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20 Things People Tell Me (INFJ) All The Time 

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@RensRoom
@RensRoom 3 года назад
Links to purchase my book on the INFJ are provided in the description box. Thank you for your support ♥
@ElusvOptmst1
@ElusvOptmst1 5 лет назад
My examples of what people surprisingly say to me: A know it all. Smart. Looking through the world with rose colored glasses, Too optimistic. Why are you so happy. Why are you so serious. What is wrong. Slow down. Talk too fast. Move too fast. Too quick. You know that. Always dress nicely. Sexy but don't know it. Too honest. Do not judge others. Sympathetic and why. Generous. Are you tired. You cannot fix the world. Stop complaining. Do not get so passionate about what you say or think. Smile. You know things I do not think about. You are mysterious. You like to hide. You are funny and do not know it. You know a lot of unique words. What does that word mean how do you spell it. What are you talking about. Are you talking to yourself. How do you know they were going to do that. You were right all along. You are easy to talk to. You listen. Where have you been. Why don't you call. Haven't seen you at all. Do you know you are a great writer. You should write a book. Why you do not return my calls. Why you do not pick up your phone. Me, INFJ, Introvert
@someonehuman6031
@someonehuman6031 5 лет назад
This is scary accurate to me too 😶
@AsmaaSabiri
@AsmaaSabiri 5 лет назад
I wanted to make a list, then I read your comment.. this is scarily accurate.. My style, my distance, my words, my intelligence, talking alone, returning calls, where where you loool all all
@christinel4569
@christinel4569 4 года назад
ElusvOptmst1 Hahahah!!! So dang true. I love it
@emanuel_soundtrack
@emanuel_soundtrack 4 года назад
bravo. Its missing: you are a very sexy nice guy, and I learn a lot of things with you, and love sex with you, but i will stay with James. Thanks for your thoughtfull gifts, it touched my heart like noone never did.
@asuari7305
@asuari7305 4 года назад
Holy cow I hear these everyday. I especially related to being too optimistic and pessimistic at the same time. Also people tell me i am too happy and then tell me to smile lol
@AlannaBoudreau
@AlannaBoudreau 5 лет назад
Very much enjoyed this, as a fellow-INFJ. Thank you!
@silentecho4445
@silentecho4445 4 года назад
I relate to word 4 words
@billkress2606
@billkress2606 5 лет назад
Funny. Might I add "Know it all" to the list. If they only knew how much I hold back ;)
@elisaw8367
@elisaw8367 5 лет назад
haha exactly.
@RensRoom
@RensRoom 5 лет назад
Haha, so relatable!
@kimjensenable
@kimjensenable 5 лет назад
Right? fortunately for 'them' we know how to shut it down...for the sake of peace, of course. "It is only with the heart that one can see rightly" anyway...so why bother throwing pearls to swine? Not coming from a judgement stance, it's more from a place of reality within this worlds diversity. And, also, of our constancy in not actually 'knowing'. Letting it go, for me, is an inner trust that all that is fated to be said and done, will in time, come forward in the 'end'...whatever that is. [Blah blah blah] Patience and Trust=Best Friends!
@billkress2606
@billkress2606 5 лет назад
I keep pearls close to my guarded heart...
@JustinRettig1990
@JustinRettig1990 4 года назад
@@billkress2606 as you should! Not everyone cares to look deep enough to assimilate the pearls at a level the deserve to be
@peterthegrape
@peterthegrape 5 лет назад
"How can someone so smart, be so stupid?" ...or something similar. Perhaps the company I kept was less tactful than yours Ren.
@RensRoom
@RensRoom 5 лет назад
Sounds like it! As long as this doesn't hurt you :)
@safa6267
@safa6267 5 лет назад
yeah me too
@jenniferm6042
@jenniferm6042 5 лет назад
Yes! I was always laughed at and people thought I was stupid in school. Socially, yes. I would have to agree and I think I used to "play" dumb because I was just interested in other things.
@robgreen1828
@robgreen1828 4 года назад
holyyy this isnso accurate my friends tell me that alot
@andrews3267
@andrews3267 3 года назад
Interesting that you say less tactful, cause.. I have heard this a few times, and.. always a similar type person. I don’t know the type, but.. Very procedural, my way or else, type people.. and they are constantly butting heads with everyone around them. I’ve never heard it said by anyone I thought was smart. What I have heard from smart people is different.. I think back to learning to play bridge, it was more of a reason behind it, they noticed I did something they knew wasn’t rational, and they then would say that I should have known it wasn’t rational then give the reason why, which.. maybe only sounds subtlety different, I learned something from one, and automatically didn’t listen to the other.
@shiva_689
@shiva_689 4 года назад
It's interesting, "selfish" has also come up a few times in my life and from what I've gathered it has a lot to do with the fact that I don't like helping people in very physical, practical sort of ways like fixing a car, changing tires, shopping groceries etc but rather with emotional and metaphysical issues but not as many people appreciate that, at least not my family. With friends it's a bit different since I choose them and I'm not really gonna be friends with anyone that has no use for what I have to give
@emila732
@emila732 2 года назад
for me is similar but also I think because I like spend a lot of time alone doing my own stuff, my ex wanted to create something with me, but I need for that my own space, I can go watch a movie with you, but when creating I don't necessary want you accompany me. Also physicall help, I don't mind so much unless is not while disturbing my time in my head , parents usually are like,, help me now, and when you make eyeroll, because someone took you out from your dream word just to ask to hold a foil is like awwwww XD that is why I don't like be disturbed, I can do everything just let me do it in my own time when I am on earth.
