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I spent a day with asexuals to learn the truth about this often overlooked sexual orientation.
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@AnthonyPadilla 4 года назад

⚠️ NOTE: when it was written that the A in LGBTQAI+ stands for “ally”, it was meant to reflect what some people have assumed to represent “allies”, while many have corrected to stand for “asexuals”. this was not intended to segregate asexuals away from the LGBTQAI+ community. ORIGINAL POST: come back next week for *I spent a day with AUTISTIC PEOPLE* -- thank you so much for supporting me and this series :) luv, anthony padildo ps: shoutout to everyone who has turned on notifications 🔔 and directly support me in continuing this series.

@dreaminq2389 4 года назад

Alphabet people

@ytminipokemon5660 4 года назад

Love you❤

@PinkpandaEdits 4 года назад

Hi uwu👌👌

@AnoxmoosOG 4 года назад

Spend a day with people that have OCD

@truetravesty9080 4 года назад

Asexuality, when you'd rather sleep, than sleep with someone.

@yeetbigly5827 4 года назад

Yeah basically lol

@mariafausti3128 4 года назад

ikr😂😂😂

@user-ef5nd3ho3n 4 года назад

lol

@childoficarus5334 4 года назад

my literal idea of a perfect date is, go out to a movie or something similar, go home and eat pizza in bed, and then, so are we taking a nap together or what.

@thunderwolf234 4 года назад

But you still can """"sleep"""" together without actually sleeping together

@lolasum_sumi_san 3 года назад

Am I the only asexual who doesn't think of 'kissing' as sexual? I would kiss someone but nothing more.

@jasminewelland2521 3 года назад

When I kiss, I feel like I'd do it to a friend, like there's nothing significant. It's something for fun I guess. I hate making out though I feel disgusted.

@lolasum_sumi_san 3 года назад

@@jasminewelland2521 Yes, thats what I mean. Although I might kiss to show affection as well. Not a smooch or french, just a peck a simple kiss. I do not like the idea of swapping saliva and suffocating LOL.

@ashal7482 3 года назад

i like a kiss like a peck but making out is just 🤢🤢

@alansmithee419 3 года назад

@@ashal7482 Same. It's like one is a nice little display of affection and the other is "hope neither of us have diseases! Or a need to breathe!"

@notasovietspy8008 3 года назад

I think it's more of a romantic action

@JuanPablodelaTorre 4 года назад

If you haven't noticed yet, asexuals can be straight/gay/bi/none. Romantic attraction is also a thing.

@bluemoon2384 4 года назад

Yes! Im a Heteroromantic Asexual :D

@lapislazuli06 4 года назад

@@bluemoon2384 yeah, I think I am too

@salem_ness 4 года назад

JP de la Torre exactly! I’m a bi-romantic asexual

@SoulSlugArts 4 года назад

I'm biromantic demisexual

@noa8497 4 года назад

THANK YOU

@fuzzyzombielove Год назад

"When ever we do intimate stuff, it's more like an invasive medical exam." That hits home.

@emiliacanet9960 Год назад

Lol

@jh9391 Год назад

Yuuuuuup!!

@GayleenFroese Год назад

YEP.

@Half_Baked Год назад

That’s probably one of the most relatable things I ever heard in my entire life

@lenaduchannes8952 Год назад

This, plus Lauren's other comment about bisexuality vs asexuality honestly is the first time I've understood this topic.

@Mari-hb5do 4 года назад

‘I’m more scared of the pregnancy than the children’ - mood

@gdjokerreject2068 4 года назад

Mari IKR

@curlyf4253 4 года назад

Bro people are astonished when I've mentioned that like do you even know the risks. More so the fact that it's painful like hell nah

@brisacruz4593 4 года назад

Sample

@scottyspagett121 4 года назад

Honestly me

@evelyneisenhower8338 4 года назад

Me omg

@take67806 4 года назад

"Sex does not make us whole. So how could you ever be broken?" My favourite perspective on asexuality

@coffiecat05 4 года назад

Oh *gasp* thats deep

@allisonhogarth2983 4 года назад

sex education???

@klaraottosson1461 4 года назад

Sex education right?

@take67806 4 года назад

@@klaraottosson1461 yes. That sentence stuck with me

@painland 4 года назад

i just binged all of it its SOOO fucking good

@Eymologymentality 3 года назад

Fun little reminder: Asexual people don't need to "look" asexual. People can dress however they want. Edit: This also goes for aromantic people!

@Diamond_Doodles 3 года назад

Does ace even have a "look"?

@se6777 3 года назад

Just like nonbinary, lesbian, gay, bi, pan, Demi, het

@helpineedsleep2101 3 года назад

Ikr I told someone I was ace and they literally looked at me and said no

@zivion 3 года назад

How would someone even “look” asexual? 🤔 Wearing a chastity belt on the outside of your clothes? LOL

@cazhmonii 3 года назад

@@zivion literally do you dress like a nun or something? What does dressing asexually even mean??

@hootyhoothoot7 Год назад

It' so weird how our society is so focused on having sex. My friend asked me if I'm ace because having sex doesn't sound really appealing to me right now I'm 15

@MarjorieMcWiggles Год назад

Yes!! My old friend tried to tell me when I was 12 that I might be asexual. She was one of those people who made her sexuality her entire personality, and still does to this day. I was pretty vocal towards her about the fact that I’m a minor and shouldn’t be having sex at all.

@margaretcorfield9891 Год назад

Don't think the concept of sex even entered my head at 15. I lost my virginity at 21, because I wanted to get the sex bit out of the way. I can't stand slobbery sexual kissing, but am okay with other kinds of kiss. I had a wonderful sexual relationship with my husband, we had 3 children, but neither of us ever felt that it was an important aspect of our relationship. We loved each other for many other reasons and in many other ways. I was 35 before I found him and lost him 10 years later. I never felt the need to have sex with someone else ever again. It's easy enough to give yourself an orgasm or more if you want to, easier than fumbling around with someone else for hours and getting nowhere, because you'd rather be eating cake!

@FoxInnaHat Год назад

@@margaretcorfield9891 uuuhhh.... You did in fact read the part were they said they were 15 right? i dont think they needed to hear all of that. hell im 21 and even *I* didnt need to hear all of that.....

@iisle Год назад

Because sex/reproduction is the most important feature humans have

@FoxInnaHat Год назад

@@iisle incorrect, the most important feature is obviously the ability to drink coffee while playing Animal Crossing

@am_ppe4899 4 года назад

"asexuals unlike the government, we wont screw you" the truth has been spoken.

@moopyboi5679 4 года назад

I LIV THAT PART LOLL WE ALL KNOW WERE GETTIN F****** LETS DO SOMETHING ABOUT ALTOGETHER AS ONE !!!

@xxxacu 4 года назад

😭😭😭

@freyamiles3718 4 года назад

there's a reason "ace" is the shortened term

@00imz 4 года назад

LMFAO

@adeola_63 4 года назад

Asexuals for goverment!

@KSPetshops 4 года назад

Calling it a “debut” and not “coming out” is the new move

@sarahwithanh9758 4 года назад

Until you make friends with a bunch of kpop stans, and then they are all like "...what?"

@chickenqueen3251 4 года назад

Iconic

@felix.mp3639 4 года назад

Sarah With An H lmao Ima debut as a new girl and boy group called bisexuals

@jj-og9nl 4 года назад

Sarah With An H so true 😂

@johnwerner69 4 года назад

Sarah With An H I don’t get it?

@potatofairy8535 4 года назад

Well I just figured out there's nothing wrong with me; I'm asexual.

@thefandomfish3071 4 года назад

hell yeah!!! good for you!!!

@rioisnotokay-ipromise-6115 4 года назад

Woo yas Queen!! (Or king, or royalty, not to assume gender)

@potatofairy8535 4 года назад

@@rioisnotokay-ipromise-6115 Thank you, and I'm a girl. :)

@mintyy5105 4 года назад

v proud of you! as an ace person it is SUPER cool when people find out that they are actually just ace!! I swear I thought I was broken or I had problems when I really was just ace, and lemme tell you, finding out ace stuff was actually amazing for me. I hope you have a fantastic day!

@potatofairy8535 4 года назад

@@mintyy5105 I felt the same way, I thought maybe I just hadn't matured in some way or something was very wrong because I didn't feel the same way about relationships as everyone else around me.

@sailorenthusiast Год назад

When I was in high school, I was geniunely confused why it was necessary for my sex ed classes to keep preaching abstinence, as I wasn't at all interested in having sex with anyone. Little did I know that the vast majority of people actual did want to have sex, and that I was in fact a weirdo for not wanting to do that.

@christinewalker7242 Год назад

My sex Ed teacher said I needed to continue to attend classes because "everyone has sex". Well, almost a decade on and I still never want to participate in that activity.

@FoxInnaHat Год назад

I still try not to think about it too much. it hurts my brain to think about any sexuality at all. As an Aro/Ace i would think that anyone would probably have the potential to love one another in the right circumstances right? Like realistically speaking wouldn't there still be niche situations where straight men could be romantically and sexually attracted to other men in the right situations? idk.... i feel like sexualities and preferences are less important than people make it seem to be. as for my Aro/Ace identity, there is no telling what kind of Game of Thrones level plot twist might happen to get me to be in a relationship, but i dont say its 100% impossible cuz nothing is impossible.

@emmareyes7459 Год назад

😂😂

@LootFragg Год назад

Listen, kids. Here's a list of all the germs you can contract from eating feces and the diseases you can get from them. Do not consume large quantities of fecal matter. I know we all look at a pile of poop and go: "Damn, that shit delicious." But you need to understand that you cannot follow your intrinsic impulse of jamming that poop into your mouth. Yes it's something we all crave but the consequences of eating three poops a day or more are dire! You need to abstain from eating that!! STOP NODDING, I KNOW YOU WANT IT!!

@Alexa-so4jh Год назад

@@FoxInnaHata straight man would have little to no sexual or romantic attraction to another man, making a relationship impossible even in “niche” situations. That’s the whole definition of being straight- you are not attracted to the same sex. There’s something called attraction. You are drawn to certain people. I cannot possibly imagine myself with a woman or imagine even being romantically interested in a woman. It’s repulsive to me just like sex may be repulsive to you.

