Congratulations on one million subscribers I hope by the time this is read medcircle is at a million+. Mindfulness excersises are enjoyable and are part of managing depression.
Great suggestions Kyle. Sounds so much attainable to break it down to 30 mns, to get started. I did change my diet to meals for health, nó preservatives, nó msg. Delivered free due to diverticular problems. Definetly longer times between flares, which mean less antibiotics & less pain meds. I have always loved gardening & enjoy house plants & herbs. Flare going on at the moment, think it was stress related. I leave my antidepressants on sink in my bathroom to remind me to take them. So, when this heals, the juicing & daily blog on my to do list! Thank you for sharing such great & easy tips with us. Much appreciated.
I think that having a living thing to care for; I have a dog and plants; gives me opportunities to do service. I help another living being stay alive and hopefully healthy. That way I don't feel so useless.
People pleasing is a good thing, as long as it's not something you let define yourself. Like, you gotta be able to say "I'm awesome, because I am. I will help others as long as it's not undermining my own health." Instead of "I'm awesome as long as I keep running for others. Otherwise I'm a big contradiction and actually a bad person covering up its true identity." The first thought is healthy. The second one comes from my BPD brain. The difference? BPD thought: No limits, no respect for oneself, people pleasing at high cost, highly prone to exhaustion and disappointment, black-white thinking.
I totally agree. Being away from home and my dog and studying abroad alone has affected my mental health significantly, I'm still trying to find out ways to cope.
It depends on the extent of your depression. I've gone the holistic healing route: exercise, clean eating, prayer,routine, pets ,family support. At the end of the day I still couldn't function. Started my meds 3 months ago and I am now thriving at work ,I can get out bed and am finally feeling better. If you need meds.. take em :)
True. Body and mind, though connected, are two things. If it's chronic, physiological the body needs the medication to help turn the wheel of mind. The final Therapy is changing the outlook over the event and the reaction. But when the wounds are deep you can't look straight at the event( it triggers) or the mind ( it triggers, plus you're too muddled up)
My thoughts go to what is causing the depression? My answer is unresolved anger, guilt, when your inner world isn’t matching your outer world and personally, an unmet need. Can anyone else relate to this?
Yes! I have felt the exact same way about some of my inner world not maching with the outer world as well as being raised in an cultural environment where my own sense of self did not match and often times would clash.
@@jaky411 In my world it is the “should “and “suppose to be’s” and comparing myself to others that make me feel bad. If you delve deeply you will find a loss of some sort.
Some of us have such severe depression/other psych conditions that we HAVE TO take various meds. For those of you that use natural methods to help your depression, please still be understanding of us that need medical intervention. We are all in this together. 💗
@@Mia-vm6pl You do not understand. I’ve done all kinds of meditation, etc etc. I’ve changed my diet, exercised more, etc etc. Medication is the ONLY thing that has changed my life for the better!!
Agreed. It may have to be a combination of ALL. I've been at the point were I couldn't even muster up thoughts to move from the bed. But after TMS therapy with some remapping I didn't know how low I had gotten bc I was still pushing through
Most of us are not successful without medication and therapy, don’t worry. Most of us also don’t have the resources to afford therapy and a psychiatrist to get meds from lol.
Having a dog that requires daily exercise & won't go potty without walking 2 miles first has changed my life. Even when I do not feel like getting out of bed I literally have to. My rescue pittie has saved my life!
Nah dogs just make my anxiety and depression much worse. Very often I'm not able to take care of myself let alone dogs that constantly want attention and care. If a dog helps you then fortunately you are not depressed but bored.
@@alesto3779 How can someone just write something like this and decide that someone else is not depressed but “bored”?? If you’re depressed yourself, how can you be so mean to someone else who goes through or went through something similar? Depression is never the same in two people, and while for you, animals might feel like an added burden on top, dogs and animals in general can very much help people with mental illness. There is plenty of research into this topic and I suggest you take the time to look into it. Taking medication might not help everyone either. Other people in this comment section have had their lives saved by meds, but there are also people who have not been helped at all - experiences are different, just like every mental illness is different.
@@elic.7827 People try so hard to bring animals to human level and it's so annoying. Two years ago I went to a psychiatrist for depression. After a short conversation, he asked me if I had a pet and if I exercised. Of course shortly after that I left his office and never came back. psychiatrists today look like youtube gives them degrees. Seems like if I'm not a fan of pets or exercise there's no cure for my depression..
Dogs are called man’s best friend for a reason. They are wonderful companions, and I am so grateful for all of the dogs (and cats and birds) I’ve had in my life since I was an infant. They really enhance my life.
Nice video. Only people with depression can understand how difficult it is to choose any activity over sleeping especially when all you want is silent the thoughts in your head!
Why to silent them? They are telling you something about you. Learn to manage them. Let them pass through you, just as a train would from your back through your heart out, for example.
