The INFJ's Fear 

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The ultimate INFJ quote “Could you say that again, I was zoned out.”

It makes so much sense that many INFJs are into Mbti - it's a fairly narrow, simple, all-including yet quite logical system to categorize the world around us (to organize people and personalities, to be more specific).

INFJ here. I've been in therapy for most of my life. I am 65. You have helped me more than any psychologist or therapist ever could. You have given me the vocabulary to explain what is going on with me. I had to keep my mouth shut as a child and never learned to express anything. So, even though I have a good vocabulary, it didn't matter because I didn't know how to pull the words and feelings together to understand what was going on with me. You could ask me how I'm feeling on a particular day and I really wouldn't know. I am forever indebted to you. Hugs

I'm a simple man, I see Frank James talk about INFJs, I click.

Oh god. I have such a fear of things being meaningless.

Other people scare me the most. Sometimes I can't understand why they've done things or why they think things. I would be perfectly happy living alone in a forest cottage.

Washing Machine: *BREAKS* INFJs/INTJs: So then...what's going on with...the government??? 🤔🤔🤔

I love the little moments when you crack yourself up for half a second. When you make yourself laugh it makes everyone else laugh.

INFJs sense it all, we know there is something going behind the scenes but we doubt our intuition but then end up down a deep rabbit hole trying to find the truth. We also feel the panic and it’s overwhelming, the weekend was an emotional rollercoaster which just left me hiding underneath the duvet

When you say "let's see if RU-vid wants to show us a commercial", it really makes commercials bearable :)

As an INFJ I always can sense things and I'm always preparing myself for many possible future situations, that's why my biggest fear have always been the people I love and care about.

I've come to the conclusion that INFJs are instinctive social economists, we worry about what we don't know, especially as it relates to other people and that perhaps explains the attraction to mbti. We seem to seek patterns to predict the missing piece in complex and confusing things, which gives us incidentally predictive abilities. But doing this too much can consume our life. And then we worry about the worrying about it consuming our life. And then switch to a life preaching about living a life in the present, cause we're really trying hard to get to that place, but when you are an Ni junky it's like next to impossible because Ni-ing can be so much fun when it works out, and it just feels like the deeper place to be, the place to find all the inevitable answers to all the scary things. But it can also be a lonely place, and feel unfulfilling when things don't work out as hoped.

The real fear for an INFJ is really everything, because your higher intuition can pick all the patterns and the hidden meanings that no one else can see, and you know things, you know were things can lead to, you know their path,and with that comes anxiety.

I am not even an INFJ but here I am because of your charm and humor.

I go to the grocery store and it’s panic in ppls eyes, carts full of toilet paper with none left on the shelf, and I’m trying to figure out why toilet paper is the go-to for soothing everyone. It just doesn’t make sense, man. And some ppl are expressing peace and others are wide-eyed and fighting over the last bag of flour and I”m wondering, “should I be buying bags of flour and 50 lb bags of rice?” I hear the newscasts that say, “the government is not taking this seriously”, then (before it closed) I would go to work and everything was normal and predictable. So yeah, my extroverted sensing is all over the place. I definitely feel out of whack.

"It's okay if I don't have control over it." Yes, took this INFJ 33 years to get to that stage. Thankful. I wish you and your lovely audience much peace.

It always freaks me out that you are speaking my mind. How can several people have the same way of thinking!? Thanks for explaining why I freak out

FJ: *talks about ignoring a breaking washing machine* Me: *looks at my washing machine that has only been able to use cold water for over a year because when hot water settings are used it floods the laundry room* No idea what you mean.

I had an INFJ existential crisis a few days ago....I was sobbing and talking about space-time and everything drifting away and apart and how we can't hold on to anything and struggling to keep perspective...the ravages of time. Feeling lIke I was missing opportunities to hold on to things. Feeling stressed to hold on to the moment, the present....I don't know...I got way out there. I don't remember what snapped me out of it. Maybe it was just that I cried and suddenly felt better but it was intense.

I’ve already had the “humonga dunga” moment where I realized everything is pointless. In some ways, it’s been great. I just do what I want because ... why not? But I also have moments where it just occurs to me that I’m just killing time until I die for no reason at all. I know people say you have to create your own meaning, but I’m not quite there yet. I don’t know what I want it to be. In the meantime, I’m just gonna have fun with it. If you ever get to that point, Albert Camus is a huge help.

