4 Strategies To Be a Better Father 

"Every father should remember one day his son will follow his example, not his advice". -Charles Kettering

As a father of a beautiful 5 year daughter, I've been reflecting and I know I'm failing as a father. I've been struggling with alcohol and I've tried many times to quit I always come back to it. I'm one of those so called functioning alcoholics If you will.. I'm going to try and quit today after watching this video. Hoping today is day 1 to being a better father. Thank you

I appreciate these videos. I have 3 girls (14,11,5) and my goal is to be their rock, provider, and protector. Now is the time for good men to become great in every aspect of their lives. These videos help!

I'm a new father. I been a husband for 6 years now. I have discovered that being the head of a family is not lording it over my wife and children. This is a common misconception bandied around by various people. For some it is true. I have discovered that fatherhood and being the head of a family means responsibility. It means I am here to provide and guide my wife and son to a better life. I don't want to fail them. My father was a big bad Marine. Being raised by him was like the first half of the movie full metal jacket. I think he taught me the only way he knew how. Marine Corp pride, semper fi, uh rah uh rah is all he knew. I thank him for giving me striength and backbone, teaching me honor, courage, and justice. It has definitley helped me survive in today's world and given me an edge. Although I think his methods were wrong and there is a better way. I want to pass down the good values to my son. But I don't want to give him the same baggage that I am burdened with.

Thank you Ryan. I’m constantly reviewing my performance as a father each day and like you, fail or come up short each and everyday. It kills me inside but I get back up and try harder the next day. For example, my 8 year old son asked me to play catch with him at 8 pm. His bed time is 830 but we just got back from a king weekend trip in which the purpose of the trip was for him. My instant response was “No, it’s time to eat then go to bed.” But then after he went to sleep and all morning today I was kicking myself for not taking that opportunity to get some 1 on 1. I seem to forget that they are young for such a short period of time. I’m certainly not a bad father, dare I say a good one. Bottom line is…I just want ALL my kids to want to hangout with me when they are adults. I pray about this everyday.

Essentially, I've noticed those that pursue God and aim to live a godly life - automatically become better husbands and fathers and serve their communities better. Pursuing God is the key.

The best advice I can give is to develop a deep emotional connection with your kids. It's easier when they are 5 or under. Because we will fail our kids and lose patience etc. But if your kids truly believe that you care about them. Children will listen to you.

Looking to become the best father ever ❤

Thank you, I needed some help. I didn't have a father growing up. I had a stepdad who was not very good to me. You have great advice and I appreciate what your doing for fathers such as myself. I'll be watching more of your channel.

Hey guys..First time to listen to this video. Well done Ryan. Well articulated, sincere and honest. I have two boys 7 and 4. I look forward to putting these strategies into practice. Thanks for sharing.

Thank you bro!!. This should be on national television

It’s crazy to me this video doesn’t have more views. More of us need to take accountability as fathers and men overall and stop making excuses and being so reactive. I don’t want to look back one day and wish I could’ve been better in certain situations, I just want to be the best father and husband I can be. Great video, thank you.

As I grow I realize my dad is just a man I understand his downfalls. Now that I'm a father I realize I'm not going to do everything right. I'll do my best to be there for myself & child. Review that shit dads

Thank you for the fatherhood videos. I married the woman who birthed both of my little girls. She was already a mother when we met and so I became step dad to a little boy around the same time I became a biological father myself. Your videos help me manage how I interact with my son to make sure he knows that he is as much my child as my girls are. Which is something I struggled with in the beginning. Thanks again!

I actually look more like my mom than my dad but this message is gold. I respect Ryan so much for moving forward and continuing his work and life calling through difficult times. He continues to inspire me to seize the moment and start making changes to better our family's lives as well as our own as men in this day. Thank you, Ryan.

