4 Reasons To STOP Watching Narcissism Videos in 2023 

When my last relationship ended I was so confused about what had happened. I suspected he was a covert narcissist and I did watch lots of videos to try and understand his behaviour. I stopped after about 4 months and then digested everything and processed it all. After 9 months I understood what had happened and I accepted it as a terrible but valuable experience. The videos helped me to understand and were a good route to further my journey.

easy to say move on & get over it until you encounter a malignant narcissist, I have often wondered if narcissistic abuse & recovery videos are not just keeping me stuck in a loop but they literally saved my life and taught me all I need to know about human behaviour, they also taught me what no therapist ever would nor anyone in the real world because it is still so taboo & unchartered territory, so thank you to the narc survivor RU-vid community for saving my sanity

I came to a similar conclusion recently. For me - at this point in my journey - it's time to focus less time on the narcissists and more time on myself. I hope that ultimately I'll be happier because of that decision.

Oh no, do watch them if you’re terribly confused dealing with a narc. Someone needs to validate your feelings and more importantly inform you about what it is you’re dealing with. It’s way to confusing to do it alone. Once you have all the answers you’ll naturally move on into healing. That’s what happened to me and if it wasn’t for extremely helpful info on RU-vid it would have taken me much much longer. Thanks to everyone who educates online on narc abuse! You save people’s lives!

So happy to see you back! 😊 I think watching quantity of narcissism videos depends on the individual journey of everyone and of the support they have from a professional or if they are on the journey alone. Lone journey can take longer. If somebody has been living under narcissistic conditions for decades, finding out about it and watching many videos might be just the treatment they need for now. When somebody is depressed, anger is a step up and brings relief. And the length of this phase is variable for everybody I believe as well. Looking forward to more videos from you and all the best in 2023! 😊

Already did. You’re absolutely right. Time to let go!!!

Welcome back Dr. Saad. I agree that one should not obsess over Narcissism or NPD. People are doing it because lives are being destroyed by this phenomenon; especially if you've been in a relationship for decades only to find out it was fraudulent. The shock takes a very long time to get over. However we all must move on and keep the knowledge learned in our toolbox for later use if needed.

Diagnosed or not, these videos saved my life ( yes literally), because of triangulation, watching these videos put me in the company of people going thru what I was going thru, and I had encouragement and I was able to defend myself.. I am now watching less of them because I am now transcending to my strong self, but I it feels good when I write word of encourageme to the ones that are just now realizing that they are "not crazy", but in a manipulative situation. Yes my ""narcisist"" youtube watching is dwindling, but I will always have a word of encouragement for the ones that are on the thick of it. I know that helps, belive me I KNOW!!

I have a "narcissist" in my life and I agree with this video. I learned what I needed to learn and then I realized I was watching more narcissist content to just stew and fester about that relationship. Also as an emath, I realized the videos were feeding my victim mentality and keeping me stuck. Learn what you need to learn and then move on. Work on yourself and your life will be better.

As a victim of two narcissistic parents in psycotherapy I do agree. Once you understand the situation on the other one it's time to focus on yourself. And it's a long way! So I'd advice not to get stuck watching videos about narcissism. I'm waiting for your next videos, Abdul. ☺☺☺.

Same thing I felt with talking about the narcissist in real life with people I confided in. To move on and not remain in the same place, I had to stop talking about it with other. Who were not honestly doing anything to help me except listen to me complain. 😊 Alhamdulilah

I whole-heartedly agree. I have a PhD in psychology and have watched as anyone who is disliked by another person is labelled as a narcisist, and slandered. Watching too much of this content can make you look at absolutely everyone through this lens. I think one of the most helpful keys to recovery is to try to "raise your vibrational" by attuning to more positive pursuits. Kudos on becoming a transformational coach!

It also turns the viewer after an extensive period of time, into a neurotic/paranoid person with little empathy and more pessimism towards society. God bless!

the community of people on youtube was a Godsend for me, helped me put the pieces together and know i am not alone. i agree though, we have to start focusing in our own blind spots and strengthen those so we dont stay stuck

Watching videos about narcissistic personality disorder helped me to realize that there are people in the world that are evil. We are living in a time where more and more people are narcissistic. I'm so thankful for all of the videos out there that help to explain what we are dealing with and how to move on and choose to be with people who are not narcissistic. I watch the videos to remind myself that there are others that have been taken advantage of too and abused by someone with narcissistic personality disorder and I'm not alone in this world. If you have never been through narcissistic abuse you cannot understand how long it takes to heal from it and how helpful it is to have a support group.

