The most attractive thing about introverts is that they don't need you, they are not needy dead-weights. They're with you because they want to, they spend time with you only because they enjoy your company. Thus every day a introvert chooses to spend with you is a compliment.
I am an introvert. I am frightened of the potential of humans. Thus, I keep my distance from all. I have nobody for company. I have chosen a reclusive lifestyle to maximise the possibility of horrible social events that took place in 2000 not repeating again. I learn from my mistakes. What I have learned from one of my mistakes is that I am safer and better without humans in my life. The ancient instinct to herd will always be there. But the beauty of being a homo sapien is the ability to deny ancient instincts and not act on them. No other animal can do that.
For me I always automatically prepare scenarios of conversation with someone and then its outcome and of the outcome isn't suitable according to me .I won't talk😅😅
Pro tip for introverts: you are most attractive when you’re not seeking attention, as soon as you try to act like an extrovert, things will turn awkward real quick.
Mark Reyes True because I’m a social introvert but am only very social when it’s a subject that I can relate to or a deep conversation and then learning from them too 😎
LOL bullshit My little brother is Extremely rude. My mother is too. Both introverts.. So after having seen over 25,000 people a day and arresting 3-5 people a day I certainly got to the point where I knew who was waiting to steal and who was thinking about it as they came in the door. non verbals were everywhere all over them. Introverts to me are sooo bad at non-verbals and fear communication like most kids overly fear maths at school.. To me most people are very immature, the stats are that 95% of people use less than 5% of their listening skills. So I ask you to make some little logical steps and see that their are going to be people who are scared to talk and have so much fear that they just keep to themselves, they have learnt that they get drained of energy if they have people talking at them which is natural if you have bad "Active Listening skills" or non at all... I come from an exclusive group of people who are far more effected by people and their sounds, movements, non verbals, noticeable emotional changes. Most people who have my curse are overwhelmed with depression or are autistic being unable to deal with the shear amount of information to their frontal lobe. to then 2 years later be able to remember clearly as if it is a video recording. So for me to look at a group of people who dodge society and call themselves introverts I scoff and laugh a little at their puny "im different, look at tiny shy me" type of "protest" LOL Some of us are trying to survive out here and other are just Dumb pricks.. the rest are like cows to us who use so much of our brain its scary what we can accomplish.
Them : She is quiet. She hardly talks. Is she okay? Me in my head : please don't come here. I am fine. I am just reserved. I don't want to be part of your not so deep discussions. Edit : 1.1k likes! Thank you guys so much❤
The annoying thing that us introverts dont understand: Our whole point of existence is to avoid people, but somehow we're the ones that attract all the attention 😑
But over a period of time your opinion and point of view will be more respected. People will realize you are more trustworthy. Basically you become everyone’s guru.
People have been asking me that too. Every time I tried to answer, hoping that they would leave me alone after that or start talking about something else, they kept adding more questions, making me more and more uncomfortable.
There was this girl in class that was about to start a presentation and seemed very nervous, so I fixed my eyes on hers all the way through and she noticeable seemed more confident and comfortable when speaking out. I do that everytime someone seems anxious, they fix their eyes on mine as well and they just do a great job presenting a topic I believe that we can be very influential and comforting people
That's very thoughtful and extremely inspiring, selfless acts aimed towards others whom we don't or barely know could change the world if everyone did it everyday! But I also think one person doing it one time at the right time could change the world either way it's an awesome thing to do and we need more people like you and me because I do stuff like that any chance I get. And I'm glad to know there's other people willing to do things simply to help another with no gain or underlying goal.
I can't believe this, it kind of list all the things I thought people will never get, being an introvert is like. We often get blamed for being mysterious and weird, but they don't understand that there are reasons for it.
I think we're so attractive because us introverts don't need anyone. You never catch us really being needy. We're satisfied in our own skin. There's a lot of power in not needing validation.
me at work and life in general. sucks some times to be like a ghost. but gives me a lot of time to come up with great stories and thoughts about things.