@manasis5991
@manasis5991 2 года назад
This blew my mind, i came here just to sat this!
@samanthaventuro1197
@samanthaventuro1197 Год назад
"style"
@violetalar5387
@violetalar5387 Год назад
In my experience the "selfish" label comes when you finally get the courage to say "I see your point, but I'm going to try to do this my way anyway" or you finally get to claim the space and time you need as an INFJ to function properly.
@nmercenary
@nmercenary 3 года назад
INFJ male here. I’ll add a hurtful one that loved ones keep telling me; “oh you just have an answer for everything.”...it’s not that i have an answer for everything. It’s that i’ve taken the time to consider as many angles and scenarios as possible. Thus being more understanding rather than argumentative.
@thefanone
@thefanone 2 года назад
I am with you on this one. I am often told that I speak as if I am in charge because I know everything about everything and it seems to hurt people around me when I open my mouth and speak. I think it is because doing a lot of alone time I read a lot and the search for different meanings meanings of deeper thought
@nmercenary
@nmercenary 2 года назад
@@thefanone yes! Exactly! I managed to workout no longer being guilted for my speech and thoughts. I create my thoughts and i create my feelings. Therefore, i have the ability to change them at will. For that reason, i don’t concern myself if someone’s feelings get hurt. Challenge me back or deal with your emotions on your own. “Thy feet in mire Thine head in murk Oh man how piteous thy plight. The doubts that daunt The ills that irk. Thou hast Nor wit Nor will To fight. How hope in heart or worth in work? No star in sight.”
@benjaminfast5496
@benjaminfast5496 2 года назад
I get this a lot as well. When I'm addressing something people often respond with things that I've already thought about or researched, so I will say "yeah, I know" or "well, actually..." They think I'm just being stubborn, argumentative or a know-it-all, but in reality they advice just wasn't helpful. It weird, people tell me I give great advice and my friends/family seem to praise me on it. But when they try to help me its as if no one can. Usually, if I'm actually looking for advice I'll start the conversation with something like "Hey, can I get your opinion on something?" If I'm not seeking advice, I just want someone to listen. Lol.
@philomenaward1833
@philomenaward1833 Год назад
Ykhr contribution reveals their shortfall not yours but yes it is a hurtfull response.
@beautifulbutterfly5578
@beautifulbutterfly5578 Год назад
The same, or You Know Everything,
@BryanChance
@BryanChance 2 года назад
Here is Ren's list: 1. Smart/intelligent/cerebral 2. You are in your dreams/somewhere else/not present 3. You are not practically intelligent/assembling,fixing things 4. You overthink things/obsess over things 5. You have a kind heart 6. You need more time to make decisions 7. You are observant 8. You are odd/eccentric 9. You are self asorbed 10. You are easily bored 11. You are pre-occupied 12. You are pretentious 13. You are funny 14. You are selfish (I think this is the wrong choice of word?) 15. You are loyal 16. You are flirty 17. You have a feminine sensitivity/temperament 18. You are naive 19. You are discconnected from reality 20. Ask Ren. I heard only 19 items. LOL :/
@philomenaward1833
@philomenaward1833 Год назад
There is very little there that is positive where does the empathy play its part an insight into anothers feelings surely provides enough information so az to refrain from hurting them or at least communicating in a way that dosnt offend or critise. INFJ have the ability to do that almost instantly. If they care to.
@dhananjaysharrma10d2
@dhananjaysharrma10d2 Год назад
reletable
@ne9879
@ne9879 Год назад
New to your channel. Have watched a few videos and was leaning towards INFP. And this video is the nail in the coffin😬.
@aniya_kt
@aniya_kt 10 месяцев назад
you have style after loyal:)
@betterleftsaid3688
@betterleftsaid3688 4 года назад
"In another world..." "Too serious..." "Judgemental..." "Critical..." "Clever..." "Wise beyond your years..." (when I was younger, a lot) "You're overthinking it..." "Who do you think you are?..." "Eccentric..."
@narcpoacher7708
@narcpoacher7708 4 года назад
a lot of those sound like gaslighting from a narcissist because they're secretly jealous of INFJs and they know we have the power to take them down
@monkeybearmax
@monkeybearmax 4 года назад
@@narcpoacher7708 how can you take them down? The inly way to deal with a narcissist is run!
@astroshinde
@astroshinde 3 года назад
Spot on
@educationalbrowsing8913
@educationalbrowsing8913 2 года назад
@@monkeybearmax Thank you. Unfortunately, there are quite a few YT video uploaders who present misleading notions such as that about INFJs!
@carolpolhill606
@carolpolhill606 5 лет назад
For 60 years, the most common thing still told to me is you're too sensitive. Other repetitive ones: you're intimidating, you're intense, are you sad?, are you mad?, you're naive, you're too picky, idealist dreamer, wearing rose colored glasses, impractical, distracted, disengaged, confusing, spacey, living in other worlds not reality. Most always critical observations, by their definition. This is a tricky personality to have on this planet. Thanks. Subscribed!
@RensRoom
@RensRoom 5 лет назад
Thanks for subscribing, Carol! ;-)
@coonytza1605
@coonytza1605 2 года назад
SO RELATABLE !