I'm 27 years old, and in my journey realised that i always had narcissistic people around be it relationships, relatives, or friends. who made me feel horrible, constantly in different ways.. I felt I had no one who understood me. as a result I felt ashamed for feeling anything, felt guilt. I have been fighting the wrong battle so far. Very recently 2 months ago, i started learning about these patterns in people, that led me to these videos, I'm educating myself on this vast phenomenon of narcissistic behaviour (not NPD). It has helped me tremendously. Everyday I'm learning more and more. which doesn't necessarily mean that I'm hateful towards the people who have done this to me, but I'm able to take wiser, well informed decisions in my life, understand toxic patterns and Set boundaries to protect myself. I'm a more secure person now. I'm becoming stronger through these videos. Each have their own journey. Many have just started and many who'd take many more years to come back here to learn. Though I must add I agree with your point, It really does blind side our own responsibility in a dynamic. We must broaden our approach.

i am stuck in the situation....i find the videos empowering. they help me stay strong with each incident and stop be from falling for his antics. they remind me to not engage with him....not try to explain or reason with him.

There’s something super soothing about watching this, my one thousandth video on narcissism.

So good to see you back! 👏Yes, please make more videos. 🙏 This is a great motivational video to show why we must transform, transcend and heal. Thank you.

This message has helped me better understand what im going through. Yes i have absolutely over watched many videos trying to understand what I was really going through. I still feel like my narcissist is still in my mind. Im 5 months no contact and ive reached out for help but was told i was just complaining about the abuser. I didn’t get what I thought was going to help me recover from my abuser. Needless to say im doing my recovery on my own and healing my heart and my life back to somewhat normal again. My journey is just beginning and ive got a long way to go. After 7 years of abuse. Leaving was the best thing I’ve ever done for me. God bless you all. And may you all have peace of mind and peace in your life once again 🙏

I relapsed... after a long time( about a year). I had a trigger that sent me back to watching the NPD content.. JUST FOR TODAY I WILL GET BACK TO MY EMPATH RECOVERY

I agree 100% with everything that you said in this video. I was introduced to the subject of narcissism when I can across one of your videos on the subject about 5 years ago. Yours and other videos on the subject helped me to recognize that I was a narcissist and motivated me to change. But having watched and learned from the videos, I've moved beyond them and now am able to live in much better relationships with my wife and other people. I'm still working on things, but I'm a lot better off than where I used to be. Thanks for making the original videos and also for this video that contains very wise advice.

I agree, it’s confirming what you already know and just brings up bad memories - it’s a huge trigger for me and there’s nothing you can do help people like that, they can’t change, you can only change yourself and your own journey. I think people bandy NPD around far too much, it’s much more nuanced than that. Sometimes, just sometimes people are very unkind, manipulative, entitled - doesn’t mean they’re a narc - they may have traits but they can have traits and not have NPD.

Welcome back! You've been missed.

I've much needed the last 3 yrs of narc videos!! I've accepted my mom n sibs will never change. That acceptance took a long road to get to. I'm in healing therapy now.

I have found your content to be extremely educational and useful. I completely understand your point about people who become obsessed with labeling people in their lives as narcissist and watching too much content that keeps them in a bubble

Wow you look amazing Abdul! Whatever it is you are doing is really working for you! 🙂 I have always loved your channel and your empathy. Thank you for this video, I had just made the decision to stop watching videos on the subject as 3 years post discard I finally feel like I have reached total saturation. Thanks for all you share 🙏❤️

I am 100% in agreement with you. As a clinical psychologist, I have had to convince patients that their ex-partners, parents, bosses, or friends are not in fact diagnosable as having Narcissistic Personality Disorder, even when they "show" all the appropriate characteristics. More frequently I describe them as immature or with narcissistic tendencies, rather than NPD. It is the popularization of psychological terms that is creating this kind of collective hysteria about NPD. Great video, thanks for sharing!

I'm there. Needed it for longer than id wish. I was surrounded by toxic and knowing doesnt make it easy to get them to stop. Walked away from almost everyone and no regrets. I know enough to trust my choices. Its cost me almost everything but I'm winning and I got the courts to get my son back in my life. Still working on forgivness after what his mother has been doing never mind all the other fools that pushed their luck. Good luck to good people.

