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27 Years Old...and My Life Is Already A Failure

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What do you do, when you can't seem to stop failing?
2020 was a hard year for everyone. I wanted to share my own experience over the past 12+ months, and be real about the struggles I'm having. Depression and anxiety have plagued me my entire adult life, and it can be hard to keep going.
But we can't give up.
There's still time, and there's still hope.
No matter how long you've tried and failed, how long you've been stuck in the same negative patterns, you can change. No matter how chaotic this world gets, with pandemics, with elections, with riots, we can still choose to pick ourselves up, and keep striving.
Know that I'm on your side, and I'm struggling with you.
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@shinywarm6906 Год назад

i'm 63 now and terminally ill. At 27, I too was depressed and anxious; thought I was wasting my life; that I had "already failed". But as my time runs out, I see it all so differently. Life is so very short. It never really mattered what exams I passed or failed, what salary grade I achieved, what artistic masterpieces I did or didnt create. My life was is its own point, my only and every chance to experience being part of this wonder-filled cosmos. All that matters is that I relish the moment. squeeze every drop from it, no matter how sweet or bitter. It will all be over too, too soon. Mary Oliver's poem, "Wild Geese" has it just right. You do not have to be good. You do not have to walk on your knees for a hundred miles through the desert repenting. You only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves. Tell me about despair, yours, and I will tell you mine. Meanwhile the world goes on. Meanwhile the sun and the clear pebbles of the rain are moving across the landscapes, over the prairies and the deep trees, the mountains and the rivers. Meanwhile the wild geese, high in the clean blue air, are heading home again. Whoever you are, no matter how lonely, the world offers itself to your imagination, calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting - over and over announcing your place in the family of things

@PerfectSense77 Год назад

Thank you, that’s a very profound message.

@PK2_69 Год назад

I needed to hear this. Thank you very much.

@elenakalashnik Год назад

Thank you for sharing your thoughts

@aenigmatica8 Год назад

Oof that made me cry. God bless you and thank you for your insight. ❤

@Mustang1984 Год назад

This actually made me emotional. I turn 40 soon and the one thing I've realized is that this life is all about love. It's all about helping each other. God put us all here for a reason.

@user-sp3er8rw9p Год назад

You are young. I was a wreck at 27, didnt get my life together until i was 30... now im 35 and happy. Youre going to make it ❤

@KirstenQuist Год назад

❤❤

@AKM93 Год назад

It's called adjusting to circumstances LOL your happiness

@TKUA11 Год назад

What’s the secret?

@MasterofPlay7 Год назад

Did you buy a house?

@badass6300 Год назад

You are not young at 27, you are young until 23-25, which is when senesence begins. The problem is that the "education" system wastes 12-20 years of people's lives and their youth, while producing weak, stupid useless people. That goes double for STEM, because those are actual legit fields, but they don't teach you crap.

@modernfiction8474 Год назад

A couple tips for people who start and fail many times: 1) Just begin again. Theres nothing stopping you but your own perception of yourself. Just because you failed 1 time or 100, just start again. 2) If you focus on your failure and the bad about yourself, your mind will continue to generate those negative thoughts. (think about the effort you put in and not the results) 3) Don't compare yourself to others. It snowballs and sooner or later nothing you do is good enough. Only compare yourself your past self.

@KirstenQuist Год назад

This is great advice, thank you for sharing!

@Melissa-818 Год назад

Jesus-Christ love you my brothers and sistersss ! Come back to him ! (John 3:16) "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life." He died for you ! You will be saved by believing in his name, and you will not go to hell. So, accept him with all your heart, read the Bible ! Here is the good news ! ❤🥰🥰

@MrSociofobs Год назад

Impossible not to compare yourself to others in such a competitive world. Everyone has to quite literally compete with other people, and be better than them to reach any competitive goal. Not comparing yourself to others is delusional.

@Jonas-qf1cu Год назад

@@MrSociofobs i believe you are right, you can not stop comparing. its more meant to get an emotional distance between the comparison you do. you can compare yourself to others, but you may not rate yourself and draw conclusions about your selfworth from it and take it as an absolute unchangeable fact. its one picture of a video, a momentary shot of your life. you have to let the movie run, and not attach to the picture you took. also for me, it is like, i tend to take pictures of the failures, but the things i did well i dont picture, i cant even name them. this is not objective, its a programm how you treat yourself and look onto yourself, you ve learned from your parents. so its more of a training you can do about looking mindful on what actually happened. and you will suck at start, but with training you will become better. actually thats psychotherapy. you get more distance between you and your emotions, and you get a different point of view on what actually has happened. just start to questioning if it is any benificial that you rate yourself as negative, even if you conclude it is not benificial to you, you will not deny that someone else was better, so there is no danger to loss of reality. its about training your perception. comfort yourself and try to find positive aspects as well. (you tried it, it didnt work, try again! - look how much efford you put into this, you can be proud to have dedicated so much time/energy into it) you dont have to believe in them, just take them as a possible alternate point of view, and see how it feels.

@cosmicman621 Год назад

@@Jonas-qf1cuWell said...very wise..mature.

@katzzz3355 Год назад

Life is not a race. There is no such thing as falling behind. Your honesty is helpful to many people. Thanks for this. Be kind to yourself ❤

@QohelEt-qb7kw Год назад

Keep up man

@encapsule2220 11 месяцев назад

my thoughts to that would be, only people who are falling behind need to say that to themselves. thats how harsh i can be to myself

@pickywolf2728 11 месяцев назад

Life is a race.

@benwills7343 11 месяцев назад

I’ve yet to watch the video but my reaction before watching this and being 27, I agree life isn’t a race, but at the same time there are things we can miss out on even if you do them later in life. Like take being in school again, you experience completely different things being the popular kid vs not being the popular kid, in that same concept, walking down the street in a small town at 22, 25, 27 and 33 it’s the same experience but greatly different. I still plan to do everything I want to do in life, but doing those things at a later age has a different effect, I don’t really know how to explain it.

@robertblume2951 9 месяцев назад

That is not true for men.

@rainchimes9269 Год назад

I'm a 28 years old woman and I've always struggled with staying disciplined. I have a history of having low energy and I usually fall short of most people's expectations of me. I was crying today feeling like a failure, like a waste of space. I couldn't bring myself to go to work. I almost feel like I'm too sensitive for this world. But I found your video... I'll just keep trying. I just have to do one thing, and it's to not give up. I think I can manage that.

@KirstenQuist Год назад

Thank you for sharing. Despite what your life has been up until now, and regardless of anything you have done in the past, what matters most is what you do next. You are equipped to make a good decision in this moment. And it sounds like you made the first one, which is to not give up! We just have to take each moment as it is and ask, "What is the best I can do in this moment?" Sometimes looking at the whole day is overwhelming. But we can focus on the exact moment we are in and make a good next decision. And the goal is to make choices that are easy to live with in the future. That we won't regret. One moment at a time. One breathe at time. I wish you the best in your journey ❤️❤️

@Anarchizer Год назад

It's not you. We live in NOT NORMAL times.

