Fantastic video. I just turned 47. Hmmm 3 pieces of best life advice. A superficial one, at age 40 I decided if my body felt like dancing to the music, I would, REGARDLESS of where I was (in my car, in a restaurant, in church, in the mall.) Life is so damn short, people. DANCE with the joy your body is spewing from your veins. More serious advice: Act if you're feeling disconnected or resentful. I've quit so many jobs that made me miserable and while it's super stressful to do so, I have zero regrets. Likely, resentfulnes means you're out of alignment with your job, your spouse, or your values... analyze but then act so those negative feelings go away, even if you don't have a solution, naming the feeling is step one..opportunity is on the other side.. Third: Cultivating good interpersonal boundaries while appreciating others may try to invade yours because it's just human nature. :) We all have endless choices in how we react or respond so learn more if you're stuck on "passive or aggressive" as the only two you do.
I just have got one: Sorgen machen ist wie ein Schaukelstuhl. Man ist zwar beschäftigt, aber man kommt nicht weiter. Worrying is like a rocking chair. You are well occupied, but you can't move on. ❤
Every decade brings new things. I was 41 when I had a daughter. Those were wonderful years, In my 60's I had cancer, but survived. But my husband died. Now I'm 72. I feel great and I'm going to make sure I enjoy every year I have left to live.
Thank you for your post, somehow I needed it. I am 39, have been trying to have a child for 6 years now, had a miscarriage. Nothing special, but somehow I gave up. Reading your words gave me a bit of hope. Cheers!
@@jul4173you got this! Keep being positive. I’ve been trying for over 18 years now with no luck. I’m 41 years old now. Keep praying and be positive. Sending you lots of love and hugs. Happiness is the key.
I'm 32, I just started working after being unemployed for close to two years, the day I moved for my new job 40 days ago, my mum passed away at 75. It was abrupt! When I think about the life we had with her, I keep telling myself that I have so many years ahead of me, so I cannot give up on life. Life is fleeting and mine is to work hard, live each day like it's my last and remain faithful to God. I mean I'm only 32, I could live for another 40 years!
Life advice 1) Never give up on yourself, you can achieve anything. 2) When you feel like you can't get up, DO IT ANYWAY! 3) Failing is a temporary experience, and so is winning.
I'm 48!! 1- walk in grace and mercy 2- have boundaries (no is a complete sentence) 3- things are just that... The future matters but the current moment is all we really have so be present. ❤️
Here I am in my early thirties thinking its too late for me! Too late to get a stable, fulfilling career, too late to get married and have kids! Letting my negative and toxic people get stuck in my head!
"Give your kids what they actually need" can I get an amen to that? I didn't grow up in a financially rich household, but I grew up in a stable one. My parents didn't give me many presents, but they gave me something no money can buy: quality time. I literally don't remember a single toy I had when I was a child, but I remember all the times we walked on the park, or the times when they took me to the playground on weekends, or the times when we went out for ice cream.
I am 24 year old and in a rut living with my parents with no job and allot of mental illness. I feel like I am too old for allot of things I want to do. This video gave me some hope and it gave me some light in my life right now. I have faith in myself that everything is going to be great in my life. Thank you for sharing your life experiences and support!
I am 33 and I can honestly tell you that you are not too old and that 24 is a lot younger than you think it is. I didn't realize that until I left my 20's, but 24 really is so so young. Even early 30's are young and I'm sure when I'm 40 I will realize that more than I do now. I absolutely sympathize with you on mental illness, I have been battling my own for the better part of my life. Wishing us both healing and lots of hopeful adventures💛
You could start with just one thing. I recommend learning to ride a horse. It's tough and it's a long process, but it'll give you a lot of confidence. Seriously, whatever it is you wanna try, just do it and be happy if it's harder than you thought. Also, you are young. There are only so many summers in one's life so every single one matters!
Dude, I had recently moved into my moms room, sense she passed away when I was only 11. When I was cleaning her room in order to fit my things in there, I found some things that belonged to her, and it immediately brought tears. Bro I know how it feels! I am 17 now, and I am able to cope with it, but it’s so Nostalgic.
