11 Signs You Were Born To Be A Loner 

I used to be a people person, but people ruined that for me.

"I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people that make you feel all alone." - Robin Williams

“The more I get to know people the better I like my dog.” -Mark Twain

I am retired and single. In other words, I do what I want, when I want and with whom I want. Life is good.

The older I get, the more I like being alone. No drama, no stress, no disappointments. The freedom is mind blowing.

It’s not being “anti” social, it’s being selective social.

My divorce was 40 years ago this December. I'm 100% single. I don't date and don't have any close friends. I own my home, and no one ever comes to my home. I work for myself. I go out to eat by myself. I go to the movies by myself. I have two feral cats who love me. I like playing video games solo. I own a full-size pinball machine, which I love playing. I watch movies at home also by myself. I'm 100% debt free. I pay all of my utilities and phone a year in advance. I found my happiness, it's called simplicity. I love being alone. I'm never lonely, never sad, never depressed and never bored. I feel that I have an amazing life with zero drama. I wouldn't trade my life for anything.

The less dependent I am on others, the less disappointing my life becomes,

"I don't hate people... I just seem to feel better when they're not around." -Charles Bukowski

The more I get to know people, the more I come to the realization that being alone is not so bad after all.

I used to think there was something wrong with me because I didn't mind being alone, eating alone, going to the movies/mall alone.... I have no desire to come home to someone every day. People really understand how to be at peace with themselves. I'm alright with just me.

I didn't learn until later in life that it's my destiny to be a loner. I tried to fit in and play along with societies expectations but it just didn't work and I always felt different. I am 60 now and have been retired for a few years and have come to know and deeply love who I am. Being alone is my joy!

I've learned to accept the fact that being alone is so much better than being around people you don't get any added value from!

Spending too much time around others drains me. Being alone recharges me.

Definitely a born loner. I used to think there was something seriously wrong with me, and struggled with not being a "good fit" much of anywhere. But I realized that the loner thing is part by choice, and part by default/accepting things as they are. Traveling alone is so much easier - I feel in complete control, can walk as fast as I want, and stop and chill wherever I want. Some people don't understand that, as if you cannot enjoy your vacations greatly if you're not with someone. I say mind your own f---ing business.

“Loneliness is the poverty of self; solitude is the richness of self.” - May Sarton

If you ever meet a loner, its not because we enjoy solitude. It's because we have tried to blend into the world before, and people continue to disappoint us.

It's easy to be a loner once you realize the true nature of people.

being alone and being lonely are two different things

I'm always happy to see people when they visit, and honored that they came, but also relieved when they leave.

"It is better to be single and alone, than wish you were," 🤗

"I don't hate people, but I feel better when they're not around." -- Charles Bukowski

Everyone I know always said I was born an old soul. I'm now 31 and already feel like I've lived my life to the full. I still have an amazing family, a small group of close friends, old friendly faces I'm happy to have small talk with if we ever cross paths - and that's pretty much it for me. Gone with the days of unprecedented amounts of drama and extremities of life. Now I'm just gonna focus on enjoying each day I live until it's my time to go. Nice and easy. No regrets.

I've always LOVED being alone... even as a child I entertained myself for hours on end. I manifest 10 of the 11 signs listed here

There’s a lot of born loners here and I just have to say - “being a loner you understand other loners - we are NOT lonely anti-social, we are selective social loners and I love you all!” ✌️

My father told me at 11 years old, to learn and be comfortable with walking alone. I’m 29 now. I can flip the switch and be very outgoing when I want to be or when necessary. Being a loner is the best way to be; more focused, no distractions, no nonsense. Salute to all my fellow loners out there, we good, we’re always good 💯😂

I have always been a loner and I’m proud of it. Hated get-togethers and big crowds, the feeling of claustrophobia sets right in.

♥I am 67 and have had two "important" relationships that ended after 5 years. Sure, I had fun, but I have come to realize that just being alone and have very few friendships is enough for me. ♥

I'm alone but never lonely. I'm comfortable with myself so I don't need to be busy running around. I love quiet and stillness. I enjoy people sometimes.

This is so me. I'm 60 & finally accepting that I'm far happier being a loner. Was married for 20 years but got hurt so badly by my ex. I love my life as it is now.

