Breaking Free: The Secret to Overcoming Enmeshment

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In this weeks episode of Heal The Hurt I am going to dive deep into what are the signs and characteristics of enmeshment?
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26 июн 2021

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@Tripp393 18 дней назад

"Becoming sick is how enmeshed people get their power back." Breakthrough line right there. I always sensed my wounds were self inflected and in reaction to my mother, but I wasn't quite sure.

@anewchapter1336 2 года назад

I have learned co-depenents have this complusion to over-explain...I do this all the time. Over-explaining and hyper-vigilance. I have worn myself out with it all, LOL. It also didn't help that I have been a special ed teacher for two decades and am so accustomed to repeating the same information in as many ways as possible. I am re-training myself to say things only once now and to be silent and just let consequences happen if necessary as long as I know the person said they understood me. I was so invalidated and enmeshed by my mother for four decades that I automatically assume people do not understand me and try to prove I am worthy of being "seen" and "heard". I grieved for a month when I realized this about myself and why I have the issues that I do. It has been a very liberating healing journey thus far...a journey I will be on the rest of my life. I turn 50 in a few months and have pledged to myself that by time I turn 50 I will be able to start a new chapter.

@DeepThinkersClub 10 месяцев назад

Wow! Someone else has this problem too!! I thought I was the only one! 😄

@user-tq8vt8jn8e 3 месяца назад

Research trauma and psychedelics

@katieg7679 4 месяца назад

I love the wine analogy! I come from a very enmeshed family, I had no idea until a few years ago, and it just seemed like my family was completely normal while I had so much confusion and low self esteem and inability to keep relationships. My therapist had a really great analogy. She said that growing up it's like being in a zoo with no cages or fences, and the tigers and lions are just roaming around everywhere. We need boundaries!

@kimgordon3695 2 месяца назад

Learn to just say thank you

@pamelacroya1502 2 месяца назад

Thank you so much for this mind blowing truth!!! I’m an empath & have been fighting it in my gut for so long!! Now I see that it is just disfunction from my abusive past. You’ve given me hope that I can heal.

@kennyweiss 2 месяца назад

You're welcome. I hope you take advantage of my free classes, and downloads to get you started and once you see improvement, move on to my books and other materials designed to help you heal.

@gigicolada 6 месяцев назад

When you talked about typing out a paragraph where a simple “thank you” would suffice, I cringed. I am working so hard on this. I put myself in the other person’s shoes to help me not be so obnoxious lol.

@MartinJ878 4 месяца назад

One of the best explanations about enmeshment.

@alisoncrafton9724 2 года назад

OMG! All my life I've always felt like....what is it about me? I asked myself that question so many times and you have perfectly defined the missing piece with this video.

@kennyweiss 2 года назад

How exciting. I am happy for you!

@ragcatdoll 25 дней назад

This is probably the best video on RU-vid and describes the dynamics in my family perfectly. My mom does not get along with her mother in law and would dump her trauma on me constantly growing up while also isolating me from my father’s family, expressing that theyre evil. She would always complain that she didn’t feel accepted by my father’s family and that she yearned for a warm, welcoming family. Something she didn’t have, as she lost her parents early. Once I was older and I suggested to have a talk with my grandmother to talk things out, she actually said she didn’t want that because she feared she would lose me. While I empathise with my mom’s situation to a certain extent, her repeated trauma dumping has become very annoying.

@21cormorants 14 дней назад

I haven’t heard anyone mention personalization in enmeshment before - I’m so grateful you brought it up! Absolutely going through this right now; it’s like I can’t say anything about anything without it coming back to be twisted into an insult I hurled at this person, when that was literally never stated. I’ve been trying to wrap my mind around how and why this keeps happening with this relative, and now it’s so much easier to see and contextualize. Not sure how to deal with it, but at least I can put a name to it. Thank you.

@nandinigogoi2584 Год назад

Made me cry Bcoz everything is true and have experienced through out life till 41 years and finally free...But the loss of childhood and so many relations make me cry like helpless creature...