@someone-bt5lu Год назад

Hello there! I have a book recommendation/topics that might help you.. i'm a very sensitive person too and can relate to most of what you said.. actually even age & gender are the same lol. Anyways, have you ever heard about high sensitivity and childhood emotional neglect? Especially about childhood neglect I'd recommend the book *emotional neglect and the adult in therapy* , it helped me at least finding the reasons why I want so badly to meet peoples expectations and why I cant stay disciplined etc. Thats of course only the beginning but it really made me feel more calm

@KirstenQuist Год назад

Thank you for the recommendation!

@Rowanda7361 Год назад

I very much relate to feeling too sensitive for the world

@Kingcobra6699 Год назад

This Generation is so driven. At 27 I was still figuring out what to do and so were many....

@LA_HA Год назад

christoph: "Driven"? Hmm. I don't know if "driven" is a true descriptor, but I guess my experience is different than yours has been

@thelostcosmonaut5555 Год назад

@@LA_HAshe's a millennial. Millennials are still driven, only our morale is faltering thanks to our futures being stolen by corporations. I'm still fighting, though. Chasing the dream until I can't any more.

@LA_HA Год назад

@@thelostcosmonaut5555 [Edited for clarity] Thank you for your response. May I ask another question? Well, two questions. If it's weird, don't worry about it. I understand if you don't want to answer it. Question 1: How are corporations stealing your future? Question 2: And, are they stealing it in a different way that the educational system didn't steal the futures of Millennials and Zoomers?

@thelostcosmonaut5555 Год назад

@@LA_HA The main culprits are real estate corporations. Look up companies like Blackrok and Tricon, among others. They are buying up all the surplus housing and hoarding it which means they get to set the prices. In my city, you won't find anything below 1100 dollars. I've seen studios go for as much as 1700 dollars. That's more than a whole pay check for me and I make 23 bucks an hour. The price for school, trades included, is insane. At the local community College you can expect to see 300 dollars per credit hour. Reminder: full time school is considered 12 credit hours, do the math. Now, since I can't buy a house (many of the starter homes are beginning to be for rent only, anyway) I have to look at apartments. The companies who own the apartments know that I can't afford anything else but I still need to be close to my job and family/friends. This puts them in a position to charge me just as much as I can afford with virtually nothing left over for me at the end of each month. They also add on bs charges that you can't opt out of so the base rent advertised is always a couple hundred bucks higher. Not to mention that they charge 250 application fees that you don't get back. These corporations have also done aways with pensions, outsourced work to poorer countries, and pay you just enough to keep coming back every day. They do this even when they have the guts to brag about record profits. AND if they fail, the working class bails them out and foots the bill! Should I go on about the 20 year long war we just lost, as well? It's also funny because they throw up pride flags and talk about "diversity" when it's all just a PR stunt to make people think they care and aren't committing human rights abuses on a daily basis.

@KirstenQuist Год назад

I suppose some of it may be due to social media. There's the pressure of comparison. You see people in their early 20s who appear to "have their lives together" and it's easy to compare yourself to them. But from my real life experience it seems many people are still figuring out what to do in their late 20s.

@josphatmwas Год назад

im 27 now i feel the same way, i start and never finish,but one thing i truly did is getting myself out of alcohol addiction

@KirstenQuist Год назад

That is an huge accomplishment. If you can finish that, you can definitely finish your other goals!!

@Jonas-qf1cu Год назад

thats more than most alcoholics are able to do. you can be proud of it. and you did it for a reason, - find out which, and what you wanna do with this new freedom.

@profpurge Год назад

Fantastic! Be proud of that!

@Eighteen19 Год назад

Keep fucking going don’t turn back no matter what. NO MATTER WHAT! 👍🏽

@vawkwardbat Год назад

That's amazing!

@Thehartoftheparty Год назад

I'm turning 40 this year, I never really caught up with people my age. I still try, I struggle, and I fail. When I was 27, I nearly ended it. At 30, my mother did end it. I appreciate this video and I hope I find the focus and remember my dreams. Hope you keep doing the same.

@RedaReda-vl9ff 5 месяцев назад

I wish you a beauthifull life

@justiceforall007 Год назад

At 27 you're NOT a failure, you're at your prime, with a world of opportunities still available.❤ Hey, i'm 56, and i remember thinking at 27 there was so much i wanted accomplished by then, but i've accepted i'm a late bloomer taking the scenic route through life.

@wizardadmin Год назад

past your prime, with PAST, that is important to note☺

@atetraxx Год назад

@@wizardadmin AT your prime

@wizardadmin Год назад

@@atetraxx blah blah blah, wishful thinking, blah blah blah We all know, just don't accept the truth

@Chunda8 Год назад

Sweet I am 54 and in probably a similar place. It'll be whatever it is- our life. If people don't like it or we disappoint, hey that's tough nuts for them, life is full of disappointments. The previous fails didn't stop us, any new ones won't either!!! It's a strange mantra but it works. A slightly better version of "F* it."

@wizardadmin Год назад

@kristianafanasi352 on one hand, we should let them be... on the other, consequences of having half of population live in delusion are bad to say the least

@MSpotatoes Год назад

27 is no age to judge the totality of your life. When I was young, I had a completely messed up life, but after decades of striving, I am no longer young.

@medicogamerr 7 месяцев назад

What about those parents who considered you as their future support, future care takers, when at this age when I should have had made them proud, i should've took their responsibilities, instead being an asset I'm feel like a liability to them. My dad, he warks day night, suffer with diabetis type 2, age already 62 and building our first home now, we are almost get jnto some sort of Financial instability again, and at this stage ,when I'm 27 , when I should he his helping hand, he is still my helping hand, when I should have made him retiree, and made him sit and enjoy his life, he's still working. I have been failure in an entrance exam 7 time till now, still want to go into it, but those pressure, those expectations. It sometime feel like taking some pills, or do something with myself, at least Liabilities will end, but then a thought comes in my mind, what will happen to my mother mentally if she saw hwe son dead in front of her, I know she'll be completely broken. I can't even die, no clue what's going on in life after so much efforts

@RedaReda-vl9ff 5 месяцев назад

@@medicogamerrdont give up my belove,you are not a loser,your parents are proud of you,dont think about killing yourself,your life is precious,take care my friend

@AhadRehman-sl7yz 2 месяца назад

@@medicogamerr Hey you are mirroring my situation. I am about to turn 28. I was trying to achieve great things but have been failing ever since. My father is an old man and seeing him doing work takes my breath. Suicidal thoughts are very frequent. Believe me We do not have to do that we just need to take small steps. Do as much as we can for us and our family and keep working on self development to be better version of ourselves

@nalpamaramnambeeshan2982 Месяц назад

@@medicogamerrExactly my situation. I resigned my job at the age of 26 to pursue a better job.. Now at 28 I am jobless.... Seriously thinking about killing myself

@pierogipierogipierogi Год назад

RU-vid recommend this to me and I was blown away by the level of filmmaking and story telling, vulnerability and well... Everything. I'm in shock you dont have houndrest of thousands of views. I hope that the RU-vid algorithm picks it up and you'll get the recognition you deserve. Don't give up ❤ keep going

@KirstenQuist Год назад

Thank you for your kindness and lovely comment! I will keep going!! ❤️

@Melissa-818 Год назад

@Teemu78 Год назад

Back in the day when I was about 27 - 30 years old, I had to face myself and felt very much the same way You explained in this video. Now that I'm older I have found that life is never really a failure. What has helped me was to go slowly forward anyway, try to enjoy life and don't give a f*ck if someone else comes to tell that you should live this way or that way. This society seems very much to be sick in many ways; like overproduction, having too much things that are not needed, assuming there is a certain (the right) way to live and exist. That all creates easily stress and negativity to a degree that kills people. So go and live your life just as you want and don't ever feel bad about that ;)

@aenigmatica8 Год назад

Love this!

