As mental health experts say, we need to emphasize that someone did not “commit suicide”, it’s not a crime that they committed. They “died “ by suicide. The language has to change first. ❤️
Not sure how this works for lost children 😢 i have been doing most of what she talked about but that only makes the sadness worse for me , it simply reminds me of how much i miss my son 😢
My brother committed suicide one week ago and I've been searching for anyway to just feel like I'm going to be okay. It seemed impossible but these suggestions are very helpful and I am grateful for your courage to make this video.
My brother did the same last September. I'm about 7 months in and I still feel lost. It's like I am redefining myself. Not by choice. But I will never be the same again. That's the scary part. I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you find peace somehow. I'm here if you wanna have someone to relate to. I will never forget that morning.
My wife had Bi-Polar and took her own life in 1998... the loss I felt was real, but with three young children (3, 4 and 6 at the time) I never had the chance to grieve properly... I just became a fulltime single father - 24/7/365... this turning up on my timeline is interesting now, 25 years later... I realise how I could have kept the memory alive better... I have been through a lot since then, but still remember the details vividly...
Thankyou for sharing, i want to say you are so brave to do what you do, but its not that, its compassion in the hope it helps others who are suffering like you are, my daughter died one month ago to a massive bleed on her brain, she was so healthy and the shock is enormous i still cannot fully grasp it, i hurt so bad xxx
Thank you for this video. I lost my baby brother to suicide 2 weeks ago and I'm glad I found this video after all the practicals (funeral, ...) have been taken care of and I can now as best as possible focus my energy towards actually grieving.
I loss my mentor JV due to Lyme diesee via suicide and he was the one who mentor me into doing my own podcast. I'm still sad about my loss but will still podcast in his honor even though it hurts.
Appreciate your video ... my beautiful brother committed suicide 3 weeks ago on December 28th by using a handgun ... me and my other brother are absolutely devastated as are other family & friends. For me, the 'whys' occupy my thinking right now, with few answers to explain his decision. He did leave a few suicide notes but those offer little information since his writing was fractured and somewhat confusing, a reflection of his state of mind .... the sadness will never leave me, the knowing that life was just so hard for him, and that he must've been exhausted trying to act *normal* and happy when he was hurting inside. If only I could have told him how much he was loved maybe that would've saved him but a part of me knows better. He didn't want to live anymore. He was 65. After our Dad died he became very depressed and used to call me and my other brother in the middle of the night saying that he wanted to kill himself -- that was over 20 years ago. He was in and out of rehab, and his last trip to rehab seemed to help. He seemed to be much better over the past 10 years, but he only became better at acting ... at least I *think* this is what was going on. That's the thing, I don't know, I can only speculate. My analytical mind needs to think this through and speculation is all I have. And did my brother have a mental illness? Well, maybe. Probably. I think he may have suffered from borderline personality disorder, but he's never been diagnosed that I'm aware. And I know that understanding the 'whys' will not bring my brother back but I think it helps soothe my soul to consider the whys ... gives my mind something to do while processing my grief. I don't know, perhaps it's my own ritual as I ask my brother *why* he left us ... I talk to him. And he answered me in a dream a week after he left us. He came to me in a dream, a very vivid dream, and offered me the warmest smile I have ever seen. The dream was so shocking and real and comforting. I had asked him to please show me if he was ok because I've always needed to know if he was ok .... and the dream served to comfort me that he was ok. Now, I must take care of myself and navigate these emotions and learn to accept that he's in a different realm now. I believe he's at peace, but finding that for myself is a greater challenge ....
Thank you so much for watching the video. You and your family are going through so much right now. We see all the questions you are faced with - and also the knowledge that you'll likely never know. We wish he and you both did not have to go through this. We are sending you love and light. I'm sure you've found resources, but if not, AFSP.org has some helpful bereavement resources. You can also check out our website unitesurvivors.org for other information.
We are so sorry to hear that you were going through this - we wish she didn't have to. Thank you for visiting our video. You can also find resources on the website Afsp.org. We are sending you lots of care.
Is there a choir in California for people like us who lost our kids to suicide. My husband and I love to sing and thought about creating a choirs for survivors. Please let me know if you are aware of a choir like this. Thank you. Melanie
Dear Sally. I am also 34 years old. The same age as your brother. And I am also seriously considering suicide. However unlike your brother who had everything. The pandemic closed my business. I have no children. And the one person I loved for 7 years left me for someone else. Just 2 months ago. I am 34 but have nothing to look forward to for the remaining half of my life. Im literally days away from taking my life. Your talk helped calm me down, soothe some of my pain. Your effort has reached out to me in my moment of terrible confusion.
So much loss. I'm sorry for what you've been through. Thank you for sharing and for taking the time to watch. We hope you'll hold on and try being open to resources in your community. Crisis lines aren't perfect, but they can make a difference. Like 988 here in the USA.
