Listen to the podcast version on the go: goo.gl/J3wcxc - Good Life Project® founder, Jonathan Fields, shares the 3 things he'd say to his 20-something self. Learn more about Good Life Project at www.goodlifeproject.com
StayEarthly find yourself stay out of relationships , Now isn't the time for commitment a thousand heartbreaks takes a toll and most fall so early because it's the first time we experience love but it's a scary thing no one admits
zeboogieburitto I think that's wrong you gotta gice a chance to love, I mean if not to feel loved and love others why would even be worried, People just need to realise that the end of a relationship means nothing in the long spectrum of life in my prespective, don't be afraid to love, and dont try to get things like make people yours, love's about admiration not possesion, sorry about some wrongs words as you see english is not my native language
I am 34 now and I am so happy that during my 20s I went and try so many different things to figure myself out. I went through 20+ different jobs and different school programs. I was afraid many time, but I am so glad I did it anyways to find out who I am really are.
I'm 22 I constantly watch videos on self improvement. And the one thing I've learned is that we always think we know until we look back, and we think we know now. Everyone should strive to constantly become a better person and everyone has an ego so if you don't keep that in check yull never change no matter your age. That's what drowns people my age at the moment the inability to find self awareness over social awareness. A step into the mind of a 22 year old.
I still am *a 20-something* and the biggest realization that became the key to everything for me is the importance of Empathy.. Whether in Design, your relationships with others, Politics, Sales, etc...
I struggle with this daily. I am just about to hit 30 and I feel like I regret my education and paths I take. Mainly due to job losses and just not KNOWING what I want to do.
KaL Rynzler I agree. I am more ambitious than most of my classmates, but I wondered why are they happier than me? But when you are someone who dreams of MORE than the average, it is MORE DIFFICULT to figure out "who you are" with the same certainty as those who are less ambitious.
Bollog Nyessy you right, I live in a 3rd world country (South africa) & i don't know if I should take a selfie on my iphone to display how poor i am.... I should sell my macbook so I can have cash to buy food.Or fuck it, uninstall my wifi router so I can't have access to youtube...maybe drop outta college, cancel all my dinner plans...then...then, I'll be a true "third world country" barbaric citizen.....and go join the army...LOL Don't be ignorant...life is a common woop ass wherever you are.
I just turned 20.. I plan on continuing my education, increasing my knowledge and bettering my self physically, mentally and emotionally.. until then I'm not focused on a relationship, friends, going out to parties, going to the beach nothing that doesn't benefit me... some people might think I'm wasting my young adulthood, but I'd rather eat alone than break bread with snakes.. not doing this for money or success but exactly like this man said "self knowledge and self mastery"
@@twentytwo138 I’m 24 now .. although I have bettered myself in every aspect I mentioned , the one thing I do regret is not having a solid group of friends that I can go out with and enjoy life .. I do not wish a life of solitude and loneliness upon anyone , even my worst enemies.. but like I said , I’d rather eat alone than break bread with snakes ..
I mean there’s still time tho…. Join clubs like recreational clubs for your City(where you live). Go out to day events or fairs maybe even conventions. I would say night life might be where you can find more of those “snakes” you talk about. Not sure hit me back that’s really cool you still replied to this post FOUR YEARS LATER!!!??!!??
Great video, Jonathan! But I would add a consistent call to action. I think many 20-somethings spend their time having fun and doing things they enjoy rather than doing the hard work of taking action in different directions and constantly readjusting their focus. So I would adjust your "don't focus" idea to "strategically change your focus to discover the answer to these questions." Because many of us wait until "we know" to take action, but waiting won't tell you anything. Only by taking action will you discover what lessons can be learned from that experience.
but if u dont do things you enjoy how are you supposed to find what u want to do? i found out what i wanted after i had already studied 3 years and decided i needed a sabbatical year lol thats just my experience tho but i dont know if i would've come up with what im doing now if i didnt stop what i was doing then.
As you say, better late than never! It took a disaster in my middle-aged life to prod me into understanding myself. I hope that all the youngsters watching this make good use of it.
