1) introduce yourself to people when you enter a room 2) try to remember people’s names 3) fix your posture 4) always stay busy 5) if someone disrespects your time, don’t be so readily available for them the next time 6) replace sorry with thank you 7) take accountability when you actually do something wrong 8) stay in your authenticity 9) avoid emotional reactions 10) start regarding yourself as a highly respectable person 11) look at peoples actions rather than the role they play in your life 12) stop taking disrespect so personally 13) surround yourself with people you respect
Great advice but she's way too beautiful that it's so distracting it was very difficult to concentrate. However, I'm so fortunate that I found this channel ❤✌🙏
Yes, this is a good quote. But, alas, we live in a loud world. Very loud. In all ways!! Thus, one can keep silent or quiet as long as possible, but if a situation doesn't resolve itself after a long time, years sometimes, then one must put things and a fist on the table and also be loud and clear about what's going on. This does ask for a good deal of energy and righteous self confidence, but it's important to break miscommunication, corruption, etc. One can only do this the loud way. And either walk away afterwards, or if things change then continue in a more harmonious way. Not easy but efficient.
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@@dlemmon1276 Who gives a shit about people in a group that believes everything the "leader" is telling them about other people? Do you think these people are smart? I dont think so. They need control of other people because they are actually weak without the influence. I rather be surrounded by people who actually have a real talent instead of only being able to influence other people who cant even question what someone is telling them. Real talent to me is something like singing, painting, teaching important knowledge, if you are only a "leader" that can influence people and manipulate them, that doesnt mean you have any sorts of talent and you arent respected by me nor are the influenced people. I dont crave any of their attention ;)
I had a big realization a while ago when someone asked for my name and he immediately called me by it, and did it several more times that day. I realized that he was saying my name a lot in an effort to remember it, and that it isn't a bad thing if I can tell he's doing it. He even said the wrong name once and I corrected him, but it's okay because he was trying and that is polite.
Your videos are criminally underrated, so much advice on social media is all the same things being put into different words but your content feels so genuine and is beautifully articulate. Thank you for sharing all your advice ❤
When you're a respectful person, you attract respect from others, it's that simple. However, when you encounter a clown that doesn't respect you, it's not your fault, it's their up brining and bad attutide. Those you avoid like the plaque, because they will never change.
this is so true!! but remember that it's also okay to (and you should) stand your ground as long as you're not stepping into agresiveness (of course this also includes being passive-agressive), or mindless arguing.
I think taking accountability has been one of THE MOST liberating things I've learned on my 3 decade long spiritual journey (right up there with practicing radical Truth/Transparency). There's something about being able to be human and make mistakes and show that you can and will make the effort to correct them that is both humbling and empowering!
Respectability is SO NOT about how other people view us! Respectability is about how we show up. Do we keep our word? Do we respect other people's time and efforts? No amount of affirming "people see me as respectable" is going to "make" anyone respect us if we show up 20 minutes late and make empty promises! If we're having lunch with our friend and we tell our boss that we're entertaining clients, can you expect your friend to believe ANYTHING you tell her after that? The only thing we Truly own in this world is ourselves; our behavior; our word... If you don't respect your word enough to speak Truth then how can you expect anyone else to respect you? If you don't respect your word enough to do what you say you'll do, then what does your word really mean? Respectability is about personal integrity.
I broke up with a friend two days ago over the same thing!!! It’s so hard to try and prove to certain people that you’re not a bad person and you genuinely care about them and just expect them to own up. But they pin their insecurities onto to you and then disrespect you. Fast forward… I was gonna text this person but thank you!!! This video’s just saved my life by popping up on fyp.
How did it stop you? Cuz I am just going to text her back after watching this video😅 I mean I was.... Before reading ur comment. Now should I or should I not? 😭
It is really important to be around people who you genuinely respect to. I’ve recently cut some people off of my life because I lost my respect to them and keeping them would be absolutely toxic. I’m proud of what I have done and I am aware that my time & energy is precious ❤
I was such a people pleaser and still I had no friends. The ones I had did not respect me and treated me like I was not worth. But from the last year I detached them and made friends with the people that were better than me so that I grow. Honestly this video made me. I am 14 and I got all the answers that I needed thank you so much ❤️✨
I agree with a with a lot of these, don’t forget be yourself, and don’t change yourself to fit in with others, be the change you want to see, and be the person who people want to follow.
