5 Frumpy Fashion Mistakes Making You Look Older (DO NOT WEAR THESE!) 

I love your work!

Thank you!

I totally agree!!! I personally do not like wearing any form of sneakers other than for going to the play field or gym! Neither do I like wearing a shirt tucked in in the front only! Let the teens do that!

I wish I had seen this video earlier , I love the white shorts you recommended but they are sold out and this year all the shirts I try on have pleats creating a bubble in the front 🙄 thanks for this information ❤️

I think as we get older we have found our style and know what suits us. Sadly it's not always easy to find what we want!

Agree.

For sure

Exactly. I'm not one that can tuck in my shirts without having that belly pooch take center stage.

Yes, not helpful to have a young woman in her 40s and still thin telling us what “makes it better”. Doesn’t work if you aren’t 40something and thin.

I agree. especially when we have a mans beer belly, I could not tuck a tee shirt in the front and leave it out on the sides and back. Yikes!

Shoes is a big change between age 40’s and 60’s.

Besides clean hair, teeth and nails, a smile, joy and kindness are what make us most attractive at any age. You can dress immaculately, but without love, joy and kindness, it will always lack something. Give thanks to God for each day, and know that when you are 74, you will think "wish I was 64 again!" It will seem young to you then 😉💕 God bless

Christy Brian Not a fan of mocking others and calling names - I think Erin is spot on with style, but feeling superior because you are stylishly dressed is obnoxious IMO!

We can sing it as Frumpytown instead of Funkytown

Yes Erin, thank you for the detailed description and the "why" of what you pick. Even if we don't dress exactly like you recommend it still helps me choose styles that will flatter my shape.

Thank you, Eija! These outfits really do affect how you see someone! xo

On the crotch framing tunic, it seems to me the tucked -in -the pockets option was also crotch framing ie the point stopped at the crotch.

@@MC-gq5ms Reminded me of an old joke (and I mean old!). Picture a bikini and hear a woman seeing it and exclaiming, "Lordy, what they don't show, they point to."

This!!!

wylie jones I here you...don’t worry this top does here no favours, I think how you are is more important than how you look.

Really good.. bad, better, best... Been in frump town so long... only aware after I see you model... hard to see because the frumpy styles are comfortable...

Me too - I’m new to this channel and I like what she says and how she says it - keeping it real

Ditto

Ha! Thank you, Lesley! xo

That was my favorite part too! I was cracking up!

Agree! I have arthritis and can't wear anything over 2" high. Platform sandals?

Thank you!! 100% agree

One word - Birkenstocks. Most comfortable sandal ever, virtually indestructible, doesn't loose shape, and they are a huge trend right now, and will probably always be. Also, city sneakers, Converse, cross strap sandals (look for fat straps), greek sandals, slip-ons. Common, Ladies, there are so many trendy and comfortable choices nowadays.

Agreed!

You will be sorry you stuck to those heels when you get older. I stopped wearing them early, thank heavens, and wore sandals and flats. I saw your feet and it looks like you already have damage.

You are too funny! xo

Love that "frumpville infiltrator"...I'm off for a deep purge in my wardrobe.

I can relate to your comment. I do the same thing.

😂😂😂 thanks for the laugh :))) ❤️

That's amazing! I'm so glad that you took the time to write and tell me! I love that! xo

So true, Martha! Thank you! xo

Yes! There's been numerous occasions when I was either having a really painful heavy period or a nasty cold or even migraines and had to go to a special occasion and be dressed up and made up. I got ready in pain and feeling crappy but once I was all done I suddenly felt sooooo good and the pain and misery almost entirely vanished. So strange and effective.

Yes, it’s important to be looking cute at home too!

She does work very hard at it. Inspirational.

We need to do a channel for curvy women

I was just about to say the same thing. I love her enthusiasm and can even see how the ideas can even help a larger sized woman. This is not a criticism, just a wish. Would love to see what she can suggest for someone with bigger boobs or wider waist. Loved the ideas but will NEVER tuck in my shirt!

I am a 13/14.... this video taught me what not to do.... yes I can imagine her a little bit hippy like me in the same clothes she is wearing and I do look better!!!!!! ... you don’t need a plus size model... just get the same/similar clothes in your size...and you’ll see. 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

Extra weight makes me dislike just about anything I’m wearing!!! It’s hard to keep the weight off ( need to lose some now) but I’m much happier w less on me and I feel so much better. There’s a spring in my step! Many more choices in my closet when my weight is down. It’s worth it to me to keep working on my eating habits to keep weight off. Plus nothing ages a woman more than extra weight. Some things are unchangeable. But there are a few things we can fix: posture, smile, weight, attitudes etc. Keep trying ladies, on the weight thing. You can do it!