@126theman Год назад

Sounds good til you meet the police hahahaha

@bibibomba4515 5 месяцев назад

❤❤❤

@lvd-lyricvideodream1879 Год назад

im 28 going on 29 and opting in for option 2. life’s not done yet. life is tough, but so am I. glad you are aware and making steps, thank you for sharing your journey!

@KirstenQuist Год назад

Option 2 is definitely the better choice, glad to hear you're taking it!

@utterrubbish6768 Год назад

Ah, I dream of being 27 again. With the insight I have now I could achieve so much. In retrospect I realised that the times I felt lacklustre and motivated were the times my brain was trying to tell me that I should be doing something else in life. I value freedom a lot but real satisfaction comes when you have responsibility for other people and do something to make their lives better. However bad and anxious you feel in life that moment will eventually pass.

@4DoorsDown Год назад

I typed in RU-vid "I'm lost at 27" and this was the first video that popped up , and all I can say is , im so happy and grateful this was the first video that popped up. Thank you Kirsten, for not giving up but also being the light for those who are in constant darkness.

@KirstenQuist Год назад

Thank you for sharing this. It means a lot to hear, and it motivates me to keep creating!! ❤

@KirstenQuist 11 месяцев назад

Wow! I filmed this video over 2 years ago and for some reason it's blown up recently (30,000 views!). Thank you all SO much for the incredible support! It's been so beautiful and heartwarming to see. There are so many of you out there struggling with this negativity and self doubt, with feeling lost and stuck, and it makes me sad because I know how painful it is. But I also want to give you HOPE! I know things can get better, as I feel I'm in a much better place than when I made this video. Don't give up! Yet also don't tie your identity to the goals you achieve, there's so much more to you than that! My mindsets have definitely had to change a lot since filming this! If you'd like to see an update where I discuss some of the helpful things I've learnt since this video, you can view that here ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-APZ-Y4biy1s.html I wish you all the best on your journey! ❤

@nocturnaljoe9543 Год назад

So how has it been? Did you manage to get well, now?

@inyourfacetimmy Год назад

I lost my job and a few days later, my cat died and my girlfriend broke up with me. Been stuck for the past six months. Can relate a lot. Thanks for sharing the video. Made me feel like i'm not alone in this experience, of not being able to move past my unpleasant insecurities.

@terryjackson9395 Год назад

Thank you for posting. I guess YT suddenly decided it liked this video. It showed up in my feed a day or two ago and I ignored it. Then it showed up again today and I watched it. Sometimes things are just random, keep throwing stuff out there and one day something sticks. No matter what, God/Universe/Source sees and enjoys every creation you create

@IamAloha Год назад

Yep , by 68 you can really see how you messed up so many years . Now , I'm literally, to sick & tired to change . So I thought , but recently , I can give myself a " that a girl " for each little accomplishment & positive change I'm making.

@LabRat6619 Год назад

The biggest lie to life is that it all revolves around MONEY. Leave all those who believe in this mantra.

@andrewwabik5125 Год назад

I’m 30 and have battled extreme depression for most of my life. But there’s something off about this. The way it’s put forward. The way you present yourself. It’s setting off alarm bells inside me. Comparison will always have you falling short. The only person you need to compare yourself to is yourself. And success can look as many different ways as there are people. You might achieve all of the aforementioned success as you defined it here, with lists, RU-vid subscribers, etc. But even then, you may feel empty. If you feel strongly about what you’re saying…then I agree. Keep pushing. But don’t focus on the end of the mountain, try focusing on the journey. Hope you find what you’re looking for.

@KirstenQuist Год назад

I agree, it's not a healthy mindset. I wanted to express 100% honestly what I was feeling though. It's been a struggle between what I know logically to be true and good, and what the negative thought patterns, that I've had most of my life, continue to tell me. But yes, comparison is definitely only going to lead to misery. And so is focusing on the future. I realize I need to live in the present and ask, "What is the best action I can take in this moment?" Thank you for taking the time to write and I wish you the best ❤

@jreverie7018 Год назад

Thanks so much for making this! I'm a 29 year old guy balling my eyes out to this in the middle of a bush walk at night, as dramatic as it sounds! I don't think I've ever watched a video that has touched and resonated with me this much before. I'm stuck in a job I hate that my bosses need me for so I don't leave, and I just live in constant regret. I always have that voice you describe saying it's just too late when it comes to my dreams and goals. Sorry this message is all over the place, I just wanted to say I'm glad RU-vid recommended this to me, I really needed it. Keep on pushing forward. Also, you have phenomenal talent, genuinely. I went to school for graphic design, videography etc. You have what my teacher used to say (in my opinion) a true "eye" for design, which cannot be taught. Not to mention the incredible story telling. Subscribed with the bell on, looking forward to seeing more from you! Thanks again.

@Silencer796 Год назад

*hugs* you got this!

@jreverie7018 Год назад

@@Silencer796 thanks so much! Funnily doing the same walk again tonight! Although more optimistic:) You have got this also!

@KirstenQuist Год назад

Thank you for this beautiful comment. You keep on pushing forward too! ❤❤❤

@RedaReda-vl9ff 5 месяцев назад

@@jreverie7018i wish you success and happinness

@SelfShine 2 года назад

I just turned 27 and happened to come across your video. So glad I did because you do not give yourself enough credit this video on its own is truly amazing and the meaning behind it is even more amazing! I know as creator we can be harsh on ourselves when it comes to posting we want it to be perfect but viewers aren’t looking for perfect they are looking for genuine and I can tell you have a beautiful soul. Thanks for being vulnerable with us and I really hope you continue uploading because your channel will go far!

@KirstenQuist 2 года назад

Thank you so much ❤ It can certainly be hard to overcome the perfectionist inside, but of course you are right and genuine is more important. I want to create, and I plan to do more in the near future! Thank you for your encouraging words!!

@KirstenQuist 2 года назад

Oh and happy birthday :)

@SelfShine 2 года назад

@@KirstenQuist You are oh so welcome, glad to hear that and lol thanks 🥳

@SilverHawk214 Год назад

I've felt this way since 21, lol. That being said, I look back and I do see progress. Maybe it's slower than everyone else but I think it just seems that way. We all put on a front that shows only the best of us. I think we all feel behind when we are young even if we aren't. Even knowing that, depression still takes hold every single winter as the new year starts. At 26, I'm getting there. I've got a lot of life left to live and grow.