Same! Whenever at parties I observe things that others dont and try to hold my laughter in when I realise that someone is doing or saying something funny unintentionally
As an introvert, I can tell, when someone is faking friendships, I can tell when someone doesn't like me. Is moody and the only way out, is put a fence and deny or LIMIT your access to me. 🤣🤣
I’m an introvert and someone pretended to be my friend for 2 years before he moved schools. I didn’t realize he was faking for another 3 years after that. I haven’t seen him since and I don’t really care. Lol
The things you two said I can relate to 100%, except when it came down to my "friend" I was the one who moved schools (homescool). And I am extremely happy my parents took me out of public school!
Yep, can relate to the previous comments. I had a friend. He was my best friend (or i thought) We were together through primary school and high-school. But after that he went to University. In university he changed drastically. I wasn't important anymore for him. I was thrown away like garbage.
With all the CHAOS going around (Coronavirus Madness) I've never been more happy to be an introvert! I definitely won't have a problem with social distancing LMAO!!😎
I'm an introvert, and this is all true. Daydreaming is brilliant. Having the ability to enter your own world, do whatever you want. Years ago back in high school, I would daydream a lot in class. I'm one of those weird people that love dreary, grey, rainy, cold and foggy days. Find it relaxing and comforting. I can think clearer during that weather. I'd love to drive on a road through a forest whilst it's foggy, rainy and cold. I've been more interested in art and writing. Writing a few books right now. I'm currently doing a photography course at University. I also did a graphic design course last year. During this Covid, us introverts love it that we can stay home. We don't have to go out and socialise, we don't have to deal with presenting in front of people, we can sit at home and work. Being an introvert is awesome. I'm 20 by the way.
I am an ambivert so I am both intro and extroverted. But I can totally relate to everything you said. I loved quarantine as I can stay home and away from all of the noises of the outer world. However, I like going out sometimes too. Basically being an ambivert, I can go either way. I love being flexible and having the traits of intro and extroverts, but it can get tiring. Yes I love daydreaming but still stay realistic too. However, daydreaming is a good refuge to deal with stress.
I'm an introvert, afraid of attention , my officemates think I'm weird and snob because I don't talk too much. They don't know that I can be talkative too if I'm with my friends because I'm comfortable with them.
We are so attractive because we are so attached and attracted to our own selves. We don't have room for the none sense talks, toxic talks, or others people drama Our time is too precious, and we love our own company. This video describes exactly how I am, and who I am. Thank you Brainy Dose. You rock.👍👍👍🙂😃
It is so wonderful to finally accept myself. My whole life I have thought that there is something wrong with me. Now I know, i am an introvert and PROUD of it❤️
We don’t judge anyone and receive everyone the way they are. We dont like someone sharing too much personal information and we don’t mind to stop them if it’s too much unnecessary. We be quite and listen to a friend when needed and don’t rush to give advise just coz they are sharing their feelings with us we give suggestions only when we feel they are asking for it and help in all conditions. We like texting over talking with others and love to talk/meet instead of texting with loved ones
"I can't hear you" "scream it" "Why is she/he doing nothing?" "Come sit at the front" "You're so innocent" "You need to talk more" "What's your idea?" "I think I'm talking too much, I'll let you lead the conversation" "Speak your mind" "I didn't notice you!" "You came in the room like a ninja!" Story of our lives
I'm an introvert,and me too they think I'm a snob.. it's just bcoz I don't want to communicate to other people that much..and I am more comfortable to talk to strangers in a short period of time bcoz it's a less act of judgement from them
That's is so true, been called a snob since I could talk, only for some that stumbled on me having a great relationship with someone they know and the surprise is always amusing to me, some of them will ask how my friend got to be with me, lol.
Anthony 50 lol you really be doing that as a 52 year old, their are plenty of married introverts out their, quit spreading that hate, all it will do is hurt people
Sadly, it seems like if you aren't willing to join in the "group" discussion (trivial or overly personal talk that can get obnoxious) you can be viewed as above everyone else and get an elitist vibe. *eyeroll*
what attracted me to my introvert friend was she was very good at sketching and i always wanted to be atleast decent at drawing so i befriended her to get some pointers.. she talked less but when we converse it never felt like an idle chatter..its very calming when we find a good scenery to sketch, find a good spot and just sketch untill the sun set..its so chill whenever im around her..
