Hey girls! I can’t wait to hear what YOU would do in these 3 situations!! 😍 And did any of you eat ice cream while watching this?? 😂 Also, sorry there are some parts that don’t make sense. My laptop still isn’t fixed so I have very little ability to edit right now 😂🤷♀️
Good video, Tiffany. I never been in a relationship, but if one day I do, I need to decide if I want the relationship to continue or not. You and your husband have good points about pornography. I struggle with it. I relapse these past days, and I felt ashamed of it. I need the Holy Spirit to help me to fight it. I need to learn of how I can manage with my money. It is possible to do so. Thank you for making this video. God bless you, your husband, and your future baby. 😊
Tiffany, this video was literally a gift from God tonight... I had literally just asked the first question to my friend tonight out of desperation in regards to my relationship. Thank you for posting this and for your and James’ wisdom- I deeply appreciate it💕
Thanks so much for your encouragement - that means so much! It's so awesome you're allowing the Holy Spirit to continue shaping you and helping you - that's so beautiful!
No, it all made SO much sense. I'd break up with all of these guys, depending on the attitude towards the last problem. I personally could never be with someone who doesn't respect women and their bodies. And when you mentioned the question your friend asked you, if you knew there were someone better God had for you, would you stay? That completely blew my mind, I ended up in tears realizing that I wouldn't. I knew him for over a year but I had always had this bad feeling I continued to push down. We had our first kiss, and less than a month later he was pushing my boundaries physically to go much farther than I was okay with, even after agreeing not to go further than we'd already gone by kissing. (He's had issues like this with other girls too, even had sex multiple times.) I broke it off a few days later. I was completely heartbroken that he wasn't respectful towards my body and soul, and that he wouldn't listen when I asked him to stop. Looking back, I'm so glad I stopped it. Watching your videos was a big factor into me making the discison to finally break free, you both have so much love for God and that really shows in how you speak. Thank you for helping me come to the right decision ♥️♥️♥️
I think James needs to stand there eating ice cream in more of your videos 😂 It was calming haha and loved his input. Man, that porn question is tough. But agreed, BIG red flag is he’s trying to cover it up or if he’s got an attitude like ‘I’m a normal dude and it’s no big deal’ He needs to see it as a serious thing and be taking steps to get free. 👊😊
I literally watch this every time I'm thinking of getting into a relationship with someone. It isn't just reasons to break up, but reasons to not even pursue a relationship
There was a guy I knew for 8 years and he'd always say that God told him I would be his wife someday. I was so annoyed because I wasn't the least bit attracted to him. I told him that I resented the statement he made, because I felt as if I didn't have a choice in the matter. At one point, I tried to like him and see if my feelings would change. Though he was a very nice guy, I couldn't see him the same way he saw me. I told him I'd rather remain friends. As a result, we do not communicate anymore.
I'm so glad you didn't just go with what he said, but stood up for yourself! That is awesome. We did a video about that whole "God told me I'm going to marry you" situation - ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-4Q2ceAP7LIw.html - and it's SO important to search that out for ourselves, like you did, instead of taking the person's word for it! :)
So happy I came across your videos today. You're so REAL, full of joy, and full of WISDOM! SUCH good thoughts, always with a unique (but super relevant and real) perspective - and appreciate seeing your beautiful relationship with your husband, too :) Keep it up!! And congrats on your baby!!!
The money issue isn't talked about enough! It is the number ONE cause of divorce in America! And the Bible tells us that "your treasure is where your heart is." Seeing how people manage their money, what they spend it on, whether or not they save, etc. may sound very unromantic, but truly, it's a window to their innermost values and priorities. Love your videos! I love the golden nuggets of advice you both offer, but I also really love observing the dynamic between you two. I'm a teacher, so modeling is a big deal, and you two set a beautiful example.
I imagine this is what it would be like talking to a big sister & her husband ❤️ I appreciate you both! You speak in truth, but with love. It’s also helpful to hear both female & male perspectives
Loved this video! I definitely agree with both you and James on these questions. I've for sure struggled with scenario 1 before....wish I found your channel 2 years ago when I was 16 and struggling with this stuff hahaha. But SO glad many other girls follow you and have a Christ like woman to look up to. Good on ya girl! Btw the baby bump is GORGEOUS on you
SCENARIO 😂😂😂🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧 Haha. So funny. Good accent! 😉 Tiffany - your hair looks gorgeous! It's growing so much! Love it, it looks so healthy! 💗 This was a fun video idea, and great to go through each situation! That is such good advice that we need to make sure in all things we're not walking by fear, but by faith! So great to hear from you guys! xxx
Gosh, your videos are so refreshing. I love how real ya'll are, I love the way you talk... plain and simple with Godly truths. Also, I totally relate to wanting to sound British.... (;
I might stay for a bit in scenario 1. I was in scenario 2 with my first almost boyfriend. I found his porn stash online and whenever I talked about porn he would agree with me about how bad it was etc, but never admitted to having his own addiction. It caused me to never progress the relationship. Scenario 3 depends on exactly how bad he is with money. Another great video, Tiffany!
Thank you so much Tiffany for this video ! It's 2020 and it just helped me confirmed if I should stay with my current boyfriend or not. I am sooooo afraid of loneliness but you are right, God called me to walk by faith not by fear, and that is what I exactly did with him. Thank you again to you guys ! I love your videos !
Hey I'm loving your channel, you have such a great relationship with your husband and he looks really adorable in his cap and vest most guys could not pull that off. Your baby girl Natalie is so sweet and that video of her doing pull ups made me cry. She is the sweetest thing and it made me miss my niece Hannah when she was that age she is three now.