@KirstenQuist Год назад

We all move at our own pace. And as you say, there is a front, so comparing ourselves will almost always make us feel bad. We just need to focus on the present moment. "What next right action can I take in this moment?" Thank you for writing and good luck on your journey ❤

@badnewstalkstech6900 8 месяцев назад

Same same here and the same age too

@RedaReda-vl9ff 5 месяцев назад

@@badnewstalkstech6900i wish you a good life,dont give up

@flaviodeangelis8820 Год назад

Option 3. Accept failure; there's a difference between saying I have failed and saying I am a failure. We probably identify ourselves in the wrong way. Perfectionism is a part of you that wants to protect you, maybe feeling vulnerable hurts you. If you start to accept, you begin to lose fear, and you will tear down your wall. I'm 27 and I understand your situation; I've failed and am trying to change my habits and my life, but I keep procrastinating, and I'm stuck in the same life. I thought paradoxically, all this personal improvement: discipline, meditation, reading books etc. might feed our perfectionist side, and make us feel even more frustrated and wrong if we fail. After all, if we take it easy, it's because a part of us would like to enjoy the journey, and take its time.

@jenniferfoggs Год назад

I turned 26 this month and I’m full of stress. I needed this video today

@bonnieesslinger8206 3 года назад

Thank you for your courage. So many people need to hear this. Love and prayers

@KirstenQuist 3 года назад

Thank you Bonnie ❤

@NFSMAN50 Год назад

This video came at the perfect time lol, I turn 27 soon, and im now just beginning my adult life, I sometimes feel behind compared to people my age at times, who started earlier than me, but looking at it now, sometimes we start later than others, and we are late bloomers in life. Glad that you are speaking up about this, we aren't too late, but we are on our own journey in life, I believe in you my friend.

@KirstenQuist Год назад

It's true, everyone's journey is different, and sometimes we need to move at a different pace than others around us. It's hard not to compare, but as long as we keep moving forward that is the main thing!

@Demetrius416 Год назад

@@KirstenQuistwell your 27 you should of been had your stuff together .

@Noname-qk3hr Год назад

@@Demetrius416shoo, go away

@rosemaryallen2128 Год назад

I read your title and laughed a bit. So young! I can tell you that for me life without misery started at 38, when I finally got psychological help for the real problems in my background. Depression is 'rage spread thin', a symptom or indicator of what is actually wrong. Now I am 78 and still learning to establish new parameters of self-discovery and achievement. Life is naturally full of pitfalls. The way to tackle it is always to look to the future.

@vikm1341 Год назад

Im in a similar situation. Im 25, and I have been diagnosed with many mental health disorders. It has also affected me physically. So much to the point were I have needed extra assistance. Because I can’t work or go to school. It is exhausting. However I keep trying. My #1 goal is to be better in my mental and physical health. Without that I can’t do anything. Thanks for making this video. It makes me feel less alone on this. ❤ I think you are doing great so far btw.

@KirstenQuist Год назад

Thank you for sharing Vik. I'm glad you keep trying, that is the most important thing! I've realized that too, if I don't have my mental, physical, and spiritual life in order, everything else falls apart. Sometimes we need to focus on that first. And sometimes we need help too. I wish you all the best in your journey ❤

@Melissa-818 Год назад

@whattomakeofit3436 Год назад

I'm in my 30's and still stuck. I studied for fields I regretted bc of desperation to get away from narcissistic abuse, was delayed many times in my life when I tried to accomplish something, dealt with health problems that made it difficult to keep getting back up again, etc... We still need to keep pushing bc you're right, we only have two choices. We only fail ourselves once we stop trying.

@vaishnaviyadavofficial Год назад

This video is no less than perfection. Remember the way you see the world is only unique to you and nobody else can share it like you do. We’re here to watch you through your journey, DON’T STOP! It will all make sense eventually!

@KirstenQuist Год назад

Thank you so much for the kind words! ❤️❤️❤️

@mattng4707 Год назад

Someone 76 told me a 42 year old I'm young just pick ya self up everyday and move ..you are 27 probs 29 now from my prospective you are young and you got some experience behind you, You can do it ...just do you or not you just do and thank you so much for a video that honest to the heart ❤

@KirstenQuist Год назад

Thanks so much for the kind words and encouragement! It's true, we just have to keep picking ourselves up and moving!

@JakShadow Год назад

I felt the same way all my life until a year ago, I feel a lot better now and i'm still working on myself, I learned that we decide what we wanna be, if we feel like a failure we are a failure, but if we feel like winners we are winners, I am who I wanna be, I just need to fight until the end no matter how many times I fail, sooner or later and if we try hard enough we will win, It's all about not giving up and truly believing we are going to reach our goal

@AuthenticGardening 3 года назад

I lived with depression and anxiety all my life, so I relate to your story 100%. I recognise a sensitive soul and an artist in you, and it is heartwarming to see how much of that you are able to express. I know how sadness and depression leads to inaction, how inaction invites shame and wanting to hide even deeper. But when you make it into art - it's a moment of transformation, the shadows become less dense, more transparent. Beauty recognised and expressed invite light... So keep following the beauty! You can do that only at your own pace, all schedules and "must"s are only tools, not the end product. When tools don't work... something else will. Best words come from silence, not noise (hope this makes sense what I'm trying to say)

@KirstenQuist 3 года назад

Thank you for your lovely comment. I'm glad to hear that my sharing resonated with you and I agree with all you said. Especially the "musts". I have so many "musts" and deadlines, but its important to evaluate if they are real or just self imposed.

@RidiPwn Год назад

You call yourself a failure, I call you a genius. Your editing skills are incredible

@dohyun4787 Год назад

I felt like a failure at the age of 20, I felt stuck . All my friends some hv finished cool, some hv jobs, some hv a family. And am still struggling with school don’t know what my future will be. I was so passionate carrier driven girl, now am just thinking I hv failed myself. At 22 am trying to just trying my best in what I hv, thinking I should hv never listened to my thoughts. But am so great full for the journey, coz I hv changed a lot. Know I just put my faith and trust in God.

@KirstenQuist Год назад

It sounds like you've found the answer. And it's one I'm discovering too, though several years later than you. Faith and trust and abandonment to God is key.

@joshsmith2071 Год назад

A little dissapointment in life can be a blessing in diguise. It teaches you to turn your eyes to Jesus and not be too in love with this world.

@thestarlights8550 Год назад

Kirsten , im surprised this doesnt have millions of views honestly . Very underrated . Do not ever give up, slowly but surely you're getting more views, now you can get monetized. If nobody else believes you can, well I do. Just remember us when you're big and remember everyone is living at their own pace, youre doing amazing :)

@KirstenQuist Год назад

Thank you so much for your kind words!! ♥♥♥

@liminalmind2771 Год назад

This video was so well done, really beautiful work. Im about to turn 27 in 5 months and I've recently started to fight for more in life, but it's daunting and takes a lot of time and patience. This video just gave me more motivation and was super comforting. Thank you for this, I hope you keep pushing and continue doing videos cause your camera work, cinematography, lighting, everything is awesome!

@KirstenQuist Год назад

Thank you so much. And I'm glad you're fighting, you got this!!!

@lavenderblossomish9341 2 года назад

This is the type of art my soul was searching on you tube, the beauty and inspiring words with burning motivation, which I am getting from your video is literally on next level. Keep thriving working and the fruit will be sweetest.❤️

@KirstenQuist Год назад

I am so glad to hear that. I intend to!

@lexs.1994 Год назад

I have been fighting with depression ever since i was 15 Now I'm 35 It sucks. I'm a failure. Feels like this world is simply not for me.

@mattm7426 6 месяцев назад

Stay strong

@financialtipssss 4 месяца назад

Stay strong

@paulquist2475 3 года назад

A heartfelt message and beautifully shot! Thanks for being willing to share yourself with all of us. You have talent and guts.

