5 Asexual People Explain What "Asexual" Means To Them 

I felt that deep!

Why can't be both, equally..

ikr i really wish i find someone that feels the same way as me

Lol. Single people have that problem too

Not that hard if you clear up what you like or want and you relate to others in that way. Less drama and complications y’all...

Yes. Like please 👍

For sure 😂

I know there's an ace app called... Ace app? I think

@@notastarcloud Thanks so much! I downloaded it today and have made so many new ace friends! ♠💜

yes!!

Exactly!

You speak my mind!

Sooo true.. can't agree more

Haha what's the deal with sex? Not too much, it's just the exact event that took place, resulting in your existence? It's a basic human need for the vast majority of us because it's how the human race exists. We're programmed to mate and sustain the population of our species. Nothing unique to humans or mammals in general. I respect you're asexual and I don't discount it one bit. That being said, I really get the impression you're not looking at things objectively and are possibly discounting my sexual desires and the importance of them. You deserve to live your life whatever way you want to. Anybody that ever challenged you on that is an ignorant bigot. It's funny actually, if I could choose I would probably decide to have no sex drive what so ever.

@@thisnoize7 You're not entirely wrong, but I doubt the main reason people want to have sex is to reproduce. And not all sex sessions (whatever their called) result in pregnancy.

Can I steal this please?

THISSS

This perfectly sums up my feelings 😂

@@mariesalinas3910 jeez "can I steal this please?" cringe af

@@penn9266 cringe

Thanks. I'm a 19 year old Male who is an Aromantic Asexual. I have never met a male who was Aromantic and Asexual. It makes me feel unique. Whilst people talk about having girl/bog friends, i actually brag and embrace to others that i am Aromantic and Asexual. My Perspective: Me as an Aromamtic Asexual, i have never kissed anyone not related to me on the lips or cheeks. I have never dated. I have never had sex. I am repulsed by sex and find kissing absolutely disgusting. I find watching porn for entertainment or to masturbate the most disgusting thing ever. I don't mind hugging, holding hands, high fives or pat on backs. I still Masturbate (i see it as a stress relief activity rather than a sexual one)

It's most cishets that don't understand this. Only they have a problem when I tell them I'm an asexual peed0romantic, but my LGBT friends get it.

@@pedomcpedoson6213 Oh don't act marginalised

Sex can be disgusting lol but I really feel the need for it when I'm stressed out. I wouldn't sleep with just anyone though and it is just another layer to my relationship. Definitely couldn't imagine it not being there.

Well Sex is a Part Of Love

Yes it’s disgusting too

Man to man women to women any kind of way pretty gross

thats so wrong im sorry people say that to you guys ♥️

Katarina Oliver i wouldnt say its rape unless they touch you but its creepy disrespectful and so closeminded

Katarina Oliver saying that it is rape is too far. Now if the guy or girl FORCED you to have sex without your consent, then that would be rape. Don’t misuse the word rape.

I wish this information was available to you sooner, im super glad we live in an age where sexuality can be openly discussed and defined. Congratulations on finding yourself ❤️❤️

This is legit one of the nicest things I've read in the RU-vid comments, I'm so happy that you've been able to find yourself.

I identify as asexual too. Every since like puberty age 11-16, I never can imagine myself having sexual intercourse with anyone. I get weird out to thinking about how my older cousins got pregnant. But, respect them for being a mom and having the strength to create a new born baby. At 16-17, I just searched up on Google about why do I feel that way. And, I find out about the term asexual. During that time, I thought that being asexual is less scarier than being the other sexualites : LGBTQ. Like it will receive less hate, because it just felt normal and right for me. But,I should not think that. Everyone have their own experiences. I should not make assumptions. I think that whatever gender and sexuality you identify with is your own business and life. Is your rights. No one should hate or make fun of you. Or even make you suffer. Is not right, we all need to be treated equally. 😊☺️🌈🏳️‍🌈

Men trying to force themselves on you to "correct you" is both disgusting and ridiculous. I'm so sorry you had to experience that. But I'm happy you finally discovered the terminology to express your truth.

Asexuality does sound ridiculous. Bad enough every type of sexual deviant in the US has their fetish of choice public and celebrated largely thanks to Obama and his tyrannical supreme court; but now those with no desire for sex need to be recognized as not wanting it? Who cares? Maybe you were the most beautiful woman in your youth and every man wanted you; still were you really being assaulted or threatened with rape? Why would you have ever been alone with anyone in an intimate way as an asexual anyway? Asexual sounds like you just want attention.

That definately wasn't necessary. Since when doss fitting in have to do with having sex? He grew up in a weird place.