I'm an Introvert and to be honest I can't draw in my life I just can't do it, I can barely draw a stick man! But I do know a lot of people who are exactly like that lets just say there are a lot of Introverts in my group! 🤣😂
As an introvert, it's really hard to find a real friend. We need him/her to be loyal, normal, and self confident, and so many people think we like them, but really we don't.
As an introvert I have a small group of much loved friends - known each other for years been thru milestones in their lives - I cherish their love and friendship - they get me! I love and respect them for that 💕
Love yourself and manifest true friends. You attract what you are so become confident and heal yourself not insecure and a self loather. We can be free and don't have to beat ourselves up because we don't appreciate ourselves. Been there done that.
I'm not sure about attractive, but I'm definitely an Introvert. It was hard to admit it, but when I embrace it my life has changed and now I'm proud of who I am.
we are reserved and don't need useless low iq drama so we stay single rather than having someome who's just interested in playing games and can't have deep conversations
happened to me a lot man..feels like we don't belong from this world so we stay alone due to high standards and have difficulty understanding people which only causes more anxiety and fear of wasting time
Please, kmt. As if its only "extroverts" that start drama. You entitled, higher than thou introverts on the internet are absolutely infuriating! Can't you just recognise the good things about your personality without dragging extroverts down? It is so stupid, these complexes applied to race, gender, age, social class is what causes these stupid issues in society which ppl like you perpetuate.😒
I am sitting here, as an extovert and I have all these "so called" introverted traits. I believe that the only difference between introverts and extroverts is mode of expression NOT mode of thought, goals, ect that is deluded to think imo. Non of us are special. Ffs. This whole topic really vexes me as you can tell because these ideas are destructive and not constructive
I’m definitely an introvert I always have been since I was a baby However when I’m really comfortable I can be loud around them and crazy - - Wow thank you for the likes! (^з^)-☆
I hear ya, as i have the same problem, and sometimes when i think of the sentence while saying it, i tend to forget the last word and people usually say the last word before i can remember it again :/
It's because we talk rearly, I guess. When the time I did public speaking frequently, I didn't have that problem, but after sometime, I had the same issue.
In my school.. Teachers says: You all need to social distancing. I know. . . I know. . . it's hard- Me: *No it's not hard. I'm expert in it since there's no covid.*
Introverts evoke a lot of envy in others as to how they can be so content with themselves and can go through challenges and hardship so gracefully without complaining. I am surrounded by quite a toxic people who long to see me break down and they hate that despite all the troubles they create for me I continue to smile and rarely show a sign of distress. It greatly pisses them off.
Introverts do think outside the box.!!! They are very open minded and they like the learning concept of new things rather than having a closed mind.!!! Not having a open mind you don't allow yourself of learning new ideas.!!!
Brainy Dose you're definitely badass! You told it like it is. All 13 qualities are me. It just breaks my heart that I struggle with finding someone to accept me that wants to be with me. Friendships are hard to make because most people are fake and I see it. Thanks again Brainy Dose! Tony D
I am an introvert and same here but when i make relationship with someone it's serious, but if the person choses not to talk i won't push it and just forget about it) I hope we introverts can meet each other someday and make a great relationship) hold on there fellow introverts we are gonna go Through everything
Were almost the same..i prefer to be alone 😊.amd they wanted to be frnds with me..they ask me to hang out..but its a no for me to hang out those people i dont want to be part of my life.....
I rarely interact with new people anymore. I've been married for 26 years and my beautiful wife is nearly my complete opposite. She brings a whole different set of colors to life. She helps me stay honest within my head. I also have 3 daughters. The unconditional love I have for them make me feel vulnerable but I wouldn't change it for anything. Make sure that when you find someone that you share everything upfront. Its what has kept us together. Enjoy life. Dream big. And do the things that make you happy.