@KirstenQuist 3 года назад

Thanks dad ❤❤❤

@johnmorris6643 Год назад

at 27, I finally wrapped up my Bachelor's degree with no clue about what I was going to do for work. I also got married when I was 27 to my dream gal, we are celebrating 24 yrs of marriage. Give your space the room to grow, experiment, try new things, you will have amazing experiences. There is no failure in life, just opportunities to learn and love. Look at the amazing comments you have gotten from sharing your story, that in and of itself, is a success.

@BillieEnglish 3 года назад

I LOVED your video, your vulnerability, your honesty about how life can sometimes just suck and how bad we often feel about ourselves .... but we keep moving! This is the most authentic and most encouraging YT video I've watched in a long time - and I watch a lot! ;-) Don't you dare give up!!

@KirstenQuist 3 года назад

Thank you Billie! I will keep going!!

@Kiryuuhitsuki Год назад

I’m 27 years old, and I feel just like that. I’ve had many opportunities in life and I ‘ve waste them all. I quit med school, because I wanted free time and I was scared of not being good enough in the practice despite having good grades. I also quit because it was unbearable to see my ex at the hospital, and I had financial difficulties, but I could have stayed and maybe overcome it. Now I’m in Europe, and at the start I traveled a lot and dream that the limit was the sky, but now I work at a Bar, I’m not good enough at my job, I’m struggling to pay rent, I feel completely lost, and watching on social media how my classmates take their final exams to become doctors. I wanted to be someone amazing in life, I wanted to stand out, but I’ve messed up all the opportunities that I’ve had.

@KirstenQuist Год назад

I definitely get it. The main thing to remember is it's not too late to make changes for the better. No we can't fix the past but we can either live in regret, or use our mistakes to learn and turn our lives around. We've got this ❤️

@sianefer-ptah1258 Год назад

Brother... The further away from social media you are, the better. I'm Gen X, and remember a time before all that. Psych class in college taught me almost no one knows what to do with their life until sometime after about 25. Go out, meet as many different types of people you can, engage in real Convo, and let go of useless acquaintances that remind you of the past. Other walks of life are critical to know, can change your perspective entirely. That is what happened to me, and I haven't looked back at all..

@magdalenakedzior6716 Год назад

Hey! I feel you. I'm from Poland, 27, and I did almost everything I could to get into med school. While being there depression and anxiety striked and I couldn't make it. Now I'm working at McDonald's, the ambitious girl I knew seems to be gone and I wasted many years of my life spent chasing that big dream of mine. But we have only one life. That's why I'm moving on everyday and I believe that's worth doing, despite all the struggles and the feeling I'm far behind my peers. I wish you all the best in life, and I wish that to myself too. I think the most important thing is to keep on going forward, despite all the challenges and things that you may stumble upon. I keep my fingers crossed for all of you ✌❤😉

@HeartNDagger18 11 месяцев назад

Just the fact that you state God is not real makes God real, because you cannot deny the possibility of something such as God. The fact is billions have believed in A God, that is just something not to be dismissed, these people are having real experiences. Your opinion of God not being real is just your opinion, but the fact is for many people God is Real. Maybe when you die you will realise God is real or you might just be nothingness, because if God is not real or some kind of force creating this reality isn’t real then you will go to nothingness, enjoy the nothingness.

@RedaReda-vl9ff 5 месяцев назад

@@magdalenakedzior6716dont give up

@ElenGlazova 2 года назад

Watching this at 27 yo. One thing I noticed is how easy going is success when you achieve something good and how struggling to let go is the failure, even thou it could be meaningless, but still it eats you up. Can’t help it. Also, repeating the same mistakes over and over, for real why is this happening. No answer. Just hope that next time I do better. Thank you for sharing this video.

@KirstenQuist 2 года назад

Yes we have to keep trying. I think one mistake I keep making is thinking I can make big changes in my life without first addressing mental health. Having higher expectations than what I'm capable of. It's okay to lower expectations temporarily to work on yourself, and then to build those expectations as you get better. And learning to let go of failure is a big part of all of that!

@Doublepulse Год назад

This really hits me as I’m 31 kind of feeling in a similar boat. It’s like instead of progressing, you go in the opposite direction with each time you beat yourself down. I’m a video creator as well and I’m so glad to find this video. In 2019 I was making more videos, and everything you mentioned is what happening with me. I deal with visible tics since I was 14 and it’s taken a hit to my confidence and I just feel awkward. I still post occasionally but the content hasn’t felt fulfilling yet as I feel I have so much more talent than I am presenting. The only thing that really holds my depression and anxiety back is weirdly just being around people and my job to distract me. Thanks for posting this video and I hope everything is going better.

@SimonBurnCreative 3 года назад

A great deal of self-motivation and dedication is required, to be a "creator" and an entrepreneurial fire inside us, plus a realistic plan. You're only 27, you've got plenty of time to figure out what to do! I would look at failures not so much as delays, but learning experiences. Good luck! P.S. Beautifully shot snd graded, and more importantly, a lovely piece of storytelling 👍

@KirstenQuist 3 года назад

Thanks Simon for the kind words and support! True, each one is definitely an opportunity to learn! ❤❤❤

@JesusReigns7 Год назад

Dropped out of college. Started working to make ends meet. Broke with my live in partner for almost 6 years. Started a goat farming business. Arguments with family turn business bad. Got into financial troubles. I'm 28 now. Unemployed Living with my parents and I have no clue what to do with life at the moment

@KirstenQuist Год назад

I'm sorry you're in such a tough spot. It's hard when we have so much uncertainty. I feel very uncertain about my future as well right now. The one thing I've done is written out my top 4-5 priorities in life, and then goals under each of those priorities (eg. A couple are health and relationships). From there I ask what is one thing I can do in this moment to work towards that goal?

@butwhole4186 Год назад

Dude, work a factory job and join the Army/Marines reserves. Slowly overtime you'll change by force or by will.

@ew4645 Год назад

I feel you mate! Almost exactly the same although I have a couple good-for-nothing degrees and I’m “freelancing”, but in reality I’m just as unemployed, broke and lonely. I’d like to think there’s a way out for us but I’m not sure

@butwhole4186 Год назад

@@ew4645 You cute asf

@RedaReda-vl9ff 5 месяцев назад

@@ew4645dont give up,keep moving forward,i wish you success

@JustinBishop 3 года назад

In 2020 I lost my dad, my job and my normal life with the pandemic. I turned angry at everyone. My relationships have suffered. One thing that was steady for me was making videos. Ive used video production to give me that spark. When you have made something that can make your hair stand on end, make people cry or laugh is very empowering. I dont talk about my dad much but I have wanted to make something about his life with my skills. I think I will persue that after watching this. Thanks. Grande Prairie, Alberta

@KirstenQuist 3 года назад

Hey Justin. I can't imagine how hard that must be. I'm so sorry. Thank you for sharing. I think that is an amazing idea to pursue. If you make it, and choose to share it publicly, I'd love to see what you create. If you ever need anything at all, get in touch. I mean it.

@soulafein32 Год назад

Failure and success are not final, they're transitory states. Inspiring video, thank you. It's almost never too late to start changing and pursuing your dreams.