"It's okay if I don't have it all organized" Well, this was really hard to understand for me. Sooner or later you learn you can't control everything. It's impossible, don't waste your time.

This is killer advice for any INFJs that are struggling out there, as this tripped me up many times when I was younger... thanks for your community contributions!!

In my 20’s an older co-worker said to me, “You don’t know what you don’t know.” At the time, that comment terrified me. Through the years and living through different experiences the UNKNOWN is still terrifying but also exhilarating because I’ve learned that whatever happens I can deal with it. Thanks for the video FJ, hope you enjoy that tea!

As an INFJ I am an improvisation Queen. Doesn’t matter if something stops working, I immediately find a solution to the current problem and move on with it... while stuff sits there broken.

You’re a gem FJ. Stay safe out there, brotha.

I have faced my INFJ fear ... working in a job where every leadership decision was made based on emotion, ego and expediency. The hugest trauma of my life ... and, yes, the veil was stripped back and I see this behavioural pattern and its future impacts so clearly. Learning to switch off this awareness/concern/fear and not respond directly to it and other people's careless acceptance of it is an ongoing challenge. Thanks for your thoughts and stay safe!

this has happened to me before. one time i lost all faith. the result was: years of clinical depression. now im getting better, dont really know how... so i guess we can bounce back from our darkest point... i do feel like a different person now...

Frank, I just want to thank you for these videos. Being an INFJ, as you know, I have dealt with feeling alone, misunderstood, or shapeless in my own identity, and sometimes I am the thing that is holding me back. I would stew in my feelings, trying to think my way to a grand answer and purpose, when really I was just unraveling myself. Having this content is really reassuring, knowing there are so many other people like me but also realizing "oh, this is just how I work". It helps close the loop. This awareness helps me appreciate the good stuff and be more aware of what I can work on in a way that will hopefully help me be more of a go-getter and less of an endless planner. Thanks, Frank! I really needed this!

This fear is so true. That's why I love and feel safe to have people near me who have the facts.

Stay positive and strong Frank! And all the INFJs out there, all the types actually! Lol I can no longer see myself as an INFJ! But that’s not what I want to talk about atm! Just a reminder that when Shakespeare was quarantined because of the plague, he wrote King Lear 💫

Good morning Frank. Maybe you could do one on all the personalities "bugging out". Is it a thing that INFJs get lost everywhere they go because I do, lol. Oh yes, I always play out every possible bad scenario that can happen, like when I drive over bridges. I think about what if it collapses and what plan I'll need to have to get out of the car and how cold the water will be. Have a nice day Frank!

This is by far the most frank has delved into the INFJ psychology. Everything he said I felt and agreed with from fear of everything being pointless to current events.

I believe that having high Fe can exacerbate that fear because we're always looking for validation from the group--what makes them happy, comfortable, etc--and making decisions based on that. Because of Fe, we may blame ourselves for not being able to control the chaos and make things better for those around us, and it turn spiral further into fear or even depression. For example, though I'm the youngest in my family, I've sort of become the "rock" thanks to my Fe and always wanting to care for my family and make them happy with my actions/decisions. However, there came a point last year where the career I started wasn't what I thought it was, and I went through a sort of existential crisis (I had wanted that career so badly when I went through school, but hated it when I actually worked it; it was like hell going to work, and I became so anxious and depressed). I had originally thought for years that this career choice was perfect for me and that I would love it because I relied too much on my Ni, thinking that that would be a huge advantage to me; however, I learned quickly that Ni doesn't really matter for that job, but Se really does. I went to school for 6 years for that job and tried for 2 years out of college to try and get it, but it all felt meaningless. I felt like I didn't know who I was if I had planned out this job and thought of the meaning. I lost faith in myself and thought about how pointless my education was and went to a really dark place. I wanted to leave my job, but I couldn't afford to do it, and I was providing for my brother and I in one state while our parents lived in another. If I left that job, I knew we'd have to move in with our parents again out of state, and cause major changes that I didn't know if my family would be on board with or not. I was so afraid of telling my family because I knew I had no control of how they would handle it, and that I would make everything fall apart. I did end up telling them and we did move after some trials and tribulations at first, but all of us are actually much happier and even more successful by me leaving that career and "finding myself" in another state. Sometimes, as INFJs, we freak out because we can't plan everything, and we worry how our decisions will affect others, but taking that leap and having to face them can be worth it in helping us grow. As he said, our high Ni and low Se can make us extremely fearful of certain things, but sometimes, it's okay to just express how we think and feel about a situation and let things go. Life will never be completely easy because we're so ingrained in looking for patterns and pleasing others, but it's possible to become less fearful and more comfortable with the things we can't control. Moreover, it's possible to come back from dark places of feeling like something has lost all its meaning and purpose; it just takes time, patience, and acceptance.

