List starts at 0:39 1. Saying “yes” to things you know you can’t or don’t wanna do. 2. The decisions you make when you’re young won’t necessarily define who you are later on. 3. Be picky when choosing what kind of unpaid work you do. 4. Be nice to your parents. 5. Negotiate your salary. 6. Be smarter about how you buy your professional clothes for interviews. 7. Accept that some friendships fade. 8. Say “no” to certain jobs. 9. Put some thought into your living space. 10. Stop stressing out about keeping up on social media. 11. Take on more side projects. 12. Appreciate the time you spent with your college friends. (Similar to #7) 13. Remember that your identify is fluid and doesn’t define who you are.
"the truth is that a lot of friendships are contextual" 3 years since I gratuated high school and I'm still hurting about friendships that don't even exist anymore thanks for saying it the way you did
Boy, this was exactly what I needed. Always love the self-reflection and honesty of you two, but this took it to another level. Sincere thanks for making this one
I'm 25 and spent 6 years at university studying law, after working at a law firm for a year and decided it wasn't for me. But that was 7 months ago and I'm struggling to figure out what I want to do, I've just been volunteering for some charities. This video's helping me get out of that rut so thank you for making it. I think this applies to any university graduate
Zara Elias I feel you dude. When I was studying it, I was passionate about the field of work, but the actual workforce was a lot different than anticipated. Hang in there!
Goodluck! I am also in a bit of a rut as far as career and the "real world" goes.. I think the best is to try out new stuff and also just enjoy and take in every moment of life. I started to see it as a adventure to take on, rather than something to be scared of!
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i know this sounds stupid, but im almost 23, last september i graduated from university, i used to be the best in my class, i felt so good and through my years at uni and i also worked with big companies doing what i love ( im an ilustrator and animator). But..... 2 months ago i lost my job, and ive been feeling really useless and also been procrastinating and avoiding taking big steps. i havent found a job yet, ( literally, for stuff related to my career they say im over qualified or simply dont have "enough" experience, and for non related to my career jobs they say "what are you doing here?!")... so this video helped me a lot... i guess i just have to practice "adulting". Thank you. and sorry for my bad grammar, english is not my main language.
ValLovesBatmanAndTR yea. It is difficult. As she hinted in the video, we have to diversify your income sources. Especially if you are in the creative space. (which I am in as well). When management no longer likes your style. Or they run out of money we will be let go. So we gotta find ways to increase our value output and diversify your income sources.
I feel like that's the problem most uni grads face, they are overqualified in terms of degrees, but don't have enough outside experience. I suggest talking to different people in different industries, and learn about life.
just keep applying, the more you apply, the more chances you will have to get a job. don't even read the job description, read it when they will ask you for an interview. It helped me when I just graduated, I applied like 500-1000 jobs within a few months in a few big cities around. And finally I have got a job.
+bbb888 which is why you need to be well rounded, do not go for a master's if you do not have any expiernce in your field yet, in fact before you graduate with a bachelor's you should have expiernce in your field already. Experience in your field should be looked at as part of education.
1. Saying "Yea" when I know I can't follow through 2. Know the decision made in the past don't define me forever 3. Be pickier with unpaid work 4. Be less of a bitch to my parents 5. NEGOTIATE 6. Be smarter how I bought clothes (buy one pair of good work clothing) 7. Accept that not every friend will last 8.Saying no to certain jobs (taking shitty professional jobs instead of taking waitressing etc) 9. Put more thought into living space (clean your house u dirty shit) 10. Relax about the social media race (reduce the time you spend on social media) 11. Take on more side projects (learn new skills/make extra money on the side etc.) 12. Appreciate time I had with college friends 13. Remember that my identity is fluid (not to force label yourself) There I saved you about 10 minutes of social media, you're already making progress!
lol everything she said was obvious, chill famdog my swag doesnt have anything on you. YOLO, don't respond or imma have to fidget spin @ u. #squadgoals
One Thing I would LOVE if you guys could touch on, is how to properly reach out to people you admire for advice without seeming like a fan girl. I'm from a smaller town and I feel like the people I want to be surrounding myself with are only accessible via internet & social media.I dont want to just slide into people's DMs but I dont know how else to network. I know it isnt necessarily related to finances, but how did Lauren for example reach out to you when she was looking for freelance opportunities?