@philomenaward1833
@philomenaward1833 Год назад
I agree and have heard that in my 70 years the critisims says more about the critic than about you ,it exposes them as a spotlight would. I learnt that later it would have saved me a lot of self doubt and bruising. There are a few who get you very well even for a short while but they are there and I bless them even if Ive never seen them again. Oh my
@carolpolhill606
@carolpolhill606 Год назад
@@philomenaward1833 ❤️
@mahmud1760
@mahmud1760 5 лет назад
In most situations I'm always the one to blame/bad guy to people
@emmacarey2949
@emmacarey2949 5 лет назад
I think we appear so strong that we can be the bearers of the brunt of things unfortunately
@kimjensenable
@kimjensenable 5 лет назад
Are you absolutely sure that you are, indeed, the one blamed?...or...do you Carry the blame within you? As for me, it is the latter.
@emmacarey2949
@emmacarey2949 5 лет назад
@@kimjensenable let's say there is no direct blame placed on me, I used to still soak up the potential of all that negativity by just been a party to it.i can't say I've been blamed too many times for things, but in family situations, I'm singled out as the toughest one who they will emotionally wrestle with the most, and take frustrations out on, as I have a larger threshold for torment, until obviously said threshold is maxed and then I'm closed for business.but since I've awakened, I think that threshold has turned to a bottomless pit...crazy
@drshinobi3979
@drshinobi3979 4 года назад
it might be because they are afraid that their shell might be breached and that you´re easier for them to load their fears off on. Im a martyr myself at times, can see things coming long way and even if i tried to reason with em i let em do it just to stabilize their feelings and hoping that they will learn from their mistakes one day, which happens at times when they come back and realized what ive been trying to say or do
@JellyIsland
@JellyIsland 5 лет назад
Since I was little it was: You're off in your own world again. Know-it-all Too deep Mysterious or Secretive A silly oddball Using weird words ^^
@andrewball9855
@andrewball9855 4 года назад
"I cant believe I'm telling you this!" "How did you KNOW that!" "You come across as reserved."(HA!;) *Surprised at my humour, which can run from dark to delinquent.
@paigeybaby815
@paigeybaby815 5 лет назад
I get these a lot: "You're naive; You're too idealistic/not realistic; You don't live in the real world; You're digging too deep into it/it's not that complicated; Don't over-complicate things; You dream too big; Why don't you try going out once in a while; Stop worrying so much/There's no use worrying about it that much; How can you be so organized *and* disorganized at the same time; Your writing is pretentious; You need to be more tactful; Not everyone thinks the same way you do; etc, etc, etc. Most of my feedback relative to being an INFJ indicates that I severely lack skills in Se and "being present" in the world. I often can't even bring myself to do the dishes and yet I'll be doing some serious mental work on racism or other tough topics. I am insanely organized in my work, but you can bet that my house is messy- not dirty, just messy. The tactfulness issue seems to follow me from place to place- I've been told I'm not kind enough to my coworkers whereas in my own head I'm just trying to pursue the truth or get to the point. I hate wasting time on small talk and, to me, I'm just trying to make a point. I also find that people just...don't understand my intentions. I *never* have intent to hurt someone or their feelings, but I think sometimes the way I say things comes across that way. I think a lot of people find me annoying due to my unpredictability and unconventional personality, so I have a really hard time making friends. They just don't live in the same space as I do, it seems.
@alainfranken7081
@alainfranken7081 3 года назад
I get you. Change your environment and people. Probably to much Sensing in your life.
@twenty7angel
@twenty7angel 2 года назад
I completely relate to every part of this. I wish I knew an INFJ in real life just so I could talk with someone who understands.
@philomenaward1833
@philomenaward1833 Год назад
If you heard yourself your empathy might just save you by letting you hear what another hears you can learn to temper your speech.
@donnatierney3238
@donnatierney3238 5 лет назад
I stopped watching the news on tv as soon as I moved out of my parents home. It is a gift to be able to see through the media, the control and enjoy my own, albeit naive reality.
@crystalcoby
@crystalcoby 4 года назад
Sensitive, too caring, people pleaser, know-it-all, clumsy, attractive, insightful, forgetful, (names and losing things) up in the clouds.
@highland_persuasion
@highland_persuasion 4 года назад
"Funny" "Detached" "Diplomatic" "Weird" (I'm proudest of this - I totally own it) "Smart" "All-rounder" (until they know me better) "Creative" "Level-headed" "Unique" "Approachable" "Patient" "Determined" "Naïve" "Deep" "Long-winded"
@mtpianohearder
@mtpianohearder 5 лет назад
Literally 100% accurate. How can it be that a young French guy and a middle aged American woman can be that fundamentally alike? Trippy.
@kristianjensen5877
@kristianjensen5877 5 лет назад
Literally 100% accurate for me too. How can it be, that a young French guy, a middle aged American woman and young Danish guy can be that fundamentally alike? Trippy. =]
@RensRoom
@RensRoom 5 лет назад
This is the beauty of the INFJ type perhaps! ^_^
@kimjensenable
@kimjensenable 5 лет назад
@@kristianjensen5877 Hahahahaha! Kristian...Hey darling boy, I'm a Jensen as well! So, how can it be, that...etc...infinitum...
@kimjensenable
@kimjensenable 5 лет назад
The Devil is in the details. We are all of the same garden, and yet the individual flower of our very selves holds its own beauty for all to enjoy. I see God in every flower...every flower IS the Garden. Wondrous!
