24 Regrets of People Who Are Dying - Matthew Kelly 

One regret is not to be long winded and waste time

@@charlesbaldo HAHAHAHAH

Rare to find this nowadays.

100% right👌

Yes! Concise and to the point. Thank you!

Sometimes Fear is a friend who's misunderstood

@@mrdeep6406They say "perfect love cast out all fear", if so, there is no misunderstanding that fear is the ultimate goal of humanity to destroy, forever.

Exactly!

The list is biased since it does not include anyone who died from cliff diving 😂

​@@mrdeep6406ok there John mayer

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I just liked your comment with my stupid phone. I'm a hypocrite. Proud hypocrite. I'm smiling now. Gonna turn off RU-vid and do something useful. Yep. Any second now. You'd better believe it. Gonna happen. Pretty much very soon...ish.

Haha!!! @super7ace that’s the spirit soldier! Get out & about, do things, anything, keep moving 👍

And yet you're on your phone right now writing this comment. Oh the irony.....

​@@SaL-ep7zbIt's not ironical if he understands that he is part of the people who's going to have that regre

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fear does prevent death in certain condition but yeah it makes senses too

That’s god damn deep

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how do you explain the day I didn't jumped off a cliff because I was afraid?

One of the greatest comments I have ever read on RU-vid. Thanks a lot for that! It is always about perception. You decide how to perceive your life. It doesn’t matter what anybody thinks of you. Their thoughts about you don’t matter in the slightest. It’s about you and always will. Very well said.

@@Stefan-wi1mvGlad it resonated with you. I’ll keep reminding myself the same thing over and over again.

the truth is though, we dont want to live on our own. we are social so it kind of does matter what people think to an extent

Yes but that's the fulfilled life. You before me. Others first. You don't want a selfish existence just thinking of you. That's wrong and fruitless.

@@garyg7549 wrong. It’s always me first. By putting yourself first you’ll become a better man and anyone around you is going to appreciate and benefit from what you become. Being selfish is most selfless thing you can be

Sounds like a part quote from The Shawshank Redemption 😂😂😂 I

What is it we do when we are living? Is it riding a bull, jumping out of a plain.

In the western worlds do we tend to ignore death. It falls under ignorance is bliss. The Buddhists on the other hand says that we should think regularly about our death. That is how you get the north star in your life. In other words, what you should be doing with your life.

Memento mori

It should also inspire us to progress the research of biological aging reversal and longevity escape velocity. We have to occupy our time with some kind of purpose/work, so why not make the purpose one that actually could give a great outcome.

Wow. Thank you for sharing. I've thought a lot about how much of what we (I?) dream / desire is visualized in the 3rd person...but I live my life in 1st person. And (until I realized this) I didn't visualize things I wanted the way I'd actually experience them, in the 1st person. The thought of bending down to pet your pets...that reminds me of that. And it's a sweet moment where it's just you and the animal, sharing a connection.

@@nickdeacon I don’t think I’ve ever thought of that before. That’s a very good observation. In dreams, even if I can tell each of the characters is a manifestation of my subconscious, there’s still always one character I inhabit more than the others, seeing from their eyes in 1st person. I suppose personifications in the psyche viewed from the 3rd person are considered “distant” to the self; distant to the ego, perhaps. There’s probably a lot of potential depth there to be explored.

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Pure gold.

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So inspiring, thanks! This is the one "regret" that speaks most to me. Less work, more traveling, more dreams I'm already doing. But I worry about stuff, I worry about the future... And I'm sure that a lot of worries would not materialize themselves. Yet I still worry...

" Live such a life that even the undertaker will be sad to hear of your passing." ~ Mark Twain.

I have often heard that said and I have changed my mind . A lot of people have too much time on their hands and should have worked harder .It would give them a sense of purpose instead of complaining all the time.

But there are a lot of homeless people who died of hunger or disease on the street because they don't have money because they don't have a job. No one will hear their complaints because no one needs them. Do you think we're just working for fun? If you paid me money for nothing, I wouldn't work, but just enjoy life. Unfortunately, smart guys like you only get smart, but they don't solve the real world problems.

