Disclosing my disability on dating apps... can't believe I used to do this 

I was 15 when I met my wife in 1991 on a blind date on Friday 13th! I’m serious! I was told she was 16 and had a disability but after talking with her I fell in love with her. We got married in 98. I looked past her Cerebral palsy. She was born dead due to toxemia poisoning. After her family prayed for her she came back to life instantly. She’s such a love and always smiling. She got her teaching degree but decided she wanted to be a stay home mom. Now 3 kids later we’re still together and I absolutely still love her. Don’t rush love! Pray that God sends the right man to love you!

All anyone has to do is watch your videos. When they see that infectiously wonderful smile they should be hooked. The disability you have is only a small part of who you are as a person. God made you for a purpose. You do an awesome job explaining your disability and I enjoy all that you do. You are the salt of the earth.

Hey girl... I have cerebral palsy...and I got married at 22...i have 2 grown sons... That I had naturally. And let me tell you .... YOUR A CATCH!. HOLD YOUR HEAD UP. Good men are out there...and there's one especially for you! If a man loves you ...he won't give a crap about your disability...and that's a fact. My husband is loyal, loving, and HANDSOME! HE LOVES YOUR VIDEOS. He showed your videos to me. He started to cry. "She's so beautiful.. Look at that smile!" She reminded me of you. Have faith Be dignified Your the prize!!!!!

I’m sure you won’t have any problem finding dates. You are such an awesome and amazing woman.

I dislike the online dating culture. We focus too much on looks and not on personality, in my opinion. But I understand why it exists. It is hard as is, but I can only imagine the level of difficulty added when you have to disclose disabilities, etc. I agree with most comments and what you said in the video. Just be yourself, and if they don't like you; ghost you, etc; they aren't worth the trouble anyways!

As a man with CP, I have never had a problem with telling people my disability beforehand, in the sense of right before meeting in person (both men and women, not just with dating scene). I like to give a heads up. I think people are more reasonable when it comes to "appearance" (physical to me) disability when not surprised, at least adults are. With that being said, I do not come right out with my disability during the pre-meet up period. I am not trying to hide or start a relationship on a lie, I am just trying to give myself a fighting chance by showing that my mental capacity is there and so I can get them to invest little bit of their time into me. The hard part, not just meeting women, but also trying to get a job, etc has always been my communication disability, because I am speech impaired. People run so fast that it makes you feel like a monster. It's so discouraging and lonely when you want to share your life with someone. So people...as you can see with Chelsea, our brains are fully developed when it comes to mental capacity, just give people with CP and some other disabilities a chance. We will prove your stereotype wrong and could become your best friend, whether it's through a friendship or partnership (spouse).

You are so personable, straight forward, have a sense of humor and have so many interests. You're not a couch potato and very attractive and I love your smile. Your disability doesn't bother me at all. I wish you the best and hope you find a man who will love you for you!!

You have so much to share in your life young lady... your message can educate everyone who listens!! Open doors. Open minds. Thanks for sharing!

Girl you are so awesome, to me everyone has a disability in one way or another. To me it doesn’t matter. I see the inside and not the outside, that’s what truly matters!

You are amazing Chelsea. Glad people like you are here to guide others with struggles they run into way to go 👍

My aunt has cerebral palsy. She has always had a hard time walking, but she didn’t let it stop her from working a full time job for many years. She used to go in even if there was a snowstorm. She’s a huge inspiration in my life, and I’m sure you’re a huge inspiration to many out there as well, and I also would have absolutely no reservations about going on a date with you

As someone with a physical challenge, I used dating apps and I did disclose my issues. It may have took me longer than others. Today I am married with a new baby.

As someone who has a disability himself (Autism), I understand 100% the struggles of dating with a disability. I've only ever been in one relationship and that was when I was 27 years of age (I am 28 now). I still, to this day, find myself fearing telling a potential partner of my Autism. It doesn't affect me nearly as much as it did as a child and adolescent, however there are still things I find myself struggling with. So to hear your stories and experiences with online dating, it helps me to gain a better understanding of myself and what my expectations are for both myself and potential significant other. So I thank you for making this beginning video of your series. As a fan, a follower, and a supporter/advocate, thank you from the bottom of my heart. Sincerely, Dylan C

Thank you so much for explaining your disability. I’ve watched all your videos and with you explaining your disability I’ve gone and done research of my own on it so thank you and I think you’re absolutely amazing. I can only pray that I meet someone like you.