Makeupjunki76 but we all know family members that wear them to the picnic! Lol

Ha Ha! xo

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Treat yourself to an excellent pair of gorgeous shoes. There are so many gorgeous comfort shoes out there.

Makeupjunki76 save them for gardening! 🤣

You are too funny, Kim! Glad this was helpful! xo

lol

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Right! I found her yesterday, took notes and have been in my closet since 4 am this morning purging things that make me look frumpy. I have so many!!!

@@TheHelpfulSchizophrenic me too, and it's weird how you know you dont look quite right but just dont know how to fix it...until now. 🙂

You're right!. In addition, the off one shoulder look might be very fashionable these days, BUT in a few more years it'll look outdated because it's a fad.

I do have to agree with this. BUT if you pull it down further and wear it like 2 hours in advance maybe it would stretch out some? lol. IDK. I try to stay away from crew necks or shallow scoops anyway - but that's a chokey feeling thing for me lol

Lynn Clifton haha same, you’ll never catch me in a turtle neck

No, it looked great on her!

Susan Sarandon overdid the off the shoulder look for decades. It got to be ridiculous. I avoid it like the plague. It’s reminiscent of sheep dressing like lamb desperately trying to be sexy.

Truth!

“Hitchhiking out of frump town” ...I died!!! Loved the video, yes do more!

Being thin is a choice. You choose to not indulge in over eating. As we age it is not easy to stay thin, but unless we have a medical condition , it is possible with making a conscious decision to eat less. I had a weight problem for most of my life until I decided that being thin is more important to me than indulging myself with food. It is by no means easy.

Sadly the last time I was a 26 or 27 was in my teens. Plus pear shaped ladies like me can’t pull off the front tuck as well either, but it looks great on her.

Exactly what I was thinking.

You're so welcome, Margaret! xo

I really enjoyed this.I see what looks like some Chicos items the leopard print tank and ruana coverup. I used to love Chicos when I was a size 16 petite because they specialize in clothes that are looser around the hips and mid section where most women over 40, put on weight while many standard brands like Free People etc assume tiny hips and legs. I am a size 10 petite now so buy clothes elsewhere. AS I was losing the weight 5 yrs ago I did a crash course on the internet of opinions on dressing. Heres what I learned that worked for me: 1. MAJOR RULE dress for the shape you are NOW. 2. Define your best colors. Here are several systems to do that: a. SEason, not just Spring, Summer , etc but if you,are Spring are you,Warm Spring, then you wear warmer colors with a warm undertone , Cool Spring then cool undertone. Etc for all the seasons then cool, warm, and olive .THere are instructions to determine all.this free mostly on Pinterest, then there is the Kibbe system used originally to dress the movie stars in clothes that best suited THEIR shapes, well we have the same shapes. YOu can find discussions of which current actresses have these shapes and see photos of them dressed casually bec who goes around in Oscar gowns. This helps you pick styles that suit your height, weight, AND shape,use for inspiration. 3. Another coloring system uses your skin, eye, and hair color called your body colors and takes recommendations for those to a core neutral base wardrobe keeping the warm vs cool in mind also then accent colors 4. DRess for your lifestyle how you live your life casual, work, travel, lots of parties, etc. Dont buy what you wont wear no matter how much you like it. 5. Your base wardrobe in your basic colors is what you can wear for years spend your money for quality there first. THen add in the more colorful pieces , most women have too few quality basics in their best basic colors and far too many of the bright things that catch our eye when shopping. DOnt buy fast fashion, it goes out of style first. CLassics dont. THe Kibbe system can show you which shape classics are best for your body.Dont buy for momentary fashion the basic core of your wardrobe dont go extreme with those, your less expensive purchases can be more of the moment because they are fun. So for me I am 73 look early 60s have a size 10 petite X shape 38 30 39 5'4", I am a Kibbbe Romantic style. I am warm Spring with golden blonde long hair, tourquoise eyes, and warm light skin. I dress for MY life. WHat looks best on ME are long flowy skirts, form fitting not too low. tops with sleeves tucked into,the waist belted. Belts are my best friend. I also wear camisoles cut low, but not showing cleavage BUT ALWAYS covered by an open classic shirt tied at the waist rolled up sleeves to just. below the elbow or,top the cami with jackets when it's cool. I wear youthful leather, suede, or other high quality material short fitted never boxy, waisted jacket styles, this look is perfect for ME. I look youthful, feel great, this style shows off my Romantic Kibbe style body.I look womanly but in a covered up way. Almost no skin showing. THe emphasis is on my waist and face , the chest is covered modestly but very THERE, so are the hips but in a softly sexy way. My second go to style is Western with the flowy skirts or denim boots Western or regular and booties. Same tops I wear with the other looks, I wear my Stetson. I get alot of compliments from locals, they love the look, women and men.This is my go to Fall and Winter look, when weather is cooler here in the mountains. For others this is a costume look and I'd never wear it in New England or Florida where family live,but HERE it is perfect because being Texan, it feels like my skin and I looks so ME also, people with coffee fincas still ride their fabulous past fine high stepping horses into the Spanish colonial town where I live on Sundays. It's that kind of place. Abroad in tropical Latin Americe in the coffee growing mountains, lots of horses here in the country. I wear Western jackets in suede or leather not usually denim. I dont look out of place at all here. I have a few tradtional classic things to wear to New England and a few Florida clothes, those do look odd here but I wear them tomthenPacific beach here where its fine and thats it. I finally have my retirement life sorted out, with the best wardrobe for me. YOu can do the research free on Pinterest and if you are shut in now it's the perfect time to do it. Having been a college prof I took notes in a spiral notebook all along my research journey and built boards on these subjects you can see. Lots of my research on Pinterest under my name Sybil Francis. It was the most FUN research of my life and has really borne fruit in how I look and FEEL. Have fun, enjoy it, this wasnt available 20 yrs ago.