@sll110 Год назад

me too

@sino4456 Месяц назад

I was enmeshed with my mom. When I moved away from home I became depressed. I should have been delighted to be gone but all I knew was my relationship with my mom. We got even closer. Ive come off medication numerous times and ended up in hospital. I wouldnt say medication is wrong. New Neural pathways have to grow. In some instances medication is important. I know one girl who went off her medication and commited suicide. It may be a placebo but for some people that placebo is needed. I know my depression is as a result of my upbringing but the last time I went off them, I ate well, meditated, exercised, then started a new job and the stress sent me back into hospital.

@gigicolada 6 месяцев назад

I’m enmeshed. So many of these are both of us. I’m learning who I am and learning to separate my memories and emotions from theirs and this is great insight into all of that. I’m also working on my mind/body relationship, healing my ulcers and too-soon oncoming menopause. I never thought the genes are activated by environment but it makes sense.

@WriterK 5 месяцев назад

34:40 and onward, that is my mom, and my dad. totally. Everything is about them. Even between them, they take everything the say to each other, so personally. I used to make peace between them ALWASY, but then now in my early 40s, I have become exhausted of mothering them, they are 70+ and I am not their mother, I am tired. So no I just let them say anything to each other, do anything, i am like, yeah, you are adults, you know best what you do, what you say.

@stevebruce1235 Месяц назад

Your a blessing Kenny.....Thank you

@norobbery Год назад

The drug comment I think is spot on. Perhaps this is why if one is prone to panic, he or she merely needs to have the drug at hand and doesn't necessarily need to take it. It's a mental safety net. Just knowing it is there can stop a panic attack.

@adelinapepene6314 2 месяца назад

Thank you, Kenny for bringing this service to the world, transformative information ❤

@Zoe-ig3fu 3 месяца назад

Thank you for such honesty. This video has helped me understand more than any Dr consultation.

@teznejensel9099 3 месяца назад

❤❤❤Jesus Christ we thank God 🙏 for this teaching wow wow

@norobbery Год назад

These are really good and greatly appreciated. Education is bringing peace through understanding.

@WriterK 5 месяцев назад

I do not feel hungry at all and do not even want to eat in two situations: 1 - if I am very very happy and at peace. 2. when I am very sad and frustrated

@chelseaxu2323 2 года назад

This is great content! I am in an enmashed relationship with my mum. I was stupid enough to get her involved in my life even I had my own family. Such a mistake...living together for 10 years, it costs my marriage and my motherhood for my only daughter as she was soooo involved with my daughter, and what I was saying doesn't make any difference. I finally moved to another city, but she was sick, so I had to move her to live with me again. She has her husband, but she doesn't want to live with her husband but loves living with me. I just don't know how we can live the way it is. I wish her can find herself, and take control of her own life!

@flower_14141 Год назад

I feel you, my mum is like that, I moved to another country 10 years ago and it was the best decision ever. She no longer can control me😌. Wish you all the best x

@noneofyourbuizness Год назад

@@flower_14141 how did she react . I always wanted to move abroad but she is making plan so she can move in the same country as us, oh and she is trying to manipulate, convince her daughter to move to She said she wants to be like her sister and have her kids live in the same area too .

@Geronimo2u 4 месяца назад

God bless you for speaking, the truth, and being the honorable person, you are about reality and the connection between mind, body and spirit. Shame on our doctors who seems to worship money, which will not follow them to the other side. God bless the doctors who are still doctors

@conchitasamuel8959 5 месяцев назад

Your the Best of all your kindness and talent to share so many people.😊

@kennyweiss 5 месяцев назад

You are so kind

@Gigiyoungerme 2 года назад

Thank you for sharing the signs of enmeshment

@kennyweiss 2 года назад

You’re welcome 😁

@lovetobe30 2 месяца назад

WOWW KENNY!! We have giving or soul away😱OMG that came as a knife in my soul!😢

@spice8831 Год назад

Legend!! Sooo on the ball. Thank you

@kaoutar6921 14 дней назад

Thank you

@stefaniacalabrese9680 2 года назад

Precious Kenny. Thank you.

