Going through it right now... just happened a couple of hours ago. I ve been with him since I was 14 I am now 27 and this feels like the biggest rip out of my chest because he's my best friend and I don't know how to heal from this I am stuck..
I promise you, this too shall passed. I met my husband two weeks after my break. He was my first boyfriend, I was 21 years old and it felt like I was literally dying internally. I’ll be 41 in November and it was best for me. The moment I finally let go, here comes hubby.
Praying for you to get through 🙏🏽 I’m going through a breakup after 14 years and 3 kids and my 4th on the way with him. But he moved on and got someone else pregnant and doesn’t care at all about how he has hurt me. It sucks bc we have kids ugh I wish I could just not see him ever again and maybe that would make it easier 😢 but God is good and he will always make a way🙏🏽💪🏽
Excellent video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my marriage of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
I totally agree, do not pretend to be okay when your not okay, allow yourself to feel everything and I mean everything, the pain, the crying, the anxiety , the wish you could go back and everything and ever yday it gets easier and it starts to fade
Dr Oluwaseun i had really lost all hope thank you so much for your help my partner has finally returned back to me just like you said he would i really can't thank you enough my family and home is finally at peace he shows me so much love and affection than ever before i really appreciate you
I just needed to hear this. The breakup was horrible for us both, yet he got into another relationship a month after. It’s been 2 years. I’m just now at a happy place in my life. No dating, no side person, just pure growth. Today I can finally say I’m proud of myself!
There's nothing worse than being with the wrong man. I got counseling after my breakup, and he triggered abandonment issues. Counseling helped me see it really wasn't him I was hurting behind. He sold me a dream. It was over two years ago and he was my next-door neighbor. He got evicted five months ago and had to move, thankfully. Don't settle for any man who doesn't bring peace and joy into your life. ❤🙏
exactly, distracting yourself and pretending you don't feel is just going to make it worse. at least for me it did make it worse. so I chose to be mature and let my emotions go free. I acknowledged the heart break, and I honestly healed pretty fast after that. trying unhealthy ways to cope, especially pretending something never happened made the situation worse for me.
@@fairy4196I know it really hurts and what you are going through must be painful. Trust me, i’m going through same right now but we will be fine and you won’t die
im distracting myself from the breakup with anime/phone and really hate feeling pathetic and lonely which i am very much and im also mentally exhausted and numb! idk what to do pls help
@@dabilover444u are still worth so much as a human and you don’t need them to express that validation towards u. u are more than enough to be loved n u are capable of being happy no matter how hard it is. sending u hope n comfort rn ❤️🧸
15 months. Still think about him everyday knowing he doesn't give a damn! Miss his family too. I feel like I'll never be vulnerable again. Regret it so much
@@Big-timeup I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. It will take the amount of time you give it. Everyone comes into our life for a season. Not all are meant to be forever. Let go and you will be open to positive things coming your way. I don’t mean to sound simple but it’s your time to take care of you and delve into you. You are blessed bc you had this love. Do something for someone who needs your help and you will be lifted
Dr Oluwaseun i had really lost all hope thank you so much for your help my partner has finally returned back to me just like you said he would i really can't thank you enough my family and home is finally at peace he shows me so much love and affection than ever before i really appreciate you
And going to God about it also helped me. God loves you and nothing in all creation can separate you from that. Romans 8:38-39. You can cast all your anxieties onto God because He cares about you. 1 Peter 5:6-7. ✝️
Got cheated multiple times. Had a child with him. I keep forgiving him without him asking for forgiveness. Verbally abused me, my family, and my relatives. Still, I stayed with him. I was bonded to this guy. I couldn't think right. I told myself I would never find any man like him. Finally, I had to call off two days ago. I am currently hurting. I don't know what to do. I have been calling God to take the pain out.
I'm in the middle of one too. It's complicated and nasty, because he literally can't wrap his mind around the idea that I'm actually leaving. We had been together for almost 6 years now. And I feel so lost rn, almost like someone ripped out a huge part of me, and now It's just void and loneliness. To make things worse, I have no friends and my only source of support is my lil sis. I wish all of us in the comment section could come together and be each other's support systems because I would really appreciate having one in my life especially now
Mannn I just got out of a 4 year relationship yesterday. It's crazy😅and wild but I do have a plan to get through this. I have my family and friends and whenever I'm feeling down about it, I accept the pain bc I know eventually it'll blow over, I'll be okay though.
