18 Warning Signs That Your Parent is Enmeshed With You 

My mum was highly enmeshed with me. She saw me as her extension. I took me so many decades to realize that. I am living her life now. Trying to discover who I am in my late 40s. It is never late to finally start living my life.

Watching this video is like someone wrapped a big cozy blanket around me and said "Youre not crazy. I believe you and you are gonna be okay."

My narcissist mom, age 87, just told me I dumped her…I am fifty and have devoted my entire life to pleasing her and never made my own decisions for my life and she isn’t pleased with me, she believes I’ve “dumped” her because I’m not living in her home entertaining her! Emotional incest is horrific! Don’t do it to your college kids!

My mother repeatedly told me she would commit s*icide if anything happened to me. I had NO childhood and was forced to go no contact in my late 30's. Now, she has no one and will most likely die alone because she cut everyone out except me and I ran because I couldn't take the abuse and pressure. I am finally free. I left an inheritance and trust fund behind. I am flat broke and very much free and sane! It is NEVER too late to choose yourself.

That was my parents to a T. They ruined the first 30 years of my life and almost ruined my marriage with their control. It finally ended when mom died and I cut dad off years ago. I still feel angry at them for stealing my milestones, opportunities and life. But today I'm finally living life on my own terms. My marriage healed and I'm continuing to break cycles.

These examples of parents behaviors sound similar to forms of Narcissism.

If we had the choice, some of us would never choose them to be our parents. They are not fit to be parents.

Romantic attachment is a REALLY good way to put that. No adult should have romantic attachment level love for a child.

Yes, that's why I can not tell my mom about stuff in my life - she will try to insist and begmand to let me to let her fix stuff for me, and if I disagree, then she tries to turn it in a way that I am bad.

Just so you know, I immediately subscribed when you got a little heated around the 11 minute mark, noticed it, point it out, and commented on it. To be able to help guide us, AND admit your own flaws is EXACTLY the type of guidance that we need. I admire that very much.

Until I was in my 30s and began researching enmeshment I had no idea we were supposed to feel separate emotions. I had no idea of like "I'm in a good mood but Mom can be angry." as we can be two separate people. For me it was always if someone expresses they are angry or upset, you need to drop everything to fix it. You need to make it better. It's rude and unkind to feel okay when they are feeling bad. You need to fix it so you can feel happy again without guilt. I thought this was normal. I thought that was how things were supposed to be. It was only once I realized I was hollow where my personhood was supposed to be I began to see how incredibly abusive it was to create an environment that made me grow with that mindset.

Wow...My Mother said to me one day "You owe me your life" I replied " I didn't ask to be born" harsh I know but she has always made me feel I am at her service. She would show up at my home and demand I do her hair. One day I said no and she shamed me and said I was lazy for napping with my newborn.

Thank you for this video Kenny. At a very young age I realized I had a choice between two things: 1) be me, pursue my dreams, and live the life I want OR 2) have a relationship with my mom. I choose 1 and have never looked back.

My mother always said we never owed our parents anything but respect. They never threw anything up to us.

One thing is for sure my kids and grandkids are definitely NOT MY WORLD! To me that sound so sick..

As you role play, I see how under developed my parents are… it’s hard when we realize in many ways we’ve lost our childhood and we were forced to be the adults in the room even when we were small.

I did that to my son and I can't believe I did it!!!I recognized it and stopped myself because I figured it out I was manipulating him to be good!

Listening to this make me see how severely abused I’ve been and still am by my mother.

Not my Mum, throwing a tantrum because I moved 20 minutes drive away, because I was struggling to get a rental in the area as a single parent 10 years ago 💀 I went no contact with Mum 6 months ago. Just after Christmas I had to tell my parents that my kids are no longer visiting them. Mum had called my highly sensitive 18yo on the phone, and emotionally dumped so much traumatic shit on her that the kid was white and shaking. I'm so so so exhausted, and I've let my kids down in a million ways because I didn't realize how damaging Mum was until recently. So not only has she been heavily in their life, but I've been wasting all my energy trying to prop her up, whilst also behaving like her in a lot of aspects. The grief and weight of that is enormous. They deserve better, and it feels too little too late.

Boundaries are everything 🙌

My dad still says that I'm the easiest. Its never felt like a compliment. My dad has been using me for comfort for as long as I can remember, even all the way back to a little kid.

