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As a Great man, I approve this message. She did me a HUGE....favor by walking off. It took me awhile to heal from the damage of trying to love a, broken, narcissistic woman. Now, I've met the woman that's bone of my bone..., flesh of my flesh. I didn't have to search for her either; we were presented to each other.
I always buy my husband his favorite beer and give him a foot massage when he comes home from work and cook him his favorite food to eat and take with him for lunch at work. I do that not only he's my husband, he's kind, supportive, loyal and he gives me appreciation daily as well, such as flowers, massage, attention, affection and wash dishes after I cook meals.
I don't mind giving this kind of treatment to a man that actually deserves it. Looking forward to the day that I actually run into a genuinely GOOD man.
soluvlyxoxo they exist but the truth is a good man doesn’t not excite women, even against their will they will go after the bad boy cuz they have the emotional need for drama to feel a variety of emotions . Nice guys are boring to them in short.
The Puppet Boyz Jr. EXACTLY You don’t need four good things. The key is to follow God’s words all of those good things & accountabilities line up with that one Word. If they live of the fear of God. Have to move self out your heart and let the Word move in. Ppl keep going off worldly advice and not godly wisdom Good Man List 1. A woman that show Reverence & fear to God 💯
Jmar385 _ Reverence...food for thought...It’s 2020, evolution is real. Why are we still referring to having fear in God ( real question; I’m really curious of your answer; maybe not real curious but I’ll read it if you respond). God is love which is the opposite of fear. Since God lives in us, through us and around us, fearing God would mean that we fear everything, and everyone; even ourselves. I love and revere the energy and presence of God in you and everyone in this thread. Just to add to the convo at hand, I love and revere the presence of God in my man even when he doesn’t. That’s God, that’s love.
I needed this reminder to KEEP showing my man that he is my King and working on building love and being consistent. Men need love too! Thanks #TEAMJAXN
Damn Derek, this is probably the best video that I have seen from you. I was trying to figure out why I am so invested in this new female that I have entered into a relationship with. Can you just pinpointed exactly what it is. She has all these qualities. And when I'm with her it's hard to explain, but I feel like I am at home with her. I'm an old-school gentleman type, and she appreciates every bit of the small things that I do to show her how beautiful I think that she is. And she reciprocates her feelings through actions as well. Total opposite of my last relationship. Good looking out!
To add to that list is encouraging, uplifting and speaking life to him. Every man should feel that he has his woman's full support and that she's s his #1 fan.
Have a barber come to the house and clean him up, plus have any outfit laid out ready to go!! ❤🤘😘 Yesss #TeamJaxn You just solved my Valentine Day question!!
You don't see us women complaining saying he's a women basher. I thought this video was very insightful. However, I wish that more men were raised to value women.
And we wish a lot more women were raised to value men. The world is just full of spoiled/damaged people, who are incapable of showing gratitude and respect towards the time and effort another human being puts into a serious relationship (both romantic and platonic). Unfortunately it's just a part of the human condition, which western society reinforces with its focus on shallowness and consumerism (people have pretty much become products at this point).
Kristian Jensen great point. Both men and women have been damaged to a point that they don't know how to love correctly. How do you love correctly? You do unto others what you would like done unto you. However, I was simply responding to the fact that every time Derrick tells men to treat women with respect, the men complain and yes, men should be valued as well.
Everything you said was absolutely correct. And I have my good man! He taught me these things himself. He articulated what he needed from me and explained himself and now he gets it. We both are happy and I dont want for anything. As a matter of fact, I'm getting ready to be his wife. Ladies take heed, there's only a few left. **Best wishes to you***
Karen Cunningham Congratulations! Thanks for sharing your experience as sometimes we don't always listen in the right way. I've been guilty of that. Best wishes to you and your beloved.
Congratulations to you and your man. I am seeing this post a year later I pray that you and he, your king are still in sync with each needs. God Bless.
I agree and i do understand. .. I have a man who is showing me how to do this right now which i never knew how because i always got my way and was very spioled in all of my relationship.
so on point.. when he's a good, morally sound man, of substance, it is his woman's/wife's pleasure to treat him like 1000% gold, effortlessly & with a smile ❤
1. Respect (BIG deal for men), 2. Accountability (i.e. wrongdoing), 3. Acknowledgement for things he’s doing right, his efforts to please you, etc. 4. Trust
Christina's Creative Creations , coming from a man who is with a woman who does everything listed in this video and is living proof of its truth, I applaud your honesty.
Lattice Johnson girl yes that was a lightbulb moment for me to the fullest n I'll definitely pay close attention to that in the future cuz my mouth be too turnt sometimes boi!