@mtpianohearder
@mtpianohearder 5 лет назад
kim jensen Very well said! 😀
@Justanotherhuman11
@Justanotherhuman11 4 месяца назад
I can make anyone laugh. I wonder if this is because INFJs read people SO WELL.
@cynthiaharris5736
@cynthiaharris5736 5 лет назад
How many INFJ are left handed?
@RensRoom
@RensRoom 5 лет назад
No idea! I'm right-handed anyway.
@JellyIsland
@JellyIsland 5 лет назад
I am! 👋☺️
@tracyspall8480
@tracyspall8480 5 лет назад
You missed one, Ren. You are passionate. All infjs are. Touch on our passions and we'll be your new bff. I'm Canadian, and the French have a matchless je ne sais quoi. I've been told I'm smart. I have a BA in English and Scottish lit/early modern history. But it confuses me when people say that because I just love learning, and if they read the same books I did, they would be smart too.
@RensRoom
@RensRoom 5 лет назад
Hi Tracy, yes - passionate! That’s true, I forgot about that one :)
@jenniferduncan-boyden8674
@jenniferduncan-boyden8674 5 лет назад
I think the intelligence come in the application of knowledge, not merely having it. One may read the same books but not actually chew up and digest the information received. I think that most Americans (I’m American) prefer their information to be predigested for them; thinking is hard!! No one can tell a true INFJ what to think - ever. Something that was a comfort to me was that 70% of the world is sensate! That explained a lot of why I felt like I never fit in!!
@csonshine6724
@csonshine6724 4 года назад
@@jenniferduncan-boyden8674 I agree with you 100%, Jennifer!
@JanSuing
@JanSuing 5 лет назад
A lot of people have called me a poseur or pretentious. I’ve learned to embrace it.
@reginasewelllivfree2702
@reginasewelllivfree2702 5 лет назад
Hello Renaud! I definitely resonate with being told I'm elitist or aloof, having "high" or superior tastes in the arts, and am just "different" 🤷🏾‍♀️. I appreciate hearing your story told through this list and the wonderful ways INFJ shows up in various cultures. Thank you.
@annibrowning868
@annibrowning868 3 года назад
Contradictory/"inconsistent" Irreverent/too relaxed/even somewhat detached Indecisive/ambivalent Involved yet impartial.. Abstract
@platoniczombie
@platoniczombie 5 лет назад
Odd, Eccentric, yes I get that too. My girl friend, bless her, has to repeat herself all the time because I am ALWAYS in my own head. I am super into philosophy too but I don't get called pretentious much, this might be because I am hyper aware of my company and tend to error toward their capabilities.
@emmacarey2949
@emmacarey2949 5 лет назад
I've heard all that Ren..fascinating mind, quirky, standoutish,annoyingly right,stubborn,harsh critic,fiery when crossed too often,surprising, self fulfilling, non conformity to current trends and all the good stuff too. I think we are situationally adaptable and don't get enough praise.although not needed not sought after, I'm very well aware it's not given. Great list Ren:)
@nikkid7963
@nikkid7963 4 года назад
I get your odd a lot, you’re too intense, or you don’t think like everyone else. I hear, can you please stop analyzing everything? I would love to, but I can’t. I live to analyze everything people, the world, information in general, the meaning of life (that one on a daily basis just about), etc.
@farishaai5620
@farishaai5620 4 года назад
Why are you always smiling
@consciousobserver629
@consciousobserver629 4 года назад
My husband often thinks I'm too serious, so when I make jokes he isn't expecting it, but once we connect on that deeper, refreshing level we laugh easily and crack each other up. It's just difficult for me to get out of my head and to lay down the things that are plaguing my thoughts. I feel like if I haven't figured the whole world out and how to save it then I can't give those thoughts a break. I think many INFJs make other people uncomfortable because of their excessive mindfulness (the strive for perfection, for wholeness, for something truly enlightened and revolutionary). "Normies" can be so complacent, lukewarm, and accepting of their perceived limitations. I seriously identify with this list. Perhaps the best way to intrigue an INFJ is to ask one to start thinking aloud.. ask them what they obsess over! Lol
@Babs20121
@Babs20121 5 лет назад
Are we seen as naive because we value harmony more than caring about who is right and who is wrong? I’m usually afraid I’ll embarrass the person and I’ll heed my words especially so when in public or with a group of people and even more so when it’s a person I admire/adore. Perhaps we are being more forgiving than naive. Just a thought.
@bensassiasma7447
@bensassiasma7447 4 года назад
Exactly. I would also say understanding and forgiving.
@JeffMartin83
@JeffMartin83 3 года назад
No... it’s because you never thought to intentionally harm anyone in any way to benefit yourself or someone else. It doesn’t come naturally. It shouldn’t. It hurts to have to find that one out.
@JeffMartin83
@JeffMartin83 3 года назад
Be careful of who said that to you.
@basmaksaibati5996
@basmaksaibati5996 5 лет назад
Odd, preoccupied, smart, harsh, intimidating, kind, old soul, sarcastic, committed,naive, I wink alot but in a friendly way but people think I'm flirting Lol . I laughed alot at " stylish only because I'm french"
@most5795
@most5795 3 года назад
very accurate at reading people!