Such good info. I recently told my mom tho that her incessant calls drained me. So I couldn’t tell her she’s free to call whenever, and I’ll call her back whenever. It’s draining just to see that she’s calling

My exhusbands parents had keys and let themselves into our home. I asked them not to, i asked my husband to install a doorbell. You would have thought I murdered someone. My parents were also overwhelming. We had no chance for a happy marriage without interference. interference.

My husband and I struggle in our marriage because he’s enmeshed with his mother. My husband does everything my MIL tells him to do. We even had my MIL’s wedding-not his and mine-because my husband sided with whatever “help” my MIL wanted to offer us (which came a cost of course.) After 5 years of being nice (yes, I’m codependent) I stopped playing by my MIL’s rules, and my husband has had to choose between the kids and me or his mother. He finally chose us after I left him, and he realized his toxic family didn’t even care how much pain he was going through.

This stuff has been going on in my family for generations way before social media

My mother threw a fit when I was moving a few hours away with my husband and newborn son. We couldn’t afford to buy a home where we currently lived. It really changed how I look at her.

It scares me so much to realize I have been and still am going thru with all 18 signs. I came to realize my enmeshment way too late, as this costed me the love of my life, my partner was not able to cope with this shit anymore, and when I started working things out she did not have enough strength to move on (it was a 3 years long relationship). I really do hope that more people realize this issue, as it is very complex and very subtle, but very life changing in a worst possible way.

I had to end a friendship because of her emeshment with her children. I couldn't watch it or be around it. She would tell them everything and i mean everything, it was so damaging and she couldn't see it. I never told her because I know she would be extremely offended. I grew up with an extremely emeshed parent. I know what it feels like, i couldn't be around it again. My parent would make up lies to keep me from leaving home. Looking back as an adult, its very disturbing.

When I left home , or tried to leave home, my mother had a heart attack. She was about 50 and recovered with no damage. Of course it affected me making me feel burdened and responsible.

Once I spent ages constructing a polite text to ask my mum not to let herself in to my house. She has keys, but in case my daughter got locked out. She said she was fed up of my abuse. So, yeh, any attempt to ask for space or draw a boundary is "abuse", and my dad backs me up, shaming me for hurting mum.

OMG, I love my mother, but everything you have said resonates. I was the fixer/the caretaker as a nine year old child after the divorce. It has taken me 30+ years to figure out what I want out of life, I had spent most of my life trying to please her. I intentionally do not tell her things due to judgement. I think she had kids to take care of her. Thank you so much. being with my mother is draining and I needed the validation that I am doing the right things.

WOW!! What a great topic! I was thinking this was about other people and their parents! BUT IT IS ABOUT MY MOM and how she refused to be a parent! Charged me for being alive and then groomed me to be her personal SLAVE!! OMG!!

the whole concept of the child takes care of the parent isn't something every generation just imagined it's societally taught the society sets up parents that if they have the kid that kid will take care of them this is why we singled and non-children folk get harrased & emotionally abused by society as something alien, other, not right, don't know what they want, their in a phase, ect cuz the whole society was taught this so if your childless by choice and or are the kid who says no we've built in soical scorn for doing so.

Honestly, this sounds a lot like my mom. She definitely has this over attachment to me. I feel way too responsible for her feelings, and she doesn’t understand boundaries. I thought my discomfort was invalid for so long, and took it as love and trust for me. She also constantly tries to take away my independence, and make me rely on her for everything (I’m almost 20, just to give context). But she plays it off as helping me out, or says things like “you can’t do this without me. You’ll probably screw up.” Every time I do screw up, she says “this is why you should let me help you.” It even got to the point where she gets mad if I message my boss for work without consulting her. I’m glad I understand now.

I watched a mom and teen son at mass one time. She had her hand in his hair and played with it the whole time. I felt so sorry for that boy! She replaced her ex-husband with her son. 😢

Occasionally something will come up and my adult son will say “I didn’t know about that”…and I would tell him “you were a child and shouldn’t have known”….it was something about his dad that I didn’t want him to know as a child and possibly think badly of him.

The part about not having needs and being an easy child really resonated with me. I was that for my mom. And when I did struggle with postpartum anxiety and was pleading for help (it was this experience that started me on my healing journey actually) she dismissed me! She told me I was blessed and shamed me for struggling. She told me to go read my bible. I was shamed for seeing a therapist even though it helped me tremendously! It was heartbreaking but lead to my seeing what was happening and had always happened throughout my life. I’m very thankful for having gone through that and glad to be in a healthier place.

