4 Things I've Learned in 5 Years of Marriage... 

Married feminine family members, please leave your advice in the comments for our sisters as well if you have a moment! I’m always interested to learn how others keep their marriages alive and thriving. Sending you love my dears! Xoxo

I’ve been married for 10 years now (got married at 19!), and my #1 piece of advice is to learn to love who your husband ACTUALLY is. I spent so much time trying to love him the way the books say to. I served him, picked up after him, was always there when he got home, etc. He didn’t really notice, and it made me resentful! Come to find out, all the man ever wanted was a friend. A true friend. Someone to make him feel heard and loved-not for what he does, but for who he is. Now that I learned that, he basically kisses the ground I walk on. Love who YOUR man is, and figure out what HIS unique needs are! Xoxo

I really like what you said about how you used to dive into your negative emotions and didn't like small talk and only wanted deep conversations but it was really just trauma dumping and bonding over trauma. I totally went through a very similar stage in my life and never realized until you just said that. I thought it was "cool" or "deep" how I would always want to have those traumatic-type conversations. Really glad you brought that up!

Something I’m learning right now is being happy with where the Lord has me right now and, whatever season I’m in, praising God for His graciousness and kindness for having me here. There’s so much to appreciate in each season and often I can get a little down wishing and hoping (proverbs 13:12 - Hope deferred makes the heart sick). I always remind myself I’m right where I’m supposed to be! Thank you Caitlin for all of your wonderful advice and for sharing your wisdom with us! Blessings 🌸✨🌻

I am coming up on my 6th anniversary and I really want to invest in my marriage this year. We are both Christians and I am a part time working mom of a toddler. I feel so much of what you described - I can be defensive and harbour past hurt and blame my husband for a sense of unhappiness that I have with our relationship. I would love to hear more about how you re-trained your thought patterns to positive ones. I just started reading a book called “the seven principles for making marriage work” while my husband and I were on a solo road trip together and while it does not come from a Christian world view, so far (we’re only about 25% through) it had a ton of useful information/exercises for continuing friendship that is the basis of a long lasting happy marriage (in their hypothesis). Thank you for continuing to give us a peek into how you grow in your relationship, praying for your sweet family ❤️

I love your Channel, your videos make me so happy!! That really is selfcare for me

ma'am I would love you to make video on post pregnancy care that you went through.... skin as well as body especially mommy tummy, tummy skin.... plz guide us n tell us if u had any treatment done for ur body coz it's dfclt to luv oneself after so many change

My marriage advice for the fellow believers in Christ is pray for your marriage before you complain- better yet don’t complain. ( God had a lot to say about that) God cares about your marriage, big and small- so pray about everything. Usually God starts chiseling away at YOU first- so don’t be afraid to be humble. Let Pride die. Smile at each other- for the wives- affirm and appreciate your husband: this is something I’m actually really good at. I tell my husband in person and text him how much I appreciate him. Give respect! Also, find out what your husband loves and do it with a joyful heart. Mine loves foot rubs and it can be hard to give that extra with kids running around- but do so anyway- give them that extra love.

1. Prioritize self care 2. Break the cycle by doing better than how your parents raised you 3. Have light-hearted fun 4. Grace and forgiveness

“Marriage isn’t a contest to see who is most often right. Marriage requires being what the Japanese call ‘the wise bamboo,’ which means you bend so you don’t break. Treat your spouse with the flexibility and respect you would give to a top client. Think how we treat clients; We smile, we are polite, we listen to their ideas. Never forget that your spouse is your most important client.” - Joan Rivers

Hi! To add to your self care point: husbands want this for us too! It's something I'm currently learning but I had a bad habit of working super hard around the house thinking it was helping my husband and my marriage. To some extent it was, but my husband has made me realize I can put some chores off for later and hang out with him and watch a show or whatever I want to do. I used to feel so guilty any time I wasn't working on chores and I was missing out on actually living my life to try to always stay ahead! My husband even told me it was stressing him out to see me stress out so much lol. Our husbands don't expect us to be a cleaning machine, they really just want a fun happy relaxed wife they can hang out with