@Camimalm7 3 года назад

Heterosexual: door swings one way Homosexual: the door swings the other way Bisexual: door swings both ways Pansexual: it’s a revolving door Demisexual: the door is locked and only one person has the key Asexual: the door is actually a wall Edit: I’m aware I didn’t make this analogy up you can’t post pics on RU-vid comments and it’s fitting so I wrote it down in the comments because it’s a good easy and funny way to explain it. I’m not trying to take credit lol

@julietjones756 3 года назад

This is actually a really good comparison omg

@azumarill964 3 года назад

Asexual is the door Drake drew on the treehouse episode of Drake and Josh.

@sillygoosetaur 3 года назад

omnisexual: its a revolving door but it goes this way the most

@nickyhanssen9853 3 года назад

The bi door is also revolving, it includes trans, nb, and intersex too

@rocketcoulson460 3 года назад

@@nickyhanssen9853 agreed. there would be no door for pan people maybe?

@sunsetskye483 3 года назад

It’s a running inside joke in the ace community that most asexuals love cake and/or garlic bread, for anyone that doesn’t know.

@sophiam.krager3815 3 года назад

I am ace and ive always loved cake...seems right

@hafsahossain1394 3 года назад

I've never really liked cake or sweet things that much but I surely love garlic bread a lot and I'm an asexual.But I still don't believe asexuality has anything to do with food lmao

@sophiam.krager3815 3 года назад

@@hafsahossain1394 it's more like a joke that came from things like "i would rather have cake than a lover" And similar things, it's more like a meme

@sunsetskye483 3 года назад

@@hafsahossain1394 It doesn't, dw, it's just an inside joke

@notasovietspy8008 3 года назад

Damn I fit in a little to much

@burymyreflection 4 года назад

"Asexuals: unlike the government, we wont screw you" Im dead 😂😂🤣

@imribbit8850 4 года назад

LunaPotato UwU ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

@azimuth7421 4 года назад

I mean, it's true

@crystaltheweirdpotato 4 года назад

I love it 😆

@burymyreflection 4 года назад

@@crystaltheweirdpotato hello fellow potato

@unknown_bitch6734 4 года назад

Technically the truth

@Hepheat75 Год назад

As an asexual, I agree that you don't need sex to have a good relationship.

@OddSwiftGoose Год назад

I agree as fellow ace. we just need a supporting person that we can be with forever

@Hepheat75 Год назад

@@OddSwiftGoose True

@trilobite3120 Год назад

Relationship as in friendship-y or romantic-y

@kosviik9584 Год назад

@@infinitesingularity2023 No. No it is not. Stop saying nonsense things just because YOU feel a certain way. It is not black and white as in 'something is extra' and 'something is a must'. Its like a diner where you pick and choose the parts of your meal together. Just because you don't like potato, doesn't mean some people cannot love it and need it every meal. Just because some people don't need sex, doesn't mean that nobody else needs it and it is universally just an extra. Everyone has different preferences. Some people like verbal affection, compliments, being told 'I love you'. Others value touch, intimacy (not necessarily sex but it is also in this category). Again others like spending time together, talking a lot. Some like getting gifts, not because they are materialistic but because to them it says 'I care about you'. And for every such person there is another that doesn't need these. Same with sex. Just because it is an 'extra' for some (you), it doesn't mean it is an extra for everyone. Some people straight up need it, not because they need their genitals rubbed, but because to them sex is a great way to be vulnerable, to show and share trust with their partner.

@Cyru.s. Год назад

@@kosviik9584 I don't think they meant it in a bad way, I think that they meant it as "it's just something extra that isn't required in a relationship" (coming from an asexual)

@lilalane8738 3 года назад

it's actually laughable how some people don't think that asexuality is real.

@rainingdewdrops 3 года назад

@Ludimeel Sorbo I'm a heterosexual but my sexuality hit me really late (I was a late bloomer in general and I went through puberty quite late so might be the reason why), before that I felt very odd watching everyone around me being so 'sex-obessed', my friends would talk about their crushes and I couldn't relate, I wasn't interested in any of that and the idea of sex was off putting. This is how I imagine some asexuals might feel? Not sure if it's accurate but it helps me to understand it a bit better.

@nenemauu2 3 года назад

Cause its not that normal, I can understand it now tho

@liaammm396 3 года назад

rainingdewdrops yeah that’s basically how we feel. Some of us who are not aros can have romantic attraction though, so we can see someone (more gravitating towards the face) and want to have a nonsexual relationship with them almost like in Disney movies

@thereisnofinishline5773 3 года назад

@@liaammm396 a nonsexual relationship is a lot to ask from a person tho, I imagine it being hard to find someone

@prnst4r 3 года назад

It's fucken weird

@deargodwhatamidoing1122 4 года назад

“Scientist have only found asexuality around 120 years ago” Me looking at my girls Artemis, Hestia and Athena.

@SeptemberHQ 4 года назад

LMAOOOO 😹

@RobertoRodriguez-ev1tt 4 года назад

I dont get it. Can you explain

@deargodwhatamidoing1122 4 года назад

Roberto Rodriguez All the scientist say the first sign of ase’s existing is from 120 years ago, However in the greek myths, Thise three were Well know for not being giveing a crap about sex, aka They were ace, and are more then 2000 years old

@littlemoon8081 4 года назад

I always saw Artemis as a lesbian. Like, she literally was in a relationship with Callisto

@deargodwhatamidoing1122 4 года назад

Keira Moorhead I didn’t know that. Isn’t it great how mytholigy and religion Can be seen in diffrent ways. I wouldnt be surprised if some from that time saw her as lesbian, and others saw her as ase.

@user-wz1jh3rh7z 3 года назад

just a note: you can be asexual and still like people... i dont feel like enough people realize this

@chunkymonkey4975 3 года назад

IKR!! I’m Lesbian Ace and I keep seeing all these things like “if love was a door Ace is a wall” or other things implying that all Aces don’t feel Romantic love! It makes me so mad cuz I feel, less than but still, romantic feelings :/

@laysthechip3356 3 года назад

Yeah I’ve seen quite the amount of people saying asexuals don’t have relationships and that we just don’t like anybody, it pains me to see. I’m aro/ace and that isn’t gonna stop me from liking people nor will it stop me from wanting to have a partner. We don’t need sex or romance to love

@dolphinbluefire 3 года назад

@@laysthechip3356 could you elaborate more on this? I can understand asexuals who want a romantic relationship, but I'm a little confused on the aro ace perspective, forgive my ignorance, but could you please explain what is appealing about a "romantic" relationship, for lack of a better term, to someone who has neither romantic or sexual desire? I understand some asexuals are fully capable of having and even liking sex under the right circumstances, so is it the same for romance for you? Or do you just want a close platonic relationship with someone, purely because you like their personality? Again, apologies for my ignorance, I'm just curious

@solistri 3 года назад

@@dolphinbluefire hi! I'm not lays the chip, but I'm also aromantic, so I'll try to explain :) Most aromantic people don't want to be in a romantic relationship, but some who are romance positive (or romance favorable) can enjoy the concept of romance and/or romantic activities (like kissing, cuddling, holding hands, etc), therefore seek for a romantic partner even though they don't feel romantically attracted to them (and the partner should be aware of that, obviously). Aromantic is also a spectrum, so there are demiromantic, grayromantic, etc. People who actually feel romantic attraction, but under certain circumstances or with low frequency. Some of them may want a romantic relationship. Basically, anyone who doesn't feel romantic attraction like alloromantic people fit in the spectrum. (In the aro and ace community, there's also a type of relationship called queerplatonic relationship, that isn't sexual or romantic, but has a more intense level of commitment, companionship, and/or love than a platonic friendship. It's truly fascinating, if you're interested, I totally recommend reading more about it!)

@dolphinbluefire 3 года назад

@@solistri thank you for the reply, its pretty fascinating to think about, I've struggled with figuring out why I wasn't like other people around me since early high-school, many years ago and just recently learnt about asexuality and in particular demisexuals, which is what seems to fit me the most, however, I consider myself to be very much a hopeless romantic, so the aromatic aspect seemed a little confusing, however your explanation has cleared things up wonderfully, makes tons more sense actually, so thank you very much, not sure why I found it so difficult to grasp when its basically the same with sexual attraction

@SuchitaBhattacharya Год назад

Aphobic Christians: Don't have sex until marriage. Sex is sinful. Asexuals: Okay Aphobic Christians: WAIT NO NOT LIKE THAT. Edit: can y’all please stop having mini-wars in the replies. There’s a reason why i specifically said “APHOBIC Christians.”

@ethandollarhide7943 Год назад

I think somebody should tell them that their Lord and Savior would qualify as an Asexual.

@abbieamavi Год назад

I grew up conservative Christian, and yes. Exactly 😂

@luisshorts. Год назад

@@ethandollarhide7943 the god is just a god, they have no sex with no one so I guess yeah he is asexual good job on kinda coming out god

@idontreadorreply Год назад

no need for aphobic. theyre phobic generally, very misogynistic mostly

@trumpetpunk42 Год назад

Where is this caricature coming from!? 1 Corinthians 7 basically says "If you want to get married, go for it. If you want to stay celibate, that's fine too." I find it hard to believe that anyone is actually hating on these people.

@hugogamboas.5550 4 года назад

This always starts like “Are these freaks!?” And all the time it ends like “These are lovely people”

@genomerc 4 года назад

Yeah, from what many people in society think to what is actually going on

@Tailionis 4 года назад

They are still freaks

@skydude221 4 года назад

@@Tailionis who asked

@trainosaurousrex4472 4 года назад

Chihuahua Crew gee thanks mate

@hannahmorningstar8334 4 года назад

Except on the paparazzi one lol

@scarlettrose2065 3 года назад

"Its like kissing a wall" Me : *kisses the wall to see what it's like*

@cosingcharleslamberts.4339 3 года назад

Bacteria: *Yo Wassup*

@JimTheKid 3 года назад

Not half bad

@alexlepanpan65 3 года назад

I’ve kissed a wall before :D

@droma-ev9kh 3 года назад

Thank you for giving this amazing idea😼😼😼😼

@sensationstars8365 3 года назад

@@alexlepanpan65 same xD

@Juauka 3 года назад

I’m not asexual but I’m a baker and I’d be happy to provide you all with cake, garlic bread and unconditional support

@Skrill99 3 года назад

Good, you can provide sustenance for when we invade Norway. Allies are always welcome. :)

@Juauka 3 года назад

@@Skrill99 Thank you, I assure yo I will be of great use to your army, on a side note do you prefer any particular flavor of cake?