Great video! I feel like this content is way more than just "tricks" - it's about self awareness, realizing your power and self worth, personal growth etc.. really good stuff! Thank you for sharing ✨️
i love this video, i've always let people walk all over me and i'm ready for change! Saying "thank you" instead of "sorry" will also help me a lot. thank you!!
Wow. Recognize and accept people, then place them where they belong. ... thanks from a 64 year old. We learn something all the time. I'm working on remembering names!
I didn't saw the video yet but I gotta say Natalie if you read this, thank you so much for doing what you do here. Im a 24 year old man who still is figuring out what he wants to do with his life, how to cope loneliness and fear of being seen, and you are here helping me with my progress day after day. You help me embrace reality and hard to swallow pills that I needed to hear from a long time. I'm still trembling on this process of self development but I believe that some day I will feel better with who I am and accept life even though its not always what I want. Thank you again.
Thank you so much for this! As a 40 year old autistic man, I needed this break down of things. It gives me a framework with which to scaffold my philosophies on. I didn't even know I was autistic until 37 and I figured out that I went undiagnosed because people are one of my special interests, so I'm a chameleon able to fully empathize with others but this will help me stand on my own. Thank you from the deepest places in my heart. Namaste.
Same!! I found out adhd@38, which was the right neighborhood. Then at 40, discovered the AUT and it felt like I was home. I appreciate the detailing of ALL the social stuff. Once I learned I needed it explained, the fog lifted.
Girlyy, idk if you'll see this comment or not, but I believe in you!! 💗 We all struggle in some type of way, but it's all in how you learn to fix the struggles :)) I'm proud of you for just doing something simple like watching this video
I took a psychology class recently, and we had a chapter all about social psychology and it was WILD to me how many little things people do effect how others perceive them, or even how you perceive yourself. Awesome video Natalie!
thanks natalie. after tremendous friendship reshuffling that caused me to feel worse lol i realised i will not lower myself for anyone just for their company. its better to value and respect my thoughts.
Me too.😊 I’d rather be alone & have no friends in my life than several of the “pretend friends that are always there for me when they need something from me but when I need something from them for a change they never make time for me or seem willing & happy to reciprocate with any help for me unless they benefit somehow. Reminds me of the song by Janet Jackson: “What have you done for me lately ?” If the answer is always nothing from people in our lives it’s time to let them go & make space for people who know how a healthy relationship can work- Give & take -balanced not people always : •Taking us for granted • Taking advantage of our generosity •Taking everything they can get from us Never Taking time for us I’m finally done being a doormat that has “Welcome Users& Losers” written all over it. This is me standing up for myself & changing how I allow people to treat me. I haven’t watched this video yet but when it came up randomly in my feed I saw the title & that was perfect timing.
"Gaining other people's respect has everything to do with the level of self-respect you have inside." "Stand in your authenticity; authenticity is one of the purest energies that you can work."
I treat others how I'd want to be treated by default (as i was taught by family) but when someone disrespects me deliberately, I put em in check that I'm not to be taken advantage of. I'm no door mat. ❤
My immediate thoughts when I saw this video’s title. (which is great info btw for someone who needs to hear it). Once you’ve established your identity & self-worth & go into the world as a good person w/ no ill will towards others (be optimistic & understand that everyone is flawed as you are too)…more positivity just naturally comes back to you. Seeking respect from others is basically seeking validation from strangers-respect everyone but expecting something in return is going to leave you w/ some disappointments. Be forgiving of others. Entitlement is annoying AF & not everyone will be able to follow these tips successfully because of who we are innately. Some ppl continue to go into the world blind as a bat despite seeking positive changes. I personally know some ppl like this so this is based on my own experience.
you say that but for 5 years i’ve been like what you said but words get to you, the constant indirect disrespect will make you feel so worthless one day or another, thus i think this video is important to people like me
@@laiba_hussain3169 you are bound to take it personally when its being done fro 5 years, one day or another or maybe you have a shield unlike me. i hope you understand this video might not resonate with you but it resonates to weak people like me ❤️
Respect has to be earned. You don't have to respect others if they havent earned it - you should always give people courtesy and expect courtesy in return. I believe you are getting an understanding, but still need to review the fundamentals as I've stated. I admire that this is important and matters to you. Best of luck in your business and personal life.