Hwy guys I hope y'all doing good! Please reply here whenever you guys wanna talk! Really I'll be here for y'all Stay safe and healthy and good luck!!!!❤
I'm really really happy you brought up cutting ties. SO many women I know will continue to contact them and will either get back together with them and start a vicious cycle, or hold on to feelings for them way too long. This is especially important if you were in a relationship where your partner was manipulative. The best thing for you AND them is to leave and have no contact. I know it's easier said than done though. I've been there.
Thank you. I was the one wrong in the relationship causing her to break up and completely distance. It is hard waking up everyday. Existing breathing thinking without my bestfriend. I have some codependency and trauma, addictions that damaged her and I’m learning to heal and let her go. I wish I had treated her better and I pray for forgiveness from her and god. I wish her the best and I regret it everyday that I wake up. Her father passed recently and I just wish I knew she’s okay. And to talk to her again. The feeling felt almost unbearable just getting sober today and not drinking the pain away. I wish all of you Love, peace and happiness 💛
I'm struggling 3 weeks later I can't let go no matter how much I pray. I drink again and I don't know what to do without her. I don't feel like existing. I wish I had a friend like me. But I have none.
@@suavemente7281trust the process you will heal it takes time. Don’t fall into temptation stay strong. Keep talking to god and praying. I wish you the best.
Saving this as I’m currently going through a breakup as a uni student. Even though we were together for nearly 2 years we drifted apart when I started university. At first I didn’t know if I made the right choice to break it off and I did it in person which looking back at it was the right choice and both my side and his family’s side respected it. Seeing him cry broke my heart but I know now it was the right choice. I’m saving this video in case I feel low or doubt myself throughout this time. Thank you for the massive big sister advice!! 💜💜💜
If it's any consolation, my six year relationship (then three year relationship) almost ended right around the same time frame as yours. Six years, living together for four, two cats together, saw the world together- and he won't marry me. I wish it ended then. I wish we ended it then and I could've lived my life. I'm working towards letting go of him with love in my heart (because that's what they say you need to do to really let go.) But for now I'm angry. God, give me strength to end it now.
This helps so much thank you I had a boyfriend that was dating for 5 months and today you broke up with me and on the 28th of this month it was in our six-month anniversary today is the the 11th of August 2023 I poured my heart and soul into that relationship and he ripped my heart part and stomped on it like it didn't matter so this helps very much thank you
I understand your pain. I broke up with someone on our so called 1 year anniversary. I had a feeling it was coming but the pain is still real. I know I needed to let go because he was toxic and verbally abusive. I’ll miss the good times but I have to move on😢
yes. visualize you cutting off dead branches weed someone’s garden and you will get it out. Love is not easy when it ends. I couldn’t get out of the shower in the morning for work. I was 21? It was my first real love but he didn’t want children. It’s always harder when you’re left. Talk positive thoughts to yourself. Spend time each day in the grief. Then get up and do creative stuff. Don’t talk to everyone about it. Also don’t allow thoughts into your head while working. Discipline yourself to off work hours to go over it. Our mind is a tool but we choose which tool is used to resolve the situation I wish you healing but most of all, growth to love again. I did for 40 years
Maybe this is just me I had 6 relationships in my whole 32 years on this earth and every time I break it off it become easier and easier. It goes from 1yr of heart break, 6m, 1m, 2wks, 5days. The older I get the more I know my worth and what I tell myself is y am I crying for someone who didn't deserve me.?And I tell my husband u are lucky number 7 I love u deeply but u betray me just walk away I'll b fine it'll take a day to get over u because I will not cry for someone who didn't value me enough to not disrespect me.. he don't believe me but trust me I mean every word. I love hard but when I'm done I'm done forever, u don't exist in my world, maybe it's the Taurus in me but I do not play games when it's my heart and life involved.
The heart always gets us in trouble... definitely listen to the brain (logic) more. It 🧠 helps us perceive reality vs ♥️ what we wished the relationship was but isn't.
It’s #1 for me I’m 26 and I feel like I won’t find anyone else I already have self doubt and confidence issues and that’s what hurts the most I feel like I won’t have the family I’ve always wanted or someone that will love me for me and fight for the relationship 😩😩
I cut off all contacts and within 2 months, I was stable, not healed but stable! It is now 6 months I can go through busy days without thinking about him once!