Agreed! The world of networking and mentorships seems so elusive and kind of intimidating. Sometimes it seems like everyone has "connections" that get them to where they are while I have no clue how to get started.
I turn 22 in exactly one month and graduate college in 3 days. I've been freaking out daily for months now and am incredibly grateful to have stumbled across your channel. Ideal timing.
I really like your video I just need to say one thing: A lot of people have toxic parents, and/or have suffered from mistreatment. For those like me, it's really a challenge to begin your career life, to make money, to socialize, to make choice for the future and to find ways to be independent when you had a violent family environment. I just want to say : don't listen to your parents. Cut the links with us, they are not helping, they want you dependent to have the control. But you're strong and you can do it, alone. You are capable, keep going, although it's difficult and take a lot of time, you're doing great, even if they are constantly putting you down. Love
As a high school student, this channel is blowing my mind. It's amazing! Everybody should watch these videos! They are so smart, in depth and I love that they explain things, which is super key. This channel really explains adulting in the best way possible.
I personally somewhat disagree with the comment stating 'just a job is not enough'. In the USA, there is a very unhealthy workaholic mentality. There is nothing wrong with working 40 hours per week, and then going hiking, or going to the movies, traveling, volunteering, or spending time with friendsthat is not solely adding to your ''professional career'. Now if our passion is learning languages and we want to do duolingo on the way to work - cool, or if we are interested in doing professional work on the side, also awesome. But if we are doing these things solely because we want to 'advance our professional career' or 'earn extra money', then I think we are missing out on living a life full of memorable experiences that help make us better people overall. Otherwise, I feel like these are very useful opinions!
I agree, there are lots of things that you can do " for free" that are fun. Like going to a pic nic in a park, going for walks, movie night at home with friends, etc. You don't really need money for these things.
Wait... how many hours per week you work in the USA then? 40 hours per week sounds like full time - or actually it is a bit more than a normal full time job here in Finland.
I'm 26 and I wish I saw this at 22. Those first couple post-grad years can be rough for a lot of the reasons you talked about. Very good advice for people entering the 'real world'
I am 22, turning 23 on Tuesday and I am exactly in the situation you're describing. I graduated last year and started my first job at the beginning of 2017 and I am in the process of adjusting to my new life. (I actually moved in in my new appartement in Paris yesterday ^^) I am so glad I stumbled across this video. Than you.
I LOVE this! I'm 24 but I feel like I'm facing a road block... I'm a college senior finally (after a year and a half out of school) and honestly I feel so bombarded by life. I don't know what or who I want to be, but I feel time is just flying by. Everyone tells me "you're still so young you'll figure it out" but its so much pressure especially considering most my friends graduated two years ago or are graduating this year. I'll have my bachelors at 25 and it makes me so sad. I don't know which way is up or which way is down, or if I'm too old to be so confused. This video was so helpful and needed I literally stumbled across it but I'm a fan!
Unpaid work is really not an ethics debate, it's a rights violation of young people, fair pay for work done is a human right. Luckily things are slowly starting to change, but we should all be more active in demanding for our rights.
@@sirajdanish3690 I look at it as free college. So long as there's some real experience and I'm not being someone's slave as a disguise of real opportunity, I see it as a win all around.
Hi Chelsea! First of all, thank you so much for sharing these 13 things, really! All 13 of them resonated with me greatly as I was hearing you talk about them, especially the last few on spending less time on social media, and cherish the remainder of my college time with my college friends. I'm 22, I'm about to graduate in three months and the self-inflicted pressure rings so true to me and how I am feeling right now on a daily basis for the past few months. One moment I feel fine about it, the next moment my anxiety creeps in and I feel like utter crap. To be honest, every single one of the 13 things are things that I am subconsciously aware of, but still I tend to put myself down and feel inferior by comparing my situation to my extended circle - comparison is the thief of joy, right. So, thank you for voicing out what I am trying to process and work my way through (as I am sure there are many others out there, including my friends, feeling the same way) and tell myself to take things step by step, cherish the moments and try to embrace our transition to "the real world". I've actually paused the video to write down on paper all the 13 things to tell myself it'll be okay, and hopefully a few years later I can look back on this period and know I have improved myself for the better. Thank you again! xxx
Turned 28 last month and still learning some of these lessons. It's never too late (or too early) to start developing good self-care habits. Don't neglect your own well being as you work to build a career.
