13 THINGS MENTALLY STRONG PEOPLE DON'T DO by Amy Morin | Core Message 

Summary of 13 things successful people are NOT doing. @7:46: 1. Stop feeling the world owes them anything 2. Stop feeling sorry for themselves 3. Stop resenting other people's success 4. Stop wasting energy they can't control 5. Stop dwelling in the past 6. Stop letting other people's opinion dictates their life 7. Stop worrying about and pleasing everyone 8. Stop making the same mistakes over and over 9. Stop shying away from changes 10. Stop fearing about taking calculated risks 11. Stop expecting immediate results 12. Stop giving up after a first failure 13. Stop fearing about spending time alone

Mentally strong people make mistakes. Be gentle on yourself.

Everyone reading this may you live a Successful life. Your brother is praying for you.

“When we hate our enemies, we are giving them power over us: power over our sleep, our appetites, our blood pressure, our health, and our happiness." -DALE CARNEGIE

“If you want to avoid repeating a mistake, spend some time studying it. Set any negative feelings you might have aside, acknowledge the factors that led up to your misstep, and learn from it.” ― Amy Morin, 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do.

Lost my young wife, son, brother, some close friends in disease and accidents and moved on without regreting my life choices who ended up like that. And that paper burning thing wont work att all. Its in your mind if you stay in the land of sorrow or move on. Not in smashed or burning things. When you look back. Look at the happy moments and not the bad and give full throttle to the next thing in life. Its all to short already to dwell in the past. But i agree in, learn by your mistakes and treat those moments like an experience of things who didnt work out that good for you or maybe was just great. And dont forget, listen to friendly advices but in the end make your own. And last, smile sometimes. One day its over no matter what. Take care. ♥️👍

Instead of saying, "no more", say, " I want to know more." The power of knowledge is a most remarkable thing. Also, a mistake is not a mistake if it is corrected.

The part Amy missed is, it's not just mentally strong but emotionally strong as well- this is where people excel the most. I love the saying "protect your heart, your mind and your wallet".

I hope you read this You have changed my life a lot Thank you very much Stay safe and stay blessed

Summary for myself: 1) Mentally strong people don't feel the world owes them anything: Just because you are a 'good' person, does not mean you deserve something more than another. Something bad happened in your life? Think about others who have it worse and what you have in your life to still be grateful. 2) Mentally strong people don't focus on things they can't control: This is similar to the 'circle of influence' concept. Focus on the things you CAN control and how you react to situations. 3) Mentally strong people don't make the same mistake over and over again: They ask 'why' the mistake happened in the first place and then determine ways to prevent it happening again.

I needed this video now more than ever ! Thank you youtube recommendation. Amongst everything happening in this world due to COVID 19, I am about to loose everything I worked for in the past 3 years. My life has come to a stop. And I can't find a way out. I have been angry and frustrated. With no one to talk to. This gave me some comfort.

One of the most helpful things I have found to avoid getting pulled down into the muck of someone's words or actions is I have learned to minimize (I won't say "not care") the importance of what other people think of me. If I know I am doing the best I can in any circumstances, that is all I can do. If my best isn't good enough for them, then it is out of my control. Trying to please people who disagree with us is the wrong path. When you keep high standards of behavior and thought, you don't need to make someone else your master.

This incorporates the most important parts of Stoic philosophy which was around in the third century BC.

I know my mistakes, my emotions are hard to get around... so I pray , too,

All of these insights were great and very helpful. As a psychologist and counsellor I found this very nicely summarised and succinctly put. My only criticism is of the title of the book and this subsequent video, namely because using the title mentally 'strong' by it's very nature suggests that people who do not do these things, are in the opposite 'camp' and are therefore mentally 'weak'. Weak being opposite to strong, this is not a good starting point for people to begin from, to be told that by not thinking a certain way, that they are 'mentally WEAK'. Apart from this shortfall, this is an excellent article.

This was timely. I had watched her TED talk and forgotten some of its passages, so thank you for reminding them.

Mentally strong people still will dwell on losing their job but they won't freak and try to learn from it. Some very mentally strong people will dwell on the past but the difference is they will use the negative and turn into a positive force, perfect example Michael Jordan.He also obsessed of what others thought of him to fuel his fire.

Oh oh oh... I read this book 2 months back, and LOVED it ! After watching your video, I realized that this would be the PERFECT time to re-read this book, during these difficult days. Let me get my kindle! Thank for a great video, and a beautiful choice of book at this time! We need all the mental strength we can muster at this point of time!

The other side of No1 is feeling you don't deserve good fortune or getting something you feel you haven't earned.

This is an excellent video, which should be taught to schoolchildren whilst young. It basically summarises everything I learned whilst in the Military some forty years ago.