@SERG__ZV Calm down petal, I said work more, I do a 50 hour week. That's already too much. All I'm saying is don't work your life away for someone else at the loss to your family. I am NOT saying don't work. Dear God almighty, I thought everyone could have worked that out without me having to explain it 🙄

I enjoy the state of "working". The feeling of ticking off boxes / tasks in my head appeals to me. However, I understand your perspective. If you don't show up for your friends, the connection thins & eventually breaks. Now, it's like they don't even know you. A sad reality since when you can no longer work, you're friends are the only people that stick around.

agreed

As you get older you realise that those you tried to impress were not even worthy of your time.

I am sure there are ppl who think about you. Namely your loved ones and your enemies.

@@maxsheng8215 _of course,_ lol. We’re not dead 🙈 No, what is meant by “no one is thinking of you” is _no one that matters_ is thinking _unkindly_ about you. So be free. No one that matters (like loved ones) is going to be purposefully critically cruel regarding what your goals/dreams are in life, so you should not live in fear of what they think. Anyone that matters (like loved ones) will take care to encourage you and build you up and spur you onward. Anyone that _doesn’t matter_ (like your enemies) truly _doesn’t_ matter... because they’re your enemies and their opinion never mattered in the first place 😉 so it’s even less of a reason to live your life concerned with what they think of you when/if they do at all. (And even so with both parties still, thoughts will be fleeting because, try as we might, we all tend to focus on self the most.)

​@@In_timeRight . as a grown up, you are responsible for your own life. As a child, what your parents think of you and your goals do matter, and they could positively or negatively affect your decision making.

I don't have any of these regrets. I left behind childhood friends. They have their own troubles and responsibilities. Not interested in chasing a dream or passion, and spirituality is an empty cup for me. I stopped worrying what others thought of me long ago. My main concern is just to have fun, exercise, and keep working until retirement.

so your telling me you dont care what i think about you?

the thing about life is either way you're going to suffer. if you're content to work a low paying job and settle you will suffer, badly. if you embrace that you will suffer and willingly decide to suffer in huge amounts every day, you can make lots of money. money is a tool that gives you freedom and power. power to make choices others can't, the power of self-ownership, the power to influence others, the power of security, the power of controlling your time. the choice is yours, I hope you choose to take the hard path and you will come out on top.

Money is a neccesity, if not a really great contributor to most of the things on this list.

Money is important for survival and freedom to do things, but if you work too much, especially in a job you're not passionate about, it may lead to 'I wish I hadn't worked so much'. I suppose it's not so bad if one works an uninteresting (to the individual) job just for the money, and has enough time and money to pursue one's own passions and dreams outside of working hours. But in my experience, having a full time job in a field I lacked passion for truly felt meaningless. Like, I was meaninglessly passing time and life away. I'm working part time now in a field I'm passionate about, and I'm much happier and find my work more meaningful now. On my deathbed, I wouldn't regret taking a major pay cut to do something I believe in. But I would most certainly regret if I were to not take the risk, and stick to my old field just for the sake of money. Human life is only a few decades short, typically, regardless of accumulated wealth. Accumulated time from doing meaningless work, that, you'll never recover.

Thanks

thank you you so much!!!

very good

Thanks 🙏🏾

If I was a scientist I would wish to gather data about the people that make lists in youtube comments.

Nothing is guaranteed

@@mrSbig20 Death and taxes are.

I wish I understood why it is so difficult to conquer daily fear & laziness.

​@@MR-backupit's never easy and that's the beauty of it,to look back and think proudly of what you have achieved despite the difficulties you faced but until then you do that,you struggle for your purpose and remain with a smile on your face thinking about how much you wanna change your situation for the better. I say that because I am in the exact same spot and I think I have finally realized that the beauty of living is found in action and improvement of yourself

@@MR-backup It's because we are literally beings made up of TRILLIONS of other smaller beings, who are themselves made up of TRILLIONS of bits of data contained in DNA, which is all just REPITITIONS AND PATTERNS of behavior. That's our unconscious mind, and it's stronger than the conscious mind. The only way to overcome it is to realize that you are redirecting a TRAIN. You cannot redirect a train through brute force.

As time passes, your words resonate with me more and more. There's beauty in wisdom, yes..

