Gossip is a sin that deserves a whole video of its own. The sin is so grevious and so easy to commit but most people just don't even think about what it is, talking about others faults just comes naturally to people. A greater focus on this sin would surely be a blessing to the whole Kingdom.
yeah not gonna lie i struggle with this one, my girlfriend and i(both catholic) yap way too much about stuff we probably shouldnt. one of the things i need to fix the most, its a long list at the moment :/
7:26 this is so true. I am a woman and have many male friends due to previous hobbies (martial arts and archery). I do send memes and check up on them. Around Christmas if we are in the same city and they don't have family or friends i invite them over and we have an "orphans Christmas dinner" and share food and catch up. A few ppl judged me for having many male friends but i care for them like a big sister and lusten and guide them if they are in a rough patch. I also try to greet and be warm to my neighbors wherever i live and maybe offer snacks or baking or help. I really hope more ppl start doing this. Its hard forcme at times i do have aspergers but with Christ I've been able to navigate social interactions much better and hoping Christ's love can shine through to people who need help ❤
The male friendships crisis is real. As a man it’s insanely difficult to make friends. Every time I try, people either ghost me or give me lame “I’m too busy” excuses. It doesn’t help that we live in a culture that utterly devalues male friendship in favor of sexual or romantic ones. Or casts suspicion on male friends being too close as “gay.”
I feel you bro. Not sure how old you are, but id recommend you join a sport, club, or some sort of semi-forced community. it gives you a chance hang out with the same guys every day that have something in common with you. thats how i was able to have good friends throughout high school that I've kept to today, mainly through sports. no clue how i woulda made it through high school without it. same goes in college too, but you need to genuinely put forth effort to make friends, especially in difficult majors and as someone who doesnt drink or party.
Same experience here. I really want to have a close platonic dude friend but when I reach out and try to connect with the few sort of shallow friends I have, they never get back to me or they say they have a bunch of stuff to do and don't have time. But I know it's because deep down they don't really want to invest me in, they have other priorities. If they really wanted to be friends they would make time. It's really hard to find a real friend and I've prayed for a long time with no result. I'm not giving up though
Two young men freindly texted, upon your suggestion. I paused this video to do that. By the end of this video, each one have friendly replied ! Gladly thanking you for mentioning the idea 📖👍
You’re probably the most consistently high effort/quality Christian channel on YT, just the way you talk is so genuine and entertaining Keep it up my friend, simple concepts like this vid is excellent
Thank God that my parents are the ones who taught me all I know about the Bible. Every-night we have a little Bible study if it was not for them I don’t know what I would do because I hate reading, so I really owe them all the knowledge I have especially since my School is also very secular and for some reason very nihilistic too. I really got blessed with the parents I have.
That’s a huge blessing. My parents never read the Bible for themselves, nor read it to me. I was the one always begging them to take me to church. This was back in the day before the internet, RU-vid, etc. I was a little kid trying to read the KJV and had no one to disciple me.
@@factcheckthesehands364Same here, except my religious journey really only began a few years ago in my early teens. My parents don’t go to church so I’ve gone on my own, but at least my dad gave me his old Bible to use-it’s NRSV but it has bookmarks and footnotes and stuff so it really helped me, and it still does
I used to love reading but hate writing, but since becoming one of Jehovah's Witnesses they got me writing evangelistic letters to send to people, after doing that for a while I started to enjoy writing.
@@molanohouse There were some mean kids at my school who were gay but I know plenty of very kind and sweet LGBT people who include people. Many of them are autistic themselves, actually. It’s never good to generalize entire groups of people.
@@randomchannelname5669 idk where you live man, I’m not saying there’s no such thing as a mean gay person because of course there is, but the vast majority of LGBT people I know are perfectly kind and polite people
I was homeschooled and grew up in church, so all of my friends were Christian. I'm surrounded by very good friends who are my accountability party. It's thanks to several of those friends that I finally started dating this girl that I had been friends with in church for many years. And I have seen many people who maybe grew up in church who had been straying away from God and who were brought back to God by their friends. I love my youth group because of how much of a good community it is, we invite as many people as we can, and we have good talks about Theology and our relationship with God. I want to be a youth pastor someday, and I am seeing how kids nowadays need good friendships and community more than ever.
Where i live, everyone is trying to start their own bible studies because they dont agree with everyone else lol. There was one guy who said all faiths, atheists, anyone and everyone welcome. I said i love that message, mentioned that i was catholic and would like to join. He said its his mission in life to rebuke my church. That id be better off going to a different bible study if im not willing to drop catholicism. I asked if muslims have to stop being muslim before theyre allowed to go to your study. He said thats different. It still blows my mind months later.