I love being alone! Alone but not lonely.

Happiness comes from within.

Just cause I'm a loner doesn't mean I'm alone. I'm with myself and majority of the time, that's good company.

it took me 50+ years to completely come to grips with this. Alone is my natural state. Relationships drive me crazy. I hate the drama and the compromising.

I've realised how much of myself I've put away for others, because it was "the right thing to do", thinking that socializing is the norm and the natural evolution, regardless of how we were. My feelings, my loneliness, myself, my passions, my goals...I've put all that aside to devote myself to my friends (like 80% for them and only 20% for me) I lost myself, my confidence and my value. Never again.

I am 60 years old, and I have never been married. And I have no regrets.

This is me 100%. I'm a loner, but not lonely. I can enjoy the company of other people but in very small doses. Moderation is key.

I used to feel guilty and shame for being a loner, now I don't think it that way. There's a difference between being alone and being lonely.

I have always been happiest when alone, to think my thoughts and do as I please. Fortunately, I was never really pushed to be "social" by my parents. I love the freedom of solitude.

Growing up I had friends. By my early 20s I started to cut people off. I lived by a beautiful forest and would go for solo runs and just lay on the grass when I was done. I started to see how we all have our own path in this world, and connection to other people is just a facade.

No drama, no loud confrontations, no mindless small talk. Peace and quiet and valuable moments in nature are the best. My art, plants, pets, guitars, cooking, bike riding and reading are just priceless to me. Some folks don't understand the value of self reflection.

This resonates with me 100%. Unfortunately, a lot of people don't understand loners and think that we're either weird or don't have any friends.

#12 - Loners typically have at least one pet and feel that pet is smarter than 99% of the people they have encountered.

My score = 11 out of 11. Yes, I'm a hard core loner. I am non social, not anti social. I do talk to people when I encounter them, but prefer being alone. And there have been times when I have gone months without human contact, by choice.😊

I was shamed by family members for being anti-social and wanting to be alone when I was growing up. For a while a thought something was wrong with me. Fast forward to today and most of my family members have health issues because of the stress brought on by others. And I wouldn't consider myself anti-social. I'm just very selective of the people who I decide to let into my life. My time and personal space are very important to me.

From my experience: Loners do not need to stay single forever - they just need to find another loner. Such relationships can work very well because each of the two understands the other one's feelings and gives him or her the private time needed - and both avoid social gatherings together 🙂

Being alone - 100% Freedom! Nothing like it.

I am 54 and have always preferred solitude. I have throughout my life tried the social thing with othere but found it never made me happy, as opposed to highly anxious and uncomfortable, so I would turn to booze to mask it, and invariably end up being the embarrasment everyone was talking about for weeks, months, even years afterward. I have never been married or ever desired to be. The thought alone sends waves of dread through me. Having to share my sanctuary...my bed with another could/would never happen. I simply could not bear that at all and I dont understand how others are so at ease with sharing such intimate personal space with someone else. I never attend social functions, having over the years all but exhausted every plausable excuse to not attend. I dont use social media, having been down that road to find only disappointment and feelings of intense sorrow by the way others use it to promote only the good in their lives thus creating a false narrative of the most idyllic, stress free lives. They never show the 90% of crap fest that life is for all of us. Alone is the only way I can maintain my sanity.

This is me 100%. I've finally decided to just accept it and embrace it. We can't define our happiness and success by society's standards.

"I live in that solitude which is painful in youth, but delicious in the years of maturity." -- Albert Einstein

My alone time is during the night. It is calm, dark, still, and quiet. I am disabled so I don’t work, so I can go to bed at 3:00 in the morning and I love it.

I'm a loner but it's nice to share life with a spouse that's a loner too.

To be a loner is to be stress-free.... And I find that very satisfied❤️

I've always been a lone wolf. Don't get me wrong, I like people, I just like them better when they're not around me.

I am glad that there are so many people that are loners like me. I'm glad I'm not alone even if i like being alone.

I’m a single guy at 24 years old and I enjoy my own company whatever I please. The whatever things I love doing. I respect myself, focusing on working alone in peace and live in spiritual life. No relationship, avoid complicated situations. Simple living and getting things together. Never get bored being alone. I feel 100% percent energize, than being around with others does drain my mood.

