From al-Mugheerah ibn Shu’bah: “I proposed marriage to a woman, and the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘Have you seen her?’ I said, ‘No.’ He said, ‘Look at her, because it is more fitting that love and compatibility be established between you.’” According to another report: “So he did that, and he married her and mentioned that they got along.” (Reported by al-Daaraqutni, 3/252 (31, 32); Ibn Maajah, 1/574)
@@jannahseeker5008 Anas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Whoever is pleased to have his provision expanded and his life span extended, let him keep good relations with his family.” Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 2067, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2557
it always amazes me when people say "women don't have any rights in islam" no other religion honours a women like this I'm just now hearing so many things that I was unaware of subhanallah, alhamdulilah for islam
سبحان الله I didn’t even know some of these were actual rights of women in Islam! I learnt so much from this. Especially regarding accommodation for women- It’s deeply ingrained in the south Asian community, a lot of men are unwilling to move out from their parents household. It’s a huge struggle. May ﷲ make it easy for us all. May ﷲ reward the team at AMAU! Topics to cover next إن شاء الله - The Beard - Polygyny - Riba in the west (mortgage, student loans, credit card, halal “mortgages” etc.) - Major & Minor signs of the day of judgment - Major and Minor sins {I’ll add more when I remember!}
Me and my husband have benefitted so much from this series - we cannot thank you enough. The way this is structured as an informal chat between two friends is another element that makes this so easy to watch and take in. May Allah reward you both and open doors for you which you had never imagined, may Allah continue to place barakah in your work and grant you the highest of Jannah, ameen.
Rights of Wife: Financial: 1. Mahr - Dowry 2. Nafaqa - financial provision (food and clothes) 3. Residency Non-financial: 1. Justice/fairness between wives 2. mu'ashara: living with spouse in good (speak good, take care of appearance, merciful, kind, forgiving, appreciative)
I love the informalness of these videos but also the immense amount of benefit these videos offer. I was finally able to finish watching the entirety of this video and once again I was not disappointed. I love how thorough you spoke about the righteous wife and righteous husband in a way that was not "biased" and covered all the "what ifs" so that its beneficial for general marriages as well as those marriages that have specific issues, so that everyone can benefit from these videos regardless of their situation. Allhumabarik. May Allah continue to increase you brothers in beneficial knowedlege and reward you for striving to give a thorough understanding of islam to everyone in a world where knowledge is becoming scarce. Salaam alaikum! May Allah bless you all!
In the indo-pak-bangladesh region, you will NOT believe the amount of IMMENSE distress the in-laws cause to the girl - when the girl is made to live with her in-laws. Often, not always intentionally from the mother-in-law, but just different upbringing. Wallahi, I have seen VERY different upbringing even in the small country of Bangladesh - just across small districts. And some mother-in-laws just are bossy and have ego issues. Ibnul Kayyum closed this issue when he said (and I am paraphrasing and adding context): give your wife her new home, and maintain distance between in-law relatives. Distance creates love! Sisters in the indo-pak region should always consider a righteous *intelligent* and *knowledgeable* brother upon the manhaj of the Salaf - who can ensure your well-deserved honor - just as Shaykh Assim Al Hakim says: "Brothers, don't think about marrying if you're a mommy's boy."
@@MuhammadBinZafar1 SubhanAllah, such a wonderfully thought out msg, referencing our amazing sheyukh rahimahumullah 💕 ...may Allah make it easy for our brothers especially, & our sisters.
MAY Allah reward you brothers for this video. You are speaking of things that are NECESSARY. This is such a good video for brothers and sisters. Especially revert sisters who dont have Muslim men in her family who ensure her rights are being fulfilled.
This is a fantastic video or podcast. The Muslim ummah needs to watch it for reminder including the married couples. May Allah (swt) grant you Jannah and bless you all.
I don't know how to thank you.. It is really beneficial for us to hear true things that are rarely spoken. You make me love my religion more, and also want to learn more about it. Ustadh Abdulrahman is a role model for ummah's young people.. Lots of duas from Turkey
Ukhti, one question. Are there many of Ahlus Sunnah wal jamaaah brothers and sisters in turkey? What we hear is that there are 99,9% Ahlul Bidaah, Sufi, Maturidiyyah and so on. Is that correct?