Wow!! Have you ever been in the right place at the right time. I took a pen and a notebook and started writing down all the points you said and trust me I immediately got a vision of who I am, what matters to me and what am capable of doing. This was very eye opening and am excited for all the people who got to see this. Cheers
I"m in my 40's and have suffered from c-ptsd all my life and haven't achieved much. I would say do more things don't fear as much relax have fun, love myself and have more tenacity and spontaneous like you were when you were 11. Travel more. Don't go to Uni but go to night classes and do many different kinds of classes explore who you are. Don't fear rejection. Be kind to yourself you have had 20 years of trauma you deserve to love yourself and be loved. Search for the right therapist take your time to find one that actually helps you one more creative and nice and guide you to heal. Be more of a Yes Man! Do things you enjoy. Go into Nature more :-)
this puts my mind at ease a bit because im turning 22 tomorrow and i am worried that by the time i find my place in the world that ill already be behind other people in my field. i explore a lot of different interests so i definitely think 17-27 is a time where you just need to explore and find yourself. dont get into something you dont enjoy just because of money because you will lose the time in your life when you have the most freedom to change
I loved this video. The approach and content was so different from other Good Life Project videos. It's such a valuable and meaningful share with the world. Deeply appreciated the honesty and such personal share of your own experiences. Loved this Jonathan. Thank you!
I am grateful to have lived all of my 20s during a time when there was no such thing as a smart phone or personal computer. Night and day, man...and grateful.
I'm 27 and the only thing that stops me from feeling good about my life is constant comparing to other people. Fuck that, man. There are no rules on how to live a life. We grow and we learn and no one actually knows what's the best. Never judge yourself or be hard on yourself, just follow your heart and be confident. You can do anything. :)
I appreciate the insights. I'm 29, feel like I have learned a lot about myself, what I like and what i'm capable of being good at. But because of my time traveling/thinking/reading/figuring these things out, I have holes in my resume, minimal work experience and am overlooked and under qualified for the things I would like to pursue
what i can get from this videos is we have to experience things as much as possible and taste every chance that you can get, otherwise in later life you can completely determine who you are as a person and find your true authentic self from those experiences and skills you gained from.
I think also, as well as learning about yourself, what you're good at, what you enjoy doing is also to develop yourself, get better at what you enjoy, improve on your strengths and weaknesses, so that by the time you're in your late 20s not only are you fully aware of your character but you have developed your character to be the best version of yourself you can achieve.
Im 26, I think this is a great video and I can see the "win=win" in his advice. I have actually experienced some of this myself. I can't wait implement his advice even better. Thanks
Fantastic video thank you. I've spend so long bouncing from corporate jobs and only now - in my late twenties, am asking myself truly what I want to do.
*2:06* *1. who am i(?).* *2. what matters to me(?).* *3. what am i good at, or capable of getting good at(?).* i still don't know at 50 yrs old, i just go with the flow, unconsciously guided frm the spirit world (just recently have understood that through life), every since i was little, and i have the best helper frm the spirit world, i feel so being taking cared of/guided, for sure!!!, i'm so lucky at that!!!, i'm so tankful!!! :(, i couldn't do with out the helper!. everything that has happening to me has been good, even though some so called "bad" outcome - the helper led me to good things, and still does!. i wish the same for you!...
don't get too spiritual. - I am also aware of something we humans can't understand but you shouldn't preach about it. 'ground' yourself a little more. - because otherwise your mind will develop too extreme into thinking 'guidance from the spiritual world' will solve everything for you (when time simply passes and you accomplish nothing) - because it's a mix. Let's try to express it in your words: Go with the flow from your Guides a.k.a. Angels - stay lucky - BUT DONT DEPEND ON IT.
I love his advice on not focusing on one thing in your 20s and and exploring differing things to see what you want to do in your 30s and 40s and 50s. I'm currently in my late 20s and spent so much time focusing on one thing that I don't really care for nor am good it. Now I'm pursuing what I really want to do and applying to Law Schools! I wish I could say that to my 16 year old self.
Damn I just turned 40, and use to love what I do, "wish I'm very good at". But I'm just learning who I am, and what I want out of life. It all started coming clear to me after I started having My Grand children.
I started doing youtube videos as part of my journey. I seem to have everything mapped out but really im still just a wanderer. Thank you Jonathan for assuring me that its okay to be wanderer and do different thing. Your videos are so motivating. Xx
It depends on your goal/how you feel about said goal(s). If you're sure of what you want to do and truly enjoy it, then it's good to focus on that solely, if not then keep your mind open.
