The no contact sucks, when you art practicing this with someone you love. However, knowing that most of her issues stem from the lack of love she received from her parents. I want to help, but its tiring and stressful. She attempts to make me feel like its all on me but I'm not entertaining her bull****. She has my number blocked, and ignore my social media messages. So I am fighting the urge to reach out to her. I've assisted her so much, the treatment I am recieving is wrong and I feel used. I'll see where this leads me. I do not like to feel like I lost, though I feel the gain being alone. When she reaches out I'll try to be Teflon to her ammo.
Why do other guys give the silent treatment? I find that kind of weak too because they're not willing to go through uncomfortable conversations. Just asking
@@gem9811 Not necessarily just a guys thing but that's beyond the point. Many guys are afraid of conflict or want avoid appearing/feeling vulnerable so they'd rather ignore certain issues. As much as they don't technically owe you anything (it's their choice), it is a disrespectful thing to do and can be lumped into a childish category - though I'd argue context of the relationship between the two people and events plays a pretty big role in how disrespectful it is. If they are giving you the silent treatment, move on and don't waste your time. Focus on your life and surround yourself with positivity as best you can. You can't change their behavior, so focus on yours.
@@BGuitarify I have heard before about how girls use a dude's vulnerability against them and that makes me so sad because that is where a lot of conflict comes up because a guy oftentimes does not feel safe to open up. Thanks for explaining the psychology behind it for me.
My ex was the first girl I've ever loved, we were together for almost 2 years and were so happy together. I was there for her every step of the way but she cheated 5+ times manipulating me into someone she wasn't. I loved her so so much but the person I loved wasn't real. 3 weeks after the breakup I unlocked my strongest mindset I've ever had and let her go. The girl I loved so deeply and was attached to was a false reality but I have a strong mentality and easily got through it. I am strong.
@@goatsaremagical5304 what happened to you happened to me too, been with the girl I loved the most for 2 yrs, then it ended abruptly and i discovered she was cheating on me with multiple guys some of which are my friends. The personality she portrayed was completely opposite of what she really is, for me i still can't comprehend it..
Aleksi134 humans naturally need people around them to feel good. We are social beings. However, as most successful people say, few will be people you can trust, most of them are in because it’s convenient.
That’s one of the reason I started watching him. He comes with a objective, gets his point across and leave. No cuts and extra editing. This man is the real deal
The statement you made from 8:08 to 8:25 really hit me. I’m 16 and my mom passed away yesterday. I’m a bit shaken as you’d expect but I know after this experience I’m ready for absolutely whatever life throws at me. I will be successful, my why is beyond me.
you will be what you believe. Be attached to your goals and dream big don't put anything in your way! You are not selfish in doing so you only owe you!
Right on! Don't be afraid to be yourself, love yourself, pursuit your passions and become the greater potential of yourself that this world needs. Life has a worth, life a meaning, your path is there for you to lay and discover.
On the 3rd point, I started to meditate and do workouts in home, and believe me, I have changed so much, mentally and physically, so as a brother, thank you David, I also love psychology ❤️
deniers don't like the light! It's much harder to hide the truth most don't want to see! luckily im just cute enough to be honest no one likes me for it but everyone wants their chance til they get it. I try to be kind but I still can't lie but first foremost to myself. It is more masculine than fem to take on accountability and that started most of us out with no fault divorce and single parent homes. The present parents get flack and extra work but they didn't make baby by themselves.
Congrats on the condo man! Nothing better than moving out of your parent’s place and getting your own. I’ve lived on my own for years now and just got a condo this year too! Happy for you man. Keep up the great content.
Even though you repeat the same principles from previous videos, I actually like it because it keeps on my toes! I keep trying to guess what you gonna cover in the video and correct myself if I'm wrong.
Number 2 is easily the hardest one to overcome. Now-a-days people love to bully and cross the line with people for fun, and then turn around and get mad when you wild-out. Emotional control is very much key in today’s society.
I dated this girl for 6 months, we had a great time but I had a family emergency and lost my job. My emotions like you said we're everywhere and it pushed her away. Big sad
Really valuable lessons I loved how you started off with the first thing weak men do with attachment because I had to take things seriously when I felt my health-ish & my relationships[friendships] went down[like crazy] and my health has been going down like in walking, focus, etc. when I was diagnosed with ms(multiple sclerosis) & a thyroid disorder [though I don't agree with you with detaching yourself to mama! ;) ] but it's true that we have to take responsibility for everything because no one owes us nothing!
Your right about the attachment. I went to school 200 miles away from my parents 6 days of the week until I graduated. I had attachment issues but they left. I realized at an early age (12) that having an attachment to something distracts you from your goals. I understand that people come out go in your life and it's best not to attach. Same with drugs and alcohol. People often see those as to hide or cradle them but in reality it's making them even weeker.
I think he said that bc it's obvious that you have more opportunities in industry nations than in a 3rd world country to do certain stuff. Not that things are impossible in 3rd world countries but it's obvious that we, in industry nations live in easy mode, no?
You’re forgetting his 2nd rule already. Control your emotions. He wasn’t calling you less at all. He was talking to the majority of his viewers-who happen to live in first world countries-saying that we’re in control of our lives and that we have no excuse to not get shit done. If you’re in a third world country and you’re actually SUCCEEDING above all odds given your circumstances, then you’re doing better than a lot of people in first world countries. I’d take what he said as a compliment.