@TheCrayzeeMan Год назад

I love how this got recommended to me shortly after my 27th birthday. You've got some great camerawork and honestly, those words of encouragement at the end are definitely something I needed. Appreciated and subbed.

@KirstenQuist Год назад

Thank you so much and I hope this is the best year for you yet!!!

@Mylzic 6 месяцев назад

My first comment on RU-vid.. And I wanted to tell you Thank you, thank you for sharing what you went through and still going through. I'm exactly in this situation, a burn out, despression and anxiety, everything is dark.. Your videos brought me a little bit of sunshine and I feel less less less lonely. I hope you'll get better soon, I wish you the best of luck in this fight against depression and anxiety ♥ (sorry for my bad english, I'm french 😢)

@z7a0c7k Год назад

I’m 26 and I feel exactly the same way. I’m constantly thinking to myself that “I am a failure” and I don’t want to feel that way anymore..

@KirstenQuist Год назад

You may have had failures, but that doesn't define who you are as a person. You have incredible potential and you can start making little changes right now, in this very moment. It's never too late ❤️

@derekgornall2 Год назад

I will be 29 in less than a month. 27 was the worst year of my life. It was the culmination of the last 26 years before that all coming to a head. The proverbial sins of my early to mid-twenties combined with the unresolved pain that I had buried from childhood; all mixed together in a toxic cauldron of alcohol and stagnation. I was done for... ...Then I hit rock bottom. ...I'm 13 months sober now; I traveled to Europe earlier this year and solo'd 15 countries in 8 weeks; I've moved halfway across the U.S. to start a new life amongst some of my best friends in the world. I can see again. I survived. 28 has been a beautiful struggle against the absolute death that was 27.. but I can look back now and say that that year had to happen. I had to break and crumble and burn to be rebuilt into something better. I know this video is 2 years old now so perhaps we're roughly the same age and you have similar thoughts, but even if not, to anyone else struggling immensely at 27: think of it as the most important struggle of your life. Give in to it, break down, cry your guts out and get to that point where you vow to change if only to make sure you never reach that low a point ever again. Because you can always go back there; it isn't hard to find rock bottom again. But there is no guarantee you will survive the next one. In fact, your struggle right now can also still take you out - but it hasn't yet, (if you're alive and reading this) which means somewhere inside you you've already chosen to want to live. So, if not death, then life. If life... then onward and up. From rock bottom, there is no other direction left to go in. There's a nice and almost comforting simplicity in that. Change is necessary... but wondrous.

@KirstenQuist Год назад

That is beautiful. Thank you for sharing. I’ve also improved dramatically over the past two years since I made this video. There IS hope, even when times seem the darkest. People need to hear stories like yours❤❤

@MrTact1 Год назад

I'm over 60 now and have 'achieved' some of my 'goals' I had, when I was 20 years old. But as soon as my goal was in sight, I started to realize that the travel or the road to that goal was way more interesting and gave me more happiness and satisfaction than (finally) being there. Don't try to control life all the time, sometimes it's more enjoyable that life controls you. It's all about having some fun, that's it.

@shortty7618 Год назад

I turned 27 about 2 months ago. About to take a big risk and do something I've always wanted to do. It's never too late.

@KirstenQuist Год назад

It's true, it's never too late!!

@EmilyNGA Год назад

This is a beautiful and inspiring video and EXACTLY what I needed to hear! I’m 34 and relate so much!😭🙏🏻

@KirstenQuist Год назад

I'm glad it resonated with you. I wish you the best!

@LadyLuuka Год назад

I got recommended this video, and I have to say I am glad I watched it and am thankful for you sharing your experience. I have been in what feels like a perpetual state of Depression for 10 years now, and has only gotten worse in the past 3. I'm only just now learning to get on my feet and work towards my future, and learning to be ok with every failure made along the way. This really helps to know I am not alone. that there are others who go through rough situations. That there is always a way forward. Enough about me though. Kirsten, People in the comments, really anyone reading this comment: Don't give up. We can all do this. Everyone has their place that they are meant to be. Like pieces of a puzzle, We all fit in the bigger picture in one form or another. All destined for our own personal success. Irreplaceable.

@KirstenQuist Год назад

Thank you for sharing! It can feel lonely at times, and reading your comments and others helps me know I'm not alone too! It's never to late for making positive decisions. Good luck on your journey ❤

@emiliasaint16 3 года назад

Thank you Kirsten for being vulnerable and sharing your experiences! You do a great job!

@KirstenQuist 3 года назад

Thanks for your support ❤❤❤

@lilpumpkin7135 Год назад

I was in a similar situation like you. You will make it eventually. I changed my life because i couldn’t take any more days of suffering. You just need to feel more pain, that’s how i got motivated, I didn’t want the pain anymore

@adriansosialuk276 Год назад

Wow girl - amazing video! It took me a loooong time to finally realize at the age of 44 that there is nobody there to save me. No miracle is going to happen. Doing the same thing over and over will not lead to different results so is constantly staying at your lowest self. The only person who is going to save me is me. And that means doing things not because you feel better but despite of not feeling great - that is when magic happens. As you say - there are only two choices: you stay miserable or you do something about it yourself. As a note - amazing video quality on every level - subbed 👍

@KirstenQuist Год назад

Thank you so much. And I agree with everything, although I will point out the need to seek help sometimes! I know I was really weak and couldn't do it on my own. No one was going to save me, but people definitely needed to help me.

@adriansosialuk276 Год назад

@@KirstenQuist Agreed 100%! Absolutely nothing wrong in seeking help - I know how hard and overwhelming life can be... But the help hardly ever comes on its own and we still need to take action - to ask for help! And I am very glad that you did 👍

@kitkat261 Год назад

Same, well not same but I can relate. Got a worthless art degree, but have worked retail for 10 years, plus numerous failed relationships. I wish you all the best as you pursue your goals.

@KirstenQuist Год назад

I wish you all the best as well! ❤️ We are all going to have failures as we go along, but the important thing is to never stop learning from failures we have.

@turntablesrockmyworld9315 Год назад

You'll kick yourself in a few years. 27 is so young. I am in my 50s, had a lot of problems. Failure is good. Trying is good. Do whatever you want. Please believe me all when I say at age 27, heck, even in your 30s, you can reinvent yourself many times. Damn, I wish I could go back to my late 20s! Trust me, you are young and don't know it and there is no failure at that age, only learning.

@ButterKM 10 месяцев назад

I'm 26 and lately wondering where is the point when it started to be too late to trying new things and looking for myself. When you start a family or you just slowly loosing the motivation...?

@turntablesrockmyworld9315 10 месяцев назад

@@ButterKM Really there is no limit. I am learning and starting new things in the 50s now. Trust me it goes quickly.

@RedaReda-vl9ff 5 месяцев назад

@@ButterKMdont give up

@dernochjungenoergler Год назад

First of all, at 27 one is still young enough to start all over again. Thank you very much for sharing your experience, I remember being overly dissatisfied two years ago. Now, at 20, my values aren't unnecessary different, yet I try to think about things in life differently. It's all about your perception of reality and when you focus on the right things, the success is about to come. Never give up and value yourself and your inner impressions.

@aleksk4151 Год назад

i'm 26 and i've been pushing myself a lot lately. I feel stressed from all the challenges and work , but I'm making things, ideas start coming to my mind, i get out of the comfort zone .