I have never thought of things I deserve, only what I can achieve thru hard work. Everything I dont have is because choices I make or dont make

I LOVE my alone time !!!

I don't agree with comparing on thinking of the people who are less fortunate just to feel good about yourselves. For sure even the person in a dire situation has also something to be grateful.

At this point I would like to make a distinction. You have one metaphor for experienced equestrians, and another for novices and those who have never ridden. The "Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and get back on again." saying, applies to experienced equestrians because they know why they hit the dirt every single time and unless you are trying to be an experienced equestrian it fits poorly. If you are a novice, then it fits but only occasionally. If you are a nonequestrian who is trying it out, it is inadvisable unless you are being coached by someone who has the fruit on the tree. If you are in any stage of becoming a Rodeo Cowboy or Cowgirl, then you damned well better do it. As a metaphor for life it works because laying down, becoming depressed and giving up all come from the same source, inactivity and not understanding. A senseless feeling of pain that robs you of the will to do. Amy Morin may be a trained psychotherapist but she is mixing her metaphors and I do not trust her ability with good reason. I don't need to list my setbacks, losses, tragedies and the times I was betrayed by someone I trusted and loved, to know that ""Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and get back on again." works and you have plenty of time to think about why you bucked off in between the time you hit the dirt and when you get back in the saddle. I won't say it doesn't hurt, when someone you love dies or your business partner embezzles the money from your company, or you get a divorce, because it does. What I will say is pain and tragedy is no excuse for not moving forward. If all you can do is crawl, then crawl forward. If all you can do are baby steps, then baby step your way forward. Eventually, you will run if you just don't quit. 9 times out of 10 people quit when they could have won; could have pushed through the pain. The 10th time they were in a no win situation through no fault of their own, and most of the time, if we are honest, we get into no win situations because we made hasty, ill advised or just plain bad decisions. Like this one it screams bad decision making paradigm, "I am waiting for my ship to come in." If you want to know why, just say this, "That's great. When did you send your ship out?" Then watch as they give you a blank stare. Amy Morin in saying "they don't make the same mistake over and over." is oversimplifying the problem, then she make that stupid statement about a saying. Also women can't always control their thoughts and emotions, but men can. It has to do with the number of neural pathways that connect the halves of the brain, and it is biology. I can just shut my mind off and think about nothing. All men can do that, but with time and practice I learned how to turn off my emotions and my thoughts. It is like how you cannot be afraid and angry at the same time. And all the women reading this will disagree, but it is true for men. But you cannot control the consequences of a decision, another person's reaction to what you do or say, no matter how you phrase it, or what is done to you by another person. And since I am commenting as a mentally strong person I will say the following. No they do not make the same mistake over and over, they try different things and make all new mistakes. There is a simple reason for it. We learn by either being instructed by someone who has already made their mistakes and learned from them, or by making mistakes ourselves. IF you are very smart, then you can watch someone who is pretty smart themselves make a mistake and learn that way. But almost 100% of people over estimate their abilities and their intelligence, until after they have made a few mistakes and paid the price for them. (I got that from a clinical psychologist who is very good at his job.) So something is really messed up here, the book or your treatment of it, I can't say for sure which. So Cowboy up, and fix it!

This is the most followed RU-vid channel for me!! For sure the influence is humongous. Thank you, best wishes to you 🙏

also can we take a moment and acknowledge sometimes the world does owe you something? Maybe if you employer is treating you unfairly, you should join a union and fight for the rights that are owed to you. Maybe if you are being discriminated against due to you identity, you should stand up for the rights you are owed. Maybe if there's a system that will always put you down due to your gender, you should feel you are owed something more. Or taking the example of losing people you love, I'd like to think we live in a society were it is morally acknowledged that when people lose their loved ones we owe it to them to just give them time to get back on their feet.

I LOVED this video and was going to share it with my clients who struggle with co-occurring addiction and mental health issues. The ONE part where you say that you're not like the alcoholic that keeps going back to drinking, over and over.... doesn't fit. Addiction, being a chemical dependency on an external substance, is not just a "mistake" they can just quit. Love the video, but I won't be sharing with them sadly. Aside from this one thing, it's well done and will work for the right population.

Thank you so much for this. I was sent this video by a friend weeks ago but was putting it off out of fear. I’m ready to take the necessary steps to start living my life

The summary was precise, visually appealing and informative. Thank you for creating and sharing!

I am therapist trying help people not give up with organic medicine and things they can do at home such as yoga/ stretching.