Some of those tops were bad

This series is so helpful because I need the visual of bad, better, best. I actually have one of those tops, ( the “crotch” one, lol), and I never realized before how this can appear- yikes! I would welcome a series on wedding/ special event dressing, particularly mother of the bride/groom dressing. I’m not yet at that stage but I could be in the not too distant future. So many of the “mom” dresses are soooo frumpy, and I certainly don’t want to look like that when the time comes! (Of course, I don’t want to look like I’m competing with the bride! I’ve seen that, believe it or not, and that looks bad and sad!)

Thank you, Erin, for a series that is informative but done in a fun way!

And fabrics! They seem to only use polyesters

Agree. Chicos idea to hide a tummy is to put you in a tent. Horrible. Oh, and 5 chunky necklaces

Yes! Chico's is guilty of selling all of the frumpiest styles. Ugh. Do better, Chico's! Anyway, I loved this video and will definitely apply the advice ❤

Glad you enjoyed it, Leslie! xo

Hey Leslie - I know that stage of life! There doesn't seem to be a market for that age range, does there... Be true to you! You'll know what makes you feel pretty (and no matter what Kim K says, it's not a bandeau with a pair of hot pants!) and that's what it's about. You got this, girl! :) Shannon A.

Chandra Ingram It seems a lot of influencers are suggesting it, so it isn’t very original and hopefully will be a short-lived trend. It just absolutely does not work for my short, squatty body!

It looks sloppy like you couldn't be bothered to tuck it in all the way. Or it got stuck on accident when you were pulling up your pants.

OH GOSH YES!! I’m a high school English teacher. Last year, a couple of my girls commented on how cool it was I had the “French tuck” or whatever it’s called. I had NO clue what it was. I had simply been lifting, bending, stretching, reaching, and my blouse had pulled a bit out of my jeans. It was the first time I heard of it and then I couldn’t help seeing it and began to see other women doing this on purpose! Even at our church!! It’s as annoying as the dumb shirts with the holes in the shoulder! The first time I saw that, I thought that oh that is so going to be a stupid trend!! Never did it and certainly didn’t do this dumb tuck on purpose. Much of what is done and shown here is to what my mother would call “affected”. She looks fabulous - if you’re going to be on The Tonight Show, but I see you at the store or church? Don’t. Just don’t.

I don't like it either, but overall I felt her tips were on point. I would simply style it with a shorter, more fitted A-line tunic style to cover my tummy as that is a problem area for me. I find A-line cut of shirt or blouse flows away from my pear shape body type (with tummy) and is more flattering than a box shape. I hate stuff hugging my hips and stomach, but don't want to wear a tent either!