So good to see you back!!!!!! I learned a lot about myself as an empath that I didn't know. I had been ostracized by my family for my sensitivity my entire life. Love to see you again. I'll watch for more videos!!

Wow I needed this message! So great to see you back ! Thank you for your uploads 🙌

Grrrr. It was time to hear that. A week has been enough. But I would like to emphasize how important having this information readily available is and how validating it can be as a daily reminder of what was actually happening and to remain strong. The empath tendency to forgive and forget while continuing to look for the best in people, in my opinion, is a key feature in the dynamic. As is the empath's tendency to ruminate. Personally, also as a pretty analytical person, I find it endlessly fascinating how fully defined narcissistIC patterns truly are, once you gain the painful perspective on it. And that is the only path out. On the other hand, I also noticed two things about the YT narc community. One was the almost universal expression of how much better life is once you reach that point and how bad you never realized it slowly got. That was so encouraging and how I feel on good days. And the other was the anger. They are heartfelt and perfectly echo my feelings as I start to untangle. But then I look at these same providers - again, no disrespect or lack of gratitude intended - and they seem just as angry as they were in videos they made a year or two ago. Having experienced a similar phenomenon in recovery programs - where people get a little better but then seem to want to stay there - it concerns me a little as to the overall goal. Again, in my case, I came at this remote amateur unqualified guess at narcissism via a circuitous, relationship-long quest to figure out exactly what was wrong with her. And help, of course. :) But my path started with possible physiological TBI and then progressed through the patterns of behavior. My point being, the effect is brutal to the "victim", but I am still not fully convinced of overall conscious intent. Or that they truly have any other choice in behavior. Oh, I think it is important to mention that I am staring therapy with a licensed mental health professional. The only thing I do know is that I was in over my head.

Glad your back! In the past your words have helped me. Was just thinking no one has gone into life after healing from narcissistic abuse. Victims of long term abuse who put the work in have rewired their brains. Removed things/people that don't serve them. Have a brand new perspective on life. Look forward to accepting the past experience learning/applying their knowledge and looking forward to the future. Instead of the victim hate them for living attitude. Hmmm.... Invalidating is rampant on some channels. Those people are clearly showing their unhealed issues or newly formed ones. Healing and learning never stop in life but you do out grow the box you confine yourself in stopping further growth only stunting yourself. Really looking forward to your future videos.

I have to say I think you’ve helped me. I was raised by a narcissistic alcoholic mother. I was married to my narcissistic husband for 12 years. I finally broke free and found myself in another narcissistic relationship within months and was in it for almost 2 years. I knew from the start but continued anyway and shut off listening to my gut. We broke up 1 week ago and I was so fed up of watching videos. I deactivated my Facebook and blocked him. I just felt so broken and stuck. Then I decided I would heal myself. I done it before I know I can do it again. Less than 2 years I had a spiritual awakening. I felt truly at peace and so strong. I then found your videos. You’ve shocked me into reality and all I want to do is heal myself. Thank you so much for your content. It’s made such a huge difference. And to be honest I would be happy if I never see another narcissist video in my life.

Already realised that it’s now time to stop looking at what they are like and why and time to look at me! I can’t wait for you next post thank your

Lovely to see you back your one of my favourite experts on this topic. I think the narcissism videos are great when survivors are waking up to the form and origins of the behaviour to help them understand it and deal with it. The problem is if you're not careful you can become stuck in the victim pattern archetype. The whole point is to be informed, educate then act on that and use that knowledge and apply it. I see this in recovery too, so many people go around and around cyclically repeating the same being stuck in the victim role. There is no judgement just compassion and understanding from my side.

Yes, I have been obsessed watching these videos for about 2 years. With the time that I heal more and more, I started to noticing myself getting tired of hearing the topics of narcissism. I know that means I am getting enough of it and it’s time for me to no longer invested in it. I know what I learned, that is enough. Once a while I will still click some of these topics and just to find out all they are talking about , I have already known. So thank them for these knowledge, but at some point you have to get done with it and really living.

Like many others, I too decided to stop watching videos on narcissism. As much as I appreciated the support I received from content creators on RU-vid, I was starting to feel very negative within myself after consuming hours of such videos. Like someone mentioned, you DO need to do this for a while, to get knowledge and experience not to repeat this in the future. However, when the lessons are learned and ingrained, it’s time to move on. Otherwise, you end up becoming angry and bitter and staying that way. It’s time to move on, along with the lessons.

