It's really helpful for people like me, because I'm bad at reading body language and bad at social skills, so this kind of helps me break down and have a rational look at my friendships
Do not worry sooner or later that friendship is going to fall apart ...and maybe the person u want to be friends...is going to pursue u.... Lol. But..naah...nobody wants to be friend of someone who sees you as last opcion...
Start meditating. Read books, workout become higher up in the hiearchy. Do this by meditating everyday. Work out and reading cool books, be yourself. Be kind. Check out the rest of Improvement Pills video
I remember back in business school I was taught the most important skill to have is to be able to network and meet people. Yet the only thing I learned in school was Math lol I always found that strange, like why not teach a class on how to meet people? I think Being able to cultivate meaningful relationships is probably the most important skill anyone could learn when it comes to dating, business, family, or friendships (really anything in life) There is not really a course that really exists out there that talks about this. Great content mate, if you ever want to try a different animation style let me know :)
Formula Of Friendship Proximity- how physically close you are when you interact with the person Duration- how long are your interactions Frequency- how often do you see and interact with this person Intensity- how much emotion is sparked during your interactions Increase the Points to Level up the Closeness
The four things as a tl;dr Proximity- how physically close you are when you interact with the person Duration- how long are your interactions Frequency- how often do you see and interact with this person Intensity- how much emotion is sparked during your interactions
I just want to say thank you, I am a 15 year old high functioning autistic girl and I have always found it really hard to make friends and how to make them better friends. I have also been stressing because I don't know what they see me as. Putting it in a point system with different categories and ways to improve will help me keep track of it all and help me know what to do if I want to for example make a friend become a close friend. It makes me feel like I have control of the situation and making friends now does not seem so random and hard. Thank you so much :) you are changing my life
Hi, I'm also a 15 year old autistic girl struggling with navigating socialization and friendships and stuff. just want to say you're not alone and I wish you the best ^^
What do we call ourselves? Improvement addicts? Pill squad? Tamed Bees? I just wanna be able to say something like "Where my Improvement fam at?" and get a ton of likes when I'm early on a video like this
I have to admit, this course is so well done. Like this guy is literally giving you ones of the best explained, visualized, interesting and right classes in the world and that's totally for free?! you are still complaining?!?! if you want to change your social life, you have to work on it, AND THIS GUY LITERALLY GAVE YOU EVERYTHING YOU NEED!?!?! LIKE YOU DONT HAVE TO READ SO MANY BOOKS TO GET TO THIS POINT?!?! this is just like a school class, some people complain that the problem is in the teacher, some that the problem is in course and actually all that is the problem is you. if you want to change, you will HAVE to work on it.
I never really thought that frequency was a factor in frirndship. All of my close friends go to another school and live at least an hour away. The other factors are strong though and there might be other things at play that we will learn later on. Anyways great work as always Improvememt Pill!
Interesting content but what a shame that it seems so marketing/algorithm oriented for example with the “watch to the end statement”, and the ad for your programs in the middle, plus a few other stuff that make the content seems a bit cold and mechanic (IMO) (not so much nice illustration or humor in it for example). I understand that you want your content to be a success on YT and want to use it to promote your stuff but maybe a more subtle way would work better, or with a content not only helpful but also more engaging in some ways (tone, illustrations, humor, colors etc.). Just trying be bring a constructive feedback, hope you don’t mind. 😊 Thanks for the content!
I'd rather have him be straightforward, tho. I don't mind there not being much humor as long as the info is solid, which it is. Would you rather have forced jokes or just straightforward info? Not saying IP can't be funny, don't know, but maybe he's not trying to be funny for a reason. just my 2 cents
I resonate with this so much. Cold and mechanical, driven with the need to promote. Like we get it IP, you want growth. This is a business. Ok. It becomes painful when you stop the lesson in the middle to advertise. If you focus on continuing to deliver meaningful content, perhaps you won't have to advertise in such an uncouth way. We still appreciate your vids.
I really liked a pretty girl in my class a couple of years ago. We saw each other very often and we even travelled in the same bus, but there was no interaction and minimum eye contact. I faced my fears of approaching her and before we knew it we would sit together everyday as we took the bus to and from school, the relationship escalated fast and I soon became one of her close friends simply by facing my fear of rejection and increasing proximity, frequency and depth. ( This actually works )
@Americo Hagim she moved country's and had a change of heart, when we finally met again after several years... I travelled to see her) she had moved on with someone else. Was really painful letting her go bcuz I loved her since I was 10 now I'm 20, but life goes on eh... I'm still getting over her lol but I've learned a lot about life and relationships with women since.
quit trying to make friends, you don’t need em. y’all ain’t see past certain things and jump to youtube videos but trust me y’all are in the best position in your life
*being in the same class *sitting next to each other *talking during lectures *being in same hostel room *sleeping on the same bed *eating together *studying together *playing together *laughing together. Damnnnnnnnn.... That's how me and my friends live.