I really want to thank you for this video. I am 52 with a spinal birth defect and just getting back in the dating pool after a divorce. Thanks for the confidence and tips in disclosing my disability. Please be well and keep up the good work and advocating for disabled! :)

You just have to be patient I dated a girl with CP for three years it was awesome I never saw her disability even from the start I was head of security at a nightclub she came up to me and asked me if I can help her get to the restroom she made a joke said I was like a freight train cuz I'm 6'6 325 lb and I plow through everyone and from there we hit it off never saw her disability so be patient you never know who you'll meet day-by-day

Just be yourself That's all that matters. Just watch out for fake people on dating apps

As a 44 yr old woman who was born with both hydrocephalus and cerebral palsy I've never ever experienced what it's like to go on a date,have a boyfriend or be in a romantic relationship but it's all good because it's just part of God's plan for my life ❤

I was scared of what men have to say about disability, walking and talking, but I would let them know that I have cerebral pslay, but now I'm not scared no more, because I have a amazing man and 4 handsome boys

People should love you for just who you are, I do. 🌷🥰

Chelsea finding a spouse is such an important decision, I pray you find a good husband who will love you and laugh with you. Someone who will love you unconditionally and has a sense of humor.

This has been very helpful! One drawback with me is that I have Apert Syndrome and therefore have, lets just say different facial features, making it very upfront if I post a photo, I need a workaround with that. Another thing I realized is you need to be careful when dating online, while there are a lot of legitimate people online, there are just as many scammers as well. Great video though!!

#1 You seem to be an awesome person. #2 Let's face it, the subject dating can be a powerful, wonderful or very dangerous experience without being 100% truthful. #3 You are attractive woman and a smart/educated individual without any doubts. #4 Just remember, when a person truly loves someone, they care\love with all their heart about you as a woman, wife, partner, mother, and not a disabled cripple.

You're a true inspiration, I need to learn and understand this a lot more. I ended up back in wheelchair again.

Because of Who YOU are , Anyone & Everyone would be Lucky/Fortunate to Date YOU . . . You Young Lady are a True Queen . . .

I subscribed about a week ago. Your doing great. I saved this video to motivational speeches. God's very best blessings to you, my dear👍🏻👍🏻

I do believe to the right man. It shouldn’t matter. Don’t we all have a disability. Be it physiological, or psychological, or both? It’s understood you’re an amazing woman. But when you go for a walk, a stroll, that man should be by your side at all times. Regardless. Even if you didn’t have CP, he should always be at your side and behind you! It’s a reciprocal relationship. I wish you the best of all luck. You’re an absolutely beautiful individual. Never forget that!

Chelsea, you didn't have to disclose your disability on dating apps, you are gorgeous, there's lots of good men out there that would love to meet a girl with the biggest heart and a beautiful soul, your smile is priceless,you are absolutely amazing person ❤️ 🥰👍

I dated through the 90’s pre-tinder. I’ve been married since 2001. As a man I always wanted to down play my disability (CP) and my wife was and is very positive about my disability and has been a real partner for progress in my life. Good luck Chelsea, I’m certain you’re on the right path!

I haven't been in the dating app for a while, but I would like to know upfront about any disabilities on someones profile. If I have date and need to plan out something then I would like to know how to accommodate. It would be inconvenient to learn about someone's disability for the first time the day before meeting them on a date. Being upfront about disability on your profile would save you so much time from the people that wouldn't make that commitment.

Wow! This is such a well articulated piece. ❤ Definitely important to have the open and honest communication. My disability isn’t visible (usually). When I met my wife online I didn’t have it on my profile. However after we met and I realized that we were definitely a great fit, I disclosed it immediately. TBI and PTSD. She laughed a bit because I was very concerned that she would split right away. Nope 9.25 years later she’s still here. ❤ 2 Beautiful babies. Thank you Chelsea Bear. You’re an AMAZING INSPIRATION AND WONDERFULLY BEAUTIFUL PERSON. Happy Valentines Day. May you find your perfect Mench!