All I can do to cope lately is drink wine and take Ativan. Going to Mexico in March and my bf is so upset because I feel too depressed every time I think about it. He doesn’t understand and I can’t cancel. 😭😩
All I can do to cope lately is drink wine and take Ativan. Going to Mexico in March and my bf is so upset because I feel too depressed every time I think about it. He doesn’t understand and I can’t cancel. 😭😩
I did the thirty minutes of walking every day for thirty days challenge. It was so hard. I couldn’t go very far but I kept doing it. Four months later I’ve lost ten pounds and am walking or biking thirty minutes or more daily. Usually forty plus minutes. I’m also going a lot further. Two months ago I added a yoga class each week. And just now adding a second day of yoga class.I’m so pleased and it is helping a lot with my depression.
30:31 I got out of my last depression by walking. I couldn’t find a therapist and was really too depressed to search for one. After walking a few months I got well enough to find a therapist. A year later I’m finally improving my eating. That just means one vegetable a day and some fruit each day. Knitting while listening to audiobooks has also helped. I force myself to go to Tai Chi twice a week.
Depression after a traumatic event I would not wish on my worst enemy. It has robbed me of everything that made me.....me. it's been 5 years of mental torture. I couldn't imagine doing this since I was 9 years old. Bless you.
Depends how many different mental & psychological traumas a person has been through. Just having 1 or 2 isn’t impossible to deal with but when it gets in the double digits it gets more difficult to manage
Hey, which ashwaghanda do you take? Mine is the strongest (10% withanoloids) but i didn´t notice any change in my mood. I only noticed beeing sleepy the whole day.
Hi do u know if i can take Ashwaganda if i have an Autoimmune disorder Hashimotos Hypothyroidsm i have slow thyroid and have raken Thyroid medication from age 18. I'm 43 today. I understand Ashwaganda cannot be taken if u have thyroid problem especially if i take thyroid hormone? Pitty cause i am always stressed, angry, depressed, nervous and i have always wanted to try Ashwaganda since i read about it. I read alot, google things Thanks if u have any info for me on that.
@@Anonymous-gt1eq who do you ask? ashwaghanda is known to lower the cortisol level, which could be the cause for feeling stressed. Idk much about hashimoto. I do know, that if there a diagnosed problems with he thyroid you should first ask the doctor if ashwaghanda could cause something bad to you. Normally ashwaghanda is known to balance your hormones, which is i belive somehow also a problem for your body if the thyroid isn´t working too well. Why don´t you look for content here on youtube? There are tons of videos maybe somebody explains more about your specific illness and if ashwaghanda could work then. Just don´t expect too much from taking ashwaghanda. Try it and observe very well how you are feeling. Look for an extract with at least 5% Withanoloids.
One piece of advice I once got was to NOT call it "my" depression, because it declared ownership and also subconsciously send a message to keep it. I mean it's *mine* so it belongs to ME! Instead to acknowledge that I suffered from a disease called depression but not declare it as part of my identity (he's got several slips of the tongue: "this is how I maintain my depression" 11 minutes in)... I completely cut out ALL gluten, dairy and as a result most processed food. That alone got rid of most of the depression. I build my immune system back up in a variety of ways. And lastly, compassion (for myself). not pity. I exercise and eventually danced classical ballet most days. I love it. However, I sometimes have to dial back, and accept that I need a break. And inspite of what everyone says, I sometimes allow myself to sleep a lot. I do it when I need to. I give myself permission to let go. And it helps to avoid burn out. My inner child sometimes just needs quiet rest, decent food and a warm bed. I probably need more of it in certain circumstances than "other people". But I accept myself, and allow it!
@@lora4624 No. But I try and cut down. No sugar can be good for some (as long as you don't replace it with artificial sweeteners). However, very low carb diets (no fruit, no starch, no sugar) actually lower your serotonin levels. That's why professional bodybuilders can become suicidal and always (!) have a buddy watching them around the clock when they "go lean" those last few days before a competition. Starch can increase serotonin release, hence starch and chocolate cravings. But, no kidding, 100% gluten-free diet is the only reason I can cope without SSRI medication (not suggesting anyone should just stop taking meds of course). But in my opinion, you should definitely try out a pure gluten-free diet for 3 months. You cannot cheat or do it 80% though, as your immune system will still react and create inflammation with the same depressive symptoms.
@@moonhunter9993 hmm i completely cut out refined sugar and dairy products and it changed me and my emotional reactions TREMENDOUSLY, im like almost a new person. However what you said about gluten is interesting. Do u have some information about why it works? I love spaghetti and it would be a huge decision haha
@@lora4624 as i said, cutting out sugar works for some. I am glad it made a difference to you! But you didn't go "keto" and cut out ALL starch. There are some awesome gluten-free pastas out there. I even make my own pizza. So one theory goes that depression is "brain inflammation" (or at least is influenced by inflammation in the body). Gluten is a major inflammatory agent. So less gluten, less inflammation, less symptoms. You could also potentially be gluten-intolerant (or celiac), then your immune system is involved. An auto-immune reaction feels a lot like depression. Many people think it's like IBS. But it has a lot of mental symptoms. In that case, you should not touch ANY gluten. And cutting out a little bit of gluten will not really make a difference. You can go to the American Coeliac Foundation website: coeliac.org I think. And get more info. Good luck! Forgot to say: gluten is not just in wheat! but also in oats, barley and rye. Also in most processed foods, like spices, tomato and soya sauce, sauces, soups etc.