@prolegomena100
@prolegomena100 5 лет назад
Do you think INFJs are necessarily practically useless? My INTP husband is genuinely practically useless, he's put things together literally BACKWARDS on several occasions, even with the instructions. I don't *like* to do practical things, but my Se is so well developed, I think when I do put my hand to something practical, I usually accomplish it to perfection (because I'm a perfectionist). For example, my husband is a downright dangerous driver because he's so stuck inside his head, but I am one of the best drivers I know. I seem to take in absolutely everything around me and react very quickly. I'm physically uncoordinated, in line with INFJ descriptions, but I seem to have a knack for home improvements and the like. Certainly not anywhere near like my SJ/SP friends, but still night and day different to my poor INTP love! Oh, the best example of my strong S is that I moonlight as a proofreader. I never miss a thing when it comes to English text, grammatically, syntactically, and stylistically. My own writing is virtually mistake-free.
@deimantebruzaite5343
@deimantebruzaite5343 5 лет назад
Oh well, I realising, that my own internal world, universe, multiverse is way better, than real world, because I can make utopia, than modern world, that I living in and makes me indifferent, because our planet are unbalanced, full of injustice, and somewhat crazy, because of majority people, unless, then traveling to different countries, and can make for me so magical and you can escape from harsh reality
@philomenaward1833
@philomenaward1833 Год назад
I have almost never been bored in my life and yes my language is not limited to current jargon.I ca relate to just about every point and would include despite the "self absorbed" is contridicted N.Y. your outstanding and acute observation which iz happening all the time .of coure you will come accross as disconnected of course you are not you are so multileveledly connected simutaneously it is out of most others realm of conciousess they cant relate to it as they dont and never have bee there.All those observations testify to their lack of cognition. Glad you have a great deal ofcourage as well.Enjoy and resoate and identify with just about 100% would love ti know your thoughts on creativity inventiveness and imagination. Thanks again for all ontent.
@zulinhl
@zulinhl 4 года назад
So relatable. The one i hear often: You think too much, stop worring about the future, what if what if not, you are a perfectionist, i didnt know you were there XD, you are the only one that noticed that, you are always stress, you have the music inside.
@rctempleton9711
@rctempleton9711 3 года назад
im not. really that smart,i got into nutrition,eating healthy, the immune system,mental health etc.........and 1400 hours of study feel better about myself,3years ago i think i was kind of ignorant about life i do want to learn things now, almost like im starting to grow up after all im only 68 thank you for the video
@rebeccawilson4023
@rebeccawilson4023 5 лет назад
Pshhhh I can relate to every one of these! The self absorbed one really made me heart broken for a longggg time! I DO care and often think about others but I am a writer and a majority of my time and energy goes into solitude and my writing. But my hopes and intentions are to touch hearts through my writing. Soooo...in a material and tangible way..yeah I can totally see why people see me that way. But i think we just use our gifting and "way we are" in very different and thoughtful ways than most can relate or comprehend. Under the radar.
@emmacarey2949
@emmacarey2949 5 лет назад
That is a great outlet to help others.I am the same in this regard
@JellyIsland
@JellyIsland 5 лет назад
Same. I spend so much time thinking about others and worrying about their problems trying to find a solution to fix it all but I guess I'm a bit bad at showing it - especially in a practical way. My style is to write a emotional letter or poem or give something else I made with all my heart. Or of course acting as the counselor.. ^^
@saranox7319
@saranox7319 5 лет назад
I started a new job, I try very hard to hide my RBF and master socializing, within 5 days I got called „dreamy“.
@Suedetussy
@Suedetussy 4 года назад
Oh my god, that’s my story, too! So good to hear from someone else! I started a new job and tried to fit in socially. I noticed that they found me strange. Now half a year later i‘m totally integrated, but just yesterday we were making fun of each other and everyone got teased for a trait. Mine was „being from another world“. Why, just why? 😫😉
@DonTrump-sv1si
@DonTrump-sv1si 4 месяца назад
Weird, people always tell me im weird.
@Dieshott
@Dieshott 4 года назад
What about eyecontact as an INFJ..?
@authorlatucker
@authorlatucker 5 лет назад
Yup: You’re in your head. You’re quiet/shy/introverted 🤮 You’re smart. You’re funny. You’re mysterious. You need to stop dwelling on/obsessing over ____ (item I’ve overthinking). You’re too nice. You look busy (nice way to say stressed/preoccupied). I am definitely easily bored. If it’s not very cerebral, no thanks. I have better things to discuss than to shoot the breeze about the weather etc. I don’t care for superficial/small talk. Definitely have a more pretentious vocabulary and interests. In some ways yeah could be seen as less accessible and self-absorbed. Definitely loyal once my loyalty is gained. Lol I have no idea of my style but I’m definitely a bit different from the others in a crowd, not dressed the same at all. Naive...well sometimes I do take things a bit more literally than they’re meant 😊 and disconnected...it depends. I avoid the news any more as it’s almost all bad, so sometimes I won’t know anything unless I see it via social media
@sol-oh1gc
@sol-oh1gc 4 года назад
Why did I find myself on the internet...
@wouterstassen4448
@wouterstassen4448 5 лет назад
I believe I am an INFJ but I am very strongly practical and even as a child this was much more visible than it was with my peers. I just always thought it was because I am a perfectionists and would not allow my self the option of not being able to do something practical or artistic.
@Cassy858
@Cassy858 3 года назад
Driving license!! Lmaooooo i failed 3 times before getting mine. That's so funny. I always just thought i was just a slow learner, but I guess infjs are better at things not linked to physical reality, but in their minds.
@visas_y_viajes
@visas_y_viajes 3 года назад
"ah but you are not stupid as I was thinking" one of my bosses told me that when I was 19. "Are you listening?"(the teachers when I was student) are you here? (Anyone that try to talk to me) "you don't feel shy, you are too confident" (coworkers).
