3 Questions to Ask to Prevent Gossiping

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Gossip may seem like one of those sins that the Bible doesn't directly condemn, but in this video, Fr. Mike points out that the Psalms, Peter, and James all strongly advise us to be mindful of the things we say. These words of wisdom aren't just in Scripture, either. The Greek philosopher Socrates also gives guidelines to avoid gossip with his "test of three." Find out what that test is in this video.
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@chrissybloulam2585 Год назад

Gossip is basically all about jealousy, envy, drama, drawing attention to the self instead of being a light to the world & lifting up Jesus.

@billsd13 6 лет назад

Lord, please stand guard at the door of my lips. Take away my will and place Your Divine will into my speech. I ask this through Christ our Lord. Amen.

@petretepner8027 6 лет назад

+billsd13 Thanks for reminding us of that prayer, very apposite for commenters on RU-vid. Shut up, Petre!

@daniellelevesque1820 3 года назад

Amen!!🙏🏼💗

@gregsaddie Год назад

Amen

@avery9879 Год назад

Thank you 🙏

@domedweller4202 6 лет назад

My mother always told me ,if you can't think of anything good to say about someone don't say anything.

@lukavidovic3939 Год назад

❤

@Cheetosyup-xm5bg Год назад

I need to keep that with me

@Miss_Sylvie Год назад

I been around christians growing up and when I say this, their response is “no, thats not how you are raised”. Actually was raised like this and it makes me sad that the next decision is minimizing contact with this jealous or disrespectful person. I have no response for this gaslighting.

@kl3625 4 месяца назад

I had someone warn me about another person recently. It’s wasn’t good and I don’t know if it’s true although I believe the person who told me. My instincts told me it was true. Now I don’t trust this other lady and was put in a bad position because the person who shared said they were trying to protect me & didn’t want me to share what she said unless the other lady started gossiping and I had to stand up for her. Now the mutual friend wanted to get to know me better but I 💯 do not feel safe with her. Before this she liked her. ☹️

@lisamarie5680 6 лет назад

1.) Is it true? 2.) Is it good? 3.) Is it useful? It is good to tell somebody something bad if it is true AND useful. :)

@andrewgrajeda3349 Год назад

I think there is a difference between it being a good thing to say something and the thing you're talking about being a good thing. So it could be a good thing to say something even if the subject matter is not objectively good itself. My take at least

@DianeCalabrese-mindbodyspirit Год назад

Here's what God said-- in so many words--- Mind your own business. Gossip is NEVER GOOD!

@ExpatNTraining 6 лет назад

Please pray for those who speak untruths towards others. 🙏🏻

@dinasanchezharo1819 6 лет назад

You are an online blessing to us all

@georgeknight636 5 лет назад

Many thanks fr. Mike. You re helping me no end . Listened to your talk on gossiping , as I've been a victim . Your talks are a godsend to me as well as many others. With you , I don't need to speak to anyone at present as you've put me on the straight and narrow , saving me from overreacting and opening me up to sin. I listen to a lot of your talks and have some way to go until I get through them all. God bless , a sinner from Scotland. PS. We don't get as many homilies as this here at Mass.

@eileen1820 6 лет назад

Fr. Schimtz's intros are always a little weird (in the best way) and I'm here for it! 😊😊

@ishadas1965 5 лет назад

Same. I love his intros.

@divinegoddess3060 3 года назад

What gossip 😭😂

@vinniejames9837 3 года назад

For anyone wondering… yes gossip is a mortal sin

@justsomegirl4838 6 лет назад

I was just talking about this with a friend earlier today, it’s crazy how things can turn up exactly when you need them

@madelynbarten6798 6 лет назад

JustSomeGirl I was thinking the same thing! It’s been an issue prevalent in my mind for awhile!! And this just came at the exact right time!

@bbssssssssssssssssss 6 лет назад

You guys are weird!

@soglossytv9794 2 месяца назад

Same here

@paulhill7726 6 лет назад

Fr. Mike I love you. Your videos helped break apart misconceptions i had about the Church and as a result my wife, my baby, and i came into the Church this past Easter. Thank you for answering GOD’s call to the priesthood and may He continue to bless the work you do in His name. 😍😁

@marcihf9763 6 лет назад

Marcus Cicero Welcome to the Church. God bless all of you. 💝💝💝

@madelynbarten6798 6 лет назад

Thank you so much! This has been a struggle for me. I’ve noticed gossip so much around me lately! I’ve been trying to get better with it myself, but it’s so hard to know what is gossip and what isn’t! I really appreciate this. Thank you so much Fr. Mike!!