I think most parents are emotionally enmeshed because most adults have not healed or rebalanced our inner child

Affection was only given through compliance. I existed to serve. I knew no ther way to think than to wait for direction. This was enforced well into my 20s. To say this had a negative affect on my development would be a gross understatement.

i was completely enmeshed with my mother, and i dont know if this was just her mental state or because I resisted, but it was all negative 'youre bad, its all your fault, I do everything for you and youre a terrible person' etc That was more confusing I think because i didnt understand why she was so obsessed with me if i was so bad

12:52 exactly, our offspring arent retirement fund backups..idk how some parents feel so entitled to DEMAND that of their child, its so irresponsible and inconsiderate beyond belief; for them to spend their money as frivolously as they wanted for years to then turn around and think its your duty to sacrifice your own financial well being to support them.

Oh my! I just found this video and I'm so thankful. It is absolutely my mother in law. We are having so many issues in our relationship that stem from this!!! We're going to counseling now , I pray every day he will realize he is able to have his own life and say No! Please pray for me!

Oh my God. My mother has literally expressed ALL of the examples you have given. I was guided to your video because my therapist recently called what I’ve been going through with my mom “emotional incest.” And I needed to know more. It was so bad my mom even had munchousen biproxy and would keep me sick so she could get paid to be my “caregiver “ while the entire time I was taking care of her all while being deathly Ill. 😤

My parents tick so many of these. I was never sexualised but i was strongly encouraged to stay very slim, have long hair, blonde highlights, wear make up. If I answer the doorvwith my hair in a ponytail, im told bluntly how i look like death warmed up. I think i look healthy even without makeup. My mother does the same to my daughter, but, one step removed, my daughter nods and smiles but stays detached.

Oh my goodness thank you so much for explaining “empath” as being a sign of abuse. I don’t know how we got to a place on the internet where being an “empath” is a badge of honor or something to be proud of. And thank you for this video. Enmeshment is a term I’ve heard, but I’m just now learning that I’ve been through this myself and also have done this to my children.

Imagine living in the apartment above these types of parents. I need to move asap !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

My mum was obsessed with me and always dumped all her upsets about my father and always told me awful things about men. That I could never trust a men. They only use you...

Not living their own life to much in mine smh doing it wrong

This reminds me of myself and I'm glad you posted this video. As a parent with an extremely traumatic childhood my # 1 fear is that I will continue the trauma cycle with my children. Identifying which behaviors I have that are unhealthy is not always straightforward. Knowing what healthy parenting looks like - without ever having had an example to go by - is a big struggle for me. This video has given me a lot to think about.

This was spot on! Saw it in my family. Put a stopping to it, saw it with my husband's family he now lives with his parents at 32-40 smh

I wanted to express my gratitude for this video. Everything you discussed resonated deeply with me. My brother and I were raised in an intensely enmeshed household, and although I sensed something was wrong, I struggled to fully comprehend it during my upbringing. While I recognized my father's love, the way he expressed felt cannibalizing, like I was food he was unwilling to release. Now at 24, I've been actively pursuing recovery for a year now and am finally starting to fully grasp what happened to me. Thank you for your insights.

And oh my goodness!! I have said some of these things to my kids. Not anymore

Read "Emotional Immature Parents" by Gibson

This helps sooo much as a daughter. I’m struggling to leave my parents home and I’ve been feeling overwhelmed with guilt. This hits sooo many points on why I feel guilty and where it’s coming from. I was looking for a while on this guilt, family enmeshment, leaving the nest videos and this has been the best so far. Thank you!

Being an empath is about: fear of abuse (if I don't react empathetically they might get mad a me); experienced neglect (I desperately need others to like me and one way to do that is to give them all my attention and forget about my need to stay with my emotions), feeling not good enough (my feelings and emotions don't matter, others are more important therefore I should give them the spotlight and focus on them). I totally agree with your words: saying "I'm an empath" is like saying "I'm traumatized and I haven't healed from it. I also haven't realized this is not my personality or who I am, just a coping mechanism." It's not a good thing, it's sad.

This is one of the reasons I never had kids

I LOVE how you responded to your mother’s relentless phone calls Kenny! It was very gracious, compassionate and authentic while remaining true to your boundaries and not succumbing to the demands of her phone calls. That does speak of healing!