Wow that just hit home for me thank you for this needed to hear this. There is so many things that just go over our heads and we don't stop to think about it and end up hurting someone in the process...learning to do and be better! Thank you for this 👏
Thank you for this video. You've explained something all of us should understand...so we can love and communicate better. Women frequently take men to task for bad daily behaviors. Men should also have the freedom to discuss the disrespect our culture allows women to do without shame/consequences. Conversations like this promote TRUE gender equality. ❤️
Adge D Your right. Man can abuse woman. But women can also abuse man. Instead we should just surve eachother in a way that is good for the other gender. In that way the whole gender ecuality isue is out of the way. Real gender ecuality comes from acknowledging our difrences. In our self, and in the other gender. And giving love and surfing acording to this nowledge. Thinking we are al the same. And seeing things only in one perspective will only make us all misreble. Sorry for my bed english. I am from the Netherlands.
You've got to be one of the most handsome men I've ever seen in my life, not only on the surface but most importantly underneath. Please don't take my comment as disrespect. You wear your crown very well. I salute you and your Queen.
When I find the man that I can do these things for I will...but in the meantime it’s tough out here in these streets and finding someone deserving of this King treatment is the challenge. I’m sure Men can relate to that too on the flip side.
That's why you need to pay attention to their actions and not their words. Always, always check in on yourself whether you feel the effort, respect and gratitude you put into a relationship is reciprocated to a somewhat equal level, otherwise you might end up feeling unappreciated and resentful in the relationship. That goes for men and women both, even in platonic relationships.
Interesting there is not a hoard of comments on this, seeing as how all of us ladies need this video after being put thru the ringer with Mr. Wrongs, in any event, this is a great reminder to basically be nice, sometimes I forget that part.
Suggestion..hold sum speed dating to help women out...interview both sides and try to match up ppl...U could BE the next matchmaker sounds like a good business
This is my opinion any real & good woman out here who has a good man & we know truly that you r a good man.A real woman is going to make sure he's good on all levels, from the bedroom to the bank account. I don't know 1 real woman out here who does things just because, if a real woman is acting out towards her man,trust me it's a reason why??? You get what you deposit. Just my opinion
Amen sister! Yep, u get what you give! Sometimes you attempt to offer guidance so the partner won't self destruct and you get told u r a b*tch trying to control him...
Yes! I listened to one of Louis Farrakhan speeches and he said it plain and simple if a woman is no good it’s because a no good man made her that way! We mirror the man we are with! That is absolutely true!
MzSexyLady84 you are right. I know me myself I've been looking 4 certain qualities that I just could not pinpoint. And all the things that he stated in this video my last relationship of two years what problems. Now the woman I just entered a relationship with, has all these characteristics. And this video pin points exactly what I love about her. I never let him this one go. LOL
I total agree it’s about balancing and acknowledging and treat your bae the way you love to be treated and without being disrespectful 👍🏾 I can never understand why disrespectful is necessary 😒
Yess Finally Perfect Time I Freaking Love Your Videos They Have Helped Me Make Good Choices And To See That I Deserve The Best Thank You So Much For Your Videos ☺️☺️
I have a good guy so I wouldn't mind seeing more of these to serve as a reminder and even introduce ideas that I didn't think about. Thanks. We played your game for the first time last weekend and it led to us having intimate conversations that felt originally felt awkward.
Derrick where in the world did you get all this mature in- sight.. you're soo meant to continue to flourish and succeed at what you do. This advice is definitely not for little girls but for women. However at the end of the day it's real simple to treat someone the way you would like to be treated.. like you said disrespect on any level is a turn off.. flip that into a turn on and respect your partner. Listen, carry your self as a lady and demand respect but also give it. But none of this works if you don't love each other.. which takes time and work.. Much respect D
You know, after a heartbreak I can say I met my best friend and we give to each other. Massages, affection, quality time, we cook for each other and have deep conversations. He’s the real thing and I’m glad to just be in his life and make him laugh. God is so good.
Mr. Jaxn Mr. Jaxn Mr. Jaxn...now I don't use this word often within you you videos, but I will for this one. I *love* this video, I'm a older woman (43) not too bad, but I love loving on my man...it brings me joy to be calm and collected in our conversation, arguments, and just friendly disagreements. I'm on the right track... Sincerely, Leslie
It’s frustrating when you’re trying to believe in a man, make him feel like a king, telling him he’s a good person...but he doesn’t feel it. I can’t fight someone else’s depression
Go from Warrior Princess to A Loving Queen. Donot disrespect your man.... neverrrrrrrrrr ESPECIALLY IF HES A GOOD MAN. There are good men out here. ACCOUNTABILITY IS IMPORTANT💗
Thank you for this. I think I may have found that good man and don’t want all my trust and other issues to mess it up. Appreciate your honesty as always
Thank you for this video!!🤗 These are things that my father unfortunately never taught me and being 28 years old, I'm still learning lol I appreciate for being honest and genuine!
