankful for all the lessons I've learned.

your approach to mental health is so comforting and refreshing! I feel like I'm starting to learn the same lessons, and it is really nice to have this feeling of universality.

i’ll be honest i haven’t stopped by for a video in a while. glad this one was on my feed. thanks for being one of the most level-headed creators i grew up with, childhood me and current me appreciate you

Con, I’ve been watching your videos since 2014 and I’ve never resonated so much to a video. I was nodding along to everything you said because it’s exactly what I’ve learnt in my therapy as someone who also struggles with depression and anxiety. Proud of you for making it through it all!

therapist here.... love your thoughts on anger and resentment. I always tell clients that expectations are future resentments... lower your expectations of others.

Thanks so much for being so vulnerable in sharing your experience and learnings. I could connect to so much of it! Really pleased this video appeared in my recommended x

Your videos always seem to pop up at the right time. Been feeling very anxious lately but especially today and this video really made me feel seen! Thank you for your wise and gentle words they are comforting

I've just had a revelation watching this. For the past 10 years I've been watching your videos and they kinda have been like a form of therapy (more like a very aware and friendly support but you get the idea). It's weird because now I'm a 20 something year old full with all this existential dread but I remember watching your videos in middle school like it was yesterday. Back then it was pretty rough. It was always about that start of the week, the horrifing Monday. Even so, at the end of the day, however shitty it was, I would come home and know that I can watch Connor's new video, how great! And right then and there I would feel like all was good. Reflecting back on everything I find it truly amazing that we've had this opportunity of an online community and support. I didn't even relize the impact it had on my life. All I want to say is that I am deeply grateful. Thank you all and especially you Connor and I guess we'll all see each other next Monday ;)

Feels like hanging out with an old friend on a lovely afternoon.. after like 10 years of watching, still love the vibe, love the videos! ✨

Wow man - I’m so, so grateful you chose to be open and upload this for all of us. I’ve been struggling so hard to move on because my mental/physical health issues have somehow felt “safer” than exploring the rest of life. I’ve never lived without my issues even though theoretically what waits on the other side seems so much nicer. It’s definitely not for lack of trying, I have tried so many times and let myself down just before I turned the corner. I’ve received a Lot of shit for being so stuck in place from everyone in my life too. So, hearing someone else talk about struggling with moving on in a similar way really really fucking helped me today. The way you talked about experiencing life so beautifully really made me feel like I should try again. Thanks for posting ❤️❤️

thanks for sharing your hard-earned wisdom connor, it's very comforting coming from you. i related especially to the bit about clinging onto sadness and spiraling feeling easier and soothing in a weird way. it feels so hard to get out of. i would love to hear you talk more about your experience with that, it would help many. big hugs!

sometimes you take months to post something and then you post a video that feels so comforting and helpful to that specific point in my life when I needed most. thank you so much!

This was such a wonderful wonderful video, it definitely hit me. Thank you for being so open, it's so lovely to see how therapy helped you.

connor really is my comfort youtuber 😭 been watching him since i was 12 and i just turned 20 this week. This video literally addressed everything i’ve been going through in the last year lmao thank you for this ❤️

Great video!!! I’ve been in weekly therapy for 4 months now and it has been truly life changing. There are so many “insights” or “conclusions” that sounds soo easy but to get there or to understand them really is work. For anyone out there thinking about it, go for it! And do make sure to match with someone you feel comfortable.

I think these are such great tips. I think also making peace with your inner child is a key part of getting better mentally. My therapist once said "what would you say your child?" wow that is a tough one to think about regularly but so true

i loved this! It's so nice to hear your thoughts and experiences of it because like you say it is nice to hear that other people deal with the same sort of thing as you. I've been depressed and anxious for half my life and I've just been sitting with it, I came to a point where i realised i can't live like this anymore because i'm not truly living. I'm hoping this year to finally go to therapy and to try and work on being a healthier version of myself :)

i've been struggling a lot recently, due to a mess of things like relationships and childhood trauma, and i've been in therapy since i was like 14 and i'm 23 now, so about 10 years as well. this video was super helpful in reminding me of things i sometimes just like to forget so i can choose the easier way out and just let myself spiral and suffer lol, you're so right that like, i'll go to therapy and rant and feel so much better and just choose to not apply anything i learned when things get tough again because it's so hard to change the way you think and takes constant practice. so thank u for this❤️