@@avivastudios2311 As sad as it is, it's not strange. When people find out I am a 28 year old virgin, I'm treated entirely different. I don't even tell them I may not be interested in sex. I think at that point I'd be met with hostility. I live in PA, just outside of Philly. If that matters. Maybe Californians would be cooler about it, but I would never want to live there.

Ikr

This came up in my suggested feed, and just said the same sentence outloud.

Hi it’s Vesssa yeah wtf

Lmao

Ikr

Or rather once it's done...it's done. You cannot go back :p

Absolutely

I guess my sexual attraction got replaced with a love for tattoos

I think it’s disgusting I hate seeing people genitalia 😷

Sooo truuuuue

I discovered this about myself 3 months ago. It's definitely different being Black because you already know we think everything is weird. 🙄 At first I thought I just wanted celibacy but year, after year after year and then I finally did some research... 🤷🏾‍♀️

OMG SAME, I thought something was wrong with me

I did cry 😢

You're frigid. The name has existed for decades...

Same

No

Saw a screenshot of your post on r/asexuality, as well as the less than stellar responses so far, so I figured I'd come drop you some positive feedback. I appreciate this post, and others like it. Little reminders and validations sprinkled across the internet really help sometimes. It reminds me that I'm not the only one, that there are other people who understand, who accept. So thank you Zyphon.

ur so valid! thank u for being a positive force for aces in the Minecraft community! :D

@@Bigjoebig yes

thanks for the support :D Saw the post on r/asexuality and wanted to let everyone know you are all valid no matter your sexuality, gender and race! 🖤🤍💜

Oh dear you are so special

@@pannihto7588 Yes! Every human is!👍

Why mention that virgin part tho?,

Can understand that you are happy being Asexuall :) But can you explain me why you said happy being a Virgin? What Asexuality has to care anything about Virginity?

id assume its bc they were told "maybe you haven't found the right person yet" or "you havent tried it, how would you know?" thats why its important. they know what they need and dont need, dont let themself be made insecure enough to "just give it a shot" and potentially scar themselves. they trust their needs and intuition and thats amazing!

You! Thank you! For some reason people cant comprehend it

@@mementomori1590 ❤️

Yes finally someone who understands

Exactly!!! That’s pretty much the best description of what asexuality is

Of course it's hard to understand. Our culture, psychology, instincts, education etc. are all based on something else and 99,9% of humans feel totally different towards it, have deep sexual desires. Don't get me wrong, people should do as they please and if they don't want to have sex, nobody can say anything against that or God forbid force them to. But obviously it is an irritating, totally uncommon thing and clashes with a lot of what has been established as fact about the human psyche (urge to pass on life, erotic thinking and so on). But there's nothing wrong with that either. Nobody is normal in every way. You know what I mean?

Ikr

Yeah so true You must think about it constantly but never have it apparently

Hehe ....nice. Catch❤️✌️

It's never wrong to want or not want sex.

Na it’s not wrong to want sex who said that

Sorry I forgot sex education, they did include it. Thank you Netflix!

@@allysoclock watch The Monogatari series, just go ahead it's exactly what you are looking for

I really think in the future they will be asexual type movies.

There is a new show in Japan called Koisenu Futari with two canon AroAce leads! Highly recommend ☺

Agreed 100%

Am also I need asexual man who respect my feeling's

Same. Not many of us out there, and it was darn confusing growing up with non-ace friends. "What do you think of that girl? Is she hot?", "I don't know, her skin is nice.", "No, like would you bang her?", "Why?". If people ask, I tend to say I'm straight just to keep things simple. I want to keep relationships professional, I've got no concealed agenda with other people, so why attract attention to myself? Not to say I'm ashamed of it, if I'm with a person I click with then I'll be open about it, but there's no need for work to know this. I'm not going to cause trouble, that's all they need to know.

@@HarmonicaMustang im sorry but the "her skin is nice" made me think of that scene in harry potter with ron ans harrg

@@dorbynbeavey6530 omg yes HAHAHAHAHAHHAA

Amen, brother

It´s weird how people have no problem to accept there are people who have sex without love (BTW I bet plenty of them are aromantic), but when it´s love without sex it´s suddenly impossible to understand for them.

