3 Simple Ideas That Are Changing My Life 

"maybe I've been reflecting too much", he reflects

On my first date, I forgot my wallet and she threw up twice. That was 4.5 years ago and we got married this weekend!

To simplify my worst date: she came with her boyfriend.

I'm 56 years old, I really wish we'd had the internet and videas like this when I was about 20. It's great to see these topics thought about and discussed, not only thought provoking but also life affirming.

So you’re telling me the three simple ideas that are changing your life AREN’T tying your shoe laces, making a cup of coffee, and staring at a handful of paintbrushes???

1 People will remember how you made them feel 2 Stay in your lane 3 The most important relationship that you have in life is with yourself

my worst date: she turned into the moon.

The most powerful thought I've heard about reincarnation is: Imagine that each person you meet could have been your Mom in a past life. I've found that it dramatically changes how I treat others, how I view gender and roles, and how it generates compassion.

What changed my life: Taking walks! Nothing like a calm thirty minutes of being by yourself, reflecting on things that were, things that are and things that will be.

I feel like the way Nathaniel is smiling here is different, he looks happier compared to his other videos and it’s so nice to see 😊

Sometime I forget we are the same age!

that phrase from 0:53 is similar to a phrase my psychology teacher taught me "show me your friends and i'll show you your future" which basically means those around us have a heavy influence on us

“Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else's opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation.” ― Oscar Wilde

Number 4: watching Nathaniel Drew's videos

"I can only be open to other people to the extent to which I'm open to myself." Wow. Maybe I hadn't been open to myself all along... in the process of changing, Thank you! This hit me.

INTENT>CONTENT "without the intent the content is empty" This simple phrase opens a lot.

"I can only be as open to other people as I am to myself". Beautiful

1) tying your shoelace 2) drinking coffee 3) choosing a pencil At least according to the thumbnail.

Date anecdote: It was my boyfriend’s and I’s first date. Except we hadn’t officially called it date. So we go to a brewery and get a couple beers. I hadn’t eaten yet and I get very tipsy very quickly on an empty stomach. The date was going great so far. He was being a perfect gentleman. So we go to get food, and I’m just feeling the alcohol more and more. I never feel braver and more bold when I’ve had alcohol. At the particular restaurant we were at if you wanted a noodle bowl you have to go and pick out your toppings, and then give it to the line of chefs to make for you. I didn’t know that. So I drunkenly take my bowl of toppings back to the table with me- I also have no idea how much time has passed. My boyfriend was very patiently waiting (and as I would find out later) wondering why I had brought back the bowl of toppings. Apparently about 30 minutes had passed...and drunk me is sitting there wondering why I don’t have food yet. The waitress very kindly explained to me that I needed to bring my bowl up to the chefs... I had my “aha” moment. Followed by “gawd I’m such an idiot.” So we finally get our food. We’re having great back and forth banter and in my drunken bravery I blurt out “YOU DIDN’T EVEN HAVE THE GUTS TO CALL THIS A DATE!” He’s taken a back for a moment. Before he gets this big goofy grin on his face and goes “So this IS a date!”. I blurt back “OBVIOUSLY, we were talking about how nicely we would dress!”. So now almost 2 hours into our not official date it is officially a date. I finally sober up a bit and want ice cream before we go see our movie. I hadn’t kept an eye on the time and we only had a couple minutes before the movie starts. I’m thinking “Oh shit” So I deep throat my icecream in front of him, not thinking about how much of a dork I probably looking like shoving icecream down my throat. He just looked at me affectionately and went “That was kind of hot.” The movie was great, and we decided to end the night with a walk. He had wanted to take me to this park that he loved. He said there was a surprise. So we walk out to this very lovely park with a pond. He gets really quiet for a moment and goes..well this was supposed to be more special. Apparently the pond was usually lit up with lights and fountains, and he had wanted to show me that. But they weren’t tonight. He sheepishly tried to brush it off and went “This never happened. Just pretend there were lights and everything was perfect.” I say back “I think its very sweet- even there weren’t lights.” He goes “I have no idea what you’re talking about, there were totally lights and fountains and everything was perfect.” To me everything was. It was great night, and I liked him so much more because I was awkward and a bit of an airhead- and he NEVER made me feel uncomfortable about it. I felt comfortable being myself around him- and what shocked me he ACTUALLY liked myself. Morale of the story is go out with someone who makes you can be yourself around and loves you for it. No matter how big of a dope you are. I loved our first date. It was imperfect and awkward. We were accepting of each others quirks, and love the fact that we’re both kind of weird. Its probably why still over a year a later we’re still together.

