They don't leave you alone and refuse to just let you live your life. We go on,pray for them,and move forward and let go. I don't hate anyone but have no time for drama or foolishness
From my experience, what I found strange was her telling me, " I do me and you do you. You will be better off with someone else." Okay. So I left her alone and cut off contact. A few days later, she would call me upset, asking me how come I don't call her to see how she is doing. I told her what she said and she got quiet. It's funny that you give them room to move on after the breakup, but they won't give you room to move on.
No they leave none of their supplies alone they put you in self and will boomerang back and forth between whom ever will give them a chance while having new supplie..Block them and move on..
I was discarded and went no contact because I’m not going to let him use me in triangulating. I don’t doubt I’ve been made out to be the psycho, he would constantly provoke me to reactive abuse and I’m sure he’s using that against me. Nothing that these types do would surprise me. The new supply can have him 👍👍👍
Exactly they provoked us to reactive abuse and then play the victim as you being the bad guy. Don't triangulate me with anyone because I don't have feelings anymore. They are delusional.
@@joshuaanzalone2060 absolutely. The narc I was skiing with did a smear campaign on me that I was stalking him and chasing him and the whole time he was saying this about me he slapped a I’m his girlfriend title only to use me for his sex partner. This guy is the lowest form of human and so is the other guy who’s house I’m living in as to the mindfucking he’s done to me. When people tell their story about their experience with the narcissist I totally believe you because I’ve been living in that environment, but not for long 👍
I was in a similar situation for 4 & a half months & after discovering the red flags i decided to cut all ties with her so she made up her bed she must lie in it.
Apart from being robbed, threatened and reputational damage, I think I did pretty well all things considered. Of course lies and manipulation are just the normal activities.
Exact same bud. She's now with someone else 6months after breakup, but I think it's a guy she was entertaining while we were together, but I was the untrustworthy one. I just hope the new guy doesn't get hurt I wish him all the best. He's going to need it.
@@pepe_da_prawn I just about made it out alive and had many problems in the aftermath, still do a bit but, I'm a lot better than what I was. Some of your situation is a mirror image of mine. l Wish you well and look after yourself 🙏🙏❤️
@@Mugairyuiai I know what you mean. On the night I decided to leave, in the drama of it all because she refused to let me take my things she pulled a knife, at this point I knew I had to get out, so I grabbed the phone and called the police.
Thankfully I got the mortal enemy treatment after she discarded me because she knows that I know that she is a narcissist; and there is no supply, positive or negative to be gained from me…
My ex wanted to be friends with benefits lying to me about being with someone when i already saw them together. I declined and caused a huge narc injury sending her a lengthy message about how disgusting of a person she is with zero morals or values.
My Ex Narc discarded me also, and also made it seem like I was the bad guy, even though he had New Supply, I've come to realise when you figure them out and are not prepared to put up with their crap, then they will discard you.🤔🚩🏃♀️
Same story here. When my ex and I spoke on the phone for the last time a few months after we split and I moved away, he said "Wow. You're really ANGRY." Yeah, because I realized what a piece of crap you are and how you tried to RUIN MY LIFE. I guess I might be a little mad. He couldn't fathom the idea that he'd done *anything* wrong or that I had any right to be upset. I recently found out that he married the woman he'd been grooming and cheating on me with. He didn't waste much time after dumping me. Bless you all who are free of these demons. Life is good.
@@hurricaneaquatics sorry, I meant booty call. Yes you are right. She used sex and the fact that I still loved her to try and control me. You have to cut them off if they won’t act right. I did cut her off. Now I am married to a wonderful lady much younger than me. She came from a similar situation. Life is Good now for both of us.
For me it is still unbelievable and hard to grasp that even after marriage you are still but a tool/an object to the narcissist. Nothing more nothing less. They don't take marriage serious and can forget you as you never existed. It is so unreal.
I have been reflecting on a friendship with an ex. This video puts into perspective the things I've had questions about. I do belive a person will circle back so they can feel they are doing better than you. Its weired yet oddly enough I believe they act this way. When you don't have time to cater to them or be there time passer they will disapear. They will tune in and reslish off any greviences you may go through . Hanging on to every word of your hardships salivating with glee deep down inside. They want to see you doing bad. Speak of anything good going on or anything positve in your life they will dismiss it as if it were nothing. Chaning the subject and focus back onto themselves. They will use the relationship that is so far removed against you if they feel threatend by your new relationship. I was blind to a lot of things.....I see thing so differently now .