I was truly meant to see this video. I have been on the verge of this revelation for a month or so. And have reached this conclusion within the last week or so. You were extremely vital to my path in the beginning of my journey. Your videos on zinc and magnesium deficiency were very instrumental in allowing me to be in a place to regulate my horribly abused hormonal system. Narcissism, narcissistic traits, or just plain old toxicity by any means. Was only beneficial for my awareness of the inexperience and delusion in which I engaged with life. What drew me to you was your sincere ability to encompass the whole problem in a logical manner. I completely agree that becoming to engrossed in this topic prevents one from escaping the victim/perpetrator merry go round. In reality both parties are both at different times in the relationship. I have reached this conclusion by taking a path of ever increasing faith. That all things will be used to my benefit through faith. The to this revelation is that "none have a righteous heart". Be ignorant in ones "innocence" is the most damaging delusion of all. Thank you very much for this video. I would very much like more content complementary to this. God bless.

I’m so glad you’re back ❤

Welcome back. I did watch videos on Narcissistic behaviour in the beginning and initially I found them to be helpful, I could relate to much of what was being said and found it somewhat comforting to know other people were in the same boat. I watched them for a few months but decided to unsubscribe as I felt I was trapped in listening to terrible stories of anguish and as you said misery. The decision was based on wanting to move on and heal. Live in the present and look to the future with happiness. Continuing my onwards and upwards ,,,,

Thank you for your honesty about this! There's many channels out there who are just in it to make money off of grieving people. You're one of the few good ones with honesty and transparency and you care about the actual betterment of people and not just your pocketbook. I hope this resonates with people like it should!

Welcome back! 😊 Greetings from Sweden. ❄️ 🇸🇪 And by the way you’re right doctor about the loop and over-consumption of narcissism videos. I still keep a few quality content producers in my feed, but after a heavy obsession in 2020 I gradually went off the narcissism videos. I still click and listen from time to time, but I can’t even remember when last I engaged in the comment section. This is a rare exception 😊.

Thank you for this mature point of view. Its crucial that we all work on developing a more complex view of reality. Yes, some of us have indeed dealt with true NPD family members, but letting go of anger is a healthier process than holding on to it, as well as adopting a mentality that does not divide human beings into groups of mentally healthy/unhealthy empath/narcisst etc.(as these "its not you, its them" type of videos encourage).

I’m really glad to see more videos like this. The finger-pointing between everyone calling each other narcissists has really been doing damage lately.

Thank you. More than what happened in an extremely abusive relationship, I became obsessed w/not being able to fathom how people could be so deceitful, cruel and heartless. Yet, at the same time, they are enabled by law and society to remain untouchable, w/o consequence... due to their ability to manipulate and keep steps ahead w/their expertise to scheme, plot and preparation. This 1 video, made me realize, I have hindered my own healing by dwelling on the "how could they", instead of "how could I allow it"

You're so right. I think for me it has served as some kind of exposure therapy because of how it kept me reliving and revisiting painful and confusing experiences. But also, I had been gaslighted to the point of doubting my perception, and needed to know that I wasn't necessarily completely bonkers. It's been past time to move forward for a good while, and strangely, it doesn't hurt or matter as much anymore (usually), and I have been. It has brought me JOY (!) to see your face and hear your message. Thanks! P.S. I will probably still watch some channels, sometimes, because I really love the people who have helped me.

Your videos were some of the first ones I watched on narcissism and the greatest blessing to my healing and getting out of a terrible marriage to a covert narcissist. I will be cutting back in 2023 in watching so many videos. I’m ready to get on with my life and stop watching so much content because it is the same recycled information. Excellent point.

I just love this session. Thank you soo much. God Bless you for all the good inspirational vibrations you send out.

True. I came to this conclusion on my own. This video is confirmation. I also have built up a wall and almost became paranoid about everyone I encounter.

Thank you so much for pointing this out. It never really occurred to me that my need for validation was actually not doing me much good other than focusing on the negativity. By now, I've figured it out and need to push myself to move onto the next step-a safe exit plan. That one's going to be much more complicated. 🙏🏻❤️

I agree with this video thank you for sharing. Me personally I’m ready to stop blaming and shaming my ex and just take full responsibility for my part in it.

I think I agree with you. I have been watching so many. I believe I learn enough of these and can move on with my life. I thank those who made these video for me to learn.