I am an introvert 1)In group conversation : if anyone interrupt me taking I stop and think the thing I was saying is not important y should I continue 2)In arguments : being the looser to avoid arguments 3)(As i am good listener people share their problems)Suggesting : I don't say u do this, it's better I say how i dealed with such situation 4)Difficult thing to bare : someone is in problematic situation because of me 5)Compromising or adjusting is often in life(in every situation ,most of the life) 6)Not feeling to share problems
i am the same with all of these. for number 1, i started just walking away if interrupted because i listen to others and give as best feed back as i can. why cant the group or person i talking to do the same? if not, not worth my time or feed back.
Others:Introverts are antisocial Me:We are not antisocial we enjoy very much socialising with the right people at the right moments for the right amount of time👍 OMG 😱 I haven't got that much likes in my life ever thank you so much for liking my comment 🥺
You can't find introvert in the crowd.were in the corner observing everyone the way they talked.the way they smile.how they react on things.we notice the smallest things and reaction
And we ban a person for life when he/she get into our bad side, really, really, really bad side. We often don't care much but if we think of that person as a BIG X. With Multiple XXXX in bold and red that mean they really had done bad on our terms. We remember for life what they had said and done.
@@georgeturner301 Good for you. Usually Introverts get better with dealing with people as they grow older. But maybe there are still those who struggle with the identity that they do not think like other people. I think its partly they have not found the right friends who they can be themselves? I do not mean that those friends have to understand you inside out or how your mind really works. But once you find ppl who can make you comfortable and they can rely on you w/o taking advantage. The life of introvert is complete. Hahaha. Anyway for me, I.do not know why there are just ppl, when I see, I just don't like them and most of the time, they do turn out to be not a sincere kind of person. And I would avoid them like a plague, the lesser the interaction the better. I think introverts have harder time b4 30s.
The following link might help you to get less problems with criticism. Maybe it helps you, too. The example in this text about arts and how critique influences us. As far as I read it is pretty good. ^^ design.tutsplus.com/articles/dont-take-it-personally-how-to-make-critique-work-for-you--cms-21670
maybe not underrated, but the terms "introvert" and "extrovert" is kind of.... unknown.. not everyone knows which one they are. or rather, if i say that i want to be alone no-one understands that
I’m an introvert... I get exhausted being in groups of people for long periods of time and I can agree with most of what was said in the video! I always wondered why people would be so keen on talking to me/being my friend when I just always mind my own business. I never went out of my way to make friends, they’ve always just came to me, it’s weird, just realized this after watching this!!!!
everytime i walk they watch me everytime i talk , the whole people in conversation suddlenly silent everytime i laugh those people respon it positively. then i realize , they dont really care about me, they just wanna see how this kind of people interact with others.
A true introvert can't survive without "Hermit mode" an introvert can simply disappear for weeks or even months, just like that. They love their own company, it's how they decompress and find oneself again i.e. Recharge.
Well, I said "I am an introvert" to my friends so they can understand if I don't want to go out too much, and they said "don't branded yourself, u just need to do it ". And I was like, ok but not everyone is the same :/ Not everyone enjoy going out, hanging out, or just doing small talks Not everyone enjoy outdoor activities Not everyone can be talkative Please just understand that everybodey is different than u :) Hv a good day everyone!!
Your friends should be more understanding of your personality and respect your boundaries. Because them asking you to suck it up and go out with them in situations that don't make you comfortable and deplete your energy would be like you forcing them to stay inside all the time and never go out, which saps their energy too.
@@Bad_At_Parties unfortunately I still haven't found any friend who understand or want to understand at least. They just simply brush me off when I said I need some time alone and that I'm exhausted, they said it like : if u don't want to go out with me then just say it, don't make reasons. So yeah, it's hard being an introvert sometimes. For those who are introvert like me tho, who will have a headache if u go out to a crowded place for too long, or when u feel so alone in the middle of the crowd *ending up breaking down when u reached your comfort space, and have this fear of people, just be your self. Don't be a fake version of yourself just to please others. Because there are someone out there who will accept u as u are. Even if that took a long time, some maybe lucky and already find it, or not so lucky like me. Because, like me, I was labelling myself as worthless just because I can't be like everyone else and got into depression but in the end I realize that we don't need someone who don't care. Let it go. Just love your un perfect self, and be that someone who always support your own self, u need it and u deserve it.