I am about to divorce my husband. he gaslights me and is an emotional rollercoaster. I am so scared I'll regret it after, feel alone or don't find a new partner.
@@saritamoorebansa4485 who knows, the end of this chapter might just lead to you finding your true soul mate. I think it’s better to make a leap of faith and find out what happens than to never know
He doesn’t care about you he’s manipulating you. I promise you will find someone else. My mum went through it and she’s in her fifties now dating a very sweet man. You are worthy. You are loved.
Sometimes the hurt is the first thing you wake up to. It’s awful trying to get the day started if you have to go to work. For me it hurts worse at night 😢
@@chriswhite3198said mythical being is the reason you are breathing and why you were even born in the first place so watch how you talk about other people's religion and about God
Just experienced the worst breakup ever, man it hurts so bad, it’s like my internal organs are burning 😢 but one step at a time, I’m not gonna lie I’m in serious pain.
I am going through a breakup right now. I am broken in pieces 💔💔 No words can explain my pain. I miss him so much, and he meant everything for me, i would stay till midnight waiting for him to text me back. I miss him so much, and i am crying all night for him. I wish i had by my side 😭
You need to here these: Those powerful words that helped me a lot.." time shall heal you my child". Till then focus on yourself. Afterall dignity is your future brahmastra. Experience is your weapon. And always remind yourself to move on and make progress, no matter how hard the pain it is showering , shower your progress and success into the pain , which will eventually nullify it.
#3. It’s only hard because we go to church together and his dad is the pastor. I am keeping my distance as much as I can because I only see those people on the weekend.
Well said, esp part about walking through the fog of pain instead of distraction. It only makes the pain last longer. Blessed be and peaceful nights, little sister. This Irish woman thanks you.
you can do so much for a persons and they still leave you in the end 💔💔💔😢 it makes me not wanna help anyone ever again my girl is trying to leave me at this very moment It’s 5 am and I have work at 3 I wrote a long paragraph and still haven’t heard anything back what is life ??
I agree with the video and a few comments saying to block them, I also agree. However, these things can get a little tricky when it’s kids involved. There’s still constant communication, interaction with his family(because of the kids), you still have to see this person because of co-parenting because you don’t want the kids to see it’s a weird vibe between the parents. It’s all about setting boundaries for myself and knowing what works for my mental health. I’m also going to add to the list: cutting off sex, this should be #1 IMO..
I've been distracting myself by getting back into the things I used to enjoy doing.. making myself a routine and sometimes adding new things when I'm ready
The mutal friends getting the axe 😂 so true though. I do know a women that stayed in contact with his mother. He got married no kids then they broke up and then he got back with the women, as she was still in contact with the mother. 😂 but I don't want to give hope to clingers on.
I love how you said "until you heal from the situation" in regards to cutting ties. My ex and I are in the same social circles, and I'm in a place in my healing journey where I don't feel heartbroken. I still care about this guy, but i can see myself being friends with him in future. I'm at a place where I'm happy in my singlness so i think that time for friendship is soon. I have interacted with him recently, and it feels fine, not the best, but the progress I have made makes me very sure about the future.
I need your help I’m Having hard time please help me with breakup guides my boyfriend EJ a from the monarch school and institute he is senior left and breakup before spring break help me asap!
What if they left you in your worst phase bro. And you have the most precious exam in front of you. You already failed 2 times because of these thoughts and are still not overcoming it. Every single person who loves me says to not think distract, but i get dreams too that give me panic attacks, so even not able to study sleep eat.
Breakup hack: If you fall out of love make the other person fall out of love and initate the break up that way the hurting would be less, do not CHEAT it's not gonna be easy but take this route, you can't leave someone still Loving you it would kill them. I prefer to be hurt than hurt someone i think i can handle myself better.