Life advice 1)You are never too old to change and learn 2) remain open and curious about everything 3) your children can teach you as much if not more than you teach them
Don't know I'm 20s now .. I feel like I'm too old. Maybe i don't like my career. It's just like I'm not made for this... I've no any option to do other things😔
I'm turning 31 and I've been too afraid to live a life experience most things that adults have I'm praying for God to give the strength but its really hard
The most important thing that should be on everyone's mind currently should be to invest in different sources of income that doesn't depend on the government. Especially with the current economic crisis around the word. This is still a good time to invest in various stocks, Gold, silver and digital currencies.
My 40s were my best decade. Old enough to have things figured out more or less and life settled down, not so old that the aches and pains had started yet.
I had 8 people die in 6 months including my niece who was 21, car accident, the following year I had a catastrophic accident that left me in a wheelchair, the next year I lost my house to the bank, the next year I got breast cancer, took an overdose survived both and then my dad died from cancer and then my godmother died, she was old, but it was a pandemic and I didn't get to go say goodbye. Two things, having a specific person in your/my life makes life more bearable, and life happens while we're planning. This year I'm 60 I will be celebrating with my children - hopefully.
I'm 43 this year. My dad lost his battle to alcohol abuse, suicide and depression at the age of 53 and for some odd reason that age has also stuck in my head. I hope to make it past 53. Thanks for telling your story!
Just turned 39, and there is only one skill I need, and need to be better at: *Learn how to embrace CHANGE.* That includes learning how to embrace a breakup or a divorce, a death in the family, moving houses, switching jobs, being unemployed, losing my hair, losing my friends, losing my favourite noodle shop, an aging body that doesn't heal as fast or look as attractive, different political stances, climate change, mask wearing, pandemic restrictions, supply chain issues, and every other thing that I took for granted. All of life is about living in the moment and learning to let go.
For me, being rich is having enough money to be healthy and in good shape (sometimes it goes together, at least for me), have time for your family (you dont need to work constantly just to fulfil basic needs) , have peaceful place to live and have money for some extra, like trips on your days off. the rest is just a plus for me
I turned 36 a few months ago and it was a huge one for me as my mom passed at the age of 35 (I was 19). It's definitely a hard thing to process knowing you outlived your deceased parent. It's been hard not growing up with role models and just learning life all on my own. I have my children that Iove me unconditionally and they are my favourite people 💖
"Reflect upon the Past. Embrace your Present. Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled. But to earn final peace at the universe’s endless refrain, We must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)
Thank you for the advices. I am 43 and lost my baby girl 3 years ago, so the passage about the competition in sadness speaks to me a lot. What i learned 1. Always do your best in everything you start, you make. So you'll be free, no regret, no culpability. 2. Accept people like they are, don't judge them, don't take what they do or say for yourself, be gentle and compassionate and be the same with yourself. 3. Enjoy life, enjoy present moment, have fun, make what you like, try new things, Travel, meet people. 4. Work on your believes, go to therapy, let go your family History, free yourself from toxic schémas (Sorry for m'y english, i am french)
Both my parents died at 70 , so I know how you felt , I’am now 71 and in good health , I need to lose a bit of weight but I live a happy and productive life .
1. Boundaries are important....when I say "no" to something I am saying "yes" to something else and often that something else is MY OWN happiness and peace of mind. 2. Practice makes perfect....especially in reference to decluttering your home; I am happy to see that it did not happen overnight for you and that means that i can take my time, slowly decluttering no matter how long it takes.
Suffering isn't a competition. If only people realised that. We all have our own demons. Also, a little selfishly happy that I am not the only one whose 20s weren't the best years of my life. I feel like in my 30s I have finally finally grown into my body.
Happy birthday, Marissa! I turn 30 next week, and I am really glad you posted this video today. Thank you. ✨️ 1. Learn to stop controlling things out of your control. 2. What's meant for you won't past you. 3. Practice gratitude every day.