I have dysfunctional family. Weigh if your parents genuinely want the best for you or if they are narcissist, before you listen to them for advice. Esp now that you're an adult.
I'm 22 and went to a trade school and that last point you made about trying to define yourself by what you do resonates within me right now. I love every point you made because they are so true. Thank you!
I turned 23 today and at times I also feel lost or that I haven't accomplished much. I consider myself a calm person in general but these days I feel really anxious about my future, it has even given me insomnia for some reason. I think it is a sign that I should embrace the change and push myself harder. I had problems finding a job in my hometown but I am doing my best right now to start my own company.
The second point you made really related to me the most. It's so stressful feeling like I need to know EXACTLY what I'm supposed to do right now! To your point about doing what you studied in college, it's hard to go away from your major if you paid lots of money to get it. Maybe that's why some feel as though they NEED to get a job in their field of study. Anyways, thank you for the tips and pointers! I will take them to heart, and I hope others do too!
Shit I wish I had known this at 22... I'm 24... Still lost in life. Don't know what I'm doing with life or work... I don't want to be settling down for a job that I don't love but just stuck not knowing what to do to get to where I want to be.. FML
As a 2021 college grad, hearing about taking time with your college friends stings (although it’s very good advice!) because I didn’t get the option. We were scattered by the pandemic and despite some of us being able to reconvene for our graduation ceremony, it was more strange than wonderful. That being said, this is a good reminder as I am about to move to a new city across the country and try out a first job in what may turn out to be my career!
Thank you very much for this! I am so addicted to this channel because you are not intimidating and are very knowledgeable in this field. I hope you get more success in life and keep the videos coming!
First job was kinda what I studied. Ish. second job was- it was even my dream job, but lo and behold, I left 2 years later. Now I'm in my third job, and it's kinda what I studied. Ish. Your career really is an evolution! I like that you touched on friendships. I had an awesome best friend in college who I couldn't imagine life without. 6 years after graduation? Life happened.
Wow, fantastic video. I just failed my 2nd university attempt and was in a bad spot emotionally. I am still feeling like a failure, slightly, but this video really helped me lose some of this stress that i need to be succesfull. The social media point is so true. I look at my friends, where one of my besties is actually buying an apartment with his gf. I shouldnt compare myself to him by looking at his life on social media, it makes me feel much worse. 13 amazing points that are making me feel much better, thank you so much for this video.
I'm graduating in a week, and I'm just 20. This really helps me calm down my anxiety about my post-grad life a tad. I just realized i'm completely exhausted from my hurried education and all the pressure to act " grown up", to be expected to know who I want to be since the time I left school at age 15. I never had proper friends before and now that I do, its going to be much more difficult to see them in my professional life. Sometimes I don't know if I'm too childish or too incompetent when I am too scared about the future.
I saved this video 4 years ago when I was 18, I never thought by the time I was 22 I would be entering the workforce coming off a pandemic. Thanks so much for all of your help, I swear if it wasn't for this channel I wouldn't be the financially independent adult I am today.
This is soooo good! Wish I knew about this earlier! Most of these are soooo relatable. I am finding myself again, by attending university and giving myself a 2nd chance at doing things that I missed out when I did my first degree. Volunteering opportunities, Internships, making friends outside my degree and really developing my personal skills.
Thanks for this! I feel like people didn't warn us about the struggles of the early 20's. You offer some great advice! I am 25 now and I wish I had seen this when I graduated 4 years ago.
I deleted all my social media and it was honestly the best decision I ever made. More times I would do something and I would put it on social media to prove to everyone that I was 'living', now I do things for myself because it genuinely makes me happy, so happy that I don't feel the need to prove my happiness to others. For anyone who is feeling lost and overwhelmed by social media, deactivate for just 30 days, and you will see a massive difference, trust me.
I’m 28 and I’m just starting to figure “it” out, and I can say social media definitely can make you feel like crap if you’re my age and just starting to get your life together.
Any advice in the same vein for those of us who are a bit older? Like pushing 30? Or maybe who started late and never quite feel like they're in their proper real adult life? Enjoyed the video all the same!
I'm on the same boat as you in terms of age! I studied math in university and now I'm doing financial education business. I think everyone needs to understand money because the difference between rich and poor is how people think about money.