I love this video. I am guilty of being bored and watching Narcissism videos. Rarely do I learn much new, and I have found that so many people have similar and different experiences. Sometimes it doesn’t even feel like what is being talked about is Narcissism. Perhaps just a very selfish, emotionally immature person. We shouldn’t be self-diagnosing people, but it can help us get out of our situations or understand them more deeply because it is confusing when you are close to someone with these traits. It reaches a point, where it is losing its necessity and helpfulness. I’ve sharply declined on my attention to Narcissist videos, but this feels like confirmation that I am on the right track. This was brave and good to put out to the RU-vid space. Thank you.

I agree. The resources are there to help us to understand and to help us on our healing journey. I found your videos in 2019 and they really helped me along with some other coaches. If we are not mindful it could become toxic and keep us stuck in the past. I have found in recent times coming across content on narcissism really triggers me and I realised I had healed and have moved on. They no longer serve any positive purpose except making me feel uncomfortable. Thank you for your great work in sharing all your knowledge and wisdom, you really have helped me and probably thousands of other people in our healing journey. Love and light to you and may you be divinely protected.

Last week I wondered, how you are and what you are doing...and there you are :) What a synchronicity...

We do become what we behold, consume, watch, etc! Your videos were SO incredibly supportive to me when I was recovering from the last relationship and at some point it was clear I needed to learn, watch and be consuming more healthy emotional content. To Be that.

I really needed to hear this in spite of the fact I have not been watching NPD videos for a long time. If I can afford you and you’re available, I need to set up an appointment. I really do.

A very valid perspective Dr. Saad . I must say ,the information available here on You Tube has been instrumental in my learning and understanding the issues within the areas of personality disorders . Having said that ,You are correct , One must be very careful when viewing content that steers away from learning and is more about venting and expressing resentment, anger and blame .Your perspective here is one to truly ponder as we move forward to deeper levels of healing and transformation .Thanks again .Good to see you back ! Portsmouth ,NH. USA .

Every person had different experiences, different levels of abuse, different phases of recovery. For me, it was an entire year of a relationship. I inadvertently caused a narcissistic injury in public and the mask came off… I never endured abuse put looking back, there were little manipulation tactics used. I immediately understood what I was dealing with and went NC. I escaped, unscathed and intact. After 1 month of watching videos, I actually found it therapeutic to better understand what it was I dealt with. After 1 month, I can say that I’m in a different place in my healing and I want to move forward. No more videos for me… I wish you all happiness and healing in your recovery. Love yourself first and love yourself the most. ❤

Good to see you and, to receive this important message.

I Totally agree. Maintain NO CONTACT. Learn the LESSON & MOVE ON With Your Life. It Keeps U in the Trauma Bond as Well. I was Just Thinking The Very Same. Thank You 🙏🏽 So Much Sir. Have a Magnificent 2023! 🙏🙏🏽💯💪🏽🎁❤️👏🏽🙏👏🏽🎁💯💪🏽

There comes a time to move on. I find the subject fascinating. You’re videos were so important for my transformation into a new person. I thank you for that.

Excellent. You are so right. Emotional immaturity and bad behaviour does not say narcissist. No more Narcissist videos for me in 2023. Thank you!

For me personally, I began to realize and educate myself before I was able to physically remove myself from the physical and psychological abuse. I continued to research narcissistic abuse and abusive relationships in general. My day would begin with morning coffee and reading, watching videos. One morning I woke up in a good mood, meaning I was not feeling the extreme anxiety from the trauma bond. I began to realize, within minutes of my daily research, I’d start to have rapid heartbeat, trembling and other physical symptoms of the trauma. Also, I began to think of my abuser, more than healthy for me. I noticed this happened every day. Putting two and two together, I had a thought…… why am I STILL reading about this? This is his disorder which I cannot fix. I’ve lived through the disgusting physical and emotional trauma……… I now understand what, and why. It’s time to start putting the time , effort, work into ME, MY future, MY recovery. Thank you for sharing this video.

A very balanced, honest, professional perspective. As usual, you go beyond the surface and the sensational to focus on truth and reality. That being said, your videos on NPD have helped me hugely in understanding some of the key dynamics in my family and I even mind mapped the concepts you described there and use them as a reference.