Well that's weird. Pandemic situation shows me, that I' mostly afraid of... loneliness. As an INFJ. Huh.

Infj with reoccurring health anxiety here Improving on it though ! 👌

FJ: Your washing machine might be breaking down Me: "runs to check" no everything is fine I think "waits for my ISTJ husband to come home and confirm...just incase" 🤔

Being disconnected from the world, not helping people enough and doing nothing meaningful with my life are my perosnal biggest fears (INTJ, NiTeFiSe)

INFJ fear is imho partly influenced by enneagram. This fear about future of society sounds like type 5, my INFP bf has the same fear, but me not so much. Or maybe it is because my Se slaped me so many times, so I decided to worry less about things that are way out of my control and focus on what I can personally influence right now.

Yeah, I don’t fear this disease, but people’s reaction to it... How other people succumb to fear is what makes me feel uncertain but at the same time I have peace knowing I can just keep being myself and doing what feels right to me. 💭🙏

Thankyou for putting my thoughts into words, very comforting.

I’ve been treated for ADHD since I was 6! I’m now 60! I’m not ADHD at all. I don’t have a chemical imbalance. This is just so eye opening to me. Thank you so much!!

8:59 “Something’s going to happen one day... and I’m just going to suddenly realize that everything is totally pointless” Yep, that’s real, that happens, and that’s why I’m now watching your videos. However, what I’m realizing is that it isn’t a sudden ‘overnight’ type thing, but instead a slow build towards that point. Interestingly, on the way there I made a few changes in my outlook and hobbies that have put me in a different position to deal with it, so that - oddly - when it did happen I was probably better equipped to deal with it than I would have been in the past. I’m also able to see it from a somewhat different perspective. I don’t know the answers, but I think being cognizant of it is helpful, and learning what you can from reading or watching videos like these is really valuable. Thanks FJ for doing what you do. 👏

I can definitely relate to the washing machine part. And I agree that we fear more how it is going with the others and the government. I’m not afraid of what happens to myself, but more about others, and the situation we’re in.

i play some background lofi hiphop beats when i watch frank james, get myself a cup of hot chocolate, and enjoy this quarantine. this is absolute perfection thank you again frankie. also, i can SO relate to that bit about either going full Ni or full Se. i swing between those and they're equally powerful muahahaha

Exactly as you said - I'm freaked about loosing control of my life and things I do start to be completely meaningless. I had this feeling and I've had that kind situation in my life few years ago, it was agonizing. I was just waking up with that one though in my mind - why do I wake up anyway, it's pointless - and I was just laying in my bed for hours just brainlessly browsing stuff on phone. I'm watching your channel and I'm feeling like I'm 90% copy of you Frank, and probably it would be more if I would know you in person. I'm changing work once or even twice a year because I just can't stand the stagnation in my workplace, I just can't stand being f* and screwed all way around - doing sh* load of work for couple of nickels while boss is collecting 90% of what I do compared to what I earn. I just hate and I'm afraid of that I will be screwed for the rest of my life, that NOTHING is fair in this world, to have a meaningful life I have to achieve something impossible to achieve. Another topic - just like you said, the pandemic, I'm completely not afraid of it "statistically we're probably ok" as you said, what eats me inside and makes me so pissed of this situation - all the coverage and all fear mongering of media - people f* die every day, thousands, hundreds of thousands, millions because similar health conditions this virus causes - yet nobody f* cares, there is completely no coverage of kind old man that died in age 60, that was amazing person, was helping anyone that needed help, was perfect father and husband. Yet we have sh*t storm about couple of unnamed people that mass media don't dare even to comment other than "ANOTHER PERSON DIED BECAUSE CORONAVIRUS". What is the freaking purpose of that, what are behind the scenes, how the things gonna work after that global hysteria. I'm dental technician and I work in dental clinic, and I can see all the clinics closing for 2 weeks. How people see coming back to the work after that 2 weeks ? - like nothing ever happend ? every patient will be checked very strictly from now on for next couple of years ? I just can't stand the consequences of that mindless decisions - ok we are closing, we have completely 0 idea what we are gonna do after that, but f* it. In last 2-3 years I had breakthrough in my life, reorganizing almost every aspect of it. And with years passing by - for me, everything is meaningful, everything that ever happened, after some time will teach a lesson and it will be valuable more or less.