It's the same for me! I'm not aromantic, I'm biromantic. It's just I don't find sex an important thing for me and I don't want it. But I do have romantic feelings. I'm actually very romantic❤😂

@@giadabasso55 same here and its pretty hard to make them understand this thing 😓

That’s because it is impossible to truly have sex without some level of love, more so for women than men due to hypergamy vs polygamy theory. Sex is a part of love. It connects to people on a deeper level physically than anything else. My question for you is, are you opposed to kissing and hugging? That’s sexual, at least it can be. I imagine if you’re doing that with your romantic partner whoever that may be would take it as such. If so, that’s unfair to them if they are not asexual, I’d imagine they want to have sex with you. I’m not exactly sure why anyone here made this choice but I have two hypotheses unless someone gives me a hard answer: 1. You were rejected by the other gender enough to essentially become a MGTOW (gender less in this case of course) or 2. You were influenced by such an unhealthy view on sex or had a terrible first experience and now you’re against it. If it’s the latter, I’m sorry for your situation. I am free to talk platonically and intelligently if you want to discuss why there’s more to factor in. If it’s the prior, well that sucks. Getting rejected is a terrible feeling and I’m sorry for your loss but there’s plenty of fish in the sea. Judging by your name, you’re a female. Do you want to have children some day? It’s ok if you don’t, I don’t want children either, but I’m also not asexual...

[] no I don’t want to have children.. and if I did I wouldnt give birth to them.....

My parents always tell me I will meet someone if I let myself out there in the dating scene 😣

I concur, I just want to be single and refuse to mingle, but no, people aren’t okay with that for some mysterious reason.

Well dont listen to what society says plain and simple

Yea why do people have to shame others for what makes them comfortable? It's unkind

Hello Emily, welcome to the AA meeting. 💜🖤

Yes, many Asexuals love to cuddle. =)

yessir

YES THIS

YES

PLEASE OML

I don't mean to be offensive, I'm just trying to learn like everyone else, but are asexuals virgins for life? Sorry, if I sound ignorant. Would an asexual ever want to discover if they might attempt having sex or is it totally off limits?

Some asexuals to have sex, others don’t. Some have found out they were asexual through sexual encounters and others, such as myself, know they are asexual without needing to put themselves in a sexual situation. There are sex positive asexuals who are willing to try having sex with someone close to them.

@@rachelgreen4510 I've had sexual experience, mainly due to curiosity and pressure from others and society, and learned sex was not enjoyable, as I simply had no desire. I do not think Asexuals are rare. How many women and men throughout time have simply gone through the motions, so to speak, in order to appease others and fit into society? I'm willing to say numourous! Growing up listening to older generations I knew of many women who did not enjoy sex at all, but did it because it "was their duty".I think it's beyond time that changed and for people to accept that sex is not for everyone and it's okay. You can still have a beautiful life without sexual intimacy.

@@oc038161 thanks for the input

@@lillydee5978 thanks, I'm glad people nowadays are able to discuss these things openly without taboo.

ahhh, im ace and homoromantic and i couldn’t relate more 😭

@Winter Wren me too 😭

This!!!

And bake some pizza rolls 😪

Pan is bread in spanish

There is also ACEapp, which is a great complement as it is ace only and is a good tool to find ace chat, friends or search for love nearby. It saves you on the transphobes and people who don't really understand what you want. Regardless, if this is policed well in Tinder it is a great thing to have as well!

@Axel Drans Every person has this same bad behaviour, not just women.

Yeah they think they slick

I like how it's come up in my suggestions like "I get it"

So what is the point of they aren't attracted to anyone

Same

Yeeey but nowadays love is always linked to sex.

YESSS When u are both aces u know that other person love YOU, not your body and its the best feeling ever istg!

yh

Same just I am too caring towards my one and only friend but he is hetero😂😂😢

She’s so lucky!! ❤️

What about you tho? You're not asexual so how would you compensate those needs?

How are you going to make it work? If you are sexual and need that in you’re life you might end up cheating and once you have that deep sexual connection it’s hard to go back to your girlfriend. It’s like feeding a lion broccoli and one day you leave a steak outside and the rest is history.

Maybe you can have sex with someone else and if it makes her jealous, then is it all a lie? 🧐

My gf wants to break up cause I might be asexual? I don’t wanna admit it tho . Idk

I've always felt the same way! You're definitely not alone.

Godddzzz, I was wondering abt the same thing . It's sooo annoying and confusing

so you're probably bioromantic

I always felt this way, too! And I'd always describe it that way a friend of mine actually called i was ace a while back, but now i know for certain n.n

Same! So glad I've found the people who understand me! I'm not crazy thank goodness

Transgender would not agree to this quote

@@ejbvides4625 📠

@@ejbvides4625 lmao

@@ejbvides4625 wrong

Right

Same, I went to the doctor about 5 years ago to get a blood panel and they said my hormones were fine and there's nothing they can do. After seeing this video I'm pretty sure I'm not asexual either 🤷‍♂ What can you do I guess.