RU-vid needs more videos like this.....this is a productive use of online media...knowledge is truth...now subscribed

I try to remind myself to be kind to my self and to everyone. It feels good

I appreciate this today - thank you for sharing

Its a hard thing to swallow that evil is pervasive every where through the world. I have been having a rough time lately graping the fact people are not who i thought they were and not trying to control a situation. But i guess all i can do is keep trying to brutally force forward progress. Been super negative feeling lately letting the world and people get too me and my life. Tomorrow is a new day and just remember when i open my eyes tomorrow just keep at it, not let the world or people win. Hope everyone has a good day self reflection is super important can be very scary to do tho.

These thirteen examples show the power of inner humility and the practice of rationality. Inner humility is not the public display of being humble (false humility) but the acceptance of ones finite and precarious existence and valuing the opportunity to exist regardless. The courage to live knowing that you will suffer and die. Using your life to make a contribution and a statement in the face of all that is random and terrifying. Greatness comes out of this yet rarely will it be seen as great and that is OK because we do it for ourselves anyway.

No expectations Just be Grateful thankful blessed 💛

1) Karma Yoga- give to others and do the best you can do.. dont expect the the fruit of actions

when I was growing up, my father told me several times, that the world does not owe anyone anything..

One of THE best motivational video i ever watched..Thank you for wonderful posting

THIS message is my lesson of the 2021 for me. I want you to know (Mrs Amy Morin) that this book of yours truly reached out so deep into me. Thank you for this summary productivity game

thanks for this. will get and read this book.

Non-stop tragedies are usually precipitated by generational curses,of persons who are unfortunate enough to be born into secret societies/cults. I circumvented my troubles by prayer and unabashed activism in the U.N. etc. In addition,I cut ties with family who are still cult involved.Things have improved by 75%. Blessings🌈

Thank you Productivity Game for explaining important facts in short. Especially because of this video, I feel more motivated than before.

Nathan I personally want to thank you for deciding to make the world a better place.thankd you for creating productivity game and for all the effort you put into doing one page summaries of wisdom hidden books. Thank you for making the knowledge more accessible for those of us who don't like reading or don't have the patience to sit through a whole book. Thank you for joining the force of individuals out there who let trith be their purpose. God bless you Nathan 💕✨

this is very much helpful! Thank you. thank you so much! stay safe and blessed!

Great timing for this time in our history. Thank you! 👍🧠💪

I have major anxiety for going out during this pandemic. I he that writing my fears and burning them help me not be so paralyzed. Thanks

Brother I'm really thank full to you. You just changed my mind set and gives us juice of amazing books which help us a lot.

This is so true. Each life is finite in this body on earth.

What a perfect book to review in our current pandemic crisis. Thank you for doing this for us. It was only a month ago that I used to run along the beach and listen to your book reviews. I can't wait to do that again. I've learned so much from your channel. Be safe and keep going!!!

thank you 1. The world doesn't own you anything You must be able to build yourself with what you have and be able to strive for success despite the setbacks. 2. They won’t focus on something that they can’t control There are things that we can control and there are things that we can’t control, we should focus on something that we can control since things that we can’t control aren’t worth the time to spend time on. 3. Don’t make the same mistake. Strong-minded people learn from their past and improve on their future, since they don’t make the same mistake.

I had a tough morning and was thinking about quitting. But stumbled on this. Don’t know how. Thank you. I needed to see this today.

Awesome video..thanks for making

Love the Idea of the "Why list" - will do this! I have been following your vids for a long time, keep up the great work :)

Very good vid! Just what needed because I had to much anxiety times just because I couldn't control everything

Very well done video!! Thank you!! A different way of stating what mentally strong people don't do is that they don't play victim (victim to circumstances, other people etc.). Instead, they take accountability for their life. They figure out how to thrive no matter what cards were dealt to them.

I’m allowed to have feelings and depression that’s how we get on with life we are allowed to feel how we feel

Great Content man👌👌 thanks for sharing knowledge

Probably one of the best channels on you tube Thank you again !!

This was great & right on time. I’m definitely sharing with some friends. Thanks for posting😊

Can't wait for the sequel: 13 Things Mentally Strong People Do Do.

hello there, Mr. Nathan, I hope this message finds you well can you share your way on how to read and summarize the books you read thank you and have a great day

This is amazing work. Thank you for doing these.

Loved it, thank You very much

wow so the "world does not owe you anything" line always annoys me. I think its possible to say that people deserve to be treated on a certain level and don't deserve to have cruel things happen to them, while still conceding that these bad things will happen no matter what. We can still acknowledge injustice i.e someone did not deserve their pain, while conceding that unfair things will always happen. The problem with the "world owes you nothing" narrative is that is an ultimatum. If the world owes me nothing, I owe the world nothing. However, living like that would be crazy, clearly to some degree I owe it to people to treat them with dignity and they me. But, of course unfair things always happen. It is true that reward for your hard work is not certain. This leads to the philosophy that being good/responsible is useless since you'll receive no real reward. This means that due to all this uncertainty working hard/being good is kinda stupid and we should focus on our own selfish current desires. And this philosophy is on that I think is negated. Sometimes being selfish is healthy. I see to many older middle aged people who have sacrificed a lot doing a job they hate/stuck in marriage/family they don't like due to a sense of responsibility and the deep bitterness when they receive no reward. However, this "live selfishly now because you owe no one anything" can be dangerous for obvious reasons.