When I met my husband I was up front about my disability. I told him a few things I struggled with , things like walking or lack of energy , and I also had to deal with bad chronic pain. Like you said , tell them in a low key kind of way . I told my husband I have a disability and it is apart of my identity. But I’m so much more than my disability, just give me a chance and get to know me . And before him I had people freak out or say they would never date me due to my disability. It hurt , I’m not going to lie . But it made me realize people who treat others like that aren’t worth my time , effort or my heart . So guard yourself and make sure you talk to them for a little while . Chelsea , thank you so much for making this video ! I wish this was around when I was a young 20 year old women . Because your right ! There isn’t really a guide book on how to handle this . But you are now part of that guide book by sharing your story ! Thank you ! ❤

I feel ya on dating apps. I’m 34 and I don’t understand them at all. Never had any luck on them either 😂

My cousin has cerebral palsy & he’s always been up front about it before his dates. I’ve always encouraged him to be genuine about it prior; because a relationship is to know & be known.

You're such a BOSS in a wonderful way! I love it! I got lucky when one of my clients (21 years ago) started bringing her single older sister with her on all our appointments (her secret plan to get me to ask her sister out on a date!). My client knew I was single and her very shy sister was 42 and had only been on a couple dates in her life. We hit it off and have been blissfully married for 19 years now! I Never thought at 45 I would find love, but there you go! Hopefully someone that knows and loves you will fix you up with the perfect soulmate if the dating apps don't work out!

Genuinely a good hearted person, no one's perfect . Your doing work that would make anyone proud so I hope you are you deserve it

You will find the right person. Your a beautiful woman......be yourself and never change!

Honestly if a girl had Cerebral Palsy that would be plus in my book. The disabled people I know are amazing human beings and the challenges that come with being born with a disability makes people stronger, kinder and more appreciative of the good things in life. My sister has Cerebral Palsy and is a ray of sunshine.

I love your spirit!!!! Dating scene is bad for alot of us... not just you... You are perfect the way you are!

You are a sweetheart. Use this platform to do exactly what you are doing. Whether you know it or not. Putting your story out there, what you have overcome, what limitations or ways you've found to deal with situations. You seem wise beyond your years. And you are 100 % correct, with or without any challenges, when you meet someone, if they can not accept you as you are -- then walk away, and let it be their loss. If you have to change someone to what you want, then they are not for you. You are a seemingly smart, very attractive young lady with an infectious smile and beaming eyes. Trust yourself young un, when it's time you will meet the person meant for you. Keep up the great work and the amazing positive attitude.

Chelsea, I think it’s wonderful how you put your life experiences with a walking disability out there so others can benefit from those experiences. I can certainly emphasize with your thoughts and feelings you have about dating with with a walking disability because after a botched surgery to repair a broken femur, I have a walking disability also. I have to use crutches, a walker or wheelchair to get around now. I’ve had the same thoughts as you about when, if or even how to divulge that to someone when your just getting to know them. What you are doing is very brave. Thanks for your candor.

Super cool! I applaud your courage, confidence, and willingness to share your journey! Changing the world! Keep up the awesome work, CRUSHING IT! Thank you!

I disclose my disability from the jump. Love your content.

I have a friend who has CP and is confined to a wheelchair. But that doesn't stop her she goes skydiving and lots of crazy stuff like that. So never let your disability define you or stop you from doing things you want to try.

New subscriber here and want to say your beautiful inside and out. Your an inspiration to those who don't have a voice and suffer alone. Thank you and God bless you hun.