I've been married for 6 years now and my advice is: 1. It's your marriage and your timeline - don't let anyone rush you and your husband into things, wether is parenthood, changing jobs or buying a house. By figuring it out between you two you will grow and get closer. 2. Something my husband always says: we are a team. That means it's us two against the problem, not against each other. It also means we are ready to help the other person with whatever they are struggling with because we are working towards the same goal: a good life for both of us. Also, Caitlyn, you are ✨glowing✨ It is so nice to see you so happy and more and more confident in yourself ♥️

My advice is to actually marry a decent man. Sounds obvious? Maybe, but I do believe that nobody is perfect and that we are all can improve every day. But only a decent person with enough self-reflection will see his mistakes and learn from them.

When I see myself get frustrated with him if he’s doesn’t put something away that he should’ve I like to remember that if he wasn’t here right now I would be praying that he would be there even to just pick up his socks. We tend to forget how good we have it until we don’t have it.

This video had me in tears. I grew up in a Christian household with a mother who carried a lot of trauma and baggage into her own marriage and watched her belittle and disrespect my dad and blowup in anger at all of us. It created division in our family and my mom still refuses to go to therapy or work on herself. As an adult I struggle being defensive and overly passionate during arguments, it’s taken a lot of work on myself and guidance from my husband to change that pattern. This was SO helpful to hear another person going through the same thing and just put into words how hard that situation can be and the aftermath as an adult. This video meant so much to me and my emotional health, thank you!! It IS possible to break the cycle 💕 7 years in a healthy happy marriage that our kids will flourish experiencing as well.

I’ve been married 3 years and absolutely self care is so important!! I didn’t even finish the video. I just had a baby in July 3 baby’s under the age of 2 and I go get my hair done and nails done and go to the spa monthly take care of YOU so you can take care of everyone in the best way ❤️

I have been watching your videos for a couple years now and honestly feel like I have grown with you! I love seeing how your own feminity, opinions and experiences evolve as you go through new things in your life. ❤️ I hope in the future we'll see some more videos pertaining to motherhood, and how your views on past topics (feminity, budgeting, housework etc) has changed since becoming a mother. I know you have your hands full, and appreciate that you make time for us!! 🌸🌷

Please talk more about finding your safe place and building a family even if you come from a broken family. I know you don’t feel confident when talking about this topic , it’s such a pitty , because you inspire so many of us . And many of us think we can’t “make it” because of our broken childhood

I’m so grateful for you, Caitlin! I was awake all night with a sick toddler last night. Poor girl has an upset tummy. I’ve been looking forward to this since I was your Insta story last night, amidst the middle of the night back rubs and soothing. I’m so excited to enjoy this video, and she just fell asleep. Perfect timing all around 🤍✨

I got married TODAY!!! This video came at the perfect time 💕

I didn't have a stellar example of marriage growing up...while it wasn't volatile, it wasn't loving, either. I never wanted to get married until I met my husband. It just felt right. Now, I feel like my marriage is my biggest accomplishment in life. Not to sound corny or desperate, but it holds such significance for me and I try every day to be the best wife I can be. It makes it easier to do so because my husband tries to be the best husband he can be. It is so special-- I wouldn't trade it for anything.

Don't worry about your advice differing from what it was, years ago- or even months ago. What is life, if our minds aren't growing and changing? You're allowed to change your mind, have fresh opinions, and try new things that work best for you. This is definitely something that I've learned in life.

You’re honestly the best traditional RU-vidr ,plenty of other traditional wives promote tolerating abuse,and I’m so glad you addressed this topic of a healthy marriage (I’m not married 😂😭) Loved the video ❤️❤️

I am 18 years married and still learning! I agree with all your points!! Letting go of ego is big! Love ya!

I really value you♥️You spread God’s love; hugs to you and your family!

Thank you, Caitlin! The Christian belief that love is an action not a feeling is such drudgery. I'm crazy about my husband, he is my best friend. Sometimes he (or i) act unlovable, but I still love him and because of that love, we act in love. Thank you! Christian counseling of "marriage is a business contract " ( yes, a minister told us this! Unbelievable!) Was such a downer. Thanks for your thoughts!