@nikosvoulgaris7234 3 года назад

Aww, thanks! I really appreciate your cake- uhh support! Yes support!

@thisisepic3052 2 года назад

GARLIC BREEEEEEEEEAAAAAAAAAAAADDDDDDDSSDDDSKWMSNQOPOQPQLWNFNEJDHF

@HexenkoeniginVonAngmar 2 года назад

@@Juauka Idk if there's any distinction between the two kinds of cake but in German there's "Kuchen" and "Torte" (in turn "pie" doesn't have an extra word in German) which are dry and creamy cake respectively. I personally love the latter with tiramisu flavour, so if you could bring something like that, it would be greatly appreciated!

@mercymunoz1408 10 месяцев назад

“Asexuals unlike the government won’t screw you” I love that one so much

@sadlittleghost8346 4 года назад

“Don’t have sex till marriage.” Me: What, like it’s hard??

@offishelly 4 года назад

That’s what she said

@AbrylGr 4 года назад

DUDE, SAME.

@monicass3409 4 года назад

Exactly!!

@montgomerymontgomery2681 4 года назад

That’s difficult?

@ThatOneGuy-gb7td 4 года назад

I’m not asexual but I still don’t think it’s hard to wait

@smelly4498 4 года назад

My biggest asexual pet peeve is when people assume we’re not mature enough and if we grow up then we’ll like/want sex.

@jessica_mantei 4 года назад

I’ll be 41 years old this year and I’m definitely still asexual. It’s not something we grow out of, and it’s definitely not a choice. The majority of people just can’t grasp the possibility.

@smelly4498 4 года назад

MexicanTacos 07 asexual is different from aromantic. Aromantics don’t experience romantic attraction, while asexuals don’t experience sexual attraction. You can be one without the other. Asexuals don’t hate sex (generally but it’s on a spectrum) and most just don’t feel an attraction to someone. Hope this helped !

@smelly4498 4 года назад

MexicanTacos 07 asexuality is not from trauma or a bad experience. It’s just not what we like. You don’t think every person you see is attractive, right? We just see all people as not attractive sexually (again not necessarily aesthetically or romantically) celibacy is different from asexuality.

@jessica_mantei 4 года назад

MexicanTacos 07 I’m actually happily married. Just not interested in sex. It’s not a choice, I wish I was more like “normal” people, but I’m not.

@jessica_mantei 4 года назад

MexicanTacos 07 it’s ok! I don’t mind answering. Yes, I saw many doctors about it when I was in my 20’s. They couldn’t find any reason for it. Even psychiatrists found nothing unusual (no past trauma or anything). So, for us, it’s like our heads aren’t connected to our genitals... I have had deep emotional connections with people (I’m married to one), and that’s enough for me. I have never been a fan of masturbation either because there’s just no enjoyment in it. 🤷‍♀️ I totally get why you’re confused, it doesn’t make sense to the average person, who just automatically feels those things. I do wish I had that!

@astrizettep2597 2 года назад

I realized I was asexual when I saw a pattern in everyone one I dated . They all complained about me never making the first step to get physical or kissing. And it made them feel like I didn’t love them but that was not true . Just didn’t like being too physical or sexual .

@muniaisworthit 2 года назад

Ikr! Same but I like hugs That's about it

@moonysversionn Год назад

@@muniaisworthit this made me "oh-" Out loud because thos was my problem for every relationship aswell. I was always too nervous to make the first move for anything. Thank you this helped a lot

@ThaneOfLichen Год назад

My ex would complain about not being able to have sex with me and would talk about how his parents thought it was weird too. On our last date he joked "they keep asking me 'when are you going to have sex?' I tell them 'it would be REALLY COOL *eyebrow raises* if she did but I don't think she will'" *expectant smile*. It made me feel like a horrible partner and in all a trash person. Glad I listened to my gut and got away from the relationship, we're still friends but that's all we are now

@jenniferheard1360 Год назад

I've been there.

@terriflatt Год назад

This is sad im a guy and i have to make the first move in kissing or whatever and i just cant bro like😭

@lilliat4590 4 года назад

I’m straight but I literally don’t understand why its so hard for some people to accept other people just because of their sexuality or gender smh

@childofgod759 4 года назад

ikr? It sucks ;(

@sy-zu4uz 4 года назад

Someone is gonna bring up god and tell us how everyone and everything is wrong and he is coming or something. Like damn ok.

@jobansand 4 года назад

Yup

@keig2457 4 года назад

Ikr! Especially when your pan and you explain what it us to others and they're like tHaTs Bi, and your like no bi is 2 pan is all

@twicesendmeasignal5863 4 года назад

As an asexual I am happy to read these kind of comments. Thank you😊

@akanksha2281 4 года назад

*Start having sex before marriage* Society: that's a sin. You're not supposed to have sex *don't have sex at all* Society: that's a sin. You're supposed to be having sex

@eshal 4 года назад

Winter Bear LMAO-

@cethlikestf 4 года назад

@Mepha disown your mom

@em_xie 4 года назад

@Mepha of course! Know that God has a plan for you that may not require you getting married and having kids. You can reach out to others who are experiencing the same thing as you and shine God’s grace by doing so. Don’t ever let it get you down!

@smilytrashbag1secago117 4 года назад

@Mepha has ur mother mentioned that jesus dint have any sexual energy

@infofox9785 4 года назад

Ok i'm sorry, it's off topic but Tae in ur pfp is too cute to ignore

@milostarglowwsoldaccount7719 3 года назад

one of my friends is asexual and aromatic. her birthday is on Valentine's day.

@matthewcox7985 3 года назад

Ouch.

@SeptemberHQ 3 года назад

The irony 😂😭

@crypticduck2574 3 года назад

Lmao

@barkingmadfordogs5128 3 года назад

Oof

@OkOk-sz8wn 3 года назад

oh that poor girl- it’s probably so awkward😭

@abcdefzhij Год назад

Im not even asexual (I am a virgin though) but I feel like this video helped me. This idea in society that you have to have sex and that it’s a necessary part of being a human always makes me feel really bad and cynical about things, and like there’s just something fundamentally wrong with me for not prioritizing or experiencing that. This really just shows how arbitrary all that really is.

@stannosaurus Год назад

Fuck yeah you're just fine with or without. It is simply a thing that happens sometimes

@mixzoe6228 3 года назад

asexual is like the atheist of the sexuality

@isabellaoreo 3 года назад

This is it. This is the comment. It wins, everyone go home.

@mavilli658 3 года назад

when im ace and an athest-

@nautilus5817 3 года назад

yeah like some atheists are cool with reading about and learning about religion, some aren't, some will sit down and talk with mormons, some won't

@nautilus5817 3 года назад

@All might even science doesn't have all the answers yet, so i dont blame people for coming up with their own, even if to me it seems far fetched.We don't know where we came from, not entirely, so if that makes people anxious so they want to come up with their own answer, im okay with that too :)

@SeIfishmachines 3 года назад

@All mightNone knows what happens when you die. So it’s fine for them to believe.

@Claego 4 года назад

So glad Anthony has decided to go this way with his solo career as a sort of internet journalist

@k9carry-gabriel-803 4 года назад

Without drama aswell, just serious subjects but not cringey and mixed with a bit of comedy.

@rosemaryflower1946 4 года назад

K9Carry -Gabriel- you got a point

@britwit2335 4 года назад

as a grey asexual it is really scary honestly

@mubashshirifrad1728 4 года назад

K9Carry -Gabriel- it’s super cringe though . I basically watch his vids whenever I want to cringe . Like who the fuck thinks that “otherkins “ aren’t cringe .

@ii_chiffoncake4434 4 года назад

Yeah, but i miss the emo hair tho~

@LizzyWithAWhy 2 года назад

"if your having sex and you'd rather be eating cake, you may be asexual" for such a goofy sentence this was surprisingly helpful.

@queenofanon9972 2 года назад

Depends on one’s definition of “cake”

@cybernaab 2 года назад

@@queenofanon9972 haha yeah

@akwala__ 2 года назад

@@queenofanon9972 🤨😭💀

@humourlessjester3584 2 года назад

@@queenofanon9972 your username somehow made this even better.

@mellar5864 2 года назад

And inaccurate

@KITTIES514 2 года назад

I have been battling with my asexuality with years. I got a boyfriend in college, and I realized it was exactly as they said: I was kissing a wall. I remember feeling anxious, dreading the moment when we would be intimate during our dates. I broke up with him once I realized it wasn't just dating jitters, and I was simply repulsed by physical intimacy. I've realized I'm asexual this past year, and quite frankly, I hate it. I hate myself for being asexual. I feel as though every person I will ever have a crush on is out of my league, because who would want someone who won't ever be intimate with them? I feel like my life will never be fulfilled, that I'm always going to be left unsatisfied. I worry I'll disappoint my parents, as I'll never have a wedding day, because no one will marry me if they can't have me on the wedding night. Watching videos like these give me some hope and reassurances that maybe my fears will all be proven wrong, and I hope one day I can love and accept myself like they do.

@pimmylouspimmy1391 Год назад

I completely understand how you feel. I really feel like no one will ever accept me in the long term. One of my exes said that the issue with me was that I was ace. From then on I turned down every person that confessed to me, because I knew they were allo and I felt like I would just be selfishly restricting their desires in the long term. I recently remembered though that my older exes were fine with me being ace. So I have faith that there are accepting people out there. I’m sure there will be someone who is completely welcoming and happy with how you are. I wish all the best for you, fellow ace buddy :D

@musicandpoetry_8 Год назад

Ugh I’ve always had that wall kissing feeling too but I thought it was cuz I was kissing someone I had no connection with whatsoever..idk this stuff drives me insane ..I get how you feel though with everything you said

@musicandpoetry_8 Год назад

I feel like I’m fluctuating between being asexual and demisexual

@Noname-yg5op Год назад

If someone truly loves you then they won't leave you for simply who you are. Like if someone left you because of your race or religion or something similar. Being ace or any identity you have is simply who you are as a person and if someone loves you they love you overall as a person and wouldn't leave you for something like this. It's tough but please keep trying to love yourself and have a good friend/support group with you. It gets better. - sincerely a fellow ace

@Hugs218 Год назад

Hi! Kittiess514, You are fine....You are no different then one of a married couple who's 'Sex Flame' has burnt out. But, the relationship is important. So, that individual just goes through the 'mechanics' of the various 'agreed' sex activities to maintain at least some respectful balance. Intercourse is not the 'be it all'. Manual & Oral or massage can all be suitable & pleasing alternatives to satisfy the needs of both. Just sayin'. You are fine. Now 'Find' the right partner. Take care.