I'm 32 and I worked a bunch of different jobs, from retail cashier, weed dealer, restaurant, gaint X-Ray machine assembler, POS system(computer) assembler, bum, studied electrical engineering for 2 years. It was all a waste of time. Now I just sit on my butt and throw money/invest into stocks and do whatever I feel like with my free time. I also studied mechanics and know my way around cars. I'm the jack of all trades, but master of none, yet....10,000 hour rule says you become a master of a trade after practicing for 10,000 hours. I probably spent that much time playing texas holdem poker, oh yea I did that for a while too, but ended up losing, in the end the rake takes it all anyways, the house always wins. Man my life has been WEIRD. Who gives a damn what they tell you what you should be at a certain age, now they have a whole college course that rejects that notion and it's called ageism, like racism, lol. Course I felt uncomfortable in that class with a bunch of 18 year olds so I dropped it.
It's hard to give an advice on what you wished you've known when you were 30, if you're not even 30 yet. The idea is that you look back and realise things
17 graduating high school and working part time soon to be full time this video came at a perfect time for me and even though i feel like im fairly mature right now its nice to hear an experienced perspective that isnt my parents! Subscribed!
Wait. You just said we come out to the real world when we finish college. I recently started college and I thought this was the world because it's like literally breaking me in half 😧 I don't know if I'll survive the actual-real-world now 😫
Perla Marie Pena Don't worry, working life is nothing like college. College is much harder when it comes to the material you actually learn about. I graduated last year and I work in my field (finance) but in reality use about 5% of what I learned in school. The hard thing about work I found is actually that it is very vague. In school, you only had to do well and get your degree, you knew the steps to take, you had the syllabus and textbooks and profs, you had your gpa to tell you how you were doing-- it was very straightforward. In workplace, you have to set your own goals and figure out how to get there all by your lonsome and theres no gpa to tell u how you're progressing. You have to navigate and depend on professional relationships (or they can cost you your job!) and oh boy when you make mistakes, you dont lose points -- no you have to face real fucking consequences like losing your credibility or losing revenue. But the actual work you do intellectually.... thats easy imo.
MesRevesEnRose woah 😧 I was thinking about the same thing the other day. I'm majoring in early childhood education and I have all this really hard subjects like philosophy when all I will do is teach my students to circle numbers, words and colors. 😂 it's kinda crazy when you think about it! 🙈
Thank you so much for this, im near 23 and this is exactly what I should have been told a few years ago. Very well done both the video and the content of it. I really like how you think! Have a great day.
It was interesting to hear this experience from your point of view. I`m 20 now and i don`t know what will happen with my life. It is really important to limit the usage of social networks, they make jealous of the life, that is not real. The thing about parents is also soooo true. Parents never wish something bad for their kids and that`s why it is worth to listen to parents. From another side, it`s difficult to get some new experiences, because of social anxiety disorder. I need to work on my self confidence and intelligence.
As a 22 year old recent grad, I am so thankful for this video. Thank you for your advice! I already feel some of these "pressures" to get a job and race through life. This video makes me feel less alone in my struggles. I will def be taking your advice!
"It's professional time, bitch!" LOL this is me right now; good advice to wait until you figure out what's going on before splurging on a bunch of clothes you think will fit the job aesthetic. That "less than a month until your first day" stress vibe!
what you said about friendships made me feel better. In college, I never managed to be part of an entire "group" of friends except during my year abroad, and I always felt like I was missing out. Especially in the beginning, I was a very anxious, unconfident kid, and i found the entire experience lonely and depressing. I was with a bunch of pretty snobby kids in a highly competitive environnement where I felt judged all the time (looking back, it wasn't just an impression, but the more mature version of myself would have handled it differently). What I did do however is cultivate a handful of meaningful connections that still endure to this day, with people who know me well and appreciate me for who I am.
This was so helpful. Not gonna lie I was expecting some generic tips everyone already knows but at 22 I found this to be very insightful. It is reassuring to know that I'm not the only one stressing out about this stuff.
This video poped-up out of nowhere and I'm absurdly thankful that you made it and for youtube's algorythms. I'm even commenting, I don't comment, never.
I refuse to do unpaid work. I already have expiernce in the field I want to go in, I had experience before I went to college. I can deal with low pay for gaining expiernce however unpaid is unethical and I refuse to do it and frankly a 20-something year old can NOT afford to unpaid work, you should not have to rely on your parents when you're working, that's unacceptable and frankly if no one accepted it, unpaid work would not be a thing. That's why I refuse to do it, for myself but also to discourage employers to offer it for others.