Happy 5th Anniversary of your marriage! 🤵🏻👰🏼

Let. it. go. Let it go. I've been married for 8 years now, and I have for sure realised a problem of mine that I brought into our marriage - the inability to let hurt go. My husband is not perfect (no one is!) and he has of course over the last 8 years, done and said hurtful things. When he has come to me to genuinely apologise and acknowledge my hurt, which is all he can do, did I accept it? 8 out of 10 times, NO! I would drag it out, I would go around in circles about how upset I was, and do the classic silent treatment.. It has taken a lot of internal work, and realising as you say this is what was displayed to me growing up, to acknowledge how unhelpful my behavior has been and implement new ones. I cannot say I am 100% better, but i have come a long way. I now intentionally acknowledge that my husband loves me, he is my best friend and he would never want to see me hurt. And when he apologises, he means it. So give grace, understanding, and let it go. Since doing that, our marriage feels so much lighter, happier and fun! we can now have a disagreement, move on from it, and enjoy our time. So that is my advice - learn to let things go (within reason of course, I am not talking about cheating etc.), accept a genuine apology and enjoy your time together :)

I love the Empowered Wife! One of my favorite marriage books, the audio book version really helped a lot too because it's read by the author.

i can really see your maturity in this video. when you have been married for a while and have young children, we do need moments to ourselves. i like doing my makeup, blow drying my hair so its nice and smooth. for a long time i "let myself go" and now that im putting myself together, i can tell my husband really likes it. im waking up earlier and making time for my "morning routine". making time to wash my face at night and care for my skin. i watch beauty videos when i clean the kitchen. my husband really likes when i look cute. men are visual!

One way I try to “self care” like you described is trying to romanticize life and each season, looking for the beautiful and good things daily. Because as a Christian woman I also struggle with the bubble bath and selfishness of self care culture. But proper beauty maintenance is also something important we should try to keep up with for ourselves and our spouses. I hope this makes sense and maybe helps someone else

Reading the book Fascinating Womanhood saved my marriage. Women have no idea how much they are responsible for the happiness of their marriage

I heard you mention in your last video about Laura Doyle’s podcast and it has been changing my entire life!! I couldn’t be more grateful. Thank you!!

I’ve been married for seven years now, I started reading fascinating womanhood and watching their RU-vid channel and it’s been such a blessing to me and my marriage!

i am 16 and one of my biggest aspirations is to get married to someone who is passionate about the Lord. there is no shame whatsoever in wanting to make yourself a high value woman who cares about physical health indicators, femininity and discipline. it all should be not only to grow as a woman, but also to "become" the right one. we could find the right one and not be the right person for them. it's always an inspiration to see someone actively live about what i dream of living someday. whenever there's a chance to meet a suitor that measures up to my standards, i sure hope to measure up to his too! great video btw :)

Everyone - get the Empowered Wife book Your blog posts and recommendations have been such a help. I also don't come from the best example so I was pretty careful in learning. I've only been in married for a year. Key things I've learnt: Not to judge my husband on random female metrics like how he makes a bed I have no control over my husband It's easier to inspire your husband than command him Be grateful and tell him often the things you're grateful for Don't bring up his wrongs once resolved He wants to make you happy and save you and help you - that's a good thing And yes self care

Always love your videos :)) can’t wait for the video on making friends as an adult in a new town, would also love to learn how to be content during singleness, where to meet traditional men, and more relationship content 😄 and how to move to a small town if you don’t know anyone

Been married 8 years. Definitely will re watch with my husband tonight. Thank you for posting this 🥰🥰🥰

I’m so excited for this!!! Thank you, Caitlin! Others haven’t had the best examples to follow and hope to break the cycle as well too! Also, in your last vlog you said you’d been reading a lot and I would love some recommendations from what you’ve been reading lately! I know your blog has some but an updated list would be fantastic! Xoxo!!