Revenge is a fool’s game

i've been hating an important friend of mine for almost 3 years. I will follow your advice and i hope i become a happier person as i always wanted. thanks

@@estebanalvarezfazi1397 I had been hating my ex husband for 7 years. We have a mutual daughter and he keeps in touch with her. One day l decided to cut of all ties with him and his family and disappear completely from his life. After some time had passed one day he called me and suggested to become friends. He admitted the fact that everyone makes mistakes. Yeah, it's a long story and there were many other reasons and consequences but the moral is obvious.

​@@estebanalvarezfazi1397I had been hating my ex husband for 7 years. I couldn't delete those bitter memories...and our mutual daughter was a reminder to me because he kept in touch with her. But one day everything changed...he called me and asked for help. I was the only one who could solve his problem. I refused to help because l felt it was unfair....he didn't deserve it. Then l just decided to cut of all ties with him and his relatives. After a while he called me and suggested to become friends no matter if l help him or not. He also admitted the fact that everyone makes mistakes. That was the only thing l needed to hear from him. The story has more reasons and consequences but the moral is obvious. (I'm not a native speaker of English).

The best thing about retirement is Sunday night 😜

Spot on. Godspeed when you retire. 👍🏻😊

Golden advice for young people under us, just stay at home with your parents as long as possible if you have a good bound ofcourse. And invest big parts of your money in a index fund or etf funds. In a time window your capital will be grown at least double the size. If you are like 39 you will have a decent passive income. I'm talking about a yearly extra income with the rent of your funds. Will even be a lot more if you are able to keep your work in all those years, and no problems with your health Its pretty easy overtime to build wealth with passive investments. At least if you start at a proper age with the right knowledge. Whatever you do don't buy a stupid car to impress dumb women I'm advicing etf or index funds, because it doens't require tons of knowledge about the stock market. And you are like investing in the whole market of a certain list of company's. Those list involves big company's and are like 1400 company's. And the market on the long term alway's spins around a profit marge around 10%, so you defo beat inflation with such a investment Don't be afraid of investing in stock, people who lose big money with such things. Just invest all their money in a few compan'ys. And that's alway's a bad idea and involves a lot of risk. But if you invest in tons of company's and build it progressive, then its really a good decision to build wealth it The taxes are a downer ofcourse, but you only pay taxes on your rent and if you decide to sell. Its important to create a snowball effect with such things. Don't buy such things for just a couple of years Also fuck work i defo agree with that one. To be really happy you need to have fuck you money. And you can't achieve that with just working hard, you need to have knowledge about the stock market Don't mind my english grammar, i know its crap xD

Excellent

good thing I have a decent paying job that is work from home for life. its like everyday is saturday . 😅

.very beautiful attitude, all best wishes to you!

Im glad you cared for your mother. Be kind to yourself 😊

I'm sorry for your loss. Let's consider the alternative...if one is not sorry to see a parent die. That means that there was bad blood. That is terrible too. My dad passed away April this year at 87 . I loved that guy but his slow demise over the last +-5 years put the whole family on edge, pins and needles. Financially and emotionally it was very taxing. After his death I also experienced enormous relief. It is normal.

Thats very brave to say, many people find it difficult to admit that caring for their loved ones is a real mental burden. I am happy you are now at peace. I am currently experiencing similar with my mother. Remember to make time for some therapy :) keep going.

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Lot’s of lame regrets. Surely some of these didn’t come from mouths of dying people or were they just made up for this video!!!

Sort of... if they had had more money they would have worked less, picked a more meaningful job, spent more time with loved ones, etc. But you're right that "stuff" was not on the list.

@@SENSEF Not sure about that. Many people work as much as they can to earn as much as they can - and it never seems to be enough. Not sure what the mindset is, but money spells security (to most), and I think that's what they're really looking for.

Some people's passion is actually making money.

@@istvanglock7445there are a lot of people that earned enough money and enjoy it in silence, but you don’t hear about them

does anyone know what their purpose in life is?

@@frankclements1431 my purpose is to pass butter.

purpose is an illusion

The more you find out about life, the more you get numb and depressed, so enjoy the lies

im sure everyone does...it snot on our time but Gods and soem peopel never find their purpose in life...thats not our control

Yup 👍🏾.....not to mention that perfection of life isn't even possible. You'll always feel short changed by life and have wanted things differently because life itself isn't perfect. It's okay. It all played out the way it did.