Not all asexual people are sex repulsed. Some enjoy it. It’s low to no sexual desire. Many of us are sex indifferent. I could def go the rest of my life without it, but it’s a spectrum ❤️

I really feel for you. They should totally have a site for ace and aro people.

Can you define romantic attraction for me? What do you mean by saying romantic attraction?

@@TyGuay It's basically like you would like the idea of dating someone, being romantic (like kissing, hugging, cuddling, etc.), but not being sexually involved with them

wwwhoknowscom Many of us allosexuals mentally associate sexual and romantic attraction and it’s hard to see them as separate. For me I almost always experience them concurrently. I would describe romantic attraction as a strong desire to become part of someone’s life, be with them all the time, learn everything there is to know about them, share all your dark side, and in general be physically/emotionally intimate in a way that would feel inappropriate in a friendship. I would describe wanting to be friends with someone as “hey this person is cool I wanna get to know them more” and romantic attraction as “this person is amazing, I feel so happy around them, I want to be with them all the time and know everything about them and play a large role in their life” It sounds kinda creepy and obsessive because it is 😂

@@bananewane1402 you said with romantic attraction it was in general, to be physically and emotionally intimate that would feel inappropriate with a friend. But wouldnt that also be a sexual attraction because you couldnt be physically intimate with someone you're not sexually attracted to, that would be awkward. Edit: plus the comment before you said that its not being sexually active with them only kissing and cuddling so im just getting mixed definitions here.

Saaaaame

How was she asexual when she had you? Lmao, lying ass.

Lil Kacchan asexuals can still have sex. It’s just the lack of desire for sex, not the inability to do it.

This is absolutely beautiful ❤️

That’s beautiful

@@CaliFinestDemon There is a spectrum, in this situation it sounds as if this woman in particular wasn't aware of the label "Asexaulity" or she felt pressured, but I'm sure there are plenty of Aces who want children.

I agree. I just found out I was asexual a couple of days ago and I’ve been more in love than when I was into sex. I think it makes us more affectionate and loving than constantly wanting to have sex 24/7.

Asexuals actually love people's hearts whereas others just fall in love with parts, shallow hypersexual people make us depressed

Such wisdom uncle iroh has inspired u to share

"dehumanize"? I wouldn't say all that...

Thank you c:

Thank you very much. ^_^

Thank you 🖤 we don't get that a lot.

omg thank you. I don't fully understand you either but do what makes you happy and we can just coexist peacefully 💜

thanks....I'm asexual and i have no feelings for a boy

I hope your parents will be more understanding towards you! I agree with you on the last part thanks for this comment :3 We'll find happiness someday

I find gold and diamonds physically attractive too.

@@uu__ivy why are you afraid ? being asexual has nothing to do with lgbtq community , just talk to them and give them time, I'm sure they will understand u.

@@mariembenks7919 mm what do you think the freaking "A" in lgbtqia+ is for?

@@memezoffuckery3207 or a case full on money. Or to see a 1 followed by many zeros in my bank account. Now that's a real wet dream.

Me too girl. The other day when I was going into the topic with my sis, she asked me if I was lesbian. And my family always saying "dont worry he's somewhere out there."😔

Same

Oh no dont feel like tht, gentleman is always appreciated!!:))

I know how you feel but this problem isn't only applied to asexuals but he very entity of men. Nowadays alot of people will get kicked out for sexual harrasments even though I just opened a door for you. Something like that.

If you say hi to a female with good intentions then she'll be divided into these parts 1) if she thinks your attractive your okay 2)but if she doesn't you'll be framed for sexual harrasments And you won't know if you attractive to her or not

