I would say that only if it is true and if also a verbal slap in the face is what they need in order to snap out of that “I’m so bleh” mindset; but its rare for both of these things to be true.
So not true 🙄 my first priority would be to help the person overcome this in anyway possible..and my first look at would be putting myself in their shoes !
I have a friend who is an INFJ and honestly you would never think that would be her response but it is SO ACCURATE! She is so accepting of people until they "whine." lol!
Logan O'Bier As an INFJ that everyone thinks is a Cinnamon Roll, I agree completely. We are bleeding hearts for everyone and everything but it has it’s limits. I can only listen to a person’s struggle for so long until that INTROVERTED “I want to be left alone and humans are draining me like leeches” thing kick in. INFJs are empathetic, we can feel everyone’s emotions we come in contact with , which makes us sympathetic, but at the same time, it becomes a burden when certain people abuse it by continuously being a negative force, especially if we determine their struggle isn’t as complicated as the person claims it to be,
I disagree. I agree on this if the person i was listening to was a friend or a family member and i was USED constantly for their whining. But if it was my JOB, like if i was a therapist who has a responsibility over people's psychologies; i would just NEVER say something like that to them.
I feel another good INFP response would be to sit there with a dead-eyed stare, internally freaking out because a random person just unloaded very personal information on you and you don’t know how to give advice without taking a few days to process it. 😐
Too real. I assume everyone thinks I'm either dumb or a snob because I go silent after being vented upon. Really I'm just going over a dozen different ways to help them and silence is the only way I can do that... I usually think of the perfect solution once they're gone and I'm alone.
@@TheTheode Thats so true. My elder sister and i are both INFPs and if my mum talks about an issue she has with someone or something. We just sit silently. She thinks we are not listening or being uninterested when in actual fact we are trying to figure out a solution as she is talking. i also find in a conversation what i actually wanted to say comes eons later after the convo and i have the sudden urge to tell them the next time i see them and imagine a scene playing out if i had actually told them that or if i will tell them later. Then i give up altogether.
@@geniusjjangjjangmanboongboong I have the same problem with eye contact. I can't consolidate my thoughts while looking someone in the eye. Although once I've got my thesis ready, I have no issue explaining it to their face. I'm unsure if that's an infp thing, or a me-thing though.
@@asmrallison it seems like you are one of these types because I see a lotta dedication there. 😂 Like you were having fun for real while doing the list.
How about *16 personalities meeting "themselves"* ? As an INFP with an INFP friend it's basically just apologizing half the time for accidentally hurting each other's feelings (which never happened in the first...)
Me as an INFP: Him: So, yeah, the cookie dropped in the mug and I- are you . . . are you crying? Me *wiping the tears thinking about something*: No, my eyes are sweating. I'm fine :)
LMAO forreallll. Also I love listening to people but at the same time I never know what to say because I feel like I don't have the right to do so lol so i just sit with them and be sad with them.
Be careful not to come off as a jerk. Being an INTJ doesn't make you a jerk and doesn't give the excuse to be one either. Sorry, my point is that in reality, it may have not been the persons fault. If it is their fault, then yeah tell the truth. But don't jump to that way of thinking, stay true to the facts. Be honest if it is the persons fault, but still be understanding that it hurts either way, wether you inflict a problem upon yourself or not. When someone is hurt and is asking for help or advice, although they are looking for truth they are also looking for sympathy. When someone recognizes it's their fault, they typically feel stupid about themselves and hurt enough already. So just make sure your understanding and deliver correction in "love" as we all should. :)
@@abigailbrannon9890 I'm fully aware I come off as a jerk. So I stopped helping people. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ I also don't just jump to that way of thinking. I listen, evaluate, then respond if I feel it will make an impact. There's this thing called "tough love" and not everyone can handle it. Majority of the time, one's own issues come from the result of their action or inaction.
I'm a definite INTJ but I'm a little closer on the E, S, and F side than normal. I think this allows me to have an easier understanding of pretty much every personality and how they would feel. I can use that to help people such as my mum who is an INFP and my dad who is an ESTJ to understand each other by interpreting what they are trying to say to each other in an argument situation to resolve the issue. I'm still definitely an INTJ though based on everything else I do.
The ENFP talking more than the actual patient is so accurate :D but as an INFJ, I wouldn't tell people to stop whining, I would instead tell them why they feel the way they do, like 'I know you always get into the wrong relationships, that's because your parents never loved you' and stuff like that, while patting their shoulders awkwardly :D
I might do that at first as well but if it keeps on repeating despite the effort of helping and supporting the other person or that the advice I gave him/her over and over again gets nowhere because of some lack of effort in the other person's part then I might be just like the INFJ in the video. Although it takes a lot to get me to that point. I might be at my very limit and feels so drained for being relied on too much for a long time.