@@user-hw6cg9ji5x I guess we cannot say that "there are lots of Ahlu's Sunnah wa'l jamaah brothers and sisters in Turkey" unfortunately.. It is really complicated. What we see here is, most of the people don't try to learn about their deen. The discussion is not who is ahlu's sunnah and who is ahlu'l bidaah or this or that. The biggest problem is ignorance, deficiency in ilm. So we should prioritise learning the deen from right sources, live according to it, and try to be a good example for others. The groups you mentioned are really a minority in here. We need to see the big picture.. May Allah help us.
السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته Sister I am a turkish sister (from germany tho) too would you want to get in contact? Its hard to find people like you who listen to AMAU and the likes Allahumma baarik
SubhanAllah, just as amazing as the first one! I love this discussion style format I feel like it's more engaging than the typical sitting Infront of a camera style. So many amazing points to reflect on. May Allah aid Ur dawah & reward u both with the highest jannah Aameen
subhan allah many points in this discussion are very true. especially the point regarding moving the the wife into your mothers home. i myself have suffered from similar issues, so many of this talk resonated with me
Masha’Allah, as a revert, this has been really beneficial and enlightening. There’s a huge lacunae with regards to the the rights of a wife over their husband in the Christian theology and Christendom which leads to an excessively lenient and subjective approach to how Christian men conduct themselves in a marriage and with their wives outside the demands of their community. I could write paragraphs on this but indeed, ours is a straight and sure path Alhamdullilah.
1:02:33 May Allaah make me more grateful Ameen. To have a husband who doesn't kiss you subhaan'Allaah. To have children with him, and he doesn't kiss you? Ya Allaah that must be so tough. For the women and the children to have a man like that in the home. That really shocked and saddened me. A wonderful and well needed lesson brothers. May Allaah bless you and your families and make your efforts weigh heavy on your scales. Ameen
21:02 WaAllahi, there's nothing which you have said to be offensive because I being from Indo-Pak community especially in India, have witnessed many divorce cases caused by this issue of residence; Allahul Mustaan!!!
So true brother... Unfortunately it is a very sensitive topic and it doesn't need to be... We just need more love and understanding around us. Insha'Allah this will happen with more education and communication
I beseech on Allaah with the best and most beautiful of His names and attributes which He made known to none to bless and have mercy on Ustaadh AbdurRahman Hassan and Akhee Al-Fadheel Shahīd. May He make them from those whom He'll be pleased with in Qiyāmah. WaLlaahi, it's only onto Allaah their reward for what they're doing to this Ummah and may He reward them in manifolds in both dunyā and Ākhiroh.🤲🏽🤲🏽
May Allah bless the team for this beneficial content, there were SO many important points covered, many of which folks shy away from talking about or just don't want to hear. I'm excited for the polygyny discussion as well, whether it's in this series or another (like the Hot Seat Podcast). I also HAVE to compliment both brothers again-the Ustadh is always knowledgeable and brings the proofs and evidences for his position. His easy going yet firm manner is a breath of fresh air. The host is consistently amazing as well, allahumma barik. Always giving succinct summaries at the appropriate times and allowing his guests the time to fully flesh out their thoughts and ideas. Just so wonderful, what a benefit this channel is for the Ummah today. May Allah continue to increase you in knowledge, wisdom, and piety, and may He raise your ranks in Jannah. Ameen.
Please address the issue of practicing brothers who live on social welfare but then marry women but continue this lifestyle of not seeking or having any desire to work and sustain them with a Halal income . Too much of this in UK society.
Sisters need to stop marrying them and protect their wombs. This has been going on for years and years, it's upon us as women to protect and educate ourselves and not fall into the traps of some of these wolves.
@@Party_Of_Eight Totally agree. Unfortunately sisters are manipulated by men in Islamic robes who prey on the vulnerable and those who are disconnected from family and don't have access to good counsel.