😁 Chelce I don't know if you will ever read this or not but I'm one of those Men who Married a woman with a Disability. She was a Paraplegic Breasts down . I meet her a a 4th of July Party that I was cooking for . And She rolled up in her wheelchair, and she caught my eye immediately not because of the chair she was Beautiful ❤️ ... After the party we got to spend some time together ALONE ... That night needless to say we started Dating an Where Married in December ... I never noticed she was in a wheelchair or anything else.... She just had a different way to get around ...She was Married one time before an she worked at Eggland Air Force Base .. and ended up getting hit by a firetruck running through a red light ... Not even going to a fire 😏 she sued an got a bit of money .... But her Husband blew threw it in short order on Harley Davidson and other toys ,,once the money was gone he divorced her ..... When I met her she was 38 an I was 45 , neither of us had children an I was never married...Ex Navy Gunners Mate... So we got Married and a year later we had a Son who's now 20 ...we where married for almost 18 years , which no one could believe because most of them where divorced an remarried at least 3 times ...they really thought we would not last because she was Paraplegic.... Love 💕 Happiness and Blessings... We lasted ... But one day in 2017 January we found out she hat stage 4 Colon Cancer that had Metastasize to her liver and lymph nodes 😢 ... I was working at Fort Stewart Georgia Army Base and was able to take off 3 Months but it wasn't enough ...so I lost my job because I stayed home to take care of her ...I'd do it again if needed... I took Care of Her to The Day She Passed ..In My Arms and in our House on Our Bed ..... No one could understand why I didn't send her to a Hospice Home ,,, Sorry I was there 24/7 any how she passed and I Loved that Woman in a Wheelchair ..that I never noticed .. I'm 66 now and I Really do miss Her ...Being Disabled doesn't mean a life of Loneliness ,,, There are Men an Women out There who once you meet .. You will Know ..if They Will Truly Love You even with your disability ...We Look Past that ..an people have called me some kind of pervert for it .... I just ignored them 😂 ... I guess I'll end here I'm kinda running on ...God Bless You ... And Hopefully you will find the One like I did ...☺️💕

A few minutes of listening to you, it’s easily revealed that you are smart and very articulate so just carrying on conversations would be super easy. Regarding your “walk”, keep the faith as you’re an absolute tenacious doll and any would be lucky to date you.

Wow, I went through the exact same thing as you described. Thank you for sharing your experience.

Chelsea, Hi!! Greg here ... just saw your video here and you amaze me everytime I see a video of yours ... and 'not' because your disabled (I became disabled in 2010 and can relate with the challenges you face), but you amaze me with the spirit and personality in how you face adversity, whether it be physical, or a mental challenge in how to handle it!! My answer (up till 'now' thanks to 'YOU') has been .. why complicate life, avoid it. Yeh, I've been alone for last 6+ years, but you may have given me hope for the future? I just wish there was someone like 'you' for me here in Minnesota!! If there was someone as sweet, positive, pretty, and all together 'wonderful' as 'you', I wouldn't hesitate for a second in making an effort to get to know her and ask her out!! As a matter of fact, I've been wanting to leave this state for a warmer climate for quite some time, which state was it where you live? Was it Florida?? How do. you feel about an older more mature man? LOL (Oh I'm being semi-serious ... you know, just incase you reject me). I'd understand if that was the case. Thank you again for being the beacon of hope for me, and being 'you'!! (If you'd like, friend me on facebook!! Greg Leonard - Cottage Grove, MN (if you search) 💜💗💜

I see a humble, grateful person. There's a rare inner beauty about you honey that made me realize what's been lost in this country. I wish every woman in America carried themselves the way you do. You come across very feminine, soft, and kind hearted, which is something I haven't seen in a really long time.

Your so very pretty and an inspiration to people with disabilities.you show that disability can actually be abilities cause most people don't have a kind heart. Keep it up you put a warm feeling in my heart thank you and God bless.

You are such a beautiful soul. One in a million. I hope that you will eventually meet that special person that is deserving of your love. Happy Valentine's Day.

YOU look great and your honesty is refreshing. I am too old to court you but I believe that you will find someone someday who will treat you as the sweetheart that you are, Best of luck. :)

Love your videos, love your strength and character, and truly love that beautiful smile!