Commenting for the algorithm - happy to see your face again :) happy anniversary !

I'm getting married on October 22 and nervous that my defensive anger used as a coping mechanism will affect our marriage but this gave me a bit more hope. Thank you❤

I'm married just over a year and so value this wisdom from my big sis across the pond! Always love your videos

I want to share something huge that I learned as someone who came from a very harmonious household. My parents are so in sync with each other and rarely argue. And if they do, it was never in front of us kids. Something that was difficult for me to learn in my relationship is that conflict doesn't mean the relationship is bad or can't work. I used to run away at the first sign of conflict and it's my current partner who really taught me that we can work through things and be stronger for it in the end. And I'm so thankful that I've learned this. I'm very happy to have grown up in a blissful household, but I never learned conflict resolution. So just some advice for people out there, just because you and your partner are disagreeing about something, it doesn't mean that your relationship is doomed!

I've been happily married for 12 years, and this is such good advice!!! You have touched on a lot of the exact same lessons that I have learned, but I'll share from my own experience and my own perspective for anyone who is curious. 1. Friendship should be the foundation of your marriage. Lovey dovey feelings ebb and flow sometimes when life is stressful and through hard times. But ultimately my husband is my best friend and I'm his best friend. It transcends that mushy gushy in love feelings. Which we do also have of course, but I think the true strength of our marriage comes from our friendship. And that includes having fun together, sharing our interests, talking about everything with each other. Joking and laughing together, etc. All things best friends do. And I completely agree to keep things lighthearted as much as possible. If every conversation is stressful and talking about issues and problems, it will suck the fun and joy out of your marriage. Those conversations are important, but gosh you should not be having difficult conversations non stop. Lighthearted and fun conversations should be the majority. And after a heavy conversation, try to do something fun together! 2. The best marriage book I've ever read was the 5 love languages book. It helps you to learn HOW to love your spouse. How they feel loved. My husband feels loved through words of affirmation and acts of service. I think it's important to show love to your spouse with all 5, but knowing which are the top ones can help you as a spouse show them your love in the way that they need it. For me, I need quality time and physical touch. We read this book on our honeymoon together, and it has helped us soooo much through the years. 10/10 recommendation. 3. Anger issues. Some of the best marriage advice I've ever heard is to stop viewing the things your husband is doing/saying as if he's trying to hurt/annoy you on purpose. I think it's so easy to slip into this mode of thinking he made that comment or did that action just to be mean. And this immediately makes us defensive and then we lash out in anger and all that does is start an argument. I've learned that for me personally, my anger issues were coming from my childhood. When I expressed hurt feelings or cried, I was made fun of or had my feelings diminished. So I started responding to hurt feelings with anger because that was the only acceptable "negative" emotion to show in those situations. I may have gotten scolded, but I didn't get made fun of or embarrassed for it. Unlearning this behavior has been soooo hard to do, but I am consciously working on it now that I'm aware of the root of this issue. Now if my husband says something hurtful, I take a beat and say in a calm voice "Oh that comment kind of hurt my feelings." What I have learned is that pretty much every time that was never his intention and it was a miscommunication or misunderstanding. This resolves almost every issue immediately because he apologizes for my feelings getting hurt and then further explains what he actually meant, but just didn't express in the best way lol. I can't remember the last time we had an argument since I started doing this. I also catch myself sometimes when I do react in anger and can nip it in the bud and apologize for hit immediately. I now realize that so many of our arguments were based on miscommunications and me getting angry and assuming the worst about my husband in those moments. I now try to make an effort to assume the best. I assume that he probably didn't mean to hurt me. It allows me to address it in a calm and patient way with open communication and honesty and I'm able to express my hurt feelings in a way that doesn't come out as anger. And men respond soooo much better to vulnerability/hurt than to anger/defensiveness. I hope this helps someone!!!

I'm getting married on Saturday, this couldn't have come at a better time. Thank you, Caitlin ❤

This was truly so encouraging,helpful and beautifully spoken! I’m still in the dating stage of life, but will save and remember what you said about marriage relationships- how pride has no place there. Have seen pride play a huge role in many broken relationships where there is continual resentment. Excited to work on my own growth in forgiveness and humility in all friendships, dating and future marriage! Thanks so much Caitlin!

