3 Hard Truths for Disabled People on the Dating Field 

I have dyspraxia, a lisp and mental health issues such as depression or social anxiety, sadly i’m so tired of explaining to people why i’m not clumsy, it’s just a neurological condition, why am i talking so “weirdly” even with to family, and why i am not lazy i just have fatigue all the time due to my body. it’s so frustrating and i try so hard to hide my disabilities every single time to be “normal” for the society. And when it comes to dating i have this tendency to be someone else because i’m afraid of the judgmental people, and rejections since i had to deal with it my whole life. i’m almost 19 years old, this is quite painful sometimes uh, okay im grateful to have legs, hands, a brain, moreover since most of my disabilities are invisible, nobody knows my struggles every single days. btw, thank you so much for this! i discovered your content through my recommandations and im glad to had clicked on this video! (english isn’t my native language so i hope it makes sense) ❤️ you’re strong, lots of love

Hey. You seem awesome. I also have a disability. The struggle is real. I wish you all the happiness and success!

This advice is great! My partner was not transparent and I still have so much resentment. Things i didnt think I would need to do in a relationship I now have to do. Disability is HARD. pee, doctors appointments, anxiety, medical trauma, not able to go to certain places, & the lack of spontanetiety really gets to me. But I wasnt fully explained to the extent of these things. My patience is soooo low. I wish I could love him fully but the disability especially PTSD is getting to me. Its odd how you can love a person but not enjoy any of the things required to be with them. I am holding on hoping we can afford extra help one day. But I am not sure if I can do this forever. I told my partner he had 1-2 years left if things stay the same.

Hi Lily! I don’t know how your video came up on my feed but I’m so glad it did! I don’t have a physical disability, though I do have recurring struggles with depression and anxiety. Seeing someone like you - well spoken, lucid, and reasoned - explain your condition and acknowledge how being transparent is crucial (on your part) and accepting/embracing (on your “dates” part) is truly instructive. Your advice has relevance to many, even those who many not have a designated “disability”. I will add for what it’s worth that you are lovely, and your willingness to be vulnerable is magnetic! Thank you for showing courage worthy of a lioness!

Thank you for bringing this up.it’s wonderful how informative you are.keep. Up the great work.a lot more people need look out for kindness to others.instead to being rude Takecare

Beautiful thank you so much💖 for being a voice for us😊

Amazing video! I'm a fully abled person but I really want to know more about disabled people and their thoughts! Thanks you for your words about these important topics!

Great video! Very informative. Keep up the good work lily.

Currently dating a woman with a disability (diastrofisk dysplasi), we meet on a dating site and her first line basicly stated that she had a disability. One of the perks with this is that the guys that are only out for one thing on these sites... stays clear from contacting her. Sidenote: Going to her this weekend and gonna ask her if it's time for us to go officially boyfriend/girlfriend, wish me luck :)

Thank you for sharing ur idea. I have physical disabled

When I tell a woman I am DISABLED and am NOT ALLOWED to work that usually turns a Woman OFF.

I am happy that you made a video about this . I can not really fin any dating advice for disabled people online . I mean I find videos of people virtue signaling like o look how good a friend I am to this disabled person . Sure they don't say that but that is pretty much what those videos are about or I find videos like success stories about disabled people that found love . It is difficult not to bring appearance into it because as people it is just in our dna to be attracted to something that or somebody that looks good . Sometimes I swallow my pride and ill date somebody that is not what I would call my ideal partner but then they get a big head and start thinking they deserve better . I went to a speed dating event for disabled people . I can not say that ill ever do that again . None of the women there had anything more than an elementary school education , a lot of them were missing teeth and the rest were yellow , one of the women was 500 pounds and farted in the chair before I sat down . I myself am not very disabled . I do not have a job and that is usually the main deal breaker with women .

I have it clearly listed that I have Ehlers danlos syndrome. I have a service dog and I’ve got pictures of her on my profile. I even say that sometimes I use a wheelchair, ect. But most people don’t fully read the profiles they just look at the pictures.. then comes the dreaded question when they message you “what do you do for a living?” As soon as I answer disabled and explain more information about Ehlers danlos they run or respond with I prefer someone who works and isn’t lazy and being a drain on the world... it’s so sad people group everyone together in one box. I don’t even try to date anymore because it’s not worth being ghosted or ripped apart over things you can not control

Its best to be honest in the profile and be upfront. Best to weed out the assholes as soon as possible. Im still amazed that I found the love of my life on tinder. I was very harsh in the beginning because people treat us ( people with disability) like shit and I didnt want to get hurt. He prevailed and we fell in love.

Hi lily my name is Alexander and I have a disability called ADHD and I have depression

Facts

That sir is a very attractive woman.

You are incredibly beautiful Lily, and your fiancé is an extremely lucky man.

She keeps talking about subscribing, not out for the right reasons.

I asked my 20-year-old son if I should reveal my depression and Fibromyalgia (both of which are severe) at the beginning or wait. "No-don't wait to tell them. It gives them a chance to back out if they want."

Your I good person and beautiful

your pretty lily

i m disabled. iq is 69.

You want honest I would totally date you I have no idea how to get a hold of you though

Blackpill

I'll just say, I strongly disagree with you :)