@NotJustMadeleine 3 года назад

So many people have said to me, "Oh, you'll like it once you've done it." I don't want to do it! I'd rather have cake.

@unknown_bitch6734 3 года назад

Ikr... To them I say 'I never got stabbed either, but Im sure I wouldnt like it... And being stabbed / stabbing somebody and sex are basically the same thing when you think about it... '

@laulaushouse 3 года назад

Yes totally me ! Or a cookie 🍪😂

@Anna-yk3kn 3 года назад

I’m not asexual but I do know it’s not going to be good if you don’t want it so even saying that doesn’t make sense and kind of contradicts itself 😅

@unaverse6965 3 года назад

I‘ve done it several times- thinking I might finally like it. Well- I was wrong. It‘s annoying :‘)

@scrooge1913 3 года назад

I don't consider myself asexual, but I had my first time this last year and it was pretty underwhelming. If you don't want to do it, don't do it, it's overhyped.

@YuniX2 4 года назад

It means a lot that he interviewed someone who is grey asexual. People think I'm making stuff up when I try to explain that that is who I am. It means a lot to be seen.

@itsnotme7908 4 года назад

YES

@darifuckingduprey3675 4 года назад

IKRRR

@afreensheriff 4 года назад

Y E S

@ApatheticBananas 4 года назад

YES.

@naturalnat3452 3 года назад

I get it. Since high school, I've always considered myself "not so sexual" even though my friend group of mostly bisexuals, a lesbian, and a demisexual considered me one of the 2-3 straight friends. Like yeah, I was interested in guys, but I always considered dating to be that you could claim as many hugs and cuddles and maybe a few kisses from that select person whenever you want. I realized second year of college that I'm somewhere on the asexual spectrum. I used to consider myself ace but say that there might be a very slim chance that I could ever experience sexual attraction, so I consider myself as graysexual now. Still not quite sure if I'm heteroromantic or polyromantic, but I've always said I'll like whoever I like.

@uroboros_8563 3 года назад

l am an asexual woman I live in India. I am tired of explaining what is asexuality to my friends and family. my mom understands me. The rest of them think it's just a phase. it's pretty annoying. I don't like sex, I don't enjoy sex or want to have kids. I think due to societal pressure and stereotypical gender roles, asexual women feel a lot of judgement

@priyanshagrawal999 3 года назад

Stay strong queen you are amazing 👏👏

@lotuswolf1518 3 года назад

I am glad you aren't bullied in Indian for coming out as asexual ,cause I was bullied and some men bully asexuals

@Luna-di3mo 3 года назад

Same girl same I am an indian ace too and i am sick of people forcing me to get married or have children

@SITANSHUKAR 3 года назад

I'm indian too, I think I might be an ace too..dw it's not a phase, you are completely valid!

@rebekahmikaelson1198 3 года назад

ace-spec bi indian woman here, i cant even think about ever coming out to my family lmao (except for my lil bro, i already told him and hes chill with it). i totally relate to the whole societal pressure thing. just remember you're not alone. there's others like you and you're totally valid

@AlastairFlane 11 месяцев назад

As an asexual, I seriously thought people were just exaggerating how much they liked things before I realized I was different. When I realized I was ace, everything suddenly made a lot more sense.

@snowy3618 4 года назад

“Asexual” no likey sexy “Gray Asexual” sorta likey sexy

@otterlus 4 года назад

As a gray asexual, this is the easiest way to explain this to my friends. Attraction is a once in a blue moon thing for me.

@Strawberrypersonoffixial 4 года назад

@@otterlus right?!

@thatsgrim4309 4 года назад

@@otterlus your name is my response whenever my friends try to convince me about the "wonders of sex"

@otterlus 4 года назад

Ocean Marie it be like that.

@isetmfriendsofire 4 года назад

No, asexual = sexual attraction gray asexual = sorta sexual attraction It is definitely a difference.

@nicholasnolan2086 4 года назад

This series went from being a joke where you talk to flat earthers and alien believes to just straight up bringing light to topics that aren't usually discussed. I'm actually like proud.

@suoopt6698 4 года назад

Anthony is a king 👑

@Teddy_k847 4 года назад

He went from interviewing crazy people to interviewing crazy people

@yunkimin97 4 года назад

Joe Eversman girl shut up

@fenrix155 4 года назад

Hold on there. It is very possible that aliens do exist (not that I believe they do). Flat earth is likely fake, but also could be true. These asexual people make more sense than those who feel sexual attraction toward the opposite gender. It’s like being given the option to eat 💩 or to eat nothing, and choosing to eat nothing.

@realone86_49 4 года назад

Joe Eversman dumbass how is anything scary first of all flat erthers belive that the goverment tricked us all to control us wich could be very easily done and how the fuck should you know aliens don‘t exist???

@sadeeznutz 4 года назад

Parents: no dating!! no sex!1! no physical contact until 20

@roseinskyrim 4 года назад

RIGHT!? So true. >..

@bk-bx2mi 4 года назад

Some people, tell they're parents they are ace and then get told: "Date, Date, Date!!1!1!1!!!11" Or "(insert grown up adult thing only adults do)!1!!1!1"

@Cute3lla 4 года назад

My dad: DO NOT DATE, DO NOT HAVE SEX UNTIL AFTER COLLEGE My mom: NEVER BE LGBTQ+ (she’s very religious) Me: But I’m asexual My parents: *visible confusion*

@Kazoo_Itchy 4 года назад

This is true lmao

@dec0mposiex 4 года назад

Rosehj LITERALLY- I told my mom and she was like “why becaus your frIeNdS aRe” bitch no I-

@the_glitter_is Год назад

Being aroace is like visiting a museum. Sure, some pieces are nice to look at, but I'm not interested in taking any home & mounting them. 😂

@bigmanmccheez5342 Год назад

Fantastic description. I have spent literal years trying to explain to thick skulled "friends" that I find people aesthetically nice but I don't want to get with them. I don't understand how it's so hard for people to understand.

@mazzy_ivy Год назад

Nice metaphor, i agree

@laranadesign4764 9 месяцев назад

YES! It's like a straight woman who is "girl crushing" on a beautiful and confident woman. I recognize her beauty, I just don't see her in a sexual way.

@Xeroph-5 8 месяцев назад

I need to remember this. This is exactly how I feel.

@aleknaofala 3 месяца назад

that's such a good one

@stellarstarrs3219 3 года назад

It's kinda sad how often people pretend like we're "broken", "need to be fixed", or that we'll "get over it". I'm really glad asexuality is slowly becoming more recognized. We aren't broken. We aren't something to be fixed. We're human.

@shutit333 3 года назад

Yes true!

@crybaby-zo9fw 3 года назад

sex never made people whole. so how can you be broken??? (this is just a point i found somewhere else)

@RobReith 3 года назад

@@crybaby-zo9fw All living organisms have it in common. They live to reproduce it's practically the meaning of life. So something is causing people to reject that. It could certainly be seen as a disorder. There is probably a reason like trauma, hormone imbalance, ect.

@lsam_lais 3 года назад

@@RobReith while hormonal imbalance could be a reason for rejecting sex and/or not feeling libido, assexuality does not only revolve around that. rather, it's the desire to have strong bonds with people (be it friendships, romantic relationships, etc.) without the need for sex. it's much like disliking a colour: you might dislike orange for some reason, you might be repulsed by the very thought of wearing orange, yet you want to date/befriend someone despite you not liking orange

@TheKlutz31013 3 года назад

@@RobReith a lot of organisms reproduce asexually.

@marisleong8725 4 года назад

i’m tired of people downplaying asexuals and saying "i’m asexual" when they don’t catch feelings for anyone in a month

@anushka7876 4 года назад

Exactly!

@keirawhippo1712 4 года назад

that’s more of aro. where they don’t have any attraction of any kind.

@gloop7458 4 года назад

Keira Whippo Thank you for the correction but Aro means no romantic attraction. Ace aro means no romantic or sexual attraction but you still have aesthetic, sensual, and I think one other attraction. Aesthetic: oh wow that’s a really pretty waterfall (something look pretty but you don’t wanna fuck it) Sensual: I wanna CUDDLE you and hug you and all that stuff.

@ttns1715 4 года назад

Or when people claim they're asexual but actually they just hate humans in general.

@beazrichz973 4 года назад

Samy Aino some of us who are asexual kinda do hate humans but mostly because of the uprising in lack of common sense. Look at idiots like Trump for a reference. Fyi, I don’t hate humans in general but some people out there are just assholes 😡

@beelzebubbles6031 2 года назад

As an asexual, the day I found out that not every single human is ace was a truly dark day

@YACHIHANNAH 2 года назад

You’re a weak beta person. Depending on labels to define you because you’re too weak and ignorant to define yourself

@gremleyn 2 года назад

I had the same realization recently thats why I am watching this

@chloemacdonald1892 2 года назад

Same! Once I figured out what sex actually was (growing up mormon plus having no sexual desire anyway, it took a while to reach that point), I could not wrap my head around the fact that almost all couples I knew had sex. And they enjoyed it? wtf?

@SouthPark333Gaming 2 года назад

Same

@percesdead_ 2 года назад

Well, think about it. If all of the allos were ace, there'd be no garlic bread left.

@icantdecideaname60 Год назад

Asexuality is a constant battle of feeling broken, the missing out on what’s being constantly put on the pedestal as the best thing in the entire world and vital to the human experience and looking for answers where there are none. It’s good to know that there’s other people in the same boat and at least I’m finally in the one percent

@kkk-gf6sj Год назад

Nah not really I'm chilling

@valerianmandrake 2 месяца назад

Actually, a lot of "allosexuals" use others as masturbatory toys without giving a shit about them as people. I get the feeling that they compensate for their lack of fulfilling friedships/emotional relationships with sexual "intimacy", and then complain that it feels empty and crappy. Not sure why society values mindless fucking more highly than emotional intimacy , as a demisexual who wouldn't care if I ever had sex again, this is beyond my comprehesion. To me , sex was basically the crowning of a lovey-dovey oxytocin-induced cuddle session. I have no interest in sex without a "special" subjective feeling of connection.. People don't believe me and think I'm repressed but the fact is I never even think of partnered sex and get horny for hormonal reasons once or twice a month. I'd rather have a good conversation than sex lol

@simplicity_2629 4 года назад

PSA : we do not all hate jokes or talking about sex, it’s not like you need to walk on eggshells we just don’t want to partake or find it very interesting and like something we would want to try !!