A good man deserves feeling listened to, respected, loved. If you want him, show him you care for his wellbeing and understand that he may actually be different from all the players you've met before. Give him and yourself and connection the benefit of the doubt. What have you got to lose? If it doesn't work with him, the next one may appreciate your efforts to make him feel valued in the connection.
I love your videos and I was just looking at watches to buy just because the guy I'm with is one of those good men you talk about. It's the little things he does, which I thank him for regularly. I have had some troubled relationships in the past and I know that I had some fault in them and have used your videos to be a wiser and more loving partner! Thanks for sharing!
Yes. A strong commitment is a two way street. It runs in either direction. A part of a healthy relationship is meeting your partner halfway. Popular phrase I know and maybe even a corny cliche but this message right here still works. TeamJaxn all the way! I read all of the ladies comments about why they believe you are single or the fact that you keep your intimacy off camera but not until this very point have I myself wondered the very same thing. The level of respect, gratitude and compassion in which you speak about men and women is quite exceptional. The wisdom and knowledge of these matters is so expected of someone of an older caliber but it just goes to show that anyone can be used to deliver a message. I know you’ve stated you’re not very religious but man I’m blown away by your mindset. It’s the most attractive asset that’s visible. As soon as you open your mouth I’m instantly intrigued. I inspire others but nothing in close proximity of this. God Bless
My man said thanks! You are so on point on so many levels! I too very much agree with your statements. I absolutely love to hear my man's thoughts on situations and I honor his calm demeanor. I also highly respect him as he loves me so beautifully.
I love all of this truth! As women we are always on the defensive, then heal and then get screwed the same way again if not worse and it makes it hard to remember and understand these things... Thank you.. Man u are always on the move
Amen!!! The sad, yet true fact is that some people would rather hold on to those damaged relationships out of fear of being alone or starting over. Letting go is NEVER easy, but some to most times they would be better off alone or with someone who values them as a whole and not for what they have to offer materialistically.
I so needed this reminder. Its been soooo long since i have been with a good man, i might have forgotten how to treat one. I would hate to come into my promiseland and forget how to live. Respect is key. Thanks.
That was beautiful! I agree wholeheartedly! Interestingly enough I was in an argument with a male friend who was chastising me for, well, having standards. He scoffed at my assertion that I wanted to be treated like a queen. Like I was special or something. I pointed out to him that the queen is never to be confused with the maid, the nanny, or the concubine. More teeth sucking from him. And then I added that the rightful mate for a queen is a king. The king rules the kingdom and all the knights of the realm and when he sends them off to fight he tells them to fight for his queen. The queen does not disrespect her king and the king demands the whole world respect his queen. That is how God sees it too.
Thanks for the time dedicated to educate us on how to value ourselves and respect others in a more healthy way. I've learned so much and I keep learning to improve my self-love while teaching my man to love and respect me as I deserve. I got back with my ex and I believe the universe kind of has given us an opportunity to see if we're going to make the same mistakes we did in the past. He was not ready and now his heart is there for me. I do appreciate it, but I've asked him if he's ready to jump with me in a committed relationship because am not jumping alone due to what happened in the past. He said we're going to get a place together, work together and build our family together but no actions yet but in progress being he is quitting an important job to move in with me. I've also made it clear to him I need more than just his words , I need him to help me trust the process. He lives in Uk and I am in the South of France. I hope he jumps quickly or at least investment more emotionally to keep the ball rolling. Thanks for your help!!! God bless
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I'm in a new relationship right now with a guy who told me he needed these exact things from me and it's challenging because I was in a long term relationship with my ex-husband who never communicated how he felt (which is what ended our relationship) or what he needed from me as a wife. Thank you for posting this because it's confirmation for me. I'm ready to learn how to love a good man because he caters to me without me having to ask.
I've been a loving Queen to the men I've dated. I'm ready for a King. I want the man that loves me for me. I can't wait to spoil him with all my love and effort.
I agree on these points totally!!!! The only thing is that a vast majority of men who are fuckboys don't deserve this type of treatment. And it's hard to find a man who does. Dudes these days want king treatment why they put in no effort and not trying to commit. A woman has to be patient these days if she wants a king and not a joker. It has gotten to the point where you hav e to give a dude a series of tests to see if he's all about you!!!!!!!!
Bro youre tapped into some powerful energy, this is what we as men must aspire to be and to also spread awareness to other men on how to grow the fuck up and stop feeling like we're less of men by being more of our authentic nature that we've repressed due to old ways of being, seeing and doing. Very enlightening. Thank you.
Same places great women hang out. If you have a woman you admire or a male friend that you respect, get them to intro you. I do it for my women friends all the time.
Hear! Hear! Apologizing when you're wrong and taking responsibility! Each time you do it helps train you to be a better person and to stop the behavior that you are apologizing for.
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