If you're watching this video and feeling like you're at the end of your rope, please know that you're not alone. It's okay to reach out for help, whether that's through therapy, medication, or just talking to a friend. It can be a long and difficult journey, but there is hope and healing on the other side. Thank you to the creator for sharing their story and shedding light on this important topic.
I'm skeptical about using mushrooms for mental health, but Dr.hansenrosario's research is really compelling. Their products seem to be high-quality, too.
Finally someone who talks about living with depression in a way I can identify with! Especially the oversleeping and hating running part 🌝 I’m also on SSRI’s (two types) and trying not to shame myself for it. Trying to think abt my depression as diabetes; some people need insulin and some manage just with regular exercise and healthier eating.
Not a good analogy unfortunately. Depression is multifaceted and SSRI's stop serotonin from being re uptaken across the synapse. The body makes serotonin in the stomach and it cannot just keep a build up at the synapse so, the body learns to naturally dispense it after a while.That while happens to be around 3 months. That's the period when you either need to up the dose or change your medication to get another build up of it to feel the euphoria of a build up of serotonin again. The body also stops making as much of its own seratonin because, again, the body is sensitive to itself and realises it doesn't need to make as much itself. That's why you get withdrawal symptoms because it takes time for the body to start making its own seratonin again. It's been shown that your body gives you the same seratonin from exercise that any drug will and your body knows how to reuptake it. Type 1 diabetes in the other hand is when the body is not able to make insulin at all itself. This is very different to seratonin. There's is absolutely no evidence that your body is not making seratonin and the chemical imbalance theory was debunked long ago in the 80's (see many research papers on this). In fact, SSRI's cause a chemical imbalance in the body. That's not too say they can't be helpful if in extreme depression. It's just that the long term research is not good for mental health drugs, whilst short term use can be helpful to get you kick started. Type 2 diabetes is an insulin resistance issue mainly due to diet and can be reversed with lifestyle changes.
@@KJ-lb4tj Thanks.. I’m a neuro-nurse and I already know all this tho. Still, it’s been the best comparison I’ve found when it comes to approaching the illness, especially for people who aren’t in healthcare and don’t know abt neurotransmitters or insulin resistance. I absolutely agree depression is multifaceted and can be biological, environmental etc, but I disagree that the serotonin-imbalance theory is debunked. It’s still a hot topic and I could find just as much research proving a link between the two, as you could that it’s not. The point is that researchers don’t know yet why SSRI’s work for some and not others, and for some it’s absolutely crucial to function at all, like myself. You’d never shame a diabetic for using insulin, so why shame a person with depression for using SSRI’s?
@@charlie5115 Try your best to reduce SSRI's to the lowesr power [mg] which usually has no side effects. Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath and mind [brain] are closely related causing stress-anxiety. For a better life sit on a chair, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations. Change happens from within if done regularly. Day or night, when taking a walk, sitting in a park, when reading, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@Ed Kofron If under medication avoid Benzos which are habit forming. Avoid watching negative social media or shows. Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath and mind [brain] are closely related causing stress-anxiety. For a better life sit on a chair, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations. Change happens from within if done regularly. Day or night, when taking a walk, sitting in a park, when reading, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
I'm not sure if kyle reads these comments but I would like to say that magnesium has helped me. It lowers your cortisol and allows you to rest better. When I first started I think my adrenalin lowered and I got bowled over by tiredness. That is because I wasn't getting enough rest. But coming out of it I felt less anxiety, better concentration ect.
I think the best way to deal with depression is to prevent and episode from happening. The forma is adequate sleep, exercise, diet, and utilizing a social sulpo6network, and adapting to seasonal changes. I get depressed during the winter and I am a loner which means my thoughts tend to spiral. It helps to know yourself because once you're in an episode it's extremely difficult to get out of one. I know it's cliche but this is a preventative way. When it happens, Im lucky I have a therapist. It just takes a while. I pray for everyone who is suffering right now. It's the little things that get us into episodes and it's little things that will get us out 💜💜
Very true I completely agree! I think a fundamental of dealing with depression is different types of distraction I find such as music, walking, writing. Taking my mind to another place rather than what I call a 'dark place'. Also replacing my potentially negative thoughts with positive ones.
The advice on exercise is the best I’ve ever come across for people who don’t enjoy exercise. I’ve always been thin as well and so never needed to exercise for weight loss. However, it helps my depression immensely. I’ve been using the approach described here for most of my life. I do 30 min - 3 or 4 times a week. I don’t have a set routine. I turn on my favorite hip hop music and do what ever the hell I feel like doing that day. I feel energized, as well as proud that I’m being consistent with my goal.
@Trinity M Perhaps you haven't found the music that you need, perhaps that's it. I found Sweet Thing by David Bowie stopped me from leaving this world many a time.
You guys I have felt a change when I stopped eating breads/pastas rice grains. I ate salads and meat. Getting into ketos.. I did fast for 3 days once and intermittent fasting. I'm 60 now I have had Anxiety panic attacks and depression for years. This was the change I felt the most out of everything I ever did. I learned about insulin resistance and microbioem in our body. If we keep our cells happy we are happier. Walking and exercise along with doing something you love like build models or whatever. We have to catch our minds when ever it goes to negative views. All combined is not easy to do but not hard either. We can have a good life I believe it. We have to start with this one as Saduguru says. ;- ) be well everyone.