"When someone shows you who they really are, believe them." -my mom

I’ve watched only 2 min of the video but I want to say already: Your smile is gorgeous! I’m so happy to see ya happy! Thank you for sharing your inner light, Nathaniel ✨

i love how he used the word “changing” instead of “changed.” like he’s currently evolving, he’s learning, and this isnt a one and done thing. i personally find myself comparing myself and idolizing self-help youtubers, forgetting that they’re trying everyday and they’ve not “reached enlightenment and perfectness” per se. they’re sharing knowledge, but not because they’re the epitome of it- but because it’s something they work on every single day. but they are pretty damn wise. -------------- NOTES: - “tell me who you spend time with, and i’ll tell you who you are” 1) “people will forget what you said. people will forget when you did. but people will never forget how you made them feel.” - “without intent, content is empty” 2) stay in your lane - it’s a massive waste of time to try to change others (and it’s not your job) - unless someone is asking for it, my time and energy is best invested in myself - the most influential people focus entirely on putting out an amazing example, not trying to change others - less tension when you stop telling people how to live their life 3) the most important relationship in your life is the one you have with yourself - “i can only be open to other people to the extent to which i am open to myself” - “i am less destructive and capable of greater generosity when i feel solid- when i take care of myself”

"People will remember how you made them feel"---this is something I often forget. I focus too much on what I think is best for the relationship in the future, and forget to consider how it makes the other person feel (in the present). Instead of Influencer, I'd say you're a Sharer. Keep sharing your insights! And thank you!

“You must be the change you wish to see in the world.” - Gandhi.

“When people don't express themselves, they die one piece at a time.” ― Laurie Halse Anderson

“Learn the rules like a pro, so you can break them like an artist.” ― Pablo Picasso

What changed my life: *Meditating and doing Yoga twice a day *The only thing that is real is Consciousness, the rest is an illusion *We are all ABLE to respond to everything. *If you do not do what you cannot do, that’s no problem. But if you do not do what you can do, you are a tragedy. *I am not my body nor my mind. I am beyond that. Thank you for inspiring people. Keep it up :)

I’m glad there is someone else out there who finds life as confusing as I do, I love these lessons

Awkward date anecdote: So when I fifteen or so I went on a date with my friend's cousin. We had been texting for a while and were going to see a movie. Coincidentally it had just been my birthday. So this nice guy had brought me a card with red roses on it and a little message. I was a bit spaced out and it took me far too long to read the card, so I kind of never finished reading it? I don't know how that happened... i was mostly worrying about talking too much time reading it, which is ridiculous, but as a fifteen year old I was having these thoughts, lovely. So we get our tickets a stand in line for snacks. I never really take snacks when going to the cinema. But this guy was asking whether I wanted this or that. I said no to all of it. So we watch the movie and have some very uncomfortable not very stimulating conversations. Afterwards, we walk back to where he has to take the bus. And again, I point to an ice cream shop, he asks me whether I would like an ice cream. And I am there thinking: do I really sound like I am fishing for food? So... the date was uncomfortable, but I have seldom felt more uncomfortable as when I actually read the whole birthday card he gave me when I came home. "Happy birth day! As a present I would like to buy you 1 or more snacks!" *face palm* so lesson learned: don't think so much about what other people are thinking, it will interfere with who you are. You cannot live your life depending on what you THINK they expect or want. I am now dating another friend's cousin. so all good. ;) (really sound like I am fishing for cousin's)

Petition to bring back " whats up my dudes" into the video

"Trying to change, or save people, is a waste of time." Me, a social worker, trying to change or save people for the best, got denied.