"I looked around at the little she had to give me, and made sure I only asked for that..." I remember being about 12, watching my single mother raising my little brother and I. She asked what I wanted for Christmas, and I knew we couldn't afford much. So I didn't ask for anything, allowing my brother 4 years my junior to have whatever he desired. Of course, my mother still bought me a load of Christmas stuff, to the detriment of our electricity cutting out the following month from nonpayment. She learned it from her mother, my grandma, who would take the entire family out to Disney World for a vacation. The next month, there is no electricity, or we're selling things to pay rent. Also, the resentment towards individuals for becoming healthy, hit home. I grew up overweight my entire life, seeing my overweight family being "normal," I thought nothing of it. When I lost 184 lbs from low carb, my mom was sickened by me. "All you talk about is your weight loss. You've changed, and I can't stand it. You think you're so great now that you're so thin, too thin! It's unhealthy..." I am down to 200 lbs at 5'10 from 384... too thin is what she believes. Projection is a hell of a drug.

My parent threw a shit fit when I finally stood up for myself. I decided to live in a different state. Spent a whole week giving me the silent treatment and when I didn't cave they came back saying they didn't want to start off the year on a bad foot. Now they claim to be so proud still gives me unsolicited advice on the fronts where I'm not "enough" And the funny thing is they are almost self aware saying things like live your life for you and stand up for what you want, until it goes against their grain then I'm a disappointment.

Kenny, I grew up without this, my parents did none of these things growing up yet I keep ending up with romantic partners that experienced this. I feel like a representative of the parent they actually wanted, but then they try these dynamics on me and I refuse and the eventually ends

Thank you for calling out ‘empaths’. I was told I shut myself from my gift and felt really guilty and bad about it for years, like I abandoned my older siblings (who call themselves empaths/mediums). Now I’m glad because I can view it as something healthy. 🙏 Wonderful how you taught your mother as well. Very inspiring!

What about the child (30) too emotionally enmeshed. “You’re my best friend” & “I want a one on one vacation with you” I love my child but want an adult friendship.

I was a good girl until I needed help. I was her golden child until I got divorced. Now that I’m remarried and healthier my mom tries so hard to make me into her extension again and make me do things that she is supposed to do. It’s difficult but I’m not going to oblige. She can meet her own needs. I keep saying no to her every week. She hates it but she won’t say anything to me. Bc she has no one else - my dad passed away a few months ago my brothers are long distance from her. Thank you so much for this video. ❤

Unfortunately that’s common among certain cultures.

My M.I.L. is STILL alive @87. I was so grievous when her Dr approved knee replacement surgery for a woman who’s a rocking timebomb(her 28yr old bypass surgery is failing)…but SHE IS STILL GOING STRONG w/the control manipulative bulls gig. And it’s BAD WORSE THAN IVER ACAUSE of her dementia. My husband and his sisters let her get away w/‘murder’…..she’s murdered our chance at peace.

Yeah, my parents are a lot of the stuff in this video. If I don’t write them good night every day they don’t sleep and blow up my phone. They think I’m ungrateful if I don’t slave away doing their housework when I’m home because they’re jealous I have vacation and they need to work. Whenever they get home they argue with each other and my happy mood instantly drops because my mom rants a lot and treats me badly if she’s upset. She downplayed my depression and laughed in my face when I cried and told her my fears. She didn’t want to talk about it and cut me off. In general, my mom berates me, calls me fat and lazy and tells me often that she misses the “old me”. She threatened to stop giving me money for food and clothes if I didn’t loose weight to fit her image of how her child should look and tells me she’s embarrassed to be seen with me. When i get called handsome, she lights up and says “yeah, just like the parents!” Their praise always put pressure on me and when I was small they frequently told me “you’re my everything. I wouldn’t know what to do without you. If you weren’t here I’d never be happy again”. Additionally I’ve realized a bit too early that death is a thing because my mom told me her mom died out of nowhere when I wasn’t even in elementary school yet so then when four more people in our immediate family died over the next few years I expected my parents to die every moment, every time they left the house, every time we went to sleep at night I needed to hear them breathe to be able to fall asleep. Growing up, I had nightmares of them being completely incapable of caring for themselves and they needed step by step instructions to do anything. In those dreams we were in a dangerous, life threatening situation, and I had to instruct them on how to save themselves. That carried on into my real life too and now that I’m an adult they take offense to my behaviors. Upset that I treat them like teenagers. I can’t stop my hypervigilance at this point in time because I can’t feel safe if I try to. I had an event during my kindergarten time where I realized that my parents can’t read my mind or understand me without me articulating myself and that was a trauma kind of because from then on I realized that no one could or would ever really understand me and I’m on my own. This video really helped me because I always wondered why I never felt that I could talk to my parents about my emotions or concerns. From kindergarten age on, I’ve always kept everything to myself even though they always told me that I could talk to them and they’d help me and take my side. I never believed them, I guess.