Focus on building yourself up .... then you’ll see everything slowly fall into place... but strong men shouldn’t fall for temporary pleasures n shit 😂 focus on yourselves 👑
BRO this is wild, real deal just got back from a walk & I was meditating and the message I received was to not be attached, at first I saw this negatively but have come to realize that not being attached to anything, not the highs and not the lows sets you free because you’re free regardless of circumstance or situation to whatever, to continue to push and progress and grow and be present in pressing forward in your journey ! I thought staying in the middle ground ( stoicism ) wasn’t entirely good because I want to always be at my highest but the middle ground doesn’t mean your low it just means no matter what you continue to be Y O U
at 61 i am into 50 pull ups and an equal number of 🤸 parallel bar rallys @10 per rally 🤸 and in case the girl i love ♥️ agrees to my proposition 🤸 which i have yet to put across 🤸 i will enter wedlock 🤸 so wish me luck even though you do not owe me anything
Right u r.. I was so attached to my mom. I was really a mom's boy. When she passed away I suffered so so much. I still miss her like a baby. She was a strong woman but I am weak.
This is great so good to virtually meet like minded people! The best development we can do is self development. I have been spending the whole time of the pandemic working on myself. Its really a pleasure to have found your channel. New subscriber!
@@David_Hammond Thanks man hopefully one day I can impact as many people as you are! Fair play for still replying to your subscribers! I love that staying humble!
I don't hit like under videos a lot, but when I do that means the video is pumped with valuable wisdom, bro you are blowing minds and stay calm. Stay calm and blow minds, make a tee😂😂💪🏻
I think it’s important to note that being angry isn’t wrong. It’s the amount of mental space that it takes up long term. If someone cuts you off. Be mad, but then go work out or do somthin’ to overcome it. Don’t flip your lid, but handle the emotion, contain it, and control it.
0:40 to 0:45 seconds lmao I dig the excitement man, definitely keep it up, the people who say you're on so much caffeine are use to being boring or having conversations with boring people I guess.
Spoke straight to me man, I've definately always over analysed and stressed over shit that honestly shouldn't phase me, today especially, 🤎#thankyouuniverse
No lie I may have fallen victim to these points but it's not like they define me. "It's not your fault If you're in a crappy situation r.n but it's your fault staying in that typa situation". As usual too ur energy bro is just straight fire🔥🔥 🔥 Congrats on the condo👊🔥
Spot on bro! I live in a third world country and it's difficult to leave your parents' because there are basically no jobs for undergrads BUT! As soon as I got my degree the first job offer that I accepted I made the request to be sent to another area in the country just so I could start my real journey as a detached man. I know some might think that's too far (going to another area) but I like the odds, they force me to figure things out for myself and I relish the challenge.
Couldn't put it better myself. I find I have more control over my emotions through practicing yoga and becoming conscious so naturally attachment leaves alongside anger. Keep up the vids man!
Brooo I have OCD as well and it can be quite the mind fuck when youre out socializing man. The self ruminations afterwords suck but you speak fucking truth about it as well. Much Love
I live with my Mom and take care of My Mom since my pops died. 10 yrs. my core value says to take care of my Mom. I worry if I move out she’ll suffer a lot . I want to move out but I lost a lot of family and I want to appreciate her while she still here. Am I less than a man if I stay because all my exes left me because they say I’m a mommas boy but I know I’m a real man. I’m confused and I need a lil help?
Hello David. I'm 14 years old and i just want to thank you for your videos. I've gotten much advice from you. Matter fact i have lost 10kg's and your videos has been a huge inspiration. Thank you.
I am thankful for your videos. Currently going through a breakup and your content has helped me stay positive and continue to focus on myself. Thank you, keep up the great work!
what a great video. you seem like a super genuine guy and i love the energy you put out. it feels very casual and conversational and i love it. you got yourself a new subscriber :)
Exactly 💯 I can relate to your energy level of all the above for any situation. Put together nicely done.looking forward to your next topic on the subject
Great video brother. I really resonated with that last minute and the attachment to your mother thing. I think my brother is going through this right now.
I've seen your other vids on no fap and it kind of relates to this one (how you carry the energy) plus when you mentioned people think your on drugs is like saying creatine is a steroid! so i know where your coming from! We live in such a jealous land so ignore the haters and keep pure.
Totally my friend. Amazing how brainwashed people are... im literally shocked when I say 'Nobody in life owes you shit... not your parents, your significant others, siblings, nobody. The sooner you swallow that pill, the sooner you become grateful for EVERYTHING." Changes your whole Damm perspective. Yeah? Personal favorite ones I love to drop in to prove my point: 'Do you have a contract with your girl agreeing not to cheat? ...of course not, so she doesn't owe you shit. (If she does, dump her, but she can do wtf she wants. And so can you..."
i have OCD too, i get how that feels but with constant discipline of the mind to make sure to keep emotions out of it and i try to rely on rationality, logic and reason.
Hey David. I resonate with your point about being attached to mothers. Lost my mum 3 years ago and up till now I haven’t been able to get over the loss. I feel the attachment I’m having is due to the thought of how I could have been a better son to her when she was around, and I kinda feel guilty to move on in life without her. If you could offer some words of advice would be greatly appreciated.
Guilt gets nothing done. If you want to make it up to her, go live an amazing and fulfilling life helping yourself and the world. Then you will make her proud! ❤️💯
The mother thing is deff more than just moving out. I didn't really have a dad so she raised me. Even when i moved out id call her for all my problems ect ect. I noticed i was doing this so i stopped...i stopped talking to her as much...seeing her as much...when something hard in my life happened id deal with it myself. Its not that i dont love her but its exactly what he said. Let go.
hope she is not too dependent cause mothers often live for those they care for believing its their only purpose in life. our new generations are struggling mentally simply because we more aware and don't suppress emotion they deal and that is our evolution we are collectively enlightened through personal struggle and empowered in the knowledge that we are not alone in it. I don't believe priests become pedaphiles because the devil (how do they have real faith f thy believe in a god that knows) its the unnatural vow of celibacy suppressing sexuality.