@godsgirl9497
@godsgirl9497 5 лет назад
Dude IT LITERALLY TOOK ME 4 CHANCES TO GET MY DRIVERS LICENSE
@kristianjensen5877
@kristianjensen5877 5 лет назад
Haha, me too! It wasn't even because driving the car itself was that difficult, it was driving the car like the instructor wanted me to, which proved the greatest challenge to me (don't be too careful, be decisive but not too decisive, don't drive on the sidewalk etc. etc.).
@RensRoom
@RensRoom 5 лет назад
Are you telling us that you’re a rebel, Kristian? ;)
@kristianjensen5877
@kristianjensen5877 5 лет назад
@@RensRoom ...These aren't the droids you're looking for. =]
@kimjensenable
@kimjensenable 5 лет назад
Yep...performance anxiety. It's like, 'Who are these 'people' monitoring my every move?' Like they are my superior or...Oh...yeah...Driving Tester. [Jerks!]
@m6h24
@m6h24 3 года назад
Took me 2 tries
@david_oliveira71
@david_oliveira71 5 лет назад
Very interesting idea! Like it very much. Yeah, 4 - obsessing about things, may be very likely an Ti thing. Ti really needs much time to Verify what the real and actual truth is, and then even pondering and evaluating its value, to finally come into our "integrated system of Facts." Contrary to Fi, which is more about Values & Beliefs. Thanks
@Kat-rz5lk
@Kat-rz5lk 2 года назад
Hashtag over analyzing....lmao Gotta think things down to the core. I do need time to make decisions sometimes. I see through people's psychological state. Topics need to be in-depth or ya...it's boring lol. Lol resting BF I've been told my whole life...it's me thinking guuuys!!! You definitely need odd humour to appreciate us lol. Becoming a professional photographer gave way to me learning to not be "selfish" ya we are not selfish. Lol Just in our own world's Loyal for sure. People think I'm flirting more then what I am. As a female. It has proven dangerous. Always been called niave. We are spirits living a human experience. Mkay! Keep up the good work! Love the channel so much! Call me selfish... hahahaha Cheers
@helga.lifecoach
@helga.lifecoach 2 года назад
Everybody is not like you… No one thinks like you… You are the exception to the rule… You’re coldhearted… You’re weird… You’re passionate.. You hate stupid people, not everyone can be like you…
@Enigma96969
@Enigma96969 3 года назад
I’m a INTJ, I relate to most of this but when talking about interest in people I’m generally more interested in things and what they do and how they work. But I can see I’m very similar to the INFJ, in fact my father in law has this personality and is even much more intelligent than I being he’s a doctor CMO and I’m a electrician who loves all the trades, but he lacks the mechanical skill and his skill is really towards taking care of people and mine taking care of things. Awesome video, thanks.
@RensRoom
@RensRoom 3 года назад
Thanks Richard! I appreciate your comment. It's really no surprise you should feel similar to the INFJ, given that both types are Ni dominant. In many ways they are the most similar types, though they act upon their intuition in different ways. In my upcoming book on the INFJ I offer a number of comparisons with the INTJ, should you be interested.
@sniehart4115
@sniehart4115 3 года назад
I can't remember people calling me anything, is that sad? Lol. People do comment on my smile. Maybe when I was younger that I think too much.
@DT-bo1zk
@DT-bo1zk 5 лет назад
When i need to fix something by hitting it really hard, i usually get told "Are you afraid of hurting it" or similiar. Well, they're half right, cuz i'm bad at controlling power output that i'm afraid of breaking it further rather than fixing. Being sensitive, i usually doing things gently and quietly.
@user-iw7wm6ji1h
@user-iw7wm6ji1h 3 года назад
Jack of all trades, but I am good at working on mechanical , automotive mainly.
@Owlsworthy
@Owlsworthy 3 года назад
I don't believe in soul mates however I don't think the belief in it would make one naive. Just like one who is religious shouldn't be conceived as naive no matter the contradictories one might have in said belief.
@RensRoom
@RensRoom 3 года назад
I agree :)
@xamorus
@xamorus 3 года назад
I hear good heart or kind heart a lot. Sometimes people are baffled by what catches my attention at times.
@RensRoom
@RensRoom 3 года назад
It seems quite obvious you have a kind heart, Shawn. At least it shows in your writing.
@m6h24
@m6h24 3 года назад
I have heard them all from the nicest compliments to the rudest most insensitive remarks.
@allanhaschick1769
@allanhaschick1769 4 года назад
I think most of those were spot on... My wife's favorite comment.... Can you come back to earth please. You even pill off some of the typical INFJ facial expressions in this video. Thanks for sharing. I love knowing I am no longer alone in this.... Alien world (😂)
@Cassy858
@Cassy858 3 года назад
omg everyone always thinks im flirting with them especially men and then i have to retreat because i was only trying to be friendly and fun.
@glassanddiaphane
@glassanddiaphane 5 лет назад
I can relate to what you described here, I recently found out I have this personality type and have been trying to learn as much as possible about other INFJs. Thank you for making this video, it's nice to see someone who has the same behaviors and drives as I do.
@RensRoom
@RensRoom 5 лет назад
Thanks to you for watching!
@kittenloverj
@kittenloverj 4 года назад
“You have such a unique perspective on life.” hear that a lot in different wordings.