Agree with the third point. At the age of 23 I'm yet to have a relationship, purely because I don't think I can truly love somebody until I love myself. It's been a long path, but I'm definitely getting there. Largely due to self-consciousness, I care too much about what people think of me. Hopefully, I'll get to a stage in my personal development and career that I'll feel comfortable meeting somebody. Everything happens for a reason I suppose.

Anyone else wondering if he got a girlfriend because he is smiling the whole time and this video is suprisingly about relationships?

One of the best pieces of advice I got was this question "When you look at a pregnant teenage girl, what are your thoughts?" For years, I would see this and instantly think the worst and most nasty things. *Oh how awful of her, how irresponsible* *That's shocking she's ruined her life* *I would never do that* etc... Like, I would project so much nasty and mean spirited energy but the truth is, I have no idea what that person has gone through, perhaps she was a victim and has made a choice to keep the baby, maybe she's having a baby for someone who can't have one, maybe she's from a very conservative family and she is living her best life- who knows? You have no idea what someone's story is... But, the point was that I was just spewing out negativity without realising, this really made me check myself and what energy I give off, now I'm a lot more positive and have changed my way of thinking

"I can only be open to people to the extent in which I am open to myself." -Nathaniel Drew

"Trying to change or save people is waste of time" wow!

things that are helping to ameliorate my daily walk: deactivating social media accts. reading daily. workouts, yoga/stretching. drinking water and tea. sitting in the present and keeping a positive perspective.

Something I’ve been doing recently is this: whenever there is something that I think that I should get done, I do said things immediately, right after I think about it. Sometimes I only just start and then take a break but that’s better than nothing. I’ve found that for me it’s about getting the ball rolling one step at a time. I used to worry so much about planning and making time for work and scheduling etc, now I’ve decided to let that go a bit and allow myself to be spontaneous with my life. It’s helped. I hope maybe this can inspire someone to try the same

Someone once said to me: "concentrate on your own path and inspire through change" this sentence helps me A LOT in not trying to change other people 😁

"dime con quien andas y te dire quien eres" is a phrase my mom brings up every now and again!! I have been a subscriber for I think a little over two years and it wasn't until recently that I decided to actively listen to what you share with us and feel like I need to implement these small pieces of experiences, knowledge into my own life - you are so humble in your work, thank you!

“We learn how to do math, right?” What we should learn as well... Psychology...learn to understand ourselves Sociology...learn to understand others Philosophy...learn a meaning for living

To anyone who reads this, I hope you find success in whatever you do next 🙌 Your content keeps inspiring me to continue with my RU-vid channel, thank you for all that you do Nathaniel 👏

What is changing my life right now: every time when I feel overwhelmed, or sad or not enough, I step away from all social media, YT videos, and Netflix, which used to be my go-to coping mechanism for sadness, to escape the real world. And instead I JUMP into the real world. When I feel like my friends don't care about me, I reach out to hang out. When I feel so overwhelmed my head hurts I go on a walk, sometimes I even walk to the next village over. And it's honestly changed my life in so many ways. Also, I totally agree that having a good relationship with yourself is the most important! When I liked myself far less, I had far fewer friendships, I was lonely and miserable. Learning to love myself has allowed me to live my life like I couldn't before. Thank you for videos like these!

I feel intellectually and spiritually connected with you, Nathaniel. Thank you for the great content! Keep it up!

The only person you could change is yourself. “Stay in your lane”,

When he said “I went out on a date with a girl” I literally screamed out “no!!” like it’s a sleepover and the res of us are hyping him up

Alan Watts, YES 👏🏼 We gotta get you on Eckhart Tolle, Noam Chomsky, Alain de Botton, and Gary Zukav next!

Nathan, you are literally mentioning all the things that I have just discovered during this time too. I feel like the universe is constantly giving us signs to pay attention to certain things, to not “lose focus”. Today I was losing it, and then your video came out, and now I am back on track. Thank you for that. Thank you for being such a lovely human being, and for being real, unique, kind, and full of desires to learn more about everything. Thank you for creating this amazing channel, and thank you for letting us all be part of your life. I’m thankful for you being in mine.