This is so valuable. My therapist asked me a few weeks ago “what does it feel like to you when I say, “it’s okay to make a mistake”” after I told her I didn’t wanna start something bc I knew I wouldn’t be able to do it everyday. That perspective changed my life and this perspective adds to that shift. Thank you for this Kyle💜
This is exactly where I am right now. Fear of starting anything because nothing ever really works out for me. I'm now stuck in procrastination. I'm thinking of starting therapy again 🤔
This is the first time I feel like someone is just like me in my depression journey. Your suggestions are realistic for chronic depression. THANKS so much!
There's something very open and likeable about Kyle, like a kind of family labrador energy. I was genuinely sorry to find out that he suffers with depression.
Hi. I’m 26 years old and I’m diagnosed with adult adhd. I’m unmedicated atm and am not in therapy, which makes it very easy for me to fall back into my depression and even substance abuse habits. Here’s what mine are: Painting Taking my dog on “adventures”, showing him a good time. Watching new tv shows, not the same ones on repeat Tarot Self care/skin care days I attempt writing lyrics, poetry, or even journaling Making my own blends of tea with herbs Etc, I can’t think of them all. Sometimes, like right now for me, my depression gets so bad that I’ll WANT to do anything at all that I enjoy, anything from the list, but I simply cannot make myself. It’s like self sabotage; I have the drive to want to do things BUT at the same time I don’t have the attention span or energy, or the desire to do anything at all. Not even shower regularly (gross right?) Depression (generally speaking) isn’t linear and is a different experience for everyone who has it, especially when different mental challenges come into play. For all my fellow ADHDers getting medicated for it will help with the depression. Or I hope so at least.
The happiest year of my life, was when I was medicated for my ADHD. Unfortunately I developed heart arrhythmia from it and had to quit. The main thing is exercise, and getting enough sleep. It’s hard because sometimes at night is when I feel my best, but I’m making myself go to bed at a decent hour
Mindfulness is so important. I restore wooden furniture, not in a big way, but for myself, and so fulfilling to see the new look of something I found in a seconds store. Gardening, and if course my dogs. They are my lifesavers. I have been on antidepressants for 43 years, and been diagnosed with major depression cannot afford to not take my medication. Thanks Kyle for your interesting show.
Me too. I have just retired and find myself fully occupied with my animals and land. My fun thing is to do something creative (for myself not with the idea of selling). Over the years I've collected a bunch of stuff that will keep me supplied with enough material to make things for years.
type vipassana meditation on internet and u can go to their website due to some reasons youtube deletes my comments if i post the website link here so i cant comment here or go to my youtube channel and see the first video i gave details about vipassana meditation in the video the website etc vipassana will truly make u a happier person and a peaceful person and i guarantee u 100 percent u wont need to take medications anymore u have tried those medications all ur life so give vipassana 10 days once it will change ur life..thank you take care and may you be happy always
@@ilupillu4915 It's because you're writing the same thing all over this comment section... it could come across as spamming... and it's kinda annoying.
Thank you for the helpful tips. Plants have a healing effect for me, but it’s my daily walks that I find help me manage both my autoimmune disease and PTSD and depression/anxiety. I started slow, and it’s a routine of at least an hour to two hours of walking briskly. Eating clean, also a big one, and I agree with you on the juicing, it’s amazing. I love this channel, and I hope you feel better!
Drinking coffee gets me moving which changes my mind and body. Getting out and joining a support group or talking to a professional helps. Anything that gets us out of our thoughts helps such as exercise. Move!
Oh god i told people coffee saved my life and i dont think they understand that i mean it. It helps me wake up and also gives me a little morning routine which i look forward to.
I loved this video also!!! For me, somewhere in my late 50s and some life events we all go through I just stayed in bed ... for days. 8 months muscle atrophy anhedonia anxiety can't remember my favorite books/people/films/paintings etc. living in an apartment building which even not in covid would be like covid. And yes I had my name down for help etc. but I just needed a dog. Not a person. Not more mess and loss and love and this will end badly or end period ... begone squirrel in my head! It took me a year. I was a missile with a focus. (Always had dogs definitely space in my life, don't try this at home if you'd rather not).... My sis and I are incompatible but when I found this dog she shot me the last $100 and we;re quits and my dog is a pain in the ass. And the light of my life. I broke my hip last month and neighbours reluctantly walked her etc. and had a nervous breakdown doing it although I paid them and they went through all my stuff //// WHO CARES. I'm home. I never thought of the gym; just swimming and walkng and hiking and boats and stuff. So .... how did I begin. I could only manage 10 minutes 2x a day with my puppy who had to learn about pee pads anyway but until my accident we were doing ... definitely 1.5 hrs a day outside bar weather she's a Peke by the way. Used to big dogs. She has a voice. ... long story she's 7 and I'm in my 60s telescoped past/present so much more to learn. I thought this a great video, tx for your great comment! Unedited, from the heart. Was it Emerson (have to look it up) who wrote about people living lives of quiet desperation .... will check prob someone else. No need but like climbing Mount Everest. Best best wishes! And great comment.