@barrymcgrath4303 6 лет назад

Madelyn Barten Gossip is the giving of information inappropriate for the individual you dialogue at that point in time My general rule is think before you speak and your less likely to advance gossip

@MSoc1op 6 лет назад

So basically the majority of mainstream media "gossips"

@yvettepadilla4169 Год назад

Love it! I’ve been praying about this Lord heal my tongue.

@kendraheard1097 5 месяцев назад

Man I'm struggling with this badly I hate these feelings that I feel like it had deveated me

@SimplyZeyma 6 лет назад

really needed to hear this bc gossiping/venting and where you draw the line is something I struggle with, so thank you for this

@holywaterandhotsauce1359 6 лет назад

The version of that story I learned was, 'Is it true? Is it necessary? Is it kind?" I've also seen: 'Before you speak, THINK! T=true H=helpful I=inspired N=necessary K=kind.

@merrymanson 5 лет назад

"Is it ? There's no one there, I'm just pretending" :D Love that guy! I am Pentecostal and I love the topics that you bring to the table. I also can say that I can agree on 95% of the stuff. Just wanted to say this - Keep up the good work, many youngsters are watching you!

@wendyrathbun4724 2 года назад

I am pentecostal also, and I have to say I go through this with my sister and my mother in law. I have to watch my tongue because their personalities are well known to all and they are easy targets. That is no excuse. God will judge me harsher than them! Pray for me!!!

@bartschlief2574 6 лет назад

A soft answer turneth away wrath, but grievous words stir up anger. Proverbs 15:1

@kelly311977 6 лет назад

2 John 1, 9:11 9 If anybody does not remain in the teaching of Christ but goes beyond it, he does not have God with him: only those who remain in what he taught can have the Father and the Son with them. 10 If anyone comes to you bringing a different doctrine, you must not receive him into your house or even give him a greeting. 11 Whoever greets him has a share in his wicked activities. brothers in ctisto, I invite you all to stand firm in the faith that we have always heard, the only and true, "OUR CATHOLIC FAITH". Until the end of time. God bless you.!!

@vanessagarcia7515 2 месяца назад

This topic is one I have to keep coming back to. A constant reminder to keep my mouth shut! Bishop baron also has a great talk about this

@obsessedbrii 4 месяца назад

Lord please take away my gossiping, it is my fault that I cannot stop but please lord, help me out

@Cheetosyup-xm5bg Год назад

I feel so bad after talking about others..it's always with mom and at house when we about to drink warm drinks 😂..I feel bad after even tho we ain't saying lies or bad stuff, but I do feel like I'm caring and being fake I shall stop

@estebancasillasjr8823 6 лет назад

I try my best to stay away from certain social crowds.... Social media is the biggest threat in my opinion. I would be lying if I said that I never gossiped but I do my best to be careful in what i say. I can care less what others say about me (gossip) they have no clue what has gone in my life and the actions that i took to better myself with my faith as a a Catholic. When others gossip about you it's all a defensive mechanism because they feel threaten. I let it roll of me. Thanks Father Mike

@msmandy00 6 лет назад

I love how fast Fr Mike talks! I love to listen!

@angiejd13 6 лет назад

FATHER, YOUR TIMING.. It’s always incredible. The Holy Spirit is definitely working through you.

@Catholicity-uw2yb 4 месяца назад

ST. FRANCIS DE SALES: “Everyone paints devotion according to his own passions and fancies. A man given to fasting thinks himself very devout if he fasts, although his heart may be filled with hatred. A man doesn’t dare wet his tongue with wine or even water but won’t hesitate to drink deep of his neighbor’s blood by slander, vilification, and gossip. Another man thinks himself devout because he daily recites a vast number of prayers, but after saying them he utters the most disagreeable, arrogant and harmful words at home and among his neighbors.”

@AnestheticsForAna 6 лет назад

Father Mike again speaks on a topic I’ve been taking to prayer very recently. Thank you for being the way God answers my prayers!

@RebelRampant 17 дней назад

So many talk about things Paul spoke about w/homosexuality… while ignoring all the same verses about gossipers, backbiters, those who bear false report I truly believe this encompasses the internet This sin, is ripping our world apart - with almost ZERO attention being given to it

@annemariemiller9807 6 лет назад

This is such a helpful video for me! I find myself confessing gossip in confession pretty much every time but struggling to avoid it even after repenting and I really needed some tools. Thanks so much for the practical advise!