I don’t know why, but your presence and energy was so calming, different from your usual vids👌🏻

What is changing my life: trying to meditate every morning, taking cold showers, and the most important thing, learning how to listen. And listen to others to understand them, not to reply. Great vid

I am at a point of my life where I question everything including the reason behind my existence. I found your video during the process of listening to others opinion. I was so astonished to find so many similarities in our thinking. I am glad that I came across your channel. Keep posting more 😊😊😊

I have seen a couple of your videos now and absolutely love your channel. What fascinates me is that a channel like this is all you. RU-vid gets knocked alot these days but the way it has opened up the world to so many more voices is wonderful. Without this service, a man, just with a camera and a backpack, who talks honestly about his experiences , may have gone by totally un noticed. The messages and philosophical tones to your journey are what draws me in. And the techne in the presentation of your life through editing and video is true art. Keep it up. Certainly making Lockdown for me much more interesting.

Here are the 3 Simple Ideas, 1》People will remember how you made them feel 2》Stay in your Lane (Do not focus on changing others Nature/Behavior infect put that time to build yourself) 3》The most IMP relationship that you have in Life is with yourself.

I’ve always said “don’t stress about the things you cannot change. If you can change them then do so” 😁

"Tell me who you spend time with and I'll tell you who you are" Guess I'm nobody 😅

Hey! A newbie to your channel and I am absolutely inspired by your down to earth, well-read, articulate and mindful way of communicating your thoughts and ideas. Your work has such a refreshing pace to engage with, and I often find myself reaching for my notebook - rewinding, pausing, and making a note. Thank you for the amazing work that you do, and thank you for being a pen and paper, poet, painter soul - and somehow merging that with truly brilliant video procuction style. As to this particular piece, I was reminded of a quote in Shantaram (an incredible book!) : "Fate gives us three teachers, three friends, three enemies, and three great loves in our lives. But these twelve are always disguised, and we can never know which one is which until we've loved them, left them, or fought them."

I actually relate to you so much about not being as open to relationships. It’s now that I’ve begun to love myself more deeply, that I’m allowing myself to love others fully. Thanks Nathan ❤️

We have the same saying in Portugal. “Diz-me com quem andas e dir-te-ei quem és”

I just wanted to thank you. Every time i feel lost in life or generally unhappy or even depressed i come back to your channel and get a huge amount of happiness calmness and self love. Your channel is therapeutic and it really lets me realize how most of what I’m feeling is amplified in my brain and that problems are not as significant as i feel like they are.

You've made my day, and I feel so grateful to found you because what we see and where we focus our attention is so important and relevant in our day today and in our lives tomorrow. Thanks for being real, transparent, pure... I feel everything you've said and what you didn't- Love from Spain!

You smile so much. so childlike, innocent and effortless and that is what I love the most. Its precious!

" I can only be open to people to the extent to which I'm open to myself" I find that's true for some, but for me it's the furthest thing from truth and this puzzles me a lot. I do A LOT of self reflection and I have been journaling for three years writing down and analyzing every single one of my emotions and yet I find it extremely hard to let people see my inner, most profound self. I find it so hard that I can say no one truly knows me, and it's all my fault, but at the same time it feels like there's a glass wall that lets me observe and appreciate other people from a distance without being able to truly open up. What you do on your channel, the way you talk about your thoughts and how you feel, I think it's extremely brave. Thanks

I have been improving my relationship with myself throughout the quarantine and even after it and realized that I am much happier that way.

My Argentinian self: - ¡Che, dijo una frase Argentina! [Pays more attention in Argentinian]

"Dime con quién andas y te diré quien eres" Ah, i never tought i would hear that in this video 💙

Love the vid - detached from reality or not!