This was very helpful. I’m an “all or nothing” perfectionist who is trying to let go and be “a little better”. It’s not easy, but it is simple. Consistency has been my nemesis, but I’m learning that consistently doing a little is so much better than doing nothing.
I totally stand by how consistent exercise encourages healthier habits! Ever since I started exercising every day at home, I feel much better mentally but also physically. My only issue is I still feel tired 😅
Leyna Nguyen ,here same I have been take medicine,do long walks ,eat better but even though I feel always tired and sleepy everyday I have to take nap everyday after work and I take 2-3 hours is not nap anymore
Journaling with music, art, walking in nature helps too. Best help is to have right support system. Great message. In tune with your mood, cool. 🎼😎 Thank you Kyle!
I am discovering [at age 54] that saying "No" to other stuff, namely chores around the house, to give myself time to take care of me is just as important to doing those small things. But, to Kyles point, [thank you Kyle] letting my family know I'm not going to be availabe for so many hours a week because I have to take care of me....is also important. Kyle. You have discovered the first key to success. Take small [You can't lose] steps. Bonus: you fell better because you did something positive.
Always lovely to listen to you Kyle. Deppression can still be a taboo subject to talk about. After a lengthy time of going no contact with a family member, my Grandkids asked me repeatedly as to why I hadn't seen them. I explained it as best I could by telling them "my head broke & that I needed some time out to fix it" They so quickly accepted my response! I recently started to have panic attacks, just about going out my front door, I still go & been here before and I know I'll work through this. Like you, sleep is best way to heal, I suffer with diverticular flare ups, meds & heat work well for me. Same as you re - exercise and routine, can't do it. I can walk down to nearby shop 5mns away & walk home, that's a great day for me. I set myself a challenge this week in an attempt to stop feeling like I was useless. I painted my console table in my hall, yesterday I painted a rather large timber plant holder, both are now white & walked to shop today & bought pretty peace lily to placer in it. I am thrilled with my achievements. I did it,
Having a job makes me miserable but we are expected to follow the system having to listen to people i dont want to talk to and they dont respect me and being bossed about i would be better off without one but we all have to do something these days
I’ve always liked yoga (seems like an obvious one) but recently started taking dance classes and absolutely love it. Also great that it combines the physics activity with “mindfulness” (something I enjoy)
your section on exercise really resonated with me. every time I hear about how good exercise is for mental health I'm like yeah yeah you're right and I don't want to hear it. Setting the bar low and feeling good about doing the small things, because some is better than nothing, is really helpful. I personally find a gym incredibly uncompelling and am trying out some activities like biking with friends that I might find rewarding in and of themselves. Also I go up and down in the math building a lot and try to take the stairs a few times and then take the elevator when I've had enough.
Exercise and social interaction help me with depression. Exercise gives you energy, improves sleep and makes you look better. I'm very isolated, so interacting with people updates me on what they are doing so I don't feel like I'm drifting into nowhere
I do indoor and out plants, taking care of plants those I can use in my kitchen gives me motivation. I do yoga and meditation. I do a little bit knitting and painting of some sort, painting bottles, plant pots etc. Its makes me feel good doing these things.
Although I've heard of these tips too many times to count, there was something about the way it was presented that finally got through to me. Especially the parts about keeping exercise routines realistic and not masking a bad mood with a caffeine boost. Thank you so much!
I have been following medcircle since quite a long time. I missed this video. I would have never imagined that you suffered depression, I certainly missed a video where you mentioned it. I am saddened by this but what is very surprising is that you come across as a brilliant sensitive sweet accurate analytical reliable and self confident handsome man. I already spotted some suffering in your eyes during some interviews but very far from imagining you’ve been suffering from depression since you were 8yrs old. Thank you so much for sharing. I’m in a dark place since 8 years and I’m sure it’s a functional depression. I get everything done but I feel like dying inside and every single day suicidal. Fortunately I have 2 kids who pour me with love and give me motivation. They are my saviours. But it’s hard inside. Thank you very much, you are so precious and helpful. Remember that you are helping thousands of people and it’s what you can be very proud of. I live in france and your help is certainly touching other hearts beating around the world ❤️thank you ❤️
Literally helped me than most of the other counselling I've done. Look counselling is great but when you hear a one on one account of a personal experiences of someone also dealing with depression. That shit hits different! 🤝🙏💛💐✨
This has also become my strategy for exercise! My new routine is walking on the treadmill for 20 minutes or less, stretching and possibly some balancing exercises, then a shower. It is the first time I felt stress-free going to the gym.
Thank you soooo much! I'm having now one of my down periods, and your video reminded me about things that make me feel better. To help myself I often do some of the things you do, but when I'm down I tend to be so escapist that I even escape from thinking about what could make me feel better. It just feels like helping myself is another tiresome thing I desperately want to escape from. And this approach you take to do sports is something I do with most of my life. Just do the minimum an be happy with it. And it makes me feel like "oh, life is not so overwhelmingly demanding any more, and I can stop my escapistic run and enjoy something". Thank you for reminding me about it. I feel really better now. 🥰🥰
Love this video. My bpd symptoms are making an appearance right now, which is making it difficult for me wanting to leave the house. So I've committed to going for a 20 min walk around the block daily this week.