@Fezza_ 4 года назад

I've never understood people who look at it in that way

@simplicity_2629 4 года назад

Ailuropoda melanoleuca Nineoneone okay that’s so true, I realized I probably should’ve put all. I guess my brain forgot to add that in... but seriously I think the most common issue is that everyone generalized everything nowadays and then the issue is that nobody can be themselves without being looked at as weird or different in a negative light if they don’t fit in

@thicc5526 4 года назад

Sydney 101 I think most of us got that.

@BeeReason 4 года назад

We also don't all hate kissing; depends on the person. Sensuality is different for us too

@beepityboop7325 4 года назад

yeah n just another reminder that repulsed asexuals like me exist n those of us who are repulsed Do mind that stuff

@padronipaw 4 года назад

"Whenever I do intimate stuff its more like an invasive medical exam" I FELT THAT ON A SPIRITUAL LEVEL

@alyssaherren8957 4 года назад

yuh

@senza4591 4 года назад

So are you asexual or nah

@padronipaw 4 года назад

@@senza4591 Still on that path of discovery 👌

@alejandracedillo5285 4 года назад

That was the whole reason I never understood sex even before I realized I am ace, because who would willing put a dick in them or find gentiles overall attractive/ at turn on. Like, they're just sensitive tissue where body waste comes out of, why do people find it fun to out their mouths on it. It just seemed like a waste of time when you could have productive hobbies or play cards or skateboard.

@HaleCrow 4 года назад

Alejandra Cedillo damn I felt that

@littlesquare3313 4 года назад

“It’s like kissing a wall”

@onlyone7069 4 года назад

Is that a quote?

@shannondaley9954 4 года назад

@@onlyone7069 You wouldn't get it if you aren't ace...

@baybteeth 4 года назад

OnlyOne it’s literally the thumbnail

@PreferablyPurple 4 года назад

@@shannondaley9954 she literally said that so that its easier to understand

@Nootlest 4 года назад

Great job copy pasting the thumbnail

@TadanoCandy Год назад

While I grew up, I didn’t understand why people felt like abstinence was such a hard thing to do lol

@hearmeout1767 Год назад

I never understood that and I still don't

@yellow-roses 8 месяцев назад

omg ur so real. what, like its hard? lmao. no hate to them, this is just how i saw it

@codyrogers9582 4 года назад

not going to lie, this entire "spent a day with..." series has given me a new found respect for Anthony and his approach as well as general respect and just chill nature towards literally everyone he interviews, no underlying judgement just pure 'help me and people understand what you do and who you are' and wholeheartedly i love that.

@sparky082 4 года назад

Could not have put it better myself so thanks for saving me the typing time!

@garfieldfan420 4 года назад

Especially with his role in stranger things (that is him right)

@kroniktp7119 4 года назад

from fighting with food to that

@madisonlongeuay9005 4 года назад

But like those Adult babies tho

@RealMevelleRealMevelle 4 года назад

Totally agree

@vixtion9180 3 года назад

NOTE: Asexuals lack sexual attraction or sex drive! Aromantics lack romantic attraction! There are differences!

@fishbutler6170 3 года назад

yes! except that aces can still have a sex drive and libido! not all of them but some of us do!

@kittycatgirl1139 3 года назад

@@fishbutler6170 wait that doesn’t make sense- can u explain further?!

@k9wolf07 3 года назад

@@kittycatgirl1139 It's hard to describe, and I can only explain it from my experience. You can be Ace and still have a normal libido and experience arousal, find something sexy have a kink ect... it's not like you have ED or a hormone imbalance, all the plumbing still works properly. The best way I can describe it is have you ever experienced one of those days when your stomach is growling like crazy but you have no desire to eat anything, the thought of eating anything might even seem kinda gross, you might wait a whole day or maybe two and the only reason you finally eat something is so you can fall asleep, Its kinda like that. I don't know if that was helpful or made sense at all and other Aces probably experience it differently, I don't have any desire to have sex at all with anyone "I'm even repulsed by it" but I do experience arousal its just not connected at all with the desire or need to have sex, its just a biological function/state of being like being hungry or tired.

@fishbutler6170 3 года назад

@kittycat girl yea for sure thanks for asking! basically asexuality is a spectrum so not everyone is going to experience it the same way. Some asexuals may have libido which means they still want to have sex, they just aren’t sexually attracted to anyone. other asexuals may be sex repulsed which means they don’t want to have sex at all. what all asexuals have in common is that we don’t find people sexually attractive! it doesn’t have to do with being celibate or just not wanting sex. hope that clears things up:)

@basicallycow3676 3 года назад

Thx :D

@TheRibottoStudios 4 года назад

Oh oh oh here's my favorite "how would you know you're ace if you're a virgin?" I think this is just one of those things you innately know about yourself.

@diharaj5358 4 года назад

Like, I've never been stabbed but I'm pretty sure I wouldn't like it lolol

@TheRibottoStudios 4 года назад

@@diharaj5358 hahahahahahha RIGHT?! Like....i mean come on.

@mary5party107 4 года назад

The thing is , It’s not only about sex. Asexuals just don’t feel sexual attraction to anyone. That’s why some sex positive asexuals have sex with their romantic partners. So that question is so fucking stupid and makes no sense.

@nancylouise2769 4 года назад

I get asked that so much haha usually by straight people so id ask them 'well how do you know you don't like people of the same gender?'

@Shle.y 4 года назад

It’s like the “how do you know you like girls if you’ve never dated one” I’m like, you knew you didn’t before you dated one. People are just so close minded

@abielaird Год назад

I used to think I was asexual, and when I did it felt so validating to know there was a sexuality that really felt right. That personally changed for me, I discovered I was just demisexual (when you're only sexuality attracted to people you have an emotional connection with) for me I could find someone appealing but I simply cannot actually want to have sex unless I love AND really like the person. And I'm very repulsed by people I don't like, no matter how conventionally attractive they might be. The fact that people have the ability to feel sexual attraction to people without liking them as a person seems extremely strange to me. Thanks for shedding a light on this!

@musicandpoetry_8 Год назад

I feel like that too and when I used to identify as a straight girl, I always felt so pressured by men to sleep with them and it felt so sickening..I feel like they just want sex right away with no romance or connection before..this isn’t really exactly on topic with your comment but it’s always how I’ve felt with men..sometimes I feel like I need a way deeper emotional connection with someone moreso than I ever realized..I’ve had so many vapid one night stands with guys at bars where I feel used after ughh 🤢

@lurklingX Год назад

same!!

@hibs5295 4 года назад

he should spend a day with boomers no fr i'd really like to see him sit down and talk with elderly people

@robinhood4579 4 года назад

Me too!!

@Gia1911Logous 4 года назад

That's just called "going to grandma's house"

@evaxnanda1648 4 года назад

I mean he got high with elderly people.. and went on a trapeze with Tennessee!

@samd.4921 4 года назад

Two of my favorite parts about being a part of the asexual community is the humor and mythology obsession

@tamiressantos7085 4 года назад

Omg i'm asexual. I'm sure

@AltairScuti777 4 года назад

Right!? 😂✨💕

@meanangeI 4 года назад

wait, mythology obsession? i feel like an uncultured ace now, anyone mind explaining pls?

@samd.4921 4 года назад

spaceamy oh just the whole liking dragons, unicorns, etc. thing and liking the Virgin Godesses like Athena/Artemis/Hestia

@sunsundks3891 4 года назад

I want cake

@ary2382 4 года назад

Why does being in a relationship demand sex? Like not everyone needs to have sex to have a working relationship.

@alexandra311993 4 года назад

Yet here we are ♥️

@blackforest_fairy 4 года назад

Not everyone, yes... But Most people do need it...

@ladyg6164 4 года назад

Because people are stupid

@AmazingZelgius 4 года назад

Most people do. If you're asexual, find an asexual partner and it'll be perfect. If you couple up with a sexual person you can't ask of them not to be sexual (the same way they can't ask you to be)

@mylife-23 4 года назад

@@AmazingZelgius my bf isn't asexual and he's fine with me being a sex repulsed asexual.

@cassiecake4851 Год назад

Whenever I feel bad about my asexuality and feel like im broken, I come back to this video and it makes me feel slightly better

@OddSwiftGoose Год назад

same here

@Chuyizzle4 Год назад

Sir, don’t listen to the ‘norms’ and simply be yourself no matter what people think of you. There’s a good chance you can find your own group of people that will accept you for who you are, you just need to keep trying to look for it.

@angiet9003 4 года назад

I love how Anthony is respectful, he’s not making fun of them he’s hearing them out. I really love that and I think that’s why so many people like his channel, it’s all very genuine

@Z5Z5Z5 4 года назад

Anthony grew up on RU-vid. Hes experienced alot. Of course he is a respectful man.

@Beeba10 4 года назад

Yes! Even when he laughs at something they've said, you can tell he's laughing **with** them, not **at** them. As an asexual myself, it warms my heart that Anthony is so accepting and this has made me love him (**cough** platonically **cough** lol) even more. I always imagined he'd be accepting and respectful of all sexualities, but to have confirmation that he feels so about my own sexuality makes it even better.

@angiet9003 4 года назад

Omg he loved my comment I’m crying I LOVE YOU ANTHONY AMSHSKHAHABAHS

@kelamo7067 4 года назад

アンジェラANGELA Wow! People actually make fun of asexuals? That’s crazy! Well, I guess ANYONE who doesn’t find sexual desires in the opposite gender is considered weird by society also. Damn, that sucks!!!

@angiet9003 4 года назад

I just meant in general... I just thought that about his overall channel and commented it here... I didn’t imply that asexuals are weird you made that up yourself

@imthatstrangeroutsideyourw315 4 года назад

As an asexual I can 100% confirm that, yes, we do reproduce by splitting in half edit: WOAH DIDN'T EXPECT THIS MUCH LIKES THANKS SO MUCH!!!!!!!