my need for control ultimately developed into a horrendous ocd - in some level i seriously thought that my life and the lives of loved ones depended on my illogical rituals... it also took several years for me to realize that there indeed was a need for control behind all that. it was so embedded to me that it was hard to see. rough stuff. fast forward to current moment, and i’m living in this weird limbo state in which i am painfully careless and weirdly laid back about some things but very stressed out about others... yes, sometimes i feel _everything_ has a meaning. it’s all been a huge learing experience that keeps on changing. on a lighter note, now that i’m in quarantine, i have all the time to watch some ads and therefore support good channels like this :)

When you procrastinate on making important phone calls, looking at bills, and taking care of important tasks to have imaginary fights/relationships in your head.

As INFJ, there is a quote from Station Eleven (tv series) that really hit me: ”I don’t want to live the wrong life and die” That really scares me. That and people I can’t read?! What is wrong with them, are they even human?!

I need to say this. YOU KEEP ME SANE. Sending good energy your way Frank. Your work is amazing

I have always been terrified of the unknown (things out of my control). It’s frustrating because I am aware that the majority of these fears are irrational and I know that taking it one day at a time is the best solution. Still there’s always that voice at the back of my head that keeps reminding me of those fears. 🙃👌🏻

Thank you for sharing, you put my thoughts into words! I'm constantly bouncing between the Ni and Se functions - I feel like I'm always in my head, having to link everything to some pattern or meaning, even over the most novelist of eveyday things. It gets so exhausting! And when things go wrong, as you described in the video, I am forced to get out of my head and deal with the present and it IS jarring! Because everything is random and I'm no longer attaching patterns to everything. I'm suddenly finding myself coming to the conclusion that perhaps everything is meaningless. To be honest, I find using Se relieving at times because I'm not thinking about a million things for once and actually living in the present moment. BUT I always fall back into this mindset that everything is pointless then, if this is what the reality is, this chaos, no meaning - then what's the point? ~ an infj uni student who stayed home today and had many a thoughts on her mind 😅

Thank you Frank , I can relate so much to what you were saying. Being an INFJ myself , the fear of the unknown and trying to figure things out is real.

Thanks for this. It made so much sense to me. I’m an INFJ and have OCD (lots of letters going on) and everything seems to feel extremely overwhelming and of utmost importance constantly. Then, there are times when I feel so low and things feel completely empty and ridiculous. I guess I’ve been swinging between the two functions, which I never really understood before. Thanks, again.

I've been watching all your videos for a few days now... I'm in therapy for 2 years and I now understand some things much better thanks to what is developed here in relation to the INFJ type... I often think while watching "oh, I'll talk to my therapist about that, and that..." haha But it sure takes time to get/feel better... to create self-boundaries, to refocus on yourself and your needs, to learn to get out of your inner world to work on the extraverted sensing etc, to stop imagining 1000 catastrophic chaotic scenarios that will probably never happen... It takes time, but I can do it, and everyone can do it! Thanks for your awesome work !

I'm an INFJ and for personal situations I totally agree. BUT with bigger situations like the pandemic right now or like nature disasters I'm getting strangely excited (in a positive way) and relaxed - maybe because it's out of my control. Of course I'm worried about the health of my family and want everyone in the world to be safe. But at the same time I'm excited to see what happens next and how everything changes - without any fear at all. Like when you're watching a good movie about the apocalypse. Is this normal for INFJs? Can anyone relate?

