146: Tate and Kara | Mixed Orientation Marriage: Together 

I truly respect their candor. I hope they continue to thrive, as a couple and family. They have their eyes wide open. No deception. No trying to pray the LGBTQ away. It appears that Tate has enough room on the Kinsey Scale to be married to a woman and for it to work. It is not for us to judge. This was a very respectful interview, undoubtedly tough for Kyle, due to his own experiences. Respect.

They clearly care for each other, but this sounds so hard, and I'm grateful Kyle let them tell their story. I'm also grateful how emphatically say they aren't trying to show others what to do. As Tate said 'God trusts us to find our way' (so others can as well)

Thanks for the courage to share your story.

Kyle, as I listen and learn there is a recognition that your skills as an interviewer are excellent. A sweet couple. I respect their decision and their journey because its none of my business how others are getting through it. By the way, people don’t choose their sexuality, if that were so, how many of us would choose same sex? Wished I had a chose, that would be mind blowing!

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I am sad hearing this story. I see they love each other, but how can either one of these 2 sweet people fully have their needs met emotionally or physically while staying in a mixed orientation relationship. It seems they are currently OK with it so I pray they can navigate through kindly.

I understand mixed Orientation Marriage, I’m gay I have cerebral palsy I use a walker and wheelchair I’m 31, I had a boyfriend all high school from 04 to 09 after high school his parents found out we were gay and stopped us from talking

This is hard to watch. I married my high school sweetheart and he turned out to be gay. e was not at all into feminine things and went out of the way to do manly things. It was such a painful marriage. I loved him and desired him and that desire was not returned. I've never felt so lonely as I did on my honeymoon and in my marriage. Her crossed arms and other body language and look in her eyes makes me wonder if what I am seeing is just projecting my own experience on her or if she is also sad and lonely in the ways that I was.

Awesome interview. Thank you.

And a bi and straight couple?

Long term this may go the way of Josh and Lolly Weed. Plus she deserves a husband who is orientated to her and not someone who has to constantly suppress his desires and s a result be suicidal.

God makes no mistakes…

I didn't hear whether they are active members. I feel they are. I feel too invested to be able to come clean with my wife. She knows of my short comings, just not how deeply they go.

Thank you for sharing - it was helpful❤️😊

As an outside observer, I support any type of marriage that two adults choose. But, these two both seem sad. I see zero joy. And the wife’s body language and eyes suggest that this marriage causes her pain.

It’s a beautiful love story. Thank you for sharing.

Monogamy/American marriage is overrated. Our life expectancy has more than doubled since the origination of “til death do us part”. Seriously, it was 39 years. Humans are most often serial monogamists, and overwhelmingly prefer (and do) to take multiple lovers across a lifetime. It’s normal. It doesn’t mean there’s no love, that companionship isn’t valued, it doesn’t mean secrets & lies are ok, doesn’t mean parenting isn’t doable-it doesn’t mean any of that. Divorce isn’t a “failure”. A 20 or so year loving relationship that produced happy healthy children ends as the people in it are completely different than they were at the start. This is not “bad”. It’s modern life. Doing this interview couldn’t have been easy. Thank you for being willing to do it. It was difficult for me to witness your pain, and I became upset. At the church, modern religions, and just most of society in general for the persistence of the monogamy marriage myth. Also angry because despite the many claims of not wanting to be considered role models & not be shoved in front of lgbtqia+ Mormons as a viable life path, you will be. They’ll cherry pick your story like they cherry pick the bibble.

You can not marry the gay away.

How many years have you been married?

Wow so she has to accept a life where she’s not desired, and he has to accept a life where he doesn’t desire. How sad

There's absolutely no joy in their expressions. It seems very forced. He does identify as queer bt I hope I'm wrong when I say it won't work or end well

I’m 3 of his neighbors

She seems so sad. Her eyes give it away.

Women: have a free choice of millions of straight men. Also women: choose to have a relationship with gay men instead.

This seems very selfish to be honest.

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