ISFJ Friend : "I'm sad." INTP Me: *lists a bunch of solutions* Also me: Pick one and fix your problem. ISFJ Friend: "I'm still sad tho." INTP Me: *Heavy sigh*
Yeah it's me ISFJ with my boyfriend INTP hahaha. He give me solutions and I continue agonizing hahaha. I think is better for me to be heard or to receive a hug.
Meu mundo as ENTP, I can say that we really don’t care about feelings. but I like to help people with it. it’s like a game for me, Idk. I have many friends I helping with their lives, like helping to be good and successful, but to be honest, I really don’t care :))
As an ENFP I would either simply try to cheer the person up or drag them into a very, very deep discussion on what their inner drive is and their emotions are- which would lead me to talk about my own experiences... Omg I just commented this before I finished the video. How did you know 😂
@@saraha.1336 Enfp have talent in that area making people better that's what i do with my Intj Friend removed dépression from him and hé was honest and even insulting when i was about to make a stupid décision in life so everything is fine haha' 😅
I believe ESTJ would have been fired if they were an actual therapist. Also, ENFP was really funny, my friend is one and her therapy is literally just telling life stories but usually it's never therapeutic for the one listening.
I do the same thing and he's also one of these channels that you make sure to have your notifications on so you can watch a video as soon as he posts it. Can't wait lol!! 😃
Hmmm as an INFJ that's definitely what I'm thinking on the inside, though probably not what I'd say to my client. I'm a good listener who asks people a lot of questions about themselves to guide them in the right direction. That's like...one of my only redeeming qualities XD Alternatively, if they don't take my advice or do ANYTHING at all to fix the situation, then yeah. I might be a little more direct with them. "You can either do A, B, or C, but if you don't do SOMETHING then nothing will change."
Infj is accurate again! You have no idea how many times I've met people who claimed to be suffering from depression and anxiety but in real life they're just as depressed and anxious as anyone in this century(those are the same people who get shocked when they meet a person with chronic depression) , I've only met like two persons who are actually dealing with depression and they're the ones that are very kind to everyone and don't whine about it every chance they get
@@froufroudeluxe I literally know a friend who claimed to have depression and his roommate is suffering from chronic depression to the point that he does not showers, his room is all dirty and just sad, and my friend just keeps complaining about him like he can just switch to normal overnight and tells me how he has depression but lives normally like anyone else like no bro you just got into college and you're stressed
@@manager-nim2623 Shouldn't you try to understand what your friend is feeling, instead of completely dismissing him? Saying he's experiencing depression is a call for help more than anything: aren't you being really unempathetic to your friend?
I completely get where you’re coming from, so many people insist they’re depressed when really they just have a victim mentality and want sympathy points. They just need to get over themselves
ESTJ...totally hilarious! That's my husband in a nutshell. I'm an INFP and when I get depressed, my husband is always there with his words of comfort. "You wouldn't feel so bad about your life if you'd just get up and start exercising. It really does make a difference." LOL
I had a beloved ENFJ therapist and you accurately depicted him. I mean, he didn't move in with me, but he gave me all the steps, confronted me, held my hand and pushed me through it all.
I'm an INFJ and an experienced counsellor, and unless someone was really stuck in self pity for a very long time, I wouldn't be that harsh with them. "Ok, so here's what we're gonna do..." followed by a 6-week plan, with clearly defined steps, priorities and outcomes, is more of my style. We're gonna spend a few weeks untangling your shit, doing some exercises, learning some tools, implementing practical solutions, and in 2 months if you're not feeling significantly better, you can fire me! :) Would any INFJs relate to this? :)
INFJ here~ I would be too aware of the other person’s feelings getting hurt to say anything like that, though I may find a nice way to say it that could somehow lift them out of their “whine” mode. If they are stuck in a rut, I have the vision and solution to help!
As an INTP, I can relate. A friend of mine, no, one of my total three friends told me about his problem for having bad feeling. I told him to distract yourself by learning new things and also read some books.
Yes. I am also learning to detach from people and to save my wonderful enfj-care for other genuine empaths. There are so many toxic self centered people who like to take advantage of us. Boundaries are a must for healthy enfjs to survive.