Just recently discovered your channel, I really enjoy the videos as someone who also lives with CP I can relate to a lot of your thoughts and opinions on a lot of topics associated with Living with Cerebral Palsy. On the topic of this video I always discoled my disability in the talking phase (before dating apps) and once dating apps became a thing I just disclosed it because that way if they were not comfortable with it they could just pass me by and I didn't have to awkwardly disclose it at some point

Your smile puts a smile on my face . Best wishes to you and your channel !👽

You're a wonderful person, Chelsea. Just be yourself. Everyone else is taken. 😊

Love your videos and content as a follower of yours who also has a disability and is out in the dating app world and everything in general! ❤

Young lady I lost my legs in the Gulf War so I know all to well what being different is truly like and dealing with bullies that come in many different forms. I have learned to not only pity those who bully but I also laugh at their weakness. Bitter--sweet you could say. Your beautiful inside and out and in ways others will never see. All that matters is that you see it and never let it go.

You are so amazing. I see your genuine happiness. When I was in my mid 20's I was in my prime. Physically fit and aspired to be a teacher. I met the most wonderful woman who was born a Thymine baby from the early 50's. We fell in love and enjoyed each other for a long intimate relationship. She had one leg with a prosthetic and her forearms, hands were not formed. She was so funny and happy, like you. I was a bit over protective and she told me to tone it down a bit. She eventually had to leave the country for university and we lost touch but I'll never forget her. You will find a special man to share your life with.

Your so awesome and that your helping others understand people with disabilities have the same wants and needs as anyone else. I can only hope to find a kind caring woman as yourself keep sharing the peace ✌️ and love Tom.

i would have a problem dating this lady. i can tell right away i would want her in my life forever, dating falls apart way too often and i might lose her. this girl is a keeper. i wish her the best life. her smile is food for the soul....

Thank you for keeping everybody safe

HOO-HAA. Karate Chop!!! I can't believe how strong and independent you are. You're amazing. There's a nice person out there for you. Happy Valentine's day 💘💘💘

It’s complicated but you can move forward with the right person to the next level !

It’s who you are as a person and you have definitely a heart of gold so if the right guy meets you he’ll be a lucky guy! Your you happy and fun nothing stops you so you go Chelsea all the best honey ❤

This was so empowering. Thank you so much. You are so beautiful❤

I mentioned in another video that your future love will be extremely lucky to be with you. You are a rare woman, be proud of that!!!!

Just came across your videos Chelsea and thanks very much for sharing. I think you’re amazing, totally gorgeous and an absolute trooper, well done you! I love your confidence. Matt from Scotland xx

Chelsea, as an old person 70+, I must say that you are admirable for all the things you do and take part in. Sure you have accepted your disability in a rightful and proper manner. That being said, you have proved beyond doubt, and given others sound by proving that you (an affected person) can still achieve so much in life by getting involved in what you love and like doing. From the 1st video that I saw of you, I am amazed to witness what you can and do prove capable of doing; all with that lovely smile on your lovely body. You definitely possess the "I want to; I can do, I have done it, attitude." 😍🙏👌

You have such a great personality and attitude I'm sure you'll find the right person.

What a great video. Many thanks. For creating this. I too have a visible disability, I've met tmen who have hidden disabilities and actually more serious than a walking problem.

Your looks remind me of Anne Hathaway. Blessed for sure. I like how you call it “your success story” when referring to this. It is exactly that and a goal worth finding and striving for. You will find it. ❤

Thank you for sharing your disability because I always feel like nobody knew what I was going through. I have CP also I was always criticize the way I walked away my right hand tremors and I did always feel like a burden to everybody that I meet

You are so beautiful. Your smile is amazing. If someone can't see that they don't deserve you. Keep that beautiful attitude.

First you are doing a great service to many people who will watch this and will benefit from your experiences. Second I think it should be on the profile. If for no other reason, it would weed out the shallow people that end up being a waste of time. Like you said, it's a package deal, kinda like dating someone with kids is a package deal.

Your advice and thoughts are helping so many people...keep up the great work! =)

After I viewed your videos I didn't understand why you emphasized having a disability because your personality way outshines anything else. I truly see you as a uniquely cool infectious individual. Extremely attractive and bubbly. It's hard to believe that someone hasn't scooped you up already and you definitely don't need to worry about that. If I was only 20 years younger......

Dear Chelsea, You are an Incredible Woman! I am envious of the man fortunate enough to win Your ❤️ Heart.