This is maybe one of the only times I will actually sympathize with a men 🙈 I'm not really sexist but I am more of a feminist but of course not automatically believing a woman who walks in to the police station reporting a rape case that the guy did in fact rape her without giving him a chance 🙄 that's very disgusting and barbaric hence why I'm not so excited with them but women are not so self centered as men so they will give the men a chance to prove himself but if the roles were reversed and we check those countries who are so sexist and need to abuse their female citizens in order to think or show how manly they are 😤 well I'm still baffled as to where that low end narcissistic way of thinking comes from 🤔 because even the animals know that they can prove their strength and masculinity by only competing with a Male so please someone if you know who or where this ludacris ideology came from i would really appreciate it 🙏 So for people like me this behaviour makes me wonder what is really in that diluted skull🤨 if you somehow always manage to make the women whom are clearly the victims and came to you for help are actually the reason for whatever it is that they are complaining about 🤦‍♀️🤯🤔. I genuinely get so angry and filled with so much disgust that🤐🥴 Couldn't really find a really deserving and fitting word for these behaviors. Fortunately for you if you are one of those incompetent men then count your lucky stars for today at least that you aren't anywhere near this volcano 🤨😖 A question that I always ask but no one really answers 😑 so anyone who has anything to add or point out please feel free because I would really like an answer to this......i can't even think of a name to address these people 🤦‍♀️ If these men have this ideology of being better, smarter and more intelligent than females then why is it so hard for them to at least give them a fair chance at presenting their case because since you are so convinced that you are better and higher than a female then regardless of the outcome you should have the balls to actually side with the truth?😒 I mean come on if being physically strong was actually considered even 2% as important and real meaning in the world then how is it possible that whenever you have an emergency regardless of the profession the person on the other end is more likely to be smaller than you and yes that goes for Male too. Why can't you fix this problem? Aren't you supposed to be the one who knows everything and the one who really doesn't need the opposite gender?🤔 So you should be fine lol well that's actually pushing it because you are probably in tears at that moment and is convinced that you dying. So please clear my misconception about how that is in any way a logical or common sense to these men?? I mean I know unfortunately their insect sized brain can't think beyond anything but how to just keep on stopping the opposite gender from ever breathing without your permission 🙃 because of the fear of them realizing that the power they possess is far more bigger and higher than your mere physical power so in order to still maintain this well kept ideology and is as old as time itself you will do everything in your so called and self appointed ruler head that it doesn't matter if it even means you will die but not be treated by a female doctor then I honestly do hope God sends a way or miracle to really gift these men with some more brain cells 🙏🙏 Because if Corona a virus that can't be seen in a physical form can turn the world upside down then i mean even though some of them would like to call themselves God unfortunately they are mere mortals and not in any way difficult for God to change their twisted heads but let's face it if all the world's problems were solved and people lived in harmony then it will automatically lose the desire to grow and thrive and when that happens boredom sets in and whatever else I'm no scientist or doctor but I can say with confidence that humans need a constant stimulation to really function stay sane. Otherwise we will all just end up crazy because peace and coexisting without greed,envy and all of the traits that add up to most of the problems existing are being caused by then we will have to wait for heaven. I hope this makes sense to anyone 🙏 if you agree with me and or even come close to the way i perceive the world then please send me a message 😊🤗 I'm dying to even talk to let alone meet someone who understands my way of seeing things because if not then I'm probably crazy 🤷‍♀️🙈

Do you have a desire to marry or have kids one day ?

literally tho, like I don't mind being in a relationship where I genuinely love the person, its just I don't want to have sex with them lol

Exactly

@@lemonflavouredbleach3640 yeah ..find an asexual M or Female.Simple as that.

Exactly! And If you want to have kids, u can have an ivf or you can adopt a child. Asexuals can still have a romantic relationship and have a family but maybe it’s easier if your partner is asexual too.

Just hypothetical: we meet up, we like each other and it grows into something beautiful. BUT! I for instance do have sexual attraction and needs towards people. Would I be allowed to have just that sexual part with someone else? Since I can't really share that with you.

ikr?? 😂

Dude, I'm legit impressed and grateful

I’ve literally had many people tell me I have a disorder or say that sex is natural and I would learn that it’s a **need.** Sex is natural but I just don’t want it, sex isn’t a need (for me) and plain our saying I have a disorder? Fucking rude and gross to say that to me or ANY asexual is just not okay, many people don’t understand or think I’m crazy for not wanting sex. I just want a relationship with a man that’s not sexual in anyway. Watching this made me feel amazing and that I’m not alone.

Yep, it sure is

Some asexual people would like to find partners too! It's one of the most difficult things about being ace, imo. Think about how difficult it already is to find a lasting relationship. Now add into the equation "I don't want to have sex" and imagine how much harder it will be to ever find somebody who is okay with that. A lot of us are alone. A lot of us are resigned to being alone forever. We need a dating app that helps aces find aces.

It's not weird. That's the point.

exactly my thoughts

@@eszemaszeszed its totally weird. But that doesnt make it wrong or something they should be looked down upon for.

@@pumkin54 Just look for friends. Its a lot easier to find friends than sexual partners. Why go on Tinder, its a dating app for hook ups.

I mean, we can also like people for how they look (aesthetics attraction), we can be just as vain without wanting to sleep with someone.

@@theviewer6889 Yes. I'm not Asexual but I had a friend, girl who was Asexual but could have romantic relationships. I guess she would choose her lover on the terms stated by you..