I totally agree. I'm on the border between INFJ and INFP, and I have way too much empathy to ever be that heartless. +Especially in this therapist scenario😂 Like how unprofessional could u be?
@@ChocoTheTiger it's not possible to be 2 types, I would use C.S. Joseph's type grid to determine which one u are. Both types are idealists but they have different interaction styles. Hope this helps 👍
@@spring7643 Oh, I wasn't proposing that I was both types at once, I rather meant that I wasn't 100% sure as to which of these types I really am. Thank you for this info though, I'm gonna check it out. This has been bothering me for a while so I appreciate it😂
@@julierovero6182 I normally agree with that assessment. (But I keep coming back for the INTP pieces, because it's so funny to recognize my husband every single time!) This time, though, I thought it was spot on! Best ENFP he ever did! I have to try super hard to keep my mouth shut when trying to help a friend. I love to hear how other people dealt with problems that are similar to mine and take lessons from that, and my impulse is always to do that for others... but that's not helpful for some people, and I don't want to come across as self-absorbed and talk too much. So I do lots of tongue biting, and just basically regurgitate what they say in different words, and that helps people more. Which is my goal. But usually I can't help but insert at least one personal anecdote in there. Thankfully, my friends are quite tolerant of me, which I appreciate.
I’m more amazed at how accurate your tone of voice and mannerisms are for each type. I can literally recognize friends from each one on every video. Freaking acting genius.
I’m dying 😂. These are great. I think I’m most like the INFP or the ENFJ therapist, but more subdued. I’m an INFJ and have been to a ton of therapists (a lot of it was shopping around because it’s hard to find a good match). I decided not to go into that profession because I absorb other people’s emotions easily and thought it could be really unhealthy for me to be around unhappy people all day. On some occasions I probably would be like the INFJ therapist in your video. I tend to see through people’s talking and find patterns in how they behave and seem to think/feel. I don’t know if I’d do this to a client if I were a therapist, but I have told people I’m close to some pretty tough things that I thought they needed to hear, even if they got furious with me.
This is interesting. I was looking for an estj reaction here.. My girlfriend is an estj, and she's super sweet and soft around me. Not at all as tough and assertive as they always seem in these videos. I'm starting to think she's giving me special treatments haha /infp
@@ryanfisher7164 absolutely. we are especially helpful in finding connections that may have led the person to commit an action, and rectify them, if necessary. I think it's funny that although we ESTJs look down on emotions, and consider them as a useless ideological construct, we inadvertently give people some of the best advice to help fix their problems 😂
ENFJ here. I usually act like this ENFJ ... but in recent years, I have, after listening to some people’s problems aka wining and self victimisation started to think like the ENTJ, INTJ, (ISTP, ISFP, ISTJ) INTP and INFJ.
I'm an INTP studying psychology with hopes of going into psychiatry and I felt this on a subconscious level. I didn't even realize I just automatically judge how smart people were when I meet them. 😭
I don't feel like an INFJ would say that, coming from an INFJ. An INFJ would more likely analyze the person from a place of empathy. They'd think of the world as largly consisiting of grey areas and so they wouldn't be the type to belittle/not empathize with someone else's problems, as this sort of response derives from a lack of empathy (in my opinion). They would recognize that this person feels a certain way about a certain thing and they'd try to figure out why, they wouldn't mix in any judgement with that, specially in the position of a therapist. Great video though! Keep em coming♡
Lol why are you so good at the ENFJ ones!!! I feel like people can't appreciate unless they know an ENFJ. Like aggressively helpful but specifically with other people's emotional challenges. "I'm going to go home with you so we can figure this out together" and "the session is more of a formality" not nearly enough time to dive into the extent needed.
INTJ can't be more accurate and I can't deal with it. 😂 My favourite is ENFJ though. I love listening to ENFJs speaking and I do have an ENFJ friend who is one of the best people ever.
I'm always in awe of how well you depict INTJ. I find myself discovering THINGS here in addition to the brilliant comedy. The weekly updates are also a true blessing. Thank you.
Im going through a breakup and I was crying at my moms house and she’s an ESFP and that’s basically what she told me to solve my problems. She said let’s drive you around and get some ice cream 😂😭 I love her
INFJ is so accurate 😂😂 This is always what I'm thinking when people come to me and complain about their problems; I used to like helping people with their issues until everyone started EXPECTING me to fix things for them. I've learned to hold my tongue though and keep my thoughts to myself so I don't piss anyone off 😂
That's so interesting! As a fellow INFJ (bordering on INFP) I was really surprised at the representation of the INFJ in this video. I felt like it was wildly inaccurate, at least compared to how I think and act. Maybe there are variations within every personality type that make us think/act somewhat differently.