Fascinating ! I always introduce myself boldly when I walk into a room , and I always find it to feel strange that this is not normal !!!!! Respect yourself people !
I do this all the time especially with authority figures and superiors..I'm a human you'll treat me as such, you dont run me and I'll make you understand why you don't whether you like it or not 😊🤧
Thank you! I just started working at a correctional facility as a mental health professional. I'm not easily intimidated although this is a completely different environment, and not just because of the inmates but also all the staff members--- alot of them have been there for years and some of them look at "new blood" like we don't know anything.
16:28 *is something more people need to hear if they let other people impact their self-worth by disrespecting others.* _You are very smart and give good advice I must say._ _Thank you for sharing that advice!_
Thank you Natalie for sharing!❤ Absolutely, preferring to hang around with people doing less & Not hanging out with others above ourselves is a loser’s mindset. Always be around inspiring people to grow! ❤
It is mind- boggling to me how you seem to have at least 200 years of wisdom packed into such a young soul! And you are absolutely beautiful too! You have amazed me today! Thank you for your life changing work.
Amazing, I know the title is about gaining respect from others, but throughout the video there’s more life lessons she gives and honestly whole video is so worth listening to❤
I don’t usually comment on people’s videos much but this video! Damn. Everything every single thing you said is so true and insightful! Thank you for this! ❤
Nice metaphor about the two trees that were close together with the bird choosing to go above. Nice work. You are inducted into the top 1/2 % of society.
It's hard for me to make people respect me because at the the first place i don't respect myself either, that's why I'm learning my own ways to make myself be respectable and as i scrolling on yt I accidentally saw your content and I watch it and it helps me a lot to gain respect from the people who doesn't know how ti respect, thanks a lot.
"Recognize and accept people, then place them where they belong." I'd add: "...and do it sooner than later!" What an excellent video. Best of luck with what you're doing, you're already great!
I’m a high rank corporate manager, I direct people and operations everyday. My job is a mind f***. Everything in my job is about people respecting me, sometimes they step out wether intentionally or unintentionally - either way I have to bring them back to reality, sometimes in group discussions or 1:1’s - I need to assert myself and let them know this isn’t a game in a strategic or blunt manner. This video is super useful!
Could you please give me some advice. I’m a new manager and I’ve had a lot of trouble with my team. I’ve been working in my position for a year now and have already had several incidents at work because people were disrespectful towards me, in particular two women that grew to dislike me and I feel that they are jealous of me and aiming for my job. I think the biggest issue is that I am the youngest one in our office and my looks don’t help either, as all issues I had were with those same two women. Another problem is that they all have more experience than me in this particular field of work even though I have advanced degrees that they don’t and experience in other similar areas. I don’t even know what I did wrong to begin with other than probably be too nice and approachable. I usually never have problems with women and I generally love working with them but these two are something else…
Brother is a manager of a bank and he’s one of the most disrespectful people I have ever met . He is a complete narcissist and only respects himself and wants control. A lot of people don’t understand how to be in leader roles .
Instead of criticism and things aren't done right, complement when things are right. I would suggest reading the New York times bestseller the go giver. Good luck!!
I found journaling helps me a lot more than I thought. School for me has been a huge struggle not just with work but with friends and teachers too. Being misunderstood and alone. Just writing my day and thoughts down no matter how bad or depressing they are it genuinely helps. Had a little cry after and I’m good now, still sad but atleast I’m not holding all my emotions in yknow
Nice tips, I feel like the “sorry” one is super important. How we talk to ourselves matters the most. Remember your conscious only knows and can reflect from one person YOU. So even when your bad language is aimed elsewhere it’s truly impacting only yourself. Use words wisely🙏🏼💫
My son-in-law totally disrespects me yet I truly love him. He actually says he’s going to take a “ Cindy” when he’s referring to a bowel movement. He never says hi to me when I enter his house and finds fault with everything I say or do. My daughter laughs it off but it’s extremely hurtful. I’m 74 yrs old and treated with no respect.