I guess I’m a loner. I enjoy people in small doses. I don’t like small talk or drama. I prefer deeper conversations but most of the people I meet are pretty shallow, so, no thanks. Generally, people tend to drain my energy not add to it.

I love being alone. Wish more people would understand and not judge.

I don't even own a cellphone! People can get me on my landline at home if they want to speak to me. I also don't answer my door if I'm not expecting anyone. I enjoy solitary pursuits. Go on vacations by myself. I hate social functions and have a go-to list of excuses every time...lol

Yup! I can’t stand people always on their phone! I like to work alone. I definitely love to live alone! No sharing anything and so what if the bed is a mess!😊

In this world full of stress and negativity, solitude is my best resort. I really do see myself in this list. Great video.

I love being alone. There is no judgement, criticism or disrespect coming my way from anyone. No kids or family I have to worry about or "provide" for. No one I have to "make" happy or there's going to be trouble for me now or in the future. My happiness does not depend on how another person feels. That is amazing freedom. It's like being let out of a prison.

I was a team player my entire career. Now retired, divorced and happier than ever. Own my own home, and except for the grandkids visit every couple of months, no one has ever been to my house. Only go to town for groceries every couple of weeks. No dating, no eating out. I love my life.

I'm never alone because I have me, myself, and I for comfort always!

I never had an issue with being a loner, it was my parents and teachers who had issues with it.

“IF YOU’RE LONELY WHEN YOU’RE ALONE … YOU’RE IN BAD COMPANY.” I ABSOLUTELY LOVE BEING ALONE 💯

I definitely fall into this category. I really appreciate my alone time. Thanks for sharing this video.

I love been in the world all by myself. No friends, no family and no problems! But I still love going to my local and having a few of my favourite drinks and meeting complete strangers and playing pool with them!! Then I go home, usually drunk and all alone. Yep, I'm a loner and it's great!

I’m not necessarily a born loner, I feel like I have never found my crowd, my people/my tribe. I just got fed up of not being able to speak my mind with people who don’t appreciate me. Too much competition or meaningless conversations. I also wouldn’t want someone pretending to agree with me, just to keep the peace. I rather just be by myself. I’m happier that way.

I’m a loner at heart but I believe there needs to be a balance. I try not to lose touch with other people and their needs while still carving some time to myself.

Oh my gosh! This is SO me! I like people, but I LOVE all the things on this list 💖

Impressive, so accurate, is like to describe myself. Thanks for the video. 😊

I love being alone and single.

Asked my grand mother a few day’s ago what type of child was I, and her first statement was, “ You were a loner” I never feel lonely maybe a little anti social at times but not lonely. This video has given me some clarity

Absolutely. 100 percent!! Thanks for the video.

Being alone is mandatory in my life. When the few trusted people I have in my life come for a visit -I have a great time - and I like it when they leave. A 3 day dose of other people will likely sustain me for the next 3 -9 weeks, but that does not take away from the wonderful memories and laughs I'll cherish forever. But I need to go back to the quiet of alone to enjoy reflecting on all things.

Great video. I qualified on all 11 points and am quite content being a loner. In my 72 years of living I've learned that you only really have yourself to rely on to make you happy.

I am a loner but not lonely. Worked with public for years and damn glad I don't have to anymore. Retired, cabin in the mountains and loving it. Birds, deer, bears etc. Wonderful. Peaceful. Glass of wine on my back deck and thankful to God for my life.

I never thought of myself as being a loner I had a lot of friends growing up but just didn’t find in after grade school! I wasn’t popular enough I guess to be invited to parties or social events and if I did attend an event and tried to interact with other people I just didn’t fit in for some weird reason! This continued right on through adult hood got married at 24 lost my wife 32 years later now live in a retirement apartment building and feel out of place here as well no common interests it seems. I have felt misplaced all my adult life!

The fact that the most enjoyable times in my life have always been when I’m on my own doing my own thing, convinced me that I’m a happy loner, and I wished people knew this kind of happiness 😊

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being alone. I crave it

Yes!!!! Love to be alone! Can’t be bothered with other people’s drama!