My husband sad you forgot to tuck in the other half. Lol it's called a french truck. Seriously! 🤦‍♀️

Cropped pants cut the legs off. So do those pants that stop at the ankle. I know everyone loves to show their shoes, but I feel so much slimmer when I have straight or flare leg pants that are long.

They are Capri pants

Glad you liked it! xo

You are too funny, Camille! I'm so glad that you liked this and I'll definitely be doing another! xo

Yes! One of your best videos for me. Please do more. Thanks , Erin! I’m 65 and need all the help I can get. I feel better when I look better. You helped me look much better! The shoes I have on now are yuck. Need to replace, but they have to be flat and comfortable. Please show stylish flat cute shoes.

More to come, Virginia! I'm so glad that you liked this one! xo

Love the free people top in the video how do I order it, it isn’t shown on web site

Thank you so much for this sweet note, Mary Beth! It is much appreciated! xo

I'm so glad you found this helpful, Dawn! Try pairing your more corporate tops (blazers or blouses) with a pair of jeans for a new elevated, but casual look! Good luck! xo

I appreciate that, Heather! Thank you! xo

I'm so glad that this was helpful, Maryann! xo

Maryann Martin If you like shorts, wear shorts! Life is too short for sweaty legs 😸

I'm 70 and I love my shorts! Knee length ones, not too short.

Veggie V But things happen when you get older. I like shorts , but at 65 I just noticed ( it did seem to happen fast) that my skin around my knees looks saggy and crepey plus I have bad veins in my legs. I am making a lot of changes as I age. Sometimes I just wear shorts anyway bc it’s so hot. Just the other day my grown son asked if my varicose veins hurt. They look awful but I just try to make the rest of me look its best. Everyone ages. I just do the best I can w what I’ve got- defects and all. My daughter told me not to worry about my legs and wear knee length dresses. She says I look great. I can’t go get a bunch of stuff fixed.

@@MC-gq5ms You should get those veins checked out by a doc. Its possible you have venous insufficiency and fixing them would be covered by insurance. Its also a health issue

I'll definitely try! xo

That's sweet, Clara! xo

Thank you, Pahla! 💜

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Thank you for sharing.

Hi Alicia...Check out this video that I did about wearing leggings in public. It is not all activewear, but I think that you will enjoy it! xo

@@BusbeeStyle Thank you.

I, too, would appreciate an updated video on wearing athletic wear (not limited to leggings) while out and about. I think some such looks are cute and entirely appropriate... (not talking old, worn out, mis-matched, too revealing, etc.) but mostly I read from fashion guru’s... “just DON’T. Never!” So... EXACTLY, what is OK for street wear and in what context? Set me straight, Erin... even if painful! Lol!

Great suggestion, Rejeanor! Thank you! xo

More to come, Nancy! Glad you liked it! xo

I'm working on this video now. Hope you are ok! xo

I can't wear heels like I used to and I have a narrow foot to complicate matters further. I discovered Rieker and Remonte shoes a few years ago. They are European. Very stylish and very comfortable. DSW sometimes has them and you can also buy them online. Not cheap - they're often $50-$100 depending on the style, but are excellent quality. Clark's are also very good quality and comfortable.

Comfort shoes have come a long way! Check out Clark's, Borns and go to GOOGLE type in comfort brands and more should pop up. I had planter fasciitis surgery on my left foot.

Roxanne Bernard I have found that a casual very dark grey pair of trainers with dark sole, can look quite modern and young with Denims slim leg or dark slim leg trousers. I'm sz 16 and 67 years old.

Please check out QVC and HSN. They carry Vionic, CLARK'S, Bjorn, Ryka, Earth, and so many other shoe designers that cater to style AND comfort. Plus you can pay stuff off with flex pay or easy pay. I have plantar fasciitis, a wide foot and I wear great stylish shoes with comfort galore! I also shop Diane Gilman for jeans Marla Wynne, Lori Goldstein, Issac Mizrahi, Denim & Company, Kim Gravell for fashions that cater to all sizes and shapes! They use plus size models as much as the petite and smaller models. Style comes in all sizes and shapes. Even if you don't buy their clothes, you can see how they style things for your size and age group.