"nothing is lost, everything transforms" i dont remeber where i read that or if it was written like that but it really changed my perspective

Oh, now that I've heard the whole video: I love Alan Watts too! And here's my relationship story: I'm trying to make more girlfriends around my city, because I am usually surrounded by male friends and acquaintances. One time I was walking around with my camera and I saw another girl with a camera. I planned a nice conversation in my head and when she got near enough I said "Hey, are you taking photos too?" She looked terrified. 🤦‍♀️ I tried to explain that I want to make friends and also take pictures, to which she looked around and started running in the easiest direction. That was super embarrassing, but by far not the only time this happened. It's very hard to stop people who are on a *mission* in their tracks and try to talk to them. Best success so far is meeting people in cafès, classes, or if they are sitting down. I'm not afraid to try again and again, though. We are just the same, it should be normal to speak to strangers on the street. 🤗

Not a long time ago I came across a conclusion that to transform a relationship, one person has to change. Whenever I come from this perspective, thinking that this person will be me (even though it can take a lot of energy!), I become more kind and stop projecting my expectiations on others. I simply try to enjoy them as they are. And yes, if you take care of yourself well, you have more to give to the world. 🌎

I’m highly spiritual and have had many of the same ah ha moments in the past two years, but having them concisely all laid out in video form.. this is LIFE ALTERING stuff. You are helping so many. Love to you and to anyone reading this, you would be doing yourself a great service to write down his main points and read them each day until they’re second nature. ❤️

"Dime con quien andas, y te diré quién eres" Yes, we use a lot that quote. I love your vlogs. You're pure inspiration! Hugs from Argentina.

A funny date gone wrong story: I was on a date with this French girl and she kept pointing at a bar that was supposedly right across the street. So, I just kept looking back on my right side, trying to find the bar until I hit my face fully-on on a metal lamp post. I ended up spending that night in the ER doing CT scans of my brain and the funniest part is, she confused the streets and there was no bar in the first place.

It was very liberating for me to understand that the only person responsible for making me happy is myself. This lead me to removing all the toxicity from my life and it allowed me to alleviate pressure off of my own relationships (both romantic and platonic). It was life changing.

"Stay in your lane" How many times I have to remind myself that in a day ... and it's STILL not enough... thank you for reminding me again, this is pure gold ! Nathaniel Drew

very well-spoken as usual, I've also loved the way this video was paced!! the light-hearted energy and attitude definitely grounded me more as I watched

"By changing nothing, nothing changes"

The most memorable date ever was with a girl at a Rollingstones’ concert. She liked this other guy that was supposed to show up but didn’t. So I would have been a third wheel. He didn’t show so it was just she and myself. I was nervous. “ I wonder what happened to Brandon?”, she asked. Heck I didn’t care because she caught me eye in that 3rd wheel string of pearls triangle. The concert started and we sang without the other guy there. She was bummed. But I was cheesing inside because I got to accidentally go on a date with someone I adored. It rained that evening at the Voodoo concert at Texas Stadium. I mean, it poured that evening at the Voodoo concert at Texas Stadium. And I had bought and wore a brown suede jacket. But I was happy! And to top it off, we held hands throughout some of the songs and during the walk back to our cars. Odd night. Fun night. And bittersweet because she talked about him not showing which returned me back to reality. That was almost 30 ago.

All these three points are true and I resonate with third one deeply because of this sentence you mentioned "I'm less destructive and capable of greater when I feel solid and take care of myself." This video has been in my watch later for almost a month and I'm glad I watched it at least now, I need to absorb it. Things that made me feel more at peace are: Meditating Staring at nothing and thinking of nothing, just take in the nature.

´"No words just feelings" that's how I feel when I meet the right person. And when I see your videos! You have got that confidence and "free rein" when you speak to the camera that grabs our attention!

Okay so to start this date anecdote I must say, I wasn’t supposed to be going on a date. It was freshman year in high school ( I am now a freshman in college) and I had asked one of my guy friends if he wanted to go to the movies. He said yes, we both got dropped off by our parents, he arrived before me and he did something that I never expected. He paid for our tickets! It was so sweet to at the time and even now I think about it because it never happed to me before even on planned dates and I was so taken back by it I really didn’t know how to act on the rest of the “date”. This turned into a make out during the last half of the movies and to this day I still haven’t seen the end of Passengers.