10:30 yup, that’s my constant thinking...and then One can look like a conspiracy theorist 🤔

Franklin, I used to feel a lot like what you are describing. Not knowing all the factors and trying to prepare for whatever. And, that chaos didn't come and I was prepared for that chaos. Then one day, my husband dies on our kitchen floor on his birthday and my mom gets dementia. My daughter has an autistic child and any resemblance of life as I knew it is gone. I wake up everyday and say, I don't understand this life. And, being an infj means that I am still trying to make sure I can handle what may come up. But, I can't see what's going on right in front of me. That has lost all its meaning. My house is my responsibility from the attic to the basement. There is no one to take care of and there's no one to lean on. Either one of those is in my comfort zone. Mourning the loss of my best friend and watching my mom disappearing and my dad who's known her since they were 7 years old being sad for the first time in his whole life is my reality. The thing that makes me still alive is my foundation of faith. Not that I was raised in a certain faith but, that I never stopped being attached to the creator of me and everything else. So, that connection keeps me alive. When the loneliness feels like it's killing me, I start thinking about all the other people that are much older than me who are lonely and I worry about them. When I don't have enough to eat, my mind goes to people who never have enough to eat. I know what I've always wanted in life and that was love and I've had it. I always valued that above all. But, my husband is in a box on a table and my mother isn't my mom anymore. In a way, all the myriad things I used to be afraid of have lost a lot of their power. I've already looked in the eyes of a dying man and my life with it. I know I can't prepare for my mom to pass because I haven't even begun to mourn for my husband. I just keep saying, I've never been here before. I can't even cry except on occasion because, I'm afraid that if I ever let go and feel all of that pain that I'll start screaming and I'll never stop. Anyway, you have so many fans now so, I know I'm just thinking out loud here. Take care. Just Carly or CJ

Yes, I am concerned with the changes of the future. Sadly, it is a real thing to be concerned with. The Lord turned CHAOS into an orderly world....so I am making my home as orderly as possible and having the children keep our normal homeschool routine. Bless others.

The title should be The Story of your life in 14:01 minutes

The easiest way to overcome fear as an INFJ is life experience, continually encountering situations that make you uncomfortable and gaining enough knowledge to have confidence in yourself to handle the unexpected. What I have mainly done to accomplish this is teaching English abroad in several countries, and also traveling on my own and planning as I go, things I was afraid of. One thing you can do right now is to practice mindfulness. I don't care so much about meditation, but mindfulness has been so helpful, being in the moment and analyzing thoughts that come into my mind. As for Se, when I was younger I really was scared of the unknown because I didn't know what would happen. Experience and knowledge will change that. Eventually you will be able to predict fairly accurately what will happen. The problem is when you don't have a choice in your options. I am not afraid of experiencing things, but using Se is TIRING. I need a good idea of what will happen and how long it will take to decide whether I can handle something or not. I do get worried when I know I will have to do something that will be exhausting or uncomfortable and avoid it as much as possible. I can't go on an all day tour. After a concert, I am so overstimulated that I have emotional overwhelm. I have to think about what I can and can't handle. Until last year, I was still afraid of the unexpected because it can be really stressful. So I moved to Thailand and taught in a private program at a public school. The management there was A MESS. The whole first semester I had no idea if I was doing anything wrong. Everything was done at the last minute. There were no answers for many things, not really anyone to ask for help. Talk about stressful. By the beginning of the second semester, I was so frustrated that I didn't care anymore if I got fired. I relaxed and just went with things, did as little work as possible and nothing bad happened. In the end, they didn't even know I was thinking about leaving. I was surprised because they had not mentioned the next school year and simply asked what classes I wanted to teach. They have a saying in Thailand: sabai sabai. Relax, go with the flow. That's not to say that I don't occasionally worry about things. After all, I am still abroad, the virus makes everything unpredictable. Like Frank, I am not worried about getting sick. I picked a country that is more careful and may not end up locking down. It has low living expenses and it's possible to renew the visa. If something new happens, then I will deal with it. For now, things are fine. What is the government doing? I don't know, no point in worrying. Will I have to leave the country? I don't know, no point in worrying. I focus on what is happening right now. I do have one fear, and that is to not have control over my life, such as being in an accident that reduces my mobility or makes it impossible to be self sufficient. That's because other people are not so good at taking care of me (or at least my parents didn't do a very good job). So even though I knew it would be difficult to move out on my own, especially going to a country that was very different (China) and basically hating the experience, I went on to live in Taiwan and loved it. Moving makes me anxious, but not for long. I take some time to explore and get to know the place until I become comfortable and everything is okay. I am in control of what I do, and that unknown is now, to some extent, an old friend, because it means that I have many options. As an INFJ, with enough experience, you won't feel the need to panic anymore because you know you've got this. I still can't play badminton to save my life because I don't have the coordination, but who needs badminton? By stepping out of your comfort zone again and again, and becoming used to being uncomfortable, your comfort zone will expand. You'll find there's not so much to be afraid of. And reward yourself after you do something difficult. Food is great.