Proximity - how physically close you are when you interact with the person Duration - how long are your interactions with the person in mind Frequency - how often do you see and interact with this person Intensity - how much emotion is sparked during your interactions
For anyone interested, so far most of this course's principles come from "The Like Switch". It's a great book, and I recommend it to anyone truly interested in improving even further his or her social skills. Also, I have to acknowledge that Improvement Pill has improved these concepts, making them more measurable, and I love the new perspective this has brought to them. Can't wait for the next episode :)
pill, this info is so useful - but please could you make a video on how to be more "intense" and spark a lot of emotion? i'm guessing it's about being hilariously funny and engaging, but that comes hard for me :( pls help, other people always seem to make friends so quickly
Are you sure I can amplify my relationship with other people? In certain situations, when people will get to know each other very well, they may stop maintain their relationship. Why? Because they may find them different and in long-term they find out that this relationship won't contribute to them any good. So they decide to break up with each other. BTW. Keep uploading. Great job. I wanna comment on your videos in order to remember better the knowledge within video.
I was always confused about how to make the difference between an acquaintance and a stranger .The video is very helpful in that regard but could you give us a few tips about how to actually get to be someone's acquaintance? It is hard for shy people ( such as myself ) to engage in conversations with strangers that they share the same class with for example . Thank you for the helpful content anyway!
I don't have high Frequency with anybody, I don't like it to much to see the same people over and ovwr again. I see my best Friend every few Months and it's always awesome
Hey ImprovementPill, first of all I like your videos. I watched the BeeFriend course and now I’m watching Tamed. You come up with some very useful tricks 👍. I have a question: You never say anything about „tasks“ or small gestures someone does. I think that when you do such gestures from time to time and/or if they want something from you always stay reliable then this boosts your worth enormously. What do you think?
The more one is liked, the more social drama, conflict, and possible victimization will come their way. I remain as unnoticed and anonymous as possible. This assures the maximum possibility of never having to endure drama, conflict, betrayal, nor being used for the benefit of the narcissist. I will never allow any of the negative things I mentioned to happen to me again.
Seeing this during covid and thinking why I'm in college and don't have any friends. Due to covid, I have been to my college once, nor have I physically met any of my classmates, and due to the new varient don't think will go to college anytime soon. Now through this video I realise I have a 1 in literally every category leading to no real friendships or relationships. Sad life
Hi! Just a quick question about a special case I had (regarding proximity). I recently had a long-distance relationship, which I think would fall under S.O at a first glance (bc of the definitions). She was a girl I maintained a relationship with for four years. We met at a kids camp and saw each other again after two years, for a total of 5 irl encuounters. After evaluating our relationship through the scale I got P=1(or9), D=8, F=10, I=8. Totaling at either 27 or 35 points, which signlas we were either only close friends or S.O. ...What do you say? Thank you so much for the BeeFriend course, what little i've seen has been amazingly helpfull :D Merry christmas!
I agree. I mean according to this the therapist sould be almost your S.O but I don't think you can consider him as a friend😅 This is how it's oversimplified yet overanalyzed
On a certain level, we have I like you in our brain, the neurochemicals that show up in flow: so dopamine, norepinephrine, anandamide, endorphins, and serotonin. If you were to try to cocktail the street drug version of that, right, you're trying to blend like heroin and speed and coke and acid and weed- and point is, you can't do it. It turns out the brain can cocktail all of 'em at once, which is why people will prefer flow to almost any experience on Earth. It's our favorite experience. It's the most addictive experience on Earth. Why? 'Cause it cocktails five or six of the largest pleasure drugs the brain can produce. We're all capable of so much more than we know. That is a commonality across the board. And one of the big reasons is we're all hardwired for flow, and flow is a massive amplification of what's possible for ourselves.
I mean, u can not really place a s.o right after close friend, because.. when you whant someone to be your "girl" or something, you really dont want to get in "friendzone" (my personal feeling) Perfect video as always :D
The accuracy of this comment hurts my soul. This is my first week at college and I spent all day trying to meet people and no one wanted to, now I am in my dorm watching this video :'(
To be honest, I actually am more analytical, so this approach makes a lot more sense than when a coach advises me to just "be myself." It allows me to process what is going on and to take things step by step. If you are like me and you never experienced being your true self to people before, you won't really know what it's like to be your full self around people. Hearing others tell you to be yourself will just not make sense, so this really helps.
Dude i want friendship with: Proximity 6 (same class) Duration 6(hour and a half long classes Frequency 9 (every school day) Intensity 6 (speech class so there usually some emotion in it always) Only known him for a week
Damn so basically to get a Girlfriend your Duration, Intensity, Proximity needs to be a 10 and Frequency a 5. Sounds like doing a quest or a mission and you need to have the right armor/high level weapons to beat it lol