Would like to add, you better believe I will have no problem finding a job, even a good paying job, I never do, finding a good job is many reliant on how hard you're looking, your qualifications and your recommendations. I'm only 20 and getting a job is easy so long as you've worked hard but have also been rounded, being well rounded is very, very important. SO this means working from a young age.
Oh god the number 2 is actually so relaxing to hear i'm about to cry bc for the first time in years i can finally fucking get over things and leave my fails in the past thank you!
This video was incredibly helpful. I'm turning 22 next month so there's a lot to think about. Not sure exactly how you would approach this, but I'm actually going to graduate school post undergrad and was wondering if there were any tips for that?
I went straight into grad school from undergrad and it was more of a learning curve than I anticipated! Even though it's still "school" it felt completely different. All of my peers were older than me and were returning to school mid-career. I spent the first semester feeling really isolated and out of sync with everyone, but I ended up feeling hugely advantaged from eventually building a network of experienced (in life, loans, careers, etc) friends. Good luck!
im 19 but i live alone since 18, work full time and go to college full time. sometimes it feels like its all happening too fast and I have to keep up. thank you for the words, they really helped.
I'm 22, just graduated last month and boy, has that race been hectic. I have days when I know what I want and days when i want to stay in bed forever. I was offered a really amazing internship at a company but soon realised that they were headed in a totally different direction and I just jumped at it because it was a job. Just sitting down for a couple of hours every day, giving myself a time out and thinking about what I want has really helped me. I've been reading a lot about SMART goals and MAP and watching videos like this, because really, if you went through it successfully and I learn a little from that, then I also have hope I'll make it.:) thank you.
Thank you for this video I just turned 21 and I'm the second semester of my junior year of college and I can truly say I needed this video, would you make a video about how to get the most out of career fairs please, and how how to get internships :)
am 25 now and i'm definitely getting you.... ditched facebook, working hard for the best future i can make for myself, humble to wise advice, i m a non-conformist about myself and not looking out just for an air conditioned cubicle!! i do appreciate that list you gave.
As someone who's been very independent from the age of 18 (now 21) - i thought this would be useless as it seems a lot of your stuff is focused on people who seem to have been sheltered and now are coming into the 'real' world. Although i do still believe that your content primarily does this (and i'm not saying it's a bad thing) - there were some great points here that even i haven't thought of. This video was a guddun, as it gave great advice on ways to focus on living my life rather than just surviving it.
I am so thankful now that I really stuck to my guns and refused to do an internship or work for free. I am an accountant now and I can honestly say it did not hinder my career at all. But I did work in management throughout college. I can also say that I surpassed many of my friends who did work for free for many years.
TAKE ON MORE SIDE PROJECTS is such a great piece of advice! Truly, you'll become more dependent on your current job if it's the only area you're developing in. Instead it's better to learn what else is out there, what you're good at, what you like. Funny that now what I'm doing is I'm just working at my only job! I love it a lot but I start to feel like I'm trapped or something at times and that I don't grow much. Thank you for the reminder.
Right now I am 21 watching this video.. I watched it last year when I was 20...I must say i have listened to her advice and it has worked most of the time
The headless woman thumbnail? That and how old I feel right now almost made me not click. I love the stuff about identity though. And the acknowledgment that that's not just a 22-year-old problem.
Genuinely, this is the advice I needed to get back up. 22 right now, and stumbling around, but now I feel more motivated and reflective about my choices and my future. Thank you so much.
she looks like she would give you a hug if you're feeling down or disappointed or want to give up your life, she looks like she would be the person who would be there. Thanks for all the great advice! I'm just recently graduated, just turn to 22 like 5 days ago and literally don't know what to with my life right now. I am glad that i just discovered this channel, this is the most helpful video i have ever found.
THIS IS SO FREAKIN ON POINT! Just graduated college 3 months ago and I'm about to take my board/licensure exam to become a professional, but I'm confused as to what I really wanna do in life. I can't see myself working for a long time on my chosen field and I really wanna figure things out. I know for sure though, that I wanna travel and save money for my family and myself and to help other people. But I just don't know which path to take. This is so helpful, thank you so much! And oh, I turned 21 2 weeks after graduating last June! Love this informative video! 👍🏻👏🏻❤️