This really hit home for me. Grieving has pushed me into nihilism. It's nice to know that's not unusual and that I'm not alone.

All my fears came true, and I faced it. I love the growth process, it’s beautiful. And beauty is always matched with pain. Like ying and yang.

10:25 wow Frank, I'm surprised again. We think totally the same thing and feel the same way about current situation. I'm always so much concerned and curious about the unknown side of events that I always miss what's going on now and I'm always late to take the necessary measures😄It's always too late when I wake up from my world of thoughts and come back to reality😄

"When you're so far into one function and some stuff blows up, you start dealing with extraverted sensing in an unhealthy way where it feels like everything is meaningless... and you just become nihilistic." You have no idea how the exact thing happened to me today. Actually also not the first time. So now I'm trying to distance my self from the part of me that needs to control everything and starting to accept that maybe life actually IS pointless... just so I can move on one more day. The way you talk about these is so honest and relatable. Thanks Frank!

Thank you for putting words to/making sense of everything I am panicking about right now.

What is real and factual in the concrete world.... living in the present moment....... important. Frank you are amazing. After 60 years of clinical depression and loads of therapy I’m resigned to taking medication...... which I might add, now that I’ve found the right one, has helped me for the last15 years.......HOWEVER, finding your site has been a blessing to me... I read it every day.... I studied Myers Briggs years ago and put it away for awhile. Recently I stumbled upon yr site; knowing I’m an INFJ makes sense of the world and people for me. THANK YOU!

"Eff the S/E"! Yesss! I feel like this all the time! Yep, yep, yep. Laughing as I write. This is perfect. Thank you.

Bro! Man, it’s always refreshing to hear your thought process and totally relate. Reminds me that there are others who think like me. So for me, the flip flopping between “everything is meaningful” to “nothing is” got pretty bad. But good news is that more recently I’ve found the balance of knowing that it’s really just a balance between the two. There are important amazingly meaningful things in this life and at the same time there are things that are random with no meaning. So I’ve learned to embrace and enjoy the meaning and let go of the burden of finding meaning in the things that are random. Its taken time to settle into, but it’s definitely helped with my same fears. :)

Morning Frankie! I enjoyed this video. It helps to see how other INFJ's are handling this. Being that we are all on a spectrum of our type. Thank you for being vulnerable with us about your 'fears and concerns' and reminding us that we are not alone. Stay Handsome :) Melissa

I live in the forest in a cottage and it is better than anything you can possibly imagine. I wish every INFJ could have this, if I could make it happen I would. Love you all and thanks Frank for your encouragement that happens just because you are "you" and you share your life and brilliants with us.

Basically, our fear is "SOMETHING might be boilingly coming up and I can't PREPARE myself for that cuz I don't know WHAT it is and I'll just have to react FAST, take a fast and SPONTANEOUS decision and then REGRET it so much after, so let me just IMAGINE anxiously ALL THE WAYS that something I MISSED SEEING could F me up in the FUTURE"

You're So Clever and Ironic. "When I do worry, those are the things I worry about."--FJ, mimicking Dos Equis Mexican beer commercials whilst talking about the CORONA virus... Corona being another Mexican Beer. xD I wish I had more friends who could pick up on this kind of humor.