Looking absolutely fresh and gorgeous there, Abdul! I stopped a long time ago, once I've learned it I learned it. But I remember the chaos days in the beginning, all the videos and memes and often with it trying to make more other people understand than still myself. Thankfully I quickly for me asked the right question mainly which was: How and why did I get into a relationship with an allegedly covert narcissist? That's where the healing really started and that is seven years ago. Thank you so much for all the work you do and share with us! xoxoxo

Excellently put, Dr. I was watching a little too many narcissist videos, and then I understood that I was wallowing and enough was enough. I was informed, I knew all about it, and now I needed to work on myself.

So happy to have you back. Looking forward to learning more from you!! Thank you for all that you do Dr Saad. I can't express how much your videos have helped me 🙏💜

Understanding narcissism and the spectrum is what started my healing and letting go of the hold the individual had on me. I can attribute it to watching RU-vid videos. And yes I get it, there are far too many videos that can lead you off the track and watching them can become an obsession. Thank you for this awareness🙏

You are right. The points you made are correct. What i think is that people are becoming addictive of watching videos on narcissism. People like to lable and blame some one that he or she is bad person. And they start feeling nice but it does not serve any purpose. Whats important is there are people around us of different personalities and we need to learn to deal with them and adjust with them.

Good to see you back, you look amazing.✨ I agree with you and have gone back to listening to more music and learning new skills instead of binging narc videos. Thanks for your help and advice.

I understand what you're saying. About 4 years ago I saw a video that was life changing. It was a light switch being turned on. That began my journey. My psychologist, now retired, helped me accept it & to to shift my focus to myself. I'm always learning, about myself & about how to cope in this 33 year marriage & being raised in an abusive home its difficult. I'm finding content that just does more explaining about the narcissist, their behavior & reasoning behind it etc is really not so helpful anymore. I have to learn to cope in this environment, focus on myself, something I've never done before. I need to let go of maladaptive coping skills into a more healthy mental space. I do think that sometimes it's reassuring that I'm not alone in my struggles. I feel as though there really isn't any content for those of us who are stuck in these situations for various reasons, meeting us where we are, learning to change what we can & accept what we can't.

I say watch videos as long as you need to. Until you get the knowledge. Never stop watching until YOUR ready. RU-vid videos SAVED my life!!!!!!!

This is true. There is only so many videos of this content that should be watched. Once you've learned the key characteristics of narcissism, the content becomes repetitive and watching continuous content of this kind can keep you held down on your healing journey. You have to move on at some point. Initially, watching these videos was very helpful for me. I needed the support and it was a good platform for that purpose. I was miserable and needed to digest what I was going through and I found that narc videos resonated with my wounded mind/heart. I'm still very sad but I recently came to the realization that narc videos were starting to hold me back. You have to eventually go from feeling like a victim (because you probably are a victim of abuse) to healing and being empowered by getting past the need for this type of content. I will probably check in here and there as I find that I have very bad moments and the narc videos fit the bill at those times but I recently found that narc content was getting a little old.

very valid points here, thank you! for those who are just finding out about this trait, it does take time to process and go through the videos/books and comments to get a full understanding. once one gets it, i feel you are correct...to push on with other of life's issues and fun things and not be weighted down with bitterness or anger. i do realize it's much much harder to live in the moment -- a family setting, where one is sort of stuck with a narc and needs additional advice and help, but many have the choice to move on and away from dwelling on the subject. thankyou!

This is absolutely true. I thought I was the only one so consumed with these videos. I guess it’s the disbelief that some humans could be so cruel. The urge to try figure what happened to them. It’s time to let go now. 😊

Some narcissism experts wish to get rid of the NPD label. Like Dr Ramani. I do think it's valuable to identify narcissistic traits in people that have caused abuse tho. For survivors it is important to know that we were not to blame for the abuse where relevant.

This is so true, I was going through so much in my head and I was so glued to RU-vid learning about narcissist almost ALL DAY, after almost 2 months Iam done watching videos about narcissist and ready to move on. YOU ARE SO CORRECT.

God Bless you too my friend.

Thankyou for explaining this so clearly.I was feeling these things ,its helped me be clear in my mind now.

Great video Dr. Saad I am so glad you are back and am sure you will help a lot of people, like you helped me.