@Natural_Nuturer 7 месяцев назад

Thank you Fr Mike! These are very good tools to help me curb my gossiping tongue. Lord let the words of my mouth and the meditations of my heart be acceptable in your site, I pray oh Lord. Amen 🙏🏽

@MommeeMadre1 4 месяца назад

Lol, So-crates! Lots of wisdom from Bill and Ted!

@lindajamme5459 6 лет назад

This old lady loves you. I am sure happy you are on you tube and teach me lots of good info.

@kevinkempton6894 6 лет назад

James 3 starts by saying that we must not all be teachers, for we will be judged more strictly. If one makes no mistakes in what he says, he is a perfect man, and has control of his body also. I have heard it said that our soul breathes through our ears, as it inhales the words of others. If we are breathing in toxins, ie- gossip or false things, then we are poisoning our souls. In return, we exhale through our mouths that which our souls are made of. That is why it is also important to cultivate good friendships and take stock into what you feed your soul. Good and true, Fr. Mike. Thank you!

@BlessedLifeLoveandFaith 6 лет назад

Love this Fr. Mike! This should be for my work environment; Yes, most definitely. Even though I don't hear anything and mind my own matters to me and my dear family/friends, my job does a lot of gossiping 🙀

@Ford31083 6 лет назад

Wow, Father Mike has a talent for posting videos so apropos at the right time!!!! God bless him!!!!

@juliekwon2267 3 года назад

Guilty! It’s so hard to resist but I will train myself to follow these rules.

@9594491969 6 лет назад

Awesome...

@amespointer 6 лет назад

My Mom and I were gossiping the other day and my Dad said something like, "Well, while you two have been running your mouths I've been thinking..." and I realized what I'd been doing and I told him thank you for the gentle reminder that I was gossiping and that I felt bad about it. They thought I was crazy. Haha But I have been working on that for a while now, and it's weird how easily you get going, even if you don't have a malicious intent. "Well, I heard so and so..." I'll try and remember the rule of 3.

@FreedomandBaconHomestead 6 лет назад

Thank you, Father Mike!

@paulmiller8673 6 лет назад

Thanks, Father! Good and easy to remember rule of thumb.

@wfm5121954 6 лет назад

I lived in Manhattan, NY from 1976-2000. During that time I was a frequent visitor to St Francis of Assisi Church on West 31st Street. I adored that church. The day that 911 happened we lost Friar Mychael Judge. He was chaplain to the fire house across the street from the church. He was a first responder. And he is listed as 911's first casualty. There is a beautiful photo depicting him being carried away. A true hero to his church. I knew some of the friars there including Friar Mychael. He was outspoken and respected by everyone. They named a street after him.

@yeahinfiresmann Год назад

Ik I’m a little late but thank you sm for this video 🙏 I have the hardest time not gossiping or overhearing due to the nature of the friends I hang around with, but now I’m learning to bite my tongue and, even tho it sounds a little crazy, if it’s really good gossip I’ll just tell it to myself or pretend I’m talking to my favorite celebrity about it 😅 kind of weird but it sure does help

@jessicamurphy5882 6 лет назад

You have perfect timing every.single.time. Thank you

@mervinbesuena9309 5 месяцев назад

This is perfect Fr. Mike.. God Bless You! 🙏

@tkdstudent7578 6 лет назад

Man thanks for the questions too prevent gossiping ,oh and good bless you too🌟🐐🐑⛪✝

@carlpostuma1469 6 лет назад

Nice Bill and Ted's reference Fr. Mike

@pmvrodriguezfamily 6 лет назад

Fr. Mike thank you so much!!!! I have a thirteen year old girl and let me tell you that you are a great help for me, and also for her, when she comes from school with this type of problems. May God bless you always.

@LoriLoriLori21 6 лет назад

Truly I say to you, this was a good and helpful message from you! 😉🌷👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

@funnynickline 6 лет назад

'Yes Father' Mike' should have a good heart, and spirit and relations to CHRIST and the words expressed are godly',.🙏.

@AuroraFenzl 6 лет назад

When I misread the title and thought it said "gospeling"...😂

@scottyhotty1003 6 лет назад

True, good, and necessary stuff!! The tongue is a fire..amen!!