All their exes are “crazy.”😂 Exes become part of their harem. Stay no contact and don’t let them use you. He tried triangulating me with his ex, it’s vile, hurtful and disgusting. He denies it, of course. And he cheated with her…
Love you Ms.Clarice…..You have give me strength to keep going. I’m trying to heal from someone that I Love but I have to let him go 😢 Thank you for all your support ❤
I ended up being the mortal enemy. My ex husband hated me so much. When we split I was still deeply trauma bonded that I told him I wanted to be friends. Ugh! Glad I did not! He probably is too because he married the woman he cheated on me with, and having me in the picture would have complicated his grand plans and made him feel shame. I've been no contact for a full year. I know he turned everyone of his friends against me because he never! let me meet them or speak to them. I didn't get to tell my side of the story -- for obvious reasons. I'll always be the bad person when I was anything but. I'm thrilled to be free. He has a new victim, and I have my life back. I fully expect him to return because narcs always do. For now the Eye of Sauron is on someone else. Thank you, Clarice.
They are leeches. Emotionally. Whatever relationship they may try to be in , i navigate them with civility, emotional distance and healthy boundaries. No i dont want a leech in a close relationship with me, they're not able to be accountable, they'll make up things. they're jealous people. They have difficulty hearing a no and respecting a no. Healthy boundaries show me who my safe enough people are. And with time i can detect the narcisistic and manipulative energy more easy, the energy of users, its in their energy the way they talk and the way they carry themselves, and how they think it should be all about them, lets keep having gentleness on ourselves and healthy boundaries, to keep our inner child safe and integrated and choose and find safe enough relationships with other people, that are capeable of empathy and that can meet our needs. Lets try to be gentle on myself and present for my inner child, and have healthy boundaries when i need to to tkeep myself safe and keep finding safe enough other people, that can help me meet my needs. Lets play and have fun today. Lets take up our space, when necesary and share and shine our true self, and keep finding our safe enough people, we are worth it, and canstay gentle on ourselves and keep boundaries from users, rather , choose our safe enough relationships that will meet our needs for connection in healthy and meaningful ways, we are worth it , everybody, with gentleness humor love and respect, were worth it. God speed were worth it , and can keep being gentle on ourselves and have healthy boundaries ,and stay true to ourselves and find our safe enough people, to help meet our needs for connection were worht it. Have a good day everybody
I couldn't agree more. I don't want anything to do with her,flying monkeys,or family. I wish she could accept NO like some other narcs do. I went no contact and the GAME IS OVER.
Thank you for this great content. Once I was discarded & left for dead, next day I sought therapy. Through prayer, therapy & perseverance I have never looked back. Now I am recognizing & dealing with the trauma’s that I am currently undergoing. Never would have I imagined myself experiencing trauma. Another stepping stone that I successfully deal with however I know that I will get through this. I’m going to continue to be the loving man that I am & be better wiser & careful as well as prepared. Thank you for your content. -CaVera
So, I was in a situationship w a narcissist. I Broke it off cause I told him I was in love w him and he rejected me so I backed off. He got mad. This was in November. I got off FB and IG and changed my number. Last week he found me on snap, added me and pretended like he had no idea who I was. Never experienced anything like this in my life. Has anyone else had a similar experience?
I supported my mother through every step of her separation from my father and search for a new partner, believing she had simply married the wrong guy and just wanted to be happy again. Wrong. All she wanted was to take revenge on him. And as their daughter, I was her sharpest weapon.
This is heartbreaking for you. I'm so sorry this has happened. Part of the damage I had to contend with is reputational with my daughter. It has hurt me to the core. I'm hoping she will see what happened, it's on display in front of her regularly, unfortunately.... Look after yourself, we can only hope clarity prevails eventually . 🙏🙏❤️
U treated me like garage when we were together! What makes you think now that we are apart, after you CHEATED on me, launched a Smear Campaign against me, and waived your Wives and Girlfriends in my face, that now your going to try and treat me better!???? Better than what? I don't have anything to go on!!