As they say - "Hindsight is 20/20".

This is actually a neat idea, I might try this. It also gives the living time to pay respects to those dead--some who may be remembered, and some who may need to be remembered.

I do that every week. Am I weird lol.

ohhh i couldnt do that... i dislike the old concept of a human taking up land for so called eternity..

OK when you're young, but when you're old It can be a bit dispiriting when you see hardly anyone who lived longer than you.

Where you are, I once was. Where I am, you too shall be.

Interekweb I might be wrong but I think Courage has nothing to do with being assertive. it’s an inner quality that doesn’t depend on being more than someone else- as assertive’ implies.

@@janel342 Thank you

You can't do it all in one life.

I can't agree more 👍

Thay's basically what I said in my comment on this video. I'm 72.

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Im 18 and i agree to this. The only regrets i have so far are things I havent done, not the things I had done

Correct.

Some people travel by hitchhiking etc, you dont need a lot of money to travel

Exactly. I wish I could never work and just travel, but there's no way around for us normal people.

Ever since i was young,i always craved for a more adventurous life,and like you said,since i did not have a luxurious starting point,i cant just care about myself and do all the travelling i want.i have to be responsible if i want happiness of me and my family,but my fear is that when i get a job i wont have time to do the things that i want to do

thanx aanad ❤️

The song "Cats In the Cradle" by Harry Chapin comes to mind.

You were a great provider - kids must eat and have a roof over their head first and foremost. Be proud of your achievement of getting them to healthy adulthood. You did amazing. Now is the moment in your life when you can give them some time, reach out to them and tell them how much you care and how you’d like to become closer. They’d probably love your help with the grandkids doing school runs etc. It’s never too late. Good luck 🤞

And the reply to that should be: "Wish all you want, but you ain't getting it". At that stage, a person might as well just keep their mouth clammed up, because anything they say will be useless and only make them look weaker.

@@BlueSkyCountry explain

I recommend you to read the book psycho-cybernetics from Maxwell Maltz. Its a wonderful book and the principles laid there can definitely help you with what you are struggling right now

The debt that all men pay.

It is overrated .Everything gets dull in the end .

Omg, what a load of bull

@@karlabritfeld7104 explain please.

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​@@argonianaccount1876Sir what were your suffering? Please give me some advice for life, I am young and inexperienced. 😊

Thanks for sharing with the community.

I feel differently we have to make an effort to be happy but our natural state is sadness without any work.

True - when you're young, you think you'll live forever. When you're old, you realize too late that time is running out, and you no longer have the capability to do the things you dreamed of doing.

Wayne Dwyer

@@manniimannii8253 At least, spell his name right. RIP

Can relate to that 100%, also mid 30s.

Time creeps up on you very quickly, when I was 30 I thought 60 was was light years away but found out it was just around the corner

All true ... my guess is about 97% of worries never happen, all you can ever do is prepare well for 'whatever' and then be phlegmatic about the process forthcoming.

everyone worries. It's part of the human experience. If we knew what not to worry about we would not worry about them. But we don't know. There are many uncertainties in life.

This is so true……makes me really think.

@@frankclements1431 Learn to suppress them and never share them with anyone. "Human experience", I prefer to experience what I want to experience. Everything else gets buried underneath a concrete lid like the Chernobyl ruins.

18 is still very young don't worry 💖

You’re a bloody foetus still. OMG.

100%. People who don't have children will never understand.

You are way ahead of the curve. Keep it up buddy❤

Great movie

Greatest film! My favorit film.

Yeah, but what does that really mean? It's a BS movie line that lemmings think is so profound, which it is NOT!

That's damn right!!

​@@kendallevans4079 Excellent point. I guess it would have different meanings to different individuals!

same, It sounds like the misinterpretation of someone who has found (or thinks he'has found) something too late that "makes more sense in their life". Life IS absurd, that's just a fact, looking for a profound autonomous meaning in life, and hoping to make it a condition of one's existence only leads to depression.

There is no inherent meaning to life but the one we create for ourselves. Create a one which prioritizes you experiencing more of life consciously than not.

There is no deeper meaning. Thinking is for the slow and feeble. Just live for the moment and live for instant gratification. We don't know what might happen tomorrow and I cannot care less.