So appreciate your honesty Kyle. I've had so many plans and big ideas of how to live my life better only to end up feeling worse about myself for failing. Love the idea of a bullet journal. Your advice on doing small things consistently really make sense and it's doable. You've really helped me today, thank you.
I love LOVE that you're so open about your depression and the way you handle it. It's so absolutely real life and also something I can relate to very much and... I don't know... thank you. Not that I want you to have depression but hearing someone describe how he feels and being able to actually relate (not the glossy "do this, I can do it, so you can" but the real thing) is seriously helpful!
I too despise exercising, but I've always liked dancing and watching people dance so I figured maybe I could join a dance class. So even though I still hate the feeling of moving my body ang my heart racing, at least I'm enjoying the artistic aspect of dancing. Getitng a bit of exercising that way 2 times a week has given me a bit of a hopeful feeling, like yeah I'm improving, I'm doing something good for myself finally. It's a good start to healing along side using my meds.
As someone who has been working to accept the fact that I some times age regress due to childhood trauma (I have C-PTSD), I couldn't help but smile when you said that you didn't like coloring because it made you "feel like a kid" because that is the exact reason why I some times color books for adults (even when I'm not age regressing) and rather enjoy doing it: it makes me feel like I'm getting in touch with my inner child and allowing them to have a moment to just relax and color and not have to worry about anything. The fact that it can be considered a "childish" activity, is actually part of the appeal for me. I also know a lot of adults who run away from "childish" activities that they really enjoy doing (coloring, playing video games, playing with LEGO, cuddling with plushies, etc.) because they are self-conscious about what other people will think about them but a) you don't need to tell anyone you're doing these things, you're not hurting anybody so it's really no one's business and b) WHO came up with these rules that some activities are for kids and others are for adults? Who decided that, when we grow up, we need to stop enjoying the things we used to do when we were younger? I think that's just one of the many silly things we as a society try to impose on ourselves. Letting go of that "social norm" and allowing yourself to do things that bring you comfort and make you happy, not worrying whether or not you're being "childish", can be quite liberating.
Age regression? I never heard of that, but I was horribly traumatized and abused as a child. Sometimes I act very immature, I wonder if I have a little bit of that going on? I make a joke that I’m a big kid, at 63. But it’s not funny when I act like my eight-year-old grandson while we’re hanging out together. There’s nothing wrong with being fun and kid like, but I’m gonna check into what you shared about child Regression, because I might be doing a little bit of that.
I am Spanish, and the hobby I like most is learning English. I have come to the point where I have improved my listening a lot. And I am glad that I can watch your programs. I suffer from severe BPD and I have learnt a lot.
Wow thank you for this, so relatable! Breaking things into small bites is so much easier than tackling it as all or nothing. Thank you for showing us a glimpse of your life in an honest way.
One thing I’m trying to do is trying to find hobbies outside the house and things that force you to go outside when you particularly don’t want to. Some of them I’ve found is pottery lessons/ any lessons you’ve always wanted to learn, cooking/baking, growing herbs, roller skating/blading, watching a movie by yourself and taking yourself on a date by yourself. Even though you’re in a bad mood the act of acting like a normal, functioning human can make me feel accomplished and any other residual mood I’ve contained, are emotions that definitely need to be expressed in a safe space. Be kind to yourself everyone!
I like to garden, clean, sew, read, decorate, walk my dogs. And, yes! Juicing: carrots, fresh ginger, green apple, celery and kale...yum and it feels CLEAN!
@@BIGMACATTACKfart my recipe for juicing: 2 large carrots, 3 celery stalks, fresh ginger, one Granny Smith apple and 2 cups of kale...sometimes I add 1 raw beet...can u imagine sitting down and eating that quantity? Juicing gives pure vitamins and minerals all in one glass...
@@BIGMACATTACKfart it's easier to digest, so you absorb the nutrients without the "heaviness" of all the fibre. You can juice 5 or 6 carrots, 2 apples, 2 sticks of celery easily and it will give you ONE glass of juice. You eat that much in one session, it takes long, it's tiring and can cause stomach cramps (too much fibre).
Kyle, I wonder if you truly know how much you help others? Please keep up your excellent work. Thank you and all the best from Cape Town, South Africa.
I just wanted to say thank you! I found this channel recently and I am hooked on it. I have dealt with depression since I was a child as well, unfortunately. I am currently 42. I was also diagnosed with multiple sclerosis when I was 22. Its rough. Some days are harder than others. But I know I have a purpose here. I just have to push through the hard days. ❤
Kyle, Thanks for sharing your struggle with depression. The struggle is real. The moment we realize that how we face our mental struggles is not based on how others do it but it’s the methods we have acquired to help our individual emotions to heal. With personal awareness, we can individually fight the emotions that causes pain by replacing or doing the shift. Finding just three reasons why do you know you are loved ?, how beautiful do I view my self ?, and when do want to be happy, at present, or a later time? We can take control of our emotions rather than letting it control the inner self. We are so programmed to be controlled that we often forget how we can be in control of our emotions. We thank you for the conversation.