Wow Connor, to come back to your channel after years without youtube and see this as your most recent video is so amazing and refreshing and comforting and real. I really appreciate this video. as a queer person myself ive always gravitated toward your vids, i even have drawings of you from when i was younger, that ive turned into collage work now. ive watched this again and again. its the same things i tell myself but it hasnt sunk in yet. im always the therapist friend for other people but i am suffering so much. i feel like i cant forgive the ones who hurt me, its all i think about the hatred it stews in me all day and all night. I don't know how NOT to rot myself from the inside out. I am trying so hard. Ive been going to therapy for years, twice a week. I put so much effort into growth and change and getting better but it feels like Nothing is enough. i go in circles with my therapist. but all of the things you said in this video hit home for me hard, i am so mean to myself. always living in the past and cringing at my mistakes, its just never ending hell in my body and mind. i feel trapped i want out. but im on a path and that path is not easy but i know the more i keep working at it the better it will get. it cant happen in a day, just like a tree cant grow in a day. it felt SO affirming to hear you say all these things. i cant wait for the day where i find more people like you, where i have chosen family and where i can see the way all my hard work has paid off. i can already see so much progress from the years i put in even though i feel so stuck and awful right now. ups and downs. thank you for this video connor you are the best always.

Thank you for being so inspirational and helpful and using your platform for good. I’ve been watching your videos for 10-11 years. From the beginning of highschool all the way until now when I’m in my mid 20s. I just wanted to say thank you for always being there for the community you started. I’ve had my own battle with depression and anxiety and it has gotten to some really bad places a couple times. I used to go to therapy when my parents paid for it but now I can’t afford it. But just having people like you telling people to find community and support each other makes a world of difference Thank you for making the change you want to see in the world! I love you too. We all do. ❤

I love this video. It has the right message and the right tone. I've been in therapy a few times and found it helpful. If someone is worried about the stigma then I suggest you just say that you want to be a better person and are willing to work on that. Most problems have solutions and having someone to talk to who isn't in your everyday life can be a big help.

Haven't watched your videos for a while (dunno why) and this one was a blast! Thank you for sharing your experience, *socially anxious hug*! I've been into therapy for a couple of months already and it's been super helpful, hope it can be affordable for more people tho. It's always nice to be reminded that most people are also vulnerable and fragile souls no matter how they look or act.❣

Connor, I have LOVED - and still loved - seeing your evolution. I've been in therapy for 2 years now and it has been the hardest + best thing I've done. Brilliant & spot on video!

The part about anger and resentment and how it only affects your own mood and not even the person you're angry about made so much sense. Thank you for this 🙏

I've just started therapy a few months ago and it's so cool to see where it can lead if only you put the time and work into it

Wow this video is so useful! I didn't know you have gone through what I'm experiencing right now. Even though I've known you for a decade for sure. Thank you for being honest and sharing your story and giving advice. It motivates a lot to see someone who had same issues have passed and became a happy person. Love you 💙

Hi Connor! I’ve been watching your videos ever since i was 12(i’m 19 now) and you bring such peace and laughter every time you post. I read your books and they are amazing! This video was also amazing and i’m definitely taking note of it all. Keep up the good work, your doing wonderful!❤❤

i like videos like these because i can't afford therapy and haven't been in 5 years but it's really valuable to see the lessons and takeaways people get from therapy. thank you connor

i've definitely been struggling lately, didn't know i needed this but i did, you honestly teached me more then the 6 years my therapist taught me, so thanks for sharing your wisdom

the "don't wash down dessert with guilt" resonates with me SOOO much. what an amazing way to phrase that, i've never heard of it that way!! such a great one that i needed ❤ thought i was the only one too experiencing guilt all my life for simple pleasures or questioning if i really deserved to engage in/have them.

