Too much time together smothers each other. You have to give people space to keep the anticipation there. When a couple is always together, they get on each others nerves quickly which causes a breakup. Good video brother!✌
Yup we was living together with the kids and I didn't have my space too recharge and give as nescarry. Tried too make the relationship work living separately. She didn't wanna give that a shot. Went got someone else and engaged already within 2 months. My point is smothering each other feels good at first but then becomes a heavy expectation for attention from the other. We still need our seperate lives, Hobbies, Pass times, Hustles, Etc. That revolve outside of your relationship. So you can be a stable partner
@@stephensmith2229 Its rough G but you will grow from it. If she doesn't wanna make things work fine. Not the one you should be growing with anyway. If she does. Great. Just focus on your purpose (Whatever that is too you, Doesnt have too be anything super successful or anything. Just something that means something too you) And do that first. And it seems harsh. But you need to purposely put your girl on the back burner while you doing you. And communicating when you avalaible
i think this is exactly what happened to me. the girl was showing extreme interest. but i lost my motivation, vision and focused on her and she sensed it, friend zoned me and left. thank you for making it clear that a man should always focus on himself, and the ladies will follow naturally :)
I totally agree with,this 100%true.Never put women first place. As he sad you will be devastated after she broke up with you. Good stuff man,aprecciate.👍💪
Omg, that happened to me. I'm 25yo. I had girlfriend for 5 almost 6 years, I had my mission for like 3 years, that I managed to get it and then I had nothing to go for. I had just her. Aaaand long story short, she broke up with me. Gosh... Now I'm finding my path, my destiny, goal, mission all over again. 💪 Still not sure what it is, but I'm looking forward to it.
I break up with my 2 years relationship with women. After break up i drink my coffe and running. No need to be sad. Accept women nature. Dont give her second chance. Find yourself new girl
David, I don’t think you realize how much you help people. I used to be such an energetic and competitive kid. As I grew up me and my friends started fucking around and getting in trouble and whatever. In high school I quit all sports, and started smoking and drinking. You have helped me realize what I had become. A weak man, a loser. I’m working to get back to that kid on the football field. The kid that didn’t give a fuck, all he wanted to is win. Thanks man
Man, there are so much to learn here in this channel, comments included. So much masculine energy around and lift everybody up with it. More powers for us brothers.
Man I literally made this mistake a few months ago. But I’m bettering myself now, your vids have really helped me during this time. I appreciate you bro💯
Thanks alot for your video. I find easiest way to avoid putting girls on pedestals is to watch other guys do that thing. This way your mind pulls out by its own and helps you see the bigger picture.
Now I know why I got dumped after 3 years, there I was in a mental rut for the last 6-8 months and the only good thing I felt I had was her... Pedestal'd Safe to say I've learnt my lesson both with my mental health issues and my relationships.. Put me first and face things as they come, don't suppress it, love myself and most importantly focus on me, myself and I.
Yep. I've totally made this mistake, and realize it now. Cringes...... Now im at a point in my life that I realize I finally need to put myself first, and be my top priority. Focusing on myself and my life will bring the rest of it.
I made this mistake...gave her everything for 20 years...yup read that again...20 years! No more, divorced, and back on my mission...sucks to lose everything and then start 20 years behind the curve...but if I can do it, all of you can! March on Brothers! 💪🤘🙏😎
Yeah I've definitely made this mistake many times and even recently. I tried making up for a girl's past because she's been through a lot of pain but I recognized that I was doing what you were talking about. Unfortunately it was long distance and I won't see her again because she's moving further away. It's unfortunate but I'm trying to learn from this and from this video. Thank you for your help! This is what I needed to hear
I know this channel is for men but i do love watching your videos because i find that you do have solid advice that can be beneficial for both men and women. I would just like to add that putting people on a pedestal goes for both men and women and that both sexes do have masculine and feminine energies in them, we all have the innate abilities to express and utilizes these energies to and for our highest good, its just some people are more tapped into themselves spiritually then others, or they just operate more from one of the energies.. Its just important to remember to always put yourself first , no matter what and its not selfish to do so.