@@pradyoth5 She might, she might also go for other things like personality, emotional compatability, etc.

Then there's me, who's asexual and aromantic *and* antisocial, and I don't love anyone or like people in general. Just chillin alone here

@@purplebaguette6747 true I only date food ;-;

that’s exactly it. i want a best friend i can marry and be my companion through life, i just don’t want and won’t get anything out of sex with them.

That's the kind I want

Platonic life partners. I just learned what that is and I’m….. truly surprised by how much it resonates with me.

Yeah... You get it.

But don't asexual people still feel romantic attraction? The way that I see attraction in a relationship is that it starts out with only attraction (whether romantic and/or sexual) and then once you get to know them you fall in love. But the attraction doesn't just leave once you're in love, does it?

you're definitely not alone hun!! i am not asexual but i don't have any problem with it. i am not very interested in sex. the people that are obsessed with sex have the real problem and clearly don't understand that others may have a different point of view

You could also be demisexual if you are not sure.

That's nice

Yes! Or sometimes they don't even believe you. Because how can you be that age and still a virgin. Worse yet when they find out never dated and kiss because you chose not to (not because you're not approached.) and you're COMPLETELY fine with that

Army! You're not alone 💜 Borahae!

If there were more asexuals human race would go extinct. Yes there are ways to have kids but at the end of the day not everyone is gonna do that, sex is essential for reproduction

I agree with you

There's this lovely romantic kinda song called Passserine. Want to listen? Its by The Oh Hellos.

Is it weird that I kinda wanna be that person that makes ace friendly music in the future lol? I'm still a teen and don't really relate to other teens lol

I listen to metal now and it’s the best “non romantic” genre ever.

And there is I think it's called " ACEapp"

We definitely do. I'm afraid I'll never find an ace guy to have a family with

@@Kachilita 👋🏼

@@Kachilita me, I will have a family w u 😊

Write that down, phil!

Ohhhh I know this feeling... I went basically through hell before I found out about asexuality ! It’s sad that there is almost no representation in the media/movies (except from some sociopaths and this one bojack horseman episode lol) it would have helped me a lot if I would’ve known about this earlier, would’ve safed me a lot of trouble...

@@laila7364 I know! I wish there was more representation in the media

sexual education and understanding of human sexuality sucks to begin with, and when you add *being asexual and not even understanding what that is* on top of that it all ends up very frustrating for many people of varying ages It's likely that I won't ever truly understand myself sexually, which is terrifying since being asexual and learning about "normal" sexual attraction sent me into a prolonged crisis once I hit puberty literally BECAUSE I felt like I was "broken"

@@laila7364 as a sex favourable asexual, I FEEL you on that sociopath/psychopath thing. I used to think I was a psychopath because of how I am/feel about relationships/sex, but I do feel emotions. Just not that kind of attraction !

im finally happy i found ppl like me. thinking "am I normal?"

Im happy for you 💖

Same situation of mine 👍🏻

Well rn me facing the same thing maybe ....🙂

I literally was about to go to the doctor cz I thought my vagina was broke lmaoo

There are ace citea

@@applesong01 give us a link please !

There is a dating app called ACEapp for asexuals!

L.Y. 14 agreed

Yeeeeeeeesssssss

I believe you're correct

Duh!)

they seem more chilled than sexually frustrated people

No , i'm ace , we do have drama , just with friends and family and less with partners

Oh boy i wish

lol yeah that’s so selfish trying to be in a relationship with a man you’re unwilling to provide for sexually; why would you even consider that?

@@joshuacarroll7046 You do understand asexual men exist, right?

Potkanka *man or woman* my point is the same, trying to be in a relationship with someone who is not asexual while providing them no sexual intimacy is a disaster waiting to happen for everyone involved

@@joshuacarroll7046 Well, yeah. I don't see anyone arguing that.

Same with me

I definitely understand you as a Black woman. It’s hard and kind of challenging to be comfortable and expressive with being Asexual in the Black community. We got this though.🤞🏿

@@chocolateprincess8543I agree with you sister, especially if you're a black man- you have to objectify women all the time or if you don't, people will automatically assume that you're a homosexual- I'm not gay, bisexual or straight...

@@melvonjohnson5711 I’m glad you stand firm on how you feel brother.🤞🏿 Always remember to be true to who you are regardless of societal pressure!

@@chocolateprincess8543 Every time I go out with friends, they always say why I never pay attention to women- I could admire women beauty but im not sexually attracted to them in the way...neither I'm I attracted to men- I wish I could find people who are asexual.....it would be so much easier to connect with other individuals who identify as asexual- people just think sexuality is an ultimate choice. I don't find pleasure in being sexual with anybody.