You are an amazing person Connor, i've never seen any other youtuber from your time evolve the way you have. Becoming such an amazing and positive person. You've changed for the best and it shows ! I've been enjoying all these videos from you where you are real and you let yourself be you. Be proud of yourself !

Can relate to all of this and am also learning these same lessons in therapy currently. It's tough as heck. I'm glad that you've been getting help and taking care of yourself. It's important. 👍

This was super helpful - I wrote all of them down and are sharing with my siblings. Thanks for the chill vibes in the middle of a hectic work day!

This video has been popping up on my feed for a few days now and I finally clicked on it and I’m so glad that I did. Yes yes yes!! Struggling with OCD right now and it is comforting knowing I’m not alone ❣️

Thanks so much for posting this yesterday Connor! Needed to hear it yesterday and yay to the anxiety couch, thought I was the only one!

This was just wonderful to hear and listen to, Connor 😊 thank you!

Been learning these things recently because of a combination of meditation and therapy. Connor, you explain the internal experience so well in this video and I resonate a lot. Especially the part where you said that it’s easy to be a victim to circumstances because it makes you feel so much better, rather than picking yourself up and moving on. It’s a hard lesson to learn, but if I’ve learned anything in my psych courses in university or from meditation philosophies, it’s that this tendency is human nature, so we shouldn’t be ashamed of that desire. It’s a mechanism that we have to protect ourselves, just like all of these things. We have to learn how to be kind to ourselves while still holding ourselves accountable. A lot of people give bogus mental health advice on the internet, but this video is the opposite of that, and explains very common psychological flaws ❤️‍🔥

I’ve been in therapy for 4 months and it’s so groundbreaking, even a slight change matters. And your video is so calming, it helps to feel that I’m not alone in this journey. Thank you!!

been to therapy for five years and this is making me think the next five is where I'll get my money's worth. so amazing to see you articulate the thoughts and lessons I've been trying to integrate myself. this is a really special (and absolutely helpful) video, thank you so much for this

Thank you so much for this Connor! So happy that you use your platform to talk about therapy and mental health. ♥

Connor, this should be a PSA!! You talk so eloquently and in such a light, approachable way!! You should consider being a counselor yourself (in a way, you kind of already are, even if you don’t jnow it). Thanks for sharing your learnings with us! ❤️

Content like this is really important. Thank you for sharing these messages. I really needed to hear them at this moment ❤️

This was so healing and peaceful. Thank you for this. Sending you lots of love. I feel like you're like the big brother I never had

I've always enjoyed your vlogs and this one was especially good because it was informative and entertaining, and you shared things that are very personal. Thank you for sharing this.

This is such an important message. Thank you for sharing. Have had the same experiences myself lately. Therapy has been so helpful for me I feel like I’m becoming a better and healthier person simply by going and putting the work in!

you don't know how much I needed this today. In a very uncertain living situation, temporary and trying to find a job and an apartment in another city. I'm on several different deadlines and feel out of options. All I can do lately is spiral and convince myself that nothing is going to go right, because it feels lately like nothing has. But I know I have to stop those thought patterns. I appreciate your videos like this

This was fantastic Connor! I immediately shared it with a friend going through a really tough time right now, and I'm saving it for my own future use too. Thanks so much 💖

I have been watching you for sooo long and this video just brought so much peace to me. I love seeing you grow and am always rooting for you ❤

This video is EXACTLY what I needed today. I am dealing with nearly everything you went over and this video brought me so much comfort. Thank you, Connor, for continuing to be a source of comfort and peace. (And everything gay!)