Got dumped by a girl who not only was madly in love with me ,..she was obsesed....cuz I did make her a priority ...and at the breakup convo we had she said "it';s like I've stopped you somehow" Those words haunt me everyday...but I got my lesson
Every single thing u mentioned happened to me...I was too late to realize that she lost feelings due to no drive and nothing to really support me and be happy for me about...just wow
I’ve been working on myself and mission nothing or woman will take me away from that. I will continue until I’m where I want to be in my life. Thank you for this video you are awesome 👏
Treating her with respect is good. It’s idolizing her that is bad. Got it. Thank you coach 🙏 And what you said at the end was truly profound. That gives me happiness to know that it’s worth avoiding relationships that won’t build you but that can actually hurt you and keep you from reaching your maximum growth.
I totally agree with this video. I would like to be with a guy who builds up his own life and his dreams (and of course support him). If a guy leaves everything behind him just to prioritise me, I would not be happy and maybe I would think about to put him in a friend zone. The pressure would be too big on me, knowing that his happiness depends on me. But I want to emphasize that if I a guy ignore me than I cut him out of my life. So finding the balance between putting sb on a pedestal and ignore somebody and not giving attention (which girls need haha) is crucial.
Thanks David, you are the man! Appreciated that piece of advice, most men don't know this, and end up losing the girl because she thinks you're too weak and lack some masculine frame,, wow
This theory is true for me. I respect men who serve themselves first. Without that anchor he would not have the resources and strength to walk along side me. Value for value. Thank you for your wise words. I love visiting this channel to confirm my thought process and way of life.
2 weeks ago I finished the Tapout xt 3 month training program, I started to run 2 or 3 times per week, I'm getting shredded and I'm relying so much on your advice man, even I'm like 10 years older than you, I'm seeing you as the older brother I never had, thank you so much for your guidance bro, also getting advice from Dr. Jordan Peterson from whom I'm starting the Self Authoring program this next days and finally to Mr. David Goggins himself, whose SAVAGE mentality are keeping me out of my confort zone everyday. LET'S FUCKING GOOOOOOOO
I was really putting so much energy to make my relationship with a girl work without success and when I finally got my dream-come-true intership for another country and went all in she literally made an 180 turn going full clingy on me out of nowhere.
Thank you for your help, I stopped, pulled back, she got angry first and now chase me. I dont need to do that much. She always take the iniative first.
This was a great video! I remember in high school I had a chance to graduate 6 months early but instead I graduated 6 months late chasing some girl. I don’t regret my decisions. However I could be further in life if I focused on other things outside of women. Great video!
i broke up recently we were long distance but she wanted to have fun in discord and play with friends but thought of me like a obstacle from it. i learned the hard way but I'm getting better and i did give her the pedestal as well
It's True, I Am His Student!!! Just Only One Week, David Has Delivered The Key To No Fab!!! He Know's What He's Talking About, I Believe He's A Greatly Integrated Individual:)
Not really sure if i’ve done this, specially recently, but i am currently hurting from a girl i was hanging out a bit with, taking her out and shit. Then in the end she awkwardly asks me if she can basically use me for a green card (fake marriage and shit) kinda hurt. Thought i had a chance with someone and maybe have a future with them 🤷♂️..... awesome video as always man!
David, I completely agree with what you're saying and have always put myself first. I started thinking a few years back that since I am so focused on my grind, I don't put in enough time into other people, especially girls. I started focusing on girls more than myself and got distracted. I'm back focused on myself and love it; however, I feel like I don't talk to any girls when I'm so on my grind. How do you create balance with your own mission and creating time/energy for other people?
Putting the woman on a pedestal, being needy and self-conscious is what destroys a potential relationship. I had to go through all of it and it hurt real bad. I am now careless and it's very hard to earn my trust. I don't think this is good either.
Bro, I've done this my whole life, and girls just end up kicking me out of their life, another video you made is a man needs to have his own role, when decide what to do I let her decide, and I just made one more mistake, my girl left me on october 6th, 2020, she couldn't handle my behavior, plus my lack of energy to help her... bro I am so sad cuz I still love her and I know she still loves me, but her perspective towards me is abt me being lazy mfking man, we have this time with zero contact, but idk if she's coming back . I need a miracle.
Be honest to yourself when you around women, don't try to hard to act like a cool dude, just be your true self, if you want you do something then do it, no need to hold yourself just because you are afraid of what they think about you. Women can sense your confidence
Hey david, still in school, i dont necessarily pedestalise her but i do help her with small things such as carrying her bottle etc. such as acting gentlemanly, would love to hear your thoughts on this