I've been going through a hard time lately, and I really needed to hear someone tell me to seek out fun and light-heartedness. This was great advice and a good wake up call for me! Thank you

More of these marriage videos please!! 💗 My husband and I have been married 7 years this year, and my biggest piece of advice is similar to what you said- have fun! Don’t let the mundane and the busyness of having children steal your excitement of having your hubby around. 😊

I'm not married yet but no harm in learning beforehand XD you look beautiful!!

One of the best marriage videos I have seen!! Been married for 5 years and this information is soooo relatable and practical!! I love being married, I work part time and my husband full time and it is a team effort to get the daily things done plus take care of our sweet baby girl but the playful and flirty moments that make us giggle are the best!!! Aaand I will point out I probably apologize for something everyday 😂😂 I always try to remember that when we were falling in love he was the most special person to me and he is still that special person today. My soulmate and best friend in every way, what is an apology compared to the amazing love he brings to my life??

I'd just like to add (age 48, divorced), that not all feminine women are christian. some of us are secular too! SOme of us irreligious women want to be a traditional wife too. It's not a religious thing, it's a culture thing. My Mom was a stay at home Mom and that's all I wanted to be really.

I clicked on your channel to watch old videos again and you just posted a new one! Excited to watch this, you are glowing.

Deaar Caitlin🥰 I'm so glad to see a new video from you. It's inspiring to see such a beautiful and Christian family in today's times ✝️ You are my inspiration 🥰🌸

Coming up on my first wedding anniversary in a few weeks!!! 💗💞 As a total newbie I don't have much advice, but we did marry a little older (I'm almost 31 and my husband is approaching 40). Meeting and marrying later in life, after having both faced the cold reality that a spouse and family may never happen for either of us, gave me a greater appreciating for who my husband is, and the decades that he did life without me. It taught me to never take my husband for granted. I try (key word "try"... I fail on the regular!) to relate to him in such a way that, if he were to not come home that day, I would have no regrets about the effort I put in to being a good wife! God gets all the credit for bringing my husband and I together, so I deeply value his companionship, loyalty and his mere presence! I thought I may never have what I have now, and am grateful every day for him (even on the not-so-glamorous, "blah" days haha)

That inner happiness and fulfillment you're talking about is really evident I see in you because you tend to glowwwww

This is why those newly married women preaching about “serving your husband” and their “daily routine” videos where they wake up and get ready to cook and clean all day get huge eye rolls from me. Just like she learned, doing stuff for your home and husband constantly isn’t sustainable. It’s cute in movies and books, not in real life. It builds resentment and causes burnout. I’ve been married over 11 years and have two kids under three. I stay home while my husband works nights out of the house. But he puts his own laundry away. He cleans the bathroom he uses the most often. He puts his own dishes in the dishwasher. I work often over 14 hours a day taking care of these kids with frequent nighttime wake ups. I am not here to “serve my husband”. And neither are any of you. We are a team. And should both strive to take care of kids and the house equally.

You are right MM, let’s definitely not promote the wine mom thing. So damaging! Good to see you grow and change over the years.

I think that talking to your parents about your problem in your marriage and including any family member or friend into the problem is a huge mistake. Always talk to your partner and keep your problems in private.

No.1 is the thing I realized just a few days ago. It is all about healthy balance.

Only 3 years married here but I really resonated with each of these points. I personally have a strong opposition to the “happy wife happy life” motto. I can’t tell you how many people told us that at the beginning of our marriage and it never worked/ was something that never sat well with us. While yes I should be happy, so should my husband! And he shouldn’t be suffering just to make me happy! Or walk on eggshells in fear of me being “unhappy”. But I think when you incorporate self care, joy/ fun with your spouse, and apologize and truly repent for your shortcomings.. everyone will be happy/ makes marriage so much better. I think each of these points are extremely wise. Thank you Cait🤍

Love to see new content from you!