The thing about lesson number two is also to recognize why you are so adamant about changing someone. I still fall into the trap of trying to change my family to little or to no avail. It's a let down every time and I'm left feeling misunderstood and frustrated. Then when I remember to take a step back, I realize I don't necessarily want to change them for their own benefit, but to create a space for myself to fit into better, to be heard better. "It's what worked for me, it has to work for them." - but people are different and maybe they will come to those same conclusions you were advocating for and when that happens you'll be happy to help them out. And maybe they never will and that has to be okay (except if they are being truly hurtful, then of course find a way to explain to them why it is hurtful and why it's better to stop). There are other people that will see me and hear me and that I will hear and see much better myself and it's energy better spent showing gratitude for those people rather than trying to change someone who won't budge.

This was a video everything that I needed right now. I love ALL of your videos, AND I do like the mix of more grounded personal stories and philosophical. Thank you for this video!

This style of video was a lot more grounded and closer 2 reality for most of us I guess. I love the deep philosophical type of videos where u go out and show all the beauty of the world in your personal style (which is gorgeous to experience btw). For me personally. Every evening I write down the beautiful things of the day. It varies between 2-5 beautiful things most of the time. And the Concentrated shots you used in your videos were so carefully chosen. Like the "stay in your lane" one with the forest in the background and this one clear street with a turn in the unknown. This density has a lot more power and less chance of overwhelming me personally. Enjoy exploring Nath and thank you for being 🌟

The way you tell stories !! Is just mind blowing. When are you writing your first book ?

Imagine being able to spend a whole day with him, and just talking bout random stuff, how life-changing that would be...

His little giggle is so adorable. Love your content Nath. Keep creating. Stay observant, stay blissful.

When you said “It is a waste of time to try and change other people” that really relates to me now. I’ve been trying to learn this the last few years incorporating where to pick my “fights” as in is this something I can fix with my time and tools I’ve got, if not my time is better spent else where.

Hey Nathaniel. Your videos deserve the special playlist I store them in: 'Life Improvement'. Thanks for everything.

What I love about this video: - "Flower" in the background - your ideas - the visuals and editing - the little anecdote I am in film production and your videos inspire me to where I want to go, and your ideas really help me (curiosity etc) Thanks 💖 Lots of love from germany 💖💖

Im so happy I discovered your channel!!! Thank you for your videos...loving them! They are helping me a lot

no man your friend, no man your enemy, every man your teacher. This is a quote that I carry with myself as i navigate relationships. Thank You love your words and truth!

Dating anecdote because you asked for it: We were supposed to watch “Me Before You” but I was running late and based on my ETA, the movie that was to be screened close to my ETA was “Finding Dory”. It was embarrassing at first but we watched Finding Dory and then watched the last full show for Me Before You on that same day. Oh I guess it didn’t go so bad. But thanks for sharing your story and the three gems you’ve also just shared :)

💪Loving how your energy is communicating across the screen. Hoping to up my game to become more like this!

LOVE this!! Whenever I'm stressed, I turn to these videos. You give such a great perspective on the bigger picture and getting out of your head.

your warm presence is felt through the screen and thats something quite rare. your happiness is infectious ❤️ you’re worthy of all the good that is happening to you right now and in the future

the message was simple and clear, it´s what I needed to hear at this moment.

A date gone wrong. I was invited for supper with his group of friends. He had cooked. At the end of the meal I started choking and ended up throwing up 😂 thank you, next 😂

I’m actually just mesmerized by the amazing “broll” or stock footage throughout this video. Honestly a good lesson for myself, trying to imagine this video with no footage other than just Nathaniel addressing the camera only.

youre killing it, I'm happy to see someone who is super authentic and really creates both a beautiful video with beautiful thoughts to back it up.

You can't change other people just as other people can't change you. Lasting change comes from within, based on a strong determination. Other people can't create that. They can inspire you and teach you, though.