I like how the way you explain this points away from the all-or-nothing attitude a lot of ppl (including myself) have towards diet and exercise. You don’t often hear that you can do as little as you need to in order to stay consistent with it bc that’s what’s important. Thanks for the advice
I love how you are negotiating w yr body and self. You are saying- yes I will excercize, and as well I will listen to my own body's healthy impulses and preferences as opposed to forcing yourself. So good
I suffer from depression my whole life.My depression is from an abusive childhood.Also I married into an abusive family.People like to criticize me a lot because I'm a mild person.Also my family suffers from serious mental problem and they cause me a lot of stress.Im learning to be stronger and standing up for myself.Im a person who doesn't take good care of myself I've tried 7 years of counciling but I can't take depression medicine it makes me worse .Riding a bike really helps me but I'm still trying to get over long term covid.Also I have real bad arthritis and fibromyalgia and I have to walk with a cane.But exercise does help a lot.
I've had a similar history of depression starting with an abusive childhood. I started Vitamin B12 injections for my peripheral neuropathy and then my depression disappeared completely. I still have anxiety,but it's a lot better. I can concentrate better and understand things much more easily.
@@ultraviolet3905 Oh yes. It's improved fantastically. My walking and balance were terrible and I was starting to not be able to walk without falling over. Also the numbness and tingling has improved. I also had glossitis , painful joints,the list goes on. I feel so much better and gradually improving more.
I agree that exercise helps to zap away some of those negative, gnawing feelings..my only problem is getting enough momentum and motivation to get started 😂 I sometimes have to force myself even to go for a walk some days - the cold weather and early darkness doesn’t help in getting my spirits up 😊 what also helps me is to write down my feelings in my diary and reflect upon and express gratitude for the most basic of things, even for my breath 👍 wishing all depression sufferers all the best 🙏🙏
You made me laugh out loud! I DESPISE EXERCISE as well! Thankfully, as I have been treated for clinical depression for over 45 years, I am not overweight! (Some medications can cause weight gain) I thought I was the only “hater” out there! I also have fibromyalgia and exercise is the best treatment for that as well! Sadly, I would rather just THINK ABOUT EXERCISING! May Gods Blessings Keep you healthy!! Love your “talks”!
Janet, Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath and mind [brain] are closely related causing stress-anxiety. For a better life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations. Change happens from within if done regularly. Day or night, when taking a walk, sitting in a park, when reading, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
I have fibro, depression and other diagnoses. So I get it. I like to watch the Buff Dudes - cause they are fun and give good info. What I learned is that I need to warm up - perhaps in the motion of what moves I will be doing if I'm lifting weights. I'm 4'11" so weight lifting would work better for me. I decided to add in the dog walks as the minimun and go from there with 3 reps of 3 sets of full movement with 1 lb weights to start. Then do stretches. It doesn't take me long and I'm doing something. And I so get it - I too prefer to think about exercising rather than doing it. So any time I actually do it calls for a major non-food treat.
@@shyaaammeneen63 I have very few negative thoughts throughout my days. I have the JOY OF THE LORD and HE keeps my mind positive and praise! My days living the past 11 years in sunshiny Florida add much encouragement to ENJOY MY DAYS! I do agree the breathing exercises help if I fall into a bad time, but it is rare these days. I take a low dose of SSRI’s and get along VERY WELL! PRAISE MY LORD AND SAVIOR!!
@@janetansel8788 My best wishes are with you but remember God expects us to put some effort. God helps only those who help themselves. I combine prayer and meditation. Since last many years I have made it a habit to observe my breath sensations even during my normal activities and I am feeling relaxed and healthy. It is very simple. No deep breathing or counting needed. Anywhere-anytime you can observe your breath sensations. Make it a habit. Read my msg and do the practice regularly to develop your mental muscles. Avoid constipation and reduce negative social media. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir-Counsellor.
Thank you for mentioning the flip side of weight. I am struggling to put on weight. I eat well, regularly. Used all sorts of medications that are infamous for gaining weight, including the one for thyroid gland after the surgery. But what I genuinely miss is my lack of passion for all sorts of sports I've been into since my childhood.
My hobby recently that I just learned how to do is Amish knot rag rugs. It takes some old bedsheets or pillow cases (or possibly tshirts) and a “toothbrush needle”. I bought a wooden one from Etsy. The needle is beautiful and it helps the process. All I do is tie knots in a certain way. It’s not difficult but definitely calming and you have the control in how you change the colors.
Part of my depression has to do with feeling a gap between the person I ve become and the one I wanted to be. After realising that, I started thinking about where are those aspect of my life that I would like to improve... and one of those is the way I look. Since then the way I look improved a lot, and with that my self esteem. And everytime I hesitate about going to the gym... I ask myself, If I want to go back to the person I used to be. And that is an instant trigger to go to the gym.
Why does it have to be the gym? Because it called to you!!! This is great! The short answer: find the place you were that you loved before something broke. And that is definitely the way back for me too. I broke my hip and weights gym stuff a new world for me because I have no intention of being some kind of cripple. I did what I loved; I swam and hiked with my dog and was on the rowing team and in the distant past I KNOW what it feels like to be part of a horse. My Dad was an underwater diver and a million other things but I do understand depression. Both he and my mum went through hell in war torn countries : they could not protect their children from the world and there was immense love and understanding but perhaps something of a prison which was never their fault. perhaps for another time and place but wonderful comment, tx. Meet you at the gym ... think it's part of my future my good friend best wishes to all.