My mom had severe postpartum depression after having me and I can clearly remember sitting on her stomach while she was lying in bed and she flat out told me that she was a very bad mommy. And this was continuous. I would constantly have to reassure her that she was a good mommy, not bc she was, but bc I NEEDED a mommy. I was screamed at constantly and locked in my bedroom. I started dissociating at a very young age and I KNEW I was being greatly unfairly. I felt it, even though I had no experience of being treated well. My father was short tempered and dealing with my mother wore him out. I even called the police! I told them that I thought I needed help bc I never felt safe and secure. My mom threatened that if I ever did that again, the police would give me to a REALLY BAD mommy and daddy. I truly remember hating her. It wasn’t until my little sister was born when I walk almost 4 that I had started to develop ways of managing her emotions. She’d still have adult tantrums, screaming “get away from me!”, threaten to leave, lock me in my room. I also remember her kicking me in the stomach to kick me away from her when I didn’t give her the space she wanted immediately. I’m 40 now and 2 years ago I had a full blown nervous breakdown that I’m still healing from. She was diagnosed with a personality disorder, but gives it zero reflection. To say I grew up enmeshed feels like an understatement. I’m so tired from my interactions with her. She won’t give me enough space to enjoy my accomplishments or feel happy, unless I include her in it. And she uses me as an emotional garbage can. I’m just so exhausted all the time. Having a cell phone is a blessing and a curse. Boundaries don’t exist. And my dad just placates her bc no one can handle her adult tantrums. No one! We aren’t nice to her out of love and kindness! And she knows this! She’s not stupid! But any attention you give her is a power play. Even if you argue with her. There’s no winning with a person like her. It’s draining in every way.

……oh crumbs…..my parents-in-law always talk about moving closer to us……..this is all making sense

Whenever I read or hear about these patterns that interweave through my own life experience as well, I can't help but think it seems like it's parents that kinda don't REALLY want/didn't want kids having to cope with the idea that they have them now. And as you say, society cannot seem to fathom that it might be helpful on the long term to allow them to speak about and process that reality.

It's just so hard! I dealt with my enmeshment with my mom, but now I'm trying to find how to be supportive to my partner who has an unhealthy enmeshment with his parents. They just want to control every aspect of our relationship and I'm trying to find the balance with him for him to say no. All while being frustrated that we're too old for this to still be a problem.

I love how self aware he is!

It is hard to be an empath. My neighbors adult child died in an accident. He had 3 young children and a wife. I grew up with the mother of the son. I internally took on their pain of losing their child and his children losing their father. It was so bad I couldn’t even talk to them. I mentioned it to a friend who told me i couldn’t possibly feel their pain. I didn’t talk about it any more. My husband died suddenly over 2o years ago and our daughter was just 12. She kept the pain to herself mostly. We both have our struggles. I don’t know why I shared this with you. I do know I very much am putting a lot of thought into your very good insights. Thank you.

Dear god this is my MIL it’s so frustrating!

Yes my mother looks leers at us adult children and her grandchildren. It's revolting

Wow, I'm so glad for your explanation of what an empath actually is. People use it as an excuse to attack others. I'm very aware of my own empathetic tendencies as well and you've helped me see it's not good.

I'm Mexican and here you can be prosecuted by law if you don't take care of your parents. It's considered a right to the elderly because "they took care of you in your childhood". Like, excuse me? I didn't ask to have a person to take care of, that's why I don't have children. I recently learned this and I was in shock, but everybody else in the class (all parents themselves) acted like this was "just natural". I think it's immoral, law is justifying people to have children to be their retirement plan.

I know many single mother's and their children who have very close relationships.

Thank you! This has really helped me understand my sister-in-laws’ enmeshed relationship with she and my husbands parents. My husband won’t indulge it and consequently feels like the outsider. Ps: Your shirt really makes your eyes pop! 😊

thank you very much. my favorite is number 15, without critizing parents sharing your thoughts/feelings objectively, giving everyone a chance to learn from our mistakes, thank you again.