Thanks for mentioning gossip. My wife and I have been on the receiving end of it, and it has ruined familial relationships. When confronted it was minimized as a common thing that everyone does.
Love this guy and love these videos, even if I'm turning away from protestantism. For real though, love how you're becoming another leader in the rising re-acceptance of strength through Christ! I'm a 17 year old kiddo and have recently begun becoming far more devout than my divorced family ever did, and I'm sure such a story is becoming very common now. Revolution is coming! The world will have beauty in it again!
A Christian can forgive 100 times without being taken advantage of. You can forgive, not have any hate it your heart, but not honor or trust that person ever again.
This is such a great video! I don't think we can overestimate the importance of friendships in this life. In fact, they are life giving. I have been blessed to have such a friend and I would not trade it for anything in this world. I thank the Lord for this friend and wish everyone would have the same.
This! Thank you! I keep telling people i much rather be told to my face that they don't like something that I do, then to gossip about it! The latter doesn't solve the problem and only harms the people involved, whereas if they actually TELL me what they don't appreciate, I can work on it to become a better person and above all a better follower of Christ!
You couldn't be more right about reaching out to friends. This reminded me to check in on a few people and I was amazed at how many appreciated it. I also came to realise a couple were doing real bad and another quite poorly so, to all of you still reading, do go out and ask your guy friends.
Thank you so much for reminding me to check in on my friends. I moved less than a year ago and now all my friends are on another continent. It’s been good catching up and talking with everyone, especially when being this far apart.
Lot of insightful advice and teachings there. I know that I've often fallen short many times in those four categories you spoke of in the video. Thank you for the reminder of how important friendships are to others, as well as how important they are in a kingdom perspective.
Thanks so much, this was extremely relatable, and very helpful. this really hit hard, especially being a bigger person to solve a huge problem, and the gossip section. Thanks RZ!
I would recommend you watch his video, “Every sin explained,” where he explains every violation of the X Commandments. He says being stupid for God’s sake is an act of taking the Lord’s name in vain.
I think he's referring to giving into and giving special weight to wild speculation, especially when it causes unconfirmed slander towards someone. I think first and foremost a Christian should say what they know to be true and avoid spreading things they are unsure of. The thing is, conspiracies are real. A conspiracy is a group of people conspiring to do something, typically something illegal. We know for a fact that this happens all the time so to simply not talk about it is unwise. For example, Epstein was absolutely involved in some shady business and the handling of the case by the authorities just makes that all the more obvious, but to sit here and start naming celebrities that we think are involved would probably be wrong and a pointless endeavor. Other conspiracies that should not be given weight are ones like saying lizard people control the government lol other ridiculous things like that, coupled with someone hearing that you're a Christian is liable to make them think you're just prone to believing ridiculous and fanciful things and that Christianity is just another one of the make-believe things you believe. If you remain grounded in solid truth, that too will be associated with your grounding in Christ.
@paulnash6944 I don't understand? Some people say believing the illuminati is just a conspiracy, but no its true! People that are I the illuminati worship satan. Jesus is God❤✝️✝️✝️
It should be said that enabling someone’s abuse of you is not right because you are essentially supporting them in their sin. When Jesus talked about giving someone your cloak and walking an extra mile I think he was talking about showing your enemies radical love so as to touch their hearts and lead them to repent. We also have a general duty to protect ourselves. Christians shouldn’t be doormats. It’s a matter of prudence when to let people take advantage of us or not but holiness certainly doesn’t necessitate weakness. Forgiveness is primarily a spiritual and psychological act. It’s doesn’t require us to remain in contact with our enemies
Yay! Now I can finally not be a sad, friendless, typical genZ kid! Yeah, for real though, I've seen so many people that I probably could've been good friends with but I just didn't think friendships mattered enough to break out of my comfort zone to make them. It is definitely important to be intentional about making friends and being friendly because otherwise you won't have bery many, if any. You don't just stumble into people and accidentally form the kind of life long relationships that the Bible soeaks about.
11:00 Does this mean that as Christians we should be supporting more restorative justice and rehabilitation? I think this should at least start in the US with ending the death penalty which most other Christian countries have done so effectively.
You must have both because the Bible provides both, punitive justice reduce and limits evil. Restorable justice brinda mercy and helps the needy. The God of mercy is the same God of justice.