@babyjiren9676 4 года назад

woooooah

@RamdozaCh 4 года назад

Hold up, does that mean I can do this???

@imthatstrangeroutsideyourw315 4 года назад

@RAMDOZA 9624 Yes you can do this but only if you are asexual

@RamdozaCh 4 года назад

Aw man

@mrtheluckybucket 4 года назад

No one cares that you’re ace

@parkerlovett763 4 года назад

My sister: I’m an asexual (has been for 30 years) My family: you just haven’t found the right man yet! My sister: ummmm.... no.

@Traumatised311 4 года назад

Same as your sister but i am 23

@roshna8971 4 года назад

lol kinda weird that she needs to inform her family that she doesnt like sex lol

@ChristinaMoralesMindfuqed 4 года назад

@@roshna8971 Maybe it's to let them know that she wont be having kids lmao

@roshna8971 4 года назад

Central Elegance good point

@Bob-dt5ip 4 года назад

Is it really your sister though🤔

@kudniry2878 3 месяца назад

As an ace I hate it when people say "sex is what makes us human" cause is dose not, every non asexual organism on the planet has sex, so no sex dose not make us human cooking makes us human cause there is no other creature on earth that cooks or bakes their food.

@yunagamerz7336 4 года назад

I hate that everybody thinks Asexuals don't feel romantic attraction and that (some don't, some do) they automatically don't like kissing. I, an Asexual, like kissing but coming near someone's genitals disgust me. A lot of people are misunderstanding my comment, so I thought I'd explain! With a kiss I do not mean a make out session like some people misunderstood, I mean a kiss on the lips and nothing beyond that. This does not make me not asexual, because I still don't feel any sexual desire or attraction to anyone.

@artintheblood 4 года назад

Period.

@andrijaknezevic667 4 года назад

That just sounds like you're straight but don't like sex i seriously wonder why you have to say that you're an Asexual. This is a serious question and I'm not trying to insult you.

@abycoolin 4 года назад

Stfu scrub

@dearpax6020 4 года назад

like my girlfriend! im not ace but she is and she's fine with a certain amount of closeness

@aidanlangan2273 4 года назад

Anyone who insults you tell em to go fuck themselves you can be whoever you want to be sexually with anyone I myself am heterosexual so I'm into woman only and I think ace's are completely normal if anything they are beneficial because anyone can bloody see that the world is loveless

@brianrawcliffe871 4 года назад

Most annoying phrases to hear from non-asexuals, I’ll start: “If you’re not having sex with your SO, it’s not a relationship. You’re just friends.” Glad you get to decide the validity of my relationships.

@beeuhtwix 4 года назад

@CDia22 so true 🙄

@blueberrypoptart2424 4 года назад

People actually believe this? Wtf

@vera691 4 года назад

"It's just because you haven't met the right person yet..."

@gigglymaggie 4 года назад

Damn, I guess none of my relationships were real

@foxgluv 4 года назад

"You'll grow out of it" "Oh, don't worry, i used to be like that too" "So you've never had a boyfriend?"

@Naranja93 3 года назад

I think being a heteroromantic and asexual woman could be the toughest sexuality to come out with, because many men just love to ignore women's bodily boundaries. Like when the guy just kissed her after she came out to him, literally missing the point completely. I want to encourage every woman to stand up for herself when she doesn't want an interaction with her body!!! Don't let anyone push you, neither with words nor actions. If they push you to do something you're not *completely* comfortable with, block them. Save yourself the trouble and trauma. You're worth it

@iheartts. 3 года назад

Exactly. Dude I was walking down the street in big sweatpants and a huge jacket and I got catcalled. Like- wha??

@EmberRain666 3 года назад

I can't tell you how many times a man has pretended to be okay with my being asexual and then completely disrespected my boundaries by trying to manipulate me into having sex with them. All of my exes did this, as well as many men whom I've just gone on one date with or someone I just talk to online. One of my exes even decided that instead of just leaving me and finding someone who could satisfy his needs, he would just force himself onto me.

@iheartts. 3 года назад

@@EmberRain666 just remember it’s never you fault and if you can (after COVID is over) you can report him to the police! (Make sure it’s somewhere that is very accepting)

@EmberRain666 3 года назад

@@iheartts. It was 4 years ago, it's not even worth trying to bring it back up now. Besides, he's the father of my child, and I can't get child support if he's in jail.

@iheartts. 3 года назад

@@EmberRain666 oh :(

@Winterlude_Music Год назад

As an aroace born a day after Valentine’s, videos like this honestly just make me feel validated, especially since I’ve been put down just for my sexuality. Also, fun fact, we asexuals tend to like garlic bread and dragons.

@someoneontheinternet072 Год назад

Cool thing, the day after valentines is single’s awareness day!

@Iamcompletelysane Год назад

Oh man one day after valentine’s 😭 im a february born as well, when i found out that valentines was on february i was like 😦 “the thing i hate the most.. what kind of luck is this” lmao (i was a kid when i found out tho, i obv no longer care what goes on in the feb calendar apart from my bday)

@richardchen7062 Год назад

Love this ❤ Also how about garlic breath

@AmeliaC-e8o 11 месяцев назад

Someone should have told me I was ace when I wacthed HTTYD 2 and wanted Toothless insteed of Hiccup like most girls. Lol.

@loreteller. 9 месяцев назад

We also love cake lmao

@ace-zb8jf 3 года назад

I remember coming out as Ace to my mom and she told me, “That’s not a thing, you’ll feel that kind of attraction when you’re older, you’re just too young.” 🥲

@exxwhy1645 3 года назад

if she doesn’t accept you my best advice is just don’t either u til your older or just don’t as it’s not her business what your sexual life is like.

@tineke4134 3 года назад

That’s what society has told me for my whole life and I believed it. I’ve accepted that if I’m old enough to have student debt, puberty didn’t do what it was “supposed to” in my head and it’s not gonna do much more now lol.

@carolchavez5213 3 года назад

@@tineke4134 I learned I was ace at 19, I was in my university talking with my BFF and he stared at a girl he liked and he suddenly asks "Carol what do you truly look in a guy?" I just said "I don't know, if I'm being honest with you I never liked anyone, but don't tell anyone" He: maybe you're lesbian Me: nah I've tried that too, I feel nothing, something is wrong with me and I'm gonna die alone He: maybe asexual then Me: does that exist?! He: yeah, you're not gonna die alone, you just need a deeper relationship with people to develop love since body and sec is not enough for you... In my case secs is everything so...

@azumarill964 3 года назад

My dad says the exact same.

@pris1145 3 года назад

I think even if it temporary that doesn’t make it any less valid:)

@kiriannedavis404 4 года назад

Is no one going to bring up the amount of stories that these people told where men attempted to manipulate/coerce them into sex? Hey, that is assault or attempted assault.

@StudlyFudd13 3 года назад

It's happens so often to ace people that it's the normal. It's shouldn't be...it should never be normal....but it feels like it is.

@lebohangm7252 3 года назад

Nothing much can be done about it though and I’m sure it happens to majority I’m not suprised when someone does it anymore

@sweetscheme 3 года назад

For me after getting out of my last relationship it was hard for me to get back into one with anyone. Because the high percentage of asexuals and disability people being sexually assaulted. And so being both made me afraid of getting taken advantage of in a relationship.

@trinitychavez8593 3 года назад

Is nobody going to bring up the fact that people like you will jump to saying that now but if I, as a male, say a female manipulated me, I get laughed at by the same people

@sweetscheme 3 года назад

@@trinitychavez8593 don't worry i understand where you are coming from. i hate how our society underplays that men can get manipulated or worse as well. women are not blameless. but we don't live in a perfect world where men and women are properly equal in the way they are treated. I think you should be able to not get silenced or laughed at when being open about that.

@owl3191984 3 года назад

*Wanders into a room of asexuals* "I'm here for the cake"

@TheHolyDuck 3 года назад

And dragons🐉

@omepomme4585 3 года назад

DOn't touch the cake, or dragon, or bread sticks and just to prevent, never, never, never touch an assexual person garlic bread never x')

@omepomme4585 3 года назад

@@The_Riss I don't, don't touch my garlic bread x')

@M4S4life 3 года назад

What kind of cake would you like?

@RaspberryV3 3 года назад

I don’t like cake, I brought breadsticks and ice cream though

@psychojoe4764 Год назад

Personally i was like this ever since i hit puberty. If i think about having sex my brain just goes "No".

@breederofmen 11 месяцев назад

IM EXACTLY THE SAME

@gourisharma59 11 месяцев назад

Same

@KrystaalMMD 7 месяцев назад

Same here!

@vivivalley 3 года назад

told my mom i was asexual and she gave me the classic “you just haven’t met the right person yet, you’ll grow into it" speech :(

@lotuswolf1518 3 года назад

I have been a virgin for 24 years not attracted to any guy , I had just one bf that too under peer pressure , my mom still thinks I am straight

@user-ik2zr1cx1u 3 года назад

It‘s okay, some people will never understand certain things out of ignorance What important is that you have your anchor from inside and not outside approval😊

@notreallysurehonestly 3 года назад

why can’t they just say “ok cool” and fkn move on geez

@trinis8726 3 года назад

Low-key my mother 😒

@procrastinating_author 3 года назад

I was lucky. I’m my first relationship when I talked to my mum about maybe being broken and not wanting sex, she was proud of me for being strong in my body and told me that I’d have sex eventually when I wanted it. I discovered asexuality a month ago, and as she’s been starting to get clucky for grandkids I’m afraid to tell her. I don’t want her thinking that it means she’ll never have grandkids, it just means that I finally have an explanation for all those years of feeling broken

@your_name96 3 года назад

I actually realized my sexuality today.

@lovvlovv4028 3 года назад

Yay

@andii- 3 года назад

lmao ik im on the ace spectrum thats it

@Julia-oe9xl 3 года назад

Congrats 😊🎊

@janex1722 3 года назад

congrats 🥰💕

@samip2212 3 года назад

Congrats buddy!

@mrsmarketing 3 года назад

I'm married and my HUSBAND is the one that educated me on being asexual. I kept telling him that I thought something was wrong with me, and he was the one that helped me. NOTE: He isn't Asexual...but he IS my soul mate

@myolosophy6564 3 года назад

My husband knew before I did. He didn't accept it until I admitted to it at 7 years of marriage, but he completely understands. Also my soul mate. I am so happy you have experienced similar!