@KirstenQuist Год назад

Its good to push yourself, but also don't overdo it! I know I definitely need to get out of my comfort zone and push myself more though! Keep it up!

@kimmeekarma 18 дней назад

Your editing and filming is incredible. We all can be very hard on ourselves, just remember that most people won't see the "imperfections" that you see. They will take in the amazing things that you are putting out like this video. Don't stop, keep going because I personally saw this video as great inspiration and wish my videos could look anywhere near a quarter good as yours.

@mpgingdl Год назад

One suggestion: stop thinking in conventional terms such as "success/failure." To be alive and healthy is success enough. I'm close to 60, with a pacemaker and two reconstructed eyes. I have learned to just live.

@griswoold6196 Год назад

Having depression and anxiety myself , i understand the struggle. I'm always afraid of doing things because i feel i can't do them or failing at them. Thinking too much about how it would feel to fail than just to do them no matter what happens. I would love the courage you have to do things. Chasing your dreams , accepting challenges. You are doing great. IMO you already succeeded by doing what you are doing.

@KirstenQuist Год назад

Thank you for the kind words, and I'm glad to hear the videos resonate with you, though I'm sorry you're struggling too. I don't think I necessarily have courage, but I know the deep pain of NOT doing what's important, and that's a huge driving force. Failure is scary, but what's more scary is wasting years of your life and living with regret.

@g.mariethatsall Год назад

This video was raw and well shot & constructed. Thank you for awesome work, I'm sure it is relatable and speaks to many - keep it up!

@KirstenQuist Год назад

Thank you Grace! ❤❤

@the_gamblerman Год назад

Hi) also 27. same problems, end of 6 year relationship, no job... but the only thing I want is for the war to end. All other problems are such trifles... All the best, keep moving, greetings from Ukraine 🇺🇦

@Fr.KevinDarwent 3 года назад

This video was very well done and it had a great impact on me! I could absolutely relate to the feelings of discouragement that come with feeling like you are not getting much done or missing deadlines etc. This was my definitely my favorite video on your channel yet! Your vulnerability really spoke volumes. Thank you.

@KirstenQuist 3 года назад

Thank you Kevin for the kind words and support. And discouragement is just part of life I suppose. But we have to learn how to turn down the discouragement in our minds and turn up the action! I hope to create more videos in a similar vein in the near future. Thanks again ❤❤❤

@niirceollae2 11 месяцев назад

It's all mental.. If you keep at it, working, learning, trying to get better at everything then you are a winner in my eyes.

@henryq2666 Год назад

It's never too late to start again. We brave many, we hungry underdogs, let us fail forever forward! Dare to fail spectacularly! Failure is not the end, it's only the beginning towards something greater! Don't quit! Don't ever give up! Excellent videography and much needed message!

@KirstenQuist Год назад

Well said!!! ❤

@jakestoneway9034 4 месяца назад

As someone who just turned 26 last month and already feeling that cycle again of trying another thing and feeling that nothing is working, I'm feeling so much stress and watching this video while pushing myself to finish work, and I feel like It is better knowing that the "normal" of the world is that we all struggle in one way or another. Life isn't a race. As you said, as long as you breathe, it's not too late. To every soul reading this message, Trust yourself, and may god help you achieve what you want. Peace!

@JasonStewartPhotography 3 года назад

Kirsten, this is SOOOOOOOO GOOD! I hope you know that you and your work are greatly appreciated. Keep it up! You have so much talent! Just keep plugging away at this and enjoy the journey. I agree with Ventus Media, don't get hung up on subs (easier said than done), but you have great content. The thing I like about the episodes I have watched so far is that you bring value to your work. Keep it up... Keep it up... Keep it up! And once again, just enjoy the journey, you can do it!

@KirstenQuist 3 года назад

Aw thanks for the amazing support and encouragement Jason!! ❤😊 I definitely plan to keep going, though not as often as I would like (likely 1-2/month rather than 1 per week). I will try to keep bringing value!! What kind of content do you find most helpful?

@charlesponzi9608 Год назад

Below is a poem I wrote and dedicated to my own daughter who has found the last few years incredibly hard. Watching others struggle is painful. I have often wished that I had a magic wand so that I could wave problems, worries, anxiety, stress...all away. I believe, however, that each of us has the power to heal ourselves. We are far more powerful than we think. Blessed Gratitude by Frans Kuiper Gifts from the universe coming to you, Everything depends on what you will do, Actively pursue what your heart desires, Nothing shall stop you not even bushfires. Thoughts become words with power to create, Trust your own instincts and don’t hesitate, Follow your own intuition-let go, Old wounds shall heal as love begins to flow. Wonderful things not yet perceived abound, Changing perspectives with a shift in ground, You are the fourth cup yet only see three, You are the blessing you seek but can’t see.

@vloggerk80 Год назад

love this!

@VentusMedia 3 года назад

Keep going Kirsten. I'm an ex soldier and struggle at times. 3:18 resonated with me... Don't get hung up on subs. The two best vids i've ever seen have 50 and 500 subs. Be you. Do your thing. Make apologies to no one.

@KirstenQuist 3 года назад

Thank you for your support ❤ Let's keep on striving!

@JasonStewartPhotography 3 года назад

well said!

@426F6F Год назад

27 here too 👋 I've been going through a similar phase on and off for the last few years, feeling out of place and lost. It's been a slow transition, but now, each time I get to that stagnant low point, it seems to pick back up again sooner than the time before. I think I owe a lot of it to practicing self-awareness and mindfulness. I've finally found what works for me after all this time too; disregarding judgment of myself and others, exercising regularly and eating healthier, and setting and achieving a few main goals each day just to name a few. Reading and journaling have been huge for me as well. No matter what you're going through, you always have the power to make a change for the better. By obsessing with the summit, we will never make it there. There's always going to be many ups and downs along the way, but without the downs, we would never have any failures or learn from our mistakes. Life would be easy and boring, and it's the randomness in life that keeps things interesting. I wish the best for you, Kirsten, and anyone else going through a similar situation! Thanks for opening up and sharing your experience with us. Don't ever give up on yourself, no matter how hard times get. Be kind to yourself and do what brings you peace and happiness ✌️ 😊

@danielchateau4083 3 года назад

This is so inspiring! Deserves more views.

@KirstenQuist 3 года назад

Thank you Daniel ❤❤❤

@FUBBA 11 месяцев назад

You'll get through it. We all go through a lot of obstacles in life. For me; they my intellectual disabilities, trying to be confident and sheltered upbringing that I'm trying to overcome.

@shineinouzen7412 Год назад

You’re only 27?? I remember feeling like that at your age as well. Trust me, you have your WHOLE life ahead of you. I am now a wise 28 year old, and yeah… I pretty much still feel the same at times. But just like you I’m going to keep going, this video is inspiring, you should be proud :) PS. Great cinematography.

@fernandopicozzi Год назад

this checklistfication of life will drag you down everytime. I hope ur fine

@KirstenQuist Год назад

Thank you! I think there's a place for goals, but they need to be undertaken responsibly. I think since I've filmed this I've gotten a little more of a nuanced view. It's most important to accept yourself and your life in the present, then try and grow from there. I wish you the best on your journey!