Cheating in this situation is actually horrible bc the other person doesn't suspect this and you benefit from the life with your gf (paying groceries, rent, going out...) while entertaining another relationship so you'll never lose anything in life when you break up. Like a second safety net. It's so dishonest and a coward move
I wish I could go back and tell myself this in college… or just told myself to not date in college. My college bf broke up with me 7times because I kept in contact with him between the breakups, I was following “my heart” and I couldn’t deal with the emotional distress of a relationship. I would always find myself back with him and unhappy. I wasted my college years fr 😩
i just broke up with my bf. i balled my eyes out and i still am. i feel so bad but i’m in middle school and i felt like i’m too young and i’m not ready for a relationship. there’s more to life than having a bf. i’m in middle schoo, for all i care and 8m not grown i wasn’t ready and he understands i still care abt him and still like him i’m just not ready now. did i do the right thing?
My boyfriend broke up with me last week I was upset and wasn't sure why he did because I did nothing wrong I was there for him when he needed me but now I guess it doesn't matter because I have depression now but my friend also has depression.
What do you do if you broke up with him cuz you thought he didn't love you but he really did and he has been in his house for about 4 days btw it is in school so I haven't seen him scince Friday and it's wensday
Its been 3 days since he left me. We spilt because we didn’t have the same views on politics and tbh even though it was a “good” breakup, my heart still really hurts. I understand the logic behind the breakup and respect his decision to find someone who aligns better with his beliefs. I genuinely miss our connection and his friend group- the relationship was great. Now, im trying to build my own friend group so i dont feel so lonely even though (romantically) i am alone.
bro i was talking to this girl for about 3 weeks. has a lot in common. we were both God fearing. i made a deep connection with her in those 3 weeks. we hungout once and i gave her my energy. long story short her ex was still in the picture. she wasn’t fully healed yet over him. and he was very obsessive. she didn’t tell me. but she also had a kid. i felt like i was lead on bro. like i was catching feelings for someone who wasn’t meant for me in the first place. but everything felt so real talking otp and about deep topics. i think that’s why it stings so bad. i ended things with her yesterday. she asked to be friends still i replied “idk” she seemed a little upset by it. but i can’t have that in my life. someone who isn’t fully over their ex. i feel very safe and vulnerable here and it’s like a family on this channel it’s all love. if anyone could give me some feedback i would appreciate that ❤️
1 is so true and so hard I’m struggling with it rn bc what if i regret it someday? i know it was a good decision for me since it was causing such stress but WHAT IF?????
im distracting myself from the breakup with anime/phone and really hate feeling pathetic and lonely which i am very much and im also mentally exhausted and numb! idk what to do pls help
before the break up occurs im already gone mentally i tend to leave on a silent note. therefore i dont really have to heal and take time away from meeting other great men
So I was dating this guy and we weren't officially together. Last week he broke it off due to stress in his life, not willing to hurt me and especially not wanting to hurt me with his problems if we'd have stepped in a relationship like that. (stress about school/internship). He told me right now is not the right time for us. A few days later we talked it out, deciding to stay friends and see where time will take us. I am heartbroken and I am still holding on to hope that someday we will get together. Is that wrong?
The 3rd fact was the hardest for me and a literal gut punch. We had a coupled group of friends that we would do absolutely everything together. We were all planning a big trip together before I found out my spouse was having an affair. The whole group found out. They "started" to comfort and support me, then i look on snapchat not even 3 days later, they're all on a sandy beach, clubs, restaurants and shopping centers in Bali.... with my spouse.... AND the person she cheated on me with. The person literally bought the entire trip for them, and flown them out that week just because she wanted to. They came back and literally tried to gaslight me. Saying she wasnt even fun to travel with, she wanted to control everything cuz she paid (duh), and didnt even socialize much with them.... I simply said "Hope it was worth our friendship."
#1 should be: the fact that you broke up is proof that it wasn’t meant to be. If you’re holding onto it, then why did you end it? Manipulation? If so, you toxic & need therapy #3 ain’t necessary unless it was an abusive relationship. How are you gonna change your people just bc of a relationship that turned out to be less than romantic.