I left everything I was doing to jump on the notification :')

Thank you for posting 🙏🏿💜

This is the best type of content that you put out. Ty, FJ 💛

With the COVID-19 situation evolving, I am afraid that people I care about may get sick although even if they contracted the virus, they might be fine. The same goes about myself - even if I get sick, I'd be fine or if not, then what can I do about it? I too wonder how all these restrictions would affect the economy. The stock market is one thing, but restaurants are having to depend on deliveries and take-outs here in Philadelphia (and many other cities, I believe). Other nonessential businesses cannot operate. There are so many homeless people here already. I'm able to work from home on salary but there are so many other people who are not as fortunate as I am. It makes me so sad to see some of my friends taking cheap flights to 'have fun' without considering the possibility of spreading the virus to vulnerable people just because they are not currently sick or they wouldn't get seriously sick from a statistical standpoint. I get they have the 'right' to choose what they do, but this is one of the times when we really need to develop the 'Se' and compassion - and I think this is an opportunity for our society to mature and overcome the social divides.

Please punch in some "Look here YOU DREAMY PUNK" so that I wake up.

Thanks for this video. Very helpful!

Thank you!! Really resonates with me

💖 Hang in there Frank, and the INXJs. 💖So much love to you.💖 I try to remember that all the “unseen” can be benevolent, even if it presents as chaos. I don’t know the meaning of everything, but that doesn’t make it meaningless. 💖 There are more things in heaven and earth, Horatio, than are dreamt of in your philosophy. - Slim Shakey 💖

Yea, maybe I should do something about that check engine light in my car. For some reason (demon Se i guess), each time I look at it, instead of thinking "oh I need to take this thing to the repair shop", I'm like "this thing is gunna stall any day now in the middle of traffic" *crippling anxiety*

Your words have soothed my soul. Thank you

The randomness is frightening. I’ve had a lot of changes in my life as I am becoming more disabled. I worry that i will lose focus and not handle what’s coming at me. The fear can be paralyzing. It helps to know others face the same uncertainties with similar fears.

Just woke up after having nightmare about being raided... I would say this video is accurate, but I was never ever to put my deepest fear into words. Explains why I am so triggered during this time (CoronaVirus Panic). Thank you.

I am at the end of my master and looking for a job that suits me. Now its all random and chaos. At my first job interview I was so afraid and confused... even the eseist qs where a huge step for me, because i had no focus into my inner self. I made plans and thought about many possible outcomes, but I realized: I cant plan any opportunity. Everything became pointless at all. But now I will try to stick more on the reality. What can I do now? Are there a plan B? How can i use my ni-ti in a professional way instead of my overwhelming Se in stress situation? Hmm

Incredibly helping; thank you.

I feel so understood, it's amazing ♡

I'm an INFJ and I love chamomile tea😻

I need more of this in my life. I need to find my own Frank James so I have someone to talk to about stuff like this.

That washing machine example really hit home

Amazing ... nailed it I share your fears and positive suggestions.

Yes, the “Neo” moment. But when the fallacy is ripped away and you see reality, you can learn to fly!

Does it ever happen to anyone that when you are going to sleep you suddenly get these identity crisis thoughts? Like sometimes my conscience feels detached from my body, my thoughts are like I am just a consciousness in a body, and the body is not part of this thinking entity. I (my consciousness) feels like in this whole oblivion I am stored in this body and why is it that I am stored in this particular body only?? Wow that made no sense but yah does it happen to anyone else? Or am I just a freak?

Seriously your videos bring me comfort in these times. I really enjoy them and I’m very happy when you post new ones.

I didn't realise how much I needed this video. Thank you

Dale Carnegie book “How I stopped worrying and started living”

Omg i feel stabbed man why this is so true 😭 sometimes i ignored things in my office and then suddenly boom! big problem happen bcs of my ignorance 😓

You are so awesome Frank

Thanks so much for your video on this. I'm an INFJ who got Covid-19 and I spend every extra minute reading research studies and trying to piece everything together. I'm realizing it's my personality type that makes me extra relentless. I'm struggling to get back to my pre-covid level of fitness and wellness, and I'm so hyper-focused and tenacious that I'm likely missing some of the little joys of everyday life.