Same. I am religious but these questions put my mind in a very dark place.

That is really well said.

This reminds me of the Alan Watts quote: "the meaning of life is just to be alive"

Thank you for this post. I’m really worn down today and this gave me the boost I needed.

In other words, you seriously missed the point of this video.

Despite our efforts to achieve some success, for many of us, all we were able accomplish was survival.

I just said a small prayer for you. One step at a time.

Makes me question the point of even being alive.......system is rigged.

Building a channel takes quite a long time. You’re doing an incredible job, and moving along faster than most! Keep up all the great work, it’s all worth it in the end. Great work, Nathan. You should be proud of yourself.

@@MatthewKellyAuthor Thanks so much! I realized that the main reason for doing this is not about the success but the inspiration I've been providing some people with my stories while helping others do the same as I shared the lessons & experiences through making videos to have a sense of meaningful purpose. Therefore, I’m planning to quit nursing to pursue youtube full time as there are lots of issues in our traditional health systems as these don’t align with my values. It’s a huge learning curve but I love helping people through making videos.

What kind of issues? I think i can relate even if im not in the medical field..

@@MatthewKellyAuthor Whoever you are, I don't know you personally but I can say that you're one of the non-judgmental and open-minded people who is not fixated on tangible or external factors in order to learn from someone like me. Just because someone doesn't have a piece of paper as a credential, doesn't mean that person is not entitled to share personal experiences with the hope & intention to inspire others. Keep up with whatever it is that you're doing to improve mankind or improving your life even to a slight degree each day. This is just one part of a bigger puzzle for creating my RU-vid channel about holistic health. I literally could have died back when I was 14 years old due to major depression but here I am right now replying to you, a RU-vidr, who's full of fulfillment and dedication to help others to be a better version of themselves. I ain't better than anyone else but my old self. That's all that really makes this RU-vid thing more meaningful and enjoyable. Thanks so much for your support! I am hoping that you can join me with this endless personal development journey! :)

@@Anna-bd7or I recently quit nursing as I hate it and it doesn’t make me fulfilled at all. Working in a very toxic environment isn’t worth sacrificing for. From constant gossiping, backstabbing, the lack of support from the management, micromanagement and to being treated like a piece of sh*t. These are the most common themes in mega corporations and even small ones although there are a few corporations that do still value their employees. I also don't agree with how the healthcare system is running. They are treating the symptoms of diseases but not the root causes. Promoting a very poor diet and just medicating them although some pharmacological interventions can be beneficial but their approach is not holistic at all and is lacking many aspects of life that are needed to have a healthy lifestyle. This type of lifestyle is what I truly do not agree with. I was in a career that is deeply flawed in so many ways. There are some nursing careers that are better than the other but most of them aren't holistic. Most businesses only care about making money and not about the well-being of their employees and clients. I then decided to slowly dig my way out. I spent every drop of my limited free time working on meaningful projects I truly care about and applied for as many jobs as I could until I found a job that is more enjoyable and is a positive workplace to be in. I am now an office manager in a clinic and do creative stuff via RU-vid and freelancing on my days off. I am still at a corporate job but I’m happier than working as a Nurse. I like the people I work with and they treat me with respect and as a human-being. That’s what’s more important to me. Having a sense of purpose through creating online content I truly care about also helps a lot. My freelancing gigs also give me creative outlets. I like the variety of tasks of being a manager as well as it offers tons of creativity. This job also gives me more free time for myself and I can spend some time socializing with my loved ones and meeting new folks. I couldn’t have been much happier if I didn’t start taking actions to change my life.

Actually you never will. This is the human condition. If they were young again and had time, many would probably live it the same way. It's just the stages and cycle of life. It's the same way as adults we see teens doing dumb shit that we once did and one day they'll watch teens and think the same thing at our age. It's just the cycle of life. That's what's terrifying is that we know it but still can't change

Godbotherer demon- Sean O'Dwyer- 136- 140 Hobson Street.- Auckland City. 1010.- New Zealand.- South pacific.- yeah ahh seen all types off spirits and ghosts in my 65 yerars of life so farr.

Absolutely TRUE ..👊😎

You are so welcome!

Hello Carla how are you doing my friend

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What does it mean to live authentically?

​@@frankclements1431sticking to your principles. Consistency.