After I was removed by an Ex-partee order the first Lawyer showed me the prison papers on my Ex-father-in-law and why he went to prison for 2 years. I wanted the Courts to test my children as she was having relations while I was working 2 jobs. No go as support still had to be paid. The reason why I was removed was: I changed the financial structure by getting my own Bank Account, that crossed the line with the Narcissist. Than the Courts, Police, Lawyers and the Ex-in-laws could attack as it was open season on myself. The Narcissist only wanted money from me and used the children's support money to get them on her side. The children became Minions to do the damages, B&E's and poisoning to get at me while at work. I was never allowed to get a Restraining order as the Judge said "only MEN stalk and WOMEN observe". When Judge #22 cut the Money tree down I thought it was over. A year later one son shows up Angry, Mad, Upset and Violent asking about what happened to the Money tree. This is the first time for Dad to see one child in 15 years and it took a lot not to call the Police on your own son. A year later he is starting to wake up from the Abuse. Good Luck to others in the Narcissist life!
It was a nightmare in the end eight weeks before he discarded me, he stopped all the affection no sex no communication except for telling me everything that was not wrong with me mind you I was on a pedestal and was perfect at one time. We both became so toxic in the end, especially when I started defending myself. Finally threw me out and yes, he kept in contact with all his exes for our your entire relationship. he would talk to them on the phone with me right there and he would hang up and say say everyone still wants me back. They still love me I wanted to throw up I am the only one that he never hoovered or bothered. Once we broke up I didn’t mention on Facebook. He took one of his exes out and put her down saying no. He knows why she was an ex he will never go back to annex only to someone new
I was never comfortable with a girl i was interested in having guy friends. It was a no go for me. My ex hid them from me and by the time I realized things I was already pretty deep into the relationship but not that I left that relationship....nope never every again. You got got friends, I'm not at all interested.
Once my NM realized she was going to control me & get what she wanted, she held me in disdain and contempmented...treating me as if I was the evil one. I became the enemy, more so! She became very cold to me!
This is my first time to your channel and love the gold nuggets you’re sharing. This is definitely worth listening to it a few times. I hit liked, will be sharing your video and subscribing. I hope you don’t mind me adding your video to a playlist I have on Narcissism, it wouldn’t take views away from your channel, it would just use the playlist as a funnel to your channel. Thank you for a great message, I really did find some gold nuggets. 😊
My ex literally came to my parents town and posted pictures of me on their condo & 7 different buildings claiming I had std’s am a drug addict pedophile etc…. Just two days ago…. All because I wouldn’t answer her calls and texts calling me horrible names, while saying she is ‘sad lonely & horny’ and ‘I can’t believe you hate me that much’ and ‘I can’t believe I can’t even use you for a booty call’ …… Oh. I found out she is an escort before I cut it off. You just have to laugh. Watch out for girls named Andrea -bad news
The narcissist happens to be my daughters mom, she ruined me completely. My jobs, legally, financially social life, anything and everything she could do to hurt me she did, she told ppl she left me because i was on drugs and she caught me in a gay act. There were a couple stories i heard, she told people i hit her and got me in alot of trouble for spanking my daughter. The court didnt care to find the truth, 5hey ran with it and started out with a 21 yr sentence, they pushed hard for it and my lawyer took my $5500 and did absolutely nothing for me. I was going to just off myself but i couldnt give her satisfaction of it and hurt my family like that. I settled with slowly pointing out what she is to my daughter. She barely ever lets me see her. I cant even do anything about her having a petiphile watch my daughter, she knows first hand that jeremiah hall was caught with a 14 yr old girl and his fiance did nothing and he was mid 20s when it happened. My 9 yr old daughter stays the night at his house and i can do absolutely nothing about it
Well my ex never had any photos of me but I did always have photos of her and I mean the ones you blackmail with. But I was never that type of person but I did enjoy looking at them until I realized what type of person she was. Not to mention she broke her phone and lost my number good thing I don't have to deal with her anymore. But I did see her still looking crazy about a year ago and I also heard she almost got hit by a bus for walking across the street not watching where she was going
@@chocolatecookie8571 you're right like a souls wandering trying to find peace in death but can't. You know I didn't think she was gonna be a bad person. I'm so glad I didn't sleep with her because things could have gone bad and getting her pregnant would have been ugh a huge mistake. Well she was older than my mom so that, or pretend to be a fake pregnancy
Leaving the narcissist first is the best thing to do!!! But They'll find a way to destroy your image. They'll tell people they are the ones that left you, they'll tell people that you are a terrible person. They'll like to see you suffer, and if they have anything or know any of your secret that can destroy you they'll bring it out to do so.... So make sure you plan well before you leave a narcissist
I did this video some time back which explains what happens when you discard the Narcissist first ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-4IrB2vENJw4.html