I was in therapy all through my youth from elementary school to high school with a brilliant psychiatrist who unfortunately retired when I got to uni (it honestly broke my heart, I really considered her as a friend) and since then I have tried hard to find a new match but still haven’t find a new psychiatrist after 4 years 😢 I miss therapy, I remember how it helped me so much so I’m still hopeful I’ll find a psychiatrist that can help me 🤞🏻

I said it once and I’ll say it again, Connor Franta is the best person EVER 💕 So real, so kind, so smart, so honest. He’s amazing! 😌 Always here making our days better and a great coffee aesthetic maker too! Don’t even get me started on the baking. Literally, THE best man 👏

watching your videos truly feels like chatting with a best friend, thank you so much for this ♥︎

Connor Franta! Thank you for being a gem to humanity. Your videos always made me smile when I was 15, and now at 25, I’ve resubscribed and tapped the bell 😌 thank you for this wholesome content 💚🙏🏼 I needed this

The medical anxiety/depression one stuck with me to the core, thank you, thank you Connor for covering this ❤

Connor your energy is beautiful. You're such a special soul

Thank you for this video. I really enjoyed this! Would love to hear more of what you've learnt and your experience.

I needed this for not having a support system and being validated for having mental health by my own family. If I had therapy or more support, I think I would be so much better

I know you said that this video is not therapy and you’re not a therapist but honestly connor your videos always calm me down. Whenever I feel anxious overwhelmed I just put my favorite videos of you and it is just so therapeutic! Honestly, thank you so much seriously i love you🫶🏻

I love this video so much I’ve related to this way too much !! ❤️❤️ been watching Connor since middle school and I’m now in college!!

Such a helpful video!Thank you so much for sharing your advice ❤

Just started therapy and it's so conforting hearing you talk about it. Also my first time commenting on your videos, thank you for all the joy you bring me ! Hugs from France :)

i love the feeling of us kind of like also growing along with you among all these years. thank you for constantly sharing wise words with us

Thank u so much. Needed to hear all of that.

Did i just get a new role model? This video was in my recommended at exactly the right time 💚 I've been struggling with mental health issues for the last 7 years and had around 8 different therapists until now. I could relate to basically everything that you said in this video. Thank you for filming it, my mental health has gotten worse again recently so watching youe video was helpful for me 🙏

Absolutely in love with this kind of videos. They make me laugh, they make me think, they make me feel comfortable. "quality time with Connor" :)

I really admire people who have supportive group, system or community. I admit that I don’t have access to those. Being all by yourself alone against the world is scary and exhausting. At this point, I ain’t sure whether I can survive the midlife crisis in the 30s as I’m now so struggling with being left-out, identity-lost, anxiety, emotional disorder and clinical depression.

I have been trying therapy for about 3 years. Took me a while to find one that I could really open myself to and be vulnerable or scared of judgment. Something that had a huge impact on me was knowing that feelings are just feelings. They are not bad or good. Its natural to feel jealous or angry or sad and we normally associate those feelings as bad feelings (or at least i did) and that we shouldnt be feeling that way. Its only natural and normal. Its up to us to decide what we do with them. Such a good video Connor. Watching you for years and such Confort to see you well

Im inspired by mentally healthy people like you and my biggest goal is to start consistent therapy!

Hey Connor! I haven’t watched your videos for a while, but this one was a good one. I actually missed you. Thank you! Hope you have a good day :)

Thank you so much Connor!!!! Love the advice. Def true about not having resentment.

Really needed to hear this; thank you ❤💜✨

First time watching you and you have a beautiful smile. And the clinging onto feelings part really really helped me.

I really enjoy these chatting videos you do

i’ve been in therapy for almost a year now (this is my second time trying therapy) and it’s been going great! i will say, they do not tell you about the roller coaster of emotions you have when you tell your therapist something you’ve never told anyone. it’s so scary but so worth it.

Thank you for this video. Really. I needed to hear this!

Been going for more than 2 years now, having the support definitely helps you go through the hard times!

I really needed to hear a lot of this. thank you connor

Thank you so much for sharing this Connor, it feels like I’m taking with a friend. ❤ I’ve been in therapy for almost a year but my therapist told me that it wasn’t right because there should be a progress in 6-8 months but I turned a year last week and ah… I felt sad. 😢 I don’t know what to do now.