@cmdoduck 3 года назад

My husband also told me that he thought I might be asexual, and I believe he's correct. Also soul mates 🥰

@lunatheluma3804 3 года назад

We stan supportive partners

@blue_aspen 3 года назад

@@lunatheluma3804 supportive partners are pogchamp

@crxtube187 3 года назад

I am happy that asexuals see their supportive partners as soulmates 💕..

@nda123full 2 года назад

If someone doesn't feel like having sex is totally fine. You don't have to agree understand it, just respect it.

@briesullivan537 4 года назад

bruh they need asexual dating sites

@pearlescen 4 года назад

YES! THAT WOULD BE AWESOME! I’m aromantic and I think that would be great for others

@digitalcatto 4 года назад

There's an app but it sux

@eoghank9978 4 года назад

We need to get Todd Chavez to set one up

@teresamesa 4 года назад

what for?? why do people need to date?

@AnAceBrit 4 года назад

Damn, if only all about that ace was a thing

@episkefilm8153 3 года назад

for people confused about "the cake", basically it's a common joke in the ace community that "who want's sex when you could have cake instead", basically that cake is just better than sex (cake is often interchanged with garlic bread, same principle)

@TotalHuman 2 года назад

Ok but all jokes aside, garlic bread is REALLY GOOD

@ammdisguisedasanegg 2 года назад

@@TotalHuman Lmfao

@TotalHuman 2 года назад

@@ammdisguisedasanegg oh I'm not joking. Other aces might be exaggerating for jokes but I'm not.

@may0kyra 2 года назад

@@TotalHuman IKR? I was an entire week making and eating garlic bread, I just like it a lot, then I realized it was something on the ace community, it was funny

@beazrich2.017 2 года назад

As an aromantic asexual, I actually legit seriously think cake is better than sex. Though, I like pizza and ice cream more so than cake lol. So for me, it’s not really a joke. It’s actually true in my case.

@morningboy_ 4 года назад

“Don’t have sex before marriage!!” “Ok, I won’t have sex at all” “NO THATS A SINNNNNNNNN”

@ellie4668 4 года назад

People who are forever alone: "*I am living in a life of sin*"

@lailaauto33 4 года назад

My family smh

@cassadyr.1853 4 года назад

Literally my mom-😳

@thrawnboy4320 4 года назад

I mean paul (one of the main early church influences in the bible) didn't have sex at all (he actually cut of his down below in some procedure) and it was never accounted against him as a sin in the bible so I mean......

@Notme811_you 4 года назад

You don’t have to have sex when do think there is nuns and priests

@dmaxwell910901 Год назад

As an asexual guy, I felt like I was just a weirdo with a broken brain before I knew fully what asexual meant, since I have always still felt romantic attraction.

@inshabuttinshabutt9148 9 месяцев назад

Same here

@kykycupcake1 4 года назад

Can we all be honest? The fact that not liking sex is even considered "taboo" or weird in anyway speaks volumes about our society We shame people for being sexually active But then we shame people for not having sex? Make up your damn mind Asexually is completely valid This shouldn't even be a debate. Bless Anthony for this series and the awareness it brings 🙏

@oreo4093 4 года назад

Disgraceful Maiden One of the things against asexual people is that they end the family tree. Asexual people who want kids can adopt and those kids could reproduce. I don’t get why people hate asexuals.

@kykycupcake1 4 года назад

@@oreo4093 weirdly enough, I can completely understand that. I have severe health issues and I'm not willing to put a child at risk via pregnancy And my family really doesn't like that? Apparently I'm selfish for caring about my kids health lol

@raylevi5343 4 года назад

The reason people have problems with asexuals, incels, radical feminists, is all the same. They are usually not able to attract anyone anyway, whether with looks or attitude. But they make it seem like "society" ("patriarchy", "hypergamy", etc) is at fault when nature is, quite literally, rooting them out.

@lionlickers6058 4 года назад

@@raylevi5343 why would you group asexuals with incels and radical feminists. Ones a sexuality and the other two are ideals that can be changed. weird grouping

@raylevi5343 4 года назад

@@lionlickers6058 They don't have to be similar to have the same problem.

@almabrown199 4 года назад

As an asexual, i had people tell me: "you are not asexual, you just haven't tried sex yet." I'm like, why would i try sex if i think that even kissing is gross and it doesn't do anything to me? They also told me "you are too young to know that you are asexual" (I'm 21) or "asexuality isn't real".

@lindenbree9188 4 года назад

When straight people tell me that, I just ask them "Have you ever had gay sex? How do you know you don't like it if you haven't tried it? Perhaps because you don't need to actually have sex to know what you are, and are not, attracted to?"

@j.brendolblack3058 4 года назад

I spent a long time after my first kiss in a sort of self-analyzing spiral of 'kissing is gross' where I landed in the self-realization of being ace. I think of myself as gray asexual as I still have momentary 'but I like cuddling, and maybe sex will be more like cuddling if there's no kissing' thoughts before my brain just 'hell nahs' itself away.

@-k1ts0-97 4 года назад

Everytime someone tells me that I just say "Have you ever tried hugging a cactus?"

@kimsegiixoxo1123 4 года назад

Honestly i have never kissed someone because i dont want to XD and i dont like hugs either XD i just feel so uncomfortable and wanna run away XD Like i really really dislike it XDD I never had a boyfriend because i dont want to XD (I do like otome games XDD)

@medeaworbs6970 4 года назад

Oh, the amount of times I have heard that... it'S the actual worst! They don't even TRY to get it. Personally, I am biromantic asexual and I am fine with touch and cuddling and kissing, just not so much the actual sexual acts, and I was told "You can't be ace because you kiss people" a bunch of time... What does this have to do with anything? Like... just because I kiss a buddy when we play truth-or-dare have to do with my sexuality? Also me and my girlfriend (who is allosexual) get called out all the time - "How can you be ace, Medea, you have a girlfriend!" ... ugh

@csifreak101jf 2 года назад

I had a psychiatrist who tried to push me to come out as lesbian. I didn't feel like it was right and I felt I was more asexual. I straight up asked my psychiatrist if she thought asexuality existed and she said 'no'. I stopped seeing her that week. If she couldn't see me as valid there was no point in continuing to see her.

@GrayDino20 2 года назад

Good for you 👍

@JulietteVeronica1201 2 года назад

Good for you for dropping her.

@humourlessjester3584 2 года назад

Had a relationship once that thought asexuality wasn't a thing, this was at a time when I was still grappling with these emotions, and I'm much happier now that she's not in my life because I found it difficult to explore these thoughts when there was someone whom you trusted that discredited you even before you even knew about what you are.

@junosugi7466 2 года назад

That psychiatrist should either change her profession or study more. A lot of people don't understand Ace. Possibly people who are Ace are the most misunderstood. Never be pushed or forced by others to go the way they want you to, it means they not only don't understand you, but also they do not respect who you really are. Be yourself. I hope you will find happiness by being who you really are.

@Sweetndsourness 2 года назад

You made the right decision 🙌🏻

@BlessedGJ Год назад

“Children are scary.” 😂😂 As a mom of 3 boys I get you.

@katelynarts5362 4 года назад

Make sure you don’t mix up Asexual or Aromantic! They’re different :)

@iheartts. 3 года назад

Does kissing fall in the category of sexual attraction?

@katelynarts5362 3 года назад

Jennae I’m not an expert, but kissing a romantic partner does fall under that category

@iheartts. 3 года назад

@@katelynarts5362 ty!

@artemis_6037 3 года назад

Umm so I’m asexual and yes a lot of asexuals put kissing in that category because it makes them uncomfortable

@xyc5749 3 года назад

Im Your 100th like

@jay-xl1vd 3 года назад

im a demi and i hate when people tell me im not on the asexual spectrum- like yes i am. ok the end thanks for listening to my rant

@wrenr.5563 3 года назад

i’m demi too and i hate it when people say “everyone is like that” like no-

@obsidiantux 3 года назад

Im aegosexual and demiromantic and i understand you

@angelicitema9761 3 года назад

youre so valid we're here for u

@anushka4443 3 года назад

@@wrenr.5563 hey! I think I'm demi but yeah I feel "everyone feels that" but ig that's just me thinking. Could you explain maybe how you feel demi and "normal" people are different :) I'm so sorry I tried to read online but I really can't figure it out

@greyscale3848 3 года назад

Hey I have a question so I identify as ace and I’ve never experienced sexual or romantic attention but I have experienced some form of attraction to fictional characters and I’m trying to figure out if it’s ok to use the term asexual so is it ok to use that?

@Epixle 4 года назад

Me: I'm asexual My friend: No, you just can't get a girlfriend

@CGM_Raiden 4 года назад

Piss off

@kellanmeyers4715 4 года назад

Is your friend right though? Lol

@SLAY0Ml 4 года назад

@@CGM_Raiden Calm down

@aft0n_858 4 года назад

@@kellanmeyers4715 ayy we both have Alastor pfps

@diharaj5358 4 года назад

I mean in my case, both lol

@SableFane 2 года назад

I'm not asexual but one thing I've learned from the asexual community is the importance of platonic intimacy. Obviously this is important whether you're ace or not, but with romantic relationships being societally placed as the most important relationship in your life and your deepest source of intimacy, it's easy to mistake a deep friendship as a romantic relationship, or to feel that certain levels of significance and intimacy to that relationship mean that your feelings must be romantic. And I've met a lot of ace/aro people whose intimate friendships change the way I think about what a friendship has to look like.

@drew2510 4 года назад

I like how Anthony’s bit about how RU-vid suppresses sexual content (educational or otherwise) wasn’t from a “woe is me” angle but a legitimate “this is a glaring issue with RU-vid” stance.

@dvdsynth 2 года назад

“Asexuals, unlike the government, won’t screw you” *that’s a mood bro*

@scotnick59 2 года назад

Hahaha

@Rose_Light08 2 года назад

True

@AnEffingPinkCatThatBreathes 2 года назад

Yep, mood

@Nickdoesstuff2358 2 года назад

They're not wrong...