@randomgirl8078
@randomgirl8078 2 года назад
About self-ish. Soul centered.
@kurtking8452
@kurtking8452 4 года назад
A lot of what you said I can relate to, especially not knowing what is going on around the world, they asked me where do I live or better yet, which planet are you from. That part I always wonder about, the planet thing. for example, a doctor gives medication to make you sleep, I am up all night, or you drink coffee to wake you up, I sleep. so not only is my personality unique but my physiological makeup as well. now that I would consider weird
@Cassy858
@Cassy858 3 года назад
I think our kind hearts are underrated in this world.
@lionatticus9743
@lionatticus9743 2 года назад
The other day my therapist mentioned that I may not be finding what I’m looking for on dating apps because people just aren’t “cerebral”. Lol. So, yes that’s one I relate to.
@howaperfectlybeautifulchil7340
@howaperfectlybeautifulchil7340 3 года назад
Here's some of my most heard: You think too much. You are sweet. You have the patience of Job. You are so kind/compassionate. You can relate to anyone - you have such diverse friends. You are so nice. You are talented. You beat yourself up. You are judgy. You are like a leaf in the wind. You have a good heart. You are self-absorbed. You are in your head too much. You are people-centered. You are like Snow White (animals and children love you). You are so creative. You are sensitive. You are so brave in your honesty. You are authentic/real.
@Cassy858
@Cassy858 3 года назад
When I don't find meaning or interest in a convo, I automatically tune it out. I can't help it. XD The comedy skit I'm imagining in my head is much more fun.
@NikkiEvernight
@NikkiEvernight 2 года назад
Can't disagree with any of these. Self absorbed though, not so sure. Usually if we are lost in our heads it is about other people. We can be seen as loners and that is because we just have a thing where we can dearly love our friends, but the barrier in our heads that we have to climb over to go out is so high, that we might not see them for a long time!
@bentravels390
@bentravels390 4 года назад
"How did you know that?" "How do you know her/him?" "What do you think will happen when?" "Where have you been?" "What are you doing?"
@shiva_689
@shiva_689 4 года назад
Haha I loved the way you said "resting bitch face" 7:38
@purplecrayons96
@purplecrayons96 3 года назад
I love your honesty, vulnerability and accessibility here. :)
@andreawagner24
@andreawagner24 5 лет назад
I just got turned on to INFJ. I am spending my day getting to know myself with your videos. They are awesome as are you!!!
@natofficial6722
@natofficial6722 5 лет назад
Tu es français ? Or maybe it's just your origins? I'm french too and I'm making a video about MBTI but in french. Because our french community doesn't speak english very well x) so I translate. You do some great work and it's fun to see that I'm so close to a total stranger.
@infinity7647
@infinity7647 5 лет назад
I'm often told that I look arrogant because apparently I have a RBF. But when people meet me, they say that I'm actually nice. I also have a weird sense of humour tbh. I've been somehow told that I'm selfish. I'm known to be considerate. I rarely interact with people, even family members. During family gatherings, I tend to keep to myself. I've been told that I'm smart even though I don't feel as such
@infinity7647
@infinity7647 3 года назад
@Isa It's easier said than done though 😂😂😂
@gordonaverageguy9556
@gordonaverageguy9556 4 года назад
Kind heart. You seem sad. "We should call you GNN." (years as a military analyst) "You sure are different." "Have you ever forgiven anyone?" "Earth to Gordon". "Just because you were right, you don't have to be a dick about it." I enjoy your videos, Renaud. Realistically, I'm a dog's lunch of odd traits, like everyone. Like, I love to volunteer but I don't want attention, do NOT want responsibility, just give me the worst job nobody wants and I'll get it done and be gone before sunup. Then what happens? In every case, I eventually get it anyways (examples - volunteer as a 1:1 reading tutor, but within weeks, the library assigns me a classroom with 8 students; when I volunteer at the USO as night cook, its a single gig to cook for as many as 700 Marines per night, and after three years, now 5 people were all asking me what to do next. Ugh!)
@diatomshells
@diatomshells 5 лет назад
Talented. People have told me this too often. I feel it’s a word that is a hard one to live up to. Talent means, to some, you own it, and if you own something, it would be a natural thing to assume the sharing of it. I can feel like talent is similar to anything else, continuing development. A practicing. To practice IS to share. Maybe to me.
@suesteig3025
@suesteig3025 4 года назад
I get alot that "I can't be myself around you." More things people say to me is I talk to fast, I'm a know it all, to smart for my own good, and I don't let people be who they are.
@demetriustheoharis6827
@demetriustheoharis6827 4 года назад
Yes, we're brothers in all that. Thank you Renaud. The "selfish" comment means that you value and protect your time knowing that using it the way you are compelled to as an INFJ is more important than any other "trivial" uses of your time. Why? Because if you protect the way you're using your time, rather than spending that time helping others with surface value needs, it will be of greater benefit to that person in the long run. It's actually selfless, not selfish. They just don't realize that yet. But of course we must try hard to take the time to be kind and present with others so we feel joy in that as well. It's just hard to do at times.
@lookouthill11
@lookouthill11 3 года назад
“Wow, you’re overthinking this. You couldn’t know any details about this situation so you must be making it up and stressing yourself out for no reason.” Turns out I was right about X, person then gaslights me and pretends I never predicted said outcome. And repeat.
@DnGGx
@DnGGx 2 года назад
Thank you. I took the MB test a few months ago. It was such a relief to know I'm not alone. Now coping with several realizations, and even more clarity, which has been a bit much. I wish I didn't have this.