Happy Birthday! My favorit life lessons are: 1. Don't let things or situations you can't change bother you. 2. Not everyone likes you as you don't need to like everyone. 3. Time is more important than money
Happy birthday! I'm turning 40 soon too! My advice; 1. The only person's opinion about you that matters, is your own. 2. Money is a renewable resource, let it flow freely in and out of your life. 3. You are going to change as a person throughout your life, accept and embrace each change.
I agree with your lessons! The only thing I would add relates to my faith: Don't worry about what I can't control--pray to God about it and let Him take care of it. This action helps me with my peace of mind.
My 20s were cool, but nothing is cooler than how much my 2 year old daughter wants my attention, wants hugs, and seeks mom or I for comfort. Watching her learn all sorts of new things and get better at the stuff she's had going for a while is way cooler than going to bars and getting wasted
I am turning 40 in August. I am a little sad because I have not achieved anything. Thank you for doing this as I really do feel like I really have fallen as I looked around and people achieved so many things and wondered why could I have not done them.
The most important thing I've learned is to do things that future me will appreciate. When I'm in a bad mental state or just super busy, I appreciate that past me has meal prepped or packed my lunch the night before or planned out what I'm wearing for the week or whatever. Even if I'm like "I really don't feel like cleaning the bathroom," I'll do it anyway so I don't end up overwhelmed trying to finish everything I procrastinated on earlier.
It wasn't until I had my first and only child at 40 that I learnt to not care what others thought about me. 30+ years ago, a very drunk old Irishman wrote me a note with 'What others think of me is none of my business' on it, and it's taken me until now to really understand its significance. Learn to say no, question what is not right, celebrate what is and at the end of each day, try to think of 3 special moments or joys that made that day significant.
@@omgLaven of course! 1. Don't be afraid of growing up, it's scary but once you embrace it it turns out great, no need to run away from responsibilities, it builds your character! 2. always remember everything it's temporary: situations, emotions, even the most of relationships. If you feel miserable, don't stay miserable. Don't romanticize suffering and mental illness, seek for joy; 3. Study, study, study, whatever, just stay curious and use your teenage/youth years to study a lot cause it really makes a difference in your life, be aware of the world before and around you; once you work you gain money but oftentimes you don't have much time to study or do anything else; I'll stop here (:
I'm grateful that there are people like you who share their thought on the internet so I know that twenty is not the only season of our life and life is more than just being young and beautiful. I'm 27 years old and I'm constantly on the fear of missing out or being late for everything.
And from a friend of mine, who I think must be about 70 years old by now, how keeps telling all "us younger": "Until I turned 50, I always thought I was too old to learn to play the violin. YOU DON'T have to wait until you are 50!"
Hello mam I'm from India,a homemaker and a mom of 5 yr old daughter. I feel very depressed due to stuff around me.then i come across ur videos, a blessing i must say.Thank you so much for uploading such great videos.
Sometimes I watch videos of Claire Wineland whenever I feel hands of middle age crisis on my neck. She were terminally ill and died at young age but she was cheerful and thankful for the time she had in this world. Someday I will be mature like her in this regard. Rest in peace, Claire Wineland.