@trademarkdps2880 2 года назад

FACTS

@RoseWillow13 2 года назад

Someone outed me as asexual to someone I didn't know, and that person's response (it wasn't any of her business) was "you can't call your girlfriend a girlfriend. She's just a best friend." Because apparently asexuals don't deserve romance if they aren't banging anyone. It made me feel so angry.

@KrystaalMMD 2 года назад

who is this person so I can personally punch them.

@GotAnUmbrella 2 года назад

Asexual and Aromantic aren't even they same thing to begin with so their point was already null and void. Sex and romance aren't one in the same. If they by chance partake in one night stands they would understand that! I hope your partners are like mine and recognize your identity as valid.

@RoseWillow13 2 года назад

@@GotAnUmbrella Thankfully, my fiancée is also on the ace spectrum, so I'm lucky to be in a fully supportive and understanding relationship, too. :)

@Hbaymax2 2 года назад

I've been told a similar thing by important men in my close family. They've all said that because I don't have sex with my bf that means I don't love my bf, no one will marry me, and there's something wrong with me & my bf. I remember so many times crying thinking there's something wrong with me or how I have to have sex to keep my bf. But thankfully I didn't force myself to have sex with my bf.

@GotAnUmbrella 2 года назад

@Lily Evans if sex to you equals romance I guess that means you find one night stands SUPER romantic. Sex isn't the only romantic thing that happens between people. There's an episode of Bluey called "Fancy Resturant". Real romance is eating the *jello, spaghetti, sandwich, pickle, strawberries, sausage, olive, and God knows what* concoction your kid makes instead of your partner. Taking the nastiest concoction of the two is really romantic.

@BugsyBugYT Год назад

I kept getting recommended this video but was worried it would be about "Debunking" Asexuality so I was pleasantly surprised by the amazing video that you created.

@Sentient-potato Год назад

Anthony tends to just lean away from controversy

@BugsyBugYT Год назад

@@Sentient-potato he seems like a nice dude

@arihopper4367 4 года назад

i remember when i came out to my mom as ace at first she cried to me about how sad she was that i'd never find love. i remember when i came out to my friends, none of them understood and just laughed instead of supporting me. i remember a boy on my bus overheard my conversation with a friend and turned around to tell me he could "f*ck me until i liked it." i remember another boy telling me i was mentally ill because i identified as asexual. seeing this video, especially from someone i've watched for years and looked up to, makes me finally feel seen and valid. anthony, these videos are a series i think everyone needs to see. thank you for exploring all of these communities and letting each of us feel seen and heard. you approach each topic with such a open mind that's hard to find in our society anymore.

@WilloWly.Beloved 4 года назад

I am disgusted by the boy who said that to you...I hope your days are better♥️

@sarahliebie4730 4 года назад

Aries Wolf I am so sorry about those negative experiences...please know that there is nothing wrong with you. You are perfectly human and valid in the way that you feel.

@yikushieda 4 года назад

thank you so much for sharing. that boy's comment is disgusting

@derumasforlos4285 4 года назад

You should have responded to him saying, “sorry, I’m allergic to shrimp.”

@khemettsukino 4 года назад

some of my friends still dont understand till this day but they are realky suportive

@Dribblio 4 года назад

As a not-yet-out asexual teen, I've started noticing more and more how ingrained sex is in society, you know? It's kinda fine normally, but when people ask you day after day if you like any boys yet with a _certain expression_ on their faces, it gets pretty annoying after a while.

@nopreferencefound 4 года назад

Every year my aunts ask me if I found a boyfriend, and some years ago when truth or dare was played at parties I was the only one to not have a crush. Another one: just because I inserted myself as a cuddle partner into a relationship of friends of mine people started commenting about threesomes. (hugging does not equal sex, you hormone driven teenager) Recently my sister wanted to talk about boyfriends, again. If anybody wants to talk boys with me I'm going to combust!

@Sunshine0235 4 года назад

I'm 26, 27 next week, and still get this asked of me all the time. I finally blew up at my mom for asking yet again, I felt bad afterwards, but she stopped asking about any potential suitors. Only one if my siblings knows for sure, not sure about the other, my ace flag in on my bumper, dont know if she knows the specific colors. Just hang in there.

@kaileybryant3533 4 года назад

It def sucks, especially bc they assume if you don't want a relationship then you're gay. I'm like, just bc I feel uncomfortable w/romantic stuff doesn't mean I've changed my sexuality 😒

@dorkywhovian1018 3 года назад

@dribblio I completely agree. I'm not out either, and sex is super ingrained in society. Because it is, I've kinda grown more comfortable with it being displayed in media, but personally I think it's gross. Secondly, that look when they ask if you like anyone pisses me off 😂

@dorkywhovian1018 3 года назад

@@kaileybryant3533 ughhhh I know right? I pulled a tarot card labelled "sexuality", mentioned it to my mum and she jokingly asked "are you gay?"

@HeeHooTheFool 3 года назад

Being ace is so suffocating sometimes because sex is so ingrained in society's mind. Like, it's the only thing we ever seem to worry about. People can wrap their head around guys being into guys and girls being into girls, but it's like most people just blue screen at the thought that you can be happy without sex. Like, I just want to cuddle, why does it bother people so much?

@azure_0773 3 года назад

and that's the thing people don't even accept homosexuality yet, so can you imagine how much less we're going to be accepted now as asexuals

@luvityrose 3 года назад

Exactly I actually lost my bf when I came out as asexual, I don’t like doing anything more than hugging and he broke up with me because he ‘wouldn’t be getting what he wanted’ which was a shame. So it kinda set up for me to think I’m not gonna find many, if any people who will want to be with me who won’t be getting anything more than hugs :/

@azure_0773 3 года назад

@@luvityrose Thats why you have me :)

@user-ik2zr1cx1u 3 года назад

@@luvityrose Well I hope he was upfront about it and respectfully drew a line so both of you could move on

@Monochrome2004 3 года назад

ikr. sometimes i find it so hard to wrap my head around the amount of horniness this world contains

@vadamoser3376 3 месяца назад

i discovered asexuality in high school when a teacher gave us a project on famous riots. my group chose 'stonewall' and while i was researching i read about asexuality. everything clicked. while everyone was getting boyfriends and girlfriends in middle and high school i did my work and went home. it was never something i was interested in. my friends would talk about their experiences and i could never relate/understand the appeal. when my sister found out we were in the car with our mom and she told me, who was still in high school at the time and a minor, that it was normal for my age, but if i still felt that way in a few years i should get my hormone levels checked. it's been a few years and i still feel that way. there are times where i wonder about my aromanticism but i don't think i've ever questioned my asexuality

@lazo3251 3 месяца назад

What the mom doesn't understand is that it has nothing to do with hormones. I have a high libido but no attraction towards anyone. And I don't like sex. People don't understand because they can't relate, as simple as that.

@illuminati_aka_potti1112 4 года назад

"Sex doesn't make us whole, and so without it, how could you ever be broken?" - Netflix, Sex Education

@gretam2779 3 года назад

YES I love that show so much. Lol I’m literally that girl that said she loves romantic movies because of the plot.

@alltimebubble7837 3 года назад

Don't I fully cried at that scene, such a great show

@Megzsy98 3 года назад

I love that they had an ace character its not something you see everyday on tv

@emmafaith6295 4 года назад

You need to do a “I spent a day with people with OCD” (obsessive compulsive disorder) it’s not just washing your hands or being super organized.

@mammoneymelon 4 года назад

gosh yes

@ashleysartattack5600 4 года назад

Emma Faith I would love that! My best friend and I both have been diagnosed with it. She has Pure-O which is also called intrusive thought OCD. And I have tons of rituals and cyclical thinking. I wish people didn’t think it was a joke or just about cleanliness. There’s all types. I also have an aunt that’s an extreme hoarder and what she goes through is part of OCD. It’s so interesting.

@deleted2869 4 года назад

Get this comment noticed by Anthony ASAP

@JamaicanRain 4 года назад

I will be very surprised if anyone with acutely severe OCD is on. They would be too busy OCDing to talk to Anthony and probably don’t even know who he is.

@emmafaith6295 4 года назад

Ashleysart Attack I have pure-o as well, have had it since I was 6, I’m 20 now.

@ell1012 4 года назад

HERE IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN ARO AND ACE. ACE REFERS TO SOMEONE WHO LACKS SEXUAL ATTRACTION. ARO REFERS TO SOMEONE WHO LACKS ROMANTIC ATTRACTION. THANK YOU AND GOODBYE.

@SpiritKitties 4 года назад

Thanks for the definition of aro

@grayson-vi9sb 4 года назад

I am both

@hannahbanana78 4 года назад

quick question, can u be ace and want to be romantic? (・o・)

@ell1012 4 года назад

@@hannahbanana78 Of course you can! I am ace and I have a girlfriend!

@foxelyUwU 4 года назад

I have a question (im not trying to be rude, I just wanna ask) So the lack of romantic attraction in an aromantic is because they only expirience sexual attraction? Im just asking, im really sorry if I offend someone with my question🥺

@_angel_flyhightwee Год назад

I am happy that I can live without someone who might do stuff to me. I have no feelings for that. To me I really enjoy life rn. And it’s sad Society is making little kids believe that you HAVE to love someone.

@christinewalker7242 Год назад

I am so lucky in that my parents, without knowing aro ace were things, have always preached if you don't romantically love someone ever, there is nothing wrong with you and you don't ever have to get married, do the stuff and have kids if you don't want that life cause it's your life, not society's life. But my church kept invalidating me, saying stuff like someday I will get married and have lovely kids. Like I want to participate in that activity, then have to have a parasite in me for 9 months, then need to sacrifice huge amounts of time and money for 18+ years for something I never wanted from the get go. I can only imagine the pressure on someone if their parents were putting the pressure on them in their home lives too and it's no wonder why so many people have kids when they don't really want kids.

@_angel_flyhightwee Год назад

@@christinewalker7242 yeah. I am glad my parents do to :)

@celestialphoenixqueen9258 Год назад

hahaha love ... what a load of shit and crap not every girl needs a man and not every man needs a girl , i don't need a man to be happy or feel anything for any of em . single and free

@hobosnake1 3 месяца назад

@@christinewalker7242 I agree with everything but calling a baby a parasite. I don't want kids, don't like them, but I was also a kid at one point. I feel bad for what I went through as a child and I have love for myself and that little boy I used to be. That extends to the children of the world. They are not parasites.