@kennyweiss 2 года назад

You are welcome

@21cormorants 14 дней назад

Wow, the example of typing out a novel to say “thank you” could have come from my own life! I’ve made a concerted effort to stop, take account of myself, and to just say thank you more modestly… but the enmeshed family (sibling) DOES feel that I’m being rude when I do that, never mind my own efforts to convince myself that a simple “thank you so much” is sufficient. Any advice for when the enmeshment is kind of clinging to you even as you try to disengage from it, but you keep getting attacked and vilified for it? I know we’ve all got abandonment wounds, but I can’t be attached emotionally at the hip anymore… 😮‍💨

@contentbible615 9 месяцев назад

Very enlightening......Thank you

@kennyweiss 9 месяцев назад

Happy to help!

@missstarrynight7736 2 года назад

Excellent video. Thank you so much !

@kennyweiss 2 года назад

You are welcome!

@michaelboulos3272 2 месяца назад

Perfect analogy

@kumarina Месяц назад

After seeing different therapists and being offered medication (once and I was like ???) I just found the cause and course of action for my problems. You can lear so many things now from RU-vid.

@vanessesmal3435 2 года назад

Thank you was excellent and very informative

@kennyweiss 2 года назад

Glad it was helpful!

@heatherguess518 2 года назад

Damn......I love listening and learning and relearning this stuff you share. So much awareness in your videos. The prisoner part....yes!!!!! I was trained to be a slave. I had two choices......to allow myself to be violated or face complete abandonment and death. The hardest thing I'm learning to do is to sit and just BE with myself. 😨😨😭😭😭😭. Jesus, anyway, everything you mention, I have been or done or am still working on.....ughhhhhh....

@kennyweiss 2 года назад

I’m really sad to hear you experienced all of that but I love that you’re working so hard to reclaim yourself. If you need help along the journey remember I have my free master class, that will really help you in the recovery and I would also recommend my book your journey to success. That will really show you how to break the cycle.

@heatherguess518 2 года назад

@@kennyweiss thank you

@kennyweiss 2 года назад

@@heatherguess518 You are very welcome😁

@anewchapter1336 2 года назад

Same here....it has been a rewarding but painful process but it feels great...it's that pain and joy feeling Kenny spoke about in a video I listened to.

@omni-purpose 3 месяца назад

Good man I see God in you He loves you

@SoulGPS 2 месяца назад

This is awesome! Thank you 😊

@kennyweiss 2 месяца назад

Glad you like it!

@momione11 9 месяцев назад

Dito and thank you for your videos.❤

@Geronimo2u 4 месяца назад

However, as a therapist at times, I do recommend medication only because I know that the persons mind is not open to these truth so sometimes the medication is more helpful, if it is something minor non-addictive than not doing anything for the person. That’s the only time that I suggest an antidepressant is because I know the person is not capable of seeing the truth and I feel it’s better for them to be at least on a medication than nothing

@kimgordon3695 2 месяца назад

12:00

@michelleduncan8476 Год назад

445 pm Fantastic information ! Grape story is right on! Really appreciate your delivery styles!

@theuniverseisk 9 месяцев назад

I definitely do feel smothered by affection and avoid arguments

@WriterK 5 месяцев назад

Your videos resolves so much of my answers and confusions, every time. I have so much to write and so much to get help with, but can't do it all here. By the way, is that a real background? If so, I am curious to know what that box on the table on your right hand side is :)

@debragibbs9347 9 дней назад

I had to learn: ‭1 Corinthians 6:13a AMPC‬ Food [is intended] for the stomach and the stomach for food, but God will finally end [the functions of] both and bring them to nothing. --- ●"Comfort-food": Food is not for comfort...the God of all comfort is for comfort. ●"Soul-food": Food is not for the soul (mind, will, emotions)...Truth, Trust, Comfort are for the soul. ●Food is not for boredom...find something to do!