The points you’ve made resonate with me. To start, I am not 40, I’m 76, but I recall and still experience so many of the things you mentioned. Currently the biggest thing I am overcoming is the feeling of failure. My husband left after I had my second child, I was homeless, I managed to pull myself together and get a job and make a home for my children. Seven years later I remarried only to realize my husband suffered from PTSD and was an abusive alcoholic. I had to leave to protect my children. I felt like I was a failure. I felt guilt because I worked instead of being able to stay home and raise my children. My children carry some of the emotional scars, we talk about them sometimes. On the positive side, I am learning to set boundaries, NO is not a bad word. I think I was trying even into my retirement years to do everything and be everything. I use mindfulness and therapy and have come to a place in my life where I feel a sense of peace. My comfort ritual is drawing, I do it everyday. It reaches back to my earliest childhood desires to be an artist. My parents, loving as they were, highly discouraged and never acknowledged my art attempts. It made me feel not good enough, and perhaps in some way set the course of my life. It is video content like yours that is so helpful. Thank you for that, you are a fantastic person with such a story to tell. Thank you for sharing. I watch every episode, sometimes more than once! ❤
Hola Linda, cuando era pequeña tuve muchos conflictos familiares, mi madre, al igual que usted, también nos trató de mantener lejos de relaciones tóxicas, y siempre nos llevaba con ella a donde fuese, sola y sin ayuda, no se como se las arreglaba para cuidarnos a las tres hermanas, también trabajaba todo el día y aunque al principio no lo entendia del todo por que me hacía mucha falta, más adelante supe de todo el sacrificio que hizo por nosotras. Ella ya no está en este mundo, pero todo mi amor y admiración por ella seguirán hasta mis últimos días. Así que creo que usted es una persona de admirar, por que no debió haber sido fácil lidiar con todo eso sola, espero que este libre de culpas y arrepentimientos y que pueda disfrutar de su presente plenamente. Muchas bendiciones para usted y su familia 🙏🏼🙂.
Yes make yourself feel loved and give your time to yourself. And make sure to validate the emotional trauma of the children. You're a such a great parent and human. I have barely been validated of the emotional trauma i have from my dad. People always expect me, the child to compromise but not the adult man who's past 50
if you keep growing and evolving I dont think you ever really get older. Knowledge and information and has kept me mentally young, I always look forward to learning something new everyday. Also having a meaningful hobby will always keep you occupied
Thank you for your channel. I lost both parents early at 23 for mom and 11 for dad. I also lost 3 siblings - health and addiction before I was 43. I have an abundant life at 53 years old with a husband of 30 years and 3 healthy adult children. Your channel helps me and I have purged my stuff a long time ago with the same realization that the stuff are not my parents- their memory and my love for them are. I will never move on, but I will move forward till I see them again. Also in the Bible is also where it says someone falls 7 times and get up 8 as well. Proverbs 24:16 ❤️
I’m so sorry to hear about your losses, but equally impressed and happy that you have been able to grow and accomplish so much! thank you for watching and for sharing your story with me. 🙏❤️
Hello fellow Hoosier. I am 59 and I am finally ready to declutter. I need the peace of mind. I live in the house I grew up in. It is small but by beautiful White River. I have too many memories to count and have always been fanatical about keeping sentimental things that reminded me of my happy childhood or my deceased and beloved Mom and Dad. I am just starting this journey. Thank you so much for your encouragement. Love to you and your beautiful family. ❤❤❤❤
Happy birthday, beautiful lady!! I just turned 40 as well and lost my mom to cancer at pretty much same age! It's amazing how we're never alone in suffering... Thanks for such a valuable message in this video!! So, so precious!
I’m so thankful that RU-vid has allowed me to connect with you and all of the others like us, because there are a lot more than we realize and it helps us not feel so alone. ❤️ Cheers and happy belated birthday to you too, Alessandra.
Awww ! My husband turned 48 on the 27th. And My mom passed when she was only 56 from heart problems related to her Muscular Dystrophy, she was diagnosed when she was 38. And I turned 38 this year, it was a tough year for me
"Fitting in" - I learned in my 40's that fitting in is like putting a square peg into a round hole and instead we should all look for where we "belong". People are like puzzles and each piece belongs aside others that are suitable for our uniqueness. Trying to fit in is like trying to be a different puzzle piece. Thanks for your shares, I appreciate your videos and vulnerability.
I turned 40 last year and 41 this year, and I have to say, this is my favorite decade so far. I loved turning 40. I feel so much more confident than I did in my 30's (let alone 20's) and I wish I had known life would get this good. And that you can still look quite young at 40 (and feel young!)