I love how you're just talking along and meanwhile, you can see so clearly how much James is just enjoying all of that icecream😂😂 and THEN you ask him to jump in, and he's just too occupied😅
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I just bought your book! I feel like God placed your channel in my life, because I literally JUST came to terms with the fact that I need some serious healing in the area of relationships, singleness, and male attention. So excited to read your book!!!
Hi Tiffany, I was wondering if you could put up on tips on finance and how you practiced it while you were single and how you manage it now that you are married, Thank you!
How much porn is too much porn? My boyfriend and I have spoken about porn before and he says he doesn’t really struggle with it and is not addicted. Yet he says he probably watches it twice a month or so. In my mind I would see that as an issue, I just want to know how much grace we should have in this area. I personally have very strong convictions and deal breakers surrounding porn as my dad was addicted to it and it destroyed our family and his marriage.
Biblically, your intimacy is between you are your spouse. Porn at all is too much porn, and even if he only watches a couple times a month, he will still have those sexual expectations on you. Furthermore, porn is addicting-once or twice a month never stays that way, and you are worth way more than that.
@@valorandstrength2829 thank you for this. Since I made this comment we have had some discussions around this and he has totally stopped watching it. I am waiting to see if this is a long term thing he has manage to give up, as we move towards getting engaged.
Hey Tiffany! I don’t ever write comments of RU-vid videos but I just had to here. You are such a blessing! Thank you so much for talking about things that church (in general) doesn’t really talk about. There is so much integrity and wisdom in what you say! ❤️ thank you
You two are appreciated. My sweet daughter 21yo has a friend who is a 19yo boy who has convinced her that he is her best friend and very narcisstic, isolated her, all her friends are bad, and she does not need friends or family's approval.... she does not see it, blind love, can't reason with her, did not guard her heart..... We have history with him and his family who tell her she does not need her parents approval because she is an adult and they are all she needs and she does not need to honor parents, it is our problem....ugh, hard to express....ideas??
Omg! Well IDK what just happened but honestly think God placed you in my life I'm honestly struggling with this emotional situation to and sometimes I feel like God has something better in store for me but Idk because I'm not allowed to date yet until I'm 19 I'm 18 and I'm going to turn 19 in August but I asked my mom and she said it was okay to wait until me and the guy that likes me wait until I'm 19 which is not too long from now but I still have those doubts. But your video really helped me out because I honestly feel like you really hit the issue that I'm going through at the moment lol 😭❤👍😇 thank you and thank God most of all for leading me into this video lol
Hi Tiffany! I just came across your videos in my news feed, you guys are a great couple and genuine! I like what you both have to say.. ;) and congrats on your pregnancy!!
I just love your guy's presence on the internet... The Lord has been doing an interesting work in my life, and your videos occasionally pop up and provide some guidance and correction and help. If I wanted to submit a question with maybe some context that might be something interesting for you to respond to, is there a way to do that? Of course, you might not have a response but I think it would be interesting to hear what you two have to say and I imagine I'm not the only one with this particular relationship struggle. By the way, God bless! Keep up the good work
Just watching this - seeing your man actively listen to you and support/encourage what you’re saying with the head nods & “mm-hmm”s is a light bulb moment in & of itself 😪
I was in scenario #1 in one relationship (except that he wasn't a great guy). I broke up. Once enough time had passed I could clearly see what a bad choice he would have been. But when you are in a relationship it's not always easy to see clearly. If you are undecided you are not in love.
Love how blunt James is: "You can't marry someone who's a poor manager of money." It's pretty challenging to me tho. I don't think me or my bf are amazing with our money... My sister told me a few months ago that she has like £12,000 in savings & I was like O.O "HOW!" It made me feel pretty inadequate lol. We both recognise that it's important to make wise decisions tho, although recently I've made a few impulse buys since Toys R Us is closing down (I can't really afford it but I've been slowly buying up the Disney section 😂). I'm not proud of it tho... I'm in debt to my sister for Taylor Swift tickets as well, not to mention we impulsively bought flights to Paris in May. I've spent SOOO much recently. 😭
Wow, good for your sister! That is so awesome! And I hear you - this is something I've definitely struggled with at times, especially in my early 20s. It's definitely a huge challenge! (PS I know, I can't believe Toys R Us is totally closing down! So crazy!)
Scenario number one I dealt with when I was dating almost two years ago. I believe God really told me that I should break up with him when I met a Christian guy in Latin class. This new guy reminded me that godly man like he is what God has in store for me, and I thought that just knowing this believer helped me grow more in my faith than the one I was dating at the time. Love this video about scenarios and hard topics!
Also... don't we have such a unique perspective on the Kingdom? I mean to be fallen, and to speak the truth, no matter how hard or awkward. There is such liberation from it, and growth, and even joy! hmmm
God could not have picked out a more perfect couple. You two are adorable together! 💖 I LOVE your videos... So encouraging. I laugh, I cry, and then I laugh again. **“Its an addiction! You wouldn’t marry someone who was addicted to crack!”** 😂😂
Hey Tiffany, I have a boyfriend since over two years and like in the first scenario, I was always questioning my love to him and also if he is the right guy. In the last months it got a little bit better, I think that I love him but I am still not sure if he is the right one for me. I am also criticising him all the time. He is a little bit passive and I was always thinking that I am more solid in my opinion if that gets better. And also, I had the same problem with two guys before, I didn’t even try to have a relationship with them. So what if it’s me, who has a problem with relationships and no one could ever be good enough? What if he is not the problem but I am breaking up and regret it?
SUCH a great question!! I think you should definitely check out this video I made - ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-ym2Cg3zRumE.html - I hope that can encourage you with this question! 🤗🤗