I'm 25, is it okay to feel that you're a person who follows directions. I feel like this is me. I'm good at following rules, but some people keep saying that is not a good thing, and I really really feel that this is me.
There's nothing wrong with that. Not all people are born to be a manager or a boss . Its just how the universe work. Its a good signs that you had an idea in what career you want
As long as you can find the right places to break the rules. Following them is good, but being too obedient costs you a little bit of yourself. Breaking rules strategically can help keep you autonomous and could even be beneficial if done correctly, which is ideal of course.
I'm 30 now and I still feel like I'm a 25-year-old guy. Though I think younger than my age (for me), I can't deny the fact that I'm getting older and I can't stop it. As for me, I think I really need to change my thinking now. I must accept the current situation -- the reality. I think I need to or must delete all the things that are not necessary in my life, so that I can really do what I want in my life. I'm just wasting my time in social media and the irresponsible usage of the internet. What I need is my firm decision to change myself into a better version of mine. I will start now. It is still not yet too late to act now. I hope I could win this battle of mine 'coz my enemy is my own self. I have to fight! May God bless me on my way to a long journey of mine... Kudos to the video!
Ahhhh, in all honesty I wouldn't tell myself anything different. I lived the dream, went to Australia. Created sculptures. Met god. Survived two near death experiences. Saw a whale. Met hundreds of awesome people. Just be confident in who you are.
I turned 20 last month and have already been asking myself forms of these questions. It's been an interesting challenge "finding myself" and enjoying things while focusing on skill development and time management and the weird balance of the two. Welp, hope I don't ed up regretting my entire life!
I' m 24 and haven't been to uni yet. Mainly because I have so many interests which I would be happy doing for a career. I'm a trapeze artist . I love that I love teaching , I love folklore I've been studying Russian for 7 years. I could go on to study any of these and I'd be happy , but excluding one would probably make me feel like I'm not doing what so want.I constantly flit between wanting to be an architect and wanting to be a slt. And I am no where NEAR choosing . I suppose because what I am interested in is EVERYTHING. Learning for learning sake. I'm 25 next year and I definitely feel a big pressure. One thing I will say is that I have a lot of ambition but extremely inconfident academically speaking , even though so have many academic interests. Most of my teens was spent being housebound (which is why I haven't been to college yet). Urgh and I just don't know how to fix this predicament:(
I disagree with this man, because I also focused on exploring my options to find myself... but the thing is, I had already developed some really good talents in high-school and before that, so continuing in those would have made more sense... in retrospect. Not being focused only costs a whole bunch of time and money, but only my parents warned me of this. Everybody else gave the same hippie advice, and it got me absolutely nowhere!!! So here's 3 things I'd tell my 20-something self: 1. A as a young and impressionable mind; beware of so called guru's/mentors and friends... only your parents give a shit about you, so only listen to them! 2. Above anything else, focus on making money and avoid debts at all costs! All those parties are a hollow shell... 3. Don't force anything; if it's for you it will flow... and sometimes it will flow after you let it rest and ponder the proper approach for a while... but stay focused on the things you're good at!
LL949 I think he means you shouldn't wait until you're 20 to start asking questioning about who you are. You're not to young at 18 and not 19 or even 17 to start questioning world.
1.Mentors should be someone that are 10+ years ahead of who/what you want to be/accomplish. They'll give you insight into what they know,there's a reason that most of the top billionaires and even millionaires have mentors. And in fact, you should actually avoid listening to your parents advice on money or career unless they're highly successful in what it is that they do but if they're just average or even poor,why would you take their advice? they don't know anything about being successful,they're apart of the masses and if you listen/do what the masses do,you will become like them. Your parents aren't trying to give you bad advice,it's just that they don't know what they don't know. The best and most convincing lie is a lie you tell yourself first. 2.Why chase the money? Again,don't be like the masses. If you don't want to be like the masses,then avoid doing what they do. Examples: Go to a fast food place every week.Watch TV like 24/7. Netflix all day.Etc etc etc but the #1 is,"focus on making money". While money is good,it should not be what you go after. I don't want to write paragraph after paragraph on this but just do what success ppl do/have done. Don't be like the masses
No Justin, it's just until you are completely financially and emotionally independent should you be careful with who you allow to influence you... There are many covert predators out there looking for strong & agile young slaves to use and abuse! Your parents are less likely to lie to you and take advantage of you!