How old were you when you got married

Wonderful advice 😊 you are a wonderful example, thank you. You are one of the people I show my girls for inspiration and an excellent role model 😘

Don’t allow your partner isolate you from your friends

I admit that apologizing is something I struggle with, but I've been working on it and have seen how it can make relationships stronger. It's important to let go of your pride and admit when you're wrong.

If I was your parent, watching your content, I would be so proud. What a beautiful family and what an amazing person you are!

I’ve been married for 3 years, but have lived and been with my husband for 12. I’m not Christian, but I love to follow your channel for new mom and homemaking tips. I think my husband and I work together because we treat each other equally as partners and have solid communication, emotional intelligence and trust. Marriage is a choice and as long as you’re growing in the same direction it can really blossom into something beautiful.

I'm a self-care coach (wife, physician, & therapist) and I couldn't agree more on your first point. I coach women all the time on the necessity of making sure your own needs are attended to -- not perfectly, but consistently. And just to bolster your point; this is, indeed, Biblical. The Proverbs 31 woman -- and countless other strong examples -- tended to herself. Where it becomes problematic is when we think we can uphold this without God's support. Self-care + God's care.

Been married for 14 years. No children - cancer took that off the table. Marriage is a two way street: Love, respect, communication, trust, and laughter. He is my best friend and my rock. Thank you for always putting out honest and amazing content. I work insane hours as does my husband and we both together find time for our home and each other.

Golden advice. When your husband is talking to you, even about silly nonsense, stop what your doing, imagine a gold cord from heaven pinning you to the ground and then imagine love from heaven outing into you from that cord and encircling you. Your energy will change. Your husband will energetically notice and will naturally beginning to respond energetically by softening and then slowly start to really talk to you about important things on his mind. It’s like turning on your inner magnet. My channel is about Irish dark feminine wisdom and developing intuition.

you continue to be a valuable inspiration 💚

Read the book Love and Respect! So good! Also please do a hair tutorial on your new bangs lol cut and style :) they're ecstatic what I've been trying to do but can't get them right lol

Loved getting a notification that you have a new video!! 🥰 marriage has been my life’s greatest blessing and honor and it’s so great to see others in the same boat!

How do you stay in shape, I have watched you since early on your Spouse back then and you are in great shape, stay at home with no kid becoming a home maker is quite a challenge, it would be great for you to walk through your exercise if you do or diet something like that

Okay upon watching more, this video is INCREDIBLY relatable. As a fellow highly emotional and sometimes intense woman who comes from a not so stable and happy home environment… thank you thank you thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️ God bless you and your family Caitlin!

Thank you so much Caitlin, from the bottom of my heart ♥️ I will get married on September 17th and in the midst of planning, this video grounded me so much and made me so hopeful for the years to come 🌹 It is so uplifting to feel feminine company in this life, and to kinda stumble forward together, just trying to do our best and learn from each other - or in this case, especially us learning from you 🥰 God Bless you and your efforts 🙏🏼

Happy you're back Ms Midwest!!

You are such a light and have so much wisdom Caitlin! I look up to you so much. When you spoke on your hardships growing up It definitely hit home for me. I’m so thankful to hear you share your advice and experience with it all. God bless you.❤️

I usually looove all your videos and I listen to all your advice, but I feel like you really outdid yourself with this one! I agree one hundred per cent with all of your insights in keeping your marriage. Especially the "view your experiences as neutral", and taking responsability. I usually find people who either refuse their background, or see themselves as a product of them, a victim of your own behaviour. And while I agree that past shapes us, I admire that you can be the one responsible for your actions and reactions and also hold yourself accountable for things. It has definitely been the key to keeping my relationship, alongside making an effort to leave pride behind. It feels good to hear it put into words in such a grounded way. As a side note, to me, in order to balance duties with self love and discipline and joyfullness, it helps me to look up to the character of Mary Poppins. It may not be the usual role model, but I really find her inspiring! Again, thanks so much for your lovely video

Day is made 🥰😍 so excited to watch while I do chores today!