I once told my mum that i wasn't responsible for her happiness and she went berserk. She told my dad and he said i should apologize to her and i asked for what? She also told me that I was living her life and she was using my life to right all the wrongs she did when she was young and so I couldn't mess it up. Apparently i had no right to want boundaries

Thank you for this. It's heartbreaking to me that the only way my mother will accept me is that I detransition and be her daughter. I always knew something was wrong because I never could fit into the box that she made for me

While no, children are not responsible for taking care of their parents in old age, there did used to be a balanced, Godly dynamic when children continued to live in the same town as their parents. When I was growing up, I did not ever see the kind of enmeshment you were talking about. Mostly the kids would continue to live in town, and as their parents got older, they would mow the lawn or take the parents to doctors, or stop by with a meal… But on a limited basis. The parents had their own lives, their own friends, and were mostly self-sufficient. And a little bit of help made it possible for them to stay in their own homes. I did not have any relatives on my dad‘s stable side that went into nursing homes. They took care of their health, and with a little bit of support from family and friends, were able to live comfortably in their homes until they died. It’s a totally different world today. Narcissists everywhere. Broken families everywhere. Unbalanced people with unrealistic expectations of both their parents and their kids. I am so sad the world I knew has gone away.

I feel like our American culture basically encourages enmeshment. This is pretty similar to helicopter parenting.

10:15 that subtle bind we are put in. Yes. You described how my parents talk sometimes

I'm 33 and through my girlfriend's outside view and advice, I've only just realised the full extent of my family's enmeshment, and this entire concept as a whole. The stuff you're saying here is quite an extreme case. But a lot of it applies to my life in some ways. My GF will not stick around if I keep leaning into my family for everything and helping my mum with a lot of her needs (not her words, but I know it'll wear on her). Thanks for posting videos like this.

This applies to religious mothers.

My mother didn't have to say anything(though she did say a lot of stupid things), for me to know my father was the child, his needs were paramount. She should have been parenting me, not me feeling bad for her marriage and her. Simultaneously she was jealous of anything good he did for me and ignored his abuse towards me. Everything was about their feelings, I was the surrogate friend, living toy doll. My father is the child and still is at 80 years old! My mother still the unhappy spouse expecting me to fill the gap and im going to be left carer to one of them😣

19:30 Sounds like my husband’s mom. She touches his arm and says very inappropriate things. Sickening.

Thank you for this video. As a parent, it gave me a good idea of the don'ts.

"you sure you want to do that?" OMG, that triggered me like crazy (but thats not a bad thing)! that's my dad to a T! This information has been instrumental in my healing journey, thank you so much!

We get together a few times a year and talk on the phone a few times a week.,.. my kid works as a truck driver ❤❤❤❤ so I always give him space to make his own mistakes in life .. our story is a long one ... I'm glad I'm not anything like my mother ❤❤❤❤

I met my wife when I was 52 - she was 32 - she invited me to meet her parents and when I arrived, her dad was waiting on the doorstep as I drove up - he cast his eye over me as if he was measuring me up as a teenager. Later, when I invited her to stay at my apartment and go and see a band, she insisted on inviting her dad (and her mum, by default) to stay also. He is only 6 years older than me……. I have subsequently discovered (to immense cost) that my wife is a covert narcissist.

Thank you for this hard hitting, real conversation. I’ve learned a lot from your examples. I can tell you are speaking from love.

My mother had a huge crush on her sister's husband and she flirted with him openly and shamelessly which triggered n disgusted my Father n my father then used to take all that Frustations n rage on me when I was kid n I was blamed for their failed intimacy

How the hell should you ever be able to walk alone in this world? Without support? If you even can’t trust your own parents??

Nailed it🔥

Fantastic video!!

My mom only wanted talk to me about problems with dad and my sisters o was like what am I your counselor?

Salutations Kenny! A lot of great info here. I really appreciate all of your videos, and value your opinion on the topic of narcissism. I just wanted to clarify something, and please feel free to correct me. being empathic, and having poor boundaries are two separate issues. You’re not wrong in stating that most people who are empathic or highly empathetic do have major boundary issues. Although boundaries can be taught. But you cannot learn to be less sensitive. .. sure you can repress emotions but we know that it’s not healthy … I am a highly sensitive person across-the-board and I recognize that my boundaries were very poor growing up and that maybe contributes to my empathy. But I read a book that actually really changed my opinion about being empathic and taught me a lot of tools that I now utilize frequently in order to not have poor boundaries. So while I am still a highly empathetic person, I have learned to set boundaries and protect my own energy, but that doesn’t take away my empathetic nature. The book I’m referring to is called the empaths survival guide by Judith Orloff … and I would encourage anybody who struggles with boundaries or being extremely sensitive to read the book mentioned. LIFE CHANGING. Open to discussions regarding this topic I would love to learn Many thanks Sarah

This sounds so familiar, it’s kind of refreshing. Thank you for doing a deep dive on this.