I stumbled on this video by chance, but oh boy, I'm so glad I did!! I really needed to hear all of this! Thank you & count me in as one of your subs! 😇
I lost my mom when she was 66. She was about to retire. Her death taught me so many things. My life completely changed directions because of her death. When you talked about getting older than your mom when she died, I think about that too. I have about 10 years but I still consider it. I related to so much of what you shared. Thank you for being authentic
I’m 19 , I have been feeling lost and damaged. Only the introduction of your video made me feel something good about life. I will keep watching. Thank you💗💗💗💗.
I'm 18 and I also feel a little lost and I'm not very sure about what I want in my life but I know that is normal and I guess it's good to ask myself what I want in my life to progress. Greetings!!
1. My mantra: I can do it 2. My song: Put one foot in front of the other 3. The sage advice my sister imparts to her dog when he's ready to eat something outside, Leave it. I say it when I want to ruminate over something someone did to me, how I got used, cheated, victimized, etc. Leave the thought and your bad luck behind you
For Christmas my very young nieces and nephews played more with the packaging than their actual presents! I love it when they use their imaginations. Your children are growing up with life lessons and best of all a whole lot of love ❤️
It’s SO important to set your kids up for success. I wasn’t taught this either since my parents did everything for me. It really erodes your self-confidence and even in my early 30s, I still feel behind. I liked the trauma points and #2 as well. 😊
My parents were the same way. I remember being 13 and wanting to learn how to wash my clothes. My parents refused to show me how to work the washing machine. The same with cooking. I asked my mother to show me how to cook. Her response was that I really didn’t want to know…Looking back at all of this, I can’t understand why a parent wouldn’t want to teach their children anything. I had to learn a lot about life the hard way, getting into a lot of debt along the way…Now in my later years, I’m debt free and down sizing my life. If I had children, I would definitely have taught them how to do for themselves at an early age because it really does improve your self esteem when you know you can do for yourself!
Why do your videos make me feel like I'm sitting with a wise big sister? Thank you for being so transparent and sharing your life with us. I always look forward to your videos. Many blessings to you and your family.
❤ you don’t look a day over 20. 40 is an amazing age. Your advisor, more confident, and certainly know what you want. Thank you for sharing! Always a pleasure watching your video.❤
I like the portion on ‘suffering isn’t a competition’. This was hard to understand for me until I reached my 30’s. I’m still working on changing my thoughts/feelings but I can understand this better today.
I am a 30+ years old failure male and my sister used to give these suggestions all her life but you know how it feels when a family member makes a suggestion :) But listening from this video I am slowly accepting them all.
Agree, you can't just lie down and accept whatever it is that bugs you just coz of your age. Like me, i'm now in my 40s but I started law school in my late 30s because I was not happy with my career and where it is headed, so I'm doing something about it.
Happy birthday. Thanks for making this video. I turned 30 last year and I didn't deal with it very well. The internet is filled with 20 something year olds giving life advice. But, I want advice from older people.
This video hit home. My grandpa was killed in his late 40s (a couple years before I was born). My mother-in-law passed at 54 of cancer when my husband was 18. The idea of young mortality has often sat in my mind. When I turned 30 last year, I felt a fire stirring in me to make some big changes. Truly latching on to minimalism was one of those things. Many of your tips are things I’m still working on as well (especially about worrying east people think of me).
I understand completely how big it is to age above a parent, it makes you assess everything, I know I don’t know you or your mother but I can’t imagine she would be anything other than immensely proud of you and your family and what you have achieved and how you have grown, you must have surpassed every hope she had for you xxx
I can't believe people still think 40 is old. 😲🤦🏽♀ I think "old" is just a mindset, not a number. In my opinion, people are only "old" when they can no longer learn. Learning keeps the mind young, which kinda makes it immortal! ❤
I lost my mum to cancer at age 6 & my youngest brother at just a few weeks old. I was the eldest of 4 kids who lost them both.. I'm grateful for the memories and the perspective it brings to such a short life.. it really directs you into purposeful living even through the really tough times.