Who do you watch on RU-vid? Do you know more inspiring channels? Please share! I'd love to hear your ideas

Thank you for this 😊

I’m not married, but I am in a relationship with a man right now and I think you could use a lot of these tips when you’re dating as well, especially if you’ve dated this man for an extended time. Maybe it looks different, but this advice could be useful in a dating relationship, too.

Have you changed your make up routine? You look different

24:33 trauma dumping. wow. this whole video was amazing.

Something I’ve done as “self care” is buying a bouquet of flowers at the grocery store once or twice a month. They are lovely to look at and my boys smile when they see them on the table☺️. Keeping life simple has also helped in my marriage. Vacations, dinners and even dates are simple and focused on quality time. My family appreciate the lack of stressful expectations and so do I. Thank you for the video and your tips…we all need help sometime😊

I would love for you to do another video or blog post on working on being less defensive within your relationship

This was really vulnerable and honest so thank you for sharing such amazing advice. Been in a relationship for almost 10 years and I would agree with everything. I’m glad this wasn’t just a sacrifice yourself type video that most femininity channels tend to drill into young women as I did that at the start and ended up a resentful bitter person and it took a long time to work on that Also thank you for sharing about your family, they are not your fault so don’t let anyone make you feel it is your fault, you’ve worked on yourself so hard so don’t let anyone make you feel bad about that, you should be proud I wish you and your family happiness

Thank you for sharing a bit about your background and advice on approaching marriage when coming from a broken home. Would you mind suggesting any other resources you found particularly in your self-reflection and growth journey? Best wishes

i think there’s a massive difference between self care at the expense of your family and self care for the betterment of your family

Thank you for this video and sharing marriage tips! I’m one year in and we both brought past behaviors into our marriage that we have had to work through and are still working through. It brings you closer together to get through that hard stuff. People give up when they don’t know what to do.Here,you are especially real and down to earth. I liked your birth stories too. Mine was a traumatic experience as well. I have been watching you for a while on RU-vid and I checked out your blog recently. I loved this particular video so much. This Christian and Marriage centered content is so good,positive,uplifting and realistic for many of us women. Cause just like you, me, and others we don’t usually receive this picture perfect idea of marriage and family. We have to learn and grow as we go,once we decide to start our own. 🥰 content like this can be so powerful in helping our our society. We need more men and women dedicated to working through hard things in the relationship to achieve a healthy happy marriage and thus puts good examples before our children and then makes our society a little better. It’s all about God and family. Love is hard and Jesus already knew this, that’s why he said I give you a new commandment to love one another as I have loved you.

yes!! the light heartedness is so true. my husband and I always send memes to each other and conversate with movie quotes 💜

I'm (God-willing) getting close to engagement, and the reality of marriage has been hitting me hard in the face lately. Like, hard. And it's a reality that's beautiful but also difficult. That being said, I'm so grateful that I'm being told the difficulties (and beauties) of marriage before-hand! There's a lot of emotions that have been rushing through me and I've been trying to navigate those feelings. So if anyone has any advice for someone entering into engagement and dealing with some of the anxieties of next steps in life, I'd appreciate it!

Your hair looks AMAAAAAZZZIIINNNGGGG!!!

Could you do a video someday on your love story of how you met, how it played out etc? ☺️💕

I’ve been waiting for this video, I’m so excited. Glad to see you making more videos again now that you’ve found the time! Do you have any upcoming videos planned?

I love you, you're a huge inspiration for me. I can listen to you talk all day. Thank you for sharing your life, knowledge and wisdom with us. Appreciate you so much!

Marriage is hard! even if You dont have big problems it is not easy to make a marriege work... as it is constant work... But it is mostly work on yourself... Not other person. It is hard to find power to fight with your bad habbits and in the same tme not judge your other half. As You should be inspiration to each other and share wisdom :) i wish You all love! You have each other as it is rare to find! ❤️

Thank you so much for opening up, it's very encouraging to see how much you and I can relate!

Im getting married in 2 days ♡ so happy listening to your journey