3 Ways To Get An Introvert To Open Up 

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asking an introvert to open up is like asking an extrovert to shut up

That last point is so good. It’s so frustrating when the extroverts in my life immediately fill in the gap with more words and more questions or thoughts.

I am the introvert and it just feels so good to be understood.

I don't understand why anyone thinks it's such a challenge to get an introvert to "open up." I tend to be quiet in groups because as the number of people increase the depth of conversation decreases. I cannot talk about nothing. When someone lightly asks "what have you been up to lately," the bland banal reply that extroverts seem to expect actually takes a lot of effort. It's so much easier -- and genuine -- to take a few moments to sort out what's I've been doing and find a way to express it well. Anything less feels so superficial and phony that I can't stand it. "Faking it" is very stressful. Ask real questions about real things and you'll learn a lot about me pretty quickly.

My 18 year old son is an introvert, and this helps me so much. Thank you!!

That was very helpful I have a friend who is a introvert and I'm trying to find more ways to conversate with her making most comfortable for her.

Some of these introverts have romantic hearts so that's the trade-off. Sure they're shy or whatever but they like when you touch them, and if they like you, when you get close to them. Sometimes that's preferable to talking. That's fine with me because I like being close to the introverted woman I like.

just don't ask 10 questions at once, ask one and give them time to answer...

Strange. Actually as an Ambivert, I unconsciously switched my way to interact with them. I ask opinion about things and I don't push too much for answers, even though, I chat as an extrovert and it s very difficult to me to talk less 😅

Thanks a lot for these tips! :)

This is such a good video, you are underrated my queen ❤️

I really appreciate this advice.

You’re more than amazing

This is actual gold

When you are surrounded with narcissist opening up is meaningless. If the company you are in open minded then a person can open up.

If I can like this video 1000 times I definitely would.

Hi Antoinette great content on this and all other videos you made and I got to see. Helped me better understand my introvert child he is 11 yrs and quite an introvert... and he brother 8 yrs is on the opposite of the scale 🙂 so for getting to play with them and find a comn ground sometimes is chalanging. Any advise on how to bring the introvert closer to a middle ground and how to bring the extrovert closer to the same middle ground especially for children, brothers that have to spend so much time together... But I can definitely see when the big brother (introvert) just had enough of bit of us... and needs his quiet time... But does not know how to say it. Now I know I need to pay more attention and give this quiet time and space 🎉🙏

I'm an introvert and I. Can relate to that

Thank you so much madam for your video... I have a new friend who is an introvert and I really need him to open up to me about his problems and help him..

so,- past introvert (though possibly cynic with issues??) however possible it may be, now leaning extroverted the person who really got me to open up intrigued me ig? loud and boastful and overly emotional, in contrast to my introvert self lonely and in the depths of despair bla bla, they caught my attention, sure at first it caught me off guard and confused me, cuz why would they want anything to do with _me_ , forever lost in my own mind and someone generally quite spoken (at the time ofc) They asked me for my number, taken aback and slightly excited, i handed it over and yeah thats when the chaos came forth and out into the open At long last, someone would take the time to listen to the blooming ideas prancing around in my head like a rotisserie chicken to wii music, showing great interest and even interacting, sharing their own opinions and round off fantasies before long i reluctantly started calling them a friend and well, fascinated by this new light, started taking on their own qualities, sort of mimicking their behaviour or maybe more so matching their energy until it became a habit gradually, i started opening up to people and they helped me discover parts of myself i never knew ive hidden from all this time [if any of this makes sense????] now i definitely find that one on one conversation works great with most when getting to know new people and that spark of “oh? you understand me?” you see in anothers eyes when they see theyre actuallt being _listened to_ is always a gem to see

How to talk when you’re both introverts?

Heellp !! :) I like the way you talk and explain things , therefore I dare to ask this. I feel very attached to someone special, who is very introvert . Its like you described him in your video... I know for a fact he does not want to cut the contact with me, and we are just being at the beginning of a friendship. But he just does not answer my emails , after I said no to a meeting , just to postpone it...A week ago...I am desperate to do the communication his style , just do not know how and do not want to push either !! :)And my patience is reaching my limit . Thank you !!!

As an introvert I feel seen

Interesting. As an extrovert, I am wondering how interoverts do in a required group setting at work, school, and such in a short window of time to accomplish the goal? Yeah I get that patience is a virtue that introverts could have but at the same time, it a matter of getting things done.

Leave them alone. They will appreciate it

Is it hard for u to talk about serious issues? Like Confrontation? How can i get an introvert to talk about his emotions? He said nothing at all.. Not even a goodbye or tht he wanna end contact.. He likes me.. N was curious n fascinated by me.. A secret Admirer.. But he isn't allowed to date me as he is in a rs.. with house n child. In the beginning he told me how he felt n tht it is serious.. I told him how I feel n tht he just should say anything... He told me we gonna meet again.. But after getting into this serious talk about emotions he shut it down n go quite.. Wht should i do

Lol , Get out of my heaaaad!!!

Buenas tardes

I’m asking him so politely always about everything but somehow he is not that much giving me effort to really answer that and that’s why sometime I am worried that he really care or he really mean it or he’s not having any feelings it’s too hard for me to understand him give me any tips please to make him comfortable with me to ask some deep conversations

I don't know if she's an introvert but in person she's really shy and only talk when you talk to her, but when I chat her she responds hours after or even a day and I respect her and sometimes she doesn't reply and leave me on delivered. Is it a sign she's not interested to me or she is interested to someone?

What if I am an introvert ? 🙂

it's hard i swearr

I am an ambivert. 🙂 What is your goal with your channel?

I can't

Why do they need time to process the words?

introverts only open up to another introvert.

Why do extroverts feel compelled to get introverts to "open up?" Why can't they just accept us as we are? Or maybe we should try to get them to shut up and listen and think before they blabber for a change.

How to get an introvert open up if you are also an introvert?

lol ask them open ended questions

Sound like Slow Thinkers

Introvert are like cyclists, they do what they want and the rest of us have to adapt..,

Stupid idea. They are introvert.. you want them open up for what.. they are not mental or selfish. They are just who they are.