I appreciate this video, I have a wonderful partner that would soon become my wife, I never really had experienced having a dad as my dad left us when I was a kid, that's why I wanted to be ready and be sure to love my partner and our future childs with everything I have, and raise them with love and be a better father for them and a good future husband

Thank you for this video I'm going through a ton on trying to be a father her mother is doing her best to keep her away from me I won't stop

Great to finally see a sensible advice channel for men that believes in true male values such as fatherhood and being a good husband. Immediate subscribe and I will be recommending this to me friends

I just found your channel this morning. I really appreciate this video. Thank you for producing this content.

These are awesome! Thanks for spreading the word!

Mad RESPECT brother. This subject does not get the support it deserves.

Review and how I react are the two things I am going to take out of this it was a rough day today thanks

Excellent

Excellent video, thanks for sharing. Really made me think. I have alot of work to do

Hey if your dad was great go and take what he did right and build on. Never complacent

Ryan is like Jocko Willink's younger brother, if he had one;)Love this channel. Thanks and deep respect.

I struggle the most (being a father of 3 girls {2 step} and 1 son from a previous marriage) with the mess around the house. Like, goddamn, leave me a walkway (through the mess) to get to the bathroom when I'm home from a 13 hr shift. And then the money in general (that it takes to raise kids and keep a house/car payment) I'm making decent money but (I always feel) like it's never enough. Even tho it is just a bit more than what paying the bills takes.

Thanks Ryan, explosive exchange brother!

Do you have a specific episode that you can point to where you discuss reacting versus responding? It's very solid advice overall thank you.

Appreciate it

I know what i have to do i Will Be the best Father for my family because i love what i grow single , girlfriend,wife,children All in one ❤! În first time i put my self before me and after i We are result what i made ,before is after ,after is before ! You a e in the middle (pilar)

Thank you

Can you make a podcast for us uncles trying to lead and direct our nephews in a good direction in life, especially when they have deadbeat dad’s

Hey Ryan your videos have helped me tremendously and I had a question Why do you think masculinity has been under such an intense attack?

This is a good channel for men who want to help to elevate society Dictators,tyrants and warmongers have had too much admiration for too long.

I’m failing. Miserably. All the excuses I can come up with as to why just won’t cut it. And every time I try harder, I fail harder. I’m turning out like my own father and that’s something I always told myself I would never become. I have a beautiful son and wife who I love very much yet I keep pushing them away and feeling more and more disconnected. They don’t deserve the way I treat them. And no matter how much I keep telling myself to man up and do better, I keep dragging myself, and them, down lower and lower. I told my wife today that she should just leave me so my son doesn’t have to grow up with a dad who does nothing for him. That he would be better off without me in his life because I’m just no good. I’m a POS. I’m a horrible husband, father, son, brother and just a lousy human being. At least that’s my outward appearance. Inside I keep screaming at myself that I am better than this and that I need to do better. I keep begging myself to do better because my son deserves better. I don’t have anyone to talk to. I’m running out of options and chances. Can somebody please help me so I can give my son the life he deserves?

Thanks Ryan 👑🦁

Iron is a weak metal. Did you pick it on purpose or was it just a happy coincidence?

Ryan, I'm a big fan of your youtube channel and prepared something especially for you, can i send it to you somewhere?

Move to the future not the past . Some of Ryan's words are too stone age

Am I missing something? Did Ryan get divorced recently?

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Oof the react part I'm bad about.

Have you maintained the same level of respect for your ex-wife & taught your kids to act accordingly amidst your divorce? Or did you have to pivot how you taught them?

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Maybe not dare marry and I pregnant your daughters friend . Then blame your kids for not giving you a break . I’m not sure how to figure this situation out for his first family. Our 3 children . My girls are hurting . Why do men fall like this ?

You need a pop filter bro.

Just a bunch of dudes trying to be good men

no woman wants me, period. Never going to be a father.

How do i become a better father when the mother ONLY lets me see my son on HER terms? my son is 1.5 years old so im wondering if i let her kinda take control of visitation and have her time with our son while hes a baby but wondering how long should i let it go on till i persue court. Tha ks much love to all the fathers who are GOOD MEN. Stay strong brothers. Lord knows im trying.