I did not break up. But i feel like I did. I'm anti-smoking. And i also have a health condition where i must not be be exposed to smoke. I've been dating with my boyfriend for 4 years. He's a medicine student. So he sure knows about the health stuff. He has been lying to me about him not smoking for a year. I've met him in highschool but we continued long distance. I went to his city to celebrate our 4th anniversary. I saw his friend texted him "does she know about the smoking". I was also humiliated around his friends. One of them offered him a cigarette when i was there and he denied the fact he's smoking. They argued a little bit. I did not know at the time. It was my first time meeting his friends. Like 7 of them. They all knew. But i didn't. I'm the one who's been dating him for 4 years. I've always suspected and have told him about it. He denied every time and got mad at me for assuming. We date to marry. And i can't live in a smoker's house. He apologized. I had a hard time accepting it. But eventually i did. When i imagine him smoking it breaks me. Literally. I cry everyday and every time i think about it. I have OCD so the amount of time it comes to my mind is A LOT. I've started to overthink about the other possible things he lied about. The amount of trust i had in this man was a lot. I also can't stand the fact he harmed himself. You may think it's not that deep. Everybody says the same thing to me. But i can't help but feel betrayed and broke. He swore he will never ever touch a cigarette ever again. He said I've seen how much it hurts me and after hearing me cry like that he would rather die than smoke. I'm thinking the reason is I've found out. So he could do it without me knowing anyway. Like how he did for a whole year. He says he won't but there isn't a way for me to find out. I don't live around him. Everybody around him smokes. Of course he's gonna do it again. But he says he won't. I'd rather him smoking and telling me the truth than telling me he doesn't but he does. I sometime wish i died before finding out. What if he cheated on me too? Long distance is hard. What holding that relationship was the trust. I don't have that anymore. It's been a month since i found out about it. Yesterday i apologize to him for being cruel. I said i can't help the way i feel about the situation. And i said i know you're right about it not being a big deal. Me breaking a relationship of 4 years for a ridiculous reason is selfish. Some other stuff too. He did not respond to it because he wanted to talk about it on a call. We were having some intimate time. It was 4 a.m(note that he had a class at 8 a.m) He changed the topic and started responding the messages i sent earlier. He said some things that made me so happy and emotional i cried. But somehow i started talking about him smoking again and cried. Cried a lot. He comforted me but got pissed off. After like half an hour he got mad and said "don't you think you've come to limit of crying". That made my blood boil. Later he said "We were having a great time. Then i thought you got bored so i decided to talk to you about the texts you sent. İ did not wanna reply with texts. I wanted to see you and hear you. We talked about how you're sorry about it and i wanted to comfort you for feeling quilty but then somehow I'm the one that's quilty again." I have no idea what to think and what to do. All i know is this is depressing me. It affects the way i treat him. I love him. But I can't help myself. I really need some advice.
Idk if i made the right choice. He was perfect absolutely perfect. Its like i felt sm or too little. The initial times were exciting but it js stopped. He mentioned smth that made me uncomfortable and i stopped it. He apologized txted all my friends and me constantly. But i broke it off. Mayb he didnt know and it was an honest mistake. But idk wat to do. Was i waiting for a point in time to break up? Was this in the moment? Should i giv him another chance? Idk anymore
I just broke up with my very very first boyfriend. I had my first everything with him, it lasted 5 years. I met him when i was 17 years old. I moved out of my country to be with him when i was 21. Now one year later it just really doesnt work anymore... it hurts so much and im at the point where im doubting my descision.. :( ill have trust in the process!
yeah.. I'm 13 and me and him dated for over a year, our anniversary was on valentines day, and everything seemed fine. He ghosted me for over a week and i was thinking about breaking up and he said he was too. This all happened today. I threw up 2 times in the school bathrooms because i worked myself up so much abt it. It hurts so bad. We haven't officially broken up yet bc he won't talk to me he won't text me. He just told his friends he wants to break up. I don't understand at all Ididn't think I did anything for him to want to break up. Idk what to do now but just wait. He said he's not texting only talking in person but tbh I don't want to talk in person bc that would make me feel worse and would be emberessing.. so now I'm js waiting for one of us to end it all. We've known each other since we were little and he said I meant alot to him and loved me but i guess not..
The thing is, my ex boyfriend is my cousin’s best friend and she’s in school with me (plus I see her every Friday) ,he’s in one class with me, he‘s in my grade, he’s in my village…
Same things happens with me right now We were together since 6 yrs He never tortured me I am having very good memories with him We are going to marry Everything was in flow Third person his relative doesn't wants to see us together from inside His doing planning plotting which I understood but before that My man becomes more negative for me😢 His not even understand my problems After that one day he said to me don't call me anymore I don't want to stay with you I totally broken from inside Depressed