I Appreciate your brazen honesty about not enjoying working out ) I also follow my own routine , & nothing is over 30 min, as you said, consistency is key, whatever it is ! 🙌
Thank you for your honest account and for sharing this. Sorry to hear it's been bugging you since the age of 9, depression can be a real b! Thanks for being authentic and vulnerable
That point about IBD and sleep is soo soooo true. I have ulcerative colitis and extra sleep literally helps me stave off flare ups. Why doesn't anyone talk about this!? It's the single best thing you can do for IBD - I really believe that
Kyle, thank you for your transparency, that just describes me. This video is a success because it is simple and true. Now with covid I just do not know if my sadness is depression...
I agree so much on the way you framed the exercise thing. If I just put on my workout clothes and walk five minutes out the door and just turn back around and go back inside and veg out the rest of the day everyday it’s way better and more helpful than what I was doing before. I am proud of myself for being consistent and it does come along w me making better choices sometimes. If you make it a big thing with depression, it seems impossible and you’re less likely to do it and even less to be consistent. So telling myself the bare minimum is okay and if I feel like it, I can do more, that is so helpful and actually makes me take action. I’ve been practicing this for the past 3 months, I got sober too and I’m feeling so much better. I’m not suic!&@l anymore and that’s revolutionary bc I wanted to do that every day before making those changes.
Love this! Very relatable. As a fellow exercise loather?, I too can manage 30 minutes a day. Anymore is overwhelming and I find I’m more likely to skip it. Good tips.
I honestly didn’t want to click on this video because I thought it was going to be the same advice I’ve heard 100 times but this helped me so much💙I’m the same way with the gym. I always push myself too hard which makes me not want to go at all. I need to remember that it’s ok to do short work outs and start small /go easy on myself. I’m always way too hard on myself. Thank you for this video!
So glad I watched this.....I thought this was going to be something that discouraged meds or something but it was a delight to see it wasn't. This was encouraging for me to just be consistent and not b so hard on yourself
I think volunteering in the community takes you outside yourself and kind of makes me appreciate my life when things look really bleak / meaningless ...last winter we were in the lockdown blues and my son and I did a fundraising walk for homeless youth shelter....this xmas I want to make care packages for homeless youth my family has enough stuff already
Thanks for sharing; heartening to hear someone being realistic and talking about how hard it is to deal with depression. Thanks for the tips and good luck with everything you do.
I suffered depression and anxiety for years been treated with meds that only made me worse. I ended up with a terrible mis-diagnosis of Paranoid Schizophrenia. I started Vitamin B 12 injections, firstly for my peripheral neuropathy and my depression suddenly disappeared. I told my doctor ( who then gave me loading me loading doses) and subsequently neurologists told me all my mental health problems were caused by Vitamin B 12 deficiency. The diagnosis of Paranoid Schizophrenia was deleted. I still have some anxiety ,but it's a lot better. My concentration, memory ,have all improved greatly. My irritability and poor judgement has gone.
I greatly appreciated your segment on exercise. I tell my clients these exercise tips for managing mental health, but often forget them for myself (naturally). Thank you for the reminder. Also, feel better soon!
When I took 'Prozac' felt like my brain was growing! I've been watching 'MedCircle' periodically, and earlier today was just thinking 'Kyle' has something more to share about himself with viewers. Re: something that happened in his life? Thank-You Kyle for Sharing and caring enough to help others! Believe you are reaching millions. Honestly believe anger turned inward = depression. Asking God in Jesus name to send ministering angels across your path. I have been depressed for 35+ years. I am not currently medicated with anti depressants. Kyle please keep sharing you can reach millions.
I adore you Kyle. I must say you are absolutely perfect for this channel. You are doing such a phenomenal job in case you didn’t know that already ;) Never hurts to hear it! Thank you for this, it means a lot.
Kyle you have quite a few women and possibly men crushing on you. I hope you brush up on the skills necessary to handle this. Part of it is all you, and the fact you allow yourself to be authentically vulnerable in your recent videos. I know this is something you have worked toward, so Congratulations!😊❤
Walking has the added advantage of the aesthetic element. You can take in the beauty of the countryside in a way that you can't when jogging/running or in a gym. That's therapy in itself.
Well hello, I am just discovering your channel and I love your attitude and the humor! I have the same reaction when I'm told just change your diet, and do exercise. You are being so real and realistic, it makes it easier to embrace your input.
consistency & just showing up is the key! your whole message is amazing i needed to hear this & probably will come back to listen to it - Thank you so much! 💝💝💝💝
Exercise is a great way to get the mind to stop focusing on all the problems and darkness in this world. Each person and situation will be a bit different, so we have to be creative and see what someone responds to.
I totally agree. I had been walking 10k steps minimum each day for 2 weeks and I felt better about myself. (Only the flu hit me yesterday. I will have to start walking in about a week.) Have a great day 🍀
This is soooo true. What prolongs the cycle of depression for me is being unproductive. When I'm depressed I procrastinate and before I know it I have done nothing I was supposed to do which feeds my depression even deeper because now I'm depressed I am stagnant and haven't gotten anything done.