Life should be enjoyable and fun.. Not being happy rotting on your own.... Everyone deserves a great life...

Absolutely! Thanks for the encouragement!

THIS is a treasure chest of positive information. KEEPER!

Great content! Thank you for sharing your knowledge and wisdom. Everyone should subscribe to your channel.

You lost me at "...our parents quickly resolved the injustice." My Mom taught me these simple rules; The only one that you can truly rely on is yourself. Always look for the best in others but don't waste too much time on it. It usually isn't there.

Very good video. To make it though my 8+ year divorce (and the numerous attempts by my ex trying to get me fired from my Departement), many of my friends asked me how I survived the ordeal. My answer, in short, was: one day at time and emotional discipline. I also recognized that there are other people in the world who have/had it worse than I did. In the end, I am back to the person I was before (with a strengthened character) and she is a bitter old woman (because of her entitlement attitude).

This video has come at the right time for me, Thank you for making the video

"Its not that i have what i want, but that i want what i have." Unknown

God grant me the serenity..

These things listed have NOTHING to do with mental strength (or weakness) , but show that how you think about the world affects your chance of being happy. What the hell does the term "Mentally Strong People" even mean? Having said that, I agree with the things listed. They can be learned by anyone.

Really enjoyed watching this..I plan to add this book to my "to - read" list.

They don't ghost people they are mentally mature & don't run from trouble they face it

I just found out I'm Mentally Strong.

EXCELLENT video. Wow, speechless 😶. So true, every bit!

Great video! Very Simple, Great Visuals, Comforting Voice, and overall was easy to digest for me. Keep it up! 👍

American speaker: Focus on what you can control and what you can control Other English speakers: Isn't that the same thing? 🤣

Why are genders used? The use of genders were not recommended from the late 1970s on in copy writing or journalism.

Love this, thank you!! Definitely needed this right now :)

thanks so much for this. i really love how you explain it!

Was really into it until you listed feelings and thoughts as things you cant control. Over time they can surely be bridled as much as the heart or tongue. All said the whole is pretty good stuff. Thanks

Hm, I really don't think it works that way at all. Mentally strong simply means that you've build up some strong compensators for handling hard mental impacts whatever the compensators may be, patiently focusing on long term horizons on top of it but not expecting anything. Plus being able to see matters in prespective all the time. We've learned that things in life can come as they come, processing them balanced perspectively for moving on.

I’m thankful for this channel.

OMG found this channel by accident. I love the 1 page summary of the book. Great channel!

No. 14 write a book that implies they're mentally strong and suggesting that people who don't meet their said criteria are somehow lesser, and possibly mentally weak....

2:30 i dont agree with that at all!! dont compare yourself with people who are worse off than you, like you dont compare yourself with someone better off. That will just lead to shame for being depressed. You dont have to feel entitled to allow your self to feel bad. Its Ok not to be Ok. These are also legitimate emotions, mentally strong people persevere thru it- maybe with a little help from therapy. Its not about who had it worse (or better). DONT PLAY MISERY POKER with the world. You will loose!

Thank you. I wanted to see this. Have been feeling everything is going against me lately

I've never disiked a RU-vid vid before, or at least never said so. Not having read Ms Moran's book, I can say nothing negative about it, but the gentleman summarizing it is certainly not speaking from his own experience. He is an Armchair Strong Person (ASP). How dare he come here and lecture us! Some of us HAVE gone through these experiences, which is how we can tell he hasn't. I'd love to hear Amy Morin's summary. If PG wanted a part, he could set up an interview to lead her to talk about her pain and her resilience in her own voice. NOT CLIFF NOTES!

If mental health was this simple, then we wouldn't need therapists and psychologists. Nice bullet points, but please try not to take this as gospel for how to avoid depression or some wild nonsense like that. Its title should present itself as "Mental Stamina" instead of 'Mental Strength'.

Rule of Capitalism #36: Never admit a mistake when there’s someone else to blame.

Great , thank you

Thank you for your time in making these videos 😃

38 years I poured concrete for a living. You want to see mentally and physically tough men? Go into the concrete business.

mentally strong people do not take this video as fact

Very timely. Thanks for sharing.

Really great summary, thanks!