The ISFJ is pretty accuratte, I can imagine myself saying this. I have a ENFJ friend and it's really accuratte too. She wants so much to help that sometimes she... how could I say this.. cross some limits... she get somethings too personal. Thank God she changed her mind about being a therapist!
As a person who struggles with cutting I laughed so hard at the ESTJ’s reaction. No therapist I’ve ever had is quite that candid with me and for some reason I can’t stop laughing-right after I got over the shock of the dark turn the video took holy cow
Okay, maybe we see that ENTJ, INTJ, ESTJ and INFJ are definitely not kind of therapist that we all expected. Cuz they're bringing those 'rude' vibes. But sometimes, maybe what we need is to hear what we need to hear not what we want to hear. It's like being more realistic?.. Okay okay not everyone can accept such realistic advice hehe -Me, as an ENTJ 😂 And sorry for my broken English, still learning tho..
Nah, it's not that they are rude, is that they don't have an idea of basic psychology. If their client would've had depression, for example, telling them to get over it or exercising instead of cutting would have been useless because their executive functions are affected
Input from a ENTP Psychiatrist: So, ENTP is incorrectly portrayed here. While there is some truth to your portrayal: Hear me out. If the ENTP isn’t interested in therapy or what the person is saying for that matter, they will easily be distracted within their internal thoughts. But people energize us, we like debating, we like hearing new POVs, and we like the challenging them. So more often than not, we will hear a problem/ POV and challenge it for fun. Which is why ENTPs make great therapists as a career options. We are able to understand the client due to being able to view many perspectives at once. Rapport/trust will come faster because the client will not feel judged and feel that we understand them or are on “their level”. Making them laugh with a witty remark is a definite plus as it makes them feel more relaxed/comfortable. Cutting the bullshit and being straight up with certain clients can go a long way as they think you’re being real and looking out for them. Most importantly: ENTPs give CONVINCING advice (can be good or bad!) because we are gifted in being able to confidently manipulate, persuade or change the client’s POV which works wonders for CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy). We use the info that the clients give us and spin it into a brand new theoretical concoction that many clients can’t help to at least try to taste. Some downfalls might be the ENTP thinking they’ve got everything figured out a little too early in the game or talking a little more (trying to persuade) rather than listening more (to gain even more vital info). But with experience, ENTPs make fantastic therapists. Not trying to toot my own horn but.... I’m pretty awesome if I do say so myself 😎.
@@siberiasian Ik trust me. It's just I have a friend like that they wouldn't sugarcoat anything. They seem harsh saying something similar as they bandage your arms themselves and take the knowledge to their graves. A true healthy ESTJ will definatly lecture you but wouldn't hurt you.
@@elsandstorm8997 Ik I'm a survivor myself, it's why I found it so ironic. Back then people either got personally offended at the time or they would ignore me like the plague. It might seem harsh but it's refreshing honestly
And also my father is an ESFP and my mother is an ISFJ and most of my friends are ENTJ and INFP and I have to say that all of these types respond were so accurate! Exactly like them 😂
I feel like INFP and ENFJ would be perfect Therapists! Empathy and support is one of the first steps to healing, knowing that it’s okay to feel certain ways.
That INTJ response and INFJ 👍 I am an INFJ and planning on being a therapist 🤣 both things have run through my mind when listening to people, but not my mouth.
Yep. INTJ. So funny.. your depictions of the types are by far the most solid and accurate on youtube; I really wish Frank James would stop copying you, in addition to like 3 other channels.
No, they’re not copying. They were recommended to doing it. Plus, as a viewer, I really appreciate the variety of RU-vidrs following this bc I rlly like these videos, too.
@@heffthehecked I mean absolutely no disrespect but I'm just curious - what do you mean they were recommended to doing it? Do you mean that by Bogdan posting a video it gave them an idea to try the same thing with their own spin on it?
I met Frank James a while back ago and I was on his podcast we’re bros lol He mentioned that he might wanna do the same kind of videos and I told him that he should, But I can’t speak for the other people lol
ISTP here. Yea 100% accurate. Feelings arent our domain.....like at all. we barely comprehend what we feel and struggle being empathetic to situations we havent experienced ourselves. So see someone else! If u have an istp therapist get ur money back! Lol Well done as always
I'm INTJ. My Mother, (ESTJ) literally did that to My Twin Sister (INFJ), and it really hurt her. She is so scared to talk about anything life related to her now.