Definitely needed this video as I've been struggling with my mid-life crisis lol. I resonate with you in a lot of ways. I was on my own at 16 and I didn't learn any financial literacy until I was in my 30s.... also the thing with Chadwick Boseman, he really suffered in silence and didn't tell anyone about his cancer. He didn't want others around him to treat him differently or bring down the energy on set. He's seriously a hero.
Gracias por compartirnos tu aprendizaje, aún no tengo 40 pero definitivamente tengo mucho por aprender. De lo poquito que he aprendido hasta ahora, lo que más ha hecho sentido a mi vida son las enseñanzas Budistas sobre el desapego y la impermanencia de las cosas. También ser una persona compasiva contigo mismo y con los demás seres, sobre todo con los más débiles. Uno de mis raperos favoritos tiene una canción que tiene la siguiente frase: "...cuanto más amor das, mejor estas" Esa para mi también es una lección de vida y ojalá le sirva a alguien tanto como a mi🙏🏼🙂.
My 3 best tips!! 1:) dont stop trying 2:) fear & worry will only keep u misrable so dare to break them. 3:) Dont care what others think of u too much, Dont let others bad charactor affects ur good heart , just be you, stay U !! & just let those hungry rats be them.
Such a GOOD video and so many good thoughts. Lost my mom when she was 38 and my dad when he was 63. Both those ages were very reflective years as I went through them. (Now 67.) I giggled at the fall down 7 times, stand up 8 as I am soon to get a hip replacement, after 4 months of pain, so that is my new motto!
You have such a warm and kind energy to you. I’m only 25 so nearly half your age but I look up to you a great deal. Growing up, I never had a stable motherly figure and was predominately raised by my father. But your videos really help and I appreciate this advise
I am with you on the parenting stuff and the money literacy. I am a broke single mother not receiving child support or any other help from a coparent. I think about all of the ways I could have avoided this had I been better educated and more money aware. The things I am not in my late 30s learning the hard way… and plan on teaching my little girl so she never feels trapped by a man, an employer, a bank etc. It is not too late to learn this stuff or change it, but I think about the progress and security I did miss out on without understanding finances at a young age.
Great video again. My 3 life lessons (nearing 40 years as well) have somehow already been mentioned by you but I'll summerize them anyhow ;) 1. Stop comparing. 2. Be kind, to others and even more to yourself. 3. Stay active and keep learning. Have a wonderful 2023 and happy birthday (a bit delayed) as well.
Sorry for all your losses ! I lost my dad, my husband’s cousin who was like a older brother to us, my uncle, my aunt and my brother in the span of three years. I was pretty lost for a couple years. At times, I didn’t know who I was crying for and most times I cried for all. Sorry that you experienced that kind of loss. Life is not fair for sure but it’s still good. Fighting on!!
Happy birthday, Marissa! You make me feel better about turning 40. I am expecting my second child near my 38th birthday this March. Minimalism and debt free living are tools which allow me to soak in all this precious time with my children while they are little. My 30s have been my best decade too! Thank you for continuing to share your journey ❤ (PS still waiting to see how you have such flawless, wrinkle free skin!!)
I am grateful for your 40th birthday!!! May this be your BEST year yet!!! I began counting backwards when I turned 50, thinking that it was a great half-way point for a life well-lived. This March I will be 39! hahahahaha! BRING IT ON!!! Only love coming to you from here on a snowy Colorado mountain!
the financial literacy is great! i remember as a kid so many financial things being held over my head and felt guilty to ever ask of anything as well. all it did was keep me from ask for clothes or food and now am an adult that struggles to spend on even necessities out of fear.
40 here - 1. Take care of your health, even if that just means eating fresher and cleaner. It matters. 2. The best thing about Money and Wealth is that you can buy is freedom, not things. 3. Friends will come and go, don’t take it personal, everyone is on a different path.
I love your channel so much. So much useful advance, so genuine... I never skip forward in your videos, listening word for word here. Thanks for everything!!
You are loved and cherished. You have nothing to fear. There is nothing you can do wrong. If I had to boil this entire message down to one sentence, it would run this way: You are loved. And if I had to boil it down further, to just one word, it would (of course) be, simply: Love.