@@melvonjohnson5711 I feel the same way when It comes to men. I definitely find some men to be physically attractive but that as far as it goes. I just don’t imagine laying with them.

SAME

Me too

I'm 26 and a virgin too, I never felt insecure in that bcs any kind of attraction directed to me made me feel very uncomfortable so, my disconfort on closeness was bigger than anything else. I had never kissed or held hands with anyone for that same reason

Much respect 🙏

Dam you are rare you should be proud it better to not give yourself to anyone

all the love to you dear... Ase are awesome & wholesome ❤️

@@AngieLemmon I know this is random, but I'm a virgin too! And I'm 29. I've always wondered what's going on with me growing up, but Now I have an answer: I'm asexual! It makes sense!

If you're interested, I made up a character who identifies as asexual

Not alone! And not alone in crying from this video either 😭

Fully not alone.

did you really think you're the inly asexual in the world? lol---

@@caramelatte5477 No need for such a comment. This is the first time I've heard of the term while growing up in a extremely strict household.

But 2 asexual people will probably do sexual things with each other regardless.

Let me tell you, i have never had a warmer feeling than when my boyfriend accepted me as asexual. He feels sexual attraction but he respects me enough to not make me do it or make me fake sexual attraction. That is beautiful.

AceOfHearts I mean hes right, asexual isn’t anti-sex, mate

I think that's probably why the incest taboo exists in the first place. Family is exalted on the pedestal by most societies.

@@thecourtjester2610 gosh no that's being selfish and punishment, let him go and be happy and find someone like you because you making him to not have sex because you don't like but if it's the other way around, it will be him forcing to have sex because he like it. Sad world

You are an awesome person, no matter what sexuality you have.

@@swarmsea thanks. I think I am average.

@Zebra I got quite some good friends and acquaintance. Even if I am with someone, I do not want to see him everyday. The most important thing is emotionally wired. No sex, thanks. :)

Im happy for you :) you are extremely valid to all of us 💜💜💜

@@takchengsze4719 well can u give me some tips to be asexual? I really don't wanna be in a romantic /sexual relationship with anyone. 😭

Yah I got too much bodywork to do on my truck to care about wimmin right now.

@AceOfHearts agreed!

YES not enough people understand us

@AceOfHearts I don't believe I'm missing much by trolling asexual wimmin.

@@dchawk81 Then your life must be pretty poor.

Sometimes, I don't understand people who believe that we really don't want to have sex. I feel the same. Cuddling is okay, but no step further and I have have to have sex it's always a feeling of obligation, I don't like it at all.

I haven’t told my family I am asexual the only people I have told are two of my closest friends but for me the hardest part of telling my family I am asexual is that I am scared of how they would react to it. To me being asexual is wanting to have a relationship with someone just not a relationship that’s focused on the heavy making out stuff. Hugs and handholding are fine but the heavy making out stuff makes me feel uncomfortable including when those scenes come on in movies. There’s just 1 of my best friends I’ve been wanting to tell them I am asexual but I am not quite sure how to tell them if you know what I mean. I guess I’m just scared of the worst happening.

But you ARE normal. You’re fine. You don’t have to like sex or want it. It’s ok if your parents don’t understand, I’m sure they’ll still love and respect you.

I am panmatic (is that how you say it) and i completely understand what you mean. The thought of sex to me is gross and weird. Also, you are completely normal, and dont ever think down about yourself because of your sexuality. You are an amazing human being.

panromatic i meant oops

I want to tell you that she can be in a relationship if she wants. Asexuals can have pure romantic relationships. If she's Aromantic Asexual then yeah she'll never have a relationship

@@pragyabhushan2338 she’s never had romantic feelings as far as I know. Which is sad. But I guess maybe you don’t miss what you’ve never known?

@@daniellesymons1569 yeah. Like not feeling any Romantic/Sexual Attraction isn't a sad thing.

Can I introduce you the concept of queer-platonic relationships? It is an umbrella term for committed partnerships that fall outside of romantic/sexual attraction. One example would be lifetime roommates who combine finances, another would be best friends who choose to raise children together. There are many people, Asexual-Aromantic and otherwise, who have relationships they customize this way. The most important things are communication, consent, boundaries. That being said, staying alone isn't such a bad thing either. Society is built in favor of couples, and being chronically single does come with hurdles, but friendships and family are valid as hell and there are more and more ways people are learning to come together and support each other through life outside of traditional categories for relationships.