"Forgive everyone no matter what" being stretched to "let people take advantage of you" is one of the things that made me fall away from Christianity for a bit. It isn't Biblical. Christ was dealing with Pharasees that wanted to execute theives and prostitutes, that context is important when discussing things like "let he who is without sin cast the first stone" or "if someone robs you give them even more stuff". The point of the first was "How do you know she's a hooker? You are her clientele." and the later is "Your earthly possessions don't matter enough for you to hunt down and vigilante this theif" If someone never pays back their debts to you, especially when they could, it is alright for you to stop giving them money. Most importantly If someone attacks you you CAN defend yourself. The Jesus Freak movement that arose out of the hippies has done a lot of damage to modern Christianity.
@@escapefromthecityand just means you can start a beautiful thing and hope someone takes up the mantle for it. 2 months can also be a long time in a friendship. take it from someone who's been out of school for 8 years, its easier to have a bunch of friends in school, and be able to keep a couple (and my best friend now is not the one i grew up with, but he is one i made near the end of my school life and kept up the friendship with), than find all your friends you had only had school in common with you and you will never really meet them again. it will also provide fellowship for others to also provide them a similar opportunity
I'm not quite sure how to go about the "problem with someone" part, as most of the people who I have problems with call me slurs. But yeah, good advice overall! :D Ty
"Conspiracy theories are unchristian" because of gnosticism? This doesn't make a lot of sense. Conspiracies are just part of understanding how the world works. By that logic, any knowledge only held by a minority of people becomes "unchristian". Is being good at calculus, or being well-versed in some little-known aspect of history or metallurgy, "unchristian" and "gnostic"? EDIT: Look at it this way. Wwhat made gnosticism bad is the idea that there is secret knowledge related to salvation or spiritual matters. Knowledge about conspiracies is not like that, unless someone is explicitly claiming that you need knowledge of conspiracies in order to be saved. It's also not like "gossip", unless you think that pointing out what sociopathic corporations and corrupt governments are doing is "gossip".
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I would say that if you have a problem with someone and you want advice for handling the situation, it's okay to mention them (preferably not by name, but it can be more productive to do so sometimes) to someone else who is wiser in these things than you and is someone you trust with this secret. Edit: just make sure you get that advice. One thing I am concerned with is how many RU-vid channels are devoted to speaking of drama or controversy. I'm worried that it can easily become gossip or cause gossip.
Gossiping falls under thou shall not bear false witness against thy neighbor. There are 14 commandments we just split them up into 10 because it’s an easier pneumonic for kids. That’s why the Protestants and Catholics have a different list, they lumped the 4 extras in with some other stuff!
TIL, after finding a Reddit thread about RZ, that being biblical and actually believing in Christianity makes you a bigot and an extremist according to other “Christians” 🤣🤣 Also, great video my dude.
you have to be a certain type of person for southerners to be nice to you. if you’re the wrong kind of brown, the wrong religion, or the wrong gender or sexuality, you do NOT get nice treatment in the small towns
(This might sound like I'm trying to incite a radical response, or like I'm trying to enflame someone from this questions, so just read with sincerity please) So according to this view of constantly forgiving people( as it seems to have been defined here) what do you do about people in horrible situations, like a woman who is getting rap3d continuously, should she just continue to let someone take advantage of her or not. I'm just curious as to where this interpretation of the continual forgiveness cuts off and turns into forgive them, but separate yourself from them.
RZ mentioned this in the video from what I can remember. He talks about "active threats" and how being friends or showing forgiveness doesn't necessarily mean allowing such active threats to befall upon you. 5:54 sort of relates to this. There's also the Christian concept of justice. Justice still plays a hand in these situations, even though Christians are commanded to forgive. That's why Christians should forgive, say, a criminal who wronged them, but that criminal is still going to face the consequences of what they did, such as being imprisoned or paying a fine. For your example, that rapist will still get their due punishment, even if the woman forgives their oppressor. And I don't say this to make it seem like radical forgiveness is a fact in life or that it's easy to do. It definitely isn't easy, like in your example. I definitely would struggle to forgive someone who violated a woman close to me, such as a friend or mother, and I know it probably would be hard for them as well. Hope this helps.
@@junothepeasant Thank you for the reply. I guess this is a topic I need to work through more, it just makes me very uncomfortable, this line of cut off from forgiveness to forgive but separate, it seems so blurry and unclear when which is right.