@silentecho4445
@silentecho4445 4 года назад
Me too brother. I always tell ppl nothing personal, but i need lone time....that's common with lone wolves..when someone is park next to me i can't focus on what I need, im like a magnet so therefore I find another parking space
@larauch13
@larauch13 3 месяца назад
I have been told that I am smart, Kind heart, very patient, think differently, too happy, very optimistic, in my own world, have different veiws, funny, selfish (self absorbed), I do what I promise, a flirt (though I don't know it), naive, Growing up my sister told me many times that I was weird. Also when I was young, people would ask "Are you for real?"
@jodiwest1382
@jodiwest1382 2 года назад
Constantly Flipping Things Don't Know IQ? Or EQ Still Learning Yes Don't Like Superficial Pointless
@lilydarling4215
@lilydarling4215 5 лет назад
Thank you very much for this comprehensive list,I relate to all of your points,I was trying to figure out your slight accent,thought you sound maybe a bit Irish,thank you for the clue in the video☺️ also I most struggle with the last point,I’m always that random girl for the situation and don’t really fit in most of the time,give people impression that I’m way too naive,I can’t take anymore their irrational reactions and try to avoid meeting ‘strangers’,I realize I can only safely socialize in private where I’m introduced to people by someone who already knows them,when I have to personally assert myself to a complete stranger and and have that initial small talk their lack of boundaries and sexualizing my ‘INFJ stare’ is just disastrous...i have women of my mothers age coming on to me sexually and telling me they are bisexual 5minutes into conversation...yep that’s how they ‘figured’ me out...😖
@wegotonelove
@wegotonelove 5 лет назад
Wow... so relatable!
@lilydarling4215
@lilydarling4215 5 лет назад
wegotonelove oh THANK YOU!my social curse now feels lifted and I get a glimpse of that much needed light of the truth.
@wegotonelove
@wegotonelove 5 лет назад
@@lilydarling4215 ahahahah thats what this comment did for me.. Now I realise I'm not the only one who gets told not to stare and gives people the wrong impression. Especially that I'm in love with them... XD
@camilam8778
@camilam8778 4 года назад
I find so interesting to watch your videos because your body language is the same as mine and this is a little eerie yet I think we would be really good friends
@michellewei7349
@michellewei7349 4 года назад
I didn't get my driver's license until I was about 25 or 26 ( can't remember ). haha.. "resting bitch face"... I wanted a COVID-19 mask with "resting bitch" impression built into it. haha
@jodiwest1382
@jodiwest1382 2 года назад
Empath Give I Constantly Give Yet Ppl View Not Enough
@vinathaaiyanna5263
@vinathaaiyanna5263 5 лет назад
It was a very interesting video. All the traits very much resonate with INFJs. You explained the philosophical part of every trait so well. Thank you very much for sharing your thoughts Ren. It's so good to see subscribers to your channel have been increasing and will be looking forward to see it touch 10k mark and more.
@RensRoom
@RensRoom 5 лет назад
Thanks Vinatha! Yes, subs have been on the increase lately... I hope it continues, haha!
@vh6356
@vh6356 5 лет назад
I can assemble things and be in situations like you described without much difficulty but driving was hard for me it took me two tries to get my driver's license but I was able to get my class b CDL to drive a school bus in one shot... But I have a problem at times with common sense and I used to get frustrated about it now I just laughed it off and those who love me know that it just comes with the package LOL!
@jodiwest1382
@jodiwest1382 2 года назад
Mine Comes From A Fear Of Almost Simultaneously Getting Hit By 2 Buses Within A Foot Of My Life
@nicoled5160
@nicoled5160 2 года назад
I agree with most of them, except. im definitely INFJ and am no competition with istp, but I am quite visual and can trouble shoot and research solutions for practical intelligence. So, intj can be practically intelligent
@jodiwest1382
@jodiwest1382 2 года назад
Ur Funny Thank U For Sharing & Bringing This Out Naive Used To Be But There's Always Hope
@hamzasaeed3698
@hamzasaeed3698 4 года назад
In my analysis all of those things you say are true but I have analyzed it about myself as well that people don't usually tell us these things we conclude these things from people's expressions and reactions. May be once in a very long while a person might say one of these things but it's most of the time me myself that concludes it out of people's speech.
@greatestsawes9712
@greatestsawes9712 5 лет назад
Great video All of them hit me. Then naive (in relationships) part got me like WoW! Soulmate type of thing. Hasn't worked well for me at all.
@tinyyellowtree4076
@tinyyellowtree4076 5 лет назад
You make mountains out of molehills...
@jodiwest1382
@jodiwest1382 2 года назад
Hi Ren😍🤗U R Awesome😁Learning Again So What R We Learning Today?😁
@brittneynicole5358
@brittneynicole5358 5 лет назад
Point blank, you're amazing.
@RensRoom
@RensRoom 5 лет назад
Thanks Briiiiit! :-*
@jodiwest1382
@jodiwest1382 2 года назад
Putting Together Exactly & OverThink
@jodiwest1382
@jodiwest1382 2 года назад
Omg Self Absorbed No Way U Don't Come Across That?
@AmandaExpressions
@AmandaExpressions 5 лет назад
Interesting! Thanks for sharing. Should you ever feel inspired, I wonder what you think about imagination.. or developing imagination.. whatever that may mean to you or bring up for you.
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