@@Hindustan2469 hi yeah my daughter is asexual and aromantic. I just want her to be happy you know with great friends and un judgemental people. I’ve always been open and never closed as I was raised that way. It never mattered to me when I thought at first she was gay. I was just waiting for her to tell me. But I never expected her to be both asexual and aromantic. It was a shock to say the least. But I’m fine with it now. I just want her to be happy. But she struggles. I can see it. But she’s very proud. She tells me she finds it hard but I’m at a loss really as to how to help her. I can only hope in the future she finds her niche. And content. 🙂

I love it when older people can get something out from our generation

You're taking a view of the relationship based on what your aunt said? By the initiation of menopause, sexual libido drops for most women, it's normal (a little later for men). How would she even know if she enjoyed it when she was about 30? If both (I doubt it's both, likely just her) don't enjoy it, they wouldn't even have sex (almost all old couples stop having sex). "feeling broken". Big talk. Does she actually love him?

@@raylevi5343 She's been married for forty years. She and her spouse are most likely on the asexual spectrum. It's not just now that she's older. It's been that way for years. The reason asexuality is a real orientation is because it's a life enduring trait. Reading comprehension is very important. Please reread the post and understand they are both asexuals.

@@glencora6340 YES say it louder for the people in the back!!

I've been married for 19 years and honestly the sex I can take it or leave it. Sex is a chore for me, I don't really like being touched it makes me uncomfortable. My husband does understand and doesn't ever push me to have sex thankfully. We have sex a few times a year and we do have one child. But I'm just not really into it and never knew it was an actually thing and there were others like me.

Same...

Lo~Go Kitchen happy for you. I just found out a couple of months ago. Everything makes sense now

and he's happier without you. Just cause you don't like sex doesn't mean it's a bad thing if other people want it.

@@3seren Yeah, it's perfectly fine if he experienced sexual attraction, but if he was trying to pressure her into sex, that's bad.

You go girl, I'm happy for you!

@Marcel Who said she did? She matters! Sexist! She agreed to date him. She did NOT AGREE TO SEX. So she is a slave and must submit to what she doesn't want? SEXIST!!

Have a different friend quickly. People like them are very mean and they don't realize that they hurting the others' feeling with the thing they said.

@@redpanda6497 They've come out as lesbian, nonbinary and asexual as well now, and I really hate them and how they make fun of me. But I'd rather have toxic friends than no friends.

@@lloyderlkker8187 how can you be nonbinary and lesbian?

@@lip.w.8910 I know it makes no sense 🤠🤠 just pretend you understand cause that's what I do too 🤡 (It gets weirder when you get to he/him lesbians)

Or when people think you asexual means having no vagina/penis.

I'm hetero as well. I'll just say this... If you're young, MAKE YOUR MONEY NOW!!!!! That way you don't have to rely on anyone or anything!!❤️

I think your Catholic parents are more likely to accept you being Asexual than the other letters on the LGBTQ+ spectrum. There is some Biblical evidence that the Apostle Paul was asexual, and the Catholic Church in particular has a long history of staying single and celibate to be devoted to God. They may still mourn their dreams for you to get married and supply them with grandchildren, but in my experience, Christians find Asexuality easier to accept than Homosexuality, Queerness, etc. I hope you can come out someday, and that you find contentment in being who you are. 💜

not having sexual or romantic attraction have nothing to do with being asexual at all

Ha yeah, though I've been saying this thing to myself a good part of my life, so can we really be surprised by other people saying that to us too? It's definitely great that asexuality gets more attention nowadays so people can get educated about it.

@@Potkanka I would get that from friends who wouldn't believe I'm asexual even after telling them. Was used to convince me to hook up with them too 🙄

@@KarunyaSabapathy Yikes. Sorry to hear that, hopefully they managed to wrap their heads around it eventually, if you're still friends.

That and the "you just haven't had GOOD sex" comments sting the most, impo. I'm married, have children, and didn't find out about asexuality until later, but it seems to fit me. I'm capable of having sex, but most of the time would rather not and didn't experience those feelings at all during my teen years.

Carrie R. give my condolences to your husband, I recognize his burden

Yayyy

same

Me too

Same

sameee

Blake Quintano You’re welcome! Always happy to help a fellow Ace out. 😊💜🖤

Wow so many aces in this world! Im biromantic asexual. 😅

@@milqueteaa That's amazing! Glad you're apart of the community. 😊💜

@Blake Quintano aro is where you dont have a romantic attraction :-)

SecondsTooLate you are a sociopath

Damn. That's a deep thought.

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