@@junothepeasant i don’t get how it would be moral or good for someone to forgive their rapist. ive heard stories of so many victims being told to forgive when they go to a church member looking for help. can’t imagine the emotional turmoil that would come with trying to forgive someone who hurt you in such an awful way. i have a hard time understanding why forgiveness would be a virtue because of that. it takes pressure off the abuser and puts it on the victim. i genuinely don’t understand why christians would value it
@@babs_babs Well I need to clarify again, by Christians being called to radical forgiveness and mercy, it does not mean they forsake justice. The rapist will get their due punishment and the consequence of their action. So no, the pressure is not off the abuser, especially if the church follows fast to its teaching of rebuking, disciplining, and isolating an unrepentant sinner like a rapist. On the personal level though: This forgiveness is not just a virtue, but also a response to how God is willing to forgive humanity despite their continual rejection and betrayal of him (now, we might disagree God exists, I'm not here to argue that right now. But I'm setting this up because this is extremely crucial to the Christian perspective of why forgiveness is so important. Without it, the radical forgiveness makes no sense). It's not just the church saying "forgiveness give you points in morality" but that Christians must forgive because the Lord has forgiven them first. See the parable of the debtor servant. This doesn't mean the solution to the rape victim's problems is only forgiveness. The church community needs to support the victim through emotional turmoil. It can't call a sister who was violate to forgive if it can't take care of that sister. Despite the main point being that Christians are to forgive because the Lord forgives them first, I think forgiveness can bear practical and positive results: 1. It may be a factor in helping a victim be able to rise above the despair and emotional turmoil. 2. Romans 12:20. Such radical forgiveness (love) "heaps burning coals" upon the person who wronged them. 3. Forgiving can have positive impact to people around them. I'm reminded of the story Sara Weaver (from the family that was the focal point of the Ruby Ridge incident in America). Her mother was shot by a federal agent sniper during the siege, and her brother was also shot by a federal agent. Despite this, after the siege had ended and she went through years of emotional trauma and PTSD, she grew to forgive the federal government and those who had caused her such trauma, and began to tell stories of the incident in a way to promote peace and to try to prevent more of these incidents from happening. I don't write all of this as if it's all easy. To quote my first response to KadenGreen (the OP): "And I don't say this to make it seem like radical forgiveness is a fact in life or that it's easy to do. It definitely isn't easy, like in your example. I definitely would struggle to forgive someone who violated a woman close to me, such as a friend or mother, and I know it probably would be hard for them as well." And in addition, I can definitely understand it would be hard for someone to forgive if they were raped, or if they were robbed, or if they were attacked, or if they were insulted and their reputation was lost, or if a close one was murdered. It's not an easy command. But Christ does call those who follow him to carry their crosses like he did, and this may be one of them. A cross is a very heavy and painful thing to carry at times. And just in case, to reiterate, the rapist is not off the hook. Christian morality and justice says that rapist will get their due reward, whether it be from secular authorities, or the punishment from above if the rapist has no genuine and changing repentance. I think some churches are so heavily focused on a very fleeting version of Jesus' love, and forgets the very firm statements he made about judgement upon evil doers. There are also some churches who are very hard and cold and so committed about judgement that they forget Jesus' preaching of love and forgiveness to enemies and sinners, even though their sins are still abhorrent and bad. Jesus' forgiveness doesn't stop condemning evildoers, but invites them to turn from the ways that destroy themselves and others, and to turn to a new life of repentance and cleansing. I apologize for the long message, but I hope this may further your understanding of this forgiveness.
Fourth Rule is what I'm guilty of the most. As to the advice about guy friends: thank you. I do definitely do that, albeit I wish some would do the same for me. It is what it is.
I made most of the christian friends i've had online, but its for that reason I stopped and kind of fell off (there were other reasons to) dont get me wrong, having a christian friend group was some of the best times i've had in my life, but it came at a cost of being critically online. It came to a point where i was literally just waking up some mornings to hop on a game with my christian friends which was nice and all, but I felt I couldnt do anything on my own it was always be with my christian friend group. add that with the fact we mainly socalized on discord or played games like together while preaching the gospel in random games which usually ended in debates and arguments. I felt burned out. thats why I cant stress enough find christian friends in REAL LIFE and not just online. the online christian community is just different in a weird way...
Yep. Zoomer has also talked about it in a video of his explaining larping. Depending on what Denomination you follow has its own problems. For example "orthobros" online pose as gigachads, mascular, strong and lonely. Whereas, if you actually show up in a church you will see some skinny and not that physically strong adolescents and too few people actually aged up until 25. It is best when you live as a Christian. As much as you can that is... God bless you.
Dude stop saying that Midwestern architecture sucks. Here in Chicagoland we have an evangelical megachurch that looks beautiful (less so than it used to tho lol)
Being in a group and not being involved with anyone outside of your group. For example, you are a band member, you only eat with or befriend people in your band. Someone from your math class asks to sit with you because they are new and want to be your friend but you say no.