@caitlinvongaertner9153 3 месяца назад

I find your content very helpful- mostly. And it’s definitely brought my comfort in my healing process. I definitely disagree that ALL illness is caused or cured by unresolved childhood trauma. I also personally know fat people who are happy, whole and not avoidant. Thought I’d share that perspective that these things might not be as black and white as they seem to you. Thanks for all the useful information!

@gypsyrose26 Месяц назад

"Some humans may have one or several favorable qualities that are well-developed, but because of the multidimensional nature of humans no individual can be denoted as perfect, flawless, or unequivocally without fault. All humans are imperfect. " All these videos make me realize that all people are fucked one way or another. So there's no such thing as the right ( correct way) because what one sees as abuse and overprotective etc , those people guilty of it, really truly means well for their kids and sees it differently unless they are aware and do it with malicious intend. Maybe they are like this because they never had it growing up, and vow to not let their child feel unloved. Ugh, its hard being a human. All the blame goes to the parents and it's sad because in schools, we are being forced to not show emotions, our side doesn't matter, the bully gets away with it etc, I don't think parents should take all the blame. Some people just have issues not because of parents, but because of who they themselves are.

@rmcd823 Год назад

Actually, I don’t know any healthy family.

@tim29oco 4 дня назад

I think I might be enmeshed with my adoptive mother. I’ve never had a father. And I live with my adoptive sister alone (we’re not related). How do I actually “heal” whatever that means?

@LAMM117 Год назад

Oh my gosh, this HAS been me.....I have gotten better but still suffer from my expectations of my primary relationship

@sarahksanders1029 6 месяцев назад

Could you share the study “adverse childhood experience study” and Bruce Lipton?

@kennyweiss 6 месяцев назад

Great question. I have just created this new tool where you can type in any question and it pulls from all of my content to give you the solution you are looking for and it gives you direct links to the original source of the content and best of all, it is FREE. Give it a try. ;-) kennyweiss.net/ask-kenny/

@flower_14141 Год назад

Great material, thank you 😊

@kennyweiss Год назад

Glad you enjoyed it!

@jejyed Год назад

Like most of your videos, this is clear, informative, and even entertaining. But what's with the cough Kenny? Hope you feel better.

@conchitasamuel8959 5 месяцев назад

Well it’s an eye opening. So much to learn.and practise into the right directions. I missed my younger years? That Iam now amazed with these teachings from your video so much appreciated thank you heaps😢!

@fightswithspirits915 10 месяцев назад

This is a 1 year old video with 1 year old comments. This should have daily hits with daily comments. A very important topic. Would rather have a nice undamaged grape though.

@masteringfibromyalgia 2 года назад

Ok I have all of these attributes, however I cannot figure out how I was enmeshed as a child….

@kassandragraham9367 2 года назад

I was born blind due to a gene mutation and now have a gene induced cancer due to a different gene mutation.

@NightTennisDotCom 3 месяца назад

❤

@tracieharris8100 2 года назад

What are the steps to recovery?

@kennyweiss 2 года назад

That’s a great question Tracie. That would require codependence recovery. You can start by watching the videos on my codependence playlist. I also have dedicated Masterclasses to walk you through the recovery process which are now 50% off for the next week. I also have an online group which is only $59 a month to coach people through the process. Just let me know what you might be interested in and I will be happy to send you the links so you can gather more information and decide what works best for you?

@tracieharris8100 2 года назад

Yes I would like the links

@kennyweiss 2 года назад

@@tracieharris8100 OK here’s a link to my book www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/1981471014/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?ie=UTF8&qid=1628359317&sr=8-3

@kennyweiss 2 года назад

@@tracieharris8100 here’s a link to my master classes. If you decide to take any of those let me know and I will send you the coupon code to get 50% off thegreatnessu.com/courses

@kennyweiss 2 года назад

@@tracieharris8100 and here is the link to the private group www.tguprivategroup.com