I'm so glad, Hope! xo

I'm so glad, Meryl! xo

Thank you so much, Chrissy! xo

Raivila Freedom AND THE SIZE OF YOUR NOSE😂

Depends on the shape of your face, side parting is more flattering for me now- I wore it parted long and in the middle in 70’s & early 80’s- hate that term “Mom/Bob”- that style is more flattering for many and classic, too...!

My favorite was the "hat, khaki pants, and white top" series; least favorite was the last series with the kamono.

You got it! xo

Yes! This was VERY helpful. I’m 65 and sometimes I get dressed and know something looks off. Can’t figure out quite what to do to fix the look. Your analysis explained a lot of why I don’t like some things I wear. Like someone else said we need cute flat shoes. I love heels, but my feet don’t like them at all. Thanks so much!!

@@MC-gq5ms Try zappos and search by flats. I love the Clarks shoes.

Will do! Thanks for your feedback! xo

Will do! Thank you! xo

Busbee Style I had trouble seeing the shoes due to the placement of the labels. Is that an iPhone issue or are they truly on top of the shoes?

So true! Glad you enjoyed! xo

I hear your pain! I too, was 115 or so with a 23” waist till menopause. 10 years after the big M hit, I’m 135 with a 32” waist. I almost can’t believe on the same person and it’s hard to wear smart looking clothes on an aging lumpy body.

I’m in the same boat. But I have been reading the book by Dr Anthony Cleanse to Heal. It has mostly to do with extra estrogen and liver toxicity. You can also follow him @Medicalmedium instagram.com/medicalmedium?igshid=1kndqdetkkl29

Wear whatever the hell you want lady. You are probly gorgeous cuz you think about being frumpy looking. Wear classics. Caroline Herrera type!! Rock your awesome age!! And never feel bad about wearing pjs or nightgowns all day. I have a chronic illness and will wear whatever I want versus worrying about frump. 🤗

Yes! My thoughts EXACTLY!!!!!!

You can still look good - Check out some videos for older women because this woman is definitely trying to look very young for her age - You are ten years older than me and there are many clothes on the market that can make us look stylish - Stick with classic lines and solid colors and avoid oversized styles - The monochromatic look (all one color or shades of one color) will make you look taller and leaner - Black pants and a black top with a colored jacket looks good but black pants, a white top, and a colored jacket will cut us in half and make us look wider - Think vertical and avoid anything that draws a horizontal line across your body - Have fun and enjoy who you are and the fact that you are 85 and still want to look good.

I'm so glad this was helpful, Kaitlin! xo

Thank you, Olivia! xo

You are SO sweet, Lauren! I'm glad you are enjoying them! xo

Thank you so much, Candy! xo

I'm so glad, Lu Ann! I am working on an eyeglass video! xo

The last outfit, the worst is like a refined version of the lady in the Tiger king on Netflix.

You're so welcome! Glad this was helpful! xo

Thank you so much! I appreciate that feedback! xo

nope, not with that corny floral pattern. Flowers&cheetah always look trashy. I doesn't suit anybody.

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Haha. Me, too!

OMG yes!!!🤣

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YYEESSSS!! You nailed it lol! Annnnnd we are aging ourselves 😅

I'm so glad, Christy! xo

Glad you enjoy it! You are too funny, Heather! xo

I could not agree more! A video of cute, low-heeled shoes that are comfortable would be wonderful.

I have wide toes and narrow heels - shape is important. I found a brand for you - umberto raffini. Stylish and comfy, but cut a bit narrow

I share your pain

I'm a teacher, too, and I would LOVE a video like that! There is no way I could wear heels (or other uncomfy shoes) while teaching! People picture teachers sitting at their desks, but 95% of my day is spent walking. Seriously! Lol

I've searched for decades. When something is fashionable and comfortable for a year or two, like round toed Mary Janes or slip ons, it then goes out of fashion and we are confronted with pointy toed high heels. The men who design shoes do NOT wear them, believe me! I quite liked those sandals she threw away. The replacement chunky wedges did not hold the foot in place and would be useless walking along a stony beach or down the wooded path behind your country estate.

I'm SO glad you find my channel helpful! xo

You're welcome, Laura. In my opinion, the looks I share are not inappropriate for women of our age, but rather sophisticated and modern. What's more important than what I think, is that you dress in a way that makes you happy and gives you confidence. Just think about some of these tips as you make your own shopping decisions for items that you feel great in. xo