@anniesshenanigans3815 4 года назад

mainstream media needs to see this!!

@beckyholbrook7253 3 года назад

Thank you Fr Mike, this is one sin I keep committing.

@claytonwenrich3588 6 лет назад

That was very helpful for me. Thank you father Mike

@ameyers3792 6 лет назад

Yes Fr. Mike. Listen to your gut (good? useful? true?) My way of remembering. :)

@marcoferreira0223 6 лет назад

I think this was so useful and helpful especially if we wanna live good, sin-free lives, by performing this "Test of Three" before we speak to someone: a) is what we going to share true? b) is it good news? and c) is it helpful or useful in any way? If not then it's better not to bring up the topic at all. I think Scriptures says somewhere that we will be judged by our own words, so please Brothers and Sisters in Christ let's be cautious with our tongues and use it as tools for good instead of for evil. Thank you Fr Mike for your words of wisdom, there isn't a video I don't watch where I don't learn something vital to my faith from you! Thank you for spreading the Good News and explaining it to us, your Brethren!

@tomstika6236 6 лет назад

Thank you Fr. Mike. Very helpful message, as always.

@aliciamaureen9033 6 лет назад

Thank you for this awesome video! The test of three is really useful!😊

@jackielinerodriguez3965 6 лет назад

Amen God bless you father mike :)

@tamarasears5318 Год назад

Thank you father Mike

@cookielove9310 5 лет назад

Very helpful. Thank you. God Bless you and your work🙏😊

@ZaidanJMJ 5 месяцев назад

😂 oh my goodness .this was so good. Love the ending haha

@noahinson 6 лет назад

Thank you Mike for sharing this video. I know some people might get mad that you used Socrates or whatever. I think it's important to remember that Paul quoted from Epimenedes, a Cretan (he might be a philosopher or a historian, I don't remember). Thank you for this video, helps me a lot.

@Nancy-vo2kn 5 месяцев назад

God have mercy on me

@moursundjames 3 года назад

I remember my Dad sharing this with me - his parents had told him growing up. He said to ask these three questions, and to make sure at least two of the criteria are met.

@fortzhd4874 Год назад

Thank you. This is useful and important I didn't even think of these 3. God bless🙏🏼❤️✝️

@BrisMindset 8 месяцев назад

This was very useful to hear. Currently trying to omit the garbage from my daily conversation. Thank you so much.

@virginiadomingo8761 6 лет назад

🙏🙏🙏! The best way is to zip up! 🤐🤐🤐

@maramcdonald9602 3 года назад

Thanks Father Mike!

@serena7397 4 года назад

LOL...Oh Father I love your sense of humor! Thank you for defining gossip and venting as well as defining that if your words arent helpful then you probably shouldn't use them. I pray everyday that I don't lose my filter! Thanks again Father Mike! 💙🙏

@Angelas.Eye_ 5 лет назад

thank you so so much for sharing this story! i’m not religious but I really appreciate the religious community online for sharing so much guidance on how to be a better human. gossip and venting is something i’ve been learning more about because I know how toxic it is

@ambergabel4919 6 лет назад

This video is SO lovely! I definitely want to use the test of 3. Gossiping can be really hard not to do, but I want to keep improving and this test may be just the thing. I will have to check out James 3 soon too. Kind of appropriate chapter 3 is the one about how to use our words and there is the test of 3 on the same topic... ;) Nice job with this video, Fr. Mike (as always) and cute joke about pronouncing Socrates. ;)

@muhammadwasapedophile2251 6 лет назад

So-crates Johnson😂🤣😂🤣 Bill and Ted. Classic!

@biancarose1992618 5 лет назад

I love Father Mikes videos I’ve been watching them since 2016. This is a good guide for me because I talk a lot and sometimes there’s things I say that I shouldn’t. But then that’s pretty much all humanity. So A is it true, B is it good, and C is it useful. If it’s none of those things then we probably shouldn’t say or share any of these.

@Mozartandme 4 года назад

wow ..... you always make me better!

@kongziarusu8518 2 года назад

This is really brilliant. Thanks Fr Mike!

@kimcasio5238 6 лет назад

Thank you Father Mike for your truth.

@vstu7643 6 лет назад

This was TRUE, GOOD and USEFUL 🙀 Seriously, thank you for stepping out of your comfort zone to speak of that which is from God. You manage to soften the heavy message with your 🤡 demeanor -- and you get it across. A side note is - you look very nice clean shaven ....it is true, its a compliment so its good and if you get an idea to grow it again - this comment may be very useful lol.........