Chelsea, I’m new to watching this but all I want to say is that you’re such an inspiration to anyone disabled or not. All humans have a visible or invisible disability ( if not now then at some point in their life) it’s just how life is. Isn’t using reading glasses a disability? It’s a reading aid. Dating and finding a short or life long partner is a gamble whether you’re disabled or not. Those who ghost you after finding out would also run from the relationship if health issues or hardships occur. Clearly not a good potential mate in “ in sickness and in health”. Sending hugs xo

I have it too Go forward and be happy

Honestly you are beautiful and very smart! People can meet and marry both being “normal “ but then a car accident happens or something… they can end up paralyzed or having issues.. the point is just because you meet someone one way doesn’t mean they will stay that way.. we all age etc.. you should love the person no matter what is on the outside, it’s the inside that counts. Praying you find the perfect man God has for you friend!! ❤

What a sweetheart there is no disability there your awesome and respect yourself for your honesty and I respect that you have to be so proud what a beautiful woman and you have the best outlook on life

Thanks so much for your story your beautiful. I am looking to get back into dating as well. It can be a nervous step sometimes, I suffer from epilepsy and hydrocephalus Living with these two conditions can be challenging, but I manage. Thanks again for your story. I subscribed 😀

Thank you for sharing your story I have Spina Bifida and I also struggle with dating

First let me say, I'm a new subscriber and you are gorgeous, inside and out! You are a huge catch and it's not just what we can see about a person, it's the things you can't see, inside, that are very important. Dating is not fun for anyone, at any age. Honesty and disclosure is the best policy though. In my situation, I'm 52 and have an 8 year old daughter. I tell ladies when we match, immediately, I have an 8 year old, are you good with this? I do this upfront as to not waste my time, or theirs. If they are not good with it, no hard feelings, we both move on. You are a great, positive person, good luck!

Your a beautiful young woman . your smile is contagious . Ma'am any person who would say anything about people with a disability isn't worth a crap don't settle for anything but the best as you deserve Daniel army strong ma'am

I absolutely agree to disclose of a disability before meeting. Just saves time and effort if that's not something they are looking for. You also have to watch out for scammers. I've been catfished before.

Thank You for this! ❤🕊

Chelsea, love your video. For me, I would not care if someone has a disability. If I love the person, their disability does not matter. Love looks beyond the disability. Your heart is what matters. You're the same person to me with or without your disability. Chelsea, you are still Incredibly beautiful with your disability. Your disability would not bother me. I am the kind of person who would treat you and love you the same with your disability as if you didn't have a disability.

See what ??? All I see is a beautiful , joyful, happy , full of life women ...God bless

Just speaking personally, and given my impression that you are a happy, positive person, I wouldn't worry that much about your disability except to support you in whatever you needed. In the back of my mind I would have only three questions: Does your disability impair your ability to be a good lover? Does your disability impair your ability to be a mother? Does your disability seriously shorten your lifespan? If the answers to those three questions is no, I wouldn't have any trouble dating you and enjoying the fruits of having such a nice person as a partner.

Chelsea if I were 30 yr younger I would be asking you out ! Any man that would allow your disability to stop them from dating you would be their loss ! You smile an beauty an your kindness would be a treasure be with ! Your very beautiful ! I wish you all the happiness there is an pray you meet the dream of your life ! God Bless you !

Thank you awesome helpful video💯😇

Wow great. Dating is hard on its own. I commend you on your approach. I think others can benefit from such a mature approach to starting a relationship. 👍

I respect you so much and your so worth it

I totally understand. I have epilepsy and a medical service dog.

Chelsea, I'm confident that your success story of love and relationship are in your very near future. If I were 15 years younger, I'd be camped out on your front yard till you noticed me. LOL Best of luck and it will be nice to see your journey.

Scorpio here also. That makes you even more special than I thought. A loner to some degree. Wise , observant, perceptive, strong, independent, determined. Are you a Christian woman? Your certainly a woman worth knowing. If I seen you on a dating app( which I'm not on) I would definitely get to know you and take you out. Blinded by your smile and personality.

Great post!🙂