I totally agree with this video and the comments. Put out for decades caught up in everything, I’m done with it and loving it.

Hit the nail, Right on the HEAD!!!

This video described me to a Tee. Everything applied to me. I am 90 yrs old and even today I spend most of the day doing what pleases me most. I draw, Paint and compose poetry. I spend hours on the computer leaning new things and watching creative videos. It never occurred to me that Many other people are like me but I guess there are

For me, I prefer being on my own because I've never met anyone who's company I enjoyed more than my own. I still enjoy limited interactions, but I'm always flooded with relief when they're over and I can be by myself again.

Once I heard “The more I interact with people, the more I love my dog.” I agree 😛

Gosh this is deadly accurate! I have decided to log off both my FB and IG accounts temporarily because I just feel that the more I use them, the more I feel irritated by checking and not checking new messages! I became very obsessed with both and whenever I have some free time of my own, the first thing I would do is to check if there's any new uploads and notifications from both accounts! When the notifications start to pile up after just a day or two, I become anxious because I am afraid I might miss out on some important stuff on social media. It has been 4 months since I logged off from both accounts, and I have no intention of going back! Staying away temporarily from social media does help clear your mind as you don't need to spend some going through those trivial, unimportant uploads!

I’ve been a loner for most of my life, and I enjoy it. I love the quiet that comes with it.

Definitely an extreme introvert. Manipulative and domineering people hate me (the feeling is mutual) because I dance to my own tune and REFUSE to be controlled. I absolutely dread social gatherings and have to come up with a good lie to avoid offending nice people who simply can’t comprehend wanting to be alone. I simply place a very high value on my time. When I’m done with my job, my time is mine. Unless it is a close loved one. One thing people find unusual is that I am never bored. I can ALWAYS find something to do that interests me.

Being alone is great. It puts you at an advantage because you don't have that emotional neediness. Also the only thing I want to sleep with is my cat.

I love this video, it was as if he was telling my life story, I love being alone, I have no drama, no problems, no issues, no backstabbing people in my life, no bitter divorce, no unwanted kids, life is good.😊

I am 100% born to be a loner. The moments i was in a relationship i always longed for the moment i be alone again. Born to be free.

In my 70’s and been this way all my life and love it.

I’m a loner but I think I have the best of both worlds. I’m female and have shared a house with a male friend for over 20 years. Neither of us wants the relationship to be more than friends and neither of us has had a romantic relationship with anyone else in that time. We spend a lot of time alone but chat when we see each other. I had a severe back injury a few years ago and could hardly get out of bed for 6 months and I recently had a knee replacement. My friend stepped up and helped with shopping, cooking and transportation and I’d have really struggled to cope without his help. Equally he’s even more of a loner than I am and I think without our friendship he’d have stayed living with his Mother for life without any friends. My family has become his family and he has a much wider social contact because of that. So our lives sort of overlap like a Venn diagram! We can enjoy our alone time but have companionship when we want it. The video is spot on about pets. We share the care of our indoor guinea pigs and they are a primary topic of conversation (and are spoiled rotten!). Strangely enough I have a twin brother who lives on the other side of the country. He’s busy with his work and family and I don’t have much contact with him. I often say my friend is a substitute twin brother. So I think we have the best arrangement for two loners - we’re often alone but never lonely.

You just summed me up like, very realistic and I’m always being invited here and there, because I have a smile on my face most of the time😊

Better to be a lone wolf than a popular sheep. I severed ties with a lot of people after seeing their true colours and decided I don't want or need people like that in my life. I prefer solitude and walk my own path in life alone & my way. I have mental fortitude & can deal with solitude no problem as I have no drama, chaos or stress in my life as a result & it's awesome.

I enjoy being alone. I go where I want, when I want and I don't have to answer to anyone. There's no greater freedom than jumping on my Harley and just taking off with no particular destination in mind. No drama, just peace. Anyone who doesn't enjoy being alone will never understand why we enjoy it.

What an amazing video, I always feel guilty to be a loner but from watching this it all makes sense! Many thanks 🙏 fm Mr Dawson

A lone wolf for sure and living with my wolfsdog, husky and sheppard. Always had dogs, no wife, no kids, no regrets. 😂😂