Ive reached that point, I know enough, its too triggering to continue to "hear all about it", and Ive understood the powerful insight that you become what you meditate on. Time to be present and look forward, the past is no longer happening. Also I have found it is powerful to depersonalize the trauma, to take the "me" out of the equation. Things happened, they have been acknowledged and validated (not by the abusers of course). I was never the "bad egg" I was painted to be. Time to nurture this good egg back to health. Blessings to all who have suffered this insidious abuse. If you want to help the RU-vid algorithm unlearn your preference for narcissism videos, just click on the dots on the side and select "not interested" a few times and it should get the message.

So happy to see you back! Your POV has been missed!

I have to agree! Always depending on how much you already know about narcissists and how to best respond to them.

I agree. They were initially useful to help me identify what had happened in my life and gave me a sense of validation. However I am far more interested in healing the parts of myself that attracted that type of person to me in the first place these days.

I agree. I stopped watching them. I'm tired of the perpetual victim.

I'm so glad I had the insight before not to listen to these videos as I've healed. Every so often there's a title that I'm curious and click on it and often don't listen to the whole thing. I find the repetitive talking of that construct tends to be very negative and blaming that is heavy and depressing. I think we can switch the obsession for the narcissist to obsessing over the behaviors. The mind doesn't know the difference on most of these things, it just creates the same reactions in the body/mind/emotions that can be damaging. I'm more focused on healing myself, getting more familiar with my own wounds and what it all means to me.

It's a low vibration activity that is negatively focused. A spiral one can say.

I have come to this realization myself after spending three months of my life constantly watching videos on narcs and what i have noticed is that is has become an unhealthy space where people remain stuck for years and years. I stopped doing it and it was hard , i have to move on from this and learn how to soothe the part of myself that went along with my marriage knowing that something was wrong. Now i focus on self love and inner child work and healing her bringing her back to life so she bever has to look outside of her self for rescuing or saving. My ex was muslim as am i and he broke me spiritually too as i am a new muslim and i thought he was going to look after me but now i realise that only through God can i truly experience that real inner self love

Very true! I saw this happens to me. I was becoming more and more angry and resentful, stuck in a circle of negative thoughts. Thank you!

We're not obsessing, we're learning every time some new detail, it's not misery loves misery, we're passed the need for valudation and revenge, way beyond victimhood. Most of the time, when you want to learn something (new), you need to hear it over and over again until you understand it thoroughly, especially something so foreign as this type of manipulation. I thought I understood, I had rounded the subject, and yet I found new things to learn, to grasp. So keep watching, keep discerning, keep educating yourself.

As I recall from you, maybe 4years ago,this was so valuable,thinking back when I was just starting to learn about Narcissistic Abuse,to me it was wayyy past due,so with that being said, I don’t believe it is time to stop making these kinds of content, but step up to the next level of what we need to do from here,while still maintaining the quality for those who may be just getting started with their healing journey.Thank you.(But I do understand your point of reference.)Again thank you.

I found researching the narcissistic family system was most helpful. I needed to identify my beliefs and behaviours which contributed to the system and find healing through understanding and changes to myself.

Thanks for sharing this 🙌 so important we know this. One time I had a client who went into a period of panic because she consumed so much of this content she started believing everyone around her is a narcissist and even herself

Welcome back! Your videos have always been a great help to me.

I think people get caught up in the constant cycle because they were made to feel crazy. Not everyone has the ability to access quality psychotherapy and watching videos and reading about Narcissism affirms them as 1. Not being crazy and 2. Not alone which can be so addictive in it's comfort then there is the all pervasive question of...AM I THE NARCISSIST 👀👁 which some "research " leaves you with which forces another binge watching session and so the vicious cycle continues. I'm grateful that I've moved past this stage 🙌🏾🙏🏾 there is peace and joy on the other side and your perspective of the world is light ✨ When I was obsessed and believe me the temptation is still there...I found that the "history channel " was playing on repeat without my ability to control it and TURN IT OFF ...HORRIBLE FEELING my mind abusing me and using me. I feel SO MUCH BETTER NOW 😌 🙌🏾 THANK GOD 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 I have to be vigilant but it's worth it. At the end of it THEY ARE SIMPLY NOT WORTH IT. If you got out you survived and you have life and love to give and receive. Love and light to you all ❤ THANKS SO MUCH for the confirmation 🙏🏾

Ive watched every single video on Narcissism possible,I am done with it now....,let them eat cake!😆

Looking forward to your content. Have missed your content over the last year. Glad your back.

There are totally valid points this gentlemen raise. There is lot of bad content out there, but can never go wrong with dr Ramani