Why does he feel like it’s okay to speak to you this way? Take accountability for yourself as well. Does he speak to everyone this way? If so, speak up and set a boundary and tell him he’s being disrespectful. Him and your daughter are not a package deal. She can go over to your home (alone) to speak with you and if she’s bringing him tell her she can’t come.
I burned bridges with someone that disrespected me, if I just avoided and distanced myself from this person the result would be much better. Now that person knows that they have the power to hurt me and use it to their advantage. I'll remember your words for next time "accept the person for what they are, place them where they belong". Thank you so much! ❤
i hadn't thought about that last advice i think i have to let go of people that don't help me to improve myself and it's hard because sometimes we are so attached to someone that we think we'll never find someone better,but you're right,we have to surround ourselves with people we respect i love your videos ,thanks Natalie Greetings from Nicaragua 🇳🇮
Yep I really got out of the sorry thing. And I specifically will say “thank you” like *thanks for bringing that to my attention so I can make a more informed decision if the opportunity presents itself in the future* . Bc I heard somewhere we need to stop saying sorry for existing. I’m not sorry I’m here and I’m happy to learn how to be better going forward, gracefully and w/ dignity. And reducing your attachment/ level of engagement to ppl who clearly don’t fw you is very rewarding bc you dont feel taken advantage of bc you have given way more of yourself to someone who doesn’t care as much for you.
When you walk into a room and are so confident - people really begin to hate you so much - especially women -but men just walk away from you and want nothing to do with you
When I walk into a room confident......women hate me but all the guys want to talk to me......then it makes the women hate me even more ( do I care...NO)😜
I love that each point led into the next or the one after quite seamlessly. I appreciate the advice you shared here and will absolutely work on implementing these into my life. Thank you!
Literally one of the best videos I have seen in my life !!! You motivated me so hard !!! I will be watching this video first thing in the morning every day, to teach myself some of your precious lessons you just gave !!! Thank you so much !!!
She has just explained my whole life in just 20 minutes 😊 Thank God i recognise myself, and I'm working hard on my growing, though it's tough. Thank you Natalie
Fake it until you make it. Some people have learned from life how to have a good character and have not succumbed to circumstances or a difficult childhood, while others have succumbed to life and have not learned its lessons, so they must strive to reach the strong personality that suits them. That’s why you need to fake it until you make it and it’s not about being fake or lie! How do you think actors perform their roles professionally? They don't just act; they embody the role, feeling and behaving based on the character, emotions, movements, and actions that we see especially in the series, since they are all realistic, and the actors truly cry in sad scenes.
Maybe I’m a snob but people with a strong physique I dont give respect to. I give respect to people who deserve my respect. Just cuz someone is strong physically doesn’t seem respectable in itself to me.
Seriously, I’m 54, well traveled, well educated, know my way around the world and have street smarts, I’m not bad looking especially for my age because I was an athlete in college and I guess I look much younger. I really like you and your advice and point of view!! Excellent video!! Thanks to this video I just deleted the number of this young woman that has been coming and going and was very disrespectful to the point I think she’s a narcissist! I’m distancing myself from the trashy, bad vibes, people, no matter how attractive or talented they are 😂✌🏻
Thank you so much for the English subtitles!! I respect RU-vidrs who think about the people who their first languages aren’t English!! I can more understand your video!!🙏🏻🌟🌟🌟🌟
Very wise. I learned that at work we should be friendly but not friends with coworkers, especially if you are in charge or have a higher position in the work hierarchy.
I loved your approach and your way of talking about these uncomfortable situations Proud to see someone so young, so clearly explaining /teaching other people how to deal with disrespectful people that sadly happened to be the majority cause there’s a lot to do with envy (about what????) or jealousy when actually they want you to feel as miserable as they feel about themselves - bravo, girl 👏♥️😍🤩🤗😁