@@LL949 Lets not forget about considering anyone who went through domestic/family abuse... that's when you choose your own teacher who knows after you carefully do your research. If your parents are truly successful and supportive, then it's a given
Am 25 and I work at a big tech company which was supposedly my dream and spent all my life working hard to be there. But after achieving the fete, something still inside feels empty which came as a shock!
OK to summerize: Rather then focusing on only one particular thing to devote mastering and succeeding at - don't focus! Instead, do a number of different things that most interest you and run a series of experiments specifically to figure out these three questions about yourself: 1) Who am I? 2) What is important to me? 3) What am I good at, or what can I be good at?
I'm 20. Last year I was studying Marketing and loved it but had to drop out because of how much I struggled with the Maths side to it. Then I changed to English Literature but had to drop out because of an eyesight problem where I constantly see shadows- I now have to decide whether to have life changing surgery which could potentially make me go blind or could cure the shadows I see which are so frustrating that I don't want to go outside. It's so hard because I look around and see healthy people who aren't shit at Maths- if I was to have two wishes it would to have healthy eyesight and be decent at maths. A month ago today I was in a doctors surgery asking for a doctor as I was suicidal, that day I was on my phone looking at ways to kill myself, telling my family over the phone that I didn't want to live anymore. Now I'm sat at home, depressed wondering what the fuck is gunna happen with my life. My Dad is a successful lawyer, my older brother has graduated and is in a good job and my younger brother is about to go to University. I feel like such a failure and don't want to be 'that guy''. I'm scared I'm going to have complications from surgery, then will be stuck at home with no job and be your classic son who still hasn't moved out. However, that will not happen as I would rather be dead than simply exist.
so then am not weird. coz am at a place where everyone thinks of money. I do too but am focusing on discovering myself and try different things. nobody gets me when I tell them I'm focusing on Me so am glad I saw this video. it boosted my self esteem a level higher
Great advice but i have a question. I totally agree that we have to spend the early years of our lives to explore ourselves and find experiences in order to see how those experiences can teach us more about ourselves. However, I imagine seeking varied experiences would require a person to go from job to job. My question is, is there a risk of future potential employers seeing yourself as a job hopper and would not want to employ due to your track record of constantly changing jobs and not being able to stay put at one company and focus on your career? Would they be hesitant to employ a person who seems to only want to experiment and will they be wary that their company would just be another "experiment" for this candidate which is not what they want as they want to invest in an employee who will serve them for the long term? I myself am interested in experimenting, but how do I get around this issue when I approach a job in order to try it out?
Do you think you can separate your work from those questions? Like having a job that lets you acquire for example money and prestige, and on the other side be living experiments outside of your work that help you figure out who you are/what matters to you? Let me know, i'm curious
Im 22 and graduating with a bachelors in math and teaching credential. I still feel lost as hell and now Im supposed to teach some high school kids about shit they dont give a crap about. Investing real estate with the capital i am now accruing so Im supposedly some whiz kid archetype but i feel lost as hell
@@salmasaad198 25. Ive got a bit of money saved and 4 months left for masters to be finished which im using to search for a higher paying job as a behaviorist. Pretty close to getting that home and im talking to real estate agents. Everything is starting to look gravy now that i've got all the "credentials" ill ever need. Now it is a game of sales and convincing people i dont respect much (my "superiors") to give me mo' money or more likely change my current jobsite for a new one.
@@CE-vd2px don't get a mortgage,.you will be even more lost Never borrow money. That's how people become slaves. If you already borrowed, then you need to launder it and go bankrupt. Just because 99% of people do something, doesn't make it right. If you want to be a slave, borrow but if you want freedom, wait until you can afford (invest instead of borrowing).
@@moef.5326 the plan is to get renters. I dedicate a few minutes each day to improving credit, finding properties or looking at how the market is going. Right now the supply is low. I would rather get a loan for real estate because i can get returns off of borrowed money plus if all goes bad with renting I still have a house at the end of the day, even if i must replace all the carpet and fix holes in the wall. Thats worst case scenario though
Why do this in your 20's? Start at 15, that's when I start anyway. Now 20 and I figured out what I want to do in life 2 years ago but it took 3 years to find it but I'm glad I start at 18 rather 23