@ChrisPattonPhotography 3 года назад

Really enjoyed watching your video Kirsten, it was well filmed and put together. I'm new to photography and filming and started my channel in 2020 and I know its hard to keep motivated when you've filmed and edited a video and it doesn't look exactly how I want it, but I just try and focus on improving one thing at a time and take it one step at a time. Keep strong and I look forward to seeing some more of your videos 👍

@KirstenQuist 3 года назад

Thanks so much for the support Chris. And absolutely, one step at a time! Keep on going with your channel too! I'm going to check it out! ❤❤❤

@MrGhost-do1rw Год назад

I am 27 and have been sick for past 10 years. I had high hopes from my life but all of them seem to be fading away. Due to my illness not only have I failed to achieve my career goals but also failed in relationships. The worse part is there are plenty of people around, including those who I call family, to judge me but no one who can understand show a little bit of compassion. Sometimes I feel alone. Darkness comforts me. But, somehow I still hope someday things are going to change.

@RedaReda-vl9ff 5 месяцев назад

Dont give up,i wish you a really nice day

@SimicChameleon Год назад

I think the pandemic has make people more depressed lot and not motivated because lack of agency in their life; eventually, it made them listless. I hope you are doing good and the video is nice.

@KirstenQuist Год назад

Yes I think that's true for many people. Luckily we seem to be out of the worst of it. Thank you and I wish the same for you!

@annca 5 месяцев назад

Thank you Kirsten. I know you posted this video 3 years ago, but I need to hear this message. You may not have a certain faith, but I feel like God spoke to me through you. I wish you a blessed and peaceful year.

@thenightismyrefuge Год назад

I'm 28 and 9 years ago I had the same dream as you to create a RU-vid channel and make it successful. I have failed at my yearly goals repeatedly for the last 9 years, and even burnt out. My channel started to die because I stopped posting too and I am i. The midst of it now. Your filmmaking is amazing. Hope things got better for you, we will all find a way.

@KirstenQuist Год назад

Thank you. Things have gotten better. Creatively, I found I was just so worried about making good content, the perfect content, finding my niche, that I stopped enjoying the process. So I started giving myself permission to create without sharing. To just create for the sake of creating, to create for the sake of learning, with zero expectations of posting it online. That has helped hugely in my creative recovery. Good luck on your journey!

@JustD3183 Год назад

Kirsten, you are a beautiful soul inside and out. I have visited your instagram page and you have some of the most wonderful and beautiful photos, content and work that I have seen in a long time. When your depression and anxiety is telling you to stop or trying to bring you down, do not ever let it. You would be depriving the world of the beauty and light that you have to deliver to it. Don't ever be afraid to be you and show your light onto this dark world. I have struggled and continue to struggle with anxiety and depression and there are some days that I win and some days that I just sleep away. Focus on the days that you win, on the days that are when you bring your most beautiful self and work to the world to make it a better place. Please don't stop posting, don't ever stop creating, I love your soul, your work, your energy and who you are.

@KirstenQuist Год назад

Thank you for this beautiful comment. I wish you the best ❤❤❤

@aysegulatik8286 Год назад

Another 27 here! I swear there is something to this spesific age. I know you’re 29 right now since this video is published two years ago. But I have seen other recent comments so I’m guessing the algorithm is pushing it again🎉 just wanted to say I appreciate your vulnerability, it’s a hard pill to swallow in many cases. In some parts of the video I almost felt like I was watching myself. So that’s why I think I’m allowed to give you a friendly advice/opinion take it however you wish. Your storytelling and visuals are just amazing! I know you probably doubted that many times because I did (I’m a designer myself) so I know how sometimes no matter what you do it just doesn’t feel enough. But it’s more of a perfectionism problem than a time management or discipline problem. You should also take a look at the imposter syndrome. And finally we all need an external support system which will be there for us when we can’t. When you feel those unpleasant feelings please reach out to your loved ones so they can remind you the real you❤

@KirstenQuist Год назад

Thank you for this comment, and sorry it took so long to respond. I appreciate the support and advice! I definitely have a perfectionist tendency which I'm trying to overcome. It's hard not to have that as an artist! I will continue reaching out for support, you do the same! Good luck with your designing and with your journey! ❤️

@HevonCZR 11 месяцев назад

Thank you so much for this video! Im 29 years old today, but many times I think my life is ending any time, and there is no solution, no friends, nothing... Hope one day I will make things work! Thank you

@KirstenQuist 11 месяцев назад

❤ ❤ ❤

@EliTronic Год назад

"Never let your own evil mind ruin your life" "Never compare you with others" "Nothing changes, if Nothing changes" A wise man

@SupaDavio Год назад

I know you ARE the best person for advice, because you're struggling with this. The world needs this message from one who understands.

@KirstenQuist Год назад

❤❤❤

@findyourpassion8722 Год назад

You saw a failure and I saw a beautiful video with a wonderful content. Thank you for sharing and if you feel like a failure again pls know that you being you makes this world a better place.

@Netanel2534 8 месяцев назад

I'm 31 with many mistakes I made in my life so far due to anxiety and depression, your video inspired me to start my life again and achieve what I want.

@KirstenQuist 8 месяцев назад

It's never too late to start making better decisions ❤️❤️

@positivevibrations5103 Год назад

This video is SO WELL MADE thank you for sharing it, very relatable. The questions are very helpful I like how it made it interactive and invited us to improve ourselves as well. Thank you, God bless you.

@KirstenQuist Год назад

I'm so glad it was helpful ❤️❤️

@landerwyoming9720 11 месяцев назад

Thank you for sharing what "...you've been going thru and what you're learning..." you got a new Subscriber!

@tedbundy5363 Год назад

I am 44. Failed most of my life. I never lost hope because it´s free and I don´t have anything else.

@viniciuspaivasantos6126 Год назад

Thank you for this video and letting me know it’s gonna be okay and it’s never too late. i’m 25 and the voice always tells me i’m no good that i can’t do it, but i can and i’ve done it before. it’s never too late

@M-i-k-a-e-l Год назад

Failure is the beginning of true restoration. Blessed be your path and anyone's reading this.

@metaverseplayer Год назад

I’m 27 and feel exactly like this. Well done for pushing through and earning a new subscriber ❤

@KirstenQuist Год назад

Thank you so much! ❤ Let's not give up!!

@hardeepsingh1039 7 месяцев назад

Everybody faces this situation in their life. Don’t worry never sit idle always keep doing something life is too short to regret. I know one day you will achieve your goal of happiness.

@padmeasmr 11 месяцев назад

I so relate. I so relate! And the comments made me cry. I typed "im a failure" on youtube and here I am. Thank you ❤ I feel so bad, in 30 ive tried so many times, worked so much and I feel like everything was useless... I have degrees, talents, I studied so much but I cant find a job that I like and pays well, my dreams seem unreachable. Im thinking about giving them up. Ive lost 4 yrs bc of health issues. I started my channel on yt after years of delaying and its not doing as good as I would like to. I hate everything rn and feel so alone.

@KirstenQuist 10 месяцев назад

You are definitely not alone! It sounds like you struggle with a lot of the same interior dialogue as me. I made an updated video talking about some of the mindsets I've changed that have been helping me which I'll link here. Remember you and your past are definitely NOT useless. Wish you the best ❤ Here's the video: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-APZ-Y4biy1s.html