@paddybeme 6 лет назад

Thank you Father for posting this video I really needed to hear it at work me and my coworkers definitely have a problem with gossiping about each other I guess sitting behind the computers maybe we all get bored I don't know but almost every time I go to confession gossiping is something that I always have to get off of my heart so it was very good to hear these tips on how I could stop myself from falling into gossip because it is not following the Lord when you start gossiping about other people God bless you father Mike and may peace be upon you always

@DS-st7xj 4 года назад

Important reminder for us all Fr Mike Thank you! 🙂

@emilycharles2454 2 года назад

Thank you so much father. May God bless you.

@ckirby614 6 лет назад

Fascinated by the bad news, just like how we need to slow down and gawk at road kill. What's the quote: "If you can't say anything nice........come over here and sit by me!!!" Juicy gossip is very tempting, no doubt about it!

@annithibu8110 5 лет назад

Great piece of advice! Funny as well

@Molly-cd9fx 6 лет назад

Thanks it's something u can fall into so easily so we need to guard our tongues

@miguelangelaguilarrancel4933 4 года назад

Extremely wise and thoughtful... 😇

@heavyjoechipman3594 4 года назад

SO-CRATES!😂Thank you for tremendous, clean laughter. Bless you, Father.☺🙏💜👍

@Live4theblacknote 6 лет назад

I'm reminded of being in situations where I should have asked these three questions. I'll surely be asking them from now on.

@bigstaif9797 6 лет назад

Hey father mike can you try to do more videos with french subtitles i understand what you say but not everthing

@vstu7643 6 лет назад

BIG STAIF english is my primary language and the speed often inhibits anyone over 50 also -- so I applaud you with english as second language for grasping most of it 🤓true, good & useful?

@bigstaif9797 6 лет назад

V Stu thank's V Stu 😊

@CozyToni 14 дней назад

Great advice, thank you!

@patricemackle3789 Год назад

I will practice this from now onwards ❤

@nikyabodigital 7 месяцев назад

Sometimes you don't even have to avoid gossiping. You just do something in your life and gossiping will not be too interesting.. You just want to get things done. Do you remember those days when you are at peak? You don't gossip do you.

@michaelcorbalis9860 6 лет назад

Beautiful! Thanks so much Father! It's always tough trying to distinguish what's gossip and what's not

@rosieroberts6738 3 года назад

That was great!!! Thank you, Fr. Mike!!!✝️🙏✝️

@DianeCalabrese-mindbodyspirit Год назад

You have good points with Gossip. Regardless of whether something is true or not, Gossip is a horrific sin. A good example right now in the media is how Megan Kelly keeps repeating episodes on Megan Markle. To me it's too many, almost vindictive. Now I'm not a Democrat--I'm a conservative Republican. But whatever happened in the Royal Family for Megan Markle to feel suicidal, and to leave the Royal family--well that's up to them. There's too many debates on this. Who cares? I know you're a friend of Megan Kelly's and often appear on her show. But this Gossip--and it is Gossip at its absolute worst, has got to STOP! I am not even a fan of Markle--- not fond of her in any way--- but the exploiting of people even if they are not in your political party or religion is the ROOT OF ALL EVIL. Do the world a favor---Stop it with your friends in Media! The Royal family hasn't had a good reputation especially since Diana's death and Andrew's involvement with Epstein Island. These are things that are monumentally wrong with the world. Everyone wants their airtime--- but to put a Stop to Evil--- picking on the small person isn't going to work. Gossip needs to Stop and Facts need to be put on the Table--especially since we are in the End of Times.

@plewis1353 Год назад

Thank you for your messages ❤

@petretepner8027 6 лет назад

The things I could tell you about Mike! My friend Martin, the Dominican, heard from Fabian, the Benedictine, that... but of course, my lips are sealed. It's hard to argue that gossip is a good thing, but equally hard to deny that our clergy have a vested interest in suppressing it.

@Swety08 6 лет назад

God bless father Mike.

@maryfrances1202 3 года назад

Thanks Padre

@-gina1114 6 лет назад

Thank you so much Father Mike! I didn’t know about Socrates’ “Test of 3”. Thank you for the Bible quotes, too. Didn’t know about those, either. All very helpful information. God Bless you and Ascension Presents for your continued excellent ministry work!