Baarakallaahu feekum, ahsanallaahu eelaykum, Ustadh, the brother and the entire team. Subhanallah.. was wondering about the topic discussed at 40:36 shukran for bringing this up jazaakumullaahu khayraan
Jazaku Allāhu khair brothers. So much mentioned ma Shā Allāh in this topic. So perhaps you can do a conclusion to wrap up both videos in to one video. And after(these 2 videos)having the idea of what to accept as a prospect you can do is ways in to finding one and the introduction and meetings etc Baraku Allāhu fikum
The best discussion I ever heard about women's rights. Thank you. But what I learned here is far away from what many Muslim women receive from their husbands... And what is worst they are badly treated by their Muslim husbands...
These days men looking for a women with 30k salary and degree as something essential in order to make a marriage work or to raise kids .. may Allah swt guide the men in the ummah they are not following the Islamic principles
Ustadh, what you're talking about in the IndoPak community is jahez, the "dowry" the woman pays in the marriage. As far as I'm aware, this is an unIslamic practice, but I'm hearing here for the first time that it may actually be permissible. As for modern days, some families do it like the man provides the house and the woman's side provides some of the core furnishings (wardrobes, beds, etc.) and consider that to be part of the jahez. I hope this helps!
In the indo-pak-bangladesh region, you will NOT believe the amount of IMMENSE distress the in-laws cause to the girl - when the girl is made to live with her in-laws. Often, not always intentionally from the mother-in-law, but just different upbringing. Wallahi, I have seen VERY different upbringing even in the small country of Bangladesh - just across small districts. And some mother-in-laws just are bossy and have ego issues. Ibnul Kayyum closed this issue when he said (and I am paraphrasing and adding context): give your wife her new home, and maintain distance between in-law relatives. Distance between in-laws creates love! Sisters in the indo-pak region should always consider a righteous *intelligent* and *knowledgeable* brother upon the manhaj of the Salaf - who can ensure your well-deserved honor - just as Shaykh Assim Al Hakim says: "Brothers, don't think about marrying if you're a mommy's boy."
Few years back, at site we asked an engineer why are you sir doing so much paper work at site so late. He told us, if we do office work at home then what is difference between home & office & we should give time to our family also"
Amazing reminder but in your episode about righteous wife u mention that your wife should be wudud. Women’s primary need is love. can you also talk about the fact that a man should also be the wudud towards his wife? Jazak
Now what if the guy can’t afford the girls dowry ? Then he would just have to leave her alone right ? Say the girl has high standards and has a certain life she’s living , if the guy is not up to par with it he would have to leave her right ?
Everything should be done & spent by the husband to be. A father is giving his daughter(his beloved blood) for freee whom he fed,cared, gave education & wt not & if still the husband demands or seeks them to spent on something,then he isnt man of faith & it is very very shameful for him to accept anything from girls side. We should stop this culture of spendings by girls side. Make nikah easy, give dower to her, bring her home, give walima & kalas tata bye bye to everyone. This is our way in islam & only best way for everyone.
No, but they do live in Dubai so there ut is more common. I want to buy them as well since i saw some Brothers wearing them in Finland. So maybe you can order it online, but try your Islamic clothing shops in your city.
After listening to the hijrah talk I thought I found a scholer talked the walk made hijrah In somalia very dissapointed this what's missing these days can't show families examples
@@alhomsiyyah no it doesn't, no man can take the parents place, first of all how the man I married come near to my parent's right, when my parents wants something from me he can't say anything unless it's unIslamic and Haram otherwise for me my parents are number one and if my husband has a problem with it then the door is wide open for him to go. And for him his parents are number one and if I have a problem with it then the door is wide open for me. When 2 people get married then the 4 parents are above them and they must be heard and respected unless they told you to so Haram things
@@alhomsiyyah yeah I have my evidence but go and do more research before you follow some men who thinks women are property for men, how could someone say that a man you married and is not doing special things like something that he is only doing for you so you must secrefice your mother and father. When the prophet is saying the closest person for you is your mother. Husband and wife need each other and if I don't understand him then I have the right to divorce and married another one but do I have to leave my mother and get another Mother no, so my parents comes first and then my kids my husband's place is 3 and the one I am married to knows this and respected my decision and for him his parents are number one and I'm very pleased to know that because I want my house to be the perfect place for our 4 parents, my Allah give them good life here and akhirah