Being an introvert is a double edge sword. Maybe even more so for the attractive ones. I’m attractive and when women see me they often drop jaws, turn necks, hell even stare at me when I walk away. I’m so shy, It’s mythical to approach a girl. With one irrational reason after another, I can’t seem bring myself together to do it. I freeze up, and they freeze up. It seems it is just as hard for women to approach me. Nothing ever happens. I don’t want to be single. I feel like me changing Is inevitable for me to get what I want. Some women do speak to me first and when that happens, it’s usually so subtle that I wouldn’t know how to keep it going. My responses tend to be short and to the point. -.- It gives them nothing to go off of. My charisma is stupendously stupid to strangers, that’s probably my biggest limiting belief and I don’t know how to change that with out experience. I feel like rejection, humility and disappointment is ahead of me. It’s probably why I’m not a go getter yet. It’s the irrational fear that holds me back. I have to believe that all of these things will be a Healthy experience. My anxiety freezes me up or makes me stutter, that alone is extremely discouraging. Being an introvert is a gift? I get that I have a lot of these qualities. I have a friend that Iv known since I was three years old. I do take care of my friends like family. They are the family we choose. I know I’m good guy. It’s just hard to feel gifted when our problems are so stupid and simple, for an extrovert.
In my early 20's, I went 100% on bodybuilding and optimized my looks. At my best, I was told by friends that I was prob a 8/10. This journey was to combat my insecurities and weaknesses. However, even when I had multiple definition lines, healthy as a horse, I was still introverted. I learned to identify and embrace the perks of my personality type. After joining the Army, I really realized just how introverted I was. When everyone in your platoon tells you that you talk less than anyone, you just know. But, I'm unique and I'm one of the favorites. It took me until mid-late twenties to be proud of how reserved I am, and how strong certain senses are. I still envy extroverts periodically. Just be calm and let yourself just flow, dont fight yourself in this way.
As long as I get my morning alone time. This includes my meditation, stretching, workouts, readings etcc.. I'm able to recharge and become more sociable later in the day. I really love this content and it affirms that you can use what are as an advantage 🙏💜
@Vianna Janelle Depends on how I schedule things on top of work/ how productive I am I do finish around 9pm lmooo 😂🙏but I do wake up early and get most of it done beforehand.
Wow! You that is so me as well. I have that very same morning routine tea and silence, reading, meditation, working out all before the kids and the hubby wake up. I love it and NEED it! Without that time I feel irritable and cranky
We introverts speak lessly ,always finds comfortable at being 'alone time'. We love spending time mostly with nature🍀🌱🌵🐹🐰🦔🦢; enjoying their beauty. And also as said in the video, we think beyond the boxes😬☘️
Yeah it's good to be an introvert, it's bad too, as sometimes we expect too much, if we are hurt, we can not share our feelings to anyone simply, sometimes people just don't understand us but thankyou for the video❤️
I had a very basic understanding of introvert & extrovert, but just started diving into it. Glad to get some answers about my personality (introvert) in-depth and know I'm not just strange because I prefer alone time and loathe small talk.
Happen to me at school couple years ago when my friend absent and I was at library sitting alone but there is group of girls came and asked if they can sit with me and I don't know what wrong with my mind I just instantly said yes. I'm so nervous because I'm not really good at talking with girls and most of time in school I was only with my friends so this is bad situation for me. Luckily,they actually nice and they want to know more about me like what I like and etcetera.After that yeah they always come hang out with me more and my friends curious af how girls be friends with me.
During this quarantine I immensely enjoy being on my own. No doorbell to answer, no people on the road when I run for errands. Fresh air, the quite aura around me. Simply Magic!!!!
If you are much more aware of yourself, being able to look at you through other